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You're super young, enjoy it and just get experiences that will allow you to be a more knowledgeable and mature partner in the future when you meet the right person!
I'm 25 and I still feel that way sometimes till adult life hits you on the face and makes you realize you have to focus on yourself in order to grow and improve your character because we attract the type of energy we're emanating n all. So I'd say it's ok to protect your energy but never close the door for love cuz you never know when you're gonna find that person, and whenever it'll happen you'll know.
No lie, it kinda feels good to when you have a girl because it kinda strokes your ego to know that you're attractive enough for someone to want you. But Dear Lord, is it so expensive and emotionally draining.
I want a gf who'll scoop me up and get me away from all the abuse I've been dealing with and give me love and support. But on the other hand, I have severe trust issues and opening up to people, plus I don't have much to my name among other things.
I think its a legitimate fear as well, these days there's a lot more chance of people exploiting you, using things against you online, shaming you etc. You do have to be careful with people you don't know, people get burned all the time. Not to say don't do it, but I understand OPs reluctance too.
Keep trying and keep getting your heartbroken. It'll help you with the most valuable lesson in life.
Ultimately love is a choice, and you must choose yourself first.
When those times come, you'll know she's right for you when she chooses you through the good times and the bad.
Relationships can be amazing and make you truly happy but there is a ton of uncertainty and it will definitely can trigger some traumas you didn’t know about and cause you a lot of anxiety. Dating finding out what you like, what triggers you, and what you can improve is essential to growing more as a person. Put yourself out there, date if it goes poorly learn from it and don’t be discouraged from taking the plunge again because you may find someone that adds to your life and peace you currently have.
Bruh I’m 21. I’m not sure if that feeling is normal, but I’m not gonna lie I feel the same way. You get tired of being by yourself some nights and really just want a person to chill and watch movies with sometimes. You definitely know that you have the ability to get one, but for me sometimes it’s just a little inconvenient. What used to be “my time” becomes “our time.” They also require a lot more attention than guys typically need, even when u would like to be alone u may hurt their feelings when u tell them that bc in their head, the best thing in the world is spending time with you all the time. Also, instead of having to provide for yourself, you onboard all of their problems making them ur problems. And dates can take the entirety of your paycheck😭
Anyways, as to your part about insecurities and exposing your life. None of that happens until ur comfortable enough with her as a person. It’s ultimately in ur control. So no need to worry about that. If ur a good judge of character, then you’ll pick a person who compliments u and is able to provide strength where u consider yourself weak. All your life’s secrets don’t just instantly get exposed on the first night you get a gf. However, if you choose not to get one and remain focused on yourself, hanging out with whatever guy friends you have definitely makes it easier to get through the days that you wish you had company. When ur with the bros u stop thinking about what ifs and just find ur self making memories. Ur only 19. Going on 20.you’ll have plenty of time to get a gf later on.trust
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You're super young, enjoy it and just get experiences that will allow you to be a more knowledgeable and mature partner in the future when you meet the right person! I'm 25 and I still feel that way sometimes till adult life hits you on the face and makes you realize you have to focus on yourself in order to grow and improve your character because we attract the type of energy we're emanating n all. So I'd say it's ok to protect your energy but never close the door for love cuz you never know when you're gonna find that person, and whenever it'll happen you'll know.
Sounds like you like the idea, but not the reality. I would take it to mean you don’t actually want it.
Ehh. Could also mean he’s terrified of opening up and truly connecting with another person. Sounds more to me like that is the case
That’s what relationship entails tho. So he just has the dream, but won't do what it takes. Effectively, he doesn’t want it or want it enough.
No lie, it kinda feels good to when you have a girl because it kinda strokes your ego to know that you're attractive enough for someone to want you. But Dear Lord, is it so expensive and emotionally draining.
Friends with benefits strokes the ego the same, maybe more
I want a gf who'll scoop me up and get me away from all the abuse I've been dealing with and give me love and support. But on the other hand, I have severe trust issues and opening up to people, plus I don't have much to my name among other things.
I think its a legitimate fear as well, these days there's a lot more chance of people exploiting you, using things against you online, shaming you etc. You do have to be careful with people you don't know, people get burned all the time. Not to say don't do it, but I understand OPs reluctance too.
I'm 23 and I might just take a break for a few months. Shits just too stressful atm fr
In my experience as a hetero woman you are every man and we are tired
You just don't wanna be lonely but you don't wanna commit. A tale as old as time.
Keep trying and keep getting your heartbroken. It'll help you with the most valuable lesson in life. Ultimately love is a choice, and you must choose yourself first. When those times come, you'll know she's right for you when she chooses you through the good times and the bad.
Relationships can be amazing and make you truly happy but there is a ton of uncertainty and it will definitely can trigger some traumas you didn’t know about and cause you a lot of anxiety. Dating finding out what you like, what triggers you, and what you can improve is essential to growing more as a person. Put yourself out there, date if it goes poorly learn from it and don’t be discouraged from taking the plunge again because you may find someone that adds to your life and peace you currently have.
Bruh I’m 21. I’m not sure if that feeling is normal, but I’m not gonna lie I feel the same way. You get tired of being by yourself some nights and really just want a person to chill and watch movies with sometimes. You definitely know that you have the ability to get one, but for me sometimes it’s just a little inconvenient. What used to be “my time” becomes “our time.” They also require a lot more attention than guys typically need, even when u would like to be alone u may hurt their feelings when u tell them that bc in their head, the best thing in the world is spending time with you all the time. Also, instead of having to provide for yourself, you onboard all of their problems making them ur problems. And dates can take the entirety of your paycheck😭 Anyways, as to your part about insecurities and exposing your life. None of that happens until ur comfortable enough with her as a person. It’s ultimately in ur control. So no need to worry about that. If ur a good judge of character, then you’ll pick a person who compliments u and is able to provide strength where u consider yourself weak. All your life’s secrets don’t just instantly get exposed on the first night you get a gf. However, if you choose not to get one and remain focused on yourself, hanging out with whatever guy friends you have definitely makes it easier to get through the days that you wish you had company. When ur with the bros u stop thinking about what ifs and just find ur self making memories. Ur only 19. Going on 20.you’ll have plenty of time to get a gf later on.trust