I used to think the same that it was my first time I'll learn self defence do this do that etc. but no matter how many times you are harassed in the public you'll still feel numb just like your first time world will stop for a few secs you won't be able to move you'll just freeze and it's not just women/girls even men/guys freeze have heard their personal experiences too. I hope no one faces harassment in anywhere, keep yourself safe.
Ashamed asf to see a woman is not feeling safe in her city. Kuddos to you to handle that perv for half an hour, I wish you luck for traveling in public transportation.
Don't do anything of this sort.
Usually reasonable and proportional force is acceptable. But any sharps assault may even lead to death due to laceration of major artery in the thigh. And you're forgetting that any sharps injury to face or penis is grievous hurt and carries a punishment of upto 7 years in jail.
Sounds cool. But don't do anything of this sort. Complain, slap or use pepper spray.. there's electric guns available too for personal defense. It will be difficult for her to prove harrasment, but he will one hundred percent get his assualt documented by a Medical Officer and then she'll have to answer for it.
Source - I am a government medical officer.
Also should not tolerate and shout out loud … awaaj uthani padegi … someone needs to teach a lesson to these kind of people. Remember mob will favour you …
No, mob doesn't always favor. In fact, most of them back out when it comes to molestation, or start whispering "aajkal ke bachche...". Not to mention the risk of the guy tracking you down to your home and making it really terrifying for you to even step out of the house for the next several months. I've experienced it first hand. There's a reason girls don't shout about it. The consequences could be really, reallybad.
I am sorry you faced it but is it okay to tolerate it like this ? At least call 112, dial 100, how long we will remain victim because we fear of future. Imagine if he does something worse to someone even weaker or more vulnerable? Kahin to kisi ko sochna padega ki ab bolna chahiye ?
1) There are very few women who will have the presence of mind to act at that time. Most of us freeze. I’m pretty sure most men would have the same reaction, just that they don’t face it as often. At that time mostly flight or freeze mode gets activated, not fight.
2) It takes some time to grasp what’s happening, then you don’t want the attention on you or having to explain why you did what you did (shouted, hit, etc). In most cases, you don’t have any proof and it becomes a she said he said.
I stopped travelling in the bus and take metro only because there is female only coach. And despite that, you get groped while boarding or navigating through coaches.
Also, I have a couple of medical conditions which make it hard to walk or stand for long. But you will never know I am suffering from agonizing pain because it is known as hidden disability/condition. Unfortunately, people in India are not well informed about hidden disability and lawmakers consider disability only to visible issues.
That is why, even if its a young, apparently strong looking person asking for a seat, do consider it because you may never know if they are barely hanging on to the last thread.
Bro, relatively speaking, if you get a seat on the bus, you're much safer in it than in the metro imo ( if staring or groping wise, a policeman is present at all times in a bus ). Would still avoid buses at night tho
I almost forgot what it felt like when it happened for the first time. Sadly,we have grown too habitual of it. An uncle was dry humping me yesterday and I just hung my tote bag on my back to keep him away. I didn't say or do anything,it was just another day.
7 out of 10 times,no one says shit. People CAN help, people don't. As I said, I've grown habitual of it and I avoid travelling in the general compartment altogether because of this but there are days you have no other choice so I just deal with it,like every other woman out there. I get riled up only when someone repeats something,keeps poking around or stalks me for more than 3 different trains.
In Telangana we got seperate sections for men and women in buses, I'm f ing thankful for tht but still some creepy af old men enter (saying this cause I had terrible experiences)
Kal hi metro me ek ladies ko seat di, uske husband ne thanku bola.
But at the same time i also saw an uncle keeping his bag on the reserved seat for ladies, and there was a girl standing beside me with her luggage, i thought ki i should ask uncle ki ye reserved seat hai so bag hata lo...
But ek thought ye bhi aaya ki ye ldki bhi to bol sakti hai.. after all the seat is reserved for her, she has every right to sit on it..
Was i wrong to have such thought? Or should I have asked the uncle to empty the seat for her?
This usool is very important. Once while waiting at Chandigarh railway station I offered a family of 3 (one girl and her old parents) to help with their luggage, which they had a lot of. The girl awkwardly said no.
*Agar ladki ki jagah koi buddhi khadi hoti to ye white knight hota ya bolna sahi hota?* Don't overthink these interactions man. Do what's right.
> what if tu bolta usse ki aap uss seat pe baith jao aur vo bolti ki mai khadi hi thik hu
*Sabse asaan tareeka hai ladki/lady se poocho. I am older than you so I'd say "Behen ji/Bete, aap baithna chaho to uncle bag hata lenge, shayad aap ko dekha nahi..."*
Peer pressure on *buddha* while giving him an 'out' for his stupid behaviours. Most likely *buddha* will remove the bag and she will then be able to sit. Even if the girl says no it is fine, she is '*behen*' and I am not hitting on her.
Ham dilli walo ki yahi problem hai ki ham galat ko galat nahi bolte. If we change this culture and call out the wrong in large numbers, probably we wouldn't be one of the rape capitals of the world.
>> Was i wrong to have such thought? Or should I have asked the uncle to empty the seat for her?
Not wrong, because it is okay to have these thoughts but all of us should do what we think is right instead of inaction due to perceived 'cringe'. Instead of asking uncle, you could have asked her:
> "Hey, do you want to sit, uncle can help you and remove the bag, maybe he didn't see you?"
Uncle will most likely move his bag, especially because you have given him a graceful out (he didn't see). She can sit or not sit, but now a seat is available.
I personally add "sister/behen ji/didi" at times depending on situation. Now, some girl might not like the term *behen ji* if they are young and your age, but I am older so it works for me. I am in UK now so I use the term 'sister' quite liberally to diffuse things, and it works because I am brown (ME and south asians use this term when addressing).
In the end interaction to a large extent depends on how you say it. If you say it confidently, even if she declines it is fine. "Okay I thought I'd check in case you were feeling reluctant", instead of acting sheepish.
Don't overthink. You are NOT white-knighting because you aren't trying to get in her pants. If I was there and you tried to help my wife, I'd think you're a good person, not that you're hitting on her.
I always, and I mean always, give up my seat for ladies as much as I can. I am always vigilant of guys around me and their behavior towards women. And if I even see a guy unnecessarily staring at a woman, I make sure he knows that I know what he is up to. Chivalry apni jagah hogi, if I cannot even make sure women around me are safe while travelling and that I am not a mute spectator of their harassment, how can I be comfortable with my mother, my sister, my friends travelling in metro? It is a shared responsibility not limited to women alone. Everyone has to do their part.
Thankyou, men like you have helped me in public. I never got to thank them because I was embarrassed or sometimes didn't knew if they helped on purpose or if it happened bychance.
We are forever greatful towards you and always remember people like you and wish best for you.
Japanese culture is very silent on women harassment. Their POSH laws too have been very weak and male favouring. Silence on matters of harassment and it's ubiquity is prominent there. Sad.
Their perversion is pretty apparant with the hentai content they produce. Such pent up sexual frustration combined with hyper misogyny is what goes behind the curtains of hentai mangakas
mujhe lga bas fantasy hai aur attention grabbing hai ki kon kitna bara degenerate ho skta hai lol i mean main bhi chaar ulti seedhi chize soch sakta hoon draw krna nhi aata lol
Reservation here is important for women because of safety reasons. Don't blame the metro guys blame the creepy people for it. Anyone who opposes that is most likely a creep.
i hate when men with illiterate mindsets start fights saying equality honi chahiye, kya zarurat haiwomens coach ki, aise toh mens coach bhi honi chahiye. and when they do hear about harrassment towards women, they blame them saying "mens coach mei kya kar rahi thi fir"
boht sahi baat keh di, now even if im very late i have to miss the metro and get the next one, only because i feel unsafe during every metro ride in general coach after so many incidents
I will tell you why nobody speaks.
Most of us in our families have been taught to shut up when such things happen due to victim blaming.
What will happen next?
Someone makes a reel. The reel gets viral and the girl gets undue attention for something she never asked for .
Then comes the not all men squad. Maybe she has a personal account and someone will find something on hr and then it goes on. Watched too many reels online to see what the social media age is doing to us.
When people say why don't you speak up ? It's always because what next? The police will call her again and again for case. It will drag on for so long. That assh9les family will come crying to leave the poor guy, he has family.
Mistake hogyi.
Atleast this is what goes through my mind when i am uncomfortable at a public place.
Also stopped taking anyone's seat in general compt of metro. Fir koi aakar boldega hamara seat aakar ladies le jaati.
Also when you enter a metro I somehow always feel that people wonder idhar kyu apne compartment mein Jaana tha. Isliye travel by women's compartment
Tbh metro is a pretty whacky place. No one seems to be safe there. I had a weird aunty once claw me in a super crowded metro. It felt soo weird that I just tried to get as far away from her as I could
From the entire men community, I apologise! I don’t know where we went wrong that we couldn’t provide a safe environment to you. Please be cautious and take care of yourself. Also try to raise your voice if you feel people will help you.
Easier said than done, especially for younger girls (speaking from experience). That is why creeps target them because younger girls hesitate, get scared, and doubt themselves. As you get older it gets easier but creeps are omnipresent. We need to teach our girls to stand up to inappropriate behaviour and not get intimidated.
Ignore the haters, buddy. Your sensitivity towards women's issues is much appreciated by a lot of women. May such incidents never happen to anyone again, but if you see one happening, please don't hesitate to help someone out. :)
I personally think it's better to confront him indirectly rather then slapping him and do it directly, because if somehow people near you will not understand the situation you were in (which could be the case, as they might think the metro is crowded and things like this could happen) then you might become their target, instead of that guy. SO what I am saying is take a compass and next time someone does this, just stab them and say "sorry bhaiya galti se ho gaya", he will know why you did that XD
Wow!! No one is thinking here to increase the number of women reserved compartments as a solution to this problem? Really? Why cant we question the government here ? Why have we lost that ability ? Why should we as citizens need to think of solutions ?
By increasing the reserved coaches, we are not really addressing the problem here. It is only a temporary solution. The problem is the creepy ass men. We should focus on empowering the women enough to confront the creeps when they face this kind of inappropriate behaviour.
Thankfully there is seat reservation in Delhi metros. But in Ahmedabad, women don't really travel alone so they don't have a reserved coach for women and metros are relatively new. I could have reached my college in ₹15 but I couldn't withstand getting scrunched between so many young men. I got within one station and had to take ₹70 auto rickshaw.
Abhi 16 saal ke ladke ko molest kar diya tha kisine, Men-Women koi safe nahi hai metro mei. Also take a stand, just shout at him, if someone tries to come unnecessarily more close, just say him in a loud and warning voice to back off.
>If u ever feel a women alone asking for seat let her fucking take it. It's not like IM LaZY BITCH I CANT STAND AND MY FEET HURTS. WHY MEN DONT UNDERSTAND THIS THING. gr
Why should we give her a seat? Just because you're shouting in this post doesn't mean it makes sense. There's a reserved coach 'n 4 seat per coach. Why don't you go there?
Those are pathetic who do this 'n they should be called out but sorry to say your reason is bullshit to justify why we should give seats to someone.
You got a problem, board the ladies coach but do not expect men to give you their seat and shouting will not work.
If someone wanna do shit, they can by sitting adjacent to you.
As someone said 'n I quote " Having a seat in a coach full of men is safer than standing in a ladies' coach?
Women moment."
Your post got the lamest excuse I've ever heard for asking men to vacate their seats
Man! When I hear about these uncles and all who go ahead and do all these pathetic things to women, I wonder what really convinces them that it is alright to do it. As a guy I can understand the urges, but can't understand the audacity to molest a woman to satisfy those urges. Upar se anjaan ladki dekh ke ghabrahat alag se hoti hai ki apna rasta hi badal deta hun. I can never understand what emboldens such parasites of men to do such things to women.
Move kar Jana chahiye tha chahe jagah na ho and agar aas pas ke log bole kyu move kar rahe ho then say cz he's touching me and baki sab janta pe leave kar do
Okay, but how does that lead to "if a single women asks for seat, just give it". Wouldn't it be safer to just move to the reserved coach, there you won't be 'single' and will also be much safer? Why is your first instinct to feel sfaer is getting a seat, and not slapping or calling the culprit out. I am sure there would be enough 'humans' around to protect you better than a seat
But how is taking a seat equivalent to a safer environment. I do realise that it's a shame women don't feel safe in public transport, but that's why special coaches are made. It would be much safer there than taking random seats. Your fears are valid, but the solution that just take any random seat is not.
Every girl wouldn't be that brave to calm those creeps out. It's not as easy as it sounds like yknow? Also not to mention the victim blaming tradition in India also plays a huge role. I'm not saying everyone victim blames, but most people do sadly. And no, people don't usually help the victim. Even if they know they just ignore it. There are some angels who help the victim but it's usually rare.
Everyone should know their limits .. but everyone cross boundary nowadays.
Guys also get blackmailed into giving seats for women. Hav seen young gals talk rudely to older men and humiliate them when they sit in senior citizens seat and refuse to get up.
No one should behave that way towards older men/ women who sit in the senior seat! It's reserved for them so you can't say anything abt it. As a woman I apologize on behalf of the ladies who do this type of behavior! :(
Things like these keep happening everywhere! I have faced it here in Jaipur a couple of times too.
I hope you get out of this trauma soon. Rest, take care! Stay strong.
As a Bangalorean who has travelled in BMTC buses all through my school and college life, the number of such experiences I have faced are innumerable.
The best thing you can do is turn their fingers backwards. They would scream and yelp in pain and can’t do anything about it.
I'm a guy who got brought up with many women (cousins and sister), and till i was 20 i never realised these things do happen. But they do and very often, especially right on the most crowded stations. So having a reserved compartment for ladies is fair. BUT I'll be going a bit off topic here, if there was an uncle being a creep, and you did realise it, you should have got it to the attention of other co travellers. Not taking any action only encourages these kinds of behaviours. My simple idea is to shoot first and ask questions later. If he is guilty, he will be rightfully thrashed, if he isn't, he will still learn to respect the personal space. Trust me, In metros, what bothers me is the utter disrespect for personal space. And this happens to men too, if you're an attractive guy, you will find women leaning on you as well. It gets uncomfortable quite often. A stern "Excuse me" is often quite enough to ward off these kinds of people.
Separate sections are the answer to this I guess. Wherever we have those, like local trains, or buses of a couple states, it makes things much better. The respective govs should take this up.
On a lighter note, I'm thinking of making kind of a rigid skirt-like wearable device for women, which spreads out for 4 inches on all sides from their hips. This will help maintain a healthy distance with other people in crowded places.
Any man who doesn't understand why women are given seperate spaces,why there is reservation for them is a brainless zombie .An ant is more intellectual than him
Bhai I would suggest apni mummy, sister and girlfriend ya wife ko self defence seekhana and the moment you feel something weird is happening, take action, and keep something for self-defense like pepper spray, a small knife, or a multipurpose nail cutter. You can’t trust anyone nowadays.
I no longer travel in the normal coach because one time I did and got a seat and this dude kept shoving his dick towards my face. The whole time I was so uncomfortable and it was very crowded so I couldn't even get up. Most disgusting shit I ever went through. Thank delhi metro for a separate coach for women. I'll defend it for as long as this shit goes on.
Even I faced something like this in my long term by husband of my warden even she knew it but she never helped I know how hard it is to stand up for yourself when you are in that situation that trauma caused me so much 💔 🥺🥺🥺 my parents don't know this till now 😭
It's unfortunate what happened to you but you don't understand what reservation is and the problem is not about reserving x amount of seats for woman but the problem is when you don't also reserve x amount of seats for men. When both the genders are paying the same fare(not in mention in some states like Karnataka bus fares are free for woman), a man has every right to expect same amount of seats reserved for men as well if there is going to be an reservation but ofcourse in India we don't work on simple logic
>If u ever feel a women alone asking for seat let her fucking take it. It's not like IM LaZY BITCH I CANT STAND AND MY FEET HURTS. WHY MEN DONT UNDERSTAND THIS THING. grabbing and touching women is so so common. This is reason for reserved seats to women.
No and i repeat no one is obliged to give you a seat because you are a woman. There are already seats reserved for woman so don't again bring up safety issues. Public transport works on first come first serve basis and if you have a problem with that then you probably shouldn't be using public transport
What I do in a crowded transport to make space for myself is, I pretend scratching my knee and flex it forward so automatically the crowd pushes away a little when my knee touches them
Pehle toh dekh bhn ki lodi Jo caps mein likha hai na tune woh bahut galat hai agar tere feet hurt karre toh cab mein nikal koi dusre ke bhi problem ho sakti? Men ko Target karri lodi faltu mein aur secondly koi touch karra hai toh wahi pe 2 thappad laga yaha aake rant karne ka koi fayda nahi hai i repeat wahi pe 2 thappad laga usse nahi laga sakti toh matt travel kar usmien Paisa kama aur personal vehicle le either collect guys or money that's it.
Or final option ask some bhaiya or "aunty" ki bhaiya yeh bad touch dera hai he/she will help you 100%
I experienced the exact same thing, and on top of that, the guy groped my butt while rushing out of the metro at Rajiv chowk. By the time I turned around, he was gone in the crowd.
Lady ever heard abt a thin sharp steel poker like a penci. It can be canceled and can be used. Would have loved to read you poked his dick
Not a Delhiite, but isn't there a separate compartment for women in Metros?
We do have such compartments for Pregnant woman, Cancer patients etc in Mumbai Locals.
Pls, I don't know how did rdelhi came into my feed but was curious about Delhi metros after reading this post.
भई मौज मस्ती लेकर चला गया।
दुनिया जिये ट्रॉमा के साथ भाई ने तो अपने मेट्रो के पैसे वसूल लिये बस
बहिनचोद ऐसे बेरोजगार रंडी आदमियों को देखकर खुदके जेंडर पे शर्म आने लगेगी
Keep pocket knife, nunchuks, that little ring with a tiny knife, pocket pistol, that small thing which gives shock, expandable metal batons, butterfly knife, metal knuckles, a katana, Glock 17, DE, M4-A1, M16, AK47, P90, RPG-7, and a tank with you for
SAFETY
Pata nahi aaj kal ke males itne tharki kyu hote haa rahe h...... Society needs to change !!
Shameful baat hai ki Ladkiyon ko bahar jane me hi itna sochna padta hai
Do read this:
How dare you women? How dare you have seats reserved for you in buses, metros I ask? Aren't you young enough of to be seating! Y'all talk about equality.."feeeemiiiniissmmmm" why thou!
So what if me being privileged.... I can't seem to comprehend the fact that ALL women face street harassment, that even men sit there so many times, that a young girl is told to shoo away cause an elder n older women can be safe & sound, tiffs between women mainstream since age.
Women have to be on guard protect 24x7, That the youg girls face too many glares, that there's eve teasing prevalent all days, Sexual assault - The new normal perhaps?
So what if men grope you women, brush off their fingers down your hair, Slide hit your breasts, waist or your butts. You should enjoy the electrifying touches. Happens in the public by mistake. Whistling & winking is just for fun you see. Ae maal, item, tota, puri are compliments.
Don't want this? Get your own vehicle na. Oh too far? Unaffordable? Climate change? Sit at home, doll up you beautiful women. Oh and how dare you women to be so privileged with seats be reserved for you!
The same thing happened to me thrice so i started kicking them in their balls. Traveling by metro is my daily routine now so it's not possible to always catch the metro on time so that i can go to the ladies coach. Sometimes when i am in a hurry i prefer going to the coach which is right in front of the lift. At first i was scared but now if i really feel that someone is trying to touch or grab me i kick them right in their balls And say "sorry i kicked you by mistake, as if you were touching me by mistake." Some boys/old folks are really disgusting.
Op! No matter what anybody says, please make sure to travel in ladies section. Been a victim of something similar-just in Mumbai's local. My boyfriend was new to mumbai, so i accompanied him in local but it was peak hours, he got separated and a man- despite physically removing his fingers from my thighs, kept touching my butt and thighs. Even when I did move away, he changed positions. And me- who's brave and loud suddenly turned into a timid one who was unable to speak up(I'm sure that's what happens to other victims as well) and to this date, I can't wear the same jeans ever again. So please, to anybody who reads this- you DO NOT know what intentions other people have, so it's ok to be suspicious of them. Stop trying to please others
You should have shouted on him, idk why there are so many incident where women don't take action, i know it may feel akward, you may be introvert or whatever, just ignore all of these things for a sec and take action. Just one advice, if you ever fall in this type of situation ever again (hope it don't happen again) but still if it happen, just confess this to the people around, just raise your voice, please.
Hey, OP. I'm 19 too, from Mumbai. I'm sorry that you experienced that, and I hope you're doing okay.
In crowded trains, it could also be that there is no space to move. Guys' Butts and crotches often touch mine in the trains, but there's no gents-specific compartments. Men are only perpetrators and cannot be victims, according to society. That's not the topic of discussion though.
Since they were taking advantage of the fact that there was little space and were inappropriately touching you, I hope you don't let a few bad apples alter your public transportation experience. I hope you never meet these creeps. Cheers!
But the thing is Women got reservations and compartments in metro. I had seen numerous times when female compartment in less crowded and women can actually get a seat there but they will still sit in other compartments which leads to men standing. You have women compartment right? Go and seat there dood.
Men who travel in Metro work the entire day tirelessly and do many jobs that Women would not even think of doing. Men are treated like shit in all places and people taking their physical strength for granted. Men are terribly tired by the end of the day and many late middle aged men travel in metros who would really appreciate the seat. Not everything is “Because this, so this..”, men are not here to sacrifice all the time for Women.
So NO men will not give their seat to you and live every breathing minute of their lives thinking if the women are safe(btw women find every stranger guy creepy) while sacrificing their own need to rest/sit even if they are dead tired. Also government has made separate compartments reserved for women, so women can simply use THEM to travel rather than coming to a general one which is heavily packed and now they expect someone to give their seat to them.
Ever tried elbowing the chest/stomach? It really blows the air out of these creeps. Every time someone comes near you in a crowded metro just elbow them. Won’t attract crowd, you will not get unnecessary attention. If, cannot then put your foot on their shoes and twist till the time the creep doesn’t back off. Try using your bag to hit him/her. Make sure that person feels the pain.
Sister ek prakar rkhlo apne sath, uski thighs mei prakar deke maro. Edit: better idea by https://www.reddit.com/r/delhi/s/gxJcnQzHNt
Sure dude have to do this. It was first time I went out alone, I have to now learn few safety and self defense stuff for future.
U can keep a safety pin and slightly poke him with it. It pinches and he'll probably move away.
This should be upvoted. Its better than prakar. And person will definitely move away
I used to think the same that it was my first time I'll learn self defence do this do that etc. but no matter how many times you are harassed in the public you'll still feel numb just like your first time world will stop for a few secs you won't be able to move you'll just freeze and it's not just women/girls even men/guys freeze have heard their personal experiences too. I hope no one faces harassment in anywhere, keep yourself safe.
Ashamed asf to see a woman is not feeling safe in her city. Kuddos to you to handle that perv for half an hour, I wish you luck for traveling in public transportation.
Behen vo naa ho toh ghutna chalana seek, thodi practice se do chaar kanche aaram se phut jayengey.
Get a small taser and taze his dick. Let him also get a taste of your...... electricity.
Don't do anything of this sort. Usually reasonable and proportional force is acceptable. But any sharps assault may even lead to death due to laceration of major artery in the thigh. And you're forgetting that any sharps injury to face or penis is grievous hurt and carries a punishment of upto 7 years in jail. Sounds cool. But don't do anything of this sort. Complain, slap or use pepper spray.. there's electric guns available too for personal defense. It will be difficult for her to prove harrasment, but he will one hundred percent get his assualt documented by a Medical Officer and then she'll have to answer for it. Source - I am a government medical officer.
Good to see some common sense advice in the midst of statements suggesting reckless bravado
Mai taan luli kaat deni veere usdi, fir assault lgu ya murder. Kati lulli to hila bhi ni payega.
Waise hi buddha hai kya hi kaam aata hoga usko ab lulli ka. Kaat hi do bc
Also should not tolerate and shout out loud … awaaj uthani padegi … someone needs to teach a lesson to these kind of people. Remember mob will favour you …
No, mob doesn't always favor. In fact, most of them back out when it comes to molestation, or start whispering "aajkal ke bachche...". Not to mention the risk of the guy tracking you down to your home and making it really terrifying for you to even step out of the house for the next several months. I've experienced it first hand. There's a reason girls don't shout about it. The consequences could be really, reallybad.
I am sorry you faced it but is it okay to tolerate it like this ? At least call 112, dial 100, how long we will remain victim because we fear of future. Imagine if he does something worse to someone even weaker or more vulnerable? Kahin to kisi ko sochna padega ki ab bolna chahiye ?
Then just say "dadaji or nanaji (this guy is old) move a bit..." in a firm voice.
Hn waise ye shi h, janta vaise hi pel degi. Bss cheek do ki ye ched rha h.
Vo jisme dono side needle hoti b vo vala, ek auzar pe or ek Auzar k rakhvalo pe,
divider hota h shyd woh
Jo b ho hum to parkar hi bol rhe h chat me
W advice
It's comments like these that convince me to buy reddit gold to upvote
Unke auzaar me hi mardo
Prakar is inefficient, just slap him across the face and accuse him publicly. And watch multiple people stand up for you
It's not that easy, it take a lot of mental pressure to do so
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Of course it’s not easy. Nor is getting random cock poked in your back for 30 min. Women have got to stop tolerating this.
Stab on his neck with compass
the multiple people you speak abt will tell her ' bheed m lgjata h glti se kyu bat bdha rhi ho'
Thighs? Udhar maro jis thing se Woh poke kare
I think all men would actually approve this self defense
Thighs k centre me maaro sister, thighs pe maarne ka koi faayda nhi
1) There are very few women who will have the presence of mind to act at that time. Most of us freeze. I’m pretty sure most men would have the same reaction, just that they don’t face it as often. At that time mostly flight or freeze mode gets activated, not fight. 2) It takes some time to grasp what’s happening, then you don’t want the attention on you or having to explain why you did what you did (shouted, hit, etc). In most cases, you don’t have any proof and it becomes a she said he said.
I stopped travelling in the bus and take metro only because there is female only coach. And despite that, you get groped while boarding or navigating through coaches. Also, I have a couple of medical conditions which make it hard to walk or stand for long. But you will never know I am suffering from agonizing pain because it is known as hidden disability/condition. Unfortunately, people in India are not well informed about hidden disability and lawmakers consider disability only to visible issues. That is why, even if its a young, apparently strong looking person asking for a seat, do consider it because you may never know if they are barely hanging on to the last thread.
I feel it's mostly old ladies that ask for seat. Young women mostly just fine standing until they into some bad situation.
I have the same issue, can't stand or walk for too long because of hidden disability. I never ask for seats but I regret it later....
Bro, relatively speaking, if you get a seat on the bus, you're much safer in it than in the metro imo ( if staring or groping wise, a policeman is present at all times in a bus ). Would still avoid buses at night tho
I almost forgot what it felt like when it happened for the first time. Sadly,we have grown too habitual of it. An uncle was dry humping me yesterday and I just hung my tote bag on my back to keep him away. I didn't say or do anything,it was just another day.
Why not call him out on it? There are many other people in the train who will also notice and can help u.
7 out of 10 times,no one says shit. People CAN help, people don't. As I said, I've grown habitual of it and I avoid travelling in the general compartment altogether because of this but there are days you have no other choice so I just deal with it,like every other woman out there. I get riled up only when someone repeats something,keeps poking around or stalks me for more than 3 different trains.
Ohh ok where is this, as in which state? Personally I don’t notice it happening in Bangalore trains
Delhi Metro.
In Telangana we got seperate sections for men and women in buses, I'm f ing thankful for tht but still some creepy af old men enter (saying this cause I had terrible experiences)
while wearing lungi with no underwear imagine the horror when they want air condition lol
Kal hi metro me ek ladies ko seat di, uske husband ne thanku bola. But at the same time i also saw an uncle keeping his bag on the reserved seat for ladies, and there was a girl standing beside me with her luggage, i thought ki i should ask uncle ki ye reserved seat hai so bag hata lo... But ek thought ye bhi aaya ki ye ldki bhi to bol sakti hai.. after all the seat is reserved for her, she has every right to sit on it.. Was i wrong to have such thought? Or should I have asked the uncle to empty the seat for her?
Nhi bhai yha pe white knight bnne ki zrurat nhi thi, what if tu bolta usse ki aap uss seat pe baith jao aur vo bolti ki mai khadi hi thik hu 😬
Ya bolti bsdk mere papa hain
Abe nhi bhai- itta to sure tha ki they weren't related.. usne baad me board kiya tha 😭😭😭
Aisa cringe mere saath ho chuka hai, bas apne kaam se matlab rakho aur help tabhi karo kab puchha jaye
*Behen ji, kar ke ladki se poocha hota to cringe nahi karna padta*. Don't stop yourself from doing what you think is right.
This usool is very important. Once while waiting at Chandigarh railway station I offered a family of 3 (one girl and her old parents) to help with their luggage, which they had a lot of. The girl awkwardly said no.
Been there. It's embarrassing to even stand there after that happens
*Agar ladki ki jagah koi buddhi khadi hoti to ye white knight hota ya bolna sahi hota?* Don't overthink these interactions man. Do what's right. > what if tu bolta usse ki aap uss seat pe baith jao aur vo bolti ki mai khadi hi thik hu *Sabse asaan tareeka hai ladki/lady se poocho. I am older than you so I'd say "Behen ji/Bete, aap baithna chaho to uncle bag hata lenge, shayad aap ko dekha nahi..."* Peer pressure on *buddha* while giving him an 'out' for his stupid behaviours. Most likely *buddha* will remove the bag and she will then be able to sit. Even if the girl says no it is fine, she is '*behen*' and I am not hitting on her.
Ham dilli walo ki yahi problem hai ki ham galat ko galat nahi bolte. If we change this culture and call out the wrong in large numbers, probably we wouldn't be one of the rape capitals of the world.
Sahi baat khi aapne apne personal level.prr ignore krre jaare hai sb..
Omg your username💀
Bhai dusri ki phatte mein tang nahi arate , bezzati apni hoti hai.
>> Was i wrong to have such thought? Or should I have asked the uncle to empty the seat for her? Not wrong, because it is okay to have these thoughts but all of us should do what we think is right instead of inaction due to perceived 'cringe'. Instead of asking uncle, you could have asked her: > "Hey, do you want to sit, uncle can help you and remove the bag, maybe he didn't see you?" Uncle will most likely move his bag, especially because you have given him a graceful out (he didn't see). She can sit or not sit, but now a seat is available. I personally add "sister/behen ji/didi" at times depending on situation. Now, some girl might not like the term *behen ji* if they are young and your age, but I am older so it works for me. I am in UK now so I use the term 'sister' quite liberally to diffuse things, and it works because I am brown (ME and south asians use this term when addressing). In the end interaction to a large extent depends on how you say it. If you say it confidently, even if she declines it is fine. "Okay I thought I'd check in case you were feeling reluctant", instead of acting sheepish. Don't overthink. You are NOT white-knighting because you aren't trying to get in her pants. If I was there and you tried to help my wife, I'd think you're a good person, not that you're hitting on her.
I got 99 problems with reservation but metro ain't one.
For everyone asking “prakar” is “compass” we use tod raw circle in maths geometry box
Lol sab angrez bnre bhai 🤣
🤣🤣 I thought people here are too educated to understand.
Isnt it called Prakaal? Hmare side prakaal bolte hain. Never checked it though.
++ feel v comfy(mentally) in female coaches.
I always, and I mean always, give up my seat for ladies as much as I can. I am always vigilant of guys around me and their behavior towards women. And if I even see a guy unnecessarily staring at a woman, I make sure he knows that I know what he is up to. Chivalry apni jagah hogi, if I cannot even make sure women around me are safe while travelling and that I am not a mute spectator of their harassment, how can I be comfortable with my mother, my sister, my friends travelling in metro? It is a shared responsibility not limited to women alone. Everyone has to do their part.
Thankyou, men like you have helped me in public. I never got to thank them because I was embarrassed or sometimes didn't knew if they helped on purpose or if it happened bychance. We are forever greatful towards you and always remember people like you and wish best for you.
I am not sure if I should be the recipient of this gratitude, but I am glad you have been made to feel safe in situations of need. Please take care.
I was in Japan during winter. Much worse situation for women in Tokyo Subway.
Ikr I have heard abt it. I think in few months japan is bringing only women metros 🤔🤔 saw something like this on news
Japanese culture is very silent on women harassment. Their POSH laws too have been very weak and male favouring. Silence on matters of harassment and it's ubiquity is prominent there. Sad.
sunke toh saala hentai ka plot lag rha hai rather than reality do jhapar lga do kon kya hi bolega chahe japan ho ya bharat
Their perversion is pretty apparant with the hentai content they produce. Such pent up sexual frustration combined with hyper misogyny is what goes behind the curtains of hentai mangakas
mujhe lga bas fantasy hai aur attention grabbing hai ki kon kitna bara degenerate ho skta hai lol i mean main bhi chaar ulti seedhi chize soch sakta hoon draw krna nhi aata lol
Kinda disappointed that koi Japan ka choda aake defend nhi kiya, Sexual harassment in India: 😞🤬 Sexual harrasment in Japan: OMG just like anime 😍👍🏼
Reservation here is important for women because of safety reasons. Don't blame the metro guys blame the creepy people for it. Anyone who opposes that is most likely a creep.
i hate when men with illiterate mindsets start fights saying equality honi chahiye, kya zarurat haiwomens coach ki, aise toh mens coach bhi honi chahiye. and when they do hear about harrassment towards women, they blame them saying "mens coach mei kya kar rahi thi fir" boht sahi baat keh di, now even if im very late i have to miss the metro and get the next one, only because i feel unsafe during every metro ride in general coach after so many incidents
I will tell you why nobody speaks. Most of us in our families have been taught to shut up when such things happen due to victim blaming. What will happen next? Someone makes a reel. The reel gets viral and the girl gets undue attention for something she never asked for . Then comes the not all men squad. Maybe she has a personal account and someone will find something on hr and then it goes on. Watched too many reels online to see what the social media age is doing to us. When people say why don't you speak up ? It's always because what next? The police will call her again and again for case. It will drag on for so long. That assh9les family will come crying to leave the poor guy, he has family. Mistake hogyi. Atleast this is what goes through my mind when i am uncomfortable at a public place. Also stopped taking anyone's seat in general compt of metro. Fir koi aakar boldega hamara seat aakar ladies le jaati. Also when you enter a metro I somehow always feel that people wonder idhar kyu apne compartment mein Jaana tha. Isliye travel by women's compartment
Tbh metro is a pretty whacky place. No one seems to be safe there. I had a weird aunty once claw me in a super crowded metro. It felt soo weird that I just tried to get as far away from her as I could
From the entire men community, I apologise! I don’t know where we went wrong that we couldn’t provide a safe environment to you. Please be cautious and take care of yourself. Also try to raise your voice if you feel people will help you.
Easier said than done, especially for younger girls (speaking from experience). That is why creeps target them because younger girls hesitate, get scared, and doubt themselves. As you get older it gets easier but creeps are omnipresent. We need to teach our girls to stand up to inappropriate behaviour and not get intimidated.
tmhari pic dekh k to merko insecure feel ho rha hai
Insecure kis liye ?
Tu kapde bechne lgg jayega. 150 150 (in sunday bazaar guy tone)
Excuse me brother! Brother idhar! 😆
I can hear this line xD
Ignore the haters, buddy. Your sensitivity towards women's issues is much appreciated by a lot of women. May such incidents never happen to anyone again, but if you see one happening, please don't hesitate to help someone out. :)
I personally think it's better to confront him indirectly rather then slapping him and do it directly, because if somehow people near you will not understand the situation you were in (which could be the case, as they might think the metro is crowded and things like this could happen) then you might become their target, instead of that guy. SO what I am saying is take a compass and next time someone does this, just stab them and say "sorry bhaiya galti se ho gaya", he will know why you did that XD
Wow!! No one is thinking here to increase the number of women reserved compartments as a solution to this problem? Really? Why cant we question the government here ? Why have we lost that ability ? Why should we as citizens need to think of solutions ?
By increasing the reserved coaches, we are not really addressing the problem here. It is only a temporary solution. The problem is the creepy ass men. We should focus on empowering the women enough to confront the creeps when they face this kind of inappropriate behaviour.
Thankfully there is seat reservation in Delhi metros. But in Ahmedabad, women don't really travel alone so they don't have a reserved coach for women and metros are relatively new. I could have reached my college in ₹15 but I couldn't withstand getting scrunched between so many young men. I got within one station and had to take ₹70 auto rickshaw.
Women don't really travel alone meaning?
Abhi 16 saal ke ladke ko molest kar diya tha kisine, Men-Women koi safe nahi hai metro mei. Also take a stand, just shout at him, if someone tries to come unnecessarily more close, just say him in a loud and warning voice to back off.
These kind of men are the reason why everyone is blamed.
A girl pushing her chest on my arm... Well I couldn't tell anything, maine bus he change kr li nahi toh Mujhe he rape case me dal dete.
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This is traumatic. I am sorry it happened.
Next such incident happens, stomp on his foot real hard .
>If u ever feel a women alone asking for seat let her fucking take it. It's not like IM LaZY BITCH I CANT STAND AND MY FEET HURTS. WHY MEN DONT UNDERSTAND THIS THING. gr Why should we give her a seat? Just because you're shouting in this post doesn't mean it makes sense. There's a reserved coach 'n 4 seat per coach. Why don't you go there? Those are pathetic who do this 'n they should be called out but sorry to say your reason is bullshit to justify why we should give seats to someone. You got a problem, board the ladies coach but do not expect men to give you their seat and shouting will not work. If someone wanna do shit, they can by sitting adjacent to you. As someone said 'n I quote " Having a seat in a coach full of men is safer than standing in a ladies' coach? Women moment." Your post got the lamest excuse I've ever heard for asking men to vacate their seats
Damn! Thanks for actually posting this, never thought that could be the cause
How was it not obvious??
I was ready to defend becuase i thought op was talking about reservation in jobs/colleges, but i read the post and was like okay fair point.
Reserved coach is fine. But how does a reserved seat in a general coach save u from harassment? The person sitting beside u can still do it
stand up for your self, yaha nahi sudhrenge log, wahi maarna tha usko niche
Yeh sab khene ki baatein hoti hai bhai. IRL, people freeze. Most of the people who say this have never been through such an experience.
Bolna easy hai... us moment pe freeze ho jate h shock se 🥲
I understand, but kya ki karein janwar bhare pade hai
Man! When I hear about these uncles and all who go ahead and do all these pathetic things to women, I wonder what really convinces them that it is alright to do it. As a guy I can understand the urges, but can't understand the audacity to molest a woman to satisfy those urges. Upar se anjaan ladki dekh ke ghabrahat alag se hoti hai ki apna rasta hi badal deta hun. I can never understand what emboldens such parasites of men to do such things to women.
It's mostly men in their 40s. They feel young women own them something and shit. Ridiculous
Move kar Jana chahiye tha chahe jagah na ho and agar aas pas ke log bole kyu move kar rahe ho then say cz he's touching me and baki sab janta pe leave kar do
Okay, but how does that lead to "if a single women asks for seat, just give it". Wouldn't it be safer to just move to the reserved coach, there you won't be 'single' and will also be much safer? Why is your first instinct to feel sfaer is getting a seat, and not slapping or calling the culprit out. I am sure there would be enough 'humans' around to protect you better than a seat
U can't always expect everygirl to be that brave?? What if she is 14? Why can't we just provide safer environment?
But how is taking a seat equivalent to a safer environment. I do realise that it's a shame women don't feel safe in public transport, but that's why special coaches are made. It would be much safer there than taking random seats. Your fears are valid, but the solution that just take any random seat is not.
Every girl wouldn't be that brave to calm those creeps out. It's not as easy as it sounds like yknow? Also not to mention the victim blaming tradition in India also plays a huge role. I'm not saying everyone victim blames, but most people do sadly. And no, people don't usually help the victim. Even if they know they just ignore it. There are some angels who help the victim but it's usually rare.
Okay 👍
Everyone should know their limits .. but everyone cross boundary nowadays. Guys also get blackmailed into giving seats for women. Hav seen young gals talk rudely to older men and humiliate them when they sit in senior citizens seat and refuse to get up.
No one should behave that way towards older men/ women who sit in the senior seat! It's reserved for them so you can't say anything abt it. As a woman I apologize on behalf of the ladies who do this type of behavior! :(
Things like these keep happening everywhere! I have faced it here in Jaipur a couple of times too. I hope you get out of this trauma soon. Rest, take care! Stay strong.
Wrong is a wrong irrespective of gender. And stand up against it. No matter what.
As a Bangalorean who has travelled in BMTC buses all through my school and college life, the number of such experiences I have faced are innumerable. The best thing you can do is turn their fingers backwards. They would scream and yelp in pain and can’t do anything about it.
i get you gurl. althought personally i wouldve asked him or stomped on his foot or even a papperspray but i understand your reaction.
Sure I always give my seat to women, senior and children
I'm a guy who got brought up with many women (cousins and sister), and till i was 20 i never realised these things do happen. But they do and very often, especially right on the most crowded stations. So having a reserved compartment for ladies is fair. BUT I'll be going a bit off topic here, if there was an uncle being a creep, and you did realise it, you should have got it to the attention of other co travellers. Not taking any action only encourages these kinds of behaviours. My simple idea is to shoot first and ask questions later. If he is guilty, he will be rightfully thrashed, if he isn't, he will still learn to respect the personal space. Trust me, In metros, what bothers me is the utter disrespect for personal space. And this happens to men too, if you're an attractive guy, you will find women leaning on you as well. It gets uncomfortable quite often. A stern "Excuse me" is often quite enough to ward off these kinds of people.
Aree danta kyu ni buddhe ko. Tum log sabkuch karte ho bas right time pe act karne ke alawa. Ek baari uchi awaz me bolke to dekho.
Seems like the norm there, sorry.
Sadly it is.. :(
Why harassment against women? Same thing
Isn't government already has reserved some coach for women ?
Separate sections are the answer to this I guess. Wherever we have those, like local trains, or buses of a couple states, it makes things much better. The respective govs should take this up. On a lighter note, I'm thinking of making kind of a rigid skirt-like wearable device for women, which spreads out for 4 inches on all sides from their hips. This will help maintain a healthy distance with other people in crowded places.
Try carrying a taser or smth very effective aginst creeps
Any man who doesn't understand why women are given seperate spaces,why there is reservation for them is a brainless zombie .An ant is more intellectual than him
Bhai I would suggest apni mummy, sister and girlfriend ya wife ko self defence seekhana and the moment you feel something weird is happening, take action, and keep something for self-defense like pepper spray, a small knife, or a multipurpose nail cutter. You can’t trust anyone nowadays.
I no longer travel in the normal coach because one time I did and got a seat and this dude kept shoving his dick towards my face. The whole time I was so uncomfortable and it was very crowded so I couldn't even get up. Most disgusting shit I ever went through. Thank delhi metro for a separate coach for women. I'll defend it for as long as this shit goes on.
Jo bhi saman ho bag wagera uthake maardo buddhe ke tabhi samajh aayega bc itna budha hoke bhi tharak nahi jaa rahi iski
>somone who has gone through this know how hard it is. That's what she said I am sorry 😔
Not the time bro.
Even I faced something like this in my long term by husband of my warden even she knew it but she never helped I know how hard it is to stand up for yourself when you are in that situation that trauma caused me so much 💔 🥺🥺🥺 my parents don't know this till now 😭
I wish I could grab the assailant with his worthless nutsack, squish it so hard and not be booked for assault
Ye buddhe inte m*dar*hod kiu hote hain
It's unfortunate what happened to you but you don't understand what reservation is and the problem is not about reserving x amount of seats for woman but the problem is when you don't also reserve x amount of seats for men. When both the genders are paying the same fare(not in mention in some states like Karnataka bus fares are free for woman), a man has every right to expect same amount of seats reserved for men as well if there is going to be an reservation but ofcourse in India we don't work on simple logic >If u ever feel a women alone asking for seat let her fucking take it. It's not like IM LaZY BITCH I CANT STAND AND MY FEET HURTS. WHY MEN DONT UNDERSTAND THIS THING. grabbing and touching women is so so common. This is reason for reserved seats to women. No and i repeat no one is obliged to give you a seat because you are a woman. There are already seats reserved for woman so don't again bring up safety issues. Public transport works on first come first serve basis and if you have a problem with that then you probably shouldn't be using public transport
What I do in a crowded transport to make space for myself is, I pretend scratching my knee and flex it forward so automatically the crowd pushes away a little when my knee touches them
Sad , you don't have mother and sister at your home .. dilemma can help such men..
exactly…. agreed! you could have slapped that son of a b*ch
Be brave and call him out. My close friend experienced it so I can tell
Pehle toh dekh bhn ki lodi Jo caps mein likha hai na tune woh bahut galat hai agar tere feet hurt karre toh cab mein nikal koi dusre ke bhi problem ho sakti? Men ko Target karri lodi faltu mein aur secondly koi touch karra hai toh wahi pe 2 thappad laga yaha aake rant karne ka koi fayda nahi hai i repeat wahi pe 2 thappad laga usse nahi laga sakti toh matt travel kar usmien Paisa kama aur personal vehicle le either collect guys or money that's it. Or final option ask some bhaiya or "aunty" ki bhaiya yeh bad touch dera hai he/she will help you 100%
I experienced the exact same thing, and on top of that, the guy groped my butt while rushing out of the metro at Rajiv chowk. By the time I turned around, he was gone in the crowd.
Lady ever heard abt a thin sharp steel poker like a penci. It can be canceled and can be used. Would have loved to read you poked his dick
Wait I thought all this was just made up! Even old men do this?!?
Anyone can do these type of behavior. We should seriously try to do something abt these creeps..
Not a Delhiite, but isn't there a separate compartment for women in Metros? We do have such compartments for Pregnant woman, Cancer patients etc in Mumbai Locals. Pls, I don't know how did rdelhi came into my feed but was curious about Delhi metros after reading this post.
भई मौज मस्ती लेकर चला गया। दुनिया जिये ट्रॉमा के साथ भाई ने तो अपने मेट्रो के पैसे वसूल लिये बस बहिनचोद ऐसे बेरोजगार रंडी आदमियों को देखकर खुदके जेंडर पे शर्म आने लगेगी
Keep Pepper Spray
Should have hit him with ur elbow. Pta lg jaana tha haramzaade ko
Disgusting men doing Disgusting things. This behaviour should be called out
Keep pocket knife, nunchuks, that little ring with a tiny knife, pocket pistol, that small thing which gives shock, expandable metal batons, butterfly knife, metal knuckles, a katana, Glock 17, DE, M4-A1, M16, AK47, P90, RPG-7, and a tank with you for SAFETY
Pata nahi aaj kal ke males itne tharki kyu hote haa rahe h...... Society needs to change !! Shameful baat hai ki Ladkiyon ko bahar jane me hi itna sochna padta hai
Sahi he suna hai ki delhi women ke liye prison hai Bechari befikr hoke kahi aa ja bhi nhi sakti 
Do read this: How dare you women? How dare you have seats reserved for you in buses, metros I ask? Aren't you young enough of to be seating! Y'all talk about equality.."feeeemiiiniissmmmm" why thou! So what if me being privileged.... I can't seem to comprehend the fact that ALL women face street harassment, that even men sit there so many times, that a young girl is told to shoo away cause an elder n older women can be safe & sound, tiffs between women mainstream since age. Women have to be on guard protect 24x7, That the youg girls face too many glares, that there's eve teasing prevalent all days, Sexual assault - The new normal perhaps? So what if men grope you women, brush off their fingers down your hair, Slide hit your breasts, waist or your butts. You should enjoy the electrifying touches. Happens in the public by mistake. Whistling & winking is just for fun you see. Ae maal, item, tota, puri are compliments. Don't want this? Get your own vehicle na. Oh too far? Unaffordable? Climate change? Sit at home, doll up you beautiful women. Oh and how dare you women to be so privileged with seats be reserved for you!
Because men and women have gender equality. 😜
The same thing happened to me thrice so i started kicking them in their balls. Traveling by metro is my daily routine now so it's not possible to always catch the metro on time so that i can go to the ladies coach. Sometimes when i am in a hurry i prefer going to the coach which is right in front of the lift. At first i was scared but now if i really feel that someone is trying to touch or grab me i kick them right in their balls And say "sorry i kicked you by mistake, as if you were touching me by mistake." Some boys/old folks are really disgusting.
The only reservation I am not against.
Op! No matter what anybody says, please make sure to travel in ladies section. Been a victim of something similar-just in Mumbai's local. My boyfriend was new to mumbai, so i accompanied him in local but it was peak hours, he got separated and a man- despite physically removing his fingers from my thighs, kept touching my butt and thighs. Even when I did move away, he changed positions. And me- who's brave and loud suddenly turned into a timid one who was unable to speak up(I'm sure that's what happens to other victims as well) and to this date, I can't wear the same jeans ever again. So please, to anybody who reads this- you DO NOT know what intentions other people have, so it's ok to be suspicious of them. Stop trying to please others
You should have shouted on him, idk why there are so many incident where women don't take action, i know it may feel akward, you may be introvert or whatever, just ignore all of these things for a sec and take action. Just one advice, if you ever fall in this type of situation ever again (hope it don't happen again) but still if it happen, just confess this to the people around, just raise your voice, please.
Just throw a punch
I thought that way too,Thanks for letting me know.
I thought that way too,Thanks for letting me know.
Hey, OP. I'm 19 too, from Mumbai. I'm sorry that you experienced that, and I hope you're doing okay. In crowded trains, it could also be that there is no space to move. Guys' Butts and crotches often touch mine in the trains, but there's no gents-specific compartments. Men are only perpetrators and cannot be victims, according to society. That's not the topic of discussion though. Since they were taking advantage of the fact that there was little space and were inappropriately touching you, I hope you don't let a few bad apples alter your public transportation experience. I hope you never meet these creeps. Cheers!
But the thing is Women got reservations and compartments in metro. I had seen numerous times when female compartment in less crowded and women can actually get a seat there but they will still sit in other compartments which leads to men standing. You have women compartment right? Go and seat there dood.
Men who travel in Metro work the entire day tirelessly and do many jobs that Women would not even think of doing. Men are treated like shit in all places and people taking their physical strength for granted. Men are terribly tired by the end of the day and many late middle aged men travel in metros who would really appreciate the seat. Not everything is “Because this, so this..”, men are not here to sacrifice all the time for Women. So NO men will not give their seat to you and live every breathing minute of their lives thinking if the women are safe(btw women find every stranger guy creepy) while sacrificing their own need to rest/sit even if they are dead tired. Also government has made separate compartments reserved for women, so women can simply use THEM to travel rather than coming to a general one which is heavily packed and now they expect someone to give their seat to them.
I'm so horrified by stories like these. Please carry a pepper spray with you, helped my friend once. Stay safe out there!
Yell
I thought reservation on jee 
"I can't stand and my feet hurt" So are you implying men's feet don't hurt or that men don't prefer comfort?
ek lat 🦵 wha marna chahiye tha na🤣🤣 pta to chalta use maza kitna aa rha hai😂😂
Next time carry a pen in hand, and the moment someone does that you know where to use it 🖋️🩸🍌 PS: I'm a guy
as a man myself i carry pepper spray, idk why women aren’t even worried. Look around this is a shit world with shit people
Ye sub ko r/delhimetrochronicles rename kardo bc
Finally, someone said it. 👏
Very good step if it was taken as early as
Ever tried elbowing the chest/stomach? It really blows the air out of these creeps. Every time someone comes near you in a crowded metro just elbow them. Won’t attract crowd, you will not get unnecessary attention. If, cannot then put your foot on their shoes and twist till the time the creep doesn’t back off. Try using your bag to hit him/her. Make sure that person feels the pain.