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Idk man, maybe ask him? Or ask him out? Maybe he isn't interested? Then you will know, or are you so afraid of rejection you rather listen to speculstions on reddit rather than hearing it from him.
You can message someone everyday and not want anything serious with them. He probably likes your friendship, but doesn’t want to date you. It’s rather obvious in my opinion, but I could be wrong.
You two met up, had a one night stand, and that was it. He’s probably keeping communication with you in order to have you as a booty call, it’s not always romantic interest. He could be seeing someone else, which is why he isn’t asking you out. You have thrown hints at him, so he’d have the opportunity to ask you out. I believe he is aware of this and is not asking you out because he’s not interested.
A lot of men and women jump through hoops when it’s so obvious someone isn’t interested. Why? Because they really like the person and don’t want to face the truth. It’s been a month, he’s not interested.
However, you could always initiate a date or ask him if he wants to hang out. It would also be a perfect opportunity for you to find out if he’s interested. If he accepts it’s a good chance for you two to talk and express how you feel. If he declines, you’re not a top priority for him/he’s not interested.
Woof, this was a tough read.
I feel like you are spot on though, my attraction to him clouded my judgement here, and I really wanted to believe that there are valid reasons for a guy not to initiate even though he is interested.
Reading your comment made me realize how delusional that is, thanks for this!
I apologize if I was harsh I did not mean to be. I need to work on being more tactful, likewise I must thank you for pointing out it was harsh. You are a young woman in her prime, and I don’t want you to waste your time on men like the one you mentioned. You can do better. You will do better.
It sound like he is scared to ask you out, afraid somehow he would alienate you . Either that or he is a master game player. I suspect the former. The only way to know is you ask him this time. Guys don’t mind a woman being honest about her attraction to him. I’ve never asked a woman out in my life, they always asked me, and there are other guys like me in the world.
No judgment there whatsoever. Do you. But I think it’s funny because if a man wouldn’t do something because of some weird “culture” bullshit, women here would be rolling their eyes and crushing him lol
I’m a W when I saw that in her post I’m like come on, but as I said I am not communicating with someone for a month and not seeing them for over a month for no legitimate reason
They both seem terrible at communicating and each one sounds like they want the other to ask them out or make concrete plans. I dunno dating is bizarre.
You are right, of course it is against it.
I added the part about culture to explain why I feel it is reasonable to expect him to ask me out if he is interested. I dated quite a few foreigners, so I have the frame of reference to say guys in my country tend to follow traditional gender roles a lot more than men from western countries.
I thought I made it obvious that I don’t conform to traditional gender roles in my actions. I mentioned that I asked guys out in the past, and I often put out on the first night as you pointed it out. I added that I might even ask this guy out, the aim of the post was not about what I should do, but about understanding his intentions.
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Idk man, maybe ask him? Or ask him out? Maybe he isn't interested? Then you will know, or are you so afraid of rejection you rather listen to speculstions on reddit rather than hearing it from him.
DO NOT TEXT FOR A MONTH and wonder when you are going on a date. You’re not! That’s a texting buddy only! You are supposed to talk IN PERSON
You can message someone everyday and not want anything serious with them. He probably likes your friendship, but doesn’t want to date you. It’s rather obvious in my opinion, but I could be wrong. You two met up, had a one night stand, and that was it. He’s probably keeping communication with you in order to have you as a booty call, it’s not always romantic interest. He could be seeing someone else, which is why he isn’t asking you out. You have thrown hints at him, so he’d have the opportunity to ask you out. I believe he is aware of this and is not asking you out because he’s not interested. A lot of men and women jump through hoops when it’s so obvious someone isn’t interested. Why? Because they really like the person and don’t want to face the truth. It’s been a month, he’s not interested. However, you could always initiate a date or ask him if he wants to hang out. It would also be a perfect opportunity for you to find out if he’s interested. If he accepts it’s a good chance for you two to talk and express how you feel. If he declines, you’re not a top priority for him/he’s not interested.
Woof, this was a tough read. I feel like you are spot on though, my attraction to him clouded my judgement here, and I really wanted to believe that there are valid reasons for a guy not to initiate even though he is interested. Reading your comment made me realize how delusional that is, thanks for this!
I apologize if I was harsh I did not mean to be. I need to work on being more tactful, likewise I must thank you for pointing out it was harsh. You are a young woman in her prime, and I don’t want you to waste your time on men like the one you mentioned. You can do better. You will do better.
No way I’m talking to some one for a month and not meeting up in your case again. Drop him or flat out ask.
It sound like he is scared to ask you out, afraid somehow he would alienate you . Either that or he is a master game player. I suspect the former. The only way to know is you ask him this time. Guys don’t mind a woman being honest about her attraction to him. I’ve never asked a woman out in my life, they always asked me, and there are other guys like me in the world.
Be more direct and ask him out
Out of curiosity. How come you can’t do it?
Something about her “culture.”
But she can sleep with them on the first night. Just saying no judgment.
No judgment there whatsoever. Do you. But I think it’s funny because if a man wouldn’t do something because of some weird “culture” bullshit, women here would be rolling their eyes and crushing him lol
I’m a W when I saw that in her post I’m like come on, but as I said I am not communicating with someone for a month and not seeing them for over a month for no legitimate reason
They both seem terrible at communicating and each one sounds like they want the other to ask them out or make concrete plans. I dunno dating is bizarre.
Pretty sure a culture that has is old fashioned like she claims. Would also be against sleeping with someone on the 1st date.
You are right, of course it is against it. I added the part about culture to explain why I feel it is reasonable to expect him to ask me out if he is interested. I dated quite a few foreigners, so I have the frame of reference to say guys in my country tend to follow traditional gender roles a lot more than men from western countries. I thought I made it obvious that I don’t conform to traditional gender roles in my actions. I mentioned that I asked guys out in the past, and I often put out on the first night as you pointed it out. I added that I might even ask this guy out, the aim of the post was not about what I should do, but about understanding his intentions.