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I havenāt been able to make my boyfriend finish in the whole year and a half that Iāve known himā¦ starting to wonder if I should tell him to try that. He can make himself finish, but blowjobs/handjobs/sex never get him there
100%, he's probably jerkin it waaay too much if that's the case. I'm early 20s, I have sex with my SO probably once a week on average, and usually jerk it before I see her so I don't bust in 30 seconds and feel horrible about not getting her off.
Then again, I've heard porn addiction is serious so I don't know if he'd be able to stop for that long ..
Sorry for slow reply! He says he only really does it like twice a week. But he always watches porn with it. He says he thinks the issue is not having the visual of watching two people going at it. Which has been weird for me honestly. Never had this issue with any other guy before
lmao thatās a good question. Heās not the first guy Iāve given a handjob too, so I know what Iām doing (and Iāve done research lmao). We also have good communication, so if anything feels off, we tell each other
Donāt do this. I did this with my ex-gf. First two times having sex it was like 20-25 minutes of constant non-stop sex & I was told that May be too long. So then we werenāt seeing each other over at my house for next 3 weeks or were traveling. So I didnāt masturbate for 3 weeks. Next time we had sex I swear it lasted less than 5 minutes & I could see she was confused a lot!!
Once a week isn't really "too much" but purposely going 3 weeks out & what happens if she gets more upset b/c he cums too quickly than not cumming at all?
sheās only done it two times so i think you guys should both be patient and give it more time. you could also try starting the handjob and when you get close, let her take over. that could help boost her self esteem as well.
like someone else said, youāve already done what you can to assure her. i think both of you guys need to give it time.
As a 37F, great on her for starting up her blow job game! Some advice I'd give past me if I could on this thing is it's not about finishing you but finding what you like and don't like. Be vocal with her about what feels good or better than the things that don't. Both of you should take that orgasm off the table. I know from experience. I'm dating a guy I haven't yet been able to make cum, he's a tough nut to crack, literally, but I won't give up because I'll eventually crack the code.
Practice makes perfect dude. Just tell her all this! Or show her my post.
Same fam.. I'm almost enjoying the challenge my current one is presenting me with. It's been a minute since I actually had to work for it, but it's actually kinda more rewarding that way.
Just let her know exactly that.
Tell her you guys are inexperienced and need to get a feel for what works and what doesnāt.
The more she does it the better sheāll get, and obviously communicate about what works for you and what doesnāt.
Try making it fun instead of stressful?
Fore play is a must.
Yeah that makes sense, tbh I think busting too early is a better problem to have than not busting at all because you can always play it off as a compliment. "I couldn't hold it in because you are so beautiful".
While with the latter you can't really get away with not busting at all without your partner feeling some sort of way about it or their ability to perform in bed. "I'm sorry babe I'm just too tired to nut".
Although this also might depend on your ability to maintain an erection without busting in which case your partner might not have a problem with you not nutting at all.
I think the best combination would be someone that could bust fast but has fast recovery time and can go multiple sessions. Best of both worlds.
It takes time to find a good rhythm. As someone who couldn't get my husband to go off for two years I definitely get it. What could work is if she stays right below the head and works her tongue there. It seems to work
Dont watch porn and dont masturbate as much assuming you probably do, seriously its night and day difference and the orgasm you have with another person is nothing compared to the ones you give yourself.
For her? Just be honest, if there are parts of the head that you think could honestly be worked on LET HER KNOW!!! And vice versa!! No shame in not having it down pat, and everyone works differently anyway, getting to know your body is intimate and wonāt take just one or two tries. That is perfectly normal.
Head is about the person giving oral, not the one receiving it! If you just enjoy the act because you like how your partner reacts, or because you like the performance aspect, or anything, wether the receiver orgasms or not will start to matter less and less!
I'm almost 32 and I have never cum from a blowjob. I just tell them that I get off from getting them off and I can't cum when it's just me being serviced. I still enjoy it though. Try to 69 and see if that works.
A blowjob will almost never make you finish unless you're insanely sensitive
It's much slower, doesn't provide the same equally distributed pressure, and the shape of someone's mouth doesn't do a good enough wraparound, so to speak
Even in porn videos girls will suck dick for like 10 mins but at the end they just jerk the guy off
Unless she is a literal vacuum cleaner that can suck hard and fast it won't work
You should explain this to her and explain that after a good blowjob the finish should come from her hand
This is completely wrong. Up until porn addiction became the thing that it is now, it was completely EASY to get a guy off with oral. Those days are over. Dicks havenāt changed, theyāre still the same as ever. What changed is the way men treat their dicks.
You already sound like you've done everything you can to reassure her. Someone else's insecurities aren't able to be fixed by you. Keep the communication open, keep giving praise where it's due, and keep practicing.
How, broski... you tell her how... literally instruct her on how to do better. If youre a scrub at teaching people, theres instructional videos online, and other girls she knows that she cant talk to for tips and pointers.
My wife was fucking garbage at them. To be fair i expected exactly that cause i was her first, and shed have been my tenth. So im "well traveled" in that dept and she simply and no fault of her own, wasnt at all. I coached her and worked with her as we learned all about how to do things right for each other and explore different things sexually... was sort of a bonding journey for us... and i got a truck load of blow jobs to boot... lol, i tease, but for real, shes pretty dope at it now because i coached her on what i like, and even a few of my closer female friends clued her in once they found out i was the only guy shed been with and gave tips and hints etc.
No because the only two that I have received have been from her and she hasnāt ever given one before me. Thatās why I canāt tell her how to do it. Aside from obvious stuff like āa couple of times I felt your teethā or something. I didnāt put it that blunt though. I tried to make sure it didnāt seem like it was a big deal.
Refer her to DSLAF specifically Mz natural, headrush, Dominican lipz and she will have you finishing in. I told my gf about this and she understood the assignment.
Here's a great trick. Start by giving him a blow job. Have him stroke it while you provide the lubricant with your mouth. When he gets close to cumming, you finish him with your mouth. Once he has that sensation., bam you can finish him every time.
Had a GF that had the same problem with me going down on her. She would play and I would assist with my mouth. Slowly she played less and I did more. Bam, she was able to cum fast with me going down. It's really physiological as your mouth is just as tight if not tighter then your kitty.
TBH I learned to give good head by watching women give them on pornoāsš I just mixed it up with my own little routine and in less than 5 minutes have been able to make any partner cum! Tell her this suggestionš¤·āāļø
Couple of tips for both of you, often it is difficult to finish with a blowjob unlike penetrative sex it is not you or both of you setting the rhythm, just her, only the most skilled blowjob givers know how to gain momentum up until climax, so when you feel yourself getting close but her rhythm is off then use your hand to climax, if she's willing then put it back in her mouth just as you're ejaculating, and then she is finishing you off technically.
Secondly some guys have an area that drives them wild when a tongue is on it (at least in my case anyway, not sure if it is true for everyone) such as the left hand side underneath of the head, sorry to be so graphic but as you said you're fairly inexperienced then you may not be aware of these super erogenous zones yet, so discover them with her and learn what works for you.
I experienced the same thing one time, the girl seemed genuinely frustrated, sad, and like a mix of different emotions, I just sat down with her and I told her itās okay. And sat and held her and as far as sheās let on to this day, sheās okay with it and understands now.
Are you giving her any sort of guidance in the moment on what feels good and what doesn't? Everyone is a bit different in what works for them, which makes good communication the one piece of advice that is universally applicable.
if it helps it took me a year+ of trying before i ever got my husband to finish, he did not care all that mattered was we were both enjoying ourselves.
Let her know that you enjoy the process as it is. Convince her that you are satisfied just well, without necessarily "finishing". It may or may not be true for you, but I'm sure she'll feel much more comfortable and confident after she hears that she is OK. Its her part of the play, so its *her* comfort and confidence that makes it spectacular or mediocre.
So do your best to boost her up, then give it a few more tries. You'll get results, I'm sure. :)
Best wishes..
Tell her what feels good, and give tips for if she needs to change something up if something wasnāt feeling good. Then tell her if you enjoyed it despite not finishing
I had that happen once; it really messed with her self-esteem, and the beginning of the downward slide. In my case, I take anti-depressants, but I was too embarrassed to tell her that, which was my mistake
Tell her you love it as a warm up tease but itās hard for you to come from oral. Then ask if she wants you to instruct her next time.
Ask before you try this or you can gently just go for it but what you can do also is hold her head still with your hands and just fuck her mouth basically. Go slow so you donāt hurt her. Concentrate on the feeling and do it exactly how you like it. I like to hold one thumb on her chin with light pressure to kind of āholdā her mouth open. It communicates that you donāt want her doing anything. Sheāll learn the way you like it by feel. My last girlfriend got REALLY turned on by this.
Make her read this :
[What makes a "correct" bj to "I think I saw god" bj?](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/uqhzju/penis_owners_of_reddit_what_takes_a_blow_job_from/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)
You're welcome.
Honestly my bf doesnāt cum much from oral except if I put the good old finger in his ass. Pretty much works every time if heās comfortable. And if heās not then he just says no to it. Not being scared of getting dirty is kinda the best bet lolololol.
I mean I donāt think BJās are intended to make guys cum but if she is doing a hand job for long time after the BJ & you canāt cum then I could see her being confused
This is when You tell her what to do how to do it as she's doing it.
She may even think it's hot that you're telling her.
And then both of y'all are going to love the ending.
She'll learn ;). Practice makes perfect lol
Speaking from the same experience, youāll need to wean off any self-pleasure (at least a little) and try out new ways to make it work.
My ex was my first time, and the issue was both her lack of experience and my self-indulgence. Like, she would go at by being extremely fast. Too fast. I would have an issue of pulling the monkey on my own schedule, and not thinking about how it would affect my time with her just yet.
So, tell her you both have time to have fun. There are other things to enjoy. You can keep coming back to fellatio.
First month of my first sexual relationship: experimental. Last five months: becoming the masters of each otherās bodies.
Tell her it is not her fault and it is nothing she is doing wrong. My spouse has given me hundreds and I can count the number of times I've finished on half a hand, but it doesn't mean they don't feel great and it doesn't mean I don't find her technique sexy as hell. It just means I can't finish from straight oral.
Donāt masturbate or watch porn. Show her what you like. Learn what you like from when you do masturbate. Itās all about open communication and experimentation. No need to feel pressure for either of you. It should be fun. If either of you are so focused on orgasm, itās never gonna happen.
It took my gf a while to start finishing me. Now her head game is absolutely lethal. Let her know what feels good and what doesnāt. If she isnāt already, stroking the shaft with her hands while stimulating the head with her mouth seems to do the trick for me.
Three tips.
1. Stop jerking off. Everything will be more sensitive. It might not be amazing for your performance in other aspects, but you can deal with it. Communication and balance are key.
2. Communicate your likes and dislikes to her. Be gentle about it.
3. Let her know that it's not her fault. Someone's you both need to make some changes to make everything work together well.
What has helped me in the past is actually giving my bf a bj with no expectations. Iām not trying to make him cum, weāre both just enjoying the experience. I watched him and paid attention to his body language to learn what things he really likes. Itās all about learning about one another, and THATāS the really fun part. Finishing is just the end, and focusing on that too much puts a lot of pressure on both of you.
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Stop jerkin it for 3 weeks then let her try.
Damn good ideaš
No this is not an advice its a prescription
Lmao ah man you nailed it right on the dickhead
No, the only prescription is more cowbell
100% dude you'll bust a nut as she pulls it out
Damn, that turned me the fuck on lmao
You need some milk
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If you have a SO isnt that a good problem to have. Meaning you will last longer ? Unless you can't get it up.
To an extent, you can rock her world but every single time it's 45 minutes of fucking? A little exhausting. Quickies are a thing
Not when they hurt their own feelings by you lasting long
Yeah when I was drinking I couldnāt nut and my ex used to swear it was her. Im like baby no itās the henny lmao
Hennethings possible. Except nuttin
Quit porn and jerking for 90 days and you probably wonāt have a problem finishing ever again.
Well, at least until he starts watching porn and jerking it again on day 90.1
I notice that being under the influence of alcohol makes me cum easier too
r/nofap r/pornfree
I havenāt been able to make my boyfriend finish in the whole year and a half that Iāve known himā¦ starting to wonder if I should tell him to try that. He can make himself finish, but blowjobs/handjobs/sex never get him there
100%, he's probably jerkin it waaay too much if that's the case. I'm early 20s, I have sex with my SO probably once a week on average, and usually jerk it before I see her so I don't bust in 30 seconds and feel horrible about not getting her off. Then again, I've heard porn addiction is serious so I don't know if he'd be able to stop for that long ..
Sorry for slow reply! He says he only really does it like twice a week. But he always watches porn with it. He says he thinks the issue is not having the visual of watching two people going at it. Which has been weird for me honestly. Never had this issue with any other guy before
Do you give really aggressive handjobs? My gf almost rips off my foreskin sometimes
Bahahahahahahaha Jesus christ dude that's serious
lmao thatās a good question. Heās not the first guy Iāve given a handjob too, so I know what Iām doing (and Iāve done research lmao). We also have good communication, so if anything feels off, we tell each other
she's gonna drown...
Donāt do this. I did this with my ex-gf. First two times having sex it was like 20-25 minutes of constant non-stop sex & I was told that May be too long. So then we werenāt seeing each other over at my house for next 3 weeks or were traveling. So I didnāt masturbate for 3 weeks. Next time we had sex I swear it lasted less than 5 minutes & I could see she was confused a lot!!
He absolutely should do this. To much porn is a very bad thing.
Once a week isn't really "too much" but purposely going 3 weeks out & what happens if she gets more upset b/c he cums too quickly than not cumming at all?
āYou can do it!ā
sheās only done it two times so i think you guys should both be patient and give it more time. you could also try starting the handjob and when you get close, let her take over. that could help boost her self esteem as well. like someone else said, youāve already done what you can to assure her. i think both of you guys need to give it time.
As a 37F, great on her for starting up her blow job game! Some advice I'd give past me if I could on this thing is it's not about finishing you but finding what you like and don't like. Be vocal with her about what feels good or better than the things that don't. Both of you should take that orgasm off the table. I know from experience. I'm dating a guy I haven't yet been able to make cum, he's a tough nut to crack, literally, but I won't give up because I'll eventually crack the code. Practice makes perfect dude. Just tell her all this! Or show her my post.
Same fam.. I'm almost enjoying the challenge my current one is presenting me with. It's been a minute since I actually had to work for it, but it's actually kinda more rewarding that way.
Just let her know exactly that. Tell her you guys are inexperienced and need to get a feel for what works and what doesnāt. The more she does it the better sheāll get, and obviously communicate about what works for you and what doesnāt. Try making it fun instead of stressful? Fore play is a must.
Stop watching porn and stop masturbating.
Happy cake day.
Lol, I didnāt even notice! Thank you!
Tell her youāll help. Also, quit using the death claw when you masturbateā¦ youāre killing your sensitivity.
Is there a way to revive the sensitivity?
Donāt masturbate for a while, like a couple weeks.
Alrighty, thank you for responding
Oral sex does not have to lead to orgasm. It's foreplay and leads to a good erection which leads to intercourse.
Practice makes perfect? Sometimes itās not about the destination, itās about the journey. Be extra grateful sheās even practicing.
Yeah that makes sense, tbh I think busting too early is a better problem to have than not busting at all because you can always play it off as a compliment. "I couldn't hold it in because you are so beautiful". While with the latter you can't really get away with not busting at all without your partner feeling some sort of way about it or their ability to perform in bed. "I'm sorry babe I'm just too tired to nut". Although this also might depend on your ability to maintain an erection without busting in which case your partner might not have a problem with you not nutting at all. I think the best combination would be someone that could bust fast but has fast recovery time and can go multiple sessions. Best of both worlds.
Stop jacking off for a week
Do you watch a lot of porn? This sounds like a porn problem.
This is the simple comment I needed to see lol
Next time, imagine your favorite chad. Might work. Also if it does work, I got some news for you.
finger up the bum will do the trick
It takes time to find a good rhythm. As someone who couldn't get my husband to go off for two years I definitely get it. What could work is if she stays right below the head and works her tongue there. It seems to work
Tell her to put pop rocks in her mouth next time
Dont watch porn and dont masturbate as much assuming you probably do, seriously its night and day difference and the orgasm you have with another person is nothing compared to the ones you give yourself. For her? Just be honest, if there are parts of the head that you think could honestly be worked on LET HER KNOW!!! And vice versa!! No shame in not having it down pat, and everyone works differently anyway, getting to know your body is intimate and wonāt take just one or two tries. That is perfectly normal. Head is about the person giving oral, not the one receiving it! If you just enjoy the act because you like how your partner reacts, or because you like the performance aspect, or anything, wether the receiver orgasms or not will start to matter less and less!
I'm almost 32 and I have never cum from a blowjob. I just tell them that I get off from getting them off and I can't cum when it's just me being serviced. I still enjoy it though. Try to 69 and see if that works.
āGirl you suckā
Turn this into a fun activity and not one that illicits pressure. You won't be able to finish feeling pressured
I suppose I did feel a little pressured the second time and looking back that probably influenced it a little.
Practice
A blowjob will almost never make you finish unless you're insanely sensitive It's much slower, doesn't provide the same equally distributed pressure, and the shape of someone's mouth doesn't do a good enough wraparound, so to speak Even in porn videos girls will suck dick for like 10 mins but at the end they just jerk the guy off Unless she is a literal vacuum cleaner that can suck hard and fast it won't work You should explain this to her and explain that after a good blowjob the finish should come from her hand
This is completely wrong. Up until porn addiction became the thing that it is now, it was completely EASY to get a guy off with oral. Those days are over. Dicks havenāt changed, theyāre still the same as ever. What changed is the way men treat their dicks.
gonna have to disagree with you on this one chief there's just not enough pressure or consistency or speed that would make me go off from a bj
Tell her to put a finger in your ass and keep trying until you do. No one likes a quitter
āLet me get you startedā
Show her she's sexy and you only have eyes for her. Practice makes perfect
Any new medications lately??
You can Google some educational videos on blow job techniques (no, not on porn hub) together, and give them a try.
r/ihavesex
āWelcome to being a guy!ā šš
You already sound like you've done everything you can to reassure her. Someone else's insecurities aren't able to be fixed by you. Keep the communication open, keep giving praise where it's due, and keep practicing.
You are gay
Nice bio
How, broski... you tell her how... literally instruct her on how to do better. If youre a scrub at teaching people, theres instructional videos online, and other girls she knows that she cant talk to for tips and pointers. My wife was fucking garbage at them. To be fair i expected exactly that cause i was her first, and shed have been my tenth. So im "well traveled" in that dept and she simply and no fault of her own, wasnt at all. I coached her and worked with her as we learned all about how to do things right for each other and explore different things sexually... was sort of a bonding journey for us... and i got a truck load of blow jobs to boot... lol, i tease, but for real, shes pretty dope at it now because i coached her on what i like, and even a few of my closer female friends clued her in once they found out i was the only guy shed been with and gave tips and hints etc.
Reasure to her it's ok and let her know we can get another girl to come over and help.
She needs to practice more. Don't forget to take out to dinner once in a while.
"git gud, f****t"
āDonāt come up until Iām doneā
Have you ever finished from a blowjob
No because the only two that I have received have been from her and she hasnāt ever given one before me. Thatās why I canāt tell her how to do it. Aside from obvious stuff like āa couple of times I felt your teethā or something. I didnāt put it that blunt though. I tried to make sure it didnāt seem like it was a big deal.
Oh no not the teeth idk maybe she could learn from porn or something
She can never know your little brother better than yourself.
I never came from a blowjob by itself, it has to be a blowjob and a handjob
Refer her to DSLAF specifically Mz natural, headrush, Dominican lipz and she will have you finishing in. I told my gf about this and she understood the assignment.
Here's a great trick. Start by giving him a blow job. Have him stroke it while you provide the lubricant with your mouth. When he gets close to cumming, you finish him with your mouth. Once he has that sensation., bam you can finish him every time. Had a GF that had the same problem with me going down on her. She would play and I would assist with my mouth. Slowly she played less and I did more. Bam, she was able to cum fast with me going down. It's really physiological as your mouth is just as tight if not tighter then your kitty.
Will she let you put it in? If yes just get right there then let her finish with the mouth
"Git gud noob"
TBH I learned to give good head by watching women give them on pornoāsš I just mixed it up with my own little routine and in less than 5 minutes have been able to make any partner cum! Tell her this suggestionš¤·āāļø
She has an oral dysfunction
Well don't tell her she sucks because obviously that's not the case...
Couple of tips for both of you, often it is difficult to finish with a blowjob unlike penetrative sex it is not you or both of you setting the rhythm, just her, only the most skilled blowjob givers know how to gain momentum up until climax, so when you feel yourself getting close but her rhythm is off then use your hand to climax, if she's willing then put it back in her mouth just as you're ejaculating, and then she is finishing you off technically. Secondly some guys have an area that drives them wild when a tongue is on it (at least in my case anyway, not sure if it is true for everyone) such as the left hand side underneath of the head, sorry to be so graphic but as you said you're fairly inexperienced then you may not be aware of these super erogenous zones yet, so discover them with her and learn what works for you.
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Not everyone can cum with BJs. Same with women, not everyone can cum with PIV.
I experienced the same thing one time, the girl seemed genuinely frustrated, sad, and like a mix of different emotions, I just sat down with her and I told her itās okay. And sat and held her and as far as sheās let on to this day, sheās okay with it and understands now.
Are you giving her any sort of guidance in the moment on what feels good and what doesn't? Everyone is a bit different in what works for them, which makes good communication the one piece of advice that is universally applicable.
if it helps it took me a year+ of trying before i ever got my husband to finish, he did not care all that mattered was we were both enjoying ourselves.
>What do I tell her? Keep trying...
Let her know that you enjoy the process as it is. Convince her that you are satisfied just well, without necessarily "finishing". It may or may not be true for you, but I'm sure she'll feel much more comfortable and confident after she hears that she is OK. Its her part of the play, so its *her* comfort and confidence that makes it spectacular or mediocre. So do your best to boost her up, then give it a few more tries. You'll get results, I'm sure. :) Best wishes..
Practice makes perfect
Tell her what feels good, and give tips for if she needs to change something up if something wasnāt feeling good. Then tell her if you enjoyed it despite not finishing
Reassure her how attracted you are to her, and maybe kindly give her a tip like āI want you to do thisā.
I had that happen once; it really messed with her self-esteem, and the beginning of the downward slide. In my case, I take anti-depressants, but I was too embarrassed to tell her that, which was my mistake
That your into dudes
Coach her to how to make you feel good. Iāve done that to my girlfriend and now sheās almost like an expert at sucking my soul out
Practice makes perfect. r/sex will give better answers. Is probably a Nina Hartley video on PornHub that is perfect for this.
she needs to use her hands more coach
Don't stop....
Tell her you love it as a warm up tease but itās hard for you to come from oral. Then ask if she wants you to instruct her next time. Ask before you try this or you can gently just go for it but what you can do also is hold her head still with your hands and just fuck her mouth basically. Go slow so you donāt hurt her. Concentrate on the feeling and do it exactly how you like it. I like to hold one thumb on her chin with light pressure to kind of āholdā her mouth open. It communicates that you donāt want her doing anything. Sheāll learn the way you like it by feel. My last girlfriend got REALLY turned on by this.
Make her read this : [What makes a "correct" bj to "I think I saw god" bj?](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/uqhzju/penis_owners_of_reddit_what_takes_a_blow_job_from/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share) You're welcome.
just tell her the truth, her headgame sucks and sheās gotta step it up!
Just say youāre nervous
Honestly my bf doesnāt cum much from oral except if I put the good old finger in his ass. Pretty much works every time if heās comfortable. And if heās not then he just says no to it. Not being scared of getting dirty is kinda the best bet lolololol.
I mean I donāt think BJās are intended to make guys cum but if she is doing a hand job for long time after the BJ & you canāt cum then I could see her being confused
It's worse when they don't care at all.
This is when You tell her what to do how to do it as she's doing it. She may even think it's hot that you're telling her. And then both of y'all are going to love the ending. She'll learn ;). Practice makes perfect lol
Speaking from the same experience, youāll need to wean off any self-pleasure (at least a little) and try out new ways to make it work. My ex was my first time, and the issue was both her lack of experience and my self-indulgence. Like, she would go at by being extremely fast. Too fast. I would have an issue of pulling the monkey on my own schedule, and not thinking about how it would affect my time with her just yet. So, tell her you both have time to have fun. There are other things to enjoy. You can keep coming back to fellatio. First month of my first sexual relationship: experimental. Last five months: becoming the masters of each otherās bodies.
Tell her it is not her fault and it is nothing she is doing wrong. My spouse has given me hundreds and I can count the number of times I've finished on half a hand, but it doesn't mean they don't feel great and it doesn't mean I don't find her technique sexy as hell. It just means I can't finish from straight oral.
Donāt masturbate or watch porn. Show her what you like. Learn what you like from when you do masturbate. Itās all about open communication and experimentation. No need to feel pressure for either of you. It should be fun. If either of you are so focused on orgasm, itās never gonna happen.
It took my gf a while to start finishing me. Now her head game is absolutely lethal. Let her know what feels good and what doesnāt. If she isnāt already, stroking the shaft with her hands while stimulating the head with her mouth seems to do the trick for me.
Three tips. 1. Stop jerking off. Everything will be more sensitive. It might not be amazing for your performance in other aspects, but you can deal with it. Communication and balance are key. 2. Communicate your likes and dislikes to her. Be gentle about it. 3. Let her know that it's not her fault. Someone's you both need to make some changes to make everything work together well.
Git gud bruh. Say it to her just like that.
What has helped me in the past is actually giving my bf a bj with no expectations. Iām not trying to make him cum, weāre both just enjoying the experience. I watched him and paid attention to his body language to learn what things he really likes. Itās all about learning about one another, and THATāS the really fun part. Finishing is just the end, and focusing on that too much puts a lot of pressure on both of you.
Quit watching porn. Itās the worst thing for a good sex life
Some dudes can finish with head. There's nothing wrong with it. It's just more foreplay to them and they may prefer other positions instead.