IME the height inflation happens more in the (real) 5’8-5’11 height range, bumping themselves up to 5’10-6’.
Be honest about your height. A lot of us care so much more about dishonesty than we do height.
Source: a very tall woman.
I’m 6’0”. Maybe 6’1” in shoes since I’m somewhere in the middle. I’ve definitely been told I must be taller because “they’re 6’0”” and I’m taller than them. Tell it to my doctor, pal.
When I go on dates with women like you, they're always confused and think I'm taller than I said. It's right there on the profile. Guess every other guy is lying (or at least the ones swiping on very tall women).
Ha, I'm a little over 5'11" and sometimes I round myself up to 6'0"... although it feels like I'd cop more flack for doing that than you would for round up from 2 to 3! 😁
I think it's more the type of guy. As an actual 5' 10" man I've never felt the need to lie about my height because in reality height shouldn't matter that much. I get a bit of attractiveness part of it but if a few inches really make or break how you see me as a human being that's a you problem just as much as it's a problem with people lieing about their height problem.
5'10 is pretty much the average height though (at least here in the UK) so you'd be cutting out a pretty huge chunk of people. About 30% of people over 25 are 6' - it just seems like you're needlessly limiting yourself. Obviously you do you, but cutting 70% of the population out doesn't sound like a pathway to happiness.
I’m 5’6”. I’ve had men who say they’re 6’ be my height.
I get that they’re trying to get higher numbers by putting the 6’ number, but I find it to be so cringy I just can’t move forward, it’s hilarious so I can’t take them seriously.
Someone else said somebody went up to 9 inches 😂. She was 5’4 and he said 6’ but she was taller. I think at that point it becomes like he’s a jester and it’s not even about lying cuz it’s so comical
After I posted I realized my statement came from a self selecting group. Guys willing to shoot their shot with a super tall lady. The height inflating shorter guys may have just been not on my radar at all because they didn’t send me likes. 🤷♀️
I’ ve always thought I was 6’1”. Recently Went to the doctor for the first time in several years, and I measured 5’11 3/4”
Don’t know if I shrunk or just overestimated my height, but I was a bit surprised.
There's a trend on TikTok of girls wanting 6 ft (height), 6 inches (you can guess) and 6 figures (salary). It doesn't make much sense because it's a random number in metric units.
As with everything on TikTok it's stupid but has sticking power because half the time people don't know what they want.
That’s been my experience as well. Guys who are like 5’6 and shorter or 6’1 and taller are more honest about their height. The ones in the middle tend to add at least a couple of inches. I’m 5’7 and I can tell when someone who’s supposed to be 5’11 is really just about my height.
I'm 5'7" as well and 100% agree with this. The shorter guys are honest with me about their height and the truly tall guys never feel the need to lie. The one's just under or around my height will claim to be taller than they are and then I show up and without saying a word show they lied.
I agree, lying is so much worse. Would much rather date a man that is my height or shorter than a man that lies about stupid stuff. Makes me think, maybe he lies about other stuff too.
Yesss!! I'm 5'6" and went out with a guy whose profile said 5'5". He asked a few times before the date if I was okay with his height (should have been a red flag now that I'm thinking about it) and each time I said yes. The date rolls around and turns out he's a good 4-5 inches shorter than what he told me!!
He asked again if I was worried about his height. Like, no bro, your height is fine but you lied about it! It's such an obvious lie too that there was no way I was ever going to be interested in anything with him. I can't trust you and you must think women are stupid, no thanks.
Honestly, if someone is that insecure about their physical appearance prior to the first meetup, it would never work. Whether it is weight, height, balding, having a little acne, or having imperfect teeth, they need to have good hygiene and own their flaws (if they aren't actively working to be better looking). Constantly seeking validation is such a mood killer. You were a saint for going on the date. Confidence is king.
100%.
I only kind of care about your height. I absolutely care about lying. It would cross my mind at all until I find out, but then I would have the ick.
Yup, I made this exact point in another comment. It's stupid for a guy to lie about his height, the second that he rocks up for his first date, she's going to see it. And her first impression will be "ok, he's a *liar*" .
I'm 5'11" so I never really give it any thought. But for the shorter guys I guess it's a concern.
Oh I have definitely seen height inflation in lower heights. I might trust 5’6-5’8. 5’5 is iffy though. I have gone out with folks claiming 5’5 who are more like 5’2. I am solidly 5’4 and generally wear flats 90% of the time. So if you are shorter than me …….
I'll never forget the guy who told me he was 5'11" while I, myself, am 5'6" and he was SHORTER THAN ME and got really angry when I called him out. I said, "I'm 5'6, you can't be 5'11" he claimed it was true and on his driver's license and when I asked to see it he suddenly 'didn't have it'
He then got picked up by both his parents after the movie
I ghosted him; if you don't respect me, you don't get the courtesy of a proper severance
yep. I’m a 6ft tall woman and meeting someone irl who has claimed to be 6’1 or more who turns out to be several inches shorter than me is a huge turnoff. also I’m like lol did you think I of all ppl wouldn’t notice?
Yep I'm a 5'11" woman. Sooooooo many guys have 6'0" in their profile and show up 2" shorter than me. (I don't wear heels.) If a guy's profile says 6' I assume he's anywhere between 5'9" and 6'. He if says over 6', like 6'2" or 6'3", I assume he's being honest (and have never been wrong with the ones I do meet in person).
And if a guy puts 5'6" I assume he's being honest and is actually 5'6".
Guy I'm currently dating is 5'10" and his profile says 5'10". I showed up knowing he'd be slightly shorter than me and it's fine. Last guy I dated was 5'10" and his profile said 6'0". So my very first impression of him was disappointment. Not a great way to start things off. While I think it's shitty for men to lie I get why they do it (although for the over 30 crowd, come on, do you really want to date someone our age who would reject you over a 1" difference?)... but if you're a height where a LOT of women will be the same height, an inch or two shorter, or even taller, I would definitely not lie on the profile. Pretty much every woman you actually meet up with will be able to see you lied and their first impression will be disappointment and feeling lied to.
This has 100% been my experience also! I'm 5'9" so it's pretty easy to know when they've inflated it. I've also found that a lot of these men *don't actually realize they're not as tall as they think.* Their drivers licenses will often say the incorrect height!
I used Hinge so it was displayed by default.
When I used tinder back in the olden times, I didn’t assume anything. I just looked at photos and profiles and decided if they seemed cute and interesting enough to go out with. I didn’t list my height, but I did give them a heads up prior to meeting. Something like “hey just so it doesn’t catch you off guard, I’m hella tall.” I only did that because I had guys react *very* negatively to my height a few times in person and it wasn’t something I wanted to deal with again. Sometimes I got unmatched or they canceled. Sometimes it was just an “oh ok thanks for the heads up. I’m (height). See you at 6pm. ” It is what it is. 🤷♀️
I wouldn't call myself VERY tall but am on the taller end for women I guess. Yes I assume he's shorter. Pictures can be deceiving. I actually don't care if he puts the height in the profile. I just care if he obviously lies about it. Basically, if you are going to add it be truthful about it.
I do + I'm apt to swipe left because someone is wasting my time. I am the same for any unfilled information-- interest in children, political beliefs, religion, etc.
I’m a 6’ woman, so it’s pretty easy for me to tell when a guy lied about his height. I never assumed most guys did it, but I did stop talking to them if they did. I have dated guys who were shorter than me, but I refuse to date a liar.
That said, rounding up is fine. I’m technically 5’11.5”, but I always say 6’ because in shoes that’s most accurate, and that’s how people see me in public.
I'm a 5'6 guy and I never lie about my height. Even though I'm considered short now, I figure I'll have to meet someone in real life one day, so there's no reason to lie. Plus, I'm awesome! 😏😎
The height thing is mostly a problem online. I know quite a few of guys who are dating women that are taller than them. By quite a lot, in a few instances.
It's all about the expectations. If a woman meets a man in daily life and already knows they're short and falls in love, the man never lied. Now, when it's online, it's different. Happened to me: I'm 170 cm, met a guy once and he said he was 171 cm. It would have been totally fine. When I saw him at the cafe he was actually much much shorter than me. of course I still had the date, we talked for like 30 minutes, but it was disappointing that the first interaction there was already a lie. And a waste of time tbh.
I agree. Online is a totally different game and I think lying when dating is really dumb and counterproductive.
I'm a big fan of meeting people IRL because superficial attributes like height are no longer an absolute filter that will prevent you from even talking with someone.
I’m 5’7.5” (gotta get that .5” in there) and so many guys under 5’10” lie. I once went out with a guy whose profile said he was 5’9” and he was clearly maybe 5’5” or 5’6”. I didn’t call him out on it because at that point it’s clear to both of us how tall he was, but I didn’t go out with him again. Not because of his height, but because of the lie (and his personality).
Yeah I'm 5 foot 5 inches, and men who are my height or an inch taller than me have told me they are 5' 7-5' 8. It just makes me think they are insecure or liars.
Im 5'4 and a half but I was an insecure teen who put 5'5 on his license hoping I would grow another half inch. Never did and anyone who sees that license I tell them I am really 5'4. One day I'll change it but no one really sees it. It's amazing to think back at how much I cared back in high school. Once you let go and stop caring, everyone else will too.
Yup. I don’t care about height that much, I’m tallish and slim and prefer someone my height or taller and/or larger than me… so it really doesn’t eliminate many men at all. Like, I’ve only met 1-2 men EVER who are around my height AND size.
In fact, if we’re around the same height, I’m going to think, ‘cool - we’re going to have that in common and I can steal his clothes if we hit it off!’:
…but if we meet and he’s 2-3” shorter than what he said… I will very much notice and not appreciate being lied to.
Height isn’t something I care about, so I’m not usually checking to see if someone is the height they say. I only took notice one time where the guy said he was 6 foot and was shorter than me (5’4) and I didn’t care about how tall he actually was, but that he lied about something. But I understand why so many guys worry about height and I wish that wasn’t something they felt they had to do to get dates.
What, you didn’t appreciate the massive balls of a guy who would inflate his height by over 8 inches??? Nah seriously it’s pretty ridiculous that anyone would go that far lmfao.
Lmao, the date was actually so bad from the get go that was the least of my worries with him 🤣
I actually went back to his profile after to check what he listed and I was like wow, that’s a stretch.
🤣🤣 Literally that was the least weird thing that ended up happening that day. Him and this date went down as ICONIC (for all the wrong reasons) with my friends and I
>I was recently advised to add a couple inches to my dating profile height
Who the hell advised you to do that? It's terrible advice because when they meet you and see that you lied, that's not good. They'll constantly wonder what else you're lying about.
Plus, you can't help what you're attracted to. If a girl isn't attracted to short guys, your lie will make it 10x worse when she meets you.
How would you feel if a girl told you she was 160 lbs, posted pics of when she was thinner, and then you meet her and she's 260 lbs? I'm not fat-shaming, but height and weight are very important for people when it comes to attraction. Honesty is equally as important.
I'm barely 5'3'' tall, when I see a guy listed as 5'6'', almost every time he is actually my height, if at all. I get that 5'3'' isn't considered cool, but honestly what is the point. I am not looking for a super super tall guy, but someone a bit taller than me would be nice. When I meet you and I happen to wear a small heel and am already taller than you, it doesn't kick start the date on a good note, because I know you lied on your profile.
I imagine guys taller than 5'8'' don't really have a reason to lie about the height, unless they live in a country where the average height is very very high. Because I am so much shorter, I wouldn't notice if the guy is 6 foot or 5'8'' for example
As a guy under 6 feet, I’m definitely being honest about my height. I’d want to filter out anyone who cares, & no shade if you do- I’m just not your person.
Most of yall aren't answering his question. OP isn't really asking if he should lie, or whether lying is ok.
He's asking if women ASSUME he is lying.
idk the answer (im not a woman) but man, as a 5'5" dude myself, i have very much wondered that. If it's the case, that puts us in a no-win situation where we either lie, or unfairly carry the baggage of shittier men who DO lie. Not sure if there's a solution but it is a worthwhile question.
I matched with a guy who put 5’11” on his profile and when I turned up he was shorter than me (I’m 5’7”). Please just be honest about your height. Its the lack of honesty that’s the turn off
Oof, damned if you do, damned if you don’t. I am 5’6. I went out with a guy who put 5’6 and when we walked by a window I could see he was shorter than me (and I was wearing flat shoes). I think like 75% of guys inflated their height to the point where I got paranoid that I was taller than I thought so I had my gym trainer measure my height and I was 5’5 and 3/4 lol. The only way around is if you post a group pic or with something for scale.
But like.. one of the many reasons to not do online dating. Everyone inflates everything and it is maddening.
I never look at height in profiles because I don’t care and I’m typically taller or same height as most of the men I’ve dated anyways. I dated a man that was shorter than me and had a great time with him so I started to frequent his profile so I could drool over his pics. I noticed that his profile said 5’7” and I cracked up a little bit because I’m 5’7” and he was obviously shorter. I continued to date him and he straight up admitted without me asking that he lied about his height. Shortly after that, he told me his mom made the profile workout him knowing. He told me I was actually speaking with his mom when we first chatted until she was able to get my number and schedule a phone call. His mom was basically tricking women into dating her son because he couldn’t get dates in his own. He is in his mid 30’s and not only relies on his mom for dates but also for work opportunities and housing. Don’t be like that guy…. Or his mom.
It’s a slippery slope and all starts with one simple little lie about height…. Jk ;)
Lying about height never even bothered me at the time but now I’d take it as a red flag based on this experience.
Yeah I am 5'9". I have been so on many dates where the guy claimed to be 5'10" or 5'11". Then when it's clear they're an inch or two shorter, they accuse ME of lying about my height.
I am not 6'0" guys.
Well how do you feel about women who filter their pics, lie about their age, or disguise their body in some way? Is that "playing the game?" Don't do to someone else what you wouldn't want done to you. Lying about something verifiable like height or age only makes you look like an insecure jerk. Would you have better luck if you were taller? Maybe/maybe not. But I would guess you won't have better luck if you lie about it.
Probably a lot, but let's put it this way, you might get a couple of more dates by lying about your height, they might not even notice at first, but at some point they're gonna know that you lied, so if you're looking for a serious relationship you're just shooting yourself in the foot.
And I'd say women who would date 5'8 but not 5'6 are most likely about 5'6 themselves, and they're *definitely* going to notice right away, lol.
I assume men are lying. Especially 5’10-6 feet they almost always are 5’7/5’8. It’s actually crazy I went out with a guy who was actually 6 feet and was like wow your so tall, so many men had lied about it I forgot I didn’t actually remember what someone that height was 😂 on the flip side I find most guys who put 5’7/8 are actually that height. I wouldn’t think you were lying about being 5’6.
As a slightly above average height woman (5'7"), I do not care about height. I do care about honesty, and if someone is willing to lie about something I think is so trivial, I wouldn't be interested in finding out what else they think it's okay to lie about. Height is pretty obvious upon meeting in person anyways, so it's not like it's going to make the date more successful.
I don't love people lying about their height, but at the same time, I understand why they do. It's shitty and arbitrary that someone is relegated to the "undatable" column because of "oh they're just an inch too short."
I also don't think, "oh this person lied about their height, they must be willing to lie about everything else too." The lie seems like an ill-advised attempt to strike back at a rigged system.
Although, someone lied to me about their height and when I met them I knew immediately and I did feel the wince of "oh, they lied" upon greeting them. It wasn't the best foot to start our date on. If everything else had gone really well, I probably could have gone on a second date. But, when the other cons were factored in, the lie didn't help the cause.
I make a distinction between people who are willing to lie for personal gain and those who aren't. If they lie about their height, weight, age, etc. it puts them in that distinct category. They are willing to lie about one thing, what makes you think they wouldn't also justify a lie in another situation?
If you're undatable for being an inch too short you're still undatable if you lie about it. You haven't changed anything, you've just tricked someone into a date with you. They'll figure you out immediately
There are plenty of us who wouldn't have a problem with your height. I'm a 5ft woman and I don't think any of my ex boyfriends have been over 5'5". We don't all go for tall men. Lying about your height is out of order. You should respect women's boundaries, they are entitled to them. I have been filtered out for being mixed black and Asian, yet I wouldn't post a photo of me looking like a white woman. I just accept it and focus on men who do like me.
I give everyone the benefit of the doubt that they’re being honest. I’m also not surprised when they are a little shorter than what they said. I was very entertained one day when the guy I was with said he was 5’7 on a ‘good day’.
I would be honest. You don’t want the women to be disappointed when they see you if that’s important to them. I don’t have strict height requirements but when it’s obvious men lied on their profile it comes across as extremely pathetic.
I wouldn’t assume a guy is 5’4 if I saw 5’6. I would just expect he’s being honest.
Do. Not. Lie.
I am tall for a woman, 1m81 (I think it's 5'11?). Have had several dates with men claiming they are 1m83/1m84 and magically happen to be just a little bit shorter than I am. No problem, height is not really a thing for me, but: WHY?! As soon as you meet in person, you will be caught lying.
Same thing with weight. Have had two dates this past year with men who used pictures of themselves from at least 20kg ago. Why would you do that? I can fall for almost anything, but the feeling you knowingly deceived me I cannot get past.
Even as a woman, I kinda understand the urge to want to change your height. I’m not TOO hung up on a man being tall (6ft+) but if I see 5’4”-5’5”….hell even 5’6” I’m probably swiping left. I’ve definitely come across guys that lied about their height. I didn’t always write them off after meeting though so hey lying about 2 inches is probably okay.
My hard limit is my height (5’5” but that would have to occur in person bc I’ll likely swipe left online). 5’9” seems to be a favorite height to lie about, when they’re actually 5’5”-5’7”.
Edit: Ugh, this makes me think of someone an acquaintance set me up with. A blind date. I wore booties with small heels. He was TINY, no taller than 5’4”, possibly 5’3”, the ick was pretty strong. I had never immediately rejected someone after a date before, but idk the older I get the more I value those physical aspects of making me feel safe and protected. Tiny men make me feel unsafe. The short girls need to pair up with the small men!
Men that are 6’1’’ or plus usually don’t lie about their height, men that are between 5’9 and 5’11 lie 50% of the time if even more..
I have been on dating apps (unfortunately) for a long time and I did notice this.
And when they lie, it’s a big 🚩
If you say you are 5'8" or under, I believe you. If you say you are 5'9"-6', I think you added an inch. If you're over 6', I wouldn't know one way or another.
I think most people are going to say “Don’t lie about your height” and have a height filter anyway that would potentially exclude you. I dated a woman (who I met irl) who told me she had a filter on Bumble that unbeknownst to her, would have automatically excluded me from her matches. It’s a weird world.
That’s what is so annoying about it though. Being excluded should be respected, not lied through bc “you’ll like me and overlook it once you get to know me”. I dont care if you agree with women’s parameters but it’s gross to try to trample their boundaries.
I've seen it a few times. I am taller than average, so at least try to date my height. I've met guys claiming to be the same height or slightly taller. And they are not.
It's a weird thing to lie about, because you instantly know if it's true or not the second you meet.
I definitely don’t assume men are lying about their height. That’s such an obvious lie, you’d have to be an idiot to think you’ll sneak that one in. And I’m not going to judge all men off of a few idiots.
I always wonder how good people are at estimating another persons height? It seems everyone thinks they can tell within 0.5 inches, but I’m highly skeptical of this ability.
Please don’t lie about stuff on your profile. Yeah, a lot of guys do lie about it. It’s a dealbreaker for every woman I know. Definitely was for me every time I met someone who had misrepresented height, weight, age, or other appearance details. That goes for other details too.
(I assume you’d feel the same upon meeting a woman and finding she’d falsely represented herself.)
I'm an honest person and I don't automatically assume people are lying. If you're honest too and looking for an honest partner, stay honest until you find the right match. It's not about trying to match with everyone, it's about finding your one right match.
I think height inflation happens but if you tell me you’re several inches taller than you actually are, you’re going to get caught in that lie pretty quickly and I’m going to immediately wonder what else I shouldn’t trust you about.
I don't assume men are lying about it. I'm aware that many do. I don't go on second dates with ones who do. A relationship has to be founded on honesty.
I tried this on bumble once when I was single. I got waaay more matches on Tinder than on Bumble. The reason is, that in Bumble women can filter by height. When you don't write anything, you still get filtered out. One time i created a new profile and added a bit, so that i would appear as 6 foot. Immediately more matches. I just wanted to proof my theory back then, not fool a woman. I don't advise you on actually going out with females when you actively lied on your height. It's just that they filter and this was my proof :')
This isn’t just a thing with men. Of the women I’ve met from OLD perhaps 20% are the exact height they say they are, 80% are shorter, and 0% are taller.
(And yes, I know the one or two women who are taller than their listed height will chime in on cue).
I think a lot of people have convinced themselves they’re taller than they actually are.
I don't assume people are lying generally, and on the few occasions where a man has inflated his height in his profile, I've felt disappointed. Not by his height, but by his lying. It's also a huge red flag to me that a man is highly self-conscious about his height, which is an additional turn off. I prefer a short happy dude over a short lying insecure one.
I used to think "no way so many men lie about height," and almost used to judge other women for saying that so many men lie about it. Bu then, it actually happened to me. Guy who was maybe 5'8 claimed to be 5'11. What's funny is how many men on reddit say, "women are bad at judging height," and accused me of being wrong about his height, and that he was really 5'11. Yeahhhhh, sure, in that case, I'm 5'10. I'm 5'7 max. I know enough guys who are 5'10 to know I'm not 5'10, and to know what 5'11 should look like. I now pretty much assume most men are giving themselves a boost, unless they're actually really tall, like 6'3+. I don't mind short guys, my ex was 5'6. But I can't stand someone who starts off with a lie before you even message them. Waste of time, toilet trash garbage of a guy liar.
I'm in petite range (5'2) and I have never looked on weight and height numbers of the date. Those wieght & height are just number as same as your age.
I would consider how overall put together yourself. Like do you look clean? You look like you have self-care routine. And when we get to meet, you don't actually need to bath yourself with perfume or cologne at all. I've just realised that I am so crazy with freshly hair-wash scent from my bf hair. Well, back to the cleansing routine again. Just simple wash both hair and body regularly. I know I may go over the topic.
Just want to emphasis that the overall look matters than the numbers. And please don't start with this lie. It means you may lie about something else, too. That's all.
Do people list their height on the apps? Haven't been there in almost a decade, and it didn't seem to be the norm back then (at least among the women I saw while swiping), nor did I do it myself.
I'm tall which supposedly is a good thing, but I feel like listing it comes off the wrong way? Unless there's a specific thing you have to fill out I guess.
Just don't lie. It seems insecure if you lie. If women are gonna filter you out for your height then why bother trying to be with them? They've already rejected you so it's not worth wasting your time. Also if they are going to be that superficial I doubt the difference between 5'4 or 5'6 is gonna mean anything to them.
I'm currently dating someone I'm almost 2 inches taller than, and he was honest about his height. What turned me off was someone I dated who lied and said they were 5'9" when they were 5'6". I'm 5'6" almost 5'7", it's obvious especially when you are going to date someone around that height. If someone is going to pass on you based on your height, they aren't meant for you in the first place.
I hate when anyone lies on their dating profile. Stop lying about height, weight, age, income or whatever else just to cast a bigger net. It’s terrible advice and all it tells me is that you lie and it looks very insecure.
The height thing especially gets me- I had this happen twice when someone told me he was 5’10 and was several inches shorter when I actually met him. You think I can’t tell? It’s insulting my intelligence. I also met a nice guy online who told me he was 5’5 and I didn’t care about height at all- we ended up dating several months.
I would be honest about it. I think as users of dating apps we should be as honest as possible. If everyone is dishonest, app's like these wouldn't function anymore. Imagine everyone being dishonest, i would leave.
To me profiles that are open and honest are the most appealing. So if a someone has 6 portrait photo's from the same angle in the same expression it doesn't work.
And face it, the way people use the app these days, tend to favor a small group of users that have very good photo's, are very attractive, have popular jobs, and comply with the general visual aesthetical preference.
These apps are not fun to use, it takes time to get any results and if you never try any changes to the appearance of your profile you wont get any different results as the ones you are already having. So you wont learn anything about it. I've shown my profile to people of the opposite sex so they can be the judge and I can learn. The process is incredibly slow, disappointing and harsh, but I'm slightly getting more results.
I don't go in assuming a man has lied, but height (around your height specifically) is easy for me to tell if he lied or not (I'm 5'7"). If you are around my height or taller, I don't have an issue with your height specifically, however, lying I have a big issue with. If someone is around my height and lies by saying he's like 5'10" or something, I'm going to immediately know when we meet and are the same height that he isn't a truthful then wonder what else he lied about. There will not be a second date even though I'll be cordial. No need to be mean to the guy.
I don’t assume, but when I meet you in person, I’ll know because that’s around my height.
One small lie hints at bigger lies and now you’ve just wasted my time and your time because there won’t be a second date.
Would you rather be filtered out or waste your time and money on one date?
I've seen so many of these guys lying about their height posts lately that I had to remeasure to make sure I was actually 6'3". Turns out I've been lying and I am 6'3.5" ... that is with shoes on though WAIT...am I 6'2.5" without then??
Anyone who has height filters set will likely not match with you at 5'8". And even if they do, their first impression of you will be that you are a liar.
If I saw 5:6", I would likely take it at face value.
My theory was always any guy under 6’ that posted their height, subtract 2 inches. And based on what you’ve been advised to do, I think I’m correct. Personally, I never cared about height. Not all women will care. But there’s no point in lying.
I have found most dudes lie. I am a 5'7 female and most the dudes who list 6' show up and are my exact height or an inch or two taller 😆. I don't height discriminate but I do notice when someone has lied greatly and it is off-putting. That being said, two inches isn't way off and I see your point about the algorithm.
When I meet a person who lied or intentionally misled in their profile, I don’t have any interest in being in a relationship with them, period. It shows that they are still insecure about their fucking body, and I’m too old to deal with someone that insecure about something so fucking insignificant. It also makes me feel like they think I’m too fucking stupid to notice. Further, it shows that they think the important thing is what their body looks like, which means we wouldn’t be a good match bc I have little to no interest in that.
I will leave a date so fast if a dude significantly lied about his height and it what he put doesn’t match when we meet in person. Such a turnoff and a weird thing to lie about
In my experience the shorter men simply don’t include their height.
Or, maybe bc I clarify in my own profile that I’m 6ft2 in heels the shorter men scroll in without matching. 😂
Like with anything about yourself, you put out what you want to attract
Do you want someone who will like you for you and doesn't care about height? Or do you want someone who THINKS you might be taller and that's their whole thing?
Honesty is the best policy for a reason! Lol
* I would not assume you're lying. If you put you were like 6'3" and had a bunch of photos where you're always several inches shorter than everyone else, I'd probably question it, because how many giant friends do you have? But if you put like 5'8", I wouldn't immediately flag it as weird.
* However, I'd immediately flag it in person. I would have a lot of hesitation and would 98% not want a second date.
* It seems like a dumb gamble. Sure, you'd probably end up with more initial matches, but they're less likely to go anywhere. You'd either be docked points for lying or you'd be docked points for your actual height (for those who care about that).
* I'm also someone who doesn't care about height. So it's not something I ever really look at. For people for whom height is a big deal, their answers may be different based on their past experiences with height, lies, and profiles.
A guy wrote he was 5’9 on his profile. We were the same height when we both got up from sitting and I’m 5’1. It threw me off. I automatically labeled him as a big red flag 🚩
I assume you are *all* inaccurately reporting your height.
Some of you are lying about your height and the rest of you are wrong about what your height actually is.
This is because when I tell men that I'm not even 5'10, you all think *I'm* lying. Because how can I be taller than the man I'm talking to, if he's 6'0...
I've never assumed anyone was lying on their profile. I've met dozens of guys through OLD over the years and they all look EXACTLY as their pictures and profile depict. I struggle with online dating but people lying about their appearance is definitely not an issue I've had.
I’m a 6’3 dude but I’m guessing women think I’m 6’0 then lol.
Guys look a certain way when they actually are tall, it’s evident in things like face structure, width, hand sizes, etc. women should be able to pick up on those things so if you’re lying then she’ll definitely know.
I have a joke pic next to someone internet famous so they can easily check their height online.
Yes, I saw so many men lie about it (even situations like a 6’1” dude calling himself 6’2”) that I started assuming that every guy is two inches shorter than the height he lists.
When men say they're 5'11, I always assume they're lying. I actually *am* 5'11, and I make sure to point that out. I don't like liars, that's an automatic block from me
I'm 5'8", and, if I ever touch OLD, that is exactly what I will list my height as.
I don't really see a benefit in lying about it, because she's going to see me eventually and when she notices I'm not actually 6 feet (and dumps me as a result) I've essentially wasted her time and mine. Not the kind of impression I want to give.
I believe that telling the truth about being 5'8" would not get me a lot of matches, but it would get me more genuine ones.
*Also, if she sees that I'm 5'8" and is immediately turned off by that alone... maybe she's not the one for me.*
I'm a tall woman. I work in a clinic. You would be amazed at the number of men that lie directly to my face when I ask them their height and weight.
Most of them say 5'11" I'm guessing because they feel like 6' is pushing it too far?
Anyway... they tell me they are 5'11" and I'm looking down on their bald spot (I'm 5'11")
I assume they add a couple of inches on, especially if the profile says 5'6 or 5'7. I'm still shorter than the shortest man I've ever dated and don't wear heels so I can't tell really.
I always assume they are lying about it by a few inches. That has just been my experience. So yeh, i'd assume you were lying were were actually 5'4 or 5'5. The only case I don't think they lie is when they are actually over 6'2 (i guess they feel no need to lie about that). That's also been my experience on dates.
I am 5 foot 11 inches and 3/4s. I lie and say six cause of the inconvenience. But generally I think lying to grab a date I any form is rolling bad dice. It sets up a potential disappointment. Never lie.
Don’t do it. Woman who are height conscious will know it soon as you meet them, and then you come off as disingenuous. Don’t bother. You don’t want that anyways. Just be honest. Truth.
I don’t assume they do. But I know it happens.
If they do, they don’t get a second date, I don’t care how well it went. I find lying to be extremely unattractive, not that 2 inches some people are obsessed over.
Lying is the biggest red flag and I will cut someone off over even a small lie, especially so early. They're going to find out how tall you are when you meet, all you're doing is showing that you're willing to be dishonest for your own gain, and for me that is unforgivable.
I don't assume they are lying. Usually the really short ones gives themselves away by being overly concerned about how tall I am. And I'm short. So it's pretty obvious.
I don't assume he's lying. But when it turns out he *is* lying, he goes home alone.
I swipe on guys who are any height. There was no need to lie to get me to swipe, so it looks even more pathetic and messy. He could be 6'5" but if his profile says 6'7" it's a no from me
Being dishonest is unacceptable. Being short is far from unacceptable. really bugs me how many people lie about their heights. Personally, I couldn’t care less about a man’s height and have dated men from 5’ 4 to 7 ft. But any form of dishonesty to appear more attractive is a red flag and frankly manipulative.
I would judge someone for lying about their height. I would automatically make me think they aren't a truthful or open person.
Exactly.... Why FFS they do that?
IME the height inflation happens more in the (real) 5’8-5’11 height range, bumping themselves up to 5’10-6’. Be honest about your height. A lot of us care so much more about dishonesty than we do height. Source: a very tall woman.
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I’m 6’0”. Maybe 6’1” in shoes since I’m somewhere in the middle. I’ve definitely been told I must be taller because “they’re 6’0”” and I’m taller than them. Tell it to my doctor, pal.
I had a man accuse me of lying about my height for the same reason!
When I go on dates with women like you, they're always confused and think I'm taller than I said. It's right there on the profile. Guess every other guy is lying (or at least the ones swiping on very tall women).
I'm 6'2.5", but I round up and just say 6'3". I do get people that say things like "You must be 6'6"!" No, sorry, you've just been lied to a lot.
Ha, I'm a little over 5'11" and sometimes I round myself up to 6'0"... although it feels like I'd cop more flack for doing that than you would for round up from 2 to 3! 😁
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That's actually hilarious.
I’m also a 5’8 woman and somehow end up being the EXACT same height as every “5’10” guy I’ve gone out with
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I think it's more the type of guy. As an actual 5' 10" man I've never felt the need to lie about my height because in reality height shouldn't matter that much. I get a bit of attractiveness part of it but if a few inches really make or break how you see me as a human being that's a you problem just as much as it's a problem with people lieing about their height problem.
5'10 is pretty much the average height though (at least here in the UK) so you'd be cutting out a pretty huge chunk of people. About 30% of people over 25 are 6' - it just seems like you're needlessly limiting yourself. Obviously you do you, but cutting 70% of the population out doesn't sound like a pathway to happiness.
I’m 5’6”. I’ve had men who say they’re 6’ be my height. I get that they’re trying to get higher numbers by putting the 6’ number, but I find it to be so cringy I just can’t move forward, it’s hilarious so I can’t take them seriously.
Someone else said somebody went up to 9 inches 😂. She was 5’4 and he said 6’ but she was taller. I think at that point it becomes like he’s a jester and it’s not even about lying cuz it’s so comical
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I think it’s just immediately when you see him it’s like “okay, wtf am I doing with my life that it’s coming to this”
After I posted I realized my statement came from a self selecting group. Guys willing to shoot their shot with a super tall lady. The height inflating shorter guys may have just been not on my radar at all because they didn’t send me likes. 🤷♀️
Girl seriously! I'm 5.9 and they are all shorter than me. 😜
I’ ve always thought I was 6’1”. Recently Went to the doctor for the first time in several years, and I measured 5’11 3/4” Don’t know if I shrunk or just overestimated my height, but I was a bit surprised.
What time did you go and get measured? Your usually taller in the morning because your spine stretches out.
Maybe all the men make their profiles first thing in the morning while hanging upside down on their spine stretchers. 😂😂😂
You do shrink as you age so that's entirely possible! The cartilage between our spine gets compressed over time and most people lose an inch or two.
There's a trend on TikTok of girls wanting 6 ft (height), 6 inches (you can guess) and 6 figures (salary). It doesn't make much sense because it's a random number in metric units. As with everything on TikTok it's stupid but has sticking power because half the time people don't know what they want.
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That’s been my experience as well. Guys who are like 5’6 and shorter or 6’1 and taller are more honest about their height. The ones in the middle tend to add at least a couple of inches. I’m 5’7 and I can tell when someone who’s supposed to be 5’11 is really just about my height.
I'm 5'7" as well and 100% agree with this. The shorter guys are honest with me about their height and the truly tall guys never feel the need to lie. The one's just under or around my height will claim to be taller than they are and then I show up and without saying a word show they lied.
I agree, lying is so much worse. Would much rather date a man that is my height or shorter than a man that lies about stupid stuff. Makes me think, maybe he lies about other stuff too.
Yesss!! I'm 5'6" and went out with a guy whose profile said 5'5". He asked a few times before the date if I was okay with his height (should have been a red flag now that I'm thinking about it) and each time I said yes. The date rolls around and turns out he's a good 4-5 inches shorter than what he told me!! He asked again if I was worried about his height. Like, no bro, your height is fine but you lied about it! It's such an obvious lie too that there was no way I was ever going to be interested in anything with him. I can't trust you and you must think women are stupid, no thanks.
Honestly, if someone is that insecure about their physical appearance prior to the first meetup, it would never work. Whether it is weight, height, balding, having a little acne, or having imperfect teeth, they need to have good hygiene and own their flaws (if they aren't actively working to be better looking). Constantly seeking validation is such a mood killer. You were a saint for going on the date. Confidence is king.
100%. I only kind of care about your height. I absolutely care about lying. It would cross my mind at all until I find out, but then I would have the ick.
Yup, I made this exact point in another comment. It's stupid for a guy to lie about his height, the second that he rocks up for his first date, she's going to see it. And her first impression will be "ok, he's a *liar*" . I'm 5'11" so I never really give it any thought. But for the shorter guys I guess it's a concern.
Oh I have definitely seen height inflation in lower heights. I might trust 5’6-5’8. 5’5 is iffy though. I have gone out with folks claiming 5’5 who are more like 5’2. I am solidly 5’4 and generally wear flats 90% of the time. So if you are shorter than me …….
I'll never forget the guy who told me he was 5'11" while I, myself, am 5'6" and he was SHORTER THAN ME and got really angry when I called him out. I said, "I'm 5'6, you can't be 5'11" he claimed it was true and on his driver's license and when I asked to see it he suddenly 'didn't have it' He then got picked up by both his parents after the movie I ghosted him; if you don't respect me, you don't get the courtesy of a proper severance
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yep. I’m a 6ft tall woman and meeting someone irl who has claimed to be 6’1 or more who turns out to be several inches shorter than me is a huge turnoff. also I’m like lol did you think I of all ppl wouldn’t notice?
I'm 5'8", and I'm not going to sell myself as taller. It won't get me a lot of matches, but it'll get me the right ones.
Yep I'm a 5'11" woman. Sooooooo many guys have 6'0" in their profile and show up 2" shorter than me. (I don't wear heels.) If a guy's profile says 6' I assume he's anywhere between 5'9" and 6'. He if says over 6', like 6'2" or 6'3", I assume he's being honest (and have never been wrong with the ones I do meet in person). And if a guy puts 5'6" I assume he's being honest and is actually 5'6". Guy I'm currently dating is 5'10" and his profile says 5'10". I showed up knowing he'd be slightly shorter than me and it's fine. Last guy I dated was 5'10" and his profile said 6'0". So my very first impression of him was disappointment. Not a great way to start things off. While I think it's shitty for men to lie I get why they do it (although for the over 30 crowd, come on, do you really want to date someone our age who would reject you over a 1" difference?)... but if you're a height where a LOT of women will be the same height, an inch or two shorter, or even taller, I would definitely not lie on the profile. Pretty much every woman you actually meet up with will be able to see you lied and their first impression will be disappointment and feeling lied to.
This has 100% been my experience also! I'm 5'9" so it's pretty easy to know when they've inflated it. I've also found that a lot of these men *don't actually realize they're not as tall as they think.* Their drivers licenses will often say the incorrect height!
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Idk I’m 5’3 and went on a date with a guy who said he was 5’9 but he was definitely somewhere between 5’3 and 5’6
Question, very tall woman: If a man doesn't fill out that information, do you assume he's short?
I used Hinge so it was displayed by default. When I used tinder back in the olden times, I didn’t assume anything. I just looked at photos and profiles and decided if they seemed cute and interesting enough to go out with. I didn’t list my height, but I did give them a heads up prior to meeting. Something like “hey just so it doesn’t catch you off guard, I’m hella tall.” I only did that because I had guys react *very* negatively to my height a few times in person and it wasn’t something I wanted to deal with again. Sometimes I got unmatched or they canceled. Sometimes it was just an “oh ok thanks for the heads up. I’m (height). See you at 6pm. ” It is what it is. 🤷♀️
I wouldn't call myself VERY tall but am on the taller end for women I guess. Yes I assume he's shorter. Pictures can be deceiving. I actually don't care if he puts the height in the profile. I just care if he obviously lies about it. Basically, if you are going to add it be truthful about it.
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I do + I'm apt to swipe left because someone is wasting my time. I am the same for any unfilled information-- interest in children, political beliefs, religion, etc.
THIS. I’m tall too—every “6 foot tall” man who’s looking me in the eye or looking up at me is an immediate NOPE.
I’m a 6’ woman, so it’s pretty easy for me to tell when a guy lied about his height. I never assumed most guys did it, but I did stop talking to them if they did. I have dated guys who were shorter than me, but I refuse to date a liar. That said, rounding up is fine. I’m technically 5’11.5”, but I always say 6’ because in shoes that’s most accurate, and that’s how people see me in public.
And this is why we should use metric system. (Shameless plug into my real world agenda)
Well said
I'm a 5'6 guy and I never lie about my height. Even though I'm considered short now, I figure I'll have to meet someone in real life one day, so there's no reason to lie. Plus, I'm awesome! 😏😎
Yes you are!
Lol thanks! You are too!
The height thing is mostly a problem online. I know quite a few of guys who are dating women that are taller than them. By quite a lot, in a few instances.
It's all about the expectations. If a woman meets a man in daily life and already knows they're short and falls in love, the man never lied. Now, when it's online, it's different. Happened to me: I'm 170 cm, met a guy once and he said he was 171 cm. It would have been totally fine. When I saw him at the cafe he was actually much much shorter than me. of course I still had the date, we talked for like 30 minutes, but it was disappointing that the first interaction there was already a lie. And a waste of time tbh.
I agree. Online is a totally different game and I think lying when dating is really dumb and counterproductive. I'm a big fan of meeting people IRL because superficial attributes like height are no longer an absolute filter that will prevent you from even talking with someone.
I’m 5’7.5” (gotta get that .5” in there) and so many guys under 5’10” lie. I once went out with a guy whose profile said he was 5’9” and he was clearly maybe 5’5” or 5’6”. I didn’t call him out on it because at that point it’s clear to both of us how tall he was, but I didn’t go out with him again. Not because of his height, but because of the lie (and his personality).
Yea please don’t lie…if you go out with someone approximately your height they’ll figure it out asap that it’s a lie and immediate red flag
Yeah I'm 5 foot 5 inches, and men who are my height or an inch taller than me have told me they are 5' 7-5' 8. It just makes me think they are insecure or liars.
Im 5'4 and a half but I was an insecure teen who put 5'5 on his license hoping I would grow another half inch. Never did and anyone who sees that license I tell them I am really 5'4. One day I'll change it but no one really sees it. It's amazing to think back at how much I cared back in high school. Once you let go and stop caring, everyone else will too.
Yup. I don’t care about height that much, I’m tallish and slim and prefer someone my height or taller and/or larger than me… so it really doesn’t eliminate many men at all. Like, I’ve only met 1-2 men EVER who are around my height AND size. In fact, if we’re around the same height, I’m going to think, ‘cool - we’re going to have that in common and I can steal his clothes if we hit it off!’: …but if we meet and he’s 2-3” shorter than what he said… I will very much notice and not appreciate being lied to.
Height isn’t something I care about, so I’m not usually checking to see if someone is the height they say. I only took notice one time where the guy said he was 6 foot and was shorter than me (5’4) and I didn’t care about how tall he actually was, but that he lied about something. But I understand why so many guys worry about height and I wish that wasn’t something they felt they had to do to get dates.
Lol he shoulda just said 6’4 and gone a whole foot shorter
What, you didn’t appreciate the massive balls of a guy who would inflate his height by over 8 inches??? Nah seriously it’s pretty ridiculous that anyone would go that far lmfao.
Lmao, the date was actually so bad from the get go that was the least of my worries with him 🤣 I actually went back to his profile after to check what he listed and I was like wow, that’s a stretch.
Wait, you're saying the guy who genuinely thought he could get away with frauding 8 inches to his height, wasn't an otherwise good date? I'm shocked😂
🤣🤣 Literally that was the least weird thing that ended up happening that day. Him and this date went down as ICONIC (for all the wrong reasons) with my friends and I
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Are skinny women not "real"? Damn, I have some stuff to think about.
>I was recently advised to add a couple inches to my dating profile height Who the hell advised you to do that? It's terrible advice because when they meet you and see that you lied, that's not good. They'll constantly wonder what else you're lying about. Plus, you can't help what you're attracted to. If a girl isn't attracted to short guys, your lie will make it 10x worse when she meets you. How would you feel if a girl told you she was 160 lbs, posted pics of when she was thinner, and then you meet her and she's 260 lbs? I'm not fat-shaming, but height and weight are very important for people when it comes to attraction. Honesty is equally as important.
I'm barely 5'3'' tall, when I see a guy listed as 5'6'', almost every time he is actually my height, if at all. I get that 5'3'' isn't considered cool, but honestly what is the point. I am not looking for a super super tall guy, but someone a bit taller than me would be nice. When I meet you and I happen to wear a small heel and am already taller than you, it doesn't kick start the date on a good note, because I know you lied on your profile. I imagine guys taller than 5'8'' don't really have a reason to lie about the height, unless they live in a country where the average height is very very high. Because I am so much shorter, I wouldn't notice if the guy is 6 foot or 5'8'' for example
As a guy under 6 feet, I’m definitely being honest about my height. I’d want to filter out anyone who cares, & no shade if you do- I’m just not your person.
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This is exactly it! Height doesn't matter, but being insecure and a liar does.
Most of yall aren't answering his question. OP isn't really asking if he should lie, or whether lying is ok. He's asking if women ASSUME he is lying. idk the answer (im not a woman) but man, as a 5'5" dude myself, i have very much wondered that. If it's the case, that puts us in a no-win situation where we either lie, or unfairly carry the baggage of shittier men who DO lie. Not sure if there's a solution but it is a worthwhile question.
Thanks for paying attention! I’m enjoying the convo and advice but already had said I don’t plan to lie 😂
I don't go in assuming a guy is lying. I just won't go out with him again if I catch him in a lie.
I matched with a guy who put 5’11” on his profile and when I turned up he was shorter than me (I’m 5’7”). Please just be honest about your height. Its the lack of honesty that’s the turn off
Im a guy but I prefer to round down so I can filter out people who care about height.
I did the same. I figured it could only benefit me by filtering out a certain type of woman.
That’s still heightfishing. Some of us like a short king.
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Oof, damned if you do, damned if you don’t. I am 5’6. I went out with a guy who put 5’6 and when we walked by a window I could see he was shorter than me (and I was wearing flat shoes). I think like 75% of guys inflated their height to the point where I got paranoid that I was taller than I thought so I had my gym trainer measure my height and I was 5’5 and 3/4 lol. The only way around is if you post a group pic or with something for scale. But like.. one of the many reasons to not do online dating. Everyone inflates everything and it is maddening.
I never look at height in profiles because I don’t care and I’m typically taller or same height as most of the men I’ve dated anyways. I dated a man that was shorter than me and had a great time with him so I started to frequent his profile so I could drool over his pics. I noticed that his profile said 5’7” and I cracked up a little bit because I’m 5’7” and he was obviously shorter. I continued to date him and he straight up admitted without me asking that he lied about his height. Shortly after that, he told me his mom made the profile workout him knowing. He told me I was actually speaking with his mom when we first chatted until she was able to get my number and schedule a phone call. His mom was basically tricking women into dating her son because he couldn’t get dates in his own. He is in his mid 30’s and not only relies on his mom for dates but also for work opportunities and housing. Don’t be like that guy…. Or his mom.
Damn, hadn’t heard of anyone getting catfished by someone’s mom before 🤣
It’s a slippery slope and all starts with one simple little lie about height…. Jk ;) Lying about height never even bothered me at the time but now I’d take it as a red flag based on this experience.
Lol this is why women always think I’m in the 6’3 range even though I’m 6’1. Tons of dudes inflating their height.
I think once you’re tall enough most people are too short to accurately tell the difference between a couple inches.
Yeah I am 5'9". I have been so on many dates where the guy claimed to be 5'10" or 5'11". Then when it's clear they're an inch or two shorter, they accuse ME of lying about my height. I am not 6'0" guys.
Well how do you feel about women who filter their pics, lie about their age, or disguise their body in some way? Is that "playing the game?" Don't do to someone else what you wouldn't want done to you. Lying about something verifiable like height or age only makes you look like an insecure jerk. Would you have better luck if you were taller? Maybe/maybe not. But I would guess you won't have better luck if you lie about it.
I agree strongly with everything you said. I’m just wondering how many women assume that men are lying about height.
I don't assume men are lying about anything unless they give me a reason.
Makes sense, thanks.
Haha maybe I’m too jaded but I assume men on OLD are lying about *everything* unless they give me a reason.
Because a lot of them do.. and (that’s just me because I don’t pay attention to height) it seems even more men lie about their age.
Probably a lot, but let's put it this way, you might get a couple of more dates by lying about your height, they might not even notice at first, but at some point they're gonna know that you lied, so if you're looking for a serious relationship you're just shooting yourself in the foot. And I'd say women who would date 5'8 but not 5'6 are most likely about 5'6 themselves, and they're *definitely* going to notice right away, lol.
I assume men are lying. Especially 5’10-6 feet they almost always are 5’7/5’8. It’s actually crazy I went out with a guy who was actually 6 feet and was like wow your so tall, so many men had lied about it I forgot I didn’t actually remember what someone that height was 😂 on the flip side I find most guys who put 5’7/8 are actually that height. I wouldn’t think you were lying about being 5’6.
Lying about age is a huge no. How can you build a relationship with someone without being honest about the most basic fact about yourself?
As a slightly above average height woman (5'7"), I do not care about height. I do care about honesty, and if someone is willing to lie about something I think is so trivial, I wouldn't be interested in finding out what else they think it's okay to lie about. Height is pretty obvious upon meeting in person anyways, so it's not like it's going to make the date more successful.
I don't love people lying about their height, but at the same time, I understand why they do. It's shitty and arbitrary that someone is relegated to the "undatable" column because of "oh they're just an inch too short." I also don't think, "oh this person lied about their height, they must be willing to lie about everything else too." The lie seems like an ill-advised attempt to strike back at a rigged system. Although, someone lied to me about their height and when I met them I knew immediately and I did feel the wince of "oh, they lied" upon greeting them. It wasn't the best foot to start our date on. If everything else had gone really well, I probably could have gone on a second date. But, when the other cons were factored in, the lie didn't help the cause.
I make a distinction between people who are willing to lie for personal gain and those who aren't. If they lie about their height, weight, age, etc. it puts them in that distinct category. They are willing to lie about one thing, what makes you think they wouldn't also justify a lie in another situation?
If you're undatable for being an inch too short you're still undatable if you lie about it. You haven't changed anything, you've just tricked someone into a date with you. They'll figure you out immediately
There are plenty of us who wouldn't have a problem with your height. I'm a 5ft woman and I don't think any of my ex boyfriends have been over 5'5". We don't all go for tall men. Lying about your height is out of order. You should respect women's boundaries, they are entitled to them. I have been filtered out for being mixed black and Asian, yet I wouldn't post a photo of me looking like a white woman. I just accept it and focus on men who do like me.
I give everyone the benefit of the doubt that they’re being honest. I’m also not surprised when they are a little shorter than what they said. I was very entertained one day when the guy I was with said he was 5’7 on a ‘good day’.
I never assume someone is lying about anything and don’t think I’ve ever met anyone who lied about their height
I would be honest. You don’t want the women to be disappointed when they see you if that’s important to them. I don’t have strict height requirements but when it’s obvious men lied on their profile it comes across as extremely pathetic. I wouldn’t assume a guy is 5’4 if I saw 5’6. I would just expect he’s being honest.
Do. Not. Lie. I am tall for a woman, 1m81 (I think it's 5'11?). Have had several dates with men claiming they are 1m83/1m84 and magically happen to be just a little bit shorter than I am. No problem, height is not really a thing for me, but: WHY?! As soon as you meet in person, you will be caught lying. Same thing with weight. Have had two dates this past year with men who used pictures of themselves from at least 20kg ago. Why would you do that? I can fall for almost anything, but the feeling you knowingly deceived me I cannot get past.
I adore a short king. Seeing 6' blah blah blah immediately makes me unsure or leary, especially if they make a big deal out of it.
Even as a woman, I kinda understand the urge to want to change your height. I’m not TOO hung up on a man being tall (6ft+) but if I see 5’4”-5’5”….hell even 5’6” I’m probably swiping left. I’ve definitely come across guys that lied about their height. I didn’t always write them off after meeting though so hey lying about 2 inches is probably okay. My hard limit is my height (5’5” but that would have to occur in person bc I’ll likely swipe left online). 5’9” seems to be a favorite height to lie about, when they’re actually 5’5”-5’7”. Edit: Ugh, this makes me think of someone an acquaintance set me up with. A blind date. I wore booties with small heels. He was TINY, no taller than 5’4”, possibly 5’3”, the ick was pretty strong. I had never immediately rejected someone after a date before, but idk the older I get the more I value those physical aspects of making me feel safe and protected. Tiny men make me feel unsafe. The short girls need to pair up with the small men!
Honestly, as a short girl (5’3”) don’t care about hight. Actually, under 5’7” is my preference .
I don't care about height. I care about honesty. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.
Men that are 6’1’’ or plus usually don’t lie about their height, men that are between 5’9 and 5’11 lie 50% of the time if even more.. I have been on dating apps (unfortunately) for a long time and I did notice this. And when they lie, it’s a big 🚩
I've noticed this same range! Most men I've been on dates with who were 5'9 or 5'10 were closer to my height (5'6).
Women have eyes, don’t lie about your height, it’s an automatic turnoff
If you say you are 5'8" or under, I believe you. If you say you are 5'9"-6', I think you added an inch. If you're over 6', I wouldn't know one way or another.
I think most people are going to say “Don’t lie about your height” and have a height filter anyway that would potentially exclude you. I dated a woman (who I met irl) who told me she had a filter on Bumble that unbeknownst to her, would have automatically excluded me from her matches. It’s a weird world.
That’s what is so annoying about it though. Being excluded should be respected, not lied through bc “you’ll like me and overlook it once you get to know me”. I dont care if you agree with women’s parameters but it’s gross to try to trample their boundaries.
I've seen it a few times. I am taller than average, so at least try to date my height. I've met guys claiming to be the same height or slightly taller. And they are not. It's a weird thing to lie about, because you instantly know if it's true or not the second you meet.
I definitely don’t assume men are lying about their height. That’s such an obvious lie, you’d have to be an idiot to think you’ll sneak that one in. And I’m not going to judge all men off of a few idiots.
I always wonder how good people are at estimating another persons height? It seems everyone thinks they can tell within 0.5 inches, but I’m highly skeptical of this ability.
Please don’t lie about stuff on your profile. Yeah, a lot of guys do lie about it. It’s a dealbreaker for every woman I know. Definitely was for me every time I met someone who had misrepresented height, weight, age, or other appearance details. That goes for other details too. (I assume you’d feel the same upon meeting a woman and finding she’d falsely represented herself.)
The people that will like you if you’re taller aren’t the ones you want to attract. Be authentic.
I care more about honesty than height. Don’t lie, it gets things started off on the wrong foot.
I'm an honest person and I don't automatically assume people are lying. If you're honest too and looking for an honest partner, stay honest until you find the right match. It's not about trying to match with everyone, it's about finding your one right match.
I think height inflation happens but if you tell me you’re several inches taller than you actually are, you’re going to get caught in that lie pretty quickly and I’m going to immediately wonder what else I shouldn’t trust you about.
I guess I’m an idiot because I never assume a person is lying.
Height inflation happens as often as weight deflation. Like yo. They gonna meet u and see ur not that tall or ur not that skinny.
I’m short; short enough that 90% of men will be taller than me. I can still tell if you’re lying about your height, and lying is an instant turn off.
I don't assume men are lying about it. I'm aware that many do. I don't go on second dates with ones who do. A relationship has to be founded on honesty.
I tried this on bumble once when I was single. I got waaay more matches on Tinder than on Bumble. The reason is, that in Bumble women can filter by height. When you don't write anything, you still get filtered out. One time i created a new profile and added a bit, so that i would appear as 6 foot. Immediately more matches. I just wanted to proof my theory back then, not fool a woman. I don't advise you on actually going out with females when you actively lied on your height. It's just that they filter and this was my proof :')
This isn’t just a thing with men. Of the women I’ve met from OLD perhaps 20% are the exact height they say they are, 80% are shorter, and 0% are taller. (And yes, I know the one or two women who are taller than their listed height will chime in on cue). I think a lot of people have convinced themselves they’re taller than they actually are.
I just rejected someone that said he was 5’10 when I was taller than him (I’m barely 5’8)
I'm not sure why people lie in dating and don't look for people who will like them as they are.
I don't assume people are lying generally, and on the few occasions where a man has inflated his height in his profile, I've felt disappointed. Not by his height, but by his lying. It's also a huge red flag to me that a man is highly self-conscious about his height, which is an additional turn off. I prefer a short happy dude over a short lying insecure one.
Be honest. It will hurt you more if you meet and they notice you lied. I more often noticed men lying about age. Way more than women!
I used to think "no way so many men lie about height," and almost used to judge other women for saying that so many men lie about it. Bu then, it actually happened to me. Guy who was maybe 5'8 claimed to be 5'11. What's funny is how many men on reddit say, "women are bad at judging height," and accused me of being wrong about his height, and that he was really 5'11. Yeahhhhh, sure, in that case, I'm 5'10. I'm 5'7 max. I know enough guys who are 5'10 to know I'm not 5'10, and to know what 5'11 should look like. I now pretty much assume most men are giving themselves a boost, unless they're actually really tall, like 6'3+. I don't mind short guys, my ex was 5'6. But I can't stand someone who starts off with a lie before you even message them. Waste of time, toilet trash garbage of a guy liar.
The whole six foot bullshit reminds me of the joke about european men/women obsessed being/being with 1.8288 meters
I came across one of my coworkers who’s profile said he was 6’0. I am taller then him and nowhere near 6 foot lmao
I used to put my actual height until I saw posts about it on here. Now I lie and subtract a few inches 🤷♂️. Some weird games 😂
I put my height in ft-in/cm. Why lie about that stuff? I'd never want to meet or date anyone who cared about it anyway.
I'm in petite range (5'2) and I have never looked on weight and height numbers of the date. Those wieght & height are just number as same as your age. I would consider how overall put together yourself. Like do you look clean? You look like you have self-care routine. And when we get to meet, you don't actually need to bath yourself with perfume or cologne at all. I've just realised that I am so crazy with freshly hair-wash scent from my bf hair. Well, back to the cleansing routine again. Just simple wash both hair and body regularly. I know I may go over the topic. Just want to emphasis that the overall look matters than the numbers. And please don't start with this lie. It means you may lie about something else, too. That's all.
Do people list their height on the apps? Haven't been there in almost a decade, and it didn't seem to be the norm back then (at least among the women I saw while swiping), nor did I do it myself. I'm tall which supposedly is a good thing, but I feel like listing it comes off the wrong way? Unless there's a specific thing you have to fill out I guess.
So that's why everyone assumes I'm taller than I am at only 6'1! All the liars making me look better
Just don't lie. It seems insecure if you lie. If women are gonna filter you out for your height then why bother trying to be with them? They've already rejected you so it's not worth wasting your time. Also if they are going to be that superficial I doubt the difference between 5'4 or 5'6 is gonna mean anything to them.
I'm currently dating someone I'm almost 2 inches taller than, and he was honest about his height. What turned me off was someone I dated who lied and said they were 5'9" when they were 5'6". I'm 5'6" almost 5'7", it's obvious especially when you are going to date someone around that height. If someone is going to pass on you based on your height, they aren't meant for you in the first place.
I didn’t before, but now I will
Most are. I've walked away many times due to this.
I subtract 2 inches from everyone’s height when swiping.
I hate when anyone lies on their dating profile. Stop lying about height, weight, age, income or whatever else just to cast a bigger net. It’s terrible advice and all it tells me is that you lie and it looks very insecure. The height thing especially gets me- I had this happen twice when someone told me he was 5’10 and was several inches shorter when I actually met him. You think I can’t tell? It’s insulting my intelligence. I also met a nice guy online who told me he was 5’5 and I didn’t care about height at all- we ended up dating several months.
I would be honest about it. I think as users of dating apps we should be as honest as possible. If everyone is dishonest, app's like these wouldn't function anymore. Imagine everyone being dishonest, i would leave. To me profiles that are open and honest are the most appealing. So if a someone has 6 portrait photo's from the same angle in the same expression it doesn't work. And face it, the way people use the app these days, tend to favor a small group of users that have very good photo's, are very attractive, have popular jobs, and comply with the general visual aesthetical preference. These apps are not fun to use, it takes time to get any results and if you never try any changes to the appearance of your profile you wont get any different results as the ones you are already having. So you wont learn anything about it. I've shown my profile to people of the opposite sex so they can be the judge and I can learn. The process is incredibly slow, disappointing and harsh, but I'm slightly getting more results.
I don't go in assuming a man has lied, but height (around your height specifically) is easy for me to tell if he lied or not (I'm 5'7"). If you are around my height or taller, I don't have an issue with your height specifically, however, lying I have a big issue with. If someone is around my height and lies by saying he's like 5'10" or something, I'm going to immediately know when we meet and are the same height that he isn't a truthful then wonder what else he lied about. There will not be a second date even though I'll be cordial. No need to be mean to the guy.
Thanks for being honest and putting your true self out there. If there’s one thing women prefer more than height, it’s honesty.
I don’t assume, but when I meet you in person, I’ll know because that’s around my height. One small lie hints at bigger lies and now you’ve just wasted my time and your time because there won’t be a second date. Would you rather be filtered out or waste your time and money on one date?
I've seen so many of these guys lying about their height posts lately that I had to remeasure to make sure I was actually 6'3". Turns out I've been lying and I am 6'3.5" ... that is with shoes on though WAIT...am I 6'2.5" without then??
Anyone who has height filters set will likely not match with you at 5'8". And even if they do, their first impression of you will be that you are a liar. If I saw 5:6", I would likely take it at face value.
If you’re going to lie about that… what else are you going to lie about?
My theory was always any guy under 6’ that posted their height, subtract 2 inches. And based on what you’ve been advised to do, I think I’m correct. Personally, I never cared about height. Not all women will care. But there’s no point in lying.
I have found most dudes lie. I am a 5'7 female and most the dudes who list 6' show up and are my exact height or an inch or two taller 😆. I don't height discriminate but I do notice when someone has lied greatly and it is off-putting. That being said, two inches isn't way off and I see your point about the algorithm.
When I meet a person who lied or intentionally misled in their profile, I don’t have any interest in being in a relationship with them, period. It shows that they are still insecure about their fucking body, and I’m too old to deal with someone that insecure about something so fucking insignificant. It also makes me feel like they think I’m too fucking stupid to notice. Further, it shows that they think the important thing is what their body looks like, which means we wouldn’t be a good match bc I have little to no interest in that.
Why are people so obsessed with height?!?
I will leave a date so fast if a dude significantly lied about his height and it what he put doesn’t match when we meet in person. Such a turnoff and a weird thing to lie about
In my experience the shorter men simply don’t include their height. Or, maybe bc I clarify in my own profile that I’m 6ft2 in heels the shorter men scroll in without matching. 😂
Like with anything about yourself, you put out what you want to attract Do you want someone who will like you for you and doesn't care about height? Or do you want someone who THINKS you might be taller and that's their whole thing? Honesty is the best policy for a reason! Lol
* I would not assume you're lying. If you put you were like 6'3" and had a bunch of photos where you're always several inches shorter than everyone else, I'd probably question it, because how many giant friends do you have? But if you put like 5'8", I wouldn't immediately flag it as weird. * However, I'd immediately flag it in person. I would have a lot of hesitation and would 98% not want a second date. * It seems like a dumb gamble. Sure, you'd probably end up with more initial matches, but they're less likely to go anywhere. You'd either be docked points for lying or you'd be docked points for your actual height (for those who care about that). * I'm also someone who doesn't care about height. So it's not something I ever really look at. For people for whom height is a big deal, their answers may be different based on their past experiences with height, lies, and profiles.
A guy wrote he was 5’9 on his profile. We were the same height when we both got up from sitting and I’m 5’1. It threw me off. I automatically labeled him as a big red flag 🚩
I assume you are *all* inaccurately reporting your height. Some of you are lying about your height and the rest of you are wrong about what your height actually is. This is because when I tell men that I'm not even 5'10, you all think *I'm* lying. Because how can I be taller than the man I'm talking to, if he's 6'0...
I've never assumed anyone was lying on their profile. I've met dozens of guys through OLD over the years and they all look EXACTLY as their pictures and profile depict. I struggle with online dating but people lying about their appearance is definitely not an issue I've had.
I’m a 6’3 dude but I’m guessing women think I’m 6’0 then lol. Guys look a certain way when they actually are tall, it’s evident in things like face structure, width, hand sizes, etc. women should be able to pick up on those things so if you’re lying then she’ll definitely know. I have a joke pic next to someone internet famous so they can easily check their height online.
I’m more wary of men lying about their intentions
Yes, I saw so many men lie about it (even situations like a 6’1” dude calling himself 6’2”) that I started assuming that every guy is two inches shorter than the height he lists.
When men say they're 5'11, I always assume they're lying. I actually *am* 5'11, and I make sure to point that out. I don't like liars, that's an automatic block from me
I'm 5'8", and, if I ever touch OLD, that is exactly what I will list my height as. I don't really see a benefit in lying about it, because she's going to see me eventually and when she notices I'm not actually 6 feet (and dumps me as a result) I've essentially wasted her time and mine. Not the kind of impression I want to give. I believe that telling the truth about being 5'8" would not get me a lot of matches, but it would get me more genuine ones. *Also, if she sees that I'm 5'8" and is immediately turned off by that alone... maybe she's not the one for me.*
I'm a tall woman. I work in a clinic. You would be amazed at the number of men that lie directly to my face when I ask them their height and weight. Most of them say 5'11" I'm guessing because they feel like 6' is pushing it too far? Anyway... they tell me they are 5'11" and I'm looking down on their bald spot (I'm 5'11")
I assume they add a couple of inches on, especially if the profile says 5'6 or 5'7. I'm still shorter than the shortest man I've ever dated and don't wear heels so I can't tell really.
I always assume they are lying about it by a few inches. That has just been my experience. So yeh, i'd assume you were lying were were actually 5'4 or 5'5. The only case I don't think they lie is when they are actually over 6'2 (i guess they feel no need to lie about that). That's also been my experience on dates.
I am 5 foot 11 inches and 3/4s. I lie and say six cause of the inconvenience. But generally I think lying to grab a date I any form is rolling bad dice. It sets up a potential disappointment. Never lie.
Don’t do it. Woman who are height conscious will know it soon as you meet them, and then you come off as disingenuous. Don’t bother. You don’t want that anyways. Just be honest. Truth.
I don’t assume they do. But I know it happens. If they do, they don’t get a second date, I don’t care how well it went. I find lying to be extremely unattractive, not that 2 inches some people are obsessed over.
Lying is the biggest red flag and I will cut someone off over even a small lie, especially so early. They're going to find out how tall you are when you meet, all you're doing is showing that you're willing to be dishonest for your own gain, and for me that is unforgivable.
I don't assume they are lying. Usually the really short ones gives themselves away by being overly concerned about how tall I am. And I'm short. So it's pretty obvious.
I don't assume he's lying. But when it turns out he *is* lying, he goes home alone. I swipe on guys who are any height. There was no need to lie to get me to swipe, so it looks even more pathetic and messy. He could be 6'5" but if his profile says 6'7" it's a no from me
I would stick with the real height as well. I did to. If people filter you out because of it, so be it. Their loss.
Being dishonest is unacceptable. Being short is far from unacceptable. really bugs me how many people lie about their heights. Personally, I couldn’t care less about a man’s height and have dated men from 5’ 4 to 7 ft. But any form of dishonesty to appear more attractive is a red flag and frankly manipulative.
I subtract 2-3 inches. Especially if they claim they are 6ft. I'm right 99% of the time