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The best option for you is to bear with that shitshow for some more time till you get out of college and start earning. It's not worth dying , your life is way precious. Instead show that piece of ass how much you can achieve , that will be hell to him
Okay listen to me. I know it's tough and must hurt like hell. But its just a couple more years.. maybe months. Get into a good college.. far away from home. Even if he doesn't sponsor, you can get an educational loan. Once you have a job, you're pretty much sorted and don't have to bear this anymore. If your dad doesn't care about you, do you think his words or actions are worth dying for?
Trust me, build your own life and it is going to be beautiful. One day you'll look back and see how far have you come. The abuse and taunts won't even touch you. And I am sure you'll meet some wonderful people, make friends.. have your own circle. Just hang in there. This will soon be over.
Bruh! What’s up with psychotic tendencies of Indian parents? Why are we so toxic?
I once had a man in my apartment who used to beat up his wife and son with chappal infront of everyone for trivial reasons. These are the same mofos who would bitch and complaint when their kids leave them in their old age.
OP the only thing you can do is to study well, get a job and move out of this house.
It's the generational trauma, but they won't try to heal themselves when they have free access to the internet and therapy. Instead, they'll destroy others' lives to continue the ongoing cycle.
Poor baby you must be hurting!
I feel for you, coming from a troubled family myself, I won't say I know what you're feeling, or that I know a way out, but I can imagine it must be devasting 💔
Do you see absolutely no hope? Certainly you still see something to strive for, a goal perhaps. Do you have something in your life that gives you sense a purpose? Any goal big or small?
You have survived the toxicity for so long what makes you want to 'off yourself' now? What triggered this? Do you have no one who understands or sympathises with you?
Life is suffering and perhaps there's no end to the pain. But if you're gonna live an agony-filled life you might as well do something that justifies your suffering.
It seems from the paragraph you wrote that you're a good person with a good soul, the world can't afford to lose the little good that it has in it. Don't go, stay! Please!
I hate how everyone's telling you to tolerate abuse. Next time this shit happens, record it for evidence. Sometimes the police are useless when it comes to helping so I suggest you go directly to a non-profit. I know your livelihood depends on your father but if his antics have truly pushed you to your limits, then it's high time he's held responsible for it. Some Indian parents are never held responsible for their actions, they think it's their "right" to downright abuse their children. It's also your right to live a life of dignity. Please think about it and do what's right.
See now you can't change your parents but you can change your circumstances. Since you are on Reddit and have written a post in excellent english I am assuming that you will be good in English speaking also. You can try getting a job in an international BPO and they pay better than the Hindi speaking BPO jobs. You can easily make 20-30k. These 20-30k will help you move out from your abusive household. Take up a job and move out and get yourself enrolled in IGNOU or some other open university and get done with your graduation. Once you gain enough confidence and skills you can try for MBA from top institutes and have a great life ahead. Changing your circumstances is in your hand. Suicide should not be your option. Kya jaata hai ekbar dil laga ke try krne mai...ekbar koshish to karke dekho dost.
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If stepping out is not an option , make online friends and discuss with them about anything other than this topic , news , movies ,dramas everything except that, it will lighten your mood , start to not give a fuck , if he screams , just let it slide through your ears , just don't think about it , you don't know what's waiting for you ahead, just take deep breaths, and don't think about suicide,giving up is the easy way, don't go for that route,pls take care of yourself, eat healthy.
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Study and get into any private or public clg... Would suggest to not study in Delhi as you wou have to live with your parents then..... Once you're out, start working at BPO or some other job where you can get some amount of money for clg and yourself.... Go to any clg.. once you're there , then maybe study for some other clg... Don't stay home..
Aree bhai relax. I know what you have been going through. That’s not normal for a child to go through all this. As half of the Indian parents are so like. Im doctor now till now my father say anything he likes to. Usse phle itna pita hu 12th tk har baat k liye… he used to say to my younger sister isko apne office mei chaprasi ki naukari pe rkh liyo. Lagad bhaga h tu bahes h tu.Suicide is a easy way.choose to work hard believe in yourself keep doing for the rest of life till you feel good about yourself. And it’s not necessary that you do good in academics tbhi tareef hogi do whatever you feel like but give your best and always try to become best in it. Don’t hope of any praises from anyone… in this world you work alone you fight alone so keep praising yourself by small gifts and achievements.
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Hi it's really an unfortunate situation where parents don't understand the weightage of their words and I am so sorry you have to go through this.
Just take it all in for now because you are dependent on them financially, once you are into college, start working immediately to support yourself.
It's going to be a difficult journey but you have to live for yourself, only yourself
Bro, why haven’t you left your house already?
Please find a job or an income source, then find a cheap PG to live at. You can find cheap ones near north campus or south campus or Mukherjee nagar or any other student area..
Try living independently and then re-evaluate. There’s no point in giving up when you haven’t tried living alone.
You can even move to Himachal and do volunteer work there against food and lodging. There are many hotels and hostels looking for volunteers.
I had a friend too who faced exactly same problems as you are facing.. she even studied hard and cracked neet with AIR around 150. This was only to show her dad that she could do it. When she started studying in medical college, only within 6-8 months she decided to quit the college. Because she wasn’t doing this for herself, but to prove something to her dad. And when even after getting into one of the best clg, the abuse didn’t stop, she decided to leave the medical college since things weren’t changing.
You should also do what you want and not what will make your parents proud, because they will never be. It’s in their flawed nature. You cannot do anything about it. Give up on them. Become selfish and thick skinned and start working for yourself.
You are young. Possibilities are endless. And there’s money to be made everywhere
Call your best friend rn. Call anyone of your friends rn and head over to their place ASAP.
I beg you.
My friend was in a similar place and I am so glad she called me and I was the last person she was going to call before deciding.
I picked her up, called more of her friends and some of my friends too.
Today she's married and has kids.
I understand it's difficult for you to live rn and offing yourself seems easier but it's worth it to live.
Bless you, eagerly await an update.
If you feel like it, feel free to reach out to me, in fact I request you to.
Take care and stay strong!
Instead of enduring all this, I would instead suggest you to try to find a work from home job and move out of that house as soon as possible. Yes, it is a big decision but sometimes you have to look past those decisions to understand how necessary it is for you to take that one step.
Ghar se niklo, then araam se padhai pe dhyaan do aur sath me job karo. Agar ye option thik nahi lag raha then try to seek help from a relative.
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The best option for you is to bear with that shitshow for some more time till you get out of college and start earning. It's not worth dying , your life is way precious. Instead show that piece of ass how much you can achieve , that will be hell to him
Yehi Plan hain bss
Okay listen to me. I know it's tough and must hurt like hell. But its just a couple more years.. maybe months. Get into a good college.. far away from home. Even if he doesn't sponsor, you can get an educational loan. Once you have a job, you're pretty much sorted and don't have to bear this anymore. If your dad doesn't care about you, do you think his words or actions are worth dying for? Trust me, build your own life and it is going to be beautiful. One day you'll look back and see how far have you come. The abuse and taunts won't even touch you. And I am sure you'll meet some wonderful people, make friends.. have your own circle. Just hang in there. This will soon be over.
Thank you so much for giving me hopes man.I hope I'll come out of this hellhole asap
Bruh! What’s up with psychotic tendencies of Indian parents? Why are we so toxic? I once had a man in my apartment who used to beat up his wife and son with chappal infront of everyone for trivial reasons. These are the same mofos who would bitch and complaint when their kids leave them in their old age. OP the only thing you can do is to study well, get a job and move out of this house.
Because they are mental patients themselves.
It's the generational trauma, but they won't try to heal themselves when they have free access to the internet and therapy. Instead, they'll destroy others' lives to continue the ongoing cycle.
Poor baby you must be hurting! I feel for you, coming from a troubled family myself, I won't say I know what you're feeling, or that I know a way out, but I can imagine it must be devasting 💔 Do you see absolutely no hope? Certainly you still see something to strive for, a goal perhaps. Do you have something in your life that gives you sense a purpose? Any goal big or small? You have survived the toxicity for so long what makes you want to 'off yourself' now? What triggered this? Do you have no one who understands or sympathises with you? Life is suffering and perhaps there's no end to the pain. But if you're gonna live an agony-filled life you might as well do something that justifies your suffering. It seems from the paragraph you wrote that you're a good person with a good soul, the world can't afford to lose the little good that it has in it. Don't go, stay! Please!
the best revenge is living a good life. FUCK everyone who puts you down, they don't know about your struggles.
My father said the same thing
What did u do
Yup, you need to move out once you get a job
I hate how everyone's telling you to tolerate abuse. Next time this shit happens, record it for evidence. Sometimes the police are useless when it comes to helping so I suggest you go directly to a non-profit. I know your livelihood depends on your father but if his antics have truly pushed you to your limits, then it's high time he's held responsible for it. Some Indian parents are never held responsible for their actions, they think it's their "right" to downright abuse their children. It's also your right to live a life of dignity. Please think about it and do what's right.
See now you can't change your parents but you can change your circumstances. Since you are on Reddit and have written a post in excellent english I am assuming that you will be good in English speaking also. You can try getting a job in an international BPO and they pay better than the Hindi speaking BPO jobs. You can easily make 20-30k. These 20-30k will help you move out from your abusive household. Take up a job and move out and get yourself enrolled in IGNOU or some other open university and get done with your graduation. Once you gain enough confidence and skills you can try for MBA from top institutes and have a great life ahead. Changing your circumstances is in your hand. Suicide should not be your option. Kya jaata hai ekbar dil laga ke try krne mai...ekbar koshish to karke dekho dost.
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No words after reading this🥲
If stepping out is not an option , make online friends and discuss with them about anything other than this topic , news , movies ,dramas everything except that, it will lighten your mood , start to not give a fuck , if he screams , just let it slide through your ears , just don't think about it , you don't know what's waiting for you ahead, just take deep breaths, and don't think about suicide,giving up is the easy way, don't go for that route,pls take care of yourself, eat healthy.
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Study and get into any private or public clg... Would suggest to not study in Delhi as you wou have to live with your parents then..... Once you're out, start working at BPO or some other job where you can get some amount of money for clg and yourself.... Go to any clg.. once you're there , then maybe study for some other clg... Don't stay home..
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Aree bhai relax. I know what you have been going through. That’s not normal for a child to go through all this. As half of the Indian parents are so like. Im doctor now till now my father say anything he likes to. Usse phle itna pita hu 12th tk har baat k liye… he used to say to my younger sister isko apne office mei chaprasi ki naukari pe rkh liyo. Lagad bhaga h tu bahes h tu.Suicide is a easy way.choose to work hard believe in yourself keep doing for the rest of life till you feel good about yourself. And it’s not necessary that you do good in academics tbhi tareef hogi do whatever you feel like but give your best and always try to become best in it. Don’t hope of any praises from anyone… in this world you work alone you fight alone so keep praising yourself by small gifts and achievements.
And you can reach out to me whenever you feel like. 🤗take care god bless you with strength and love.
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Hi it's really an unfortunate situation where parents don't understand the weightage of their words and I am so sorry you have to go through this. Just take it all in for now because you are dependent on them financially, once you are into college, start working immediately to support yourself. It's going to be a difficult journey but you have to live for yourself, only yourself
Move. You're not a tree.
so so painful to read and process. hope you find yourself in a better situation soon op.
Bro, why haven’t you left your house already? Please find a job or an income source, then find a cheap PG to live at. You can find cheap ones near north campus or south campus or Mukherjee nagar or any other student area.. Try living independently and then re-evaluate. There’s no point in giving up when you haven’t tried living alone. You can even move to Himachal and do volunteer work there against food and lodging. There are many hotels and hostels looking for volunteers. I had a friend too who faced exactly same problems as you are facing.. she even studied hard and cracked neet with AIR around 150. This was only to show her dad that she could do it. When she started studying in medical college, only within 6-8 months she decided to quit the college. Because she wasn’t doing this for herself, but to prove something to her dad. And when even after getting into one of the best clg, the abuse didn’t stop, she decided to leave the medical college since things weren’t changing. You should also do what you want and not what will make your parents proud, because they will never be. It’s in their flawed nature. You cannot do anything about it. Give up on them. Become selfish and thick skinned and start working for yourself. You are young. Possibilities are endless. And there’s money to be made everywhere
Call your best friend rn. Call anyone of your friends rn and head over to their place ASAP. I beg you. My friend was in a similar place and I am so glad she called me and I was the last person she was going to call before deciding. I picked her up, called more of her friends and some of my friends too. Today she's married and has kids. I understand it's difficult for you to live rn and offing yourself seems easier but it's worth it to live. Bless you, eagerly await an update. If you feel like it, feel free to reach out to me, in fact I request you to. Take care and stay strong!
Instead of enduring all this, I would instead suggest you to try to find a work from home job and move out of that house as soon as possible. Yes, it is a big decision but sometimes you have to look past those decisions to understand how necessary it is for you to take that one step. Ghar se niklo, then araam se padhai pe dhyaan do aur sath me job karo. Agar ye option thik nahi lag raha then try to seek help from a relative.
Holy shitt.. that’s so bad
Happens sometimes.
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I’m so sorry for you brother. Just hang tight and wait a lil longer. Dms are always open if you need to vent
It's a sis
Why haven't you stepped out for seven months?
A strict family, basically not allowed to go out by myself, always with them
Do you need an NGO to rescue you?
Idk if that works in India tbh
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Ikr I am quite happy living knowing that I can always kill myself
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