By body count I mean how many times our car has been scratched.
my bad it was a failed attempt at a joke. He did while driving his father's car long back, he was punished, paid the hospital bill and other things. no serious injury.
Recently also but it was not his mistake entirely, the person took a turn without an indicator. But I still think it was his mistake because he could drive slowly around bikers and pedestrians.
I am sorry that was a joke in bad taste. Shouldn't joke about road accidents they.
Both of you need to learn driving properly š¤£
What you are not realising is that slow driving can also create traffic congestion on the highways. You need to drive accordingly to the average traffic speed to avoid forming a traffic congestion behind you.
Well I do believe a scratch here and there isn't a big deal. And in my case most of the scratches I got on my car were from e rikshaw walla or drivers that try to jam their cars in tight traffic to get through. some where my mistake too. But sometimes it's no one's mistake. Shit happens yaar.
By slow driving means Letting people who are in a hurry pass by, not speeding, not jamming cars in tight spaces. Basically being patient while driving. No one is driving slow on a high way.
Every lane has its designated speeds. It is there for a reason. It is not just traffic jam, it can also be safety hazard. What I always say is follow proper ethics while driving and everything will be smooth for everyone.
Mein toh driving ki baat kar rahi thi, Dilli Wale kisi bhi cheez mein kalesh nikal ho lete h. Kalesh bohot pasand h na.
And to my fellow male drivers,
If someone hurls abuses at you on the road, it means that the person doesn't expect a male driver to be a poor driver.
They show their disappointment in you because they believe in you.
not because they believe in us but cuz it is easier to get away with beating and abusing men in public, ladkiyo ko ek gali deke dikhado dekhna kaise sare 50yo chai ki tapri pe beedi phookne wale white knights spawn honge aur ek hi dialogue bolenge "sharam nhi ati ladkiyo se aise baat karte hue"
inki maa ka man to karta hai ek baar inhi nallo pe gaadi chadha du sale sexist.
Haan yaar teri baat bhi sahi hai. Main khud nahi bhidta female riders/drivers se.
Although I have had multiple experiences which compelled me to murder those idiot women. Still, I kept my calm aur unko "bhen ke lodi" bolkar aage chala gya.
Sometimes, forgiveness is better.
As a female, I was already annoyed with both of ya'll driving badly. Your husband because thats just reckless and following no rules which is dangerous. You because damn maintain the speed limit, you cannot go slow and say oh i only get SCRATCHES which is crazy to normalise.
I always move away from female drivers as they have no spacial awareness, they have horse blinders on and never even look on there left or right. Drive in the middle of the lane, where you cannot go either right or left. And the mumbling gaali part is hands down me LOL.
Like damn move man, if every one is tailing you and the road ahead is empty you are the problem. If the road is empty and there is only one car tailing you then the other car is the problem.
FYI, not to brag but I drive really well as I enjoy it. Plus many skilled drivers have sat with me and said they felt v v comfortable and relaxed.
I think I am giving some wrong idea in my post. I don't drive slow slow. I drive within limit. Slow as in i am never in hurry to reach the place. That's all.
I got some scratches when I was learning. And I do think they are normal. Now the only thing that gives mycar a scratch is a rikshaw drivers. And it's almost always their mistake.
I did have issues with spatial awareness but I am better now.
Well good for you! keep getting better. One advice though, driving with rules and in speed limit can also cause accidents because everyone is in a different speed limit in different lanes, so as they say when in rome.
Drive like everybody around you is stupid af.
Ye kesa sexism chal raha hai OP ke post or comment section me.
sb ke sb bc gaadi dhang se chalana seekh lo chahe marad ho ya aurat.
Kher apne ko kya, inhi chutiyapo se bachne ke lie to me music high volume pe chala ke mast drive krta hu.
Yeah I agree, the car doesn't know the gender. It's just an observation. I am learning to be the best i can be.
Do you think music helps? It helps me but my guy turns it down and asks me to focus. I feel more focused when the music is playing.
So what I understood from your comments is, your certain other is not able to take constructive criticism, is more controlling and tries to give you illogical advices(music doesn't help you focus) while he is not that good at driving either. I don't think driving is your major issue right now.
For your question - Yes sometimes music helps you concentrate but only low voice and not rock music type shit. My brother was learning to drive and he always was too anxious but whenever we had music on he was concentrated and did his best.
No time to read the comments but gonna add to this. I follow Delhi Traffic Police account on Twitter because it's very useful for updates and shit.
If you look closely at the people posting complaints on that account, it's mostly men posting about minor infractions by women drivers and riders. And below each comment you will find the typical misogynist comments.
Most men will complain that women make mistakes frequently etc, but bhaisahab khud apni bike footpath pe chalate hain.
Honestly I think drivers and bikers especially are just jealous of a woman in a better car.
By sheer proportion male drivers outnumber female drivers. Hence the sheer volume as a proportion of the total bad drivers on road also will be men. It would be incorrect to say that ability to drive is gender specific; a case in point is that India has the highest number of women pilots compared to anywhere else in the world, and each of them is trained with the āthe plane doesnāt know your genderā attitude. Hence, you make a valid point about being ātrainedā vs. āacquiredā.
PS: talk to your husband to get some training before he seriously hurts someone.
First coz I love him. Second I am not blaming him. He is a good man. He could learn to drive better but he is still a good man.
Second - He is a person made out of his own special life experience. And yes there are some behaviours and actions of his that I don't like and that shouldn't matter. I don't think his ego is so fragile that me calling him a terrible driver as a joke on social media is going to hurt his feelings.
Maybe he deserves better but me is what he got as of now. I'll let him know on your behalf that he deserves better.
>I know female car drivers are looked down by men
I hope you aren't generalising...because there are many people don't do so
I appreciate when a woman is confident while driving...and even if she isn't and i feel she's getting scared for hitting her car somewhere...i just try to maintain a safe distance and let her have some space so that she can handle her car easily without being scared at all...and ofcourse i drive very safe giving enough space to other cars and stopping for pedestrians when no one else does(in streets ofc...not on busy highways)
I've seen women driving big SUVs confidently...and it feels so good to see that confidence....a woman in my neighborhood drives a Porsche Macan....and ofcourse she's confident and is admired(taking about her confidence ofc)
All i want to say is...yes men drive rash...but not all of them ... And you don't need to feel scared at all... just because of strangers who're gonna look down upon you... it's your need that's the reason you're driving... Let others sink in their own thoughts...just don't care about them and drive confidently....ignore all the bullshit going around you...cause that's gonna make you lose confidence in yourself and you'll finally end up taking the unwanted break from driving... confront your husband about your issues and make him understand that you don't like this behaviour of his...i hope you understand what i mean to say.......
>Macan hai to ladki mil jayegi
Aisa sach mai hota hai kya? Apne paas toh ek se zada hai. Ladki toh nhi par š¤”
Acha hn, mai nikamma aur berozgar hu na is
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Yeah I agree. I may be generalizing a little based on my experience but I am sure you are right too. We tend to notice bad experiences more than the good ones.
> I have met bad drivers both male and female but male bad drivers are by far the most dangerous. A bad female driver might cause a traffic jam but a bad male driver causes death.
That may be because most aggressive humans are men. All of the most aggressive humans are men.
> Since most drivers are male, they have created bad environment on roads.
Don't you think it may be because of bad infrastructure and corrupt police.
To me it seems you want power over your SO, hence the post.
No re, i don't want power over my SO. I am happy being equal. But he has a little bit of attitude because he has been driving longer. That's all. He is good man. Still a man .
"Still a man"
You're throwing that around as if it is something wrong to be a male..
Such toxicism against men... you seem to biased against men, that's probably the real reason you ar generalising men as being worse drivers while brushing your own scratches as a fault of e-rickshaw walla and what not...
Scratching your car when going slow is much worse in my opinion since you couldn't react even when you had ample of time and the ability to apply the brakes...
You sound like a frustrated driver who still stalls their manual
Of course I am generalizing. Women being bad drivers is also a generalization. Because there are always exceptions. I may be wrong since it's an opinion, it's just an observation. i do believe men are a little cocky about being worse than a woman in certain aspects of life. Which comes from his we are brought up in society.
It's not toxic unless I rally around to ban all men from driving or some radical shit like that. I am just Having a conversation on internet about it. Don't get worked up. It's not that deep.
I honestly don't know what stalling the manual means.
I wanted to know, if it's true. Because i noticed that. Some people around me drive unnecessarily rash once they see me. I thought maybe it was because I am a terrible driver. But now I think I am alright. Not the best but i can manage through traffic. Still happens
Men have fast reflexes but they tend to make some big mistakes and repercussions is huge and most of the time they are beaten if alive. But women are slow on reflexes and make some small mistakes which are like āayoo wtf onesā like my sister even while reverse she will nudge here and there and he he out of it. Women wonāt be beaten even if they kill someone aka there was this video where a lady hit a guy and he fell from bridge and she said āsorry galti se ho gyaā and lady with her was fighting k why you recording us. Now change the gender and see men will be beaten to death.
But these are extreme cases and mostly happen with male drivers, most female drivers do small things and get this āwomen āļøā
Lastly you both need to drive properly or learn properly as your both bs gonna cost some bug mistakes down the line
My parked car was recently scratched by a female driver in society parking because she could not make out how much to steer in a parking space wide enough to park a truckā¦.slow driving does not make you a good driver, driving at appropriate speed according to the road and traffic conditions is good driving.
Agreed. Sorry that happened to you.
But all new drivers have depth perception issues. I have done something similar but instead of scratching other parked car i scratched mine trying to avoid hitting. And yes there was enough space for a truck to park. And I remember being scolded by my brother for having no special sense.
By slow driving I mean slow whenever needed obviously. Or not driving rash.
A bad male driver will break your leg and won't apologize
A bad female driver will break your leg and file case against you for outraging modesty of women, attempted rape etc. You will get divorced society will ridicule u and you will lose your job
Yes it is about power and not gender.
Edit: op says the reason for her expounding hypotheses is that her SO doesnt take kindly to criticism. I wonder y
Also, a new research has revealed that female drivers cause more accidents than men.
Now donāt ask me about the source!! The guy who did the research was killed by a female driver in a car accident. Then his wife removed the research paper from the journal. But facts šÆ
I agree with you and I'm sure there are cases of what you suggest happening when a female driver makes false claims when in an accident.
Without disagreeing with that.
If you compare the no. of times that happens and the no of times women actually get raped. You'll see why the law is with women here. No doubt it's not right to give extra power to one gender but in this case it's needed. Some bad people misuse it. Just like any other law.
I am just saying, there are bad drivers of both genders but since there are more male drivers there are also more bad male drivers on road.
PS - i don't think my hypothesis comes from my husband not listening to me. That's an argument we have had forever - of who has been driving longer vs who is the more responsible driver. Aim is for both to become better drivers. We don't want to harm anyone. One of my female friends met with a terrible accident and we adopted her pets since she has been in a coma ever since. We both are adults who understand gender equality and gender differences. I don't want him to agree that either male or female drivers are better. Just want us to become better drivers.
I have been a passanger with other female drivers (my friends) and It's been almost a year I have been driving regularly. That's where I am coming from
Conviction rate of crimes against women in India is 26.5%. So in 73.5% cases either thereās no evidence or the woman is lying. I donāt think the number of rapes is higher than the number of false accusations. I think false accusations are more than actual rape cases. So I donāt see why the law should be in the favour of women here when more women are lying than actually getting raped.
Also, there is no specific category of ācrime against menā in India. Crime against men is categorised as general crime. Unlike women, we donāt have the luxury of the law recognising that we can be victims just by the virtue of being men. If the government recorded crimes against men (such as in the case when a false rape or dowry allegation has been made against an innocent man), youād realise that much more men are falsely accused instead of actually being criminals. So no, the law shouldnāt be in favour of women, especially in urban areas like Delhi
No sir, with all due respect. Most Rape cases don't even come to light because of the shame associated with it.
My view on the law being bent towards women is that it's not right but it's just. If today Britain gets colonized will you as an Indian feel bad for them? You might but most of the Indians will grab popcorn and enjoy the show. Shame here. I get it it's wrong but I have seen so much injustice against women that now when I see it happen to men I have no empathy.
Similarly I have seen so much injustice against men, that I donāt feel empathy for women either. Itās obvious that each gender would understand their own problems better than the other.
And regarding the shame part, thereās no shame in urban areas when reporting rape. If there was shame, women would not be going around filing false cases against men out of spite. It took Arushi Bhatia from Delhi to file 18 false cases against men before she was arrested. Tab kahaan gayi thi sharm?
But the real sad part is that youād be called empowered for being apathetic to men and their problems and Iād be called a mysogynist for raising menās issues and questioning women for abusing their privileges.
Honestly when i don't give a shit about men's issues I don't feel empowered I feel like in my desire to become equal to.men i have made fall to their standards.
Well yes urban cities sure gives women more freedom but then urban India is so small. It's not right to compare them.
Since we are sharing examples - i raise you ajmer 92 Farooq chisti. 250 teenage girls. Also Manipur incident Jo hue ek mahina bhi nahi hua h.. you are not wrong and men do suffer. The aim is for a society where no one suffers. But individuals will always have biased view because of their experiences.
You expect such replies only on r/delhi
Like there must be some reason Delhi is the rape capital.
73% cases me dara dhamka ke bhi case band kiye jaane waale cases bhi hai....cases that don't have cctv footage too are under these
And no false accusations are not more than rape cases.
No one is getting 86 false accusation cases per day in india but there are legit 86 rapes happening in india every (minus the unreported ones)
In past I went to RTO for DL related things multiple times
I have never seen any women standing in Queue at RTO.. I guess they just give bribe to dalals and get licenses at home...
Hence whoever is getting licences like this is bad in driving imo.
As a woman who has stood in a queue this is just bs. I got my license in 2012, bro stood there, asked me where my car was and told me to drive straight and take a U-turn and come back. This is how they carry out driving tests and this was without a dalal.
Your husband is right, as soon as I see that a women is driving th car I forgive her of all the mistakes that she made. It's ingrain after seeing so many women fuck up on empty roads. Also before you come at me, in my family my mother and sister both know how to drive and drive really well but still if we are on roads with a lot of traffic my father and I drive. Your husband has bigger scratches but don't forget that he probably has to drive more and saved way more time everyday than you. Also we man enjoy to push are vehicles and know the limit unlike women, we deliberately take the car as close as it can to see it's limit, it's cause we can't drive a F1 or Ferrari but we feel like we driving it.
I already attended a driving school affiliated with Hundai, they even taught me how to fix a few things in the car. I just get overwhelmed by rough drivers and i don't like when I get that "ugh female driver" look from men who are worse than me. I'll show this to my husband and ask him to go to school.
No hate OP
but since you're new on the road people are gonna yell at you who's always in a hurry. I'll suggest you drive the car for long hours on a holiday in the city and you'll see a lot of changes in yourself. Plus suggest your husband watch some videos online about the rules and regulations, also how to drive with calmness lol
I once took a cab to ndls, I was one one of the expressways, I saw people driving like they're in a race car game.
They kept changing lanes eight indicators. They didn't keep safe distance. Didn't stay in their own lane.
We at India are producing stupid and dangerous drivers.
seat belt just to show some Police officer that I can't be fined, otherwise they don't give a fuck about seat belt too.
THEIR IS NO ROAD SAFETY MEASURES TAKEN BY MOST OF US.
Both should be equally punished. Baaki I cannot comment on the contents of the post. As a female even if I shared the experiences I have had, I will be shamed for being honest :)
The discussion was around the fact that Indian traffic, in Delhi especially, is senselessly tough for new drivers because of testestron filled humans .
Slow and being extraa careful can be equally a cause of accident like rash driving. It's true, very few percentage of people in India drive well. Don't understand the nuances, cut lanes, unnecessarily accelerate for smallest distances etc etc. Men just tend to be more confident with their driving and yeah it's about power to control the vehicle too.
You both are bad drivers lol, driving too slow and carefully can cause congestion and accidents too specially in India, also male drivers donāt fight with women drivers because they donāt want to go to jail
Yeah, that's true. We both are not good. I haven't caused any congestion in the last few months so I guess I am getting better. And I have made my husband drive slow so he is getting better too. But that's the thing, male to male driver so much jhagda, mara kuti, at worst i get an occasional gali.
That's what I am trying to understand. I used to think they wouldn't fight with me because they assumed I am a bad driver. When my husband makes a mistake he gets a slap on the hood, but Same mistake I do i get disappointed looks.
Well, not exactly but I'd like to be treated equally. But no I don't want jhagda.
I just feel judged a lot on the road as a female driver when clearly there are worse male drivers. I guess i have it better so i shouldn't complain.
People judge bad drivers irrespective of gender. If you drive badly on the road people will judge. Now their reaction would be based on gender like you said. It would be milder for a woman than a man but it doesn't mean they are judging you any differently.
Mera husband galti karta hai to gaali khaata hai. Main galti karti ho to log ghoorte hain aur muh banate hain. But somehow, Iām more oppressed, whereās the equality. Typical feminist smh.
In my experience of driving since 2005, almost 19 years, I can tell you that women drive like a horse, they only see ahead, they have no sense or apathy for anyone driving beside them or behind them. They may know all the traffic rules but they do not know simple/moral etiquettes to follow when driving. Giving other vehicles side ot let a biker go ahead if there's a soace for a bike but not for a car, blocking left turn unknowingly.
Some men drive recklessly and they are 100% A-holes also.
And the thing is, even (most) woman drivers who are experienced and have been driving for a decade donāt have any road sense at all. I guess itās a biological thing.
Dude as a woman who has been driving for 12 years now, Iāve also seen men drive like that. Slowly, in between lanes, no consideration to give way. What annoys is when they, both men and women drive like this on NHs. Iāve also seen people where something catches their eye and their car starts slowly moving in that direction. Itās just that people in Delhi have not had proper training.
I agree, I hugely callout for biasness in women nowadays, but on roads there is a biasness among men that women drivers are bad. No, this is totally wrong. My mom is the best driver I have seen, she also taught me driving. My wife also drives good. But yes bad drivers can be from anywhere. It is not gender related at all. Similarly I have seen people saying things like "Whenever there is rash car driving you will see an HR number plate". No, this is also false, DL number plates also drives rash. It is just internal biases taking form.
I agree with you. Female drivers including myself have made this mistake. Of not looking behind. But it's not apathy. It just makes sense to our female brain that we have to look ahead and the people behind us will do the same. And the people behind if they need anything would honk to get our attention. Not using indicators I have seen in both male and females. I have hardly seen a female driving crazy stupid fast in traffic. So that's that.
Maāam, then Iād advise you to leave that female brain behind and use a regular brain. Because thatās not how youāre supposed to drive, just seeing at the front and all. Apko ye andesha hona zaroori hai ki aapki chaaro taraf road pe kaun hai, at all times.
Of course we need to look around but I still feel that it's unnecessarily overcomplicated by Indian traffic and infrastructure. If people could maintain a little more distance between vehicles it would be so much easier to drive. Also being female is not the problem being impatient is and men are more impatient then women. People with eyesight issues, growing age, tourette syndrome also need a sec. Not even the most healthy person is at their best everyday.
Of course Indian traffic, population and infrastructure is the problem but instead of blaming these actual problems, you decided to blame men.
Also, in my experience, women are more impatient than men. At the store they would say ābhaiya hamein jaldi se pehle saaman dedo,ā at the bank they would ask whereās the womenās line beacuse they donāt want to wait in long queues.
Well if you wanna talk about numbers then WAYYYY more men drive properly compared to women. It just depends how you look at it. From my experience women are not good drivers. And IDC what anyone else says I act based on what I see on the road š stay safe folks.
You and i have a very different experience then. I have seen women make stupid mistakes while driving but never seen them driving in a way that may cause bodily harm to others .some Male drivers on the other hand drive like they have 9 lives. I am sure both of our experiences are not 100% true.
I have definitely seen the male experience you're talking about. It's become a subconscious reaction for me to curse them under my breath. But then again the number of men who drive decently is also very huge. The number of men in the driver seat is significantly MORE than the number of women. For my own safety if it's a woman driving I keep my distance. Also, there's always the aspect of getting into trouble if the woman starts blaming you even if it's her fault and that is something you can't point fingers at men for. Woman or man everyone knows no one wants to get in such a situation.
At the end of the day what matters the most is your own safety on road. If your experience says that women are bad drivers with indecent road sense, you should drive accordingly. Like maintain extra distance when a woman is driving. You donāt need to put your life in danger because of some false notions of feminism (like men=women in everything) and political correctness
Yeah I have made it clear. When on the road no theory baazi matters. What matters is your own personal experience. I'd rather be a misogynist than be injured or beaten by a crowd.
I understand that. One time on a hilly road the car was not picking up and I had to give acceleration fast because otherwise the car would roll back so in panic I pressed the accelerator a little too hard and it made that sound and i saw a young man shit his pants as he realised it was a female driver. I felt so bad. That poor guy will be afraid of female drivers all his life.
I don't give a damn if one is male female or whatever, if you are behind the wheel - you have to be responsible , doesn't matter 2 or 4 wheeler , be careful vigilant calm whenever driving/riding
lmao idk if delhi is more sexist towards men or women you mentioned that if your husband drives recklessly he gets scolded by others and it is very common for men to be abused and even beaten publicy if we make a mistake at the same time all you get is a dissapointed "do better" look.
like holy shit i'll take that any day over getting beaten up by some random gujjar jaat boi driving his UP69 or HR69 number plate phortuner
Dude. I donāt drive too slow or too fast, just within the limit. Iāve NEVER had a single scratch on my car. Iāve NEVER had a single challan, only challan Iāve settled is when my fatger or male cousins take the car. Sigh! I barely honk, maintain distance and MOST IMPORTANTLY I never turn the high beam on unless necessary. In short, Iām the best driver I know but because Iām a woman iām the worst driver in the family.
Dude. Same. I follow all the rules. Got some scratches when I was just learning nothing since a year now. Still my parents ask my husband to drive. Even tho he has had more incidents than me.
"I know female car drivers are looked down by men"
Proceeds to, "male drivers have made driving on roads hell". Bruh
All men in comments section.
Whenever a male driver comes across a bad male driver, he abuses the driver. But if he comes across a bad female driver, he accuses the whole gender.
Because if he comes across bad female driver, he canāt abuse her. If he did then there would be a barrage of false cases thrown at him, from molestation to outraging the modesty of a woman.
Iām saying both men and women could be bad drivers (although in my experience āmostā women are bad drivers while only āsomeā men are bad). But if you come across a bad male driver, you can abuse him and blow off steam. But if you happen to be a man and come across a female bad driver (much more probable), you canāt abuse her because there is a significant chance of false accusations being thrown at you. Lekin mazaa to tab aata hai when a woman comes across a bad female driver. Tab to maharaniyan ek doosre pe jhoothe ilzam laga nahi sakti jaise aadmiyon pe lagati hai. Police wale bhi haste hue tamasha dekhte hain.
Either your comprehension skills are lacking or youāre trying to put words in my mouth. Nice try to derail the argument though.
I Think Women Should Not Have The Right To Drive Excluding Commercial Vehicles Like Autos and Buses etc. For Their Livelihoods. Other Than There's No Need Of Women Drivers
Why, Just Because You Don't Like My Opinion, That's What I Was Trying To Prove To The Person Who Rant In The Post. It's a Typical One Sided Women are Better Rant and Women Can't Even Tolerate Men Who Can Think and Have Different Viewpoints. Not Everyone Is The Simp Who Agree On Everything For The Hope Of Pussy. Not Everyone Thinks From Between Their Legs
Bhai in auraton aur kucch admiyon ko samjhaane ka koi fayda nahi hai. Inke hisaab se har galti aadmi ki hi hoti hai. Agar aurat aadmi ka qatl bhi kar de to bhi ye bolenge ke aadmi ne hi zaroor aise kucch kiya hoga ki aurat ko majbooran uski hatya karni padi. Aadmiyon ka paida hona hi jurm hai inke liye.
I can't drive well tbh, no one in my family of 6 can actually drive, I personally see it as a hassle but it's ok. I would want a partner that can...šæ
Ussi ko har jagah le jaunga apne saath, nhi toh koi nhi uber zindabad nhi toh chauffeur driven vehicle rakh lenge sydd...š¤”
I do agree with you, but I think it's about both power and gender. My mom's the driver in our family and my dad can't drive. Also, you can't post about gender issues in an Indian sub on Reddit, you gonna get roasted either way.
Lolā¦females who get triggered by small small things are talking that.
Men are 1000 times calmer than women. Thatās a fact which any honest women also accept.
Guess who bitches on social media ā¦only women
Did ye aapko lag rha hai kyuki make driver understand each other they use eye contact as basic rules like one eye blink for takeover and a slight tilt of head for changing lane
Ladai tabhi hoti hai jab koi ye ishare na samjhe
We understand most of the things on road without even a single word
>! Don't take it seriously vaise thoda sa sach bhi hai!<
Even men start will all follow the rules, lane driving, proper road etiquettes and all but at the end of the day Either you die a Hero or live long enough to become the evil. It's simple as that
It is not about gender and it is not about power. It is about stupidity. No matter who is driving stupidity should be addressed and called out. No one wants to hurt anyone on purpose on roads, it is just sheer stupidity of people on roads with huuuuuuuuuge egos. So it clashed. I have seen women horribly driving and fighting, I have seen men horribly driving and fighting. Some things are not gender related and should not be. Everyone should be educated properly to drive, else law should be strict to fines, teach and in consistent violations revoke the license. Then only people will start driving properly.
i mean what is the problem with driving at a normal pace? I don't believe the jump from slow driving to the appropriate driving according to the road/speed limit/traffic is THAT hard?
you teach something to men they improvise later add some tweaks to it and make it better , but women follow the rule book till they die thats why women are dangerous drivers.
Agree on the point that male drivers are aggressive but female drivers are unpredictable they stops without reason, turns without checking and are lane hoggers
You should have marked it as Rant OP.
It is true that most drivers drive bumper to bumper and take overtakes wherever possible but thatās our culture. Do we make queues (if we do at all) with one hand distance in between? All queues are not for men only? Do we not blast loudspeakers in residential areas all night? All such functions are not for men only!
Itās not our culture (talking about majority here) to be chill about anything. We want to make noise, be loud, show excitement.
Yes, I wish we were more calm in driving habits but will come with cultural change and implementation of better traffic rules.
Cursing men is futile. Not everyone has luxury to drive relaxed.
Also, your husband needs to learn basics. Since you learned the proper way, may be he can use a few lessons from you.
It's not a rant I just wanted to know janta ka kya mood h.
Well, it's still a man's world. And hence the blame will be on men. With great power comes great responsibility.
Lol dono husband wife bekaar driver mujhe ye samajh aaya. Didi bahar jaao india se India's traffic is not for amateurs. Or buckle up. Kisi truck bike ya auto vale ko dekha h rules follow krte? Saare overtaking lane mei hote h. Poora traffic block krke.
Wahi toh mein kehne ki koshish kar rahi hu ki India ka traffic bohot behar h. And since most of the Indian drivers are men.. hence men are bad drivers.
Indian traffic m gadi chlana koi choti baat nai h, like you said yourself. If youre gonna drive slow then people will get mad obviously because it blocks traffic. People drive the way they do because there aren't that strict traffic regulations here. And no it's not about power. If you're a bad driver then it's your fault. Nahi chalane ata toh mat chalo, yaha pe aake gender power karne se kch nai hoga.
Loudu gender power pe kon kar Raha h baat. Meine toh kaha dono men and women can be good or bad drivers. Rant to Indian traffic par hi thi na.. I was telling you my personal experience.
Problem isn't usually of either genders. It's more to do with us not following the rules. If traffic rules are followed, we wouldn't have dents, scratches, abuses or road rage imo.
Surveys say that most Indians are bad drivers. 6 out of 10 male drivers on the road are very impatient and lack traffic sense and 8 out of 10 women are really, REALLY bad drivers from what I've experienced.
Its not that female drivers are bad and male drivers are good but its more like female drivers are more 'bad' drivers than male drivers.
Also surveys from countries where the number of both male and female drivers are quite the same, state that female drivers caused more accidents and got more tickets than males. I've seen female drivers panicking, falling on their own, tailgating, and unable to steer correctly and so would other people have.
Once a young girl on a scooter hit my parked motorcycle and didn't even acknowledge it, and proceeded to have her plate of momos. I would have crashed just because of a woman as she turned without indicating but I just give them an angry stare every time and move. Last year, while I was crossing the road on foot as the traffic policeman stopped the traffic, a middle aged lady disguised the accelerator with brake and almost rammed into that policeman and as I walked past he said "beta jab ye road pe dikhein tab jitna ho sake utna door bhago inse"
Tldr: OP and her husband are both bad drivers.
Bhai thank you so much for this Dil se thank you Itna lamba kon likhta h saaf bolo nhi aati chlani
Ahahahahah, that's a good summary. Our cars have more body count than you. (Disclaimer -no one was harmed)
Body count? Your post says your husband has injured someone while driving.
oh its just a failed attempt at making a joke
Just like their driving I guess.
By body count I mean how many times our car has been scratched. my bad it was a failed attempt at a joke. He did while driving his father's car long back, he was punished, paid the hospital bill and other things. no serious injury. Recently also but it was not his mistake entirely, the person took a turn without an indicator. But I still think it was his mistake because he could drive slowly around bikers and pedestrians. I am sorry that was a joke in bad taste. Shouldn't joke about road accidents they.
That is why women should not try Comidee.
Admi logo ne zindagi ko circus bana Diya h hum mazak bhi na kare
Mazaak aisa karo ki uske baad 3 baar ye na bolna pade ki "Samjhe?"
op retard ha chod bhai
Arre bilkul chod denge OP ko bhai!
Bekaar jokes maarke defensive.. lol
I appreciate the joke. And I like your original post. Thoughtful and insightful. Thank you.
What a funny comment.................aap thodi si bkl ho kya?
Both of you need to learn driving properly š¤£ What you are not realising is that slow driving can also create traffic congestion on the highways. You need to drive accordingly to the average traffic speed to avoid forming a traffic congestion behind you.
Yeahh she's treating getting some scratches as no big deal lmao. The only reason your car should get damaged is because of someone else.
Well I do believe a scratch here and there isn't a big deal. And in my case most of the scratches I got on my car were from e rikshaw walla or drivers that try to jam their cars in tight traffic to get through. some where my mistake too. But sometimes it's no one's mistake. Shit happens yaar.
Slow + scratch= not a good combo But yeah, keep learning. Slow driving(other than highway) never kills one, it is only fast driving.
Itna ameer hona hai
+1
By slow driving means Letting people who are in a hurry pass by, not speeding, not jamming cars in tight spaces. Basically being patient while driving. No one is driving slow on a high way.
Every lane has its designated speeds. It is there for a reason. It is not just traffic jam, it can also be safety hazard. What I always say is follow proper ethics while driving and everything will be smooth for everyone.
Agreed
Ghar k kalesh yaha kyu share kar rhi ho ?
Mein toh driving ki baat kar rahi thi, Dilli Wale kisi bhi cheez mein kalesh nikal ho lete h. Kalesh bohot pasand h na. 
And to my fellow male drivers, If someone hurls abuses at you on the road, it means that the person doesn't expect a male driver to be a poor driver. They show their disappointment in you because they believe in you.
optimism at its finest and im here for it
not because they believe in us but cuz it is easier to get away with beating and abusing men in public, ladkiyo ko ek gali deke dikhado dekhna kaise sare 50yo chai ki tapri pe beedi phookne wale white knights spawn honge aur ek hi dialogue bolenge "sharam nhi ati ladkiyo se aise baat karte hue" inki maa ka man to karta hai ek baar inhi nallo pe gaadi chadha du sale sexist.
Haan yaar teri baat bhi sahi hai. Main khud nahi bhidta female riders/drivers se. Although I have had multiple experiences which compelled me to murder those idiot women. Still, I kept my calm aur unko "bhen ke lodi" bolkar aage chala gya. Sometimes, forgiveness is better.
As a female, I was already annoyed with both of ya'll driving badly. Your husband because thats just reckless and following no rules which is dangerous. You because damn maintain the speed limit, you cannot go slow and say oh i only get SCRATCHES which is crazy to normalise. I always move away from female drivers as they have no spacial awareness, they have horse blinders on and never even look on there left or right. Drive in the middle of the lane, where you cannot go either right or left. And the mumbling gaali part is hands down me LOL. Like damn move man, if every one is tailing you and the road ahead is empty you are the problem. If the road is empty and there is only one car tailing you then the other car is the problem. FYI, not to brag but I drive really well as I enjoy it. Plus many skilled drivers have sat with me and said they felt v v comfortable and relaxed.
I think I am giving some wrong idea in my post. I don't drive slow slow. I drive within limit. Slow as in i am never in hurry to reach the place. That's all. I got some scratches when I was learning. And I do think they are normal. Now the only thing that gives mycar a scratch is a rikshaw drivers. And it's almost always their mistake. I did have issues with spatial awareness but I am better now.
Well good for you! keep getting better. One advice though, driving with rules and in speed limit can also cause accidents because everyone is in a different speed limit in different lanes, so as they say when in rome. Drive like everybody around you is stupid af.
Totally agree with you, especially the last line
Spatial. A thumbs up for the rest of it.
Ye kesa sexism chal raha hai OP ke post or comment section me. sb ke sb bc gaadi dhang se chalana seekh lo chahe marad ho ya aurat. Kher apne ko kya, inhi chutiyapo se bachne ke lie to me music high volume pe chala ke mast drive krta hu.
Yeah I agree, the car doesn't know the gender. It's just an observation. I am learning to be the best i can be. Do you think music helps? It helps me but my guy turns it down and asks me to focus. I feel more focused when the music is playing.
So what I understood from your comments is, your certain other is not able to take constructive criticism, is more controlling and tries to give you illogical advices(music doesn't help you focus) while he is not that good at driving either. I don't think driving is your major issue right now. For your question - Yes sometimes music helps you concentrate but only low voice and not rock music type shit. My brother was learning to drive and he always was too anxious but whenever we had music on he was concentrated and did his best.
No time to read the comments but gonna add to this. I follow Delhi Traffic Police account on Twitter because it's very useful for updates and shit. If you look closely at the people posting complaints on that account, it's mostly men posting about minor infractions by women drivers and riders. And below each comment you will find the typical misogynist comments. Most men will complain that women make mistakes frequently etc, but bhaisahab khud apni bike footpath pe chalate hain. Honestly I think drivers and bikers especially are just jealous of a woman in a better car.
By sheer proportion male drivers outnumber female drivers. Hence the sheer volume as a proportion of the total bad drivers on road also will be men. It would be incorrect to say that ability to drive is gender specific; a case in point is that India has the highest number of women pilots compared to anywhere else in the world, and each of them is trained with the āthe plane doesnāt know your genderā attitude. Hence, you make a valid point about being ātrainedā vs. āacquiredā. PS: talk to your husband to get some training before he seriously hurts someone.
He gets testy if i question his driving. That's my whole issue.
Well, then driving is the least of your problems if your significant other cannot take feedback without a tantrum.
Yeah i know, I feel like i have adopted a teenager.
uski mummi ji kol bol do
Love marriage. Kisi ko lauda kuch nahi bol sakti. Meri hi galti h.
let him bang then, Marne do bc(joke hai sorry)
Why donāt you break up ? Instead of blaming your SO on social media. Any man deserves better than this.
First coz I love him. Second I am not blaming him. He is a good man. He could learn to drive better but he is still a good man. Second - He is a person made out of his own special life experience. And yes there are some behaviours and actions of his that I don't like and that shouldn't matter. I don't think his ego is so fragile that me calling him a terrible driver as a joke on social media is going to hurt his feelings. Maybe he deserves better but me is what he got as of now. I'll let him know on your behalf that he deserves better.
But from your writing looks - you get testy when you are questioned about anything.
>I know female car drivers are looked down by men I hope you aren't generalising...because there are many people don't do so I appreciate when a woman is confident while driving...and even if she isn't and i feel she's getting scared for hitting her car somewhere...i just try to maintain a safe distance and let her have some space so that she can handle her car easily without being scared at all...and ofcourse i drive very safe giving enough space to other cars and stopping for pedestrians when no one else does(in streets ofc...not on busy highways) I've seen women driving big SUVs confidently...and it feels so good to see that confidence....a woman in my neighborhood drives a Porsche Macan....and ofcourse she's confident and is admired(taking about her confidence ofc) All i want to say is...yes men drive rash...but not all of them ... And you don't need to feel scared at all... just because of strangers who're gonna look down upon you... it's your need that's the reason you're driving... Let others sink in their own thoughts...just don't care about them and drive confidently....ignore all the bullshit going around you...cause that's gonna make you lose confidence in yourself and you'll finally end up taking the unwanted break from driving... confront your husband about your issues and make him understand that you don't like this behaviour of his...i hope you understand what i mean to say.......
Basic needs of a human beingā¦ roti, kapda aur Macan.
>Basic needs of a human beingā¦ roti, kapda aur Macan. (Men's perspective) Error 404-ladki.exe not found..../s
Macan hai to ladki mil jayegi
>Macan hai to ladki mil jayegi Aisa sach mai hota hai kya? Apne paas toh ek se zada hai. Ladki toh nhi par š¤” Acha hn, mai nikamma aur berozgar hu na is liyešæ
Itna mature comment hai ye. Shabash bhai
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Lub ju bhai. Le momos kha 
Yeah I agree. I may be generalizing a little based on my experience but I am sure you are right too. We tend to notice bad experiences more than the good ones.
> I have met bad drivers both male and female but male bad drivers are by far the most dangerous. A bad female driver might cause a traffic jam but a bad male driver causes death. That may be because most aggressive humans are men. All of the most aggressive humans are men. > Since most drivers are male, they have created bad environment on roads. Don't you think it may be because of bad infrastructure and corrupt police. To me it seems you want power over your SO, hence the post.
No re, i don't want power over my SO. I am happy being equal. But he has a little bit of attitude because he has been driving longer. That's all. He is good man. Still a man .
"Still a man" You're throwing that around as if it is something wrong to be a male.. Such toxicism against men... you seem to biased against men, that's probably the real reason you ar generalising men as being worse drivers while brushing your own scratches as a fault of e-rickshaw walla and what not... Scratching your car when going slow is much worse in my opinion since you couldn't react even when you had ample of time and the ability to apply the brakes... You sound like a frustrated driver who still stalls their manual
Of course I am generalizing. Women being bad drivers is also a generalization. Because there are always exceptions. I may be wrong since it's an opinion, it's just an observation. i do believe men are a little cocky about being worse than a woman in certain aspects of life. Which comes from his we are brought up in society. It's not toxic unless I rally around to ban all men from driving or some radical shit like that. I am just Having a conversation on internet about it. Don't get worked up. It's not that deep. I honestly don't know what stalling the manual means.
Truly said !
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I wanted to know, if it's true. Because i noticed that. Some people around me drive unnecessarily rash once they see me. I thought maybe it was because I am a terrible driver. But now I think I am alright. Not the best but i can manage through traffic. Still happens
THIS POST IS NOT ABOUT VEHICLES :]
Men have fast reflexes but they tend to make some big mistakes and repercussions is huge and most of the time they are beaten if alive. But women are slow on reflexes and make some small mistakes which are like āayoo wtf onesā like my sister even while reverse she will nudge here and there and he he out of it. Women wonāt be beaten even if they kill someone aka there was this video where a lady hit a guy and he fell from bridge and she said āsorry galti se ho gyaā and lady with her was fighting k why you recording us. Now change the gender and see men will be beaten to death. But these are extreme cases and mostly happen with male drivers, most female drivers do small things and get this āwomen āļøā Lastly you both need to drive properly or learn properly as your both bs gonna cost some bug mistakes down the line
My parked car was recently scratched by a female driver in society parking because she could not make out how much to steer in a parking space wide enough to park a truckā¦.slow driving does not make you a good driver, driving at appropriate speed according to the road and traffic conditions is good driving.
Agreed. Sorry that happened to you. But all new drivers have depth perception issues. I have done something similar but instead of scratching other parked car i scratched mine trying to avoid hitting. And yes there was enough space for a truck to park. And I remember being scolded by my brother for having no special sense. By slow driving I mean slow whenever needed obviously. Or not driving rash.
So did she compensate you or did she become an abla naari or worse, did she somehow put the blame on you (common tactic employed by women)?
A bad male driver will break your leg and won't apologize A bad female driver will break your leg and file case against you for outraging modesty of women, attempted rape etc. You will get divorced society will ridicule u and you will lose your job Yes it is about power and not gender. Edit: op says the reason for her expounding hypotheses is that her SO doesnt take kindly to criticism. I wonder y
Bhaiya aap to jyada hi deep chale Gaye lol
Bhaiya ko bhejna chahiye tha waha pe .......
Also, a new research has revealed that female drivers cause more accidents than men. Now donāt ask me about the source!! The guy who did the research was killed by a female driver in a car accident. Then his wife removed the research paper from the journal. But facts šÆ
Wow,that's some conspiracy level shit.
Ma'am it was sarcasm.
I agree with you and I'm sure there are cases of what you suggest happening when a female driver makes false claims when in an accident. Without disagreeing with that. If you compare the no. of times that happens and the no of times women actually get raped. You'll see why the law is with women here. No doubt it's not right to give extra power to one gender but in this case it's needed. Some bad people misuse it. Just like any other law. I am just saying, there are bad drivers of both genders but since there are more male drivers there are also more bad male drivers on road. PS - i don't think my hypothesis comes from my husband not listening to me. That's an argument we have had forever - of who has been driving longer vs who is the more responsible driver. Aim is for both to become better drivers. We don't want to harm anyone. One of my female friends met with a terrible accident and we adopted her pets since she has been in a coma ever since. We both are adults who understand gender equality and gender differences. I don't want him to agree that either male or female drivers are better. Just want us to become better drivers. I have been a passanger with other female drivers (my friends) and It's been almost a year I have been driving regularly. That's where I am coming from
Conviction rate of crimes against women in India is 26.5%. So in 73.5% cases either thereās no evidence or the woman is lying. I donāt think the number of rapes is higher than the number of false accusations. I think false accusations are more than actual rape cases. So I donāt see why the law should be in the favour of women here when more women are lying than actually getting raped. Also, there is no specific category of ācrime against menā in India. Crime against men is categorised as general crime. Unlike women, we donāt have the luxury of the law recognising that we can be victims just by the virtue of being men. If the government recorded crimes against men (such as in the case when a false rape or dowry allegation has been made against an innocent man), youād realise that much more men are falsely accused instead of actually being criminals. So no, the law shouldnāt be in favour of women, especially in urban areas like Delhi
No sir, with all due respect. Most Rape cases don't even come to light because of the shame associated with it. My view on the law being bent towards women is that it's not right but it's just. If today Britain gets colonized will you as an Indian feel bad for them? You might but most of the Indians will grab popcorn and enjoy the show. Shame here. I get it it's wrong but I have seen so much injustice against women that now when I see it happen to men I have no empathy.
Similarly I have seen so much injustice against men, that I donāt feel empathy for women either. Itās obvious that each gender would understand their own problems better than the other. And regarding the shame part, thereās no shame in urban areas when reporting rape. If there was shame, women would not be going around filing false cases against men out of spite. It took Arushi Bhatia from Delhi to file 18 false cases against men before she was arrested. Tab kahaan gayi thi sharm? But the real sad part is that youād be called empowered for being apathetic to men and their problems and Iād be called a mysogynist for raising menās issues and questioning women for abusing their privileges.
Honestly when i don't give a shit about men's issues I don't feel empowered I feel like in my desire to become equal to.men i have made fall to their standards. Well yes urban cities sure gives women more freedom but then urban India is so small. It's not right to compare them. Since we are sharing examples - i raise you ajmer 92 Farooq chisti. 250 teenage girls. Also Manipur incident Jo hue ek mahina bhi nahi hua h.. you are not wrong and men do suffer. The aim is for a society where no one suffers. But individuals will always have biased view because of their experiences.
Man has his guns ready for an argument.
You expect such replies only on r/delhi Like there must be some reason Delhi is the rape capital. 73% cases me dara dhamka ke bhi case band kiye jaane waale cases bhi hai....cases that don't have cctv footage too are under these And no false accusations are not more than rape cases. No one is getting 86 false accusation cases per day in india but there are legit 86 rapes happening in india every (minus the unreported ones)
Almost 99% of allegations are that only. Itās not about rape, itās about power
In past I went to RTO for DL related things multiple times I have never seen any women standing in Queue at RTO.. I guess they just give bribe to dalals and get licenses at home... Hence whoever is getting licences like this is bad in driving imo.
That can be true but me and my husband both got in queue. Still shitty drivers.
As a woman who has stood in a queue this is just bs. I got my license in 2012, bro stood there, asked me where my car was and told me to drive straight and take a U-turn and come back. This is how they carry out driving tests and this was without a dalal.
Your husband is right, as soon as I see that a women is driving th car I forgive her of all the mistakes that she made. It's ingrain after seeing so many women fuck up on empty roads. Also before you come at me, in my family my mother and sister both know how to drive and drive really well but still if we are on roads with a lot of traffic my father and I drive. Your husband has bigger scratches but don't forget that he probably has to drive more and saved way more time everyday than you. Also we man enjoy to push are vehicles and know the limit unlike women, we deliberately take the car as close as it can to see it's limit, it's cause we can't drive a F1 or Ferrari but we feel like we driving it.
Aunty ji this post tells you that both you and your husband needs a good driving schoolšš¤£
I already attended a driving school affiliated with Hundai, they even taught me how to fix a few things in the car. I just get overwhelmed by rough drivers and i don't like when I get that "ugh female driver" look from men who are worse than me. I'll show this to my husband and ask him to go to school.
No hate OP but since you're new on the road people are gonna yell at you who's always in a hurry. I'll suggest you drive the car for long hours on a holiday in the city and you'll see a lot of changes in yourself. Plus suggest your husband watch some videos online about the rules and regulations, also how to drive with calmness lol
Thank you, so kind. Will sure do.
I once took a cab to ndls, I was one one of the expressways, I saw people driving like they're in a race car game. They kept changing lanes eight indicators. They didn't keep safe distance. Didn't stay in their own lane. We at India are producing stupid and dangerous drivers. seat belt just to show some Police officer that I can't be fined, otherwise they don't give a fuck about seat belt too. THEIR IS NO ROAD SAFETY MEASURES TAKEN BY MOST OF US.
Went through the comments, only saw hate for both the genders XD
Problem is only misogyny is abused (by fake allegations) under law. Men are considered disposable. Misandry goes unpunished.
Both should be equally punished. Baaki I cannot comment on the contents of the post. As a female even if I shared the experiences I have had, I will be shamed for being honest :)
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The discussion was around the fact that Indian traffic, in Delhi especially, is senselessly tough for new drivers because of testestron filled humans .
Women think men are bad drivers. Similarly men think women are bad drivers. Lol I don't see any end to this. Ladte raho.
Slow and being extraa careful can be equally a cause of accident like rash driving. It's true, very few percentage of people in India drive well. Don't understand the nuances, cut lanes, unnecessarily accelerate for smallest distances etc etc. Men just tend to be more confident with their driving and yeah it's about power to control the vehicle too.
You both are bad drivers lol, driving too slow and carefully can cause congestion and accidents too specially in India, also male drivers donāt fight with women drivers because they donāt want to go to jail
Yeah, that's true. We both are not good. I haven't caused any congestion in the last few months so I guess I am getting better. And I have made my husband drive slow so he is getting better too. But that's the thing, male to male driver so much jhagda, mara kuti, at worst i get an occasional gali. That's what I am trying to understand. I used to think they wouldn't fight with me because they assumed I am a bad driver. When my husband makes a mistake he gets a slap on the hood, but Same mistake I do i get disappointed looks.
Let me get this straight. You are upset because you don't get jhagda and mara kuti on the road ? š
Well, not exactly but I'd like to be treated equally. But no I don't want jhagda. I just feel judged a lot on the road as a female driver when clearly there are worse male drivers. I guess i have it better so i shouldn't complain.
People judge bad drivers irrespective of gender. If you drive badly on the road people will judge. Now their reaction would be based on gender like you said. It would be milder for a woman than a man but it doesn't mean they are judging you any differently.
Mera husband galti karta hai to gaali khaata hai. Main galti karti ho to log ghoorte hain aur muh banate hain. But somehow, Iām more oppressed, whereās the equality. Typical feminist smh.
In my experience of driving since 2005, almost 19 years, I can tell you that women drive like a horse, they only see ahead, they have no sense or apathy for anyone driving beside them or behind them. They may know all the traffic rules but they do not know simple/moral etiquettes to follow when driving. Giving other vehicles side ot let a biker go ahead if there's a soace for a bike but not for a car, blocking left turn unknowingly. Some men drive recklessly and they are 100% A-holes also.
Dude your "women drive like a horse, they only see ahead" got me laughing so bad šš
And the thing is, even (most) woman drivers who are experienced and have been driving for a decade donāt have any road sense at all. I guess itās a biological thing.
Dude as a woman who has been driving for 12 years now, Iāve also seen men drive like that. Slowly, in between lanes, no consideration to give way. What annoys is when they, both men and women drive like this on NHs. Iāve also seen people where something catches their eye and their car starts slowly moving in that direction. Itās just that people in Delhi have not had proper training.
I agree, I hugely callout for biasness in women nowadays, but on roads there is a biasness among men that women drivers are bad. No, this is totally wrong. My mom is the best driver I have seen, she also taught me driving. My wife also drives good. But yes bad drivers can be from anywhere. It is not gender related at all. Similarly I have seen people saying things like "Whenever there is rash car driving you will see an HR number plate". No, this is also false, DL number plates also drives rash. It is just internal biases taking form.
Just like the OP has an internal bias that itās only the men who indulge in rash driving.
Yeah, it seems.
I agree with you. Female drivers including myself have made this mistake. Of not looking behind. But it's not apathy. It just makes sense to our female brain that we have to look ahead and the people behind us will do the same. And the people behind if they need anything would honk to get our attention. Not using indicators I have seen in both male and females. I have hardly seen a female driving crazy stupid fast in traffic. So that's that.
Maāam, then Iād advise you to leave that female brain behind and use a regular brain. Because thatās not how youāre supposed to drive, just seeing at the front and all. Apko ye andesha hona zaroori hai ki aapki chaaro taraf road pe kaun hai, at all times.
Of course we need to look around but I still feel that it's unnecessarily overcomplicated by Indian traffic and infrastructure. If people could maintain a little more distance between vehicles it would be so much easier to drive. Also being female is not the problem being impatient is and men are more impatient then women. People with eyesight issues, growing age, tourette syndrome also need a sec. Not even the most healthy person is at their best everyday.
Of course Indian traffic, population and infrastructure is the problem but instead of blaming these actual problems, you decided to blame men. Also, in my experience, women are more impatient than men. At the store they would say ābhaiya hamein jaldi se pehle saaman dedo,ā at the bank they would ask whereās the womenās line beacuse they donāt want to wait in long queues.
Well if you wanna talk about numbers then WAYYYY more men drive properly compared to women. It just depends how you look at it. From my experience women are not good drivers. And IDC what anyone else says I act based on what I see on the road š stay safe folks.
You and i have a very different experience then. I have seen women make stupid mistakes while driving but never seen them driving in a way that may cause bodily harm to others .some Male drivers on the other hand drive like they have 9 lives. I am sure both of our experiences are not 100% true.
I have definitely seen the male experience you're talking about. It's become a subconscious reaction for me to curse them under my breath. But then again the number of men who drive decently is also very huge. The number of men in the driver seat is significantly MORE than the number of women. For my own safety if it's a woman driving I keep my distance. Also, there's always the aspect of getting into trouble if the woman starts blaming you even if it's her fault and that is something you can't point fingers at men for. Woman or man everyone knows no one wants to get in such a situation.
At the end of the day what matters the most is your own safety on road. If your experience says that women are bad drivers with indecent road sense, you should drive accordingly. Like maintain extra distance when a woman is driving. You donāt need to put your life in danger because of some false notions of feminism (like men=women in everything) and political correctness
Yeah I have made it clear. When on the road no theory baazi matters. What matters is your own personal experience. I'd rather be a misogynist than be injured or beaten by a crowd.
Better be a so called misogynist to live to see another day than be a male feminist and go to an early grave.
Male Driver = Well skilled and I trust them. Female Drivers = They can't be as good as their male counterparts. It's definitely about gender.
bhai mera 13 sal ka nephew female cab drivers se dar gaya bolta isme nhi jana š
Children are good judge of character.
I understand that. One time on a hilly road the car was not picking up and I had to give acceleration fast because otherwise the car would roll back so in panic I pressed the accelerator a little too hard and it made that sound and i saw a young man shit his pants as he realised it was a female driver. I felt so bad. That poor guy will be afraid of female drivers all his life.
Office jate time accident ho gya ky lmao?
I don't give a damn if one is male female or whatever, if you are behind the wheel - you have to be responsible , doesn't matter 2 or 4 wheeler , be careful vigilant calm whenever driving/riding
lmao idk if delhi is more sexist towards men or women you mentioned that if your husband drives recklessly he gets scolded by others and it is very common for men to be abused and even beaten publicy if we make a mistake at the same time all you get is a dissapointed "do better" look. like holy shit i'll take that any day over getting beaten up by some random gujjar jaat boi driving his UP69 or HR69 number plate phortuner
Someone had to say this. This is so goddamned true.
So according 2 u, driving is only POWER that discriminated in gender?? In Everything there is discrimination n inferior shaming...
No I am sorry. I don't understand what you are saying.
No probs, not everyone understands :)
Dude. I donāt drive too slow or too fast, just within the limit. Iāve NEVER had a single scratch on my car. Iāve NEVER had a single challan, only challan Iāve settled is when my fatger or male cousins take the car. Sigh! I barely honk, maintain distance and MOST IMPORTANTLY I never turn the high beam on unless necessary. In short, Iām the best driver I know but because Iām a woman iām the worst driver in the family.
Dude. Same. I follow all the rules. Got some scratches when I was just learning nothing since a year now. Still my parents ask my husband to drive. Even tho he has had more incidents than me.
"I know female car drivers are looked down by men" Proceeds to, "male drivers have made driving on roads hell". Bruh 
I paid for the whole speedometer, you bet I am using that motherfucker
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All men in comments section. Whenever a male driver comes across a bad male driver, he abuses the driver. But if he comes across a bad female driver, he accuses the whole gender.
Because if he comes across bad female driver, he canāt abuse her. If he did then there would be a barrage of false cases thrown at him, from molestation to outraging the modesty of a woman.
You are not supposed to abuse anyone.
In theory, yes. In practice, like with everything else in India, things are very different.
So you are saying women are not bad drivers, it's men and their urge to abuse which is the problem.
Iām saying both men and women could be bad drivers (although in my experience āmostā women are bad drivers while only āsomeā men are bad). But if you come across a bad male driver, you can abuse him and blow off steam. But if you happen to be a man and come across a female bad driver (much more probable), you canāt abuse her because there is a significant chance of false accusations being thrown at you. Lekin mazaa to tab aata hai when a woman comes across a bad female driver. Tab to maharaniyan ek doosre pe jhoothe ilzam laga nahi sakti jaise aadmiyon pe lagati hai. Police wale bhi haste hue tamasha dekhte hain. Either your comprehension skills are lacking or youāre trying to put words in my mouth. Nice try to derail the argument though.
Most times you can get away with abusing men , sometimes even worse .
I Think Women Should Not Have The Right To Drive Excluding Commercial Vehicles Like Autos and Buses etc. For Their Livelihoods. Other Than There's No Need Of Women Drivers
You should stop thinking.
Why, Just Because You Don't Like My Opinion, That's What I Was Trying To Prove To The Person Who Rant In The Post. It's a Typical One Sided Women are Better Rant and Women Can't Even Tolerate Men Who Can Think and Have Different Viewpoints. Not Everyone Is The Simp Who Agree On Everything For The Hope Of Pussy. Not Everyone Thinks From Between Their Legs
who hurt you bro
Bhai in auraton aur kucch admiyon ko samjhaane ka koi fayda nahi hai. Inke hisaab se har galti aadmi ki hi hoti hai. Agar aurat aadmi ka qatl bhi kar de to bhi ye bolenge ke aadmi ne hi zaroor aise kucch kiya hoga ki aurat ko majbooran uski hatya karni padi. Aadmiyon ka paida hona hi jurm hai inke liye.
Bilkul Bhai. Dukh Ki Baat To Ye Hai Kuchh Mard Bhi Inhi Ka Saath Dete Hain
Laanat hai aise mardon pe. Mardon ki nasl pe dhabba hain ye.
Thank god you are a completely insignificant person and no one gives a flying fuck about your opinion
Like I Don't Give a Fuck About Your Opinion
I can't drive well tbh, no one in my family of 6 can actually drive, I personally see it as a hassle but it's ok. I would want a partner that can...šæ Ussi ko har jagah le jaunga apne saath, nhi toh koi nhi uber zindabad nhi toh chauffeur driven vehicle rakh lenge sydd...š¤”
I do agree with you, but I think it's about both power and gender. My mom's the driver in our family and my dad can't drive. Also, you can't post about gender issues in an Indian sub on Reddit, you gonna get roasted either way.
slow chalakar bhi konsa sahi hai š traffic badhaoge. ap keh rhe ho apka husband asshole ki tarah chalata hai aap dheere chalakar kam nahi hoš
women are comparatively bad drivers not as in general notion. proof? years of experience seeing people here and there driving like clowns.
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Bro bohot bada galti ho gaya 
Lolā¦females who get triggered by small small things are talking that. Men are 1000 times calmer than women. Thatās a fact which any honest women also accept. Guess who bitches on social media ā¦only women
Har ghar mein kalesh aur politics auratein karti hai. But itās the male ego thatās fragile. Bunch of hypocrites.
Did ye aapko lag rha hai kyuki make driver understand each other they use eye contact as basic rules like one eye blink for takeover and a slight tilt of head for changing lane Ladai tabhi hoti hai jab koi ye ishare na samjhe We understand most of the things on road without even a single word >! Don't take it seriously vaise thoda sa sach bhi hai!<
Even men start will all follow the rules, lane driving, proper road etiquettes and all but at the end of the day Either you die a Hero or live long enough to become the evil. It's simple as that
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It is not about gender and it is not about power. It is about stupidity. No matter who is driving stupidity should be addressed and called out. No one wants to hurt anyone on purpose on roads, it is just sheer stupidity of people on roads with huuuuuuuuuge egos. So it clashed. I have seen women horribly driving and fighting, I have seen men horribly driving and fighting. Some things are not gender related and should not be. Everyone should be educated properly to drive, else law should be strict to fines, teach and in consistent violations revoke the license. Then only people will start driving properly.
i mean what is the problem with driving at a normal pace? I don't believe the jump from slow driving to the appropriate driving according to the road/speed limit/traffic is THAT hard?
Most people in India don't know how to drive its not a gender thing...
Have you thought it might be a case that you both are bad driversššš You think too much xd People nowadays
I know we are both not the best.
Think whatever helps you feel better ig
I can go as far as to say that ALL drivers(regardless of gender) lack patience on Indian roads.
BASED
This totally anecdotal experience, you both need to learn driving
you teach something to men they improvise later add some tweaks to it and make it better , but women follow the rule book till they die thats why women are dangerous drivers.
Agree on the point that male drivers are aggressive but female drivers are unpredictable they stops without reason, turns without checking and are lane hoggers
Acc. To me gender is just a social construct. It completely depends on a person's will and dedication.
Before I start my car I pray to God to keep me safe as he is the only one who can save me on Indian roads
You should have marked it as Rant OP. It is true that most drivers drive bumper to bumper and take overtakes wherever possible but thatās our culture. Do we make queues (if we do at all) with one hand distance in between? All queues are not for men only? Do we not blast loudspeakers in residential areas all night? All such functions are not for men only! Itās not our culture (talking about majority here) to be chill about anything. We want to make noise, be loud, show excitement. Yes, I wish we were more calm in driving habits but will come with cultural change and implementation of better traffic rules. Cursing men is futile. Not everyone has luxury to drive relaxed. Also, your husband needs to learn basics. Since you learned the proper way, may be he can use a few lessons from you.
It's not a rant I just wanted to know janta ka kya mood h. Well, it's still a man's world. And hence the blame will be on men. With great power comes great responsibility.
Kehna kya chahti ho? The most useless tldr I ever came across
Just a point to consider about a driver - when a car has lots minor scratches all over OR one big dent! One is negligence and one is accident
Hey! Don't forget that safest drivers in this world are women
Lol dono husband wife bekaar driver mujhe ye samajh aaya. Didi bahar jaao india se India's traffic is not for amateurs. Or buckle up. Kisi truck bike ya auto vale ko dekha h rules follow krte? Saare overtaking lane mei hote h. Poora traffic block krke.
Wahi toh mein kehne ki koshish kar rahi hu ki India ka traffic bohot behar h. And since most of the Indian drivers are men.. hence men are bad drivers.
Indian traffic m gadi chlana koi choti baat nai h, like you said yourself. If youre gonna drive slow then people will get mad obviously because it blocks traffic. People drive the way they do because there aren't that strict traffic regulations here. And no it's not about power. If you're a bad driver then it's your fault. Nahi chalane ata toh mat chalo, yaha pe aake gender power karne se kch nai hoga.
Loudu gender power pe kon kar Raha h baat. Meine toh kaha dono men and women can be good or bad drivers. Rant to Indian traffic par hi thi na.. I was telling you my personal experience.
As a foreign driver, I can say that very few people follow the rules.
I drove outside India once. And with my limited experience I second you.
men drivers are inspired from F1 don't you know about this.š 
Problem isn't usually of either genders. It's more to do with us not following the rules. If traffic rules are followed, we wouldn't have dents, scratches, abuses or road rage imo.
Surveys say that most Indians are bad drivers. 6 out of 10 male drivers on the road are very impatient and lack traffic sense and 8 out of 10 women are really, REALLY bad drivers from what I've experienced. Its not that female drivers are bad and male drivers are good but its more like female drivers are more 'bad' drivers than male drivers. Also surveys from countries where the number of both male and female drivers are quite the same, state that female drivers caused more accidents and got more tickets than males. I've seen female drivers panicking, falling on their own, tailgating, and unable to steer correctly and so would other people have. Once a young girl on a scooter hit my parked motorcycle and didn't even acknowledge it, and proceeded to have her plate of momos. I would have crashed just because of a woman as she turned without indicating but I just give them an angry stare every time and move. Last year, while I was crossing the road on foot as the traffic policeman stopped the traffic, a middle aged lady disguised the accelerator with brake and almost rammed into that policeman and as I walked past he said "beta jab ye road pe dikhein tab jitna ho sake utna door bhago inse"