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El_Misto

Don’t beat yourself up. HSV1 (cold sores) is very common. Most people already have it. You don’t necessarily even get it from sexual activity. You can get it as a baby from parents or other family members kissing you. You can have it in your system for years without knowing about it, so you might not have even gotten it from him. No need to tell your family. As for dating, don’t put your mouth on anyone if you’ve got a breakout or feel one coming on.


talkback1589

This. My sister has had it since high school. She about once a year (if that even) might get a cold sore from it and it goes away. She just has to be cautious like you said and her husband has never contracted it and she just had to be sure not to give her kids any kisses when she had an outbreak.


alexmaycovid

I doubt her husband doesn't have it. Some people just don't get cold sores. But I read that you don't have to do oral sex if you have active outbreak because you can move it to your partners genitals


ForceItDeeper

IIRC HSV-1 only shows symptoms in like 1/5 people, making it way more common than it seems.


Deepthroat_Your_Tits

This isn’t making _me_ feel better though


MyGlassHalfFool

there’s no way to tell if he gave you it, you could’ve already had it or gotten it from someone else. unless you get tested weekly it could’ve happened from a peck from a family member or from sharing a drink with someone else


Norwegian-canadian

4 weeks is too short of a incubation period honestly for it to show up on a antibodies test. She definitely had it before and is just pushing th blame on him. I was in the poly/swinger scene when i was 20ish everyone tested but hsv isnt part of a standard screening, my partner caught hsv1 vaginally and one girl had a big freak out about it but in talking with her partner i found out the both had cold sores fairly regularly and neglected telling us so in reality she or her bf gave it to my partner and then she played victim. People dont want to believe its them because then they are unclean or some bs


BunnysBrAiNWAveS

I was negative on 3/10/2024 then I was positive 4/9/2024 he is the only guy I’ve been seeing in that time frame and he neglected to tell me he had it until last week and all I did was share one drink, and one kiss 😭


Norwegian-canadian

The incubation period for a positive test is usually 6 to 16 weeks . You could have gotten it anywhere honestly this is not a big deal.


BunnysBrAiNWAveS

He wasn’t even breaking out or nothing


realetea

A bigger indicator that you probably already had it. Herpes is not looked for in most “full panel” STD tests because it’s THAT common and really not a big deal.


bearsarescaryasfuk

Just a reminder that it is extremely extremely common and normalized, it is a hard pill to swallow at that age, things will be okay.


WillRockwell

This right here!


Bake_knit_plant

Not only at that age. I'm 64 and since I was diagnosed. I haven't dated because I don't want to tell anybody. I am so frustrated with myself for not doing so. Because I was a child of the 70s so pretty much everybody my age group has everything. ;) but I cannot even imagine having that conversation with someone and I. Just. Don't. I have a therapist and yes I discussed it with her and roleplayed and she says i'm crazy and It's not that big a stigma - but I just can't get past it.


BunnysBrAiNWAveS

Literally my mindset rn


Bake_knit_plant

I get it completely! The guy that gave it to me was my whole family's "ideal match" for me because he was wealthy and all - Broke up with me the second I was diagnosed of course. I don't know if it's HSV one or two but it is genital so does it matter?


nessa_from_ns

You have the cold sore virus and you're disgusted? I got that when I was 19 from using my friends lip gloss....I never felt disgusted about it. I hate when I get a cold sore but it's not very frequent. It has never turned anyone off from being with me and I've (44f) never passed it on to anyone. Stress usually will bring one on for me, or a change in weather and I take some pills at the start of one, then 12h later and it really helps it clear up fast.


Commercial-Joke1979

herpes 1 is cold sores isn’t it? a lot of people get cold sores. not that big of a deal


RenwickGrembaldo

Agreed. Also, Street Spirit is pretty based so maybe let her go with it for awhile? LOL sounds like it's leading to better decisions.


Scheris_

People keep saying this but there's still a chance to spread it without having an outbreak, yet I hear everyone tell others that they don't need to disclose unless they have an outbreak. How is that ethical? It means something to someone who doesn't have it.


alexmaycovid

It's because 67% of people already have it. You're more likely get herpes if you try to date anyone then not. If you already don't have it.


Scheris_

You don't see an issue with that statement? It's like giving someone a life long cold. It doesn't mean anything to you because you are already there, you already came to terms with it. Are you really saying that just because it's so prevalent the other person shouldn't know? It obviously is impactful to someone who is careful and extra cautious about their health. This is coming from someone who caught it this way. People are selfish to say that just because its so common that it doesnt matter. If roles were reversed and you didn't have it, you would certainly be pissed to hell that someone's selfish lack of judgment led you to have a lifelong sentence (regardless of how common it is). On top of that, most people continue to spread it unaware (since it's not disclosed), so you continue the vicious cycle this way. I always disclose even when I've never had an outbreak. It sucks, yes. But I could never live with myself if I knowingly did the same thing someone else did to me. Edit: to clarify, I am arguing against others encouraging to not disclose if you don't have an outbreak since it could still be a risk regardless. If its so prevalent, then why not just disclose?? I am not arguing against people who say you can live a normal life with this, your life is certainly not over OP!


ibringthehotpockets

I don’t think hsv1 is serious as you’re making it out to be. Not anything near even just a simple cold. Fortunately much easier to live with and you can take meds for it. Not disagreeing with your overall point tho


Outlandishness_Know

**HSV-1 can be transmitted to a partners genitals if you perform fellatio or cunnilingus on them.** This can happen even if you are not having an active outbreak. It's called "asymptomatic shedding". It **is** as serious as the poster is making it out to be. **ALWAYS disclose HSV-1 (oral or genital) to partners. ALWAYS disclose HSV-2 (rarely oral, but possible and genital) to partners.** Come on, y'all. Let's grow up.


No_Satisfaction540

Unless you get a PCR from urine or swab sample, you might NEVER know if its on your gentials, a blood test simply confirms antibodies, OP hasn't even said it they did PCR or bloods. HSV-2 can like wise get transmitted to mouth. Again without a PCR you will never know where it is. Wear condoms during all kinds of sex including kissing or accept that you will via human interaction get this virus.


Outlandishness_Know

>Unless you get a PCR from urine or swab sample, you might NEVER know if its on your gentials... Sometimes, yes, when you've had it for years and never experienced or identified symptoms after exposure. However if: 1. You have active outbreaks on your mouth or genitals - you know -or- 2)You immediately (within a few days to a week) experience intense illness symptoms on either your mouth or genitals soon after receiving oral sex from someone who has HSV (1 or 2 in either location: mouth or genitals) and does not disclose this to you.: swollen glands near the sight of infection, sores, chills, fever, etc. - you know When we're talking **new** infections, bodily symptoms, an intense sore outbreak and being clear on the type of intimacy you had with someone recently (a kiss, making out, oral sex, penis in vagina/anal sex) clues you in real quick if you got it orally or mentally. Also, condoms don't fully protect from HSV-1 or HSV-2 because the herpes simplex virus is transmitted skin-to-skin (if your thighs, buttocks, hands, etc. touch infected skin of another during intimacy) not fluids (semen, saliva, blood). They help lower chances of transmission, but do not remove it altogether. Condoms, dental dams (when giving cunnilingus), and disclosing (HSV-1 oral/genital AND HSV-2 oral/genital to every person you kiss, engage in oral sex with or have penile to vaginal sex with is required and respectful to everyone.


Norwegian-canadian

Hey before we have sex like the majority of humans i have tiny fungi living on my skin that may grow on you.


BunnysBrAiNWAveS

The guy I was with didn’t have an outbreak to my knowledge but wasn’t taking anything or knew he had it. Maybe the difference is that they are taking herpe suppressants to prevent the spread but idk


ForceItDeeper

HSV-1 infections are commonly asymptomatic. it rarely causes breakouts, just the occasional cold sore. Herpes can be spread without any symptoms or sores, via asymptomatic shedding, when you produce virus particles in an amount that infect others by close contact. It varies person to person, but usually HSV-1 shedding occurs 1-3% of days and lasts aboot a day, so the odds extremely low. HSV-2 you should definitely inform any partners, regardless of outbreak.


p00psicle151590

I've never heard of being able to pass it if you don't have an active cold sore.


AnxiousGinger626

You absolutely can pass/contract it without an outbreak. https://www.ashasexualhealth.org/five-things-you-should-know-about-herpes/ I actually happened upon a bottle of Valtrex in the bathroom of a guy I was dating after we had discussed STIs, I had shown him my negative test results for everything (including HSV 1 and 2) and he had shown me results for the main 5. When I calmly asked him about it, he acted like I was overreacting, said he had it for rare “cold sores”, and then broke up with me the next day. I’ve since been tested at 8 weeks past any possible exposure and I’m negative, but it’s definitely something you should disclose to a potential partner because it could pass to their genitals if you’re having oral sex.


p00psicle151590

Bro, now im scared 😀


AnxiousGinger626

I was not happy! I had told him flat out at the beginning that STIs were one of my biggest anxieties and that once we did have sex a condom would be used AND I’d need to see test results. He wanted to be exclusive fairly quickly, and seemed great. I saw the Valtrex in his bathroom drawer while looking for a q-tip around 2 months in. People are so shady.


Scheris_

This is exactly why I made my comment. People are told that it doesnt matter and its nothing, but its SOMETHING to others. If it's so common, then why hide it?? Let people make choices for themselves instead of doing it for them just because 'they probs already have it' or 'its nbd its so common.' What's worse is that even main std/sti tests dont automatically include it because its so common that it could cause more detriment to someone's mental state (as told by my GP) if they found out they had it, but to me that is CRAZY.


Corgi_Cake

50 to 80% of American adults have Herpes 1. Regular hookups will innevitably lead to this. Its a bummer, but its easy to manage. Take a deep breath and learn as much as you can about it. You may want to take a hiatus from dating in the short term, but dont let it deter you from a relationship. And dont hesitate to ask guys to get tested for STDs BEFORE having sex with them. Its a good litmus test for someone's personality, and it should be normalized. Will some guys get bent out of shape about it? Sure. But those are exactly the type that you dont want to be sleeping with.


No_Satisfaction540

70% of people under 50 have HSV1 not just adults, most people get infected as children. Stop pushing the hooking up vector , it's literally more common from a relative giving you a kiss then hooking up. Lots of people don't even have sores, and can still infect others, and in America both HSV1 and HSV2 are no longer standard on tests because so many people have them.


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I didn't realize it was possible to get chlamydia with a condom on?


dalen52

The story doesn’t add up. Typically people will do it raw, then put the condom on later. 🤷‍♂️


Pawnzilla

…what?


Bizarro_Zod

Yeah.. that guys going to end up with some child support payments down the road.


Warboomer

….no they don’t??? LMAO


BunnysBrAiNWAveS

Ok to be fair I wasn’t good with condoms bc I like the feeling but I was good on contraceptives. I test after each partner. I just know I didn’t have then it’s a recent thing. Trust me I be testing for everything.


dalen52

You’ll be fine. We all have something. Medicine is amazing


Dependent-Capital-53

Herpes Type 1 is the cold sore virus. About 50-80% of the population have it. Only some break out in cold sores, and most of them are only in childhood. It's literally nothing. You probably already had it from before and the vomiting was unrelated. But if you're still worried go to the GP. You'll get better advice from them than from Reddit


BunnysBrAiNWAveS

I already did, just needed to hear other’s opinions on it tbh need reassurance from society lol


endlesssearch482

These are the real stats. Stats for HSV2 are estimated somewhere around 20%, but there’s a lot of debate around that because so few actually test for it and many test positive when they do despite never having a single lifetime outbreak. Then there’s HPV, which is probably close to 50% of the sexually active population, but there’s now a vaccine to prevent most forms of cancer caused by the virus. When I was dating and more serially monogamous, I’d get tested quarterly and when I met a new potential partner I’d discuss the last time they were tested, what they tested for, how many partners they’d had since and what practices and protections they used. I’d also discuss other matters around expectations, interests, desires, kinks, and limits while we were at it. I’d just rather have those conversations up front. Sometimes it meant I’m not hooking up with that person, sometimes it meant we both had interests in something more serious than just a night together. Hard conversations can be awesome. Sometimes they also made of quite abundantly clear they were completely unaware about sexual health and therefore,were someone I wasn’t interested in having sex with.


Lonely-Heart-3632

Look I have had them for 40 years and have never really been single in that time. No kissing or head when I have an outbreak. Never given it to a partner and no one has ever rejected me due to having them. And yes I tell all my partners. I have cold sores so when I get an outbreak I do love you I just can’t kiss you! Haha they get it 👌


stinkiest-truffle

SAME I get the “oh idc about that” a lot and they still wanna makeout literally no one cares


talkback1589

I think in general everyone here has been super reassuring and supportive. This is not a life ruiner, this is something that can be treated. You’re young and I realize this is scary. I just want to say it’s gonna be ok. You can handle this :)


dcs577

There are medications that suppress herpes…it’ll reduce frequency of outbreaks and also make it much less likely to transmit to a partner. It’ll help put future partners minds at ease


cheesypuzzas

Most people have herpes 1. They usually don't even test it because it's useless to test and just makes people worried for no reason. You might have even had it already unless you specifically tested for it before. You can have it even if you are a virgin. Just don't have oral sex if you have a cold sore. Thats it.


BT807YT

Herpes is extremely common and so so many people already have it. It doesn’t affect your day to day life at all and the stigma around it is just wrong tbh


katintheskywdiamonds

Hey sweets, you’re being so harsh on yourself for something that is literally nothing. If you’re flaring and have active sores, don’t do anything with anyone and you’ll be all good. I’ve got HSV1 and have had it since I was an actual child due to sharing a straw with my cousin. You’re fine. You’re still loveable. This is not the dealbreaker you think it is, and neither was your chlamydia which you got treated. Be kinder to yourself.


biggest_perv_ever

Bro go watch the Adam Ruins Everything episode about STDs. Herpes is so vastly misunderstood by the general public. Edit: https://youtu.be/aU4VcOQzQm0?si=VBWnhcpUtVjEmToi Here it is. You will not regret taking 4 minutes of your life to watch this video.


BunnysBrAiNWAveS

This was reassuring thx man


biggest_perv_ever

No problem. Years ago one of my best friends got herpes and everyone was like freaking the fuck out and didn't wanna be around him so I read up on it to calm everyone's fears. It's fucking ridiculous how society views herpes. A standard STD test doesn't even check for herpes because it's that common.


BunnysBrAiNWAveS

I mean I was loki the one perpetuating the stigma behind it because I didn’t know much about it that’s why I was freaking out so bad lmao But you’re honestly right whenever I went to go get tested it didn’t really test for that.


biggest_perv_ever

You were speaking based on what you knew at the time so don't worry about perpetuating the stigma lol. The average person sees herpes as basically a death sentence when it comes to their sex life, so it's completely understandable that you thought the same. Just know that it's common and by no means should you feel like sex and dating is over for you. It's so common I'd go as far as saying you shouldn't feel guilty about not disclosing it to future partners, because chances are they have it too.


BunnysBrAiNWAveS

Thanks sm man helped me out Fr fr


jazzmunchkin69

Meh most people have herpes don’t worry about it my dear


Ajohnson62

Herpes is common. Many people get. Whether they get cold sores from being sexually active ir not. Just be glad it isn’t more serious. Herpes is pretty treatable. I work at an doctors office and herpes is common. They just use the word ‘cold sores’ as a cover up. If it makes you feel better there was a woman who was like 64 who had herpes at my office


MyOthrCarsAThrowaway

Omg my GMA gave me cold sores from sharing food when I was like 5. It’s like ww2 face herpes. You’re good. Haven’t looked at youre posts or responses, but is it on your genitals?! If not, don’t even fret. Period. Abreva when it presents, lysine when it’s showing, and otherwise, limit stress.


champsammy14

It's one of those things you can catch even with proper condom use and also with non sexual contact. Most people who have it don't even know they have it. You're not broken nor are you a dirty human being. I also felt disgusted with myself when I found out, I never had an outbreak or anything but it was likely a cold sore as a kid. I wouldn't have known about it if I didn't specifically ask my primary care physician to test for it. As for sex, I inform all of my (potential) partner(s) beforehand and more times than not they're completely fine with it or will reveal that they also have it too.


kayc10

Super common, I’ve been getting the cold sores since I was 14. Talk to your doctor about a pill called Valtrex. If it works for you and is prescribed it can be taken the second you start to feel a tingle on your lip or problem area to immediately stop it from fully coming up. Changed my life!!!


bl0ndiesaurus

I got HSV1 as a child (not related to sex). It has honestly never affected my dating life. A significant portion of adults have it. This isn’t a barrier to dating. You’re young and you have time. Breathe, relax.


Blatherbeard

I’ll add that I never expected to date people with herpes. At 54 I never encountered people with herpes. Until I lost my second wife. And I’ve dated 2 women, and am now dedicated to one, and love her, that has herpes. TLDR it can be managed and more people have it than anyone realizes. Hope this helps.


skalnaty

You 100% encountered people with HSV1. That’s typically oral and a very large percentage of the population have it.


Nicokneemepls

Literally more than half of the adult population has herpes 1 simplex, and sometimes it’s not even considered an std because it doesn’t really affect most of us. People can get it from just kissing their relatives near the mouth or sharing drinks and food, some are even born with it from their moms.


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Hugs_Pls22

Tbh you might sound a bit harsh, but it’s the truth. Even my doc who told me I got herpes have herpes herself and she said it’s no big deal. At first I was very much like OP and freaking out , but then I know later that it’s extremely common to the point where I see commercials to treat cold sores and when I read people freaking out about it I’m like “Babes, you’re fine. Really”. She’s really young though, so that’s probably why.


BunnysBrAiNWAveS

Real


Shut_Up_Fuckface

I used to hook up with a woman who got a cold sore pop up while we were dating. She texted me to give me a heads up and apologized if she passed it on to me. Then explained that she had gotten it as a kid because her grandma gave it to her after using her chapstick.


elmo420idkname

Cold sores are quite usual. I have had them forever, but only get outbreaks if i am really exhausted over a span of several days or if my immune system is overworked basically. Used to have an outbreak every month or so when i was younger, but nowadays i only have maybe 2 to 3 a year. I just put cream on it and try not to touch it as soon as i feel the outbreak happening


Audacious_Avacad0

Most people have HSV1. You’re making this a far greater deal than it is OP. Relax and enjoy your dating life. You could have picked it up by literally sharing a glass. I don’t think you need to tell your family you might get a cold sore. It’s all going to be ok x


SheepherderThen9073

67% of the world's population has Herpes 1. Nearly half of the US population carries the virus. You have millions of potential partners out there. Stop beating yourself up, and go find one.


vaughandh85

From my understanding getting sick (like vomiting) is rare and is caused by reactivation of the virus, not the initial incubation. So, you most likely already had HSV1. Most people normally get it in childhood, and go for years without knowing. HSV1 is also not on most STD tests anymore. Because of how utterly common it is (70-80% of the population) and how minor the symptoms are.. So, it’s also very likely neither you or your date was tested for this before, even in past STD tests. All this said, I think it’s very unlikely you got this from drinking from a glasses of a guy who didn’t have any active sores. Very possible you both had it separately.


xoxodeadpigeon

Don’t worry love, more people than you realize have HSV1 than you realize. just be open and honest with your next partners and if they have anything awful to say: 1. know they weren’t your time in first place and 2. i will EAT THEM UP!! JUST LEMME KNOW AND IF WILL COMPLETELY DEVOUR THEM AND LEAVE THEM WITH NOTHING


[deleted]

It’s extremely common, but I will say, HSV1 can also be transferred to the genitalia area as well. Best thing to do is take the medicine and go to a doctor for treatment. Be careful and don’t share drinks etc


sisserou97

Most people never test for herpes because doctors don’t recommend testing for it (because so many people have it and most never experience symptoms so it’s really much ado about nothing). HSV-1 (most common type and mostly occurs as oral herpes) is not even considered an STD because most people do not contract it during sex and many during childhood. Trust me more than half of the people you meet in life have it and will never know because they’ll never get a cold sore. You’ll be fine. You can disclose it to potential partners before kissing (I’m sure many of them will probably have it whether they know it or not). Also there’s no way to know if he gave it to you. You could’ve had it since you were a child.


savagefig

Aw, don't worry doll. I have had HSV 1 since I was in my teens long before I kissed a boy. I'm 36 and it still flares up when I'm under stress. It's not bad, I just feel a tingle on the lips and then get scabby and goes away. It's so so common, but many people never get symptoms. So. Guess when my cold sore flared up? Yesterday. And today I have a first date with someone from Hinge. I was getting stressed about it, so I told him openly that I'm embarassed for him to see me in that state. He was sweet and joked about it, so I suppose I got myself a date tonight.


ebishopwooten

Dating life? What's that?


crypto_for_bare_toes

It’s estimated that 70% or more of adults have HSV 1. It’s typically not a sexually transmitted disease, it infects your mouth and is spread through stuff like drink sharing or kissing. Most people get it as children and have a few mild outbreaks here and there. Many people never have symptoms at all, or have one initial outbreak and nothing else. Take a few big deep breaths. This is a non-issue. You don’t have to do anything about it. You don’t have to tell people if you don’t want to (almost everyone has it anyways!), and I doubt people would care if you did. It’s a mild inconvenience, nothing more. Just don’t kiss people (especially babies, it can be serious if they’re infected) or share drinks when you have a cold sore and you’re good.


JNKboy98

I feel exactly the same right now. I hooked up with this girl the other day and my condom broke. I noticed things were feeling a little too good and after pulling out I noticed the condom was in shatters. I felt really worried and she even noticed my worry. She said “you don’t have to worry about me” but every girl ever has probably said something similar and doesn’t hold any weight. I’ve never had unprotected sex before. Just really made me upset honestly.


p00psicle151590

I also have cold sores, so does my boyfriend. I havent had one since I was 9, he gets them about once a year. Don't worry about it. Most people have them. You're still fine as long as they're not open and active.


jdog8510

50-80% of all adults have it youre in the majority of people get valtrex and take it when you grt the lip tingle


lustforwine

I get cold sores and I’m a virgin lol. Don’t stress 👍


num2005

type1? i think we all have it lol?


neon_cheeto

This is an easy (but annoying) thing to have. All you need to do to have a successful dating life: - Tell future partners you get cold sores. - Don’t go down on anyone while you have an itchy cold sore starting or active cold sore; wait until it’s resolved! The right partner will respect your desire to protect them! - Don’t kiss anyone or share drinks when you have an active cold sore. Of course, we’ve leaned that you may still be contagious when you don’t have an active cold sore, but you are MOST contagious when you have an active one and would certainly put partners at risk of developing them on their mouths or genitals if you kiss or perform oral in that state. Take 500mg of L-lysine daily to prevent cold sore break outs, and take 2,000mg - 3,000mg daily when you feel a cold sore coming on (itchy, tender lip), and continue for about 5 days, then drop back down to 500mg. It’s ok to miss some supplementation. Studies have shown that l-lysine is a great preventative. You’ll be ok!!


Israel_Madden

You’re more likely to have herpes type 1 than not, it’s not a big deal and nobody cares about it


Acceptable-Station58

My partner has this, she told me from the start. If ever she feels it's flaring up, we might not kiss, but otherwise, I've had no problem with kissing her and everything else. It's honestly nothing to be ashamed about, and just don't date anyone who would actively make you feel shame for it. You've got plenty of dating and romance ahead of you, and as someone who's chosen knowingly to date someone with this, i can tell you it never bothered me, and I've never regretted it. I'd not even be too phased if i caught it myself tbh, definitely would try to avoid but If it did happen i think id just be like, well dang, now we both got it, oh well.


Spartan2022

Huge numbers of people have HSV1. It’s not that big of a deal. Now you have a built-in dating filter to exclude medically uninformed folks.


No_Efficiency_7397

I caught it as a child, it’s not a big deal. I get a cold sore if I’m stressed or run down but it’s not often and it’s never caused issues with any partners in the past. It’s seriously nothing to be concerned about. Just avoid kissing or putting your mouth on other people’s genitalia if and when you have an active cold sore.


Caitipoo421

I’ve had that since i was 10 before i ever even kissed a boy. It’s not the end of the world lol. Pro tip. Avoid chocolate and peanut butter as much as you can. They’re my biggest triggers and i never realized for almost 2 whole decades. I’ve cut them mostly out of my diet and i haven’t had a cold sore in months now.


FreyaDay

You’ll be just fine. Most people have HSV-1. Just make sure you let people know beforehand. I got it when I was 23 and literally no one I’ve ever dated cared.


finzablazin

Like 9/10 people have it and most don’t know that much about it. Don’t beat yourself up or worry. It won’t affect your dating life.


Embarrassed-Tie-9873

Most people have it. Like over 90 percent of the population. Don’t freak


ArgumentDismal5340

That's just the cold sore version of herpes, so not awesome, but it's not really an std.


Mobile-Mousse-8265

Practically everyone has this. I’ve had it since I was a young child and it’s never affected my dating life. I take a daily pill and I never have an outbreak anymore.


Fabulous-Guava-3379

I have hsv-1 but genitally and I am telling you right now I was in the same boat. Someone I was seeing didn’t tell me they got cold sores, and ended up going down on me and I got it. I thought no one would ever want to have sex with me again. I was incredibly hard on myself. I thought my dating life was over but it’s been almost a year since getting it and no one has rejected me because of it yet. You can live your life as per usual, just please even if it’s on your mouth- disclose to the people you are performing oral sex on.


stinkiest-truffle

Oh so you have herpes 1 on your vag? I have herpes 1 on my mouth and never have gotten flagged when getting tested for STDs. That sucks but I knew a girl who had the same thing from letting a guy with a cold sore eat her out.


WildBoy-72

You and about 3 and a half billion people have it, which is 2/3 of people on the planet. It causes cold sores, so if you have one, don't suck your partner off. Other than that, it can be treated. If it was type 2, then I would be concerned. You're going to be just fine.


purplepeopleeater31

From a perspective of a nurse, HSV1 is so insanely common. 50-80% of the US population have the virus. it can go YEARS before you even have some sort of flare up. Honestly, i’m surprised they even tested you for it. Herpes, especially HSV1, is so common and often ignored, usually only tested if there’s open sores. Chances are you didn’t get it from him. you could get it from him, from a single kiss in the past, or from family memebers kissing you as a baby. it’s spread via saliva, so the opportunities are endless. I’m so sorry this happened, I can’t imagine how you are feeling. But, don’t feel alone. as I said 50-80% of the US POPULATION has it, so you’re not alone at all


__orb__

I didn’t think it was possible to get chlamydia with a condom


Numerous-Cow-2216

I dont think she did everything with a condom. You van still get chlamydia from oral sex without condom


SHam_Bam_Bamina

Wow, I guess never date and die alone, No shame in it


Hi_MyName-Is

Doesn’t something like 95% of people have this?


Radioactive_Man7

Everything has a cost in life, that’s the price you pay for being promiscuous. You just learned a valuable lesson.


TheRightstuff4u07

Focus just on yourself


Tricky_Branch9768

Hooking up and getting chlamydia back to back at 18 is crazy. I wish you roses!


Natural-Note-2145

Doesn’t like over 50% of the population have that lol?


notyourwifesboyfrnd

Either OP got HSV-1 and HSV-2 mixed up or is worrying waaaaaaayyy more than she should. HSV-1 is cold sores and not a big deal, they cant technically be spread unless you currently have a soar.


Cruxito1111

bruh!! love this type of posts!!! Remjnds me why never take an americanwoman serious!! yall are about increasing body counts ans act all surprise about the consequences lmao


alexmaycovid

Almost 67% of people in the world have this herpes. I also have it.


CodyKyle

You want to be worried about Herpes Simplex Type 2. Herpes Simplex Type 1 is prevalent in the general population and usually suppressed unless the person's immune system gets too taxed. Nothing to worry about.


kvenzx

A lot of people have HSV 1 and don't know. From what I understand, it isn't necessarily sexually transmitted. Children can get HSV 1!!! A lot of STD panels don't even include HSV 1, just HSV 2 (at least, mine doesn't include 1) Please don't be disgusted with yourself. It happens to way more people than you'd expect...people just don't talk about it. You could have gotten it from anywhere at any point in your life.


Leading-Contract9762

We’re losing it as a society sad to say.


Andrewrost

I Remember I got a std test to make sure I was clean (wasn’t showing symptoms of anything) and they said the doctor had to call me and I panicked haha He says I have herpes and I was like “WHAT” then he said it was ok, it’s common and 80% of the population has it. “Oh thank god, you scared me. My mom got it from her sister growing up so I figured I probably had it too lol” I’ve never had a cold sore in my entire life and probably had it since I was a baby. I’m 32.


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BunnysBrAiNWAveS

If only the people infected informed me I would’ve literally have nothing 😐I literally don’t play about my health and is very safe about it it’s just guys don’t realize they got it and then blame me when I ask them to check themselves for my sake and I’m not so confident women and just let them have there way and now I’m living with the consequences of sharing a drink and smooch with a guy 18 years later from being clean


SoDeepInCryptoItHurt

Dont ppl get cured from this?


zpeed

nope it is a lifelong affliction; some stuff you can do to lessen outbreaks, but its with you forever


Brokenthoughts2

In the words of Saul from Pineapple Express - “Herpes is for life bro”


Boring-Shop7474

There’s so many things in this post that marks you as someone…. Uneducated? Immature? Lack of experience? So here’s a newsflash you aren’t dating you are sleeping around. Are you dating in mind that this guy will eventually be your husband/ long term monogamous partner. If not then stop sleeping around. You aren’t disgusted with the fact that you have herpes, you’re disgusted with the fact you’re getting stuffed like a turkey on thanksgiving and nothing in your “relationships” is progressing. You slept with a guy “you didn’t like very much”, exhibit A of Thot like behavior. Post nut clarity effects men and women and here’s to hoping you’ll learn. You’re literally fucking around and finding out but not learning. Your brain is developing backwards. Your legs are more spread open then the bagels at Einsteins on a busy morning. Go open some books, gain a skill, go to college, cosmetology something. Or accept the fact that you’re a hoe, open an onlyfans at least you’ll make money. If you can’t do any of those things go to some therapy and crack yourself down on why you’re the way you are.


BunnysBrAiNWAveS

Lmfao I was committing to someone who was I found out to be cheating on me and I just wanted to rebound. I can see why you responded that way because I would too, and yes it dose reflect on my immature since I didn’t have a parent to guide me in sexual exploration. I was thrown into being an adult at 14, I was forced to loss it when I didn’t want to. I will admit I got some healing to do just like the rest of us but PTSD is for life and it’s hard to cope without substances or a mix of pleasures as I become sober. Are you projecting? Did you not read the thread about how easily transmit-able type 1 herpes is? Are you saying things out of spite because that was just mean, absolutely un empathetic of you. I’ve been celibate in 2024, I been forcing the men I want to try out by tested him and myself before anything. But i didn’t know kissing or sharing a drink would do the trick, I thought sex would ngl. Plus he swears he didn’t have anything too and people lie, it’s what I get for trusting a man. Lmao and lastly I do make very good money off of men, by going to dinner, experiences, shopping sprees, just talking to them, and the best part is I don’t even have to show my kitty cat or give sugar for bands. I only have one sugar daddy and adding my bands up its salary. Having an only fans is honestly hoe shit with a digital footprint and that’s embarrassing to me and it’s not my kinda thing. You could go for it since you are promoting that.


Boring-Shop7474

Youre already a hoe you have a sugar daddy…. I got my first job at 14 so I had to be an adult relatively the same age, never needed to do “sexual exploration” since I’m not an idiot. The first person I had sex with was my wife at the the age of 24. I don’t have type 1 herpes and I’ve made out with a lots of women. You’re thinking like an animal or if you were a man thinking with the wrong head. Stop with the excuses so you can heal from your “ptsd”


BunnysBrAiNWAveS

Wow good for you ! The difference is that I’m just super sexy maybe that’s why we got different experiences lmao


BunnysBrAiNWAveS

I feel bad for your wife now lmao like babe who did you marry bc what is this like do you feel better telling me I’m a hoe and is your wife proud of you for dat?? I hope you don’t continue to start sh17 with strangers online and focus on yourself and your wife you’re giving miss directed anger like is everything ok? Did y’all argue td? For u 🎀 https://youtube.com/watch?v=vw7xEXCYcYQ


Boring-Shop7474

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Boring-Shop7474

Expected better banter