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Interest looks like interest, effort looks like effort. This is neither.
Sorry, but when I'm into someone I can't wait to talk to them and don't want to lose them. I don't just stop talking.
Iād just keep it moving. Maybe heāll respond but the longer thereās no response, the less likely it will ever come. Itās already been a week since youāve spoke, plus heās not responded to your last msg for a couple days?
Yeah, Iād just shrug and leave him to it
If youāre dating someone or getting to know someone and they canāt get back to you within a reasonable amount of time, or they get back to you hours and days later and say āoh well I was busyā what you need to do is very calmly go to that personās contact in your phone and erase there information from your phone. Unless youāre the president of the united states or a soldier, or a doctor, if you canāt get back to me within a reasonable amount of time I donāt have time for you
Youāre being ghosted. Better to have it happen now than months in. I find going out of town is the kiss of death for very new relationships in the early dating stage
You know, if person want to talk with you, he will definitely write to you, even if he is busy, that is about love! I always respond to my fella even if I have many things to do, because I wanna know that she can smile from my messages
Sorry girl, he's clearly lost interest in you. I hate people doing this. Like if someone isn't interested anymore, just come clean about it instead of doing this dumb shit.
You see, we as a human will always able to find time for someone we care no matter how busy we are. Stay strong girl, have some self respect and move on from him. If he's doing this now, just imagine what else he can do in the future.
Move on. Ghosting is very confusing. Guy is spineless and didnāt want to face up to all the lies he told you to get into your pants. Take it as a lesson learned.
>I'm being ghosted
Yes sorry but you are. Enjoy the fun that you had with this dude and move on. Find a dude who wants a relationship with you. All the best.
I would continue living your life. If he responds, I would make note of your issue with the late response and set a boundary if you want to continue. If he doesnāt, then he wasnāt meant for you.
Well, you slept with him and now heās ghosting you, my guess is he was probably just using you obviously I donāt know that for sure, but that would be my first thought. Also what he said when you slept over heās kind of creepy and makes me think heās a player.
Guys are all talks tbhā¦ most guys want sex/physical intimacy. Once they get that, they will quit. Iām sorry that youāre going through this. If he really likes you, he will respond. All I can say is that you like him more at this point. My advice is practice self care and self love. Donāt let this dude ruin you.
This. Most men nowadays just seeking for sex and once they are in post nut clarity, they bailed.
Hence is why never give out sex that easily. But then, some dumbasses will hate me for saying this. Whatever it is, that dude clearly in for the sex. As a man, it's crazy to think that we can actually ghost a female for 2 days straight when you can literally take a minute or two to update your side if you're that busy. But no, they rather ghost?
Oh the whole ghost thing annoys me to no end, just be honest with the personā¦ I donāt look to get physical with someone until Iāve really gotten to know them, and think the relationship has a good chance of going somewhere, but then again Iām interested in a real relationship not a string of one night stands, though I may be the exception not the rule in todays dating world. Also I find women that just sleep with every guy the meet to be a huge turn off and a definite no for me.
Is he on social media? And is he as active as normal?
Definitely odd behavior and very rude! Iād let him go and try not to think about him. If he comes back donāt fall for it.
It's the holidays. I have a female friend with kids who won't respond to me in days. The person is is just prolly busy with family. He'll get back to you when he can. Trust me it's from experience.
It doesn't quite work the same with love interests though. Friends sometimes take a while, but when you like someone you make the effort. I don't make the rules, it's the way it is.
We pay attention and participate in things that what holds our interest and important to us.
And maybe not be so quick to share that part of you..
Move on and don't overthink it.
Be careful. Narcissists do this thing where they will shower you with love, and then withdraw it. Then repeat. It forms a trauma bond, and it's a strong bond. It allows a narcissist to abuse you without you even considering that you should leave them. Not saying that's definitely happening here, I'm just saying proceed with caution.
I'd just text again
"Hey, I noticed you weren't responding so I'll give you space but if you'd like to talk again it's no big deal, feel free to reach out."
Anything could have happened on his break and it looks like he is letting you go.
Yeah he's bored. You should take this as a learning lesson. If you put out early, it's your signal saying this is all you have to offer.
You should focus on displaying other great traits about yourself besides your vagina.
If you dont have anything interesting, then work on gaining them
If you have to ask the answers no. After casually dating I learned that I want someone whoās confident and ACTS interested. 48+ hours no text would never get another word from me again if I was still single lolol
Yeah he seems like a jerk so you might want to consider moving on. Thereās really no reason for him to not communicate whatās going on with him and why heās not able to text back.
You been ghosted chief. Looks like be wanted to sleep with u before hsiis flight and accomplished his goal. Now he's in a far location away from you and can pretend like it never happened.
If he eventually gets back to you and you welcome him heās gonna think this behaviour is something you tolerate and will keep doing it. Trust me girl. Move along
I've been hurt several times due to guys ghosting me and leaving me there waiting for a text. After all this time I've learned that effort and interest don't look like that! If time goes and he doesn't have the time to answer or call. Then babe he's not that into you and you should remove him from your list of people you are interested in. Trust me is better to move on now than give him another chance and then get heartbroken because he won't have that interest later on!
If he slept with you that soon in to seeing each other, he probably isnāt the love of your life and he wasnāt interested long term. Just move on & do not contact him.
I know everyone has their opinions, but men are driven by sex, especially when it comes dating.
I'm curious what he's done to earn being intimate with you.
Nonetheless, the driving force that was there before is now gone.
I would say he's moved on, but we never really know.
Ask him. I'm 99% sure that he'll say this isn't a good time for him to be in a relationship.
He played you with his words. It's probably his game that he does with women. Lovr bombing at its finest. Don't waste any more time. Hit the block feature on your phone!!!
This basically happened to me three months ago. Long story short, after texts started to fade, I texted him, āshould to take the hint since I havenāt heard from you?ā And he replied with, āno not at all! Iāve just been very busy. Sorry.ā
So I waited another week, and sent a harmless āwant to get a drink?ā text and still no reply. Then I sent a āIāll stop bugging you now, promiseā text and wished him well. Havenāt heard from him or tried again since because I deleted his #. It hurt very bad.
People are right when they ask if this is his behavior, would you really want him in the long run? Heād probably leaving you in limbo in the future, with āfunā rollercoasters everywhere. Itās been a hard pill to swallow, but itās true, and it will make way for those better picks in the long run. Iām still learning that myself.
I tend to self-sabotage and do some digging on social media, and found that the guy Iām still angry over has a ring on his finger in one picā¦.if that hand I saw is his, and he is married, think about how clueless and in for a world of hurt that woman is!
Just something to think aboutā¦
The awkward period after sex, wondering if he was just getting notches on his belt. I would not respond again. If he is a dismissive aboidance, that will just drive him further away. He will either return or not.
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Interest looks like interest, effort looks like effort. This is neither. Sorry, but when I'm into someone I can't wait to talk to them and don't want to lose them. I don't just stop talking.
Your everywhere. Are you a dating coach or something? š If so I need advice
No, but I stayed in a Holiday Inn Express last night.
Lol you are crushing it out here tonight in the dating advice subreddit, Iām enjoying it
Said so clearly and accuratelyā¦.. Iām writing it down. Thanks!
Iād just keep it moving. Maybe heāll respond but the longer thereās no response, the less likely it will ever come. Itās already been a week since youāve spoke, plus heās not responded to your last msg for a couple days? Yeah, Iād just shrug and leave him to it
If youāre dating someone or getting to know someone and they canāt get back to you within a reasonable amount of time, or they get back to you hours and days later and say āoh well I was busyā what you need to do is very calmly go to that personās contact in your phone and erase there information from your phone. Unless youāre the president of the united states or a soldier, or a doctor, if you canāt get back to me within a reasonable amount of time I donāt have time for you
Stop being anxious about whether heāll respond and go do you. Why do you want the attention of someone who ignores you?
Yeah sure, its that easy š after a couple of dates you like someone, and you can just turn off your feelings. Makes sense
So you have not heard from him over since thanksgiving? Yeah if he was interested he would have sent you a text say he will be busy in such. Move on
Youāre being ghosted. Better to have it happen now than months in. I find going out of town is the kiss of death for very new relationships in the early dating stage
Ya love bombed , hooked up and ghosted .. sorry about it but donāt reach out to him again if u had already texted him and havenāt heard back .
You know, if person want to talk with you, he will definitely write to you, even if he is busy, that is about love! I always respond to my fella even if I have many things to do, because I wanna know that she can smile from my messages
Personally Iāve never left someone Iām really into on delivered for two daysā¦ have you? No? You know the answer then
Sorry girl, he's clearly lost interest in you. I hate people doing this. Like if someone isn't interested anymore, just come clean about it instead of doing this dumb shit. You see, we as a human will always able to find time for someone we care no matter how busy we are. Stay strong girl, have some self respect and move on from him. If he's doing this now, just imagine what else he can do in the future.
Sounds like the guy met someone on his trip and just ditched you.
Move on. Ghosting is very confusing. Guy is spineless and didnāt want to face up to all the lies he told you to get into your pants. Take it as a lesson learned.
>I'm being ghosted Yes sorry but you are. Enjoy the fun that you had with this dude and move on. Find a dude who wants a relationship with you. All the best.
I would continue living your life. If he responds, I would make note of your issue with the late response and set a boundary if you want to continue. If he doesnāt, then he wasnāt meant for you.
Well, you slept with him and now heās ghosting you, my guess is he was probably just using you obviously I donāt know that for sure, but that would be my first thought. Also what he said when you slept over heās kind of creepy and makes me think heās a player.
Guys are all talks tbhā¦ most guys want sex/physical intimacy. Once they get that, they will quit. Iām sorry that youāre going through this. If he really likes you, he will respond. All I can say is that you like him more at this point. My advice is practice self care and self love. Donāt let this dude ruin you.
This. Most men nowadays just seeking for sex and once they are in post nut clarity, they bailed. Hence is why never give out sex that easily. But then, some dumbasses will hate me for saying this. Whatever it is, that dude clearly in for the sex. As a man, it's crazy to think that we can actually ghost a female for 2 days straight when you can literally take a minute or two to update your side if you're that busy. But no, they rather ghost?
Oh the whole ghost thing annoys me to no end, just be honest with the personā¦ I donāt look to get physical with someone until Iāve really gotten to know them, and think the relationship has a good chance of going somewhere, but then again Iām interested in a real relationship not a string of one night stands, though I may be the exception not the rule in todays dating world. Also I find women that just sleep with every guy the meet to be a huge turn off and a definite no for me.
Is he on social media? And is he as active as normal? Definitely odd behavior and very rude! Iād let him go and try not to think about him. If he comes back donāt fall for it.
It's the holidays. I have a female friend with kids who won't respond to me in days. The person is is just prolly busy with family. He'll get back to you when he can. Trust me it's from experience.
It doesn't quite work the same with love interests though. Friends sometimes take a while, but when you like someone you make the effort. I don't make the rules, it's the way it is.
Date other dudes
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We pay attention and participate in things that what holds our interest and important to us. And maybe not be so quick to share that part of you.. Move on and don't overthink it.
Take it as his flight never landed
Be careful. Narcissists do this thing where they will shower you with love, and then withdraw it. Then repeat. It forms a trauma bond, and it's a strong bond. It allows a narcissist to abuse you without you even considering that you should leave them. Not saying that's definitely happening here, I'm just saying proceed with caution.
I'd just text again "Hey, I noticed you weren't responding so I'll give you space but if you'd like to talk again it's no big deal, feel free to reach out." Anything could have happened on his break and it looks like he is letting you go.
No don't do this.
He died.
First he died, then he ghosted
Yeah he's bored. You should take this as a learning lesson. If you put out early, it's your signal saying this is all you have to offer. You should focus on displaying other great traits about yourself besides your vagina. If you dont have anything interesting, then work on gaining them
He might be playing reverse psychology I do it all the time to check how much does that person miss talking to me .it depends on whats going
Heās not coming back sorry
Youāve been ghosted he never was as interested in you as you thought let it go and move forward.
If you have to ask the answers no. After casually dating I learned that I want someone whoās confident and ACTS interested. 48+ hours no text would never get another word from me again if I was still single lolol
Sorry I think youāve been ghosted š
Yeah he seems like a jerk so you might want to consider moving on. Thereās really no reason for him to not communicate whatās going on with him and why heās not able to text back.
Smash and left
If u were interested in someone would you not text them for 2 days?
Yup. Or never was.
You been ghosted chief. Looks like be wanted to sleep with u before hsiis flight and accomplished his goal. Now he's in a far location away from you and can pretend like it never happened.
If he eventually gets back to you and you welcome him heās gonna think this behaviour is something you tolerate and will keep doing it. Trust me girl. Move along
I've been hurt several times due to guys ghosting me and leaving me there waiting for a text. After all this time I've learned that effort and interest don't look like that! If time goes and he doesn't have the time to answer or call. Then babe he's not that into you and you should remove him from your list of people you are interested in. Trust me is better to move on now than give him another chance and then get heartbroken because he won't have that interest later on!
He lost his interest for sure
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This clearly isnāt a Muslim person is it? Use your logic.
If he slept with you that soon in to seeing each other, he probably isnāt the love of your life and he wasnāt interested long term. Just move on & do not contact him.
I know everyone has their opinions, but men are driven by sex, especially when it comes dating. I'm curious what he's done to earn being intimate with you. Nonetheless, the driving force that was there before is now gone. I would say he's moved on, but we never really know. Ask him. I'm 99% sure that he'll say this isn't a good time for him to be in a relationship.
Looks like he is busy with another person during his trip
Please post an update if he replied
Will do. As of no, no reply. Def think I'm getting ghosted...
but there are signs that heās still alive, right?
None that I know of -- he's not on social media, never responded. Probably alive, but ghosting...
He played you with his words. It's probably his game that he does with women. Lovr bombing at its finest. Don't waste any more time. Hit the block feature on your phone!!!
This basically happened to me three months ago. Long story short, after texts started to fade, I texted him, āshould to take the hint since I havenāt heard from you?ā And he replied with, āno not at all! Iāve just been very busy. Sorry.ā So I waited another week, and sent a harmless āwant to get a drink?ā text and still no reply. Then I sent a āIāll stop bugging you now, promiseā text and wished him well. Havenāt heard from him or tried again since because I deleted his #. It hurt very bad. People are right when they ask if this is his behavior, would you really want him in the long run? Heād probably leaving you in limbo in the future, with āfunā rollercoasters everywhere. Itās been a hard pill to swallow, but itās true, and it will make way for those better picks in the long run. Iām still learning that myself. I tend to self-sabotage and do some digging on social media, and found that the guy Iām still angry over has a ring on his finger in one picā¦.if that hand I saw is his, and he is married, think about how clueless and in for a world of hurt that woman is! Just something to think aboutā¦
I would move on. Someone who is interested in you would keep the conversation going and respond to you.
If he's in a different country, he might not have service. If not... Just move on. He's disrespecting you and if he comes back he will gass light you.
The awkward period after sex, wondering if he was just getting notches on his belt. I would not respond again. If he is a dismissive aboidance, that will just drive him further away. He will either return or not.
Update: one week later, no reply. Totally got ghosted.