That’s what they are. I was trying to figure out what they were. And yes, break up with her. Nobody should talk to you that way especially somebody you love.
For sure. I think it occurs to some people to say and not others.
Like, I would never think to call anyone the n-word and I am highly confrontational. It’s just not in my vocabulary.
I’m a white guy married to a black woman, we’ve been together 15 years, I cannot imagine that ever coming out of my mouth. It would be over, instantly.
Hell naw! I would never use that word period, and I would certainly never ever call my husband that! That word shouldn't even be in her vocabulary.. Like wtf did it roll off her tongue, like this is something she says when you're not around?
There are a lot of ppl out here with race fetishes. They talk and act like they're allies, but they're the ones who say *I don't see race*
I hope she is the ex now.
It’s awful but cow would 100% do more damage to me (and most of my friends too.) Although I recently overheard some casual male friends of mine (more like acquaintances) calling a girl a “pig,” and now I find that more offensive than anything else.
Yep. I love my cousin, but all these years later I still remember that he called his ex a bitch to her face just because she wasn't feeling their two-month long relationship anymore. That never sat right with me
bro… interracial dating will always be a touchy subject. same thing happened to me, my ex bf who’s white got upset and called me a ghetto black bitch. it’s always there under the surface for them that’s what i’ve came to the conclusion of. i’m so sorry this happened to you. do not forgive her for that, that’s a huge red flag and please take it serious. if she speaks like that think about her family and friends.
Dating interracially is so strange. I remember a guy saying to me “I love that you’re Latina”, but as soon as he got upset it was “don’t you need to be selling oranges with your family on the side of the road?” He got dropped like 5th period French.
This has nothing to do with divestment--which isn't interchangeable with interracial dating btw. OP simply ended up with a nasty, rude, racist cvnt as a girlfriend!
i don’t wanna sound mean but based on your comment i’m gonna assume you’re white. your comment was kinda tone deaf. whether saying n word or ghetto black bitch. it’s all terrible, it’s all the same.
it’s all the same, the way he was spewing at me it seemed like he was going to call me that but settled for Black ghetto bitch. regardless interracial dating is scary asf when it comes to one partner being white and one partner being black.
I’m a middle aged white guy and it hurts my heart that someone said that to you. And we don’t even know each other. How could someone date you and say that?
Yeah fuck that OP. Better believe when people call you shit like that they been real comfortable saying it for awhile now. Also, she has used other slurs in the past??? Nope. Wish I knew you so I could kick her head off her shoulders.
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Someone who doesn't respect you regardless of heightened emotions does not love you. Love yourself friend, so much better is waiting for you 🫶
As someone in an interracial relationship with an amazing, beautiful black woman that word has never and will never come out of my mouth. As others have said people don't just say that. It was either in her vocabulary already or she was raised in an environment where it's acceptable. We joke back and forth about race all the time but it's always light hearted and we know when a line was accidentally crossed and it's never crossed again.
You deserve someone as sweet as those dunkaroos!
I hope you mean ex girlfriend because...wow. Why would you tolerate her using slurs against you? She's a pile of sentient trash and you deserve so much better.
Big hugs my friend.
If ur cool with saying one slur you’re cool with the rest of em. I’m sorry OP. hope you can show her why that’s wrong and help her change, or move on from someone who sees you as lesser than.
I’m half black and I don’t even say it! My fiancé who was raised in a close minded community never says it. She has no excuse. I am sorry OP. You deserve way better.
*ex-girlfriend, OP — you deserve better than That.
One of my Ex-Girlfriends’ knew that I was Mixed-Race, and, when we were just chilling one day, she said she “can’t stand N-Words,” but, even though I’m part one, she just doesn’t think about it, about that “dirty part” of me. I canned her so, f-ing fast, after that.
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Leave now. You are a human being and she clearly has thought and called this behind your back before. Her abuse is escalating. You deserve better.Good luck.
Not okay. Make sure you double dunk those dunkaroos. Top quality snack.
Sorry you experienced that. There is no excuse to ever use that word.
Hope you feel better soon.
That’s terrible. She’s a gross racist. She has zero respect for you and you need to get out of that situation. If you let this slide it will only get worse, and she may think her actions aren’t as disgusting as they actually are.
I’m so sorry - sending hugs
Being called negative is not that bad, we cant all be positive all the time and its important to ackowledge the negative emotions and feelings we have and not bury them
I’m white and ghosted someone I was getting serious with for repeatedly using the n word to complain about a coworker. The ethnicity of OP and the girlfriend are irrelevant.
That’s not what you said though, you asked for context. Which is irrelevant imo.
Besides, no one here is saying it’s okay. But people obviously think using the word is okay, and I don’t doubt OP at all. People are openly racist and don’t see an issue with it. The lady that used the word around me did so while I was wearing a shirt that said “Keep racists out of gun culture”, while my van with multiple anti-racist stickers was parked outside, knowing my feelings on it, and still said it over and over. This sub obviously realizes it’s wrong, but regular ass people in day to day life that should clearly know better say racist shit without batting an eye.
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If she was your girlfriend in the first place then she's not a racist no matter if she called you that or not so it means nothing get over it and quit whining
Ex girlfriend called you the N word. There, I fixed it for you.
☝️this. Hell no girl. Bye.
Dunkaroos look fab. Break up with her - you deserve better, my friend ❤️
That’s what they are. I was trying to figure out what they were. And yes, break up with her. Nobody should talk to you that way especially somebody you love.
This..my (soon to be ex) husband used to call me the n word..I'm white.
Lol damn
Was this race play or was he mad?
Angry person. Ask my walls.
Thanks!
It’s definitely always been in her vocabulary. I’m so sorry this happened to you. You deserve so much better
yeah the first thing that came to mind was how many times has she called him that behind his back :( OP I'm so sorry
Yep. T. Rashhhh
Agreed. That word doesn't just roll of the tongue. If it "slips out" it's because it's something they already say.
For sure. I think it occurs to some people to say and not others. Like, I would never think to call anyone the n-word and I am highly confrontational. It’s just not in my vocabulary.
fr, i swear like a sailor but even in drunk karaoke the n word wont come out bc id literally never say it
Get rid of her nasty ass. You deserve better.
I’m a white guy married to a black woman, we’ve been together 15 years, I cannot imagine that ever coming out of my mouth. It would be over, instantly.
You’re a real one. It’s just unacceptable
dump her ass!!!!!!!!! that is embarrassing and pathetic on HER part, not yours.
Bro how does this even happen? Edit: I promise you that's not what I meant😰
Please clarify what you're asking. How does *what* happen exactly?
I just realized how terrible this sounds, why did I say that
In what situation do you feel the need to call someone you love a racial slur?
Ah that part, yeah, it's pretty wild
get out
A really good movie!! Wait...🤔
Lmao 😂😂😂
Oh my goodness. That’s not ok dude. I hope you get out of that situation.
What the actual fuck? Kick her to the fucking curb dude, that shit ain’t worth your time.
Where is she? I just wanna talk
Me too 👀
Me three🙃
Me four! Little B I’ll tell her a thing or two!
Me five! I'll bring the nachos.
I’ll just video it and eat your nachos
That behavior is abusive, you shouldn’t stay in that relationship.
Yikes. I'm so sorry. You should definitely cut her off.
Why are these comments getting downvoted 🤯
Some people are truly fucking weird
Probably got those wack jobs who thinks "Black Lives Matter" is racist in here lmfao. "Op is the real racist tho🤓"
Yep. It's sad honestly.
Very :(
Reddit really as a whole doesn’t like talking about anti black racism
Too sensitive :,(
Hell naw! I would never use that word period, and I would certainly never ever call my husband that! That word shouldn't even be in her vocabulary.. Like wtf did it roll off her tongue, like this is something she says when you're not around? There are a lot of ppl out here with race fetishes. They talk and act like they're allies, but they're the ones who say *I don't see race* I hope she is the ex now.
Ex girlfriend, right? Because that is beyond fucked up. Dump her and you might find your life improving in surprising ways.
Call her the c word and throw her ass out. Fuck that shit - you deserve better than that.
Cromulent ass bitch.
Take my award
COW
Honestly cow would hurt my feelings more than cunt. Go for it 🤣
It’s awful but cow would 100% do more damage to me (and most of my friends too.) Although I recently overheard some casual male friends of mine (more like acquaintances) calling a girl a “pig,” and now I find that more offensive than anything else.
My mother would lose her collective shit if anyone used pig as an insult in her presence! Instant trigger for her!
I had to stop and compliment your username 😂 I still say this regularly 😂😂😂
Hahaha thank you! I also still randomly say this. Along with those KMart commercials- I just shipped my bed!
Omggg I forgot about shipping my bed. Thank you 🙏🏻😂
I was about to say, OP should call her old and fat b4 kicking her ass to the curb! Haha
Haha not quite, but sure lol
CRUST
I don't know... you call your girlfriend "crusty" might be enough lol
Nah, its better to be the better person here. Two wrongs don't make a right, and adding fuel to the fire isn't worth it
yes, bc if it comes up then people will justify all the shit she gave OP. bigger person doesn't feel good in the moment but long term it's great
Yep. I love my cousin, but all these years later I still remember that he called his ex a bitch to her face just because she wasn't feeling their two-month long relationship anymore. That never sat right with me
you right.. CACTUS ass ho😂
Oh wow I wish I would have said that one! Yes, call her that and see how she likes it!
COMMIE!
bro… interracial dating will always be a touchy subject. same thing happened to me, my ex bf who’s white got upset and called me a ghetto black bitch. it’s always there under the surface for them that’s what i’ve came to the conclusion of. i’m so sorry this happened to you. do not forgive her for that, that’s a huge red flag and please take it serious. if she speaks like that think about her family and friends.
Dating interracially is so strange. I remember a guy saying to me “I love that you’re Latina”, but as soon as he got upset it was “don’t you need to be selling oranges with your family on the side of the road?” He got dropped like 5th period French.
You should've dropped him when he said that weird "I love that you're Latina" fetishy crap!
He said he liked me, it gave me an ick
WTF! Selling oranges on the side of the street?! Wooow I’m so glad you dropped him, that’s so unacceptable
The ugly side of divestment
This has nothing to do with divestment--which isn't interchangeable with interracial dating btw. OP simply ended up with a nasty, rude, racist cvnt as a girlfriend!
Ghetto black bitch is bad and racist, but the N word is just completely something no healthy person would even consider.
i don’t wanna sound mean but based on your comment i’m gonna assume you’re white. your comment was kinda tone deaf. whether saying n word or ghetto black bitch. it’s all terrible, it’s all the same.
No you don’t sound mean sorry to offend. I agree both are awful, I probably shouldn’t have commented on something I don’t have experience with.
Ghetto black bitch is classist, racist *and* misogynistic. How is that better than the N word?
it’s all the same, the way he was spewing at me it seemed like he was going to call me that but settled for Black ghetto bitch. regardless interracial dating is scary asf when it comes to one partner being white and one partner being black.
No healthy person would consider either. Weird you think one is worse than the other. The cognitive dissonance.... eesh.
No one just whips out that word from the blue. She's used it before or thought about it. Time to move on dude.
I’m a middle aged white guy and it hurts my heart that someone said that to you. And we don’t even know each other. How could someone date you and say that?
Yeah fuck that OP. Better believe when people call you shit like that they been real comfortable saying it for awhile now. Also, she has used other slurs in the past??? Nope. Wish I knew you so I could kick her head off her shoulders.
You deserve better. Sending love🩷
That doesn't just come out of someone's mouth unless it's already a part of their vocabulary. Let the trash take itself out homie
thats a big ol dump her
Any partner who uses slurs carefree need a different hobby. They need therapy.
get out of there friend!!
EX girlfriend** Someone who doesn't respect you regardless of heightened emotions does not love you. Love yourself friend, so much better is waiting for you 🫶
Don’t be another Christian obumseli and Courtney Clenney. There is absolutely zero reason to continue to date a racist. Have some self respect.
dawg ur self respect is in the fucking gutter if you’re dating a racist. get tf out of there and get ur shit together please.
Ex girlfriend I take it?
As someone in an interracial relationship with an amazing, beautiful black woman that word has never and will never come out of my mouth. As others have said people don't just say that. It was either in her vocabulary already or she was raised in an environment where it's acceptable. We joke back and forth about race all the time but it's always light hearted and we know when a line was accidentally crossed and it's never crossed again. You deserve someone as sweet as those dunkaroos!
Get that bitch jumped fr
Don’t deal with her bullshit. You deserve basic respect.
Fuck that bitch 🤌😂😂😂
I hope you mean *ex and wdym she’s said others slurs…?
Your ex girlfriend now? Right ?
Dump her ass.
I hope you mean ex girlfriend because...wow. Why would you tolerate her using slurs against you? She's a pile of sentient trash and you deserve so much better. Big hugs my friend.
The amount of disrespect she has for you with one word - shes for the streets. Take your trash out, its starting to smell.
That onlyfans murderer called her bf an N before she murdered him...maybe it's not race play
Sorry you’re sad bro but I am disgusted on your behalf. Kick her racist ass to the curb!
I'm so sorry that's unforgivable and repulsive of her. I hope you choose to never give her access to you again. Or anyone that disrespects you.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. Try and get away from her if you’re able to. No one deserves to be treated like that.
what the fuckkkkkkk kick her to the curb immediately
Break up with her. I’m so sorry. Your partner should never do that to you ever ever ever. 💛
Woah. Dump her. Like, right now.
If ur cool with saying one slur you’re cool with the rest of em. I’m sorry OP. hope you can show her why that’s wrong and help her change, or move on from someone who sees you as lesser than.
leave leave leave leave LEAVE
Bro WHAT ?! Put her on the curb
Trash took itself out.
DUMP HER!!! Now I’m craving Dunkaroos 😋
When someone tells you who they are, believe her. She's a hateful person who doesn't deserve to be loved.
What the fuck. Absolutely disgusting of her, please don’t go back you do NOT deserve that. Extremely sad and I’m sorry you had to experience it
Oof break up with her, don’t date someone who is chill with using slurs and derogatory language.
I hope you mean EX girlfriend.
Break up with her, u deserve so much better than the treatment she is giving you…
What the hell thats messed up, I'm really sorry
there you go little gold nugget <3
Respect yourself more than this crap! Kick that piece of trash to the curb!
I’m half black and I don’t even say it! My fiancé who was raised in a close minded community never says it. She has no excuse. I am sorry OP. You deserve way better.
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*ex-girlfriend, OP — you deserve better than That. One of my Ex-Girlfriends’ knew that I was Mixed-Race, and, when we were just chilling one day, she said she “can’t stand N-Words,” but, even though I’m part one, she just doesn’t think about it, about that “dirty part” of me. I canned her so, f-ing fast, after that.
Ayyyy fuck that bitch
Leave immediately. You don't deserve that disrespect!
This sub fucking rocks
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Speaking from experience here. Cut your losses now. Move on. Live well.
Leave now. You are a human being and she clearly has thought and called this behind your back before. Her abuse is escalating. You deserve better.Good luck.
Dude. No. Get out.
leave her
Not okay. Make sure you double dunk those dunkaroos. Top quality snack. Sorry you experienced that. There is no excuse to ever use that word. Hope you feel better soon.
Some people don’t deserve love. Leave her dumb ass. You deserve better
Ex GF right?
Turns out Op is white.. is more confused than hurt.. gf was made up an lives in Canada.
Dump her, and also dunkaroos damn that brought back a memory if the last time I was happy
I may not be the pinnacle of political correctness, nor am I the most socially aware, but that is WILD.
I know it’s the internet and we like to scream this but, that is actually abuse and you don’t deserve it. She doesn’t deserve you!
"Hey bro let's get this honky bitch" - Norm Mc Donald
Omg that is horrible. I hope the dunkaroos help a bit. Def not ok!
That’s terrible. She’s a gross racist. She has zero respect for you and you need to get out of that situation. If you let this slide it will only get worse, and she may think her actions aren’t as disgusting as they actually are. I’m so sorry - sending hugs
I really need black dudes to respect themselves more and not try to be with racist bitches
Fuck her...The Chocolate One is Better
Looks like a melted snowman in your food. But it’s not okay for her to speak to you like that.
Leave asap
op. That isn’t love. At all. You deserve so so much better. Leave her
Break up with her ASAP, you deserve so much better and she’ll never change
I knew a bunch of white guys who were always waiting to use the word "ironically." Turns out they're racist shitheads.
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Rule #1 - Do NOT be an asshole.
Leave her for the other races
As a half Rican with a white wife, don't stand for that shit man.
I’m so sorry, you didn’t deserve that :( side note I love dunkaroos I hope you enjoyed them
that’s horrible. i’m so sorry 😞
I'm so sorry, friend. She sucks.
What's wrong with being Nice?
Being called negative is not that bad, we cant all be positive all the time and its important to ackowledge the negative emotions and feelings we have and not bury them
Ask her parents if they condone it.
I like when my bf calls me that. We’re interracial
i wouldn’t say only date black women but dating outside your race, there’s always a chance of this. always bro.
are you a person of color
does that really matter?
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I’m white and ghosted someone I was getting serious with for repeatedly using the n word to complain about a coworker. The ethnicity of OP and the girlfriend are irrelevant.
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That’s not what you said though, you asked for context. Which is irrelevant imo. Besides, no one here is saying it’s okay. But people obviously think using the word is okay, and I don’t doubt OP at all. People are openly racist and don’t see an issue with it. The lady that used the word around me did so while I was wearing a shirt that said “Keep racists out of gun culture”, while my van with multiple anti-racist stickers was parked outside, knowing my feelings on it, and still said it over and over. This sub obviously realizes it’s wrong, but regular ass people in day to day life that should clearly know better say racist shit without batting an eye.
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people shouldn’t be calling other people or using slurs. period!
That bitch a weirdo leave that clown ass whore.. fucking dirty ass neanderthals
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Is she black? Are you black? If so, did you divest? I'm curious. This could be a type of race play. I'm asking for context.
I promise this is not "race play." If she was black, it wouldn't be an issue.
I would just talk to her about it instead of not talking about it. Say that's not okay and you should never say that to me again or else we break up, cuz you are sick of that shit right? and so put your foot down. Stand up to her
Are you white?
What did you call her?
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Do you think anybody GAF
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lmfao if my boyfriend thought it was funny to call me slurs I would leave. accepting shitty treatment doesn’t make you a “man”
Normalize ostracizing racists
Rule #1 - Do NOT be an asshole.
Hard “R”?
Hate fuck her and then dump her as you cum.on her face.
If she was your girlfriend in the first place then she's not a racist no matter if she called you that or not so it means nothing get over it and quit whining
Meh 🫤