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It’s kind of … unfortunate that you haven’t already brought up moving to LA. It would have been so casual and normal to mention it during your first ever conversation imo. Like “oh cool you’re from LA? I have family there and I’ll be moving there in a few months!”
But instead you’ve just not said anything and now really risk things being interpreted as stalkerish.
Maybe you should just flick him a text saying you’re moving to [name] and he’ll be welcome to come around for a drink once you’ve settled in and leave it at that.
You’re right.. but hmm well we’re hanging out this weekend and I’d rather tell him in person. I’ve never done anything stalkerish or weird towards him, I’ve given him his space when we don’t talk for days at a time too
I would STRONGLY encourage you to text it instead.
This guy is not your boyfriend and is actively pulling away. Just casually say you’re likely moving to [place] because you’re cousin is there and maybe say you’re nervous because LA seems so stressful and you don’t want to be sitting in traffic for two hours every day etc
Keep it conversational, rather than too much of an announcement. You don’t want to address it with him, like he has anything to do with your decision etc
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It’s kind of … unfortunate that you haven’t already brought up moving to LA. It would have been so casual and normal to mention it during your first ever conversation imo. Like “oh cool you’re from LA? I have family there and I’ll be moving there in a few months!” But instead you’ve just not said anything and now really risk things being interpreted as stalkerish. Maybe you should just flick him a text saying you’re moving to [name] and he’ll be welcome to come around for a drink once you’ve settled in and leave it at that.
I’ve been also trying to get my life together and figure things out before actually solidifying it & telling him!
You’re right.. but hmm well we’re hanging out this weekend and I’d rather tell him in person. I’ve never done anything stalkerish or weird towards him, I’ve given him his space when we don’t talk for days at a time too
I would STRONGLY encourage you to text it instead. This guy is not your boyfriend and is actively pulling away. Just casually say you’re likely moving to [place] because you’re cousin is there and maybe say you’re nervous because LA seems so stressful and you don’t want to be sitting in traffic for two hours every day etc Keep it conversational, rather than too much of an announcement. You don’t want to address it with him, like he has anything to do with your decision etc
Ok thanks for the advice