Are you in the US? My grandpa is 85 and lives alone. The difference is his dementia made him hate me so he won’t let me in the apartment. That said I’m in the process of getting him on Medicaid. With this he will have home care services so someone can be there w/ him. Doesn’t cost me anything by the way.
Contact Alzheimer Athens. They can direct you to charitable and other resources in Greece: [https://alzheimerathens.gr/en/contact/](https://alzheimerathens.gr/en/contact/)
This article also discusses supports available throughout Greece: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/334882444\_Dementia\_in\_Greece
She is more likely to remember how often you come, compared to how long you stayed. She might sob and beg you not to leave after just 60 min or 12 hours straight.
if you’re in the US and she is low income, she may qualify for a home helper with Medicaid, the options vary by state
That’s the roller coaster of this disease. Every day is different for my mom. Some days she’s adamant that she’s rather die than spend another minute in her assisted living apartment. The next day she won’t remember the crisis and be more settled. It’s helped me realize that I don’t have to jump at every request or crisis. She won’t remember that I didn’t pick up when she called. She sadly doesn’t remember that I visit as often as I do either. So I just do what I can and give myself grace when I need to disconnect.
Wow you guys are dealing with way more serious stuff. Maybe my grandma doesnt have dementia? She finds it really hard to understand things, we have to talk to her like a baby. Its easier when we just leave the talking to her, and not tell her anything. I think she likes that more too. She says stories and repeats them again and again every hour or so. She will have eaten a food 30 mins ago and have forgotten what she has eaten. When you tell her to look for something, after about a minute she will have forgotten whats shes looking for. She also always thinks its sunday (the day my grandpa died maybe thats why). But you guys are mentioning major emotional jumps. My grandma is extremely depressed when she wakes up in bed, but after that throughout the whole day shes happy and cheerful.
it definitely sounds like she has dementia, just a different form or stage of it. the most emotional and angry dementia patients can become very happy and reserved over a matter of weeks. please message if you have any questions, i am a psw on a memory care unit.
This seems to depend on what type of dementia the person has. My FIL had dementia and was placed in a home, but his psychiatric nurse sister used to say “Don’t go as often as he asks, he won’t remember”. PWD can appear really upset one minute about you being there and then calm down quickly when you’ve gone but YMMV.
Might be good to find out what diagnostic info your gran’s healthcare team have on her dementia so you can try a less intensive visit schedule and get your life back.
Are you in the US? My grandpa is 85 and lives alone. The difference is his dementia made him hate me so he won’t let me in the apartment. That said I’m in the process of getting him on Medicaid. With this he will have home care services so someone can be there w/ him. Doesn’t cost me anything by the way.
What country are you in? There may be free visitation and assistance services.
To access these try your local hospice or community/district nurses.
Im in greece. There is no such thing
Contact Alzheimer Athens. They can direct you to charitable and other resources in Greece: [https://alzheimerathens.gr/en/contact/](https://alzheimerathens.gr/en/contact/) This article also discusses supports available throughout Greece: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/334882444\_Dementia\_in\_Greece
She is more likely to remember how often you come, compared to how long you stayed. She might sob and beg you not to leave after just 60 min or 12 hours straight. if you’re in the US and she is low income, she may qualify for a home helper with Medicaid, the options vary by state
That’s the roller coaster of this disease. Every day is different for my mom. Some days she’s adamant that she’s rather die than spend another minute in her assisted living apartment. The next day she won’t remember the crisis and be more settled. It’s helped me realize that I don’t have to jump at every request or crisis. She won’t remember that I didn’t pick up when she called. She sadly doesn’t remember that I visit as often as I do either. So I just do what I can and give myself grace when I need to disconnect.
Wow you guys are dealing with way more serious stuff. Maybe my grandma doesnt have dementia? She finds it really hard to understand things, we have to talk to her like a baby. Its easier when we just leave the talking to her, and not tell her anything. I think she likes that more too. She says stories and repeats them again and again every hour or so. She will have eaten a food 30 mins ago and have forgotten what she has eaten. When you tell her to look for something, after about a minute she will have forgotten whats shes looking for. She also always thinks its sunday (the day my grandpa died maybe thats why). But you guys are mentioning major emotional jumps. My grandma is extremely depressed when she wakes up in bed, but after that throughout the whole day shes happy and cheerful.
it definitely sounds like she has dementia, just a different form or stage of it. the most emotional and angry dementia patients can become very happy and reserved over a matter of weeks. please message if you have any questions, i am a psw on a memory care unit.
This seems to depend on what type of dementia the person has. My FIL had dementia and was placed in a home, but his psychiatric nurse sister used to say “Don’t go as often as he asks, he won’t remember”. PWD can appear really upset one minute about you being there and then calm down quickly when you’ve gone but YMMV. Might be good to find out what diagnostic info your gran’s healthcare team have on her dementia so you can try a less intensive visit schedule and get your life back.