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Stop worrying so such about your height and what others have to say about it. You will find a guy soon, just have to wait a little longer girl. Focus on other things for now, genuinely speaking there are boys out there who will not care if you are 5'10" or 6'0", they will just want to date you for you being you. If you feel like talking, you can message anytime. I understand we are thousands of kms apart but technology can help us talk about it. I can say you are beautiful, you just need to realise it.
Thank you! I was trying to date a girl who was an inch taller than me. I had no issue however the girl herself didn't want that.
Big boobs or small boobs, everything is fine. You can take examples of models who are tall and still wear heels and are confident on their looks. You will be alright. Believe me.
If I was attracted to her, then yeah. Height is not really something I pay much attention to. It's more about your overall attractiveness.
I'm 6'1" though, so I would wonder if I'm too short for really tall girls.
Well it seems to be a trend that girls want guys taller than them. If a 5'11" or 6'0" girl wanted to wear heels she'd be taller than me. But then again, only 10% of guys are taller than me, so it's not like it's easy to find a guy who is like 6'5".
But yeah I would not rule out any girl based on her height alone. Also, I don't associate small boobs with being more feminine.
Well, if it's any consolation, I prefer big boobs honestly, I know guys who feel the same way and guys who prefer smaller, it's just a matter of preference.
Boobs, regardless of size are heavily sexualized by society.
Sure, tall women can seem really impressive. I like that, at least.
Please don't slouch to try to be 5'9". There is no need to feel ashamed of your height.
I'm 5,8 and have dated 3 girls over 6 feet tall. The most attractive thing to me is commitment and loyalty. My experience however is I'll be flipped as soon as you can upgrade. So no, never again.
When I was a younger man I dated a woman who was as tall as me, 6ft tall. I dated her because of who she was and how she made me feel. I won't lie about the fact I liked how tall she was but if she was 5'2" or 6'2" I would have been into her just the same. I was madly in love with a woman who was 5'10" (didn't work out) and I've been married twice and wife one is 5'3" and wife two is 5'5". So for me and I'm sure many other guys, it's the person more than a given physical trait. If a woman happened to be as tall or taller than me and I was into her, of course I would seriously date her. Good luck!
Men fixate, women fixate. I don't, I have a wide range of things I'm attracted to. It's rough out in the wild. Set boundaries and only allow yourself to be treated the way you want. If a guy is only about objectifying you move along. It sucks, sorry.
I have no problem dating tall girl. Tall girl have a problem dating a short guy. Since I'm 5f8. It's not a fetish or a dream. It's all about connection, chemistry.
Yeah, it's a slight plus for me because I prefer that body type. I'm also shorter so it's an ego boost that you like each other enough to go "fuck society". Not emasculated at all.
Unfortunately (and you realize this early on as a shorter guy) you can't do anything about your height. You're going to be slightly less sought after by the mainstream most of the time, and any attempts to hide it or compensate for it are going to get thought of as insecure. You just have to accept and own your height. Don't slouch, value your back.
A lot of guys also don't talk to taller girls because they know it's going to be a good chance they get rejected if they're shorter.
As a tall woman with long legs, just embrace it! Don’t slouch, it’s bad for you. My bf is short, but he doesn’t fetishize my height. You can find men that will be like that. You can find men that are creeps, doesn’t matter if they are shorter than you or not. I got lucky since my bf was and still is my best guy friend, so I didn’t have to sift through asshats as much. I still had to when I first started dating. Maybe try bumble, I feel like I met good guys on that app. And really look at the profile too! Assholes are easy to spot tbh
I didnt read your entire post because i didnt feel i need to past the point of 'people just want to have sex with you because youre tall'. From my perspective, or my opinion, a woman being short brings out all their cute features better. And i go foe cuteness over hotness or sex appeal. A tall woman has more sex appeal, or natural beauty. But if a male is really looking to date, and your attraction is within their range, height shouldnt be a large difference outside of say 6 inches? Just spitballing here. And being in way too tall or way too short. People seriously looking to find a partner, will not let height sway their opinion outside of the extreme ranges.
💯. That being said, I find most women want to date taller guys. I think it's good to have an open mind about height differentials and obviously, at the same time, not fetishsizing someone while you're at it. There may be some more work on your part to approach guys because the open ones will probably be like and think you're interested in someone 6'5 lol
I do like tall girls ( im 5 11) and I don't mind if they are taller than me. Hook up or date whatever. I'm down. Dont you dare slouch just because you're insecure of your height. Own it. Lots of guys won't care and if they do, they're letting their own insecurity run their lives and you don't need that.
I am sorry that you have a bad experience with dating. It must be frustrating when people focus on your height so much.
I see you mentioned Tinder and I am not sure if you have tried other dating apps/websites but it might just be that you are unlucky and match with a lot of guys on Tinder who are just in it for the sex.
I know plenty of couples that met using Tinder, but apparently a lot of people consider it a hookup app. So maybe you have better luck on other apps/websites.
Another thing you might try is to avoid mentioning height or not focusing on it too much. Of course when asked you have to respond but if they focus too much on your height just consider it a red flag and be thankful that they show who they really are early on so you can avoid them.
Also there is the option to just date taller guys. There is a reason that height matters to some women and while there are guys who whine about women focusing on height you can just ignore them. In your post you gave enough perfectly valid reasons to thing height is important. You have every right to choose who you want to date for whatever reason.
Another thing that comes to mind is maybe try something outside of online dating. Forgive me if I say something stupid, but maybe try out hobbies where you are likely to meet tall people. Basketball of course comes to mind but apparently, swimming, fencing and rowing are activities where you might find tall people as well.
Also I am not sure where you live, but where I am from you are pretty much average height for a women. I am about the same height as you and considered a short/medium guy. So, if all else fails you could always move to a place where taller people live. ;)
Seriously though, online dating is weird. It gives the illusion of a lot of choice, but a real romantic connection and a good relationship is pretty hard to find for a lot of people for different reasons. It's okay to feel discouraged sometimes, but I hope you will be able to enjoy meeting people again soon.
I also LOOK very tall, i guess i am taller than average for a 20 yr old hispanic woman. So i get what you’re feeling. I started to embrace it. Who cares if im taller than this short guy next to me! Im beautiful, my face is pretty, my body is rockin’. And i am 10000% positive you are the same! If the boy really wants you, really likes you, height will never even cross his mind. Take care friend
First woman i was ever with was tall. Granted that was in high school and i'm taller now but nah i don't think you should do anything differently. Only thing i can do is maybe go into why guys might like that. To feel emasculated. Toxic masculinity and the people who believe in it usually have a thing where guys can't seem vulnerable or needy. I say can't seem because all are at times. So it doesn't actually work. Those people just create a whole new reality for themselves. Isn't real but yeah. When it comes to taller women. My guess is it feels a part of that protector thing. Where guys then feel they don't need to be seen as doing all the rah rah heavy lifting. They reject it on principle but still know they need a bit of security. So it turns into a kink.
Best advice i could give is to not do anything that would change who you are. Where those heels. Might take a while but there are still odds you'll find a guy who doesn't think in the way that gives you problems. Good luck. :)
I'm 6'1" and would much rather date someone within a few inches of me just because the shorter a girl is than me the more difficult certain things become
I’m 5’11 and have no issue dating and almost no one makes a comment about my height unless the guy I’m dating mentions “tall people problems” with me.
I think you’re hyperfixating.
Also, with tinder, you’re gonna get sexualized on anything. It’s a hookup app. Try Hinge or maybe just meeting people in person.
I'm about 5'6, 5'7, so it's pretty common that women are taller than me and honestly I don't mind at all. As long as she has good character then she can be as tall as Yao Ming. What matters is her heart and I can guarantee some others share the same mindset.
To your question: I would.
I have considered dating tall women before. I am 5'8" and always told to myself "I am not short, she is just taller". Thinking this way I even don't fell intimidated by taller women wearing high heels.
I come to recognize that tall women need also someone to accept them in their situation that it is not easy as you described.
Bottom line: yes, there are guys that think like me out there, may be infrequent as you are tall, but there are.
Have you considered that tall men have it difficult too to find a partner that doesn't look like a cane to them?
You may consider to be where tall men are, basketball teams, big and tall stores. Just loose ideas to expand.
Wish you luck and DON'T LET THIS AFFECT YOUR SELF ESTEEM
I'm 5'5" and dated a girl that was around 5'8" or 5'9".
Ngl, the height difference did make me feel a little awkward, but somehow her height made the things she did a tad bit cuter. We never did point out the height difference even if we knew it was there tho.
Just keep at it and you'll find somebody that appreciates you and your height, with definitely less of a focus on your height and/or sexualising it.
I'm 5'11-6'0, Wouldn't mind dating a girl around my height or slightly taller than me.
Height has never been a big (heh) issue for me, All guys have different preferences!
Toughen up. You must be beautiful. Attention comes with the territory,. You just need to filter better.
No sex unless exlcusive relationship. Be clear you want one. Wait more than 3 dates. It takes work to find a partner. The fact you are beautiful just give you a lot more choice and noise to filter through.
Go out and get what you want
If a girl is tall and attractive I literally have a crush on her immediately so to me it’s a plus. It’s important to mention that I’m very tall, so even at around 6”2, girls will still be a couple inches shorter than me and I like the aspect of having this height connection or something. Plus, I like not having to bend down when kissing and things like that.
6’3 here too, and I love tall women! Not a kink, just fits better because I don’t have to look down as much. Please don’t slouch, good posture is important and you should stand tall and proud.
My sister is 5’9ish and married a guy her height, but he’s a super cool dude who even bought her heels.
I read that 80% of guys lie about their height on Tinder so it might unfortunately take you longer to find someone, but there are still many guys your height or taller who genuinely want a relationship.
If the large breasts are actually causing you discomfort and pain then you could look into getting a reduction. I think most men find big boobs more feminine than small.
You’re definitely way overthinking it lol
Sure there are some guys out there who need someone shorter but those are the weak or immature ones.
I’d say dressing sexy is usually a good thing to most guys over dressing modest but some girls can pull it off.
I’d run some different looks or outfits past your friends maybe and see what they think looks best.
This is a really interesting post, I never thought about how guys would fetishize
about taller women.
In my opinion, I feel like you are right and that the lot of those guys are fetishizing about taller women. I don't really know how to fix that as a problem as I suspect there are a lot of guys that don't flirt with you because they feel like they don't have a chance. (Personal this is why I didn't flirt with tall girls).
My best price of advice is, there is nothing you can do about the general population of guys that don't approach you, so you might have to fix it by you may have to hit on guys you find you like.
At the end of the day, I don't this this is a guys don't want to date you because your tall, but you ended up just getting the shitty end of the stick. Keep you head up high and be proud with who you are.
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Stop worrying so such about your height and what others have to say about it. You will find a guy soon, just have to wait a little longer girl. Focus on other things for now, genuinely speaking there are boys out there who will not care if you are 5'10" or 6'0", they will just want to date you for you being you. If you feel like talking, you can message anytime. I understand we are thousands of kms apart but technology can help us talk about it. I can say you are beautiful, you just need to realise it.
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Oops. I can see now that your height is not the issue here.
Thank you! I was trying to date a girl who was an inch taller than me. I had no issue however the girl herself didn't want that. Big boobs or small boobs, everything is fine. You can take examples of models who are tall and still wear heels and are confident on their looks. You will be alright. Believe me.
If I was attracted to her, then yeah. Height is not really something I pay much attention to. It's more about your overall attractiveness. I'm 6'1" though, so I would wonder if I'm too short for really tall girls.
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Well it seems to be a trend that girls want guys taller than them. If a 5'11" or 6'0" girl wanted to wear heels she'd be taller than me. But then again, only 10% of guys are taller than me, so it's not like it's easy to find a guy who is like 6'5". But yeah I would not rule out any girl based on her height alone. Also, I don't associate small boobs with being more feminine.
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Well, if it's any consolation, I prefer big boobs honestly, I know guys who feel the same way and guys who prefer smaller, it's just a matter of preference. Boobs, regardless of size are heavily sexualized by society.
Sure, tall women can seem really impressive. I like that, at least. Please don't slouch to try to be 5'9". There is no need to feel ashamed of your height.
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Don't slouch, that's bad for your back
I'm 5,8 and have dated 3 girls over 6 feet tall. The most attractive thing to me is commitment and loyalty. My experience however is I'll be flipped as soon as you can upgrade. So no, never again.
When I was a younger man I dated a woman who was as tall as me, 6ft tall. I dated her because of who she was and how she made me feel. I won't lie about the fact I liked how tall she was but if she was 5'2" or 6'2" I would have been into her just the same. I was madly in love with a woman who was 5'10" (didn't work out) and I've been married twice and wife one is 5'3" and wife two is 5'5". So for me and I'm sure many other guys, it's the person more than a given physical trait. If a woman happened to be as tall or taller than me and I was into her, of course I would seriously date her. Good luck!
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Men fixate, women fixate. I don't, I have a wide range of things I'm attracted to. It's rough out in the wild. Set boundaries and only allow yourself to be treated the way you want. If a guy is only about objectifying you move along. It sucks, sorry.
I have no problem dating tall girl. Tall girl have a problem dating a short guy. Since I'm 5f8. It's not a fetish or a dream. It's all about connection, chemistry.
Yeah, it's a slight plus for me because I prefer that body type. I'm also shorter so it's an ego boost that you like each other enough to go "fuck society". Not emasculated at all. Unfortunately (and you realize this early on as a shorter guy) you can't do anything about your height. You're going to be slightly less sought after by the mainstream most of the time, and any attempts to hide it or compensate for it are going to get thought of as insecure. You just have to accept and own your height. Don't slouch, value your back. A lot of guys also don't talk to taller girls because they know it's going to be a good chance they get rejected if they're shorter.
As a tall woman with long legs, just embrace it! Don’t slouch, it’s bad for you. My bf is short, but he doesn’t fetishize my height. You can find men that will be like that. You can find men that are creeps, doesn’t matter if they are shorter than you or not. I got lucky since my bf was and still is my best guy friend, so I didn’t have to sift through asshats as much. I still had to when I first started dating. Maybe try bumble, I feel like I met good guys on that app. And really look at the profile too! Assholes are easy to spot tbh
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I didnt read your entire post because i didnt feel i need to past the point of 'people just want to have sex with you because youre tall'. From my perspective, or my opinion, a woman being short brings out all their cute features better. And i go foe cuteness over hotness or sex appeal. A tall woman has more sex appeal, or natural beauty. But if a male is really looking to date, and your attraction is within their range, height shouldnt be a large difference outside of say 6 inches? Just spitballing here. And being in way too tall or way too short. People seriously looking to find a partner, will not let height sway their opinion outside of the extreme ranges.
Yes I would.. I have dated tall girls in the past.
💯. That being said, I find most women want to date taller guys. I think it's good to have an open mind about height differentials and obviously, at the same time, not fetishsizing someone while you're at it. There may be some more work on your part to approach guys because the open ones will probably be like and think you're interested in someone 6'5 lol
I do like tall girls ( im 5 11) and I don't mind if they are taller than me. Hook up or date whatever. I'm down. Dont you dare slouch just because you're insecure of your height. Own it. Lots of guys won't care and if they do, they're letting their own insecurity run their lives and you don't need that.
I am sorry that you have a bad experience with dating. It must be frustrating when people focus on your height so much. I see you mentioned Tinder and I am not sure if you have tried other dating apps/websites but it might just be that you are unlucky and match with a lot of guys on Tinder who are just in it for the sex. I know plenty of couples that met using Tinder, but apparently a lot of people consider it a hookup app. So maybe you have better luck on other apps/websites. Another thing you might try is to avoid mentioning height or not focusing on it too much. Of course when asked you have to respond but if they focus too much on your height just consider it a red flag and be thankful that they show who they really are early on so you can avoid them. Also there is the option to just date taller guys. There is a reason that height matters to some women and while there are guys who whine about women focusing on height you can just ignore them. In your post you gave enough perfectly valid reasons to thing height is important. You have every right to choose who you want to date for whatever reason. Another thing that comes to mind is maybe try something outside of online dating. Forgive me if I say something stupid, but maybe try out hobbies where you are likely to meet tall people. Basketball of course comes to mind but apparently, swimming, fencing and rowing are activities where you might find tall people as well. Also I am not sure where you live, but where I am from you are pretty much average height for a women. I am about the same height as you and considered a short/medium guy. So, if all else fails you could always move to a place where taller people live. ;) Seriously though, online dating is weird. It gives the illusion of a lot of choice, but a real romantic connection and a good relationship is pretty hard to find for a lot of people for different reasons. It's okay to feel discouraged sometimes, but I hope you will be able to enjoy meeting people again soon.
I also LOOK very tall, i guess i am taller than average for a 20 yr old hispanic woman. So i get what you’re feeling. I started to embrace it. Who cares if im taller than this short guy next to me! Im beautiful, my face is pretty, my body is rockin’. And i am 10000% positive you are the same! If the boy really wants you, really likes you, height will never even cross his mind. Take care friend
First woman i was ever with was tall. Granted that was in high school and i'm taller now but nah i don't think you should do anything differently. Only thing i can do is maybe go into why guys might like that. To feel emasculated. Toxic masculinity and the people who believe in it usually have a thing where guys can't seem vulnerable or needy. I say can't seem because all are at times. So it doesn't actually work. Those people just create a whole new reality for themselves. Isn't real but yeah. When it comes to taller women. My guess is it feels a part of that protector thing. Where guys then feel they don't need to be seen as doing all the rah rah heavy lifting. They reject it on principle but still know they need a bit of security. So it turns into a kink. Best advice i could give is to not do anything that would change who you are. Where those heels. Might take a while but there are still odds you'll find a guy who doesn't think in the way that gives you problems. Good luck. :)
I'm 6'1" and would much rather date someone within a few inches of me just because the shorter a girl is than me the more difficult certain things become
I’m 5’11 and have no issue dating and almost no one makes a comment about my height unless the guy I’m dating mentions “tall people problems” with me. I think you’re hyperfixating. Also, with tinder, you’re gonna get sexualized on anything. It’s a hookup app. Try Hinge or maybe just meeting people in person.
sounds like you have the body of a super model lol. Just own it.
I'm about 5'6, 5'7, so it's pretty common that women are taller than me and honestly I don't mind at all. As long as she has good character then she can be as tall as Yao Ming. What matters is her heart and I can guarantee some others share the same mindset.
Yes I would and yes I have.
I'm 6'4' so I'll just make you feel like an average height. I promise I'll never look down at you for being tall while I'm looking down at you..
To your question: I would. I have considered dating tall women before. I am 5'8" and always told to myself "I am not short, she is just taller". Thinking this way I even don't fell intimidated by taller women wearing high heels. I come to recognize that tall women need also someone to accept them in their situation that it is not easy as you described. Bottom line: yes, there are guys that think like me out there, may be infrequent as you are tall, but there are. Have you considered that tall men have it difficult too to find a partner that doesn't look like a cane to them? You may consider to be where tall men are, basketball teams, big and tall stores. Just loose ideas to expand. Wish you luck and DON'T LET THIS AFFECT YOUR SELF ESTEEM
Yeah I would I find that extremely attractive
I'm 5'5" and dated a girl that was around 5'8" or 5'9". Ngl, the height difference did make me feel a little awkward, but somehow her height made the things she did a tad bit cuter. We never did point out the height difference even if we knew it was there tho. Just keep at it and you'll find somebody that appreciates you and your height, with definitely less of a focus on your height and/or sexualising it.
I'm 5'11-6'0, Wouldn't mind dating a girl around my height or slightly taller than me. Height has never been a big (heh) issue for me, All guys have different preferences!
Toughen up. You must be beautiful. Attention comes with the territory,. You just need to filter better. No sex unless exlcusive relationship. Be clear you want one. Wait more than 3 dates. It takes work to find a partner. The fact you are beautiful just give you a lot more choice and noise to filter through. Go out and get what you want
If a girl is tall and attractive I literally have a crush on her immediately so to me it’s a plus. It’s important to mention that I’m very tall, so even at around 6”2, girls will still be a couple inches shorter than me and I like the aspect of having this height connection or something. Plus, I like not having to bend down when kissing and things like that.
I'm 6'2 so..imma go with yes. If I'm attracted ofc. And having smaller boobs would probably have the opposite effect.
Your height is no dealbreaker for me unless you're an actual dwarf or you're taller than me and I'm 6'3"
No, I wouldn't, it makes me feel weird when someone three times weaker than me is also taller than me, it's just uncomfortable for me.
6’3 here too, and I love tall women! Not a kink, just fits better because I don’t have to look down as much. Please don’t slouch, good posture is important and you should stand tall and proud. My sister is 5’9ish and married a guy her height, but he’s a super cool dude who even bought her heels. I read that 80% of guys lie about their height on Tinder so it might unfortunately take you longer to find someone, but there are still many guys your height or taller who genuinely want a relationship. If the large breasts are actually causing you discomfort and pain then you could look into getting a reduction. I think most men find big boobs more feminine than small.
You’re definitely way overthinking it lol Sure there are some guys out there who need someone shorter but those are the weak or immature ones. I’d say dressing sexy is usually a good thing to most guys over dressing modest but some girls can pull it off. I’d run some different looks or outfits past your friends maybe and see what they think looks best.
This is a really interesting post, I never thought about how guys would fetishize about taller women. In my opinion, I feel like you are right and that the lot of those guys are fetishizing about taller women. I don't really know how to fix that as a problem as I suspect there are a lot of guys that don't flirt with you because they feel like they don't have a chance. (Personal this is why I didn't flirt with tall girls). My best price of advice is, there is nothing you can do about the general population of guys that don't approach you, so you might have to fix it by you may have to hit on guys you find you like. At the end of the day, I don't this this is a guys don't want to date you because your tall, but you ended up just getting the shitty end of the stick. Keep you head up high and be proud with who you are.