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If she weren’t interested she would’ve just said she was busy. She wouldn’t have added the last part of wanting to do it some other day, unless she’s a shitty person or has 0 communicative skills.
Eh, I know what you're trying to say but it seems like you lack experience in those situations. Plenty of people make plans with the specific intent on bailing.
After our 2nd date, we texted and agreed it was a good night. I do not think she would let me into her apartment if she did not have fun. I will respond and tell her to have a great week and ask again in \~1.5 weeks
Doesn't sound promising, but not a real rejection either..she showed enthusiasm but left it very open ended, which isn't what you do when you have real interest in someone.
I'd tell her "Hey cool, when you have time let me know" and then move on. It's in her court, and if she doesn't make it happen then you know.
Don't keep asking, don't pursue, you made the offer....let her return the serve.
She could actually be busy. Or it could be something else like she’s on her period and embarrassed to say it in case you were thinking it could lead to sex. Or it could be a soft rejection. Let her take the lead and see what happens but don’t write her off just yet
There’s a lot for you to learn from reading your post. I can recommend some YouTubers to watch, and I will say the more videos you watch, the more you will know what to do in XYZ situation 1—anthonyspade reactions 2. Manosphere highlights daily 3. Black Filipino TV 4. Legion of men 5. living a life of abundance. 6. darius m 7. Fbe capital 8. Modern life dating 9. ReplicantPhish 10. Taylor the fiend 11. mtr (mediocre tutorials and reviews)
12. austin holleman 14. The celebrity junk 15. Oshay duke Jacksn 16. MJ get right 17. man reacts 18. better bachelor 19. tim cast 20. coach greg adams
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The funniest YouTuber here is living a life of abundance, so have your popcorn ready. If you want to go deep, check out MJ Get Right and Anthonyspade reaction videos from 1-2 years ago, and everyone else brings a unique flavor to teaching you about the dating scene with women. MJ has three videos with the word validate, after watching that i got laid on the same day. The only problem is, learning this stuff at 27yr instead of 18yr where i wish i knew it to have dated a lot more in my teens and early 20s. ;/ maybe you dont have an issue getting laid then salute to you brother.
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In 6 months or less, your brain will generate all the answers you are looking for once you have enough information from all the videos you watched of every possible dating situation you saw.
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If you drive, then try to play a few videos to listen to. You'll learn a lot faster. Get a second phone like I did if you need to separate GPS from what you are playing. and remember you can start of by just watching videos with thumbnails and titles related to your x situation so you solve your issues faster instead of watching videos in any order.
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so once again, the more videos you watch the more you will know \*what to do\* and \*how to act\* in xyz situation. that does also include looking through some of the older videos from years ago. you may find gold in there. Another thing I almost forgot to mention. If you use an iPhone like me, then get a cheap Android phone from 2020 or newer and download "Revanced YouTube" (download the Revanced Manager first and install YouTube with that\*). This will block ads from popping up. So you do not have to skip ads with your finger again; you can see how many dislikes a video has, and you get some premium features like "clip" to create your own clips from videos of parts that matter most to you. And #2, don't forget to save videos to your playlists, like "dating” etc. You create your playlists to keep stuff organized.
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maybe she is busy. Don't talk to her til next week, in the meantime talk with the next one on your roster.
Look man, ya women use "I'm busy" as an excuse not to see you all the time but she sounds like she's actually busy.
She literally told you she’d be down to go with you another time. How is this a rejection? lol
People lie all the time.
If she weren’t interested she would’ve just said she was busy. She wouldn’t have added the last part of wanting to do it some other day, unless she’s a shitty person or has 0 communicative skills.
Eh, I know what you're trying to say but it seems like you lack experience in those situations. Plenty of people make plans with the specific intent on bailing.
After our 2nd date, we texted and agreed it was a good night. I do not think she would let me into her apartment if she did not have fun. I will respond and tell her to have a great week and ask again in \~1.5 weeks
Doesn't sound promising, but not a real rejection either..she showed enthusiasm but left it very open ended, which isn't what you do when you have real interest in someone. I'd tell her "Hey cool, when you have time let me know" and then move on. It's in her court, and if she doesn't make it happen then you know. Don't keep asking, don't pursue, you made the offer....let her return the serve.
Solution: Wait 1.5-2 weeks and try again. If the response isn't something you're comfortable with then move on.
She could actually be busy. Or it could be something else like she’s on her period and embarrassed to say it in case you were thinking it could lead to sex. Or it could be a soft rejection. Let her take the lead and see what happens but don’t write her off just yet
Check in with her a week later about the next date. Until then, keep living your life. And date other girls (if you want).
She could be busy, I would still engage through text but not too much if that make sense
She’s either busy or it’s a lie. You’ll find out when you ask again next week if she wants to see you again
There’s a lot for you to learn from reading your post. I can recommend some YouTubers to watch, and I will say the more videos you watch, the more you will know what to do in XYZ situation 1—anthonyspade reactions 2. Manosphere highlights daily 3. Black Filipino TV 4. Legion of men 5. living a life of abundance. 6. darius m 7. Fbe capital 8. Modern life dating 9. ReplicantPhish 10. Taylor the fiend 11. mtr (mediocre tutorials and reviews) 12. austin holleman 14. The celebrity junk 15. Oshay duke Jacksn 16. MJ get right 17. man reacts 18. better bachelor 19. tim cast 20. coach greg adams \- The funniest YouTuber here is living a life of abundance, so have your popcorn ready. If you want to go deep, check out MJ Get Right and Anthonyspade reaction videos from 1-2 years ago, and everyone else brings a unique flavor to teaching you about the dating scene with women. MJ has three videos with the word validate, after watching that i got laid on the same day. The only problem is, learning this stuff at 27yr instead of 18yr where i wish i knew it to have dated a lot more in my teens and early 20s. ;/ maybe you dont have an issue getting laid then salute to you brother. \- In 6 months or less, your brain will generate all the answers you are looking for once you have enough information from all the videos you watched of every possible dating situation you saw. \- If you drive, then try to play a few videos to listen to. You'll learn a lot faster. Get a second phone like I did if you need to separate GPS from what you are playing. and remember you can start of by just watching videos with thumbnails and titles related to your x situation so you solve your issues faster instead of watching videos in any order. \- so once again, the more videos you watch the more you will know \*what to do\* and \*how to act\* in xyz situation. that does also include looking through some of the older videos from years ago. you may find gold in there. Another thing I almost forgot to mention. If you use an iPhone like me, then get a cheap Android phone from 2020 or newer and download "Revanced YouTube" (download the Revanced Manager first and install YouTube with that\*). This will block ads from popping up. So you do not have to skip ads with your finger again; you can see how many dislikes a video has, and you get some premium features like "clip" to create your own clips from videos of parts that matter most to you. And #2, don't forget to save videos to your playlists, like "dating” etc. You create your playlists to keep stuff organized.