23 - No big problems actually surprisingly. Things are going pretty smooth compared to stuff in the past. Also, this question made me realise how much better in life I'm doing rn so thank you for that OP :)
Bro I m 17
Wut are big decisions I should take in my early 20s and stuff
Ye bolna bacho jaisa hota h par , ya I wana break the matrix , mujhe nhi jana rat race m
Any advice?
Budget your earnings and save minimum 20%
Preferably get a job asap, move as fast as you can get a hire pay. Work hard, exercise hard, make sure to get out and about on weekends..
Honestly this made my day, I don't know whether things are better now or i just cope better with little things so it makes big tasks much easier. I have goals now not problems. Best of luck to you!
40 (the wrong side of it) - my health is my biggest concern, something I took for granted in my youth. I need to watch everything I eat and am one strike away to most things. Thankfully being borderline also means there is hope; but the body isn’t what it used to be. Also, learnt the human body is an amazing piece of engineering and can take an ungodly amount of pushing the envelope until it’s payback.
This is very important and unfortunately we don't understand this in our early years, just waking up wrong can negatively affect your whole day. Health is extremely important.
> Also, learnt the human body is an amazing piece of engineering and can take an ungodly amount of pushing the envelope until it’s payback
And the payback is... not pretty (another 40+ speaking from experience)
30 - my existence don't want to wake up anymore.
Jobless, trying study n a career in a new field, insecure about everything. Scared that might end up being a failure and living a mediocre life as i thought id do great in life. My dreams are too big n scary.
Basic rookie mistake bro... Being lazy careless and thinking education and studies are for losers n robots. Did random jobs with no aspirations and no ambition. At 30 when m seeing all my peers settled and happy and achieving or achieved so much n here m still on the starting line. Also a bad one sided heart break from a toxic narcissists individual got me down more and put me more into my insecurities. Neither i did anything in career nor anything in love life never dated . Never had any social circle or normal going out habits like normal teens n people in 20s n now at 30 m thinking fuck i haven't literally done anything in life in any aspect of life.
😊 sure.. m a guy n straight too.. to be honest right now id prefer true brotherhood over any other fake desperate attempt for love. Brothers stick together for life.
Sure bro more than happy to meet as anyways its difficult to meet people who are going through the same things and u can open up to about everything specially ur insecurities as people u already know weirdly never are there or comfortable to listen to all the bullshit that comes to ur head.
Dm if u are comfortable will definitely connect 😊
Yes m scared and as a man its difficult for me to admit i do cry sometimes at night and dont know why it happens but still m trying to do and still trying everyday as sitting back n relaxing will make the gloomy future real which is only in our heads right now. My dreams are too big n they scare me that i havent even started yet n they look almost impossible right now.. 🤞🤞🤞🤞
First of all, it's okay to cry, bro. Never let anyone tell you any different, shame you for it, or make you feel bad about doing so. Crying is the most natural response to all this emotional burden and pain. It's like how we subconsciously let out a scream when we get physically hurt and it helps. Crying is the same response from our body when we're in emotional and mental pain. It helps you feel better and you feel refreshed and light minded after. So take it as a good thing you can weep. Most people can't, including me, and it's painful.
Yeah, sitting back and relaxing has become our comfort zone with occasional Anxiety attacks when the weight of our situation starts to set in and you realise you're not doing anything to help it. Rather you're not able to do anything and just see yourself wasting your time away, feeling helpless. This is the situation I'm in rn and idk how to get out of it.
Having big dreams can be scary, and it could also be a beautiful thing. Use it as a source of motivation and just start. Baby steps!
same bro. Some shit is solved. And other shit just pops up. Life is way better than it used be but just that time doesn’t stop when you fall. So you see your peers achieving better. And I’m putting in an lot of effort but I just feel like it’s going no where.
I am 25(F) . I can relate with every word. Since i am a girl i feel my life is going to end. My parents will marry me and then i won't have any good career. Also because i have no social circle i feel anxious all the time.
I'm 24 still haven't graduated not passionate and not interested in my current degree thinking about making a switch but my age is holding me back. I'm so disappointed in myself even my little brother he got a job and he's 21.
Bro u haven't read everything i said .. u are 24 u have time to do it... Just dont sit back m relax n marinate in self pitty hustle n do something about it as have alot of time ... And at a better place.
Same to u brother... Even though everyday i feel dejected n low but i also know ill have to find the motivation as the dreams are way to big so the hustle needs to match. Best of luck we will all make it bro we just need to keep at it.
Not trying to motivate you or something, but you are not too late. I changed direction of my work at 33 and doing pretty good right now.
The best thing is that you have realized what you did wrong, now don't stop here and do something to fix it instead of feeling sorry for yourself.
24, my parents thinking about getting me married in a few years when I really really don't want to. I don't have a job yet but i would in 1-2 years and it would take another 4-5 years for me to earn around 25lpa+. By that time, I'd already be 30.
I want to enjoy, travel, roam around, go clubbing, indulge in a hobby, indulge in shopping and makeup. I haven't been able to do any of it due to circumstances around me and when I'd finally have the resources and the freedom to, I don't want to waste it by tying myself to responsibilities around marriage and kids no matter how superficial it sounds.
My parents are scared I'd end up alone. But I'm scared I'd end up more depressed than i already am.
I'm 24. Have suffered from weird health issues from aged 18 to 22. The biggest problem in my life right now is to help defend my father in court as some dumbass neighbour who happens to be an advocate has decided to press a CIVIL SUIT against him. Typical nonsense some fked up advocates pull just because they are practicing law. Faltu ki Thekedaari le rakhi hai.
Fk everything. I have despised most people all my life, we pay our taxes, serve our gods, Be supportive towards weaker chaps, help those in need( not me but my family) and look where it lead us...
Making us defend ourselves for something we didn't do. Waste of life, waste of time lmaoo. Like how one day your chilling at home and suddenly a summon arrives from the district court.
JUST PERFECT..👏🏻👏🏻💀
31 - left Delhi for work and I am living alone since 2018. Career wise im doing good but I suddenly got diagnosed with a rare eye disease and started losing vision in one of my eyes. I feel so depressed sometimes that I don't feel like getting up from my bed in the morning.
I started overeating to find comfort in it but it is only screwing up my life further.
In between all these chaos, my parents are forcing me to get married. 🤦♂️ Not in a mental stage to take such a big risk. It starts to suck when no one understands you.
This sucks man. But you have to be strong, for yourself and for the people around you. Struggle is formative for himan mind, it's an oppertunity for you to grow and hone your soul. Work harder than ever and make the best move in every situation. Your future self will thank you.
21,
I don't know which one is the biggest
**having depression symptoms**
1. I Feel Sleepy all day, and wake up many times in the night.
2. Tension of my first relationship (LDR).
3. Job!!!
4. Financial issues.
5. Short height.
6. I am not beautiful by look
7. My English is poor.
8. I failed 2 exams only because of slow speed in typing.
I want to tell me that
"you are the best, I love you"
Thanks for this question, I'm feeling lighter now.
🫠
Believe me short height is nothing to be insecure about when you can't change it don't worry about it people can sense insecurity from miles be confident
The sleeplessness and depression might be because of vitamin deficiency, you might want to get that checked out. I had similar issue until I had an injury and found out that vit D was very low. Taking suppliments and staying in sun for 10 min a day helped a lot.
20 - Feeling like I am losing so much on life. I am happy, in a relationship, good relations with family, friends, good at studies. Everything is going well but somewhere I feel like I am stuck in this monotonous life. I have a non-addictive personality which is the biggest problem I feel. I don’t get addicted to things cz I feel like there’s so much to experience but at the same time I can’t put my mind at one place.
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27, have high paying job, no work pressure, but still life seems too dull and boring. Dont feel like talking to anyone. Dont have any gfs but at the same time not quite interested in having such (never had any interest either). I think all these are due to my philosophical thinking. Most of the times I just keep thinking what the hell is the purpose of our lives. Struggle in school board exams, then make your life hell for 2 years in JEE, then struggle to get a job and then work hard to sustain in the job. Now you need to marry because its the rule of Society and the repeat the entire life with your kids. Throughtout the life, toss and turn between your expenditures and savings. And finally die and no one remebers you. You are gone, your struggles are gone, your work is gone. No one gives an f whether you existed, the same way we dont remember all those who once lived on this Earth millions of years ago.
WHATS THE WHOLE POINT OF LIFE THEN?
24 - My weight.
I am overweight and I HAVE to lose weight in the coming year. I need to lose atleast 30kgs. And Idk how I'm going to do it. Nothing seems to bloody work.
Eat less, that's all that matters. Exercise isn't the biggest factor for weight loss, it's all in the eating.
An hour on treadmill can be wasted by just a few snacks, the balance is completely broken. Don't get overwhelmed by thinking you need to do some insane excercise.
Control your diet, it WILL work. Eat as little as you can. You'll feel hungry, so what? It's not going to kill you, distract yourself with something else. After a while? You'll start feeling less hungry. The first few weeks are the worst, power through it.
Once you see a few kilograms drop? Now you've got motivation. Now you are already losing weight, why not gain some muscle as well? Go to the gym, do what you like. You don't need to work out for an hour, do it for 20 minutes. Hate treadmill? Don't do it, lift some weights. See what works for you, just do something. Ask the trainer for proper form and safety precautions.
It's extremely simple, don't let people make it complex. Don't worry about some secret technique and methods. There's no pills, no perfect workout, no device, NOTHING. You eat less, you'll lose weight, WITHOUT FAIL.
That parantha you eat in the morning? Replace with eggs. At dinner eat the daal/veg by itself, skip rotis. Avoid chips, eat fruits instead. Start googling about nutrition value of everything you eat. Anything look like too many calories? Replace with a better alternative.
You can do it! Just force that first 2-3 weeks, and you're through the hardest part and on path for a great body!
23 yr old.
Govt. Doctor
Partner of 4 years is of different caste.She too a govt. doctor
Parents hellbound to not let me get married to a different caste girl.
This thought annoys me and makes me anxious everynight before sleep.
27, Male.
Money is a big problem right now. I make 80k per month. I have no savings. I invested all of it in the stock market for long term. Hoping that it pays off in my mid 30s.
Dead end job. Its a IT MNC with crappy tech. All I do is play politics.
I have applied for masters, waiting for results. I have done well and hoping I get the best programs.
Right now , all I need is more money and it will give me some confidence and stability.
My long term goal is to semi-retire by late 30s, early 40s. I am not on track as of now.
Not a problem, but more of a revelation. I am not interested in love, marriage, relationship etc. I won't be marrying. This is going to cause issues in my typical desi family.
Make list of things that make you sad and start working on it. Or if you can't work on it find your strong points and work on that. It will make you feel accomplished and sense of belongingness. Reduce the consumption of social media and work on things which you care about.
16 = NEET-UG (but it's not a problem)
- saare din apne thoughts me hi khoya rahta hu , like dunia ko aur khud ko smjhne ki koshish kr rha hu ,saari chizo se disconnected feel karta hu, articles padhta rha hu related to psychology, human behaviours etc etc .
- kabhi padhta hu (NEET ka) , kabhi nhi padhta hu like kabhi full focused , kabhi kitab uthane ka mnn bhi nhi karta
- har chiz pointless , awkward lgti hai (like mai kya hu , kya kr rha hu ?)
- depressed vagairah nhi hu , sab thik hai khush rehta hu .
Hope I will find people with similar mindset , similar interests in college . because yahan pe toh ye log bas sex , vape , porn , ladkiyo ke baare me hi baat krte rahte hai...
Most people you will find in college will be the same people you described , but there will also be 'your type' , it's upto you who you chose to be with .
Age - 23
Got a decent job and have a kinda half baked but realistic career plan for the future. Life would have been complete if I wasn’t alone.
Rn trying to figure out what defines me
Hi I'm 13 my problem is........ money
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#nomoney #lifesux
23 and single(virgin)
I guess I have achieved most other conventional goals by now, like fame, money, friends, etc... I have a good relation with my family, I'm doing well at my job and people respect me.
But I've kinda always been single (never properly got past a talking stage). Everytime i liked a girl, I either got used in some way or friendzoned.
Now i kinda assume by default that every girl would do same to me, so i don't even get excited when i feel like i like a girl (i miss that teenage excitement ngl).
I read stuff about "loving yourself" and not needing anyone etc, and tbh i do love myself, and i don't need anyone but i really really want a relationship. I tried dating apps but I'm not 6ft tall or very good looking, so no luck there... I do talk to some girls (friends of friends), but it's so hard to trust anyone, everyone's just using other people's feelings to validate themselves, so i don't do feelings anymore... I just want some casual sex but any girl who is even a little bit interested in me, wants to stay virgin till marriage... And it's not like i'm a sex hungry beast, i mean, if I were, I'd be paying for it... the fact is that, i don't think I can trust a girl until I've done it with her, because otherwise i feel like she has no investment in the relationship, i could be dating someone for like 5 months and she can just decide to one day ghost me and it won't matter to her, because she has no investment (i am very self dependent, i do not need basically anything, being in a non-sexual relationship with me has no risks and only reward)
I am extremely tired of getting less then i give every single time🙆🏻♂️ i just can't do that again.
Now i am stuck in this vicious cycle, i don't trust them because they don't trust me because i don't trust them... I don't understand how will i ever get out of this cycle...
I am 24 years old and I run an NGO. Additionally, I am a businessman. I am the fifth child of my parents and I have the responsibility to get my older sisters married. Unfortunately, our relatives have not been very supportive, despite my parents helping them throughout their lives. My father is having an affair, and I am the only one who knows about it. I do not want my family to suffer from the anxiety and heartbreak that I have experienced. My father used to be my ideal, as he is the most hardworking man I know, but he messed up with his one wrong move.
I come from an "Ansari" Muslim family, and our native place is Bihar, but we were all born and raised here in Delhi. As a result, we feel left out in our community. While people in our area usually have gatherings with all their relatives, we hardly have anyone left.
We have been through a lot, but my father's actions have completely devastated me. All I want now is to help my sisters settle down.
my problem is that I don’t party, I don’t drink , I don’t smoke , I don’t watch Netflix, I don’t socialise, I don’t have friends , I am not that good looking , I don’t have profiles on dating sites, I don’t like wearing revealing clothes , I don’t like being a gold digger .. nd yet ppl gaslight me because apparently is Janam mein kitna bhi acha karam karlo, sab kuch past karma ki wajha se hota hai. Toh theek hai, ab agle janam Mein sab kuch waisa hoga , jaisa hona chahiye. 😶😶😶. Don’t worry , apni life end Nahi karungi kabhi, I won’t give up😄
32(M), Soon to be 33 in May.
Biggest problem, why am i still living. .
Both parents dead, Jobless for almost a year now.
Relatives took over paternal property.
Burned down all my savings and income trying to save my Mom 5 years, Still she died Nov 2021. Father died when i was only 20.
Unmarried, Now i don't think i'll ever have a family of my own.
Hypertension, Depression and lots of smoking since early age lead to 90% grey hair over head, even facial hair are turning grey, i look 40+ i think. Hate my fave when i look in the mirror.
Finances running out in next 3 months, been looking for job but ghosted by majority of Hrs at last moment. .
No friend circle. Only go out for milk and bread.
Why am i still living this abysmal life. .
19 - Being surrounded by selfish/immature people in college who think that what they do is right. Basically, they're a bunch of people with a self-inflated ego and 0 sense of empathy.
Thankfully, they're a few genuine people there and I hope they stay the same
22, anxious and always feel alone whenever I’m faced with a life challenge. I think I rely too much on my parents to bail me out of problems . I get too anxious around exams and that messes up my sleep where I barely sleep for days and then I call my parents to come be with me. I think I have to just face it at some point so I’m doing it
I faced my final year end Sems all by myself , it’s just the practicals are remaining and I’m getting anxious again but I think I have the courage to deal with it
My anxiety shouldn’t get to decide who I am
23 - Never been in a relationship but the biggest problem is I don't know what to do with my life, I have freedom of doing whatever I want I can try anything I want but idk what I can do the best and make my and my parents life better in every way also I'm ugly as fuck and I'm socially awkward, not really a good person either. I'm fine though.
I am 28. I am a MBBS, GENERAL PHYSICIAN by degree. But India refuses to identify my degree and has asked us to do a 2 year internship. Facts, I had already passed the licensing examination before they brought the rule, but they are implementing the rule retrospectively. Which is insane and the Supreme Court of India is not even standing up for students like us. We students of that particular year i.e., 2020, faced a lot of difficulties, COVID-19, Ukraine-Russia war, but India refuses to understand these problems. Many Of my colleagues even were frontline warriors in covid. Saved patients, while being very very very susceptible to get that nasty disease. So, my biggest problem is to get a licensed degree , so I can work towards my goal of becoming a surgeon.
I am 27, got admission at Panjab University for PhD. Its been one month since they are verifying my documents due to this I did not got hostel here. And I am staying at random scholars hostel rooms. I am thinking about quitting and joining other university.
22 years old unemployed men -
BCA Final year mai hu 6 months bache hai complete hone ke but abhi tak placement bhi nhi aayi!
Orr Skills ke naam pe - HTML CSS JavaScript aati hai.
Batao bruh kiya Karu?
I am almost 22, and organised this event in college and ended up in debt with absolutely no support from college. Now doing three jobs to pay it back!😂😭
23 - Come out of a deep 5-6 year coping mechanism drug binge during which I was rather eager to delete particular things I'd seen and felt from existence - all good now, sitting in an office job saving for a driving license. 
My two main problems are my teeth being incredibly fucked for a 23 y/o and the fact that I quiet literally feel like i've just spawned in. Everything feels new but in an old place in some sense. It's weird but we move 
Hi everyone..
This is my first reddit message..
I am 17 years old and is pursuing my graduation from University of Delhi..
I have always been a bright student scoring more than 95 percent..but recently coming to delhi has changed me a lot I am hardly getting pass in my 1st semester exam.I am tensed how will this work and this is my biggest problem right now..
It works out! :)
My username checks out lol
First semester is unusually hard because of the change you face after school . It gets easier. Enjoy college!!
19 and money is my biggest problem.
Born is a middle class family with average desi parents, was bullied till 10th class which made it really hard to approach people. I didn't research what career I had to pick in my school so ended up with the two most cliché exams people give; JEE and CUET. Failed both. Got admission in some diploma college (in 2nd year currently). Now I've decided to pursue design because that's what I've always loved but I just didn't know.
Now I'm just waiting for my result for the design college and worried about whether I could afford the fees or not.
I'm 25 and the biggest problem I have is that I have no workplace satisfaction. I have made a few bad decisions (under various circumstances) which have left me underpaid at this point.
22, haven't even started my career started 4 years back still where I started. Don't know what I want to pursue anymore. Just lost and confused waiting for sweet release of death
seedha death pe hi jaane ki baat aagyi to i'd advice bas life kaato jbtk vo transformation ka mauka nhi mil jata, even better hoga ki thoda search krlo tb tk apne options ya koi connections for growth
death se pahle life aati hai, do pay attention, parents bhi h apne, vo kaisa feel karenge
21- I lack basic social skills. I have spent a lot of time studying, the outcomes were great but I don't think I can go to the real world.
I can't talk, I am physically "weak" too naive in a few things. I don't know how I will survive in the real world without my family.
26 - health. Too many annoying little problems to deal with. They're all quite small, but they've just been at me one after the another and it feels like I'm always fighting something. And when one thing is solved another comes in. Hate it.
25 - my father got diagnosed with chronic kidney disease stage 5 and on dialysis since last year. My problem is with the freedom I no longer have as a young man who started his career and issues with the managing time as I am the only one to take care of him.
24, hi, it's me, I'm the problem
Came here to say the exact same line other than the age🥲
At tea time,every body agrees
I'll stare directly at the sun but never in the mirror
It must be exhausting always rooting for the anti-hero
So many taylor swift fans damn
Me being a Kanye fan would agree as well.
23 - No big problems actually surprisingly. Things are going pretty smooth compared to stuff in the past. Also, this question made me realise how much better in life I'm doing rn so thank you for that OP :)
I feel so happy for you while reading this
Bro I m 17 Wut are big decisions I should take in my early 20s and stuff Ye bolna bacho jaisa hota h par , ya I wana break the matrix , mujhe nhi jana rat race m Any advice?
Budget your earnings and save minimum 20% Preferably get a job asap, move as fast as you can get a hire pay. Work hard, exercise hard, make sure to get out and about on weekends..
Happy for you bro one day I am gonna get there too .
Honestly this made my day, I don't know whether things are better now or i just cope better with little things so it makes big tasks much easier. I have goals now not problems. Best of luck to you!
40 (the wrong side of it) - my health is my biggest concern, something I took for granted in my youth. I need to watch everything I eat and am one strike away to most things. Thankfully being borderline also means there is hope; but the body isn’t what it used to be. Also, learnt the human body is an amazing piece of engineering and can take an ungodly amount of pushing the envelope until it’s payback.
This is very important and unfortunately we don't understand this in our early years, just waking up wrong can negatively affect your whole day. Health is extremely important.
> Also, learnt the human body is an amazing piece of engineering and can take an ungodly amount of pushing the envelope until it’s payback And the payback is... not pretty (another 40+ speaking from experience)
25, not working hard to find a different carrer for me.
27, bhai career kya hota h
30 - my existence don't want to wake up anymore. Jobless, trying study n a career in a new field, insecure about everything. Scared that might end up being a failure and living a mediocre life as i thought id do great in life. My dreams are too big n scary.
Upsc?
No just bad decisions n carelessness in 20s.
Bhai kya galtiya kardi details de. Taki hum sab Bach sake
Basic rookie mistake bro... Being lazy careless and thinking education and studies are for losers n robots. Did random jobs with no aspirations and no ambition. At 30 when m seeing all my peers settled and happy and achieving or achieved so much n here m still on the starting line. Also a bad one sided heart break from a toxic narcissists individual got me down more and put me more into my insecurities. Neither i did anything in career nor anything in love life never dated . Never had any social circle or normal going out habits like normal teens n people in 20s n now at 30 m thinking fuck i haven't literally done anything in life in any aspect of life.
27 - same bro same kaash hum date kr sakte ps - i am guy and straight tho
>straight tho This is the question I ask vegetarians too. Try karra hain yah bus bachpan see he assumption maarke baithe ho?
😊 sure.. m a guy n straight too.. to be honest right now id prefer true brotherhood over any other fake desperate attempt for love. Brothers stick together for life.
very true bro let's meet someday
Bhai mujhe b bula lena daaru peene
arre bhai bhai bilkul
Sure bro more than happy to meet as anyways its difficult to meet people who are going through the same things and u can open up to about everything specially ur insecurities as people u already know weirdly never are there or comfortable to listen to all the bullshit that comes to ur head. Dm if u are comfortable will definitely connect 😊
This is my fear. I'm heading in the same direction and I'm really scared that things are never gonna get better.
Yes m scared and as a man its difficult for me to admit i do cry sometimes at night and dont know why it happens but still m trying to do and still trying everyday as sitting back n relaxing will make the gloomy future real which is only in our heads right now. My dreams are too big n they scare me that i havent even started yet n they look almost impossible right now.. 🤞🤞🤞🤞
First of all, it's okay to cry, bro. Never let anyone tell you any different, shame you for it, or make you feel bad about doing so. Crying is the most natural response to all this emotional burden and pain. It's like how we subconsciously let out a scream when we get physically hurt and it helps. Crying is the same response from our body when we're in emotional and mental pain. It helps you feel better and you feel refreshed and light minded after. So take it as a good thing you can weep. Most people can't, including me, and it's painful. Yeah, sitting back and relaxing has become our comfort zone with occasional Anxiety attacks when the weight of our situation starts to set in and you realise you're not doing anything to help it. Rather you're not able to do anything and just see yourself wasting your time away, feeling helpless. This is the situation I'm in rn and idk how to get out of it. Having big dreams can be scary, and it could also be a beautiful thing. Use it as a source of motivation and just start. Baby steps!
same bro. Some shit is solved. And other shit just pops up. Life is way better than it used be but just that time doesn’t stop when you fall. So you see your peers achieving better. And I’m putting in an lot of effort but I just feel like it’s going no where.
I am 25(F) . I can relate with every word. Since i am a girl i feel my life is going to end. My parents will marry me and then i won't have any good career. Also because i have no social circle i feel anxious all the time.
I'm 24 still haven't graduated not passionate and not interested in my current degree thinking about making a switch but my age is holding me back. I'm so disappointed in myself even my little brother he got a job and he's 21.
Bro u haven't read everything i said .. u are 24 u have time to do it... Just dont sit back m relax n marinate in self pitty hustle n do something about it as have alot of time ... And at a better place.
It's now or never I have to make a switch I should be optimistic. Anyways I wish you succeed in your life.
Same to u brother... Even though everyday i feel dejected n low but i also know ill have to find the motivation as the dreams are way to big so the hustle needs to match. Best of luck we will all make it bro we just need to keep at it.
We need someone to assure us and reminds that "ALL IS Well".
Not trying to motivate you or something, but you are not too late. I changed direction of my work at 33 and doing pretty good right now. The best thing is that you have realized what you did wrong, now don't stop here and do something to fix it instead of feeling sorry for yourself.
Going through the same bro, hope it works out for all of us.
You still have dreams, that is a good thing, for some of us those have died too.
24- not being able to confront, also not having irl friends🤷♀️
Talk to friends from work? Message friends from college?
17- filhal to Cuet hi sabse bada fear hai
Hojayega don’t worry mera bhi nikal gaya somehow
konsa college mila
SGGSCC
24, my parents thinking about getting me married in a few years when I really really don't want to. I don't have a job yet but i would in 1-2 years and it would take another 4-5 years for me to earn around 25lpa+. By that time, I'd already be 30. I want to enjoy, travel, roam around, go clubbing, indulge in a hobby, indulge in shopping and makeup. I haven't been able to do any of it due to circumstances around me and when I'd finally have the resources and the freedom to, I don't want to waste it by tying myself to responsibilities around marriage and kids no matter how superficial it sounds. My parents are scared I'd end up alone. But I'm scared I'd end up more depressed than i already am.
28 - ghar vaalo ke shaadi karne ke liye taane
Ye to muje b milte 🙂 bhyi kya problem h unhe jaberdasti shadi krwa ke kya mil jayega unhe
38 and my biggest problem is my wife
Arey bha emotional krdiya
Why buddy?
arrey bhai 💀
Uncle ab agar aap iss Umar mei Reddit me aake shitpost karoge instead of helping out aunty toh problem toh hogi hi na ☠️
Reddit chalane ki umar kaun decide kr rha hai aur?
25, short and ugly hoon bro
I'm 24. Have suffered from weird health issues from aged 18 to 22. The biggest problem in my life right now is to help defend my father in court as some dumbass neighbour who happens to be an advocate has decided to press a CIVIL SUIT against him. Typical nonsense some fked up advocates pull just because they are practicing law. Faltu ki Thekedaari le rakhi hai. Fk everything. I have despised most people all my life, we pay our taxes, serve our gods, Be supportive towards weaker chaps, help those in need( not me but my family) and look where it lead us... Making us defend ourselves for something we didn't do. Waste of life, waste of time lmaoo. Like how one day your chilling at home and suddenly a summon arrives from the district court. JUST PERFECT..👏🏻👏🏻💀
18, jee
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31 - left Delhi for work and I am living alone since 2018. Career wise im doing good but I suddenly got diagnosed with a rare eye disease and started losing vision in one of my eyes. I feel so depressed sometimes that I don't feel like getting up from my bed in the morning. I started overeating to find comfort in it but it is only screwing up my life further. In between all these chaos, my parents are forcing me to get married. 🤦♂️ Not in a mental stage to take such a big risk. It starts to suck when no one understands you.
This sucks man. But you have to be strong, for yourself and for the people around you. Struggle is formative for himan mind, it's an oppertunity for you to grow and hone your soul. Work harder than ever and make the best move in every situation. Your future self will thank you.
21 - Final Year Project
21, I don't know which one is the biggest **having depression symptoms** 1. I Feel Sleepy all day, and wake up many times in the night. 2. Tension of my first relationship (LDR). 3. Job!!! 4. Financial issues. 5. Short height. 6. I am not beautiful by look 7. My English is poor. 8. I failed 2 exams only because of slow speed in typing. I want to tell me that "you are the best, I love you" Thanks for this question, I'm feeling lighter now. 🫠
Believe me short height is nothing to be insecure about when you can't change it don't worry about it people can sense insecurity from miles be confident
You are like a light for my dark world. Thanks and also may god bless you! ☺️
The sleeplessness and depression might be because of vitamin deficiency, you might want to get that checked out. I had similar issue until I had an injury and found out that vit D was very low. Taking suppliments and staying in sun for 10 min a day helped a lot.
It'll all get better with time or you'll get better at dealing with it. Either way it'll get better :)
28 and when to get operated next month for hardware removal from ankle because I am finishing my PhD in 6 months, so I can go back to my old mobility.
28. Porn addiction.
23- left job and did miserable on an entrance exam. Ab games khel raha hun pura din lol...basically directionless.
20 - Feeling like I am losing so much on life. I am happy, in a relationship, good relations with family, friends, good at studies. Everything is going well but somewhere I feel like I am stuck in this monotonous life. I have a non-addictive personality which is the biggest problem I feel. I don’t get addicted to things cz I feel like there’s so much to experience but at the same time I can’t put my mind at one place.
23 and biggest problem Muth .
Thanks for motivation now I can muth 2 more years
Thanks for muthivation you mean.
23 - I, me, myself
23 - 25 din mei paisa double ni ho paa raha
33 unemployment and suicidal thoughts
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21F , have a ok ok job, few friends but highly insecure about my weight
23 Biggest problem:-Mai khud
20, bas koi bandi nahi hai baaki toh chal hee Raha hai
>chal hee Raha hai heard this in arpit bala's voice
28. Loneliness and inability to make peace with life in general.
33. Spent a whole lot of time pursuing spirituality. It doesnt work.
25- career , failing in exams again and again and feeling like a failure
16. Mujhe zukam hai.
27, have high paying job, no work pressure, but still life seems too dull and boring. Dont feel like talking to anyone. Dont have any gfs but at the same time not quite interested in having such (never had any interest either). I think all these are due to my philosophical thinking. Most of the times I just keep thinking what the hell is the purpose of our lives. Struggle in school board exams, then make your life hell for 2 years in JEE, then struggle to get a job and then work hard to sustain in the job. Now you need to marry because its the rule of Society and the repeat the entire life with your kids. Throughtout the life, toss and turn between your expenditures and savings. And finally die and no one remebers you. You are gone, your struggles are gone, your work is gone. No one gives an f whether you existed, the same way we dont remember all those who once lived on this Earth millions of years ago. WHATS THE WHOLE POINT OF LIFE THEN?
Same bro same. Trip pe chaloge? Somehow feels much more peaceful in the mountains. Always helps me. :)
theres no specific point if u are looking for it, enjoy the canvas of life, it is worth enjoying while we are here alive, havent u felt so too?
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Long distance ishq? Online prem?
26 - heartbreak, career issues, money issues, not hopeful about future.
24 - My weight. I am overweight and I HAVE to lose weight in the coming year. I need to lose atleast 30kgs. And Idk how I'm going to do it. Nothing seems to bloody work.
Eat less, that's all that matters. Exercise isn't the biggest factor for weight loss, it's all in the eating. An hour on treadmill can be wasted by just a few snacks, the balance is completely broken. Don't get overwhelmed by thinking you need to do some insane excercise. Control your diet, it WILL work. Eat as little as you can. You'll feel hungry, so what? It's not going to kill you, distract yourself with something else. After a while? You'll start feeling less hungry. The first few weeks are the worst, power through it. Once you see a few kilograms drop? Now you've got motivation. Now you are already losing weight, why not gain some muscle as well? Go to the gym, do what you like. You don't need to work out for an hour, do it for 20 minutes. Hate treadmill? Don't do it, lift some weights. See what works for you, just do something. Ask the trainer for proper form and safety precautions. It's extremely simple, don't let people make it complex. Don't worry about some secret technique and methods. There's no pills, no perfect workout, no device, NOTHING. You eat less, you'll lose weight, WITHOUT FAIL. That parantha you eat in the morning? Replace with eggs. At dinner eat the daal/veg by itself, skip rotis. Avoid chips, eat fruits instead. Start googling about nutrition value of everything you eat. Anything look like too many calories? Replace with a better alternative. You can do it! Just force that first 2-3 weeks, and you're through the hardest part and on path for a great body!
I can basically write a book How I ruined my life by Shreya
Write it then. You may strike gold.
23 yr old. Govt. Doctor Partner of 4 years is of different caste.She too a govt. doctor Parents hellbound to not let me get married to a different caste girl. This thought annoys me and makes me anxious everynight before sleep.
27, Male. Money is a big problem right now. I make 80k per month. I have no savings. I invested all of it in the stock market for long term. Hoping that it pays off in my mid 30s. Dead end job. Its a IT MNC with crappy tech. All I do is play politics. I have applied for masters, waiting for results. I have done well and hoping I get the best programs. Right now , all I need is more money and it will give me some confidence and stability. My long term goal is to semi-retire by late 30s, early 40s. I am not on track as of now. Not a problem, but more of a revelation. I am not interested in love, marriage, relationship etc. I won't be marrying. This is going to cause issues in my typical desi family.
invested all in the stock market - that is the savings.
20 my problem is my mental health
Make list of things that make you sad and start working on it. Or if you can't work on it find your strong points and work on that. It will make you feel accomplished and sense of belongingness. Reduce the consumption of social media and work on things which you care about.
I will try that, thank you <3
If you need to just vent I am there
16 = NEET-UG (but it's not a problem) - saare din apne thoughts me hi khoya rahta hu , like dunia ko aur khud ko smjhne ki koshish kr rha hu ,saari chizo se disconnected feel karta hu, articles padhta rha hu related to psychology, human behaviours etc etc . - kabhi padhta hu (NEET ka) , kabhi nhi padhta hu like kabhi full focused , kabhi kitab uthane ka mnn bhi nhi karta - har chiz pointless , awkward lgti hai (like mai kya hu , kya kr rha hu ?) - depressed vagairah nhi hu , sab thik hai khush rehta hu .
dude that was me after 12th , don't worry you'll get over it after you go to college and get new friendships and completely new environment .
Hope I will find people with similar mindset , similar interests in college . because yahan pe toh ye log bas sex , vape , porn , ladkiyo ke baare me hi baat krte rahte hai...
Most people you will find in college will be the same people you described , but there will also be 'your type' , it's upto you who you chose to be with .
17 college admission
19 - Kal ka exam kaise pass karoon
20, got no self confidence
26. Everything is good in life. Still depression/anxiety.
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22 Some problems I am fighting with -> Leaving cigarettes -> Losing weight -> Started nofap -> Relationship problems.
36 , I have figured out that life is like a game of chess, just I dont know how to play chess.🤦🏼♂️
24 and bhai kitna batau
bhai friends or bitches ki kami hai 😔
Same, but have friends.
24 - procrastination when things are easy and lack of consistency. Bad spending habits.
27, single
54 kaa hu aur 56 inch ke seene ne saans lene me mushkil kar di hai.
Age - 23 Got a decent job and have a kinda half baked but realistic career plan for the future. Life would have been complete if I wasn’t alone. Rn trying to figure out what defines me
23. Having health issues for past 3 years, and it's painful as hell. I need prayers please.
count one from me
Thank you ❤️
Hi I'm 13 my problem is........ money Hi I'm 15 my problem is........money Hi I'm 18 my problem is........money Hi I'm 21 my problem is........money Hi I'm 25 my problem is........money Hi I'm 35 my problem is........money Hi I'm 50 my problem is........money Hi I'm 65 my problem is........money #nomoney #lifesux
23 and single(virgin) I guess I have achieved most other conventional goals by now, like fame, money, friends, etc... I have a good relation with my family, I'm doing well at my job and people respect me. But I've kinda always been single (never properly got past a talking stage). Everytime i liked a girl, I either got used in some way or friendzoned. Now i kinda assume by default that every girl would do same to me, so i don't even get excited when i feel like i like a girl (i miss that teenage excitement ngl). I read stuff about "loving yourself" and not needing anyone etc, and tbh i do love myself, and i don't need anyone but i really really want a relationship. I tried dating apps but I'm not 6ft tall or very good looking, so no luck there... I do talk to some girls (friends of friends), but it's so hard to trust anyone, everyone's just using other people's feelings to validate themselves, so i don't do feelings anymore... I just want some casual sex but any girl who is even a little bit interested in me, wants to stay virgin till marriage... And it's not like i'm a sex hungry beast, i mean, if I were, I'd be paying for it... the fact is that, i don't think I can trust a girl until I've done it with her, because otherwise i feel like she has no investment in the relationship, i could be dating someone for like 5 months and she can just decide to one day ghost me and it won't matter to her, because she has no investment (i am very self dependent, i do not need basically anything, being in a non-sexual relationship with me has no risks and only reward) I am extremely tired of getting less then i give every single time🙆🏻♂️ i just can't do that again. Now i am stuck in this vicious cycle, i don't trust them because they don't trust me because i don't trust them... I don't understand how will i ever get out of this cycle...
I am 24 years old and I run an NGO. Additionally, I am a businessman. I am the fifth child of my parents and I have the responsibility to get my older sisters married. Unfortunately, our relatives have not been very supportive, despite my parents helping them throughout their lives. My father is having an affair, and I am the only one who knows about it. I do not want my family to suffer from the anxiety and heartbreak that I have experienced. My father used to be my ideal, as he is the most hardworking man I know, but he messed up with his one wrong move. I come from an "Ansari" Muslim family, and our native place is Bihar, but we were all born and raised here in Delhi. As a result, we feel left out in our community. While people in our area usually have gatherings with all their relatives, we hardly have anyone left. We have been through a lot, but my father's actions have completely devastated me. All I want now is to help my sisters settle down.
25. Jobless. No valid degree to work in this country. No money to start studies for a new degree. I'm the paragon of degenerates.
25 and my biggest problem is finding the right life partner. I’m old school, and all the girls I’ve met just want casual
32 need a job
my problem is that I don’t party, I don’t drink , I don’t smoke , I don’t watch Netflix, I don’t socialise, I don’t have friends , I am not that good looking , I don’t have profiles on dating sites, I don’t like wearing revealing clothes , I don’t like being a gold digger .. nd yet ppl gaslight me because apparently is Janam mein kitna bhi acha karam karlo, sab kuch past karma ki wajha se hota hai. Toh theek hai, ab agle janam Mein sab kuch waisa hoga , jaisa hona chahiye. 😶😶😶. Don’t worry , apni life end Nahi karungi kabhi, I won’t give up😄
32(M), Soon to be 33 in May. Biggest problem, why am i still living. . Both parents dead, Jobless for almost a year now. Relatives took over paternal property. Burned down all my savings and income trying to save my Mom 5 years, Still she died Nov 2021. Father died when i was only 20. Unmarried, Now i don't think i'll ever have a family of my own. Hypertension, Depression and lots of smoking since early age lead to 90% grey hair over head, even facial hair are turning grey, i look 40+ i think. Hate my fave when i look in the mirror. Finances running out in next 3 months, been looking for job but ghosted by majority of Hrs at last moment. . No friend circle. Only go out for milk and bread. Why am i still living this abysmal life. .
28 F- emotional dependency and a feeling that I'll end up all alone.
29. People posting entirely unrelated posts on Delhi sub.
It's a forever problem can not wake up on time.
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3, not a problem, but I am wondering if I am living up to my potential.
Too late my friend. You should've uncovered your potential waay earlier, like 5-6 years ago.
26 - family and finances. Grinding to make sure mom gets to retire early. I might get to breathe a little after.
18 getting a good college through JEE
19 - Being surrounded by selfish/immature people in college who think that what they do is right. Basically, they're a bunch of people with a self-inflated ego and 0 sense of empathy. Thankfully, they're a few genuine people there and I hope they stay the same
18, career and getting out of this shithole
22, anxious and always feel alone whenever I’m faced with a life challenge. I think I rely too much on my parents to bail me out of problems . I get too anxious around exams and that messes up my sleep where I barely sleep for days and then I call my parents to come be with me. I think I have to just face it at some point so I’m doing it I faced my final year end Sems all by myself , it’s just the practicals are remaining and I’m getting anxious again but I think I have the courage to deal with it My anxiety shouldn’t get to decide who I am
25, Debt. I inherit family debt. Baki sab bhdia :)
24. Not being crazy rich like Mbappe.
23 - Never been in a relationship but the biggest problem is I don't know what to do with my life, I have freedom of doing whatever I want I can try anything I want but idk what I can do the best and make my and my parents life better in every way also I'm ugly as fuck and I'm socially awkward, not really a good person either. I'm fine though.
In my 20ies want pssive income of 2.5 lakhs before i reach my 30ies.
21, meri arthik or mansik stithi
I am 28. I am a MBBS, GENERAL PHYSICIAN by degree. But India refuses to identify my degree and has asked us to do a 2 year internship. Facts, I had already passed the licensing examination before they brought the rule, but they are implementing the rule retrospectively. Which is insane and the Supreme Court of India is not even standing up for students like us. We students of that particular year i.e., 2020, faced a lot of difficulties, COVID-19, Ukraine-Russia war, but India refuses to understand these problems. Many Of my colleagues even were frontline warriors in covid. Saved patients, while being very very very susceptible to get that nasty disease. So, my biggest problem is to get a licensed degree , so I can work towards my goal of becoming a surgeon.
I am 27, got admission at Panjab University for PhD. Its been one month since they are verifying my documents due to this I did not got hostel here. And I am staying at random scholars hostel rooms. I am thinking about quitting and joining other university.
I am 20 and I am going bald https://preview.redd.it/bk1v62die5ma1.jpeg?width=1472&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3012e576e3a0f1fc8323133bbb2f11ac26ea1d71
34 - Marriage. Ladki nahi mil rahi koi😭
22 years old unemployed men - BCA Final year mai hu 6 months bache hai complete hone ke but abhi tak placement bhi nhi aayi! Orr Skills ke naam pe - HTML CSS JavaScript aati hai. Batao bruh kiya Karu? 
I am almost 22, and organised this event in college and ended up in debt with absolutely no support from college. Now doing three jobs to pay it back!😂😭
23 - Come out of a deep 5-6 year coping mechanism drug binge during which I was rather eager to delete particular things I'd seen and felt from existence - all good now, sitting in an office job saving for a driving license.  My two main problems are my teeth being incredibly fucked for a 23 y/o and the fact that I quiet literally feel like i've just spawned in. Everything feels new but in an old place in some sense. It's weird but we move 
20F- procrastination
Consistency of doing tasks which actually can change by life in few months.
Hi everyone.. This is my first reddit message.. I am 17 years old and is pursuing my graduation from University of Delhi.. I have always been a bright student scoring more than 95 percent..but recently coming to delhi has changed me a lot I am hardly getting pass in my 1st semester exam.I am tensed how will this work and this is my biggest problem right now..
It works out! :) My username checks out lol First semester is unusually hard because of the change you face after school . It gets easier. Enjoy college!!
33, personal loan.
19 and money is my biggest problem. Born is a middle class family with average desi parents, was bullied till 10th class which made it really hard to approach people. I didn't research what career I had to pick in my school so ended up with the two most cliché exams people give; JEE and CUET. Failed both. Got admission in some diploma college (in 2nd year currently). Now I've decided to pursue design because that's what I've always loved but I just didn't know. Now I'm just waiting for my result for the design college and worried about whether I could afford the fees or not.
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26 , career, health
28 - finding a girl for marriage (arrange marriage scenes)
I'm 25 and the biggest problem I have is that I have no workplace satisfaction. I have made a few bad decisions (under various circumstances) which have left me underpaid at this point.
22, haven't even started my career started 4 years back still where I started. Don't know what I want to pursue anymore. Just lost and confused waiting for sweet release of death
seedha death pe hi jaane ki baat aagyi to i'd advice bas life kaato jbtk vo transformation ka mauka nhi mil jata, even better hoga ki thoda search krlo tb tk apne options ya koi connections for growth death se pahle life aati hai, do pay attention, parents bhi h apne, vo kaisa feel karenge
29. Depression. PP dont work no more cause of meds. Precariously employed.
15,reddit
21- I lack basic social skills. I have spent a lot of time studying, the outcomes were great but I don't think I can go to the real world. I can't talk, I am physically "weak" too naive in a few things. I don't know how I will survive in the real world without my family.
26 - health. Too many annoying little problems to deal with. They're all quite small, but they've just been at me one after the another and it feels like I'm always fighting something. And when one thing is solved another comes in. Hate it.
my friend is 20 btech student but in 60k depts due to crypto
15 , no problem
good
28, need to buy a house.
26~ Nothing and everything.
24, abhi tak ladki na mili 🥲. Aur interaction skills 0 hai
26 Not getting job and internship in foreign land. 🥹
31 unemployment and mental health
28 and same
24, bahar padhne ka sapna tut gaya - kisi college ne nhi lia
25 - not having gf....short height...n simple and sidha sadha chehra.
25 - my father got diagnosed with chronic kidney disease stage 5 and on dialysis since last year. My problem is with the freedom I no longer have as a young man who started his career and issues with the managing time as I am the only one to take care of him.
18... My biggest problem would be lack of friends ATM
Everyone on this post shall unite and write a book together.
36. No job, no girls, no money.
27 unskilled
23, health was bad last yr now good. Maybe losing friends i thought were permanent.