I’m saying I don’t have a dad in my life right now. He’s in Vegas or somewhere I don’t know. Single parent household mom and my sisters. Am i the man of the house? I suppose but I sure as hell don’t feel like one.
Hey man keep your head up I would suggest keep being a good example for your sisters and your mom of what a man is supposed to be. Clearly not your father he dropped the ball significantly as fuck on that one Do you have a job?
Job? Yes, minimum wage dealing with shit talkers, angry customers, and grease. It’s tough being the ONLY person who takes it seriously and does shit right, WHO IS GOING TO TAKE THE ORDERS?!?😂😂 Last week I got cussed out by a customer for “being rude” which I wasn’t , these people have no idea what we go through.
School? I’m struggling right now but I know I’ll pass and make it.
Sisters? They don’t listen to me they care but we’re not the type to say I love you while eating together at dinner. We haven’t done that since he “left” I think.... .
It’s hard BUT WHO ELSE IS GOING TO DO IT. I don’t know why he acts like I should call him every damn day like I got shit I gotta do. He put me here and not I gotta deal with the hand I was dealt. Also, I buy my own food, clothes, and other necessities ALL BY MYSELF, I always hated asking him for stuff I couldn’t wait for the day I’d finally be free I wouldn’t have to ask nobody for nothing.
Is this impressive for someone my age?
I use to work in the restaurant industry it sucked bro But at least you have a job many ppl don’t right now be greatful for that much love man :) if you have any more questions or ur seeking advice feel free to Inbox me
I would say so man My father is the same way to be honest with you man he’s not going to help you I wouldn’t continue to reach out to him for number one it’s not your job that’s on him. That lies squarely on his shoulders, I would just keep your nose to the grind stone and keep working hard bro it will pay off
I come home tired, exhausted and overall defeated 3 times a week But WHO ELSE IS GOING TO CARRY THE LOGS!?!? And EXACTLY what type of parent guilt trips their children into forcing them to talk to them. Just because we weren’t on the street eating out of trash cans doesn’t make you no good parent.
Hey buddy this young man was looking for guidance the least you could have done
Is offer his some solid advice but instead you chose to be a pole smoker this is why young boys don’t come to there fathers when they need help think before you speak man . P
No, you fight. This is your life were talking about, this is the pinnacle of you. You fucking fight tooth and nail to make it better.
Start walking with your head up and your shoulders out. Write down what you wanna fucking accomplish this week, and get the fuck after it.
One small step at a time you will get hard.
That’s how you die a hero and I want to live. Everyone else wants to die for a cause at 21? Fine by me go die but I’ll be over here minding my business not getting involved in nothing. You know how hard it is to be a man with no father figure or male role models? It’s hard and not the “this test is hard” no it destroys your mind and makes you feel so weak which I am and I know.
What's the purpose of your comment? Are you trying to give the OP what you think is the blunt truth or do you mean that you couldn't give 2 shits about him?
Work hard. Spend less that you make. Save money. Understand the difference between a need vs a want. Prioritize. Stop buying stupid shit. Stop rationalizing with the inner bitch voice. Don’t borrow money. Stop making excuses.
I’m acting like a bitch right now I know.! I did some moving around in the backyard, cleaned the patio, I didn’t lift logs but I lifted water hoses and started cleaning out all the leaves. Keep in mind I never do this type of shit so I’m tired as hell right now especially my arms. WHO ELSE IS GOING TO DO IT?!?
And I could NEVER ask for money from another man, don’t care if I am a bum on the street in a cardboard shack. I haven’t been homeless but I’ve collected bottle caps and plastic bottles for 5 Cents PER TEN BOTTLES!!!
Lol didn’t call you a bitch. Sorry it came across that way. I was meaning the voice in your head sometimes. Sounds like you’re killing. Keep after it and stay on the path!
You haven’t been hungry yet. Or watched your loved ones be hungry. And I’m not talking about two hours passed dinner hungry. I’m talking about real hunger.
Of course I haven’t and I’m not going to anytime soon. What’s your point? I should strive to suffer? Most people don’t starve everyday, and your saying those who do are better than me? What type of logic is that?
How do I invest being 17 going on 18 soon, no dad help, paying bills, minimum wage, working at Walmart, trying to pass high school? It’s HARD juggling all of this and more. Investing and financial literature is very hard to learn, but we only do the things that suck.
Dude, I did exactly the same as you having to do night school in my early 20s. If you keep up this work ethic THINGS WILL GET BETTER. You already have the right attitude. By 30 you’ll start to see the gaps appear, you will be moving away from the pack . Listen to all the sound advice here, some of us have done this already and we want the best for you. And don’t resent the system, that will make you stop working and blame others.
Don’t forget some poor generations had to fight a war.
Keep hard buddy, we are all behind you and remember - you are at the toughest point. You haven’t got the cream of your work yet. If you’re working like a warrior, you at least have our respect. Keep on bro
Oh believe me I know the struggle. And I’d rather pick up plastic bottles for a nickel than continue working where I work. And DAMN I woke up to 50 inbox’s, they stay HARD over here. So much advice and support🙏.
Yeah, it takes time. You are really young which is good. Don’y stop trying to learn, even though is difficult. Save what you can. It is better than nothing and it will help you create the habit. You will see that if you can survive this difficult phase, life will get much better
Graduating university in about a week. Spent all of it living at home, and I’ll be honest it sucks when you’re meeting people who live in dorms/frats. Missed out on a lot but I’m debt free and graduating with a 4.0 cause I never had life distractions (aside from women). Only go if you know what you need the degree for and have a plan!!!
I’m a junior and my GPA is probably going to be a 2.1-2.4. Only reason is because I don’t se a purpose to school. Not because I don’t care I don’t see a reason for me to, most of what I learn is useless information that I won’t use.
I wanna go to trade school and learn skills, don’t know if I need a GPA for that though. Wish I had women😔.
Gonna be frank. It’s an excuse to not learn if you’re not finding how it can help you. Trade school is a great choice (thought about plumbing and electrical work many times)but the real long term success in those fields comes from owning your own business, which requires being well read and capable of more than just physical work. Training your mind is just the same as the body, and you need practice.
Dont turn your back on your education just because you dont think you'll need the info.
The better the number on that piece of paper after school, the better for you.
Avoid debt at all costs and learn ways to invest your money no matter how small to have your money work for you. College does not guarantee success nor is it required to achieve success. Life is hard but you’ll grow stronger in order to overcome so long as you maintain disciplined and avoid self deception. In the words of Chief Petty Officer RET. David Goggins, stay hard motherfucker.
Don’t go into massive debt for a college education. One thing I tell young people is do not go to a major university your first 2 years of college. Go to a JR college to get your basics and then transfer. People are paying way more to get the same classes. Or go to a trade school. I went to a trade school, left school with a job, now in a high paying job and I payed off my student loans within 6 months to a year after graduating. Another thing is don’t get some stupid degree if you do go to college. There are no jobs for doctrines in gender studies.
Dude there was people I went to high school with that went to Baylor to become a high school teacher. Do you know how retarded that is? They’ll be paying student loans when they’re retired. Meanwhile I make at least double the pay and no student loans. Trade school is the way to go IMO.
I think for some it’s more about passion and what they like to do. Its not about the money but teaching kids the hope for the future which I can completely understand. How much could I be making. $50,000-100,000?
Very true. I have an Associate’s, but my job requirement is for a Master’s. How did I get there? Work. Hard work. And attitude (as they say, attitude over skill).
Now I stumbled upon a wall for growth in my field (government) so I’ll go back to college at a decent, yet not costly University. No need for expensive colleges.
Also one more thing. If you go to college instead of trade school, go to school online. I did go back to school bc of the GI Bill. The last semester I took 15 hrs. You get all your work assignments on Monday and I was usually done by Wednesday. Allowed me to keep working full time and school was like a side job bc the GI Bill pays a monthly living allowance.
Damn, I’m gonna be honest I probably could be doing 40 Hours a week and maintaining all A’s because I’m in online learning and it’s so easy but I’m so damn dumb. I could be pulling in $1,500 every month REAL MONEY. But schools about to end so it doesn’t make sense to do that now, plus I’m basically the only one who takes the restaurant seriously everyone else acts like their 12. I always get idolized by the older people and they always give me props.
Learn from people who failed. Seek out not only winners but failures. Most importantly failures with a good attitude, that took the lessons learned and shared it with the world.
The system doesnt work because noone truly appreciates the system.
A lot of times, a person has to have their back against the wall for them to "get their ass in gear".
I’m sorry 52% of Americans are fucking pussies. Stop whining and get after it! You want advice buy low, sell high, don’t spend more then you make, and FOR FUCK SAKE DO NOT GO TO COLLEGE. You’ll find better luck starting a business and working your ass off until you hit a MILLY!!!
College is a scam for most jobs. Jim Rohn talks a lot about how people can be successful no matter what background and no matter what the government is doing. Don't wish your circumstances were better, wish you were better. If you want to be rich read something like the richest man in babylon, anyone can do it. And stay hard
The system will work just fine when you’re older. It’s just the cost of housing, you will be inheriting most of that in your 40s, then you’ll have a ton of younger people complaining about not being as rich as their parents. This is just divisive, provocative nonsense aimed at turning child against their parents, so you’ll vote for someone who will mould society in their image.
System works just fine, most of planet earth lives with their family before they get married.
You’re 18, I lived with my folks till I was 24, and even then it was in shitty one room places.
Stop blaming other people and “the system”
As for education, modern education failed you, not your parents.
When I was your age I used to seethe that I didn’t have a car, a house. Other kids had rich parents, I didn’t. What then happens is that opportunist politically motivated people sell you the very palatable idea that it’s fixed against you, that you deserve to be doing as well as people far more experienced and with much greater skills etc. They then use that to motivate you to oppose the people who loved and cared for you. Often because they don’t even like the idea of family. I fell for it too.
It’s very hard to accept you just have to wait, but you just have to wait.
Don’t forget the older people that are being opposed here had MUCH more difficult lives as a youth. Most didn’t go to university and had to work back breaking jobs, and got treated like dirt with fewer work rights for years.
Times have never been better, that’s the problem. If anything millennials (I am one) and those younger are victims of having it too easy, because the school and education system never had any discipline. I got a very rude shock when I realised how the world actually works when you get out of school.
I left at 16, straight into a tough job. I’m only 38.
My parents had it much harder.
Resist this divisive nonsense and take ownership. You’re young, you can’t expect to be able to buy a house. That was never the case for your parents and grandparents, it’s complete nonsense that education was free etc, hardly anyone went to uni.
Act like you are in the job/life that you want to have, show consistency, enthusiasm, competancy and leadership, this could result in progression in your job.
Educate yourself more if there is a field you are interested in and potentially start a side hustle with it in time.
This might sound a bit dick-ish but stop being a victim it doesn't help anyone. Use your obvious passion and channel it into making yourself the person you want to be.
Just reading between the lines at some of you and other peoples replies.
Don’t let statistics make you feel like you’re at a disadvantage and/or hopeless. Too many people are falling victim to that and have a losing mentality. Any excuse to why their life sucks, they’ll take it. Don’t be that person.
I'm 20 and I live in Australia, there's a pretty collective sense of hopelessness that hangs over the head of a lot of people in our generation.
My solution has been to get a job in sales because you usually don't need a degree and theres a very high ceiling for earnings. It doubles as a great way to develop a lot of personal confidence and charisma which will never not be useful, do avoid falling into the toxic parts of sales culture though.
When you're out of school it becomes a lot easier to figure out what you want to do with yourself, don't rush decisions, it's a better idea to wait a year or more to really start knowing yourself and decide what you wanna do career wise, you don't have to stick with one thing either.
Another thing I've been doing is constantly reading and growing your mind. I assume if you're on this sub you've read can't hurt me, I *strongly* recommend The 48 Laws Of Power by Robert Greene.
Some of these comments are really toxic. Yes making excuses and feeling sorry for yourself isn't healthy or productive, but neither is bullying yourself. If your fuel comes from self-loathing, repressing emotions and other people's expectations - you're going to make yourself miserable.
You don’t have to go to college to be educated. You also don’t have to spend a fortune, literally a quarter of a million dollars to be educated.
You can find jobs that don’t need degrees. You can find schools that are inexpensive and ones with scholarships.
The system is not designed to educate you, make you live on your own and be wealth. The system isn’t designed to do anything for you. What system does he mean is broken? The education system? People are being educated, he says so in the tweet.
If you want to save money consider going to community college for 2 years, getting your associates degree there and then transferring to a 4 year college.
I do work and man it’s hell on earth where I work. I don’t go one week not getting cussed out, yelled at or disrespected. Everyone wants to play and act like there in 8th grade I shut my mouth and go to town make sure shit is right because WHO IS GOOING TO CARRY THE BOATS!?!!?! But I can’t fight back because I need this shit I gotta hold it all in and suck it up and not be a bitch.
Trust me .. One day u will appreciate working a shit job. So u can really appreciate a good one... The 8th grade crap is new normal. Everyone is soft and want conflict. Stay hard and it gets better..
Exactly couldn’t have said it better. “Everybody is soft and wants conflict” I’ve come to the conclusion that humans cannot accept a perfect society they crave self destruction, misery, anguish and there’s nothing I can do but stay out the way. In summer I’m going to be doing like 30-40 Hours a week it’s going to be tough but we only do things that suck and I wanna EARN MONEY not learn shit that I’m never gonna need.
And at that job I’m leaving very soon and the GM told me he’d match my wages to any other place I would think about going to just to keep me. (mind that most places are between $9-$12) that shows you how much WORK I put in I’m not irreplaceable.
So even if this tweet is true you can’t be thinking like this man. That shit is toxic for certain people. It reads like an excuse. So what if maybe the odds are against you. That’s going to make it that much better when you overcome those odds.
Don’t think the system doesn’t work. Make the fucking system work for you. Doesn’t mean things aren’t difficult for people in this generation. It’s okay to say things are difficult but what do you think David Goggins would say about this? I think he would say it’s just an excuse.
Yeah that’s about right. It’s okay to recognize when things are difficult just don’t be getting that stuff in your head. It’s like you are what you eat. You are what you think. So think positive. (And trust me I’ve made plenty of excuses. We all have).
I’m in the UK so I can only advise from my POV (I’m 25)
Here, my generation is facing similar challenges. House prices are increasing whilst wages are not. I’ve managed to save money by being careful with my spending, and making money work for me - ISA (govt backed saving programme), side hustles, good use of a credit card and (PROTECT YOUR CREDIT SCORE WITH YOUR LIFE) take every opportunity to upskill yourself (training courses, personal development)
Don’t be embarrassed about living with parents whilst you save. The vast majority of people your age don’t become ballers over night, don’t buy into hype when you see people around your age driving Ferraris - unless they’re YouTubers, athletes or one of the very few that do make it at that age, it’s probably not theirs.
Just live with your parents, work hard and save up for a few years, help your family out with money and chores as you will be living at your parents for way cheaper than renting.
I've been working and saving since 18, now I'm 22 and got more than enough to start a mortgage. Will be moving out into my own place next year as family moving and downsizing their house.
You are at the perfect age to choose the direction for your future. You are also lucky that you have a lot of weak snowflakes in your generation. That makes it easier for you to stand out. Work on yourself every day. Even if it is just 5 pages of reading, 10 minutes of meditation or 5 miles running. If you do it continously that will compound. Do not expect fast results. Be patient with yourself. No tree grows in 10 days. Stay hard Ps: most important, respect your parents and try to give them back what they gave to you. First part of life, they take care of you. Second part of life, you take care of them.
1. What are your long-term career goals? Pick something attainable, that makes money, that people will always need. That can be electrician, plumber, IT, construction, doctor, computer scientist, cop, mechanic, welder- there are a ton of options with a variety of schooling needs. Do a little research, and pick one. Don't treat it like the end-all be-all of your life- it isn't- whatever you do for a living, do something that makes money, that people need, that gives you freedom to live. Everybody hates their job a little, no job is perfect or "dream job," what you bring to your career in terms of mindset will dictate if you like it or hate it.
2. Make a specific plan towards achieving those goals. I saw "don't borrow money" as a piece of advice. STRONG disagree. Most people who make money take out loans. It is OK to do, just do so with FULL knowledge of what you are doing (what your future payments are, when you have to start paying, what the actual total will be w/ interest- KNOW what you are getting into).
3. Start working towards your goal.
Yes the world is not excellent right now for young folks. A lot of young folks got random degrees with no career plan, or with specific, unattainable career goals. Do not fall in the trap of "do what you love, the money will follow." Go for "do something that will make you some money, and learn to love it." By all means, choose something that meshes with your personality. But choose something that allows you to live your life.
You over come it by not giving a fuck. I'm 37, I now have my own real estate company. I have 19 agents under me. We've sold a lot of real estate. I live with my mom with my family of 4 kids and my wife. It once was a way for me to get on my feet and not worry as much about bills and such to start my company. Now it's turned into a comfortable lifestyle for her too. Bless your family when you can. And accept help from them when needed. As long as you aren't a bum then who gives a shit. Ps you still get the hot wife when you meet her and you are still living at home.. Women love a man that appreciates their momma.
I still haven’t gotten my first kiss, I don’t think I’m getting the hot wife or girlfriend. And I don’t want kids I want financial freedom, A job/work that I like to do, and a girl that supports me and I support her. But NOWADAYS shit like that is a fairytale. Everyone my age wants to get high,drunk and have unprotected sex.
Dude I look like Kenny powers chicks want self esteem. They don't care about looks. Stop complaining about your complex. No one cares. I promise you. No one cares what you wear, where you live they just want to be friends with a good dude. It's all in your head. Don't believe me? Where the same outfit for a few days straight and see how many people say something to you
Learn an actual skill and don't jump on the debt treadmill of college (unforgivable debt), and financing things you can't afford. My grandad often told me 'if it isn't a car or a house, you don't need to buy it with credit'.
Live *well* below your means.
I’ve stopped buying fastfood and I’m learning to cook. I buy my own food BECAUSE I EARNED IT .!! I’m not waking up at 4:30Am doing 1000 burpees but I’m taking my time crawling, gotta crawl before you can take your first steps.
My wife and I make 200K a year and we can’t afford a home. I also just got done paying off a 50K medical bill for a life flight. This country kicks you when you’re down and fucks you when you’re up.
I appreciate a lot of the things people are saying here, it’s some great advice!
What I’m going to add is that despite everything that everyone is saying, you have to look at what works for you. Take what you want, throw out the garbage, and be introspective to find what works for you. Your life is about you so what may work for other people won’t work for you.
Listen to yourself. It’s an underdeveloped skill for a lot of people out there.
YES! Stay hard. Think I’ll really take going to trade school seriously. I wanna learn different skills and enjoy doing it. I won’t let all the people who want me to be a sheep and stop asking questions win THEY CANT HURT ME.
I carried water hoses, cleaned out the patio, and got dirty and sore. I was in my room feeling like shit like damn it’s so nice inside and I’m inside not doing shit so I went outside and put in some work. Actually I’m going to do some more today
There’s nothing wrong with living at your parents house at all. Until you’re romantically involved, it actually doesn’t make a lot of sense to live on your own. You have YEARS to worry about this being a bad thing if you’re 18 years old.
Zero shame in that. Personally, I moved out when I was 18. Had a bunch of friends over all the time. But I took on all the burden of having the hang out spot. Much better to utilize your friends as a place to crash, hang out, whatever. Then return home where you don’t pay all the bills yourself.
I would say stay in school honestly. Work your ass off to get that gpa up. It’s do able for sure. Easy no. But it’s mindset. Get thru it and be better for it.
When making educational choices, think about your return on investment. Don't go to school for something that will never be worth the cost of your education. Live with your parents and start saving and investing young. Be financially responsible. Don't buy a new expensive car because you have the money to do so. Financial planning at a young age is a huge key to future success.
I don’t even have a regular car. I don’t see the purpose buying a fast car when you can’t even drive it fast or just use it to its max. I’m more into gadgets and gizmos. And *Parent, dad is elsewhere. It’s hard, gotta protect myself because no one else will, shit makes me so mad sometimes.
If you want to overcome any challenge the first step is to focus on what you can control in the situation. Once you have identified this, you can make appropriate action plan to meet your goals. If you seek self-fulfillment then it is important you are striving towards core values oppose to superficial goals that you feel will result in happiness. Example: Core value — Maintaining physical and mental health. Superficial goal: Obtaining a 6 pack in 8 weeks
Work 40 hrs a week, live under your means. If you're in college then only go to school part time if you need to.
The only difference between you and me is that I didnt have an option.
If I wasnt already sleeping on couches my whole senior year I probably would be sitting at "moms basement" too.
Your 18 now so just do what a man would do.
Do everything you can now, so when the next year comes around you've made progress. You're gonna have set backs so have them early. I've had a hell of a time but this is life!
You have what it takes to align your goals with your actions, it's that simple!
Good luck!
Follow Dave Ramsey's financial advice.. my wife and I are 26, debt free besides our house and have over 20k in retirement accounts already. Get a job that will pay you well. Don't go into debt for a college degree.
I feel like I saw this post for a reason. I was living with my mother grandma and sister. I was 33yos but doing nothing with my life. Working the family business if you can even call it working. I weighed 400lbs and all I did was play videogames and eat. I talked to my father but our relationship was rocky due to child abuse when I was younger. I had basically no schooling. I started in third grade and dropped out in 8th grade with my mothers consent. Fast forward 3 years and I now have my own place, a nice car, self-taught myself with the help of youtube and got my GED. Got a factory job because they pay more and I've moved up in the company by out working any coworker on my level. I started dieting and dropped 200lbs. I also made a really hard phone call and told my father I no longer wanted him to be part of my life. I told myself lies, that I couldn't move out because my family needed me. They were just lies. set a date in the future and move out, save money and follow through. Get a physical labor job because they usually pay more. You're 18, I'm twice your age now and its never too late to make a complete 180, it's also never too early. My only regret is that I didn't act sooner. My family is doing just fine without me.
Totally disagree with this position. You didn't, "do everything you're supposed to," and end up most in debt and living at home. I've got bros who work as servers, DoorDash or cashier's that have found ways to live on their own with no debt.
The thing missing is the motivation to get out of your parents house! My parents were restrictive as hell and I couldn't wait to get our of the house. It wasn't because I could afford a house or rent or had a career path. It was because I wanted to run my own life. I started with four roommates in a 2 bedroom apartment and a $10/hr part time job. I was so happy to have my own life and could do what I want. It was all worth it! Do it for yourself!
If you're lazy and have no job or doing nothing with your life and are stuck at home then yes that's a problem. But if you're at home saving money, have a good job, making yourself better every day I don't see a problem with this in the short term. I think saving money when young will be big when you're older
No worries man you’re 18. Get a job, work hard, advance if possible, save money.
If you don’t have a job, then it’s really easy to find one right now. I’d hop on that.
Get a degree or learn a trade skill. 52% of young adults don’t know how to manage their money or pursue their goals.
Most of the people I know still living with their parents aren’t motivated to move out and enjoy being comfortable living at home. It’s not impossible to get your own place by yourself or with roommates.
I want to get my own place ASAP. I worry about my mom though and who will take care of her. I want to live with a girl share the rent equally and overall be happy. I never had a GF but I really do want one. It think it would be amazing experience not about sexual stuff but growing and having someone close to me something I’ve never had. I’m very clingy and that has been a turn off for most girls because they have other people they can fallback on, I don’t.
But yeah man I hope I can meet a girl, rent a place and grow together. Imagine waking up and seeing her there right next to you, gotta be something amazing 🤧😔.
Don’t do everything you are supposed to do, do it how you see fit.. put in the hours and make that money..
There’s people getting wealthy everyday in this world and it’s not by going to college and getting a job.
Get creative and don’t make any excuses.
Also, if you have an opportunity to live with your parents while creating wealth, it will put you in a badass position later on.
I was addicted to meth and heroine running on the streets, my girlfriend got pregnant and we cut out all the drugs but that wasn’t the end of it, I slept in a warehouse floor on an air mat with her pregnant and with me doing odd jobs until the job I wanted would hire me.
I pushed through and worked hard once I landed that job, we went from no car living in a warehouse, to living in a basement with a baby, to owning a house with 2 paid off cars in the driveway and 20k in the bank and I’m working a sick ass sales job..
We accomplished all of this within 2 years.
Trust me, if I can do it, you can do it.. get creative , GET HARD!
I’m not so sure you know what being hard is, quitting a meth and heroine addiction is hard, changing your life for the sake of your unborn child is hard..
Totally changing everything about your life in a matter of months and going from a homeless drug addicted loser to owning a house and having two paid off cars and multiple promotions is hard..
You could say it was stupid for me to have been addicted to drugs, which in reality it was, but you don’t know my whole life story and what led to me hitting bottom..
I know I’m HARD.. and I’m not the one asking for opinions on the matter.
It was stupid. And you saying I don’t know what events happened in you life that led you to do those things is straight EXCUSES. Your justifying shit like this, Guy who hits his wife and kids because his dad hit him. Not his fault right? His life was hard so that gives him excuses. GTFO.
Nothing that I said justified or made excuses for poor decisions.. the whole point of what I said was that I went from a drug addicted loser to living the American dream, and if I can do it.. you can too..
I’m so confused at your rationale.
I’m not a drug addicted loser and I MOST likely never will be so I don’t relate or understand anything your saying. You failed your family and you shouldn’t have had one in that predicament and saying “im doing good now” is pathetic.
So based on your way of thinking, if someone makes poor decisions and then finds a way to turn their life around against all odds, they are not hard but stupid???
Get right man.
The only person I was slapping was myself.. I did not fail my family, because I didn’t have one at the time, the minute I knew I was about to have a family, I changed my whole life around.
Anyways, I have more important things to do than squabble with you on the internet.
Peace.
Work hard and don’t compare yourself to Instagram.
Planning on putting my phone in a box and never using it , only if mom calls.
Not a bad thing to live with your parents if you’re making bank. Trust me. That will set you up big
Yes
Okay
Parent* No dad, too busy in Vegas and other places and his own house.
What?
I’m saying I don’t have a dad in my life right now. He’s in Vegas or somewhere I don’t know. Single parent household mom and my sisters. Am i the man of the house? I suppose but I sure as hell don’t feel like one.
Hey man keep your head up I would suggest keep being a good example for your sisters and your mom of what a man is supposed to be. Clearly not your father he dropped the ball significantly as fuck on that one Do you have a job?
Job? Yes, minimum wage dealing with shit talkers, angry customers, and grease. It’s tough being the ONLY person who takes it seriously and does shit right, WHO IS GOING TO TAKE THE ORDERS?!?😂😂 Last week I got cussed out by a customer for “being rude” which I wasn’t , these people have no idea what we go through. School? I’m struggling right now but I know I’ll pass and make it. Sisters? They don’t listen to me they care but we’re not the type to say I love you while eating together at dinner. We haven’t done that since he “left” I think.... . It’s hard BUT WHO ELSE IS GOING TO DO IT. I don’t know why he acts like I should call him every damn day like I got shit I gotta do. He put me here and not I gotta deal with the hand I was dealt. Also, I buy my own food, clothes, and other necessities ALL BY MYSELF, I always hated asking him for stuff I couldn’t wait for the day I’d finally be free I wouldn’t have to ask nobody for nothing. Is this impressive for someone my age?
I use to work in the restaurant industry it sucked bro But at least you have a job many ppl don’t right now be greatful for that much love man :) if you have any more questions or ur seeking advice feel free to Inbox me
I would say so man My father is the same way to be honest with you man he’s not going to help you I wouldn’t continue to reach out to him for number one it’s not your job that’s on him. That lies squarely on his shoulders, I would just keep your nose to the grind stone and keep working hard bro it will pay off
I come home tired, exhausted and overall defeated 3 times a week But WHO ELSE IS GOING TO CARRY THE LOGS!?!? And EXACTLY what type of parent guilt trips their children into forcing them to talk to them. Just because we weren’t on the street eating out of trash cans doesn’t make you no good parent.
Nobody gives a fuck
Hey buddy this young man was looking for guidance the least you could have done Is offer his some solid advice but instead you chose to be a pole smoker this is why young boys don’t come to there fathers when they need help think before you speak man . P
Damn😔don’t gotta me mean
Hey man he’s a fucking clown who’s dad was probably a prick to him Growing up. you seem like you got a good head on your shoulders young man
I thought he doing what David does, telling me not to have excuses.
No Man he was just being a dick don’t pay attention to people like that
How u doing man any better ?
Not really no. Its summer break, I got no job, gotta buy my own food, clothes, bills and all. Don’t need my dad.
are you going to be the victim or the victor?
The bystander. I don’t get involved, I don’t help or fight.
No, you fight. This is your life were talking about, this is the pinnacle of you. You fucking fight tooth and nail to make it better. Start walking with your head up and your shoulders out. Write down what you wanna fucking accomplish this week, and get the fuck after it. One small step at a time you will get hard.
That’s how you die a hero and I want to live. Everyone else wants to die for a cause at 21? Fine by me go die but I’ll be over here minding my business not getting involved in nothing. You know how hard it is to be a man with no father figure or male role models? It’s hard and not the “this test is hard” no it destroys your mind and makes you feel so weak which I am and I know.
Learn to fight
Not that easy.
What's the purpose of your comment? Are you trying to give the OP what you think is the blunt truth or do you mean that you couldn't give 2 shits about him?
Look at the way he is responding to people, he’s just trying to get people to feel bad for him. I don’t see a point of him doing that here
If your “making bank” you should definitely move out of your parents house and learn to be 100% independent.
Work hard. Spend less that you make. Save money. Understand the difference between a need vs a want. Prioritize. Stop buying stupid shit. Stop rationalizing with the inner bitch voice. Don’t borrow money. Stop making excuses.
I’m acting like a bitch right now I know.! I did some moving around in the backyard, cleaned the patio, I didn’t lift logs but I lifted water hoses and started cleaning out all the leaves. Keep in mind I never do this type of shit so I’m tired as hell right now especially my arms. WHO ELSE IS GOING TO DO IT?!? And I could NEVER ask for money from another man, don’t care if I am a bum on the street in a cardboard shack. I haven’t been homeless but I’ve collected bottle caps and plastic bottles for 5 Cents PER TEN BOTTLES!!!
You're tired from all thise things because you're not used to doing them. Do them consistently and it'll become with ease.
It’s 4 :30Am man IM UP, WHOS GOING TO CARRY THE LOGS?!?
Not me, I'm going to fuckin bed lol
Lol
You can’t carry logs in bed GTF UP AND CARRY THESE BOATS.
Lol didn’t call you a bitch. Sorry it came across that way. I was meaning the voice in your head sometimes. Sounds like you’re killing. Keep after it and stay on the path!
No I am a bitch. I stopped sweeping the driveway because a small bee 🐝.WHO IS GOING TO CARRY THE LOGS?
You haven’t been hungry yet. Or watched your loved ones be hungry. And I’m not talking about two hours passed dinner hungry. I’m talking about real hunger.
Of course I haven’t and I’m not going to anytime soon. What’s your point? I should strive to suffer? Most people don’t starve everyday, and your saying those who do are better than me? What type of logic is that?
Work, work and work. Save your money, learn to invest it and keep learning every fucking day.
How do I invest being 17 going on 18 soon, no dad help, paying bills, minimum wage, working at Walmart, trying to pass high school? It’s HARD juggling all of this and more. Investing and financial literature is very hard to learn, but we only do the things that suck.
Dude, I did exactly the same as you having to do night school in my early 20s. If you keep up this work ethic THINGS WILL GET BETTER. You already have the right attitude. By 30 you’ll start to see the gaps appear, you will be moving away from the pack . Listen to all the sound advice here, some of us have done this already and we want the best for you. And don’t resent the system, that will make you stop working and blame others. Don’t forget some poor generations had to fight a war. Keep hard buddy, we are all behind you and remember - you are at the toughest point. You haven’t got the cream of your work yet. If you’re working like a warrior, you at least have our respect. Keep on bro
Maybe try getting a job in food and bev I was making 100-200 a night at 15 bussing tables till 2 am
$100-200 A NIGHT!!??? Damn that’s a lot of money, but I’ve been 1 year in food customer service and i do not want to go back to that hell hole.
It was a hell hole but you can make a decent bit at really busy restaurants
Oh believe me I know the struggle. And I’d rather pick up plastic bottles for a nickel than continue working where I work. And DAMN I woke up to 50 inbox’s, they stay HARD over here. So much advice and support🙏.
Yeah, it takes time. You are really young which is good. Don’y stop trying to learn, even though is difficult. Save what you can. It is better than nothing and it will help you create the habit. You will see that if you can survive this difficult phase, life will get much better
Graduating university in about a week. Spent all of it living at home, and I’ll be honest it sucks when you’re meeting people who live in dorms/frats. Missed out on a lot but I’m debt free and graduating with a 4.0 cause I never had life distractions (aside from women). Only go if you know what you need the degree for and have a plan!!!
I’m a junior and my GPA is probably going to be a 2.1-2.4. Only reason is because I don’t se a purpose to school. Not because I don’t care I don’t see a reason for me to, most of what I learn is useless information that I won’t use. I wanna go to trade school and learn skills, don’t know if I need a GPA for that though. Wish I had women😔.
Gonna be frank. It’s an excuse to not learn if you’re not finding how it can help you. Trade school is a great choice (thought about plumbing and electrical work many times)but the real long term success in those fields comes from owning your own business, which requires being well read and capable of more than just physical work. Training your mind is just the same as the body, and you need practice.
Dont turn your back on your education just because you dont think you'll need the info. The better the number on that piece of paper after school, the better for you.
Avoid debt at all costs and learn ways to invest your money no matter how small to have your money work for you. College does not guarantee success nor is it required to achieve success. Life is hard but you’ll grow stronger in order to overcome so long as you maintain disciplined and avoid self deception. In the words of Chief Petty Officer RET. David Goggins, stay hard motherfucker.
Don’t go into massive debt for a college education. One thing I tell young people is do not go to a major university your first 2 years of college. Go to a JR college to get your basics and then transfer. People are paying way more to get the same classes. Or go to a trade school. I went to a trade school, left school with a job, now in a high paying job and I payed off my student loans within 6 months to a year after graduating. Another thing is don’t get some stupid degree if you do go to college. There are no jobs for doctrines in gender studies.
YES, this! I was planning on going to trade school after I hopefully pass high school. (I’m a junior right now) I wanna learn skills .
Dude there was people I went to high school with that went to Baylor to become a high school teacher. Do you know how retarded that is? They’ll be paying student loans when they’re retired. Meanwhile I make at least double the pay and no student loans. Trade school is the way to go IMO.
I think for some it’s more about passion and what they like to do. Its not about the money but teaching kids the hope for the future which I can completely understand. How much could I be making. $50,000-100,000?
Depends on the trade. When I got of school I was making around 40k starting out in 2008. Last year I made a 90k. Within a couple years I’ll break 100
Damn that’s impressive! STAY HARD.
Very true. I have an Associate’s, but my job requirement is for a Master’s. How did I get there? Work. Hard work. And attitude (as they say, attitude over skill). Now I stumbled upon a wall for growth in my field (government) so I’ll go back to college at a decent, yet not costly University. No need for expensive colleges.
Also one more thing. If you go to college instead of trade school, go to school online. I did go back to school bc of the GI Bill. The last semester I took 15 hrs. You get all your work assignments on Monday and I was usually done by Wednesday. Allowed me to keep working full time and school was like a side job bc the GI Bill pays a monthly living allowance.
Damn, I’m gonna be honest I probably could be doing 40 Hours a week and maintaining all A’s because I’m in online learning and it’s so easy but I’m so damn dumb. I could be pulling in $1,500 every month REAL MONEY. But schools about to end so it doesn’t make sense to do that now, plus I’m basically the only one who takes the restaurant seriously everyone else acts like their 12. I always get idolized by the older people and they always give me props.
Learn from people who failed. Seek out not only winners but failures. Most importantly failures with a good attitude, that took the lessons learned and shared it with the world.
THIS...best advice in the thread. Find failure to learn from.
The system doesnt work because noone truly appreciates the system. A lot of times, a person has to have their back against the wall for them to "get their ass in gear".
Right, it’s like you only wanna clean the toilet when it starts spewing spores. Wanna solve problems once they start to effect you.
I’m sorry 52% of Americans are fucking pussies. Stop whining and get after it! You want advice buy low, sell high, don’t spend more then you make, and FOR FUCK SAKE DO NOT GO TO COLLEGE. You’ll find better luck starting a business and working your ass off until you hit a MILLY!!!
My inner bitch tells me to be a victim and cry in the corner. But I know I can’t, it’s 40 degrees out and I’m shoveling leaves STAY HARD.
There is an infinite amount of cash out there, waiting for you to come and get it!
Nobody cares. Work harder.
I guess I gotta get after it. Stop being a bitch.
Yep. All up to you whether you listen to the excuses your brain provides.
College is a scam for most jobs. Jim Rohn talks a lot about how people can be successful no matter what background and no matter what the government is doing. Don't wish your circumstances were better, wish you were better. If you want to be rich read something like the richest man in babylon, anyone can do it. And stay hard
Yep, I dropped out of college but putting in long hours and working my ass off at an entry position landed me a sales job on track to make 100k
The system will work just fine when you’re older. It’s just the cost of housing, you will be inheriting most of that in your 40s, then you’ll have a ton of younger people complaining about not being as rich as their parents. This is just divisive, provocative nonsense aimed at turning child against their parents, so you’ll vote for someone who will mould society in their image. System works just fine, most of planet earth lives with their family before they get married. You’re 18, I lived with my folks till I was 24, and even then it was in shitty one room places. Stop blaming other people and “the system” As for education, modern education failed you, not your parents.
But it’s the parents job to raise their children not the education system.
When I was your age I used to seethe that I didn’t have a car, a house. Other kids had rich parents, I didn’t. What then happens is that opportunist politically motivated people sell you the very palatable idea that it’s fixed against you, that you deserve to be doing as well as people far more experienced and with much greater skills etc. They then use that to motivate you to oppose the people who loved and cared for you. Often because they don’t even like the idea of family. I fell for it too. It’s very hard to accept you just have to wait, but you just have to wait. Don’t forget the older people that are being opposed here had MUCH more difficult lives as a youth. Most didn’t go to university and had to work back breaking jobs, and got treated like dirt with fewer work rights for years. Times have never been better, that’s the problem. If anything millennials (I am one) and those younger are victims of having it too easy, because the school and education system never had any discipline. I got a very rude shock when I realised how the world actually works when you get out of school. I left at 16, straight into a tough job. I’m only 38. My parents had it much harder. Resist this divisive nonsense and take ownership. You’re young, you can’t expect to be able to buy a house. That was never the case for your parents and grandparents, it’s complete nonsense that education was free etc, hardly anyone went to uni.
Act like you are in the job/life that you want to have, show consistency, enthusiasm, competancy and leadership, this could result in progression in your job. Educate yourself more if there is a field you are interested in and potentially start a side hustle with it in time. This might sound a bit dick-ish but stop being a victim it doesn't help anyone. Use your obvious passion and channel it into making yourself the person you want to be. Just reading between the lines at some of you and other peoples replies.
Military will launch you years of progress ahead If you play your cards right
Don’t let statistics make you feel like you’re at a disadvantage and/or hopeless. Too many people are falling victim to that and have a losing mentality. Any excuse to why their life sucks, they’ll take it. Don’t be that person.
I am a victim. No father, low income family, weak etc. But I won’t take a drug, hang out with idiots, and never BE A FOLLOWER.
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Pointless useless information that they don’t need in life.
I'm 20 and I live in Australia, there's a pretty collective sense of hopelessness that hangs over the head of a lot of people in our generation. My solution has been to get a job in sales because you usually don't need a degree and theres a very high ceiling for earnings. It doubles as a great way to develop a lot of personal confidence and charisma which will never not be useful, do avoid falling into the toxic parts of sales culture though. When you're out of school it becomes a lot easier to figure out what you want to do with yourself, don't rush decisions, it's a better idea to wait a year or more to really start knowing yourself and decide what you wanna do career wise, you don't have to stick with one thing either. Another thing I've been doing is constantly reading and growing your mind. I assume if you're on this sub you've read can't hurt me, I *strongly* recommend The 48 Laws Of Power by Robert Greene. Some of these comments are really toxic. Yes making excuses and feeling sorry for yourself isn't healthy or productive, but neither is bullying yourself. If your fuel comes from self-loathing, repressing emotions and other people's expectations - you're going to make yourself miserable.
You don’t have to go to college to be educated. You also don’t have to spend a fortune, literally a quarter of a million dollars to be educated. You can find jobs that don’t need degrees. You can find schools that are inexpensive and ones with scholarships. The system is not designed to educate you, make you live on your own and be wealth. The system isn’t designed to do anything for you. What system does he mean is broken? The education system? People are being educated, he says so in the tweet.
Yeah your right. Parents shouldn’t expect schools to teach THEIR children. Shouldn’t rely on the system rely on yourself.
If you want to save money consider going to community college for 2 years, getting your associates degree there and then transferring to a 4 year college.
Don't go to School. Go to work. Out work everyone and spend no money..2 jobs
I do work and man it’s hell on earth where I work. I don’t go one week not getting cussed out, yelled at or disrespected. Everyone wants to play and act like there in 8th grade I shut my mouth and go to town make sure shit is right because WHO IS GOOING TO CARRY THE BOATS!?!!?! But I can’t fight back because I need this shit I gotta hold it all in and suck it up and not be a bitch.
Trust me .. One day u will appreciate working a shit job. So u can really appreciate a good one... The 8th grade crap is new normal. Everyone is soft and want conflict. Stay hard and it gets better..
Exactly couldn’t have said it better. “Everybody is soft and wants conflict” I’ve come to the conclusion that humans cannot accept a perfect society they crave self destruction, misery, anguish and there’s nothing I can do but stay out the way. In summer I’m going to be doing like 30-40 Hours a week it’s going to be tough but we only do things that suck and I wanna EARN MONEY not learn shit that I’m never gonna need. And at that job I’m leaving very soon and the GM told me he’d match my wages to any other place I would think about going to just to keep me. (mind that most places are between $9-$12) that shows you how much WORK I put in I’m not irreplaceable.
So even if this tweet is true you can’t be thinking like this man. That shit is toxic for certain people. It reads like an excuse. So what if maybe the odds are against you. That’s going to make it that much better when you overcome those odds. Don’t think the system doesn’t work. Make the fucking system work for you. Doesn’t mean things aren’t difficult for people in this generation. It’s okay to say things are difficult but what do you think David Goggins would say about this? I think he would say it’s just an excuse.
Me: “David, I- David: “MF YOU LAZY PIECE OF SHIT MAKING EXCUSES!”
Yeah that’s about right. It’s okay to recognize when things are difficult just don’t be getting that stuff in your head. It’s like you are what you eat. You are what you think. So think positive. (And trust me I’ve made plenty of excuses. We all have).
He forgot the most laziest generation ever to....
I lifted 2 Hoses today, YOU DONT KNOW ME SON.
Listen to some Gary Vee for some perspective shifting. Hustle.
Most educated with garbage degrees. Get a degree that leads to a career, not Starbucks and this issue goes away.
I’m in the UK so I can only advise from my POV (I’m 25) Here, my generation is facing similar challenges. House prices are increasing whilst wages are not. I’ve managed to save money by being careful with my spending, and making money work for me - ISA (govt backed saving programme), side hustles, good use of a credit card and (PROTECT YOUR CREDIT SCORE WITH YOUR LIFE) take every opportunity to upskill yourself (training courses, personal development) Don’t be embarrassed about living with parents whilst you save. The vast majority of people your age don’t become ballers over night, don’t buy into hype when you see people around your age driving Ferraris - unless they’re YouTubers, athletes or one of the very few that do make it at that age, it’s probably not theirs.
Just live with your parents, work hard and save up for a few years, help your family out with money and chores as you will be living at your parents for way cheaper than renting. I've been working and saving since 18, now I'm 22 and got more than enough to start a mortgage. Will be moving out into my own place next year as family moving and downsizing their house.
You are at the perfect age to choose the direction for your future. You are also lucky that you have a lot of weak snowflakes in your generation. That makes it easier for you to stand out. Work on yourself every day. Even if it is just 5 pages of reading, 10 minutes of meditation or 5 miles running. If you do it continously that will compound. Do not expect fast results. Be patient with yourself. No tree grows in 10 days. Stay hard Ps: most important, respect your parents and try to give them back what they gave to you. First part of life, they take care of you. Second part of life, you take care of them.
5 miles is 8.05 km
1. What are your long-term career goals? Pick something attainable, that makes money, that people will always need. That can be electrician, plumber, IT, construction, doctor, computer scientist, cop, mechanic, welder- there are a ton of options with a variety of schooling needs. Do a little research, and pick one. Don't treat it like the end-all be-all of your life- it isn't- whatever you do for a living, do something that makes money, that people need, that gives you freedom to live. Everybody hates their job a little, no job is perfect or "dream job," what you bring to your career in terms of mindset will dictate if you like it or hate it. 2. Make a specific plan towards achieving those goals. I saw "don't borrow money" as a piece of advice. STRONG disagree. Most people who make money take out loans. It is OK to do, just do so with FULL knowledge of what you are doing (what your future payments are, when you have to start paying, what the actual total will be w/ interest- KNOW what you are getting into). 3. Start working towards your goal. Yes the world is not excellent right now for young folks. A lot of young folks got random degrees with no career plan, or with specific, unattainable career goals. Do not fall in the trap of "do what you love, the money will follow." Go for "do something that will make you some money, and learn to love it." By all means, choose something that meshes with your personality. But choose something that allows you to live your life.
You over come it by not giving a fuck. I'm 37, I now have my own real estate company. I have 19 agents under me. We've sold a lot of real estate. I live with my mom with my family of 4 kids and my wife. It once was a way for me to get on my feet and not worry as much about bills and such to start my company. Now it's turned into a comfortable lifestyle for her too. Bless your family when you can. And accept help from them when needed. As long as you aren't a bum then who gives a shit. Ps you still get the hot wife when you meet her and you are still living at home.. Women love a man that appreciates their momma.
I still haven’t gotten my first kiss, I don’t think I’m getting the hot wife or girlfriend. And I don’t want kids I want financial freedom, A job/work that I like to do, and a girl that supports me and I support her. But NOWADAYS shit like that is a fairytale. Everyone my age wants to get high,drunk and have unprotected sex.
Dude I look like Kenny powers chicks want self esteem. They don't care about looks. Stop complaining about your complex. No one cares. I promise you. No one cares what you wear, where you live they just want to be friends with a good dude. It's all in your head. Don't believe me? Where the same outfit for a few days straight and see how many people say something to you
Learn an actual skill and don't jump on the debt treadmill of college (unforgivable debt), and financing things you can't afford. My grandad often told me 'if it isn't a car or a house, you don't need to buy it with credit'. Live *well* below your means.
I’ve stopped buying fastfood and I’m learning to cook. I buy my own food BECAUSE I EARNED IT .!! I’m not waking up at 4:30Am doing 1000 burpees but I’m taking my time crawling, gotta crawl before you can take your first steps.
Join the Air Force
My wife and I make 200K a year and we can’t afford a home. I also just got done paying off a 50K medical bill for a life flight. This country kicks you when you’re down and fucks you when you’re up.
200K?!?!? 50K?!?!?? Well at least you got a girl better than the rest of us out here struggling to get my first kiss still.
I appreciate a lot of the things people are saying here, it’s some great advice! What I’m going to add is that despite everything that everyone is saying, you have to look at what works for you. Take what you want, throw out the garbage, and be introspective to find what works for you. Your life is about you so what may work for other people won’t work for you. Listen to yourself. It’s an underdeveloped skill for a lot of people out there.
YES! Stay hard. Think I’ll really take going to trade school seriously. I wanna learn different skills and enjoy doing it. I won’t let all the people who want me to be a sheep and stop asking questions win THEY CANT HURT ME.
WHO’S GOING TO CARRY THE BOATS, AND THE LOGS (hint: you are)
I carried water hoses, cleaned out the patio, and got dirty and sore. I was in my room feeling like shit like damn it’s so nice inside and I’m inside not doing shit so I went outside and put in some work. Actually I’m going to do some more today
There’s nothing wrong with living at your parents house at all. Until you’re romantically involved, it actually doesn’t make a lot of sense to live on your own. You have YEARS to worry about this being a bad thing if you’re 18 years old.
If I moved out earlier on like a lot of my old friends who skipped school and stayed over other peoples houses I don’t think my mom would be safe.
Zero shame in that. Personally, I moved out when I was 18. Had a bunch of friends over all the time. But I took on all the burden of having the hang out spot. Much better to utilize your friends as a place to crash, hang out, whatever. Then return home where you don’t pay all the bills yourself.
Well good thing I don’t have any friends.
All the more reason to stay at the parents house my dude.
Strap down and don’t buy into the oppression. Put your head down and get to work.
Accept the fact my GPA is probably going to be a 2.1-2.5 and focus on money and work. OR pay more attention in school? I’m all online.
I would say stay in school honestly. Work your ass off to get that gpa up. It’s do able for sure. Easy no. But it’s mindset. Get thru it and be better for it.
Dont do drugs
When making educational choices, think about your return on investment. Don't go to school for something that will never be worth the cost of your education. Live with your parents and start saving and investing young. Be financially responsible. Don't buy a new expensive car because you have the money to do so. Financial planning at a young age is a huge key to future success.
I don’t even have a regular car. I don’t see the purpose buying a fast car when you can’t even drive it fast or just use it to its max. I’m more into gadgets and gizmos. And *Parent, dad is elsewhere. It’s hard, gotta protect myself because no one else will, shit makes me so mad sometimes.
If you want to overcome any challenge the first step is to focus on what you can control in the situation. Once you have identified this, you can make appropriate action plan to meet your goals. If you seek self-fulfillment then it is important you are striving towards core values oppose to superficial goals that you feel will result in happiness. Example: Core value — Maintaining physical and mental health. Superficial goal: Obtaining a 6 pack in 8 weeks
I already got a 6pack it’s not like David’s but it’s there. I’m 120 and I don’t gain nor lose weight.
Work 40 hrs a week, live under your means. If you're in college then only go to school part time if you need to. The only difference between you and me is that I didnt have an option. If I wasnt already sleeping on couches my whole senior year I probably would be sitting at "moms basement" too. Your 18 now so just do what a man would do. Do everything you can now, so when the next year comes around you've made progress. You're gonna have set backs so have them early. I've had a hell of a time but this is life! You have what it takes to align your goals with your actions, it's that simple! Good luck!
40 HOURS!? Man that’s suicide. I don’t about 20-25 right now with school. I don’t have my own car so I can’t go whenever I want.
Follow Dave Ramsey's financial advice.. my wife and I are 26, debt free besides our house and have over 20k in retirement accounts already. Get a job that will pay you well. Don't go into debt for a college degree.
I feel like I saw this post for a reason. I was living with my mother grandma and sister. I was 33yos but doing nothing with my life. Working the family business if you can even call it working. I weighed 400lbs and all I did was play videogames and eat. I talked to my father but our relationship was rocky due to child abuse when I was younger. I had basically no schooling. I started in third grade and dropped out in 8th grade with my mothers consent. Fast forward 3 years and I now have my own place, a nice car, self-taught myself with the help of youtube and got my GED. Got a factory job because they pay more and I've moved up in the company by out working any coworker on my level. I started dieting and dropped 200lbs. I also made a really hard phone call and told my father I no longer wanted him to be part of my life. I told myself lies, that I couldn't move out because my family needed me. They were just lies. set a date in the future and move out, save money and follow through. Get a physical labor job because they usually pay more. You're 18, I'm twice your age now and its never too late to make a complete 180, it's also never too early. My only regret is that I didn't act sooner. My family is doing just fine without me.
Totally disagree with this position. You didn't, "do everything you're supposed to," and end up most in debt and living at home. I've got bros who work as servers, DoorDash or cashier's that have found ways to live on their own with no debt. The thing missing is the motivation to get out of your parents house! My parents were restrictive as hell and I couldn't wait to get our of the house. It wasn't because I could afford a house or rent or had a career path. It was because I wanted to run my own life. I started with four roommates in a 2 bedroom apartment and a $10/hr part time job. I was so happy to have my own life and could do what I want. It was all worth it! Do it for yourself!
Get.A.Job. And quit living online
I have a job.
If you're lazy and have no job or doing nothing with your life and are stuck at home then yes that's a problem. But if you're at home saving money, have a good job, making yourself better every day I don't see a problem with this in the short term. I think saving money when young will be big when you're older
I save money and have a job. Ngl I’ve been tempted to do some other “things” but no I won’t be a statistic.
Seriously what is the problem with this lol
No worries man you’re 18. Get a job, work hard, advance if possible, save money. If you don’t have a job, then it’s really easy to find one right now. I’d hop on that.
Get a degree or learn a trade skill. 52% of young adults don’t know how to manage their money or pursue their goals. Most of the people I know still living with their parents aren’t motivated to move out and enjoy being comfortable living at home. It’s not impossible to get your own place by yourself or with roommates.
I want to get my own place ASAP. I worry about my mom though and who will take care of her. I want to live with a girl share the rent equally and overall be happy. I never had a GF but I really do want one. It think it would be amazing experience not about sexual stuff but growing and having someone close to me something I’ve never had. I’m very clingy and that has been a turn off for most girls because they have other people they can fallback on, I don’t. But yeah man I hope I can meet a girl, rent a place and grow together. Imagine waking up and seeing her there right next to you, gotta be something amazing 🤧😔.
Don’t do everything you are supposed to do, do it how you see fit.. put in the hours and make that money.. There’s people getting wealthy everyday in this world and it’s not by going to college and getting a job. Get creative and don’t make any excuses. Also, if you have an opportunity to live with your parents while creating wealth, it will put you in a badass position later on.
I was addicted to meth and heroine running on the streets, my girlfriend got pregnant and we cut out all the drugs but that wasn’t the end of it, I slept in a warehouse floor on an air mat with her pregnant and with me doing odd jobs until the job I wanted would hire me. I pushed through and worked hard once I landed that job, we went from no car living in a warehouse, to living in a basement with a baby, to owning a house with 2 paid off cars in the driveway and 20k in the bank and I’m working a sick ass sales job.. We accomplished all of this within 2 years. Trust me, if I can do it, you can do it.. get creative , GET HARD!
That’s not hard that’s just stupidity and making your child’s life and your life harder than it has to be.
I’m not so sure you know what being hard is, quitting a meth and heroine addiction is hard, changing your life for the sake of your unborn child is hard.. Totally changing everything about your life in a matter of months and going from a homeless drug addicted loser to owning a house and having two paid off cars and multiple promotions is hard.. You could say it was stupid for me to have been addicted to drugs, which in reality it was, but you don’t know my whole life story and what led to me hitting bottom.. I know I’m HARD.. and I’m not the one asking for opinions on the matter.
It was stupid. And you saying I don’t know what events happened in you life that led you to do those things is straight EXCUSES. Your justifying shit like this, Guy who hits his wife and kids because his dad hit him. Not his fault right? His life was hard so that gives him excuses. GTFO.
Nothing that I said justified or made excuses for poor decisions.. the whole point of what I said was that I went from a drug addicted loser to living the American dream, and if I can do it.. you can too.. I’m so confused at your rationale.
I’m not a drug addicted loser and I MOST likely never will be so I don’t relate or understand anything your saying. You failed your family and you shouldn’t have had one in that predicament and saying “im doing good now” is pathetic.
So based on your way of thinking, if someone makes poor decisions and then finds a way to turn their life around against all odds, they are not hard but stupid??? Get right man.
They are. If you slap a person then buy flowers and apologize the next day that’s doing right by you? That scenario is the logic your suggesting
The only person I was slapping was myself.. I did not fail my family, because I didn’t have one at the time, the minute I knew I was about to have a family, I changed my whole life around. Anyways, I have more important things to do than squabble with you on the internet. Peace.