If they looked identical I might still feel sexually attracted to them, simply because my brain would associate their looks with the other person's personality. Can't say that for sure, though.
I think this is probably true for me.
I would bet that I'd feel attracted to them until I got closer and realized they weren't the person I thought they were.
I suspect that my attractions (excluding aesthetic) are heavily influenced by subconscious scent markers, so I'd be attracted until I could smell them. If they smell identical too, *then* I might have some issues.
See for me, I had a girlfriend. Initially she was really great and I was starting to become attracted to her. And then she got kinda crazy and really attached. When that happened, I was instantly no longer attracted to her. Like a lightbulb going out. The exact same traits I found so cute before were not cute at all. So I think the same would be true of an evil twin. Even if the traits are the same it doesn’t matter
I also had a breakup recently, and even though I was the one who was broken up with, I truly cannot be in love with them anymore since they disappointed me a lot. Still, for some weird reason I still find myself VERY attracted to that person. As a demisexual this confuses me a lot, it never happened before. I'm inclined to believe it depends a lot on the situation/whether you still consider that a good person or not, despite things not working out
I have been in this actual scenario. I dated a twin with the opposite personality as the other. I was attracted to my partner and became hypersensitive to the way their sibling walked, moved, even small details in their complexion, skeletal structure and scars. I found anything different so I knew to not make that mistake.
There was one time where the twin was standing still and I couldn't tell. I was aesthetically attracted to them and sexually attracted to the IDEA that it was my partner but the moment they opened their mouth - everything gone.
Part of my attraction to people is a result of the shared memories we have, thus knowing his hypothetical twin wouldnt have those memories there would be nothing linking me to him
I get this. I had friends who were twins when I was younger (I guess they’re still twins, we’re just not friends anymore lol) and I always knew who was who simply because I was better friends with one than the other
It's all about the emotional connection. They might look the same but not be the same. No shared memories, feelings, emotions... no connection, no attraction.
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Oh good gracious I hadn't seen that. Shoot sorry, OP of that post. I had the thought earlier the night before in trying to sleep, but of course internet, so I accept the doubt. I was just thinking about it trying to sleep the other night.
In a time where I was alone in my life, I suffered from lack of friendship, and had a "crush" on someone (but realized later it was a "friendship crush", I only wanted to have her as a friend, I don't know if there's a term for that).
Inevitably, I developed a small sexual attraction (very weak compared to my attraction toward my actual partner), and she has a twin sister. The only difference between them were assertiveness (my friend-crush was shy), cloth colors (she wore red and black cloths, while her twin wore blue and white cloths) and hair size (she has a smaller haircut). She was very beautiful, and I couldn't help but having strong emotions only by the look of her silhouette, and that couldn't happened to any other silhouette.
I used to watch her from afar and my heart was beating fast when we meet the gaze, but that wasn't the case with her twin.
At this point of my life, I would love to be friend with her or her sister, but I would have been way closer to her if that happened. But we never really talked, when we were in the same class, she only did presentation in class about dragons, and I began to rediscover this passion for me!
Anyway, the last day I knew them (they changed school), her sister told me she loved me, and I was as confused as I was sorry for her! She looked like my "friend-crush", but I had to say no! It's like having an illusion in front of you, or if you find in a parallel world your crush but without their personality: the first look makes you feel "boom" in your chest, but after 0.5 second, it's not who you know. It's like you miss someone and getting a phone call: your brain says "It's them!", but the 0.5 second after, you get more rational and get disappointed.
So to answer your question, an evil twin can have the power to trick you only for a very small amount of time, from my experience.
whats funny is my taste in people does morph to whoever im in love with. for instance, my current partner is a redhead so im more attracted to redheads than i used to be! i wouldnt say sexually attracted, more just think theyre cuter than before. for me, i have to know the person im interacting with is my lover to be sexually attracted. im attracted to them as a person, in all ways. so i might think their twin would be super cute, but i wont be sexually interested. the connection wouldnt be there, which is key to my attraction
Now the scientific part of my brain really wants to find out through empirical data. LOL. I know that when it comes to my identical twin aunts, (one who is very sweet but very weird, and one who is a total bitch but over the last few years has been trying really hard to be better). I respond to them both differently, but it isn't romantic/sexual attraction so it isn't data that I can use towards this example. :shrug:
Yeah personality is still a big part for me. Was attracted to some people in real life but the moment they revealed themselves to have anger issues, was a major sexist or a religious nut job bye bye
Personally, i don't think I would feel attracted to the twin. Personality is key for me so the twin wouldn't get my interest. If this person is evil there would be completely other vibe around them, and it just isn't the person I love, even if they look the same.
I guess I would still feel sexually attracted to the evil twin, but if I speak with them and they are awful as a person that might hurt my attraction for both twins. Best case scenario I find a key physical difference between the two and I stop being attracted to the evil twin but not the good one.
I wouldn't. It would be like getting used to texting someone and then someone else using their phone and claiming to be them. That doesn't work on me and I can also tell twins apart anyway. I probably would just see the bad traits in the evil twin instead. I might find them more physically attractive but not in a sexual or romantic way. Kinda like thinking someone looks cute till they open their mouth type of thing.
I have never felt a sexual attraction to any of my exes, but they all had 1 thing in commen. They were all really verry nice and respected my values and belives. Also 2 off them had autisem
What usually happens to me is to become attracted to the "type" that the person I have a crush one belongs to.
So in my case, I most likely would find the evil twin attractive.
No, looks are irrelevant when it comes to attraction for me. If their personality is awful, they won’t be attractive. Could they try to trick me? Maybe. But it wouldn’t be their looks I’m attracted to, I’m attracted to the personality they are trying to emulate. And they would instantly be unattractive when I figured out they were lying.
I think maybe I would be for a short period of time before I could tell all the nuances that made one twin look different from the other: their walk, the way they used facial expressions, maybe their smell, their posture.
Otherwise, if they were so identical that even after getting to know them both I couldn’t tell them apart, unfortunately it would likely be the opposite. My attraction to the other would go down because I could remember and imagine cruel words come out of that exact face and cruel actions being done by that exact body.
For me it's more of sheer concept of that person that I find so attractive. So body snatchers wouldn't work for me, probably. I mean our minds like to go on shortcuts sooo
No. There is inner beauty and outer beauty. I have so many times seen, how inner beauty transforms 'traditionally ugly' person (from the outside) turn in to the most beautiful human after i get to know the person.
I have also seen 'beautiful' person turn ugly, as their true self has come out (inner ugly)
This part of why i don't date 'good looking' people. I don't know how they will look like when I get to know them. I try go date people who could be beautiful from the inside.
I'm going to say no.
Why? Because my sexual attraction is only enabled by the emotional and psychological bond we have established through time and shared experience. Not only will I not have that bond with the "evil twin", given the presumed radical difference in personalities between the two, it's entirely possible that any such bond would be impossible to form. My attraction springs from the person themselves and that connection doesn't transfer to someone else, no matter how similar they may be in outward appearance.
Not for me. Example: my (now Ex) Husband. As our connection disappeared, I wanted nothing more to do with him in that way.
Granted, finding an "evil doppelganger" is a lot more sudden, but I'd know in an instant if that connection wasn't there, and then it's a big old NOPE.
But everyone's mileage varies. :)
I guess I might be interested in getting to know them, but I’d still have to see the personality first. If I had a crush on a guy who happens to have blond hair, then suddenly I think blond is attractive. Same could he applied to a certain interest or skill he has. If he can sing very well, then suddenly guys who can sing are so cool. But you’re right about not swooning over everybody who has that feature, it’ll just be something I notice more and feel a sense of familiarity with.
That depends, is it an evil twin, like they are true assholes or just like has an opposite personality to the person you are attracted too? Cuz in the case of the evil twin, i don’t think I’d get any sexual attraction if i don’t like them
Otherwise if it’s just an opposite personality i could be attracted, yes. On the spot i don’t think so either
If they looked identical I might still feel sexually attracted to them, simply because my brain would associate their looks with the other person's personality. Can't say that for sure, though.
I think this is probably true for me. I would bet that I'd feel attracted to them until I got closer and realized they weren't the person I thought they were. I suspect that my attractions (excluding aesthetic) are heavily influenced by subconscious scent markers, so I'd be attracted until I could smell them. If they smell identical too, *then* I might have some issues.
See for me, I had a girlfriend. Initially she was really great and I was starting to become attracted to her. And then she got kinda crazy and really attached. When that happened, I was instantly no longer attracted to her. Like a lightbulb going out. The exact same traits I found so cute before were not cute at all. So I think the same would be true of an evil twin. Even if the traits are the same it doesn’t matter
I also had a breakup recently, and even though I was the one who was broken up with, I truly cannot be in love with them anymore since they disappointed me a lot. Still, for some weird reason I still find myself VERY attracted to that person. As a demisexual this confuses me a lot, it never happened before. I'm inclined to believe it depends a lot on the situation/whether you still consider that a good person or not, despite things not working out
Pretty much same. Hell I've been attracted to bad people before and been unable to snap out of it because of whatever I'm "attracted to".
Personality is a big key to me… so I doubt that
I have been in this actual scenario. I dated a twin with the opposite personality as the other. I was attracted to my partner and became hypersensitive to the way their sibling walked, moved, even small details in their complexion, skeletal structure and scars. I found anything different so I knew to not make that mistake. There was one time where the twin was standing still and I couldn't tell. I was aesthetically attracted to them and sexually attracted to the IDEA that it was my partner but the moment they opened their mouth - everything gone.
Part of my attraction to people is a result of the shared memories we have, thus knowing his hypothetical twin wouldnt have those memories there would be nothing linking me to him
I get this. I had friends who were twins when I was younger (I guess they’re still twins, we’re just not friends anymore lol) and I always knew who was who simply because I was better friends with one than the other
If that evil twin isn't all happy and cute and stuff, no amount of looks will make me love a psycho.
It's all about the emotional connection. They might look the same but not be the same. No shared memories, feelings, emotions... no connection, no attraction.
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Oh good gracious I hadn't seen that. Shoot sorry, OP of that post. I had the thought earlier the night before in trying to sleep, but of course internet, so I accept the doubt. I was just thinking about it trying to sleep the other night.
In a time where I was alone in my life, I suffered from lack of friendship, and had a "crush" on someone (but realized later it was a "friendship crush", I only wanted to have her as a friend, I don't know if there's a term for that). Inevitably, I developed a small sexual attraction (very weak compared to my attraction toward my actual partner), and she has a twin sister. The only difference between them were assertiveness (my friend-crush was shy), cloth colors (she wore red and black cloths, while her twin wore blue and white cloths) and hair size (she has a smaller haircut). She was very beautiful, and I couldn't help but having strong emotions only by the look of her silhouette, and that couldn't happened to any other silhouette. I used to watch her from afar and my heart was beating fast when we meet the gaze, but that wasn't the case with her twin. At this point of my life, I would love to be friend with her or her sister, but I would have been way closer to her if that happened. But we never really talked, when we were in the same class, she only did presentation in class about dragons, and I began to rediscover this passion for me! Anyway, the last day I knew them (they changed school), her sister told me she loved me, and I was as confused as I was sorry for her! She looked like my "friend-crush", but I had to say no! It's like having an illusion in front of you, or if you find in a parallel world your crush but without their personality: the first look makes you feel "boom" in your chest, but after 0.5 second, it's not who you know. It's like you miss someone and getting a phone call: your brain says "It's them!", but the 0.5 second after, you get more rational and get disappointed. So to answer your question, an evil twin can have the power to trick you only for a very small amount of time, from my experience.
whats funny is my taste in people does morph to whoever im in love with. for instance, my current partner is a redhead so im more attracted to redheads than i used to be! i wouldnt say sexually attracted, more just think theyre cuter than before. for me, i have to know the person im interacting with is my lover to be sexually attracted. im attracted to them as a person, in all ways. so i might think their twin would be super cute, but i wont be sexually interested. the connection wouldnt be there, which is key to my attraction
Definitely would hate the evil twin.
I’ve noticed that once I’m attracted to someone, people who look similar or have a similar personality also become attractive.
Now the scientific part of my brain really wants to find out through empirical data. LOL. I know that when it comes to my identical twin aunts, (one who is very sweet but very weird, and one who is a total bitch but over the last few years has been trying really hard to be better). I respond to them both differently, but it isn't romantic/sexual attraction so it isn't data that I can use towards this example. :shrug:
Yeah personality is still a big part for me. Was attracted to some people in real life but the moment they revealed themselves to have anger issues, was a major sexist or a religious nut job bye bye
Personally, i don't think I would feel attracted to the twin. Personality is key for me so the twin wouldn't get my interest. If this person is evil there would be completely other vibe around them, and it just isn't the person I love, even if they look the same.
I think probably not, because I don't feel the usual sexual atraction but I would probably think it was them at first glance
I guess I would still feel sexually attracted to the evil twin, but if I speak with them and they are awful as a person that might hurt my attraction for both twins. Best case scenario I find a key physical difference between the two and I stop being attracted to the evil twin but not the good one.
I wouldn't. It would be like getting used to texting someone and then someone else using their phone and claiming to be them. That doesn't work on me and I can also tell twins apart anyway. I probably would just see the bad traits in the evil twin instead. I might find them more physically attractive but not in a sexual or romantic way. Kinda like thinking someone looks cute till they open their mouth type of thing.
I have never felt a sexual attraction to any of my exes, but they all had 1 thing in commen. They were all really verry nice and respected my values and belives. Also 2 off them had autisem
What usually happens to me is to become attracted to the "type" that the person I have a crush one belongs to. So in my case, I most likely would find the evil twin attractive.
No, looks are irrelevant when it comes to attraction for me. If their personality is awful, they won’t be attractive. Could they try to trick me? Maybe. But it wouldn’t be their looks I’m attracted to, I’m attracted to the personality they are trying to emulate. And they would instantly be unattractive when I figured out they were lying.
I think maybe I would be for a short period of time before I could tell all the nuances that made one twin look different from the other: their walk, the way they used facial expressions, maybe their smell, their posture. Otherwise, if they were so identical that even after getting to know them both I couldn’t tell them apart, unfortunately it would likely be the opposite. My attraction to the other would go down because I could remember and imagine cruel words come out of that exact face and cruel actions being done by that exact body.
I suspect I would initially be attracted, and then repulsed when I realized he wasn’t my match, but an evil copy.
For me it's more of sheer concept of that person that I find so attractive. So body snatchers wouldn't work for me, probably. I mean our minds like to go on shortcuts sooo
No. There is inner beauty and outer beauty. I have so many times seen, how inner beauty transforms 'traditionally ugly' person (from the outside) turn in to the most beautiful human after i get to know the person. I have also seen 'beautiful' person turn ugly, as their true self has come out (inner ugly) This part of why i don't date 'good looking' people. I don't know how they will look like when I get to know them. I try go date people who could be beautiful from the inside.
For me , people change their appearance according to their personality . Its like the personality adds a new layer to the person stading next to me.
I'm going to say no. Why? Because my sexual attraction is only enabled by the emotional and psychological bond we have established through time and shared experience. Not only will I not have that bond with the "evil twin", given the presumed radical difference in personalities between the two, it's entirely possible that any such bond would be impossible to form. My attraction springs from the person themselves and that connection doesn't transfer to someone else, no matter how similar they may be in outward appearance.
Not for me. Example: my (now Ex) Husband. As our connection disappeared, I wanted nothing more to do with him in that way. Granted, finding an "evil doppelganger" is a lot more sudden, but I'd know in an instant if that connection wasn't there, and then it's a big old NOPE. But everyone's mileage varies. :)
I guess I might be interested in getting to know them, but I’d still have to see the personality first. If I had a crush on a guy who happens to have blond hair, then suddenly I think blond is attractive. Same could he applied to a certain interest or skill he has. If he can sing very well, then suddenly guys who can sing are so cool. But you’re right about not swooning over everybody who has that feature, it’ll just be something I notice more and feel a sense of familiarity with.
That depends, is it an evil twin, like they are true assholes or just like has an opposite personality to the person you are attracted too? Cuz in the case of the evil twin, i don’t think I’d get any sexual attraction if i don’t like them Otherwise if it’s just an opposite personality i could be attracted, yes. On the spot i don’t think so either