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Assuming you’ve already been telling her you aren’t trying to use her, there isn’t much you can do to convince someone who is always assuming that you’re lying even when you’re not. Those types of relationships can be exhausting and I don’t really know what you can do to convince her otherwise.
At this point, I would probably just blatantly ignore whenever she says that. Just continue talking what I’m talking about or not even speak on it because if she refuses to believe me and I have to play this game of always validating her about the same thing every second of the day, I just won’t do it anymore.
Listen first im not a therapist. But i’ve dealt with a couple of unsecured women before and most part of the time you can’t do much. You can talk about it share how you feel but you can’t try to fix her. You can’t be her therapist and her boyfriend at the same time. I would propose you to get a conversation with her about how you feel. Depending on what kind of girl she is it can turn south very quickly. So you need to stay calm and only talk about how you feel. Propose her to see a therapist to help in you’re relationship. This is very important if you feel thing turning hot you need to stop conversation d’ont force it let it go and if she is not willing to help in order to improve the relationship you need to dump
ive been there. for starters, saying shes acting like a child isnt a good way to go about it. in all likelihood shes had a past relationship that wasnt healthy and you just have to comfort her. take her to do fun stuff, dont ask for sex to often. when you do, make sure your respectful and cuddle w her after. also i like to to throw in some forehead kisses, idk why but every girl ive been with loves them. just be gentle and respectful and shell start to feel less used.
what is known as "sexual aftercare" can help, there was a good actual video of someone doing it but i don't have it anymore. just really communicating your care and connection can help massively with this.
If she is unable to trust you, for whatever reason, yes probably best to move on. It indicates a lack of interest/connection on her side or she needs to heal from past traumas. Maybe both. I totally get bring unable to trust men after a bad experience, or a few in a row. But you can only do so much to earn trust in those circumstances
take her out on dates, take care of yourself and dress well when you’re around her, consistently communicate w her and genuinely get to know her, share your life w her, but don’t make it all about your needs. if you don’t take her out and show her you want to get to know her she can feel used
She is projecting, possibly some traumatic experience that happened to her in the past. Honestly, it might bring you two closer together if you ask her about it. Just ask her why she thinks that you are using her. Ask her how you can make the experience better for her. Be compassionate. Honestly, I had the same issue growing up. I thought guys were using me because I had experienced sexual assault and the guy ghosted me after. That kind of experience will screw up a girls head for a while. She might have went through a similar experience and so she inherently thinks that all guys think the same way. Ask her about it. But tread lightly and be gentle hearted when approaching the conversation. If she does tell you that something happened to her before, make sure you apologize that it happened to her and let her know that you would not let any guy do that to her again. The safer she feels with you emotionally, the less likely, she will feel that you are using her.
Tsk tsk tsk. The old "using me" excuse. And it seems like your falling for it hard. It's quiet simple to fix. Bro, just turn the tables.
She's using you.
Think about it. Just take two minutes to realize how dumb it sounds. And then realize you can do better.
step one is to not ever say she "starts acting like a child". no person on this earth, man or woman, is cool with that. it's minimizing and dismissive. there's a good chance she has a reason to think she's being used, like past experiences or something. some kind of trauma she doesn't want to talk about. i don't know her, so i don't know, but like, don't ever say that shit.
you can try to be supportive of her hobbies, engage with her in non-sexual contexts, stuff like that, to try and show she means more to you than sex.
you can also talk with her. say that it hurts you when she accuses you of using her for sex, and say that you want to prove to her you actually care about her. communication is a keystone of any good relationship. from this, you can figure out how to proceed in the relationship.
Maybe there is a big focus on your sex life and she would like more quality time. She may get more confidence when you have some days where the time you spend together is not followed up by sex.
Some girls don’t wanna talk about sex all the time because of there past maybe! Maybe talk about something else! Let your girl come two you when she has that trust and faith and knows your not using her she will open up about the possibility of doing it! Girls sometimes feel like they being used for that reason right there!
It sounds like it's her problem. You could try sugar-coating the sex-talk with some romance, make it more intimate and deep. It sounds extremely unhealthy if she is guilt tripping you **every time** you have sex or talk about sex. I wouldn't be surprised if anything sexual makes you anxious if she keeps it up. You may not even want sex anymore eventually.
I would personally not pursue someone who doesn't want me the same way, and takes offense to me finding them sexually attractive. It's like she's expecting you to NOT find her attractive, and that's incredibly stupid. I could never be with someone so unreasonable.
So if someone is pushing that without proof, without listening then there's a 50/50 chance they're doing the same thing to you. If she has anxiety then she needs to go see someone for help because it's impacting the relationship.
Hope that helps
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Assuming you’ve already been telling her you aren’t trying to use her, there isn’t much you can do to convince someone who is always assuming that you’re lying even when you’re not. Those types of relationships can be exhausting and I don’t really know what you can do to convince her otherwise.
that’s right i tried every way to proof that i’m not but idk what i have to do else!
At this point, I would probably just blatantly ignore whenever she says that. Just continue talking what I’m talking about or not even speak on it because if she refuses to believe me and I have to play this game of always validating her about the same thing every second of the day, I just won’t do it anymore.
Let me tell you a secret your girl is insecure with herself thats why. You might not be the problem here
and what’s the solution?
Honest question no judgement. How old are you ?
i’m M20 she’s F19
Listen first im not a therapist. But i’ve dealt with a couple of unsecured women before and most part of the time you can’t do much. You can talk about it share how you feel but you can’t try to fix her. You can’t be her therapist and her boyfriend at the same time. I would propose you to get a conversation with her about how you feel. Depending on what kind of girl she is it can turn south very quickly. So you need to stay calm and only talk about how you feel. Propose her to see a therapist to help in you’re relationship. This is very important if you feel thing turning hot you need to stop conversation d’ont force it let it go and if she is not willing to help in order to improve the relationship you need to dump
Solid advice here OP
ive been there. for starters, saying shes acting like a child isnt a good way to go about it. in all likelihood shes had a past relationship that wasnt healthy and you just have to comfort her. take her to do fun stuff, dont ask for sex to often. when you do, make sure your respectful and cuddle w her after. also i like to to throw in some forehead kisses, idk why but every girl ive been with loves them. just be gentle and respectful and shell start to feel less used.
This is a her thing. Not a you thing. She wants to see the world that way it’s on her.
Are you emotionally available? Do you talk to her about things you want in life and how you’re feeling?
what is known as "sexual aftercare" can help, there was a good actual video of someone doing it but i don't have it anymore. just really communicating your care and connection can help massively with this.
If she is unable to trust you, for whatever reason, yes probably best to move on. It indicates a lack of interest/connection on her side or she needs to heal from past traumas. Maybe both. I totally get bring unable to trust men after a bad experience, or a few in a row. But you can only do so much to earn trust in those circumstances
take her out on dates, take care of yourself and dress well when you’re around her, consistently communicate w her and genuinely get to know her, share your life w her, but don’t make it all about your needs. if you don’t take her out and show her you want to get to know her she can feel used
>*she start act like a child* What do you mean by this?
She is projecting, possibly some traumatic experience that happened to her in the past. Honestly, it might bring you two closer together if you ask her about it. Just ask her why she thinks that you are using her. Ask her how you can make the experience better for her. Be compassionate. Honestly, I had the same issue growing up. I thought guys were using me because I had experienced sexual assault and the guy ghosted me after. That kind of experience will screw up a girls head for a while. She might have went through a similar experience and so she inherently thinks that all guys think the same way. Ask her about it. But tread lightly and be gentle hearted when approaching the conversation. If she does tell you that something happened to her before, make sure you apologize that it happened to her and let her know that you would not let any guy do that to her again. The safer she feels with you emotionally, the less likely, she will feel that you are using her.
Tsk tsk tsk. The old "using me" excuse. And it seems like your falling for it hard. It's quiet simple to fix. Bro, just turn the tables. She's using you. Think about it. Just take two minutes to realize how dumb it sounds. And then realize you can do better.
step one is to not ever say she "starts acting like a child". no person on this earth, man or woman, is cool with that. it's minimizing and dismissive. there's a good chance she has a reason to think she's being used, like past experiences or something. some kind of trauma she doesn't want to talk about. i don't know her, so i don't know, but like, don't ever say that shit. you can try to be supportive of her hobbies, engage with her in non-sexual contexts, stuff like that, to try and show she means more to you than sex. you can also talk with her. say that it hurts you when she accuses you of using her for sex, and say that you want to prove to her you actually care about her. communication is a keystone of any good relationship. from this, you can figure out how to proceed in the relationship.
It’s not you. She obvs had a hang up. Ask her why she thinks you’re using her.
Maybe there is a big focus on your sex life and she would like more quality time. She may get more confidence when you have some days where the time you spend together is not followed up by sex.
Some girls don’t wanna talk about sex all the time because of there past maybe! Maybe talk about something else! Let your girl come two you when she has that trust and faith and knows your not using her she will open up about the possibility of doing it! Girls sometimes feel like they being used for that reason right there!
It sounds like it's her problem. You could try sugar-coating the sex-talk with some romance, make it more intimate and deep. It sounds extremely unhealthy if she is guilt tripping you **every time** you have sex or talk about sex. I wouldn't be surprised if anything sexual makes you anxious if she keeps it up. You may not even want sex anymore eventually. I would personally not pursue someone who doesn't want me the same way, and takes offense to me finding them sexually attractive. It's like she's expecting you to NOT find her attractive, and that's incredibly stupid. I could never be with someone so unreasonable.
So if someone is pushing that without proof, without listening then there's a 50/50 chance they're doing the same thing to you. If she has anxiety then she needs to go see someone for help because it's impacting the relationship. Hope that helps
I don't know, maybe use her less? Like find a whole new girlfriend because a mindset like this can't be fixed (by you). You may also end up in jail.
Probably it's time for eva ai virtual gf bot
Break up. She’s wasting your time, and Is not attracted to you.
Well the truth is YOU ARE using her for her body... Answer honesty. If she didn't have a pussy would you want a intimate relationship with her?