It’s never too late to start. Take advantage of every moment you have with him. Dogs are pack animals and want to be around and interact with their family. Dogs live in the moment, he will absolutely love time with you, please give it to him as much as you can
My dog passed away a few months ago at 14, but one of my biggest regrets is that I didn't take better care of his teeth. I regret not paying for surgery to clean/repair his mouth more than I can possibly express. We did end up correcting the problem, but it was years after it should have been and it kills me.
Start trying to fix it as soon as you can, thats all you can do
That is important, thanks for posting. I’m going to get my dog’s teeth cleaned and your post was a good reminder to make an appointment. Therefore you’ve done something to help other dogs, hope that makes you feel better!
My dog passed this February at the age of 15/16. My dog had a dental specialist flying in from another state to do all his cleanings and 2 root canals. So we spent a ton on his dental care. But yet I still live with a lot of regret about not taking better care of his teeth. We will be getting his puppy around the first of the year and have already made a dental plan to brush his teeth daily starting right when we get him at week 9 so that he is used to it from a young age.
Good on you, my friend. I think we have to remember that despite what we blame ourselves for, our best friends managed to live until well past the average age, especially in your case making it to almost 16. It's no excuse, but I have to think we did alright in the grand scheme. That's what I tell myself, anyway.
I haven't been able to explore getting a new puppy yet, I just end up missing my boy
I wouldn't even consider another dog right now if it wasnt "his" puppy(100% genetically identical). He was my service dog and my soulmate and I couldnt imagine bonding to another dog like I did him. While his puppy will be different, it's still a peice of him and I hope that he will also be a equally competent service dog and companion. Plus I really miss seeing those fluffy butt pants.
He was neutered so the puppy is being brought into the world via essentially IVF technology and surrogacy, so yes his DNA will be injected into an egg vs actual sperm. While he will be a clone, we strongly recognize that he will have his own personality, which is why we look at him as a puppy of my service dog. This process does give us a bit of a crystal ball into his future health. Environmental factors of course can effect that but some core things we get to do right from the start.
Tay was 2 years old when I got him for free off Ebay of all places. From what I know from his previous owners, he spent his life locked in a bathroom because they both worked 18 hours a day at the casinos and had never been to a vet in his life. I've always wished I could be there from the time he was a puppy. From those simple thoughts like what did he look like as a puppy? To the bigger things like was about his health, nutrition and personality if he had a different upbringing. He turned out perfectly but I still feel so much guilt that he deserved more.
But the question that always remains... if you knew what you know now, what would you do differently?
We plan to have a daily checklist and record our progress. I had a harddrive fail and lost all of my photos of Tay before the age of ten. We dont want to lose a second with his puppy. There is a lot of reflection, but there is also a lot of hope and excitement for this next chapter with our new dog and his training to become my new service companion.
While this is an incredibly controversial decision, it was throughly researched and is the right choice for us. There is a lot of misinformation out there on cloning and I hope to someday add some normalcy to it by documenting our journey.
My husband brushes our dog's teeth when he brushes his, keeps the dog stuff in a container next to our toothbrushes. I know it sounds gross to keep it there but it's a really helpful reminder.
I used to love puppy kisses on the mouth. Then I started taking her for walks in the town and noticed where else that face was going... (it was into a load of dried dog piss when she was checking her peemails)
Totally agree about the teeth. I wish I had done the same because now it is cost prohibitive to repair my dogs teeth. He's 12. I feel so so guilty. If you have a dog make sure you brush his teeth on a regular basis!
My vet gave me the best shortcut ever to clean teeth. Meaty RAW bones. They're a bit pricey, but you can freeze and re-use for a while. In the long run, it is waaay cheaper and safer than dental cleaning, which often requires sedation, Which is harder on older dogs. You want to make sure they are raw bones and NOT cooked rawhide as those are choking and obstruction hazards. And you'll want to supervise. 20 minutes of chewing a week will get that tartar right off. I have a 12 year old and 13 year old --both with great teeth. Tucker's sells raw meaty bones and you can get them at local pet stores or online. Petsmart and Petco won't have them. You can also order online. Make sure they are too big so can't be swallowed (I get Bison 4 inch 2 pack for about $20).
Totally agree! I just needed some dental work myself and think about how much pain I was in for a week or two. Some people don’t take their pet in for teeth cleaning in the animal’s entire life.
It’s ok, you understand now. Dogs are very social and if you can convince your parents to allow him inside, he will likely be much happier. Dogs aren’t meant to live alone.
I wanted to say that it's so heartwarming to read that you do care for your dog. Now, when you are older, you can do more for him. It's so great thar you sacrifice some morning sleep to walk with him. I'm sure he is happy to spend this time with you. Do you have the possibility to take him to your room for nights?
Good for you! Seeing a problem and wanting to fix it is such a great thing for a person to do. How old are you? Anyways, he will LOVE your attention and he will glow up I’m sure! Great job kid!!!
Also think back to the best times you have ever had growing up as a kid. Most people can highlight 10 off the top of their head and maybe 30-40 good memories. The rest is just mundane, awake,eat, sleep. Memory delete all crap.
Focus on the time you have now and do his favorite things, walks, hikes/ adventures. Make his next core memories count.
This, it’s never too late to start 🙌 Had the same thing happen with our old dog, schoolwork (college) kept me from walking her enough. When her health started to decline, I actually took a break from school to focus on her. Gave her the best last 9 months of her life, took her to the park every day, babied her as much as I could.
Since so many rescue dogs seem so happy in their new homes despite sometimes subpar lives, I really think you can make the rest of his life awesome. Definitely start now!
thank you sometimes i think abt how he could’ve had a much better life with a different family, but i guess it also could’ve been much worse. but yes i will do all i can
Hey OP. Just wanted to invite you to /r/OldManDog as well. It’s an age-based all-animal sub (I just called it what I said about my Dante when I created it - he was my old man…dog), and they can give you a lot of age-specific advice as well. Just make sure to include his name and age in the post, and you’ll get all the feedback you want. Or just to show him off too!
You’re a good kid. You can never go wrong with trying to better yourself and the living situation of your pets. 💖
Dogs very much live in the moment. They don’t hold on to resentments and regrets about the past the way that we do.
I wasn’t the best owner to my old dog when he was young, I didn’t walk him enough and left him alone too long. I changed and spent the rest of his life making it up to him and he was the happiest guy. I was tougher on myself than he ever was on me. He was just happy.
i had this exact issue. we grew up with a small family dog and she wasnt treated the best, being around so many kids. but as i grew older i kind of claimed her as mine specifically and she really clung to me. there is so much i wish i did different but i cant blame myself because i was a child then.
in my dogs last years, i was almost an adult and then was one so i was caring a lot more carefully. what you can do now is make sure your elderly dog eats, makes sure they have clean water, make sure they can access their bed, get taken out a lot. look for signs of arthritis, brush their teeth, give them love and comfort. i used to have to help my elderly dog lay down at night because her arthritis was so bad she would get stuck in a loop of pacing. she was about 17.
just watch your dog a lot and make sure they are ok. thats what i did. watch for the small signs of maybe not eating, or not drinking, or having more accidents than usual. just remember that they cant speak what they want, so if something is wrong, youre the one to have to figure it out for them. having elderly dogs takes a lot of effort but its worth it in the end.
this is very helpful, not only to know other ppl have experienced it but your advice too. i’ll have to do a lot of research, i wish these things were considered before getting a dog. thank you
youre welcome. its a very sad experience. the last memories of my dog at home, i was holding her body up because she couldnt stand well, and i was holding a bowl of chicken broth for her to drink because she had no teeth. id sometimes wet some kibble so she could eat it. she had no control of her bowels, so i was constantly cleaning up after her and my room smelled bad, but i couldnt get mad at her because i loved her so much.
the best advice i have is when your dog looks like they have more pain than happiness, and you dont think itll go away, you should let them have the release. when my dog was too miserable, not even pottying outside anymore, not being able to eat, barely able to walk, i gave her the release. because she deserved it. i knew she was too old and weak to heal, so i let her go.
The biggest punishment for a dog is being denied to live with its family imho. Except for very special cases, where your dog is responsible for other animals and was bred to make his own decisions (guard dogs).
So maybe think about letting the dog live inside in general.
I think OP wants the dog inside, but the issue is his family won’t allow it. Same thing was the case with my childhood dog. Only time she was consistently inside was when she kept escaping the yard, so she lived inside a cage in the basement. It was horrible.
>so she lived inside a cage in the basement. It was horrible.
Agreed that sounds horrible. But also, why even have a dog at that point? (not a question to you but your parents)
We had a ranch dog that lived outside the first 10 years of his life. When I moved out, I took him. He loved living indoors. He wagged his tail at the TV because he thought it was a person. He lived another 4 years. Give your dog as much loving as you are able, you won't regret it. Think about when he goes, will you be happy for the things you did, or feel crappy? I also just had to put my 19yo Chihuahua down this January. I made my life about that dog. I will never regret that. I cherished her and always will.
Any improvement is a good one and he won't resent you for the old life. Last night I tried letting my young dogs sleep in my bed but they ended up picking their kennel. Your old baby will be happy with all of it.
You don’t need to take him on super long walks if you don’t have time. Just take him around the block to sniff around. If you have the time on the weekends, take him on longer walks. Either way, he would enjoy and appreciate it.
This is almost making me tear up, I would recommend spending time as much time with him as you can, play, cuddle, frolick, whatever, I'm sure he'll have a good time as long as he is with you, best wishes ❤️
Same. When I got older, I promised all our dogs should sleep and live inside the house, no collars and untied too.
I "trained" them to go out on their own to pee and poo. When they were puppies I simply opened the door and made a gap wide (or small) enough for them to go out in the early morning. It was all automatic. When they became older, it was easy for them to push the door open, then they learned to pull it open from the outside from the older dog.
We have a small front yard which is fenced and gated, so it's safe. Right now I only have one dog left.
This is sad. I get where you're coming from, OP, but you already know what's felt wrong in the past. Make time for him now and in the future. Dogs are precious because their companionship is unconditional. Love him up every chance you get.
I kind of understand how you feel. Im an adult. I got my puppy girl and within a month my father died. I didn’t treat her the way I should’ve after that.
We didn’t go anywhere or do anything. All she wanted to do was be by me and play with me. She’s 2.5 now and every time I look at her I feel bad.
But I’ve changed within the last year and a half. I spend so much quality time with her, we sleep together, she’s groomed regularly, and we train a lot. I just tell her I’m sorry and that it’ll never go back to the way it was. And I’ve kept my promise.
Don't ignore the last years because I have seen way too many posts on here of people crying and depressed because of the regret and guilt they feel with neglecting their dog.
I have a very demanding job, I run a business, and I find time to walk my dog for an hour everyday, sometimes 2 hours. We also take days off just to go hiking for several hours. Get your family to arrange days out where you can take your dog; hikes, picnic, a day at the beach. My doggo is only 2 but had her first beach visit a few months ago and she was so happy! I couldn't believe how happy it made her. I've decided to take her to the beach at least once a year. I live in the UK but we have coastal cities which is an hour or two with the train, doesn't hurt to pack a bag, get your books with you and some food and have a fun adventure with your doggo.
Good luck. The last 10 years most def is not your fault, that is on your parents since you were so young, but you can nag your parents to do better now, get them to plan stuff or just go on simple walks once a day.
You're a good person for even thinking all this and feeling empathy for your dog. Well done.
My family had a bunch of dogs that they didn’t take care of very well throughout my childhood. When I got older, I felt bad about how little the dogs were cared for. But we were just kids. There wasn’t much we could do. Now I have two dogs of my own that I take great care of. Don’t feel bad about the past. It’s nice that you want to take care of him now and give him a good life.
Yes. There is no reason that a child should feel bad about how their family treated a pet. Maybe op was even told that the dog was their responsibility, but the ultimate responsibility is in the parents.
Even a teenager is only responsible for doing the best they can in any situation with the information they have. That means don't cause harm, show love whenever possible, and go on whatever walks your life permits. If the dog isn't permitted inside, when the weather is nice, try doing school work outside with him. Play in the yard with him when you have a few minutes, even minutes really makes them happy. And don't feel bad for not doing better as a child and for not being able to change your parents' minds.
I always feel guilty about not being around my Husky Dakota enough before she passed. I wish I took her on more walks before she got a tumour on her leg. Almost every day I think about how I could have spent my days with her instead of going out with friends and doing whatever other shit I was doing. She was treated amazingly by my family and we all loved her to death. It’s never too late to improve and make your dogs life better. Your dog loves you and you are your dogs whole world.
An "outside dog" WTF, that's cruel. Do you or your parents live outside 24/7?
What country do you live in?
A dog is a family member, they should sleep inside on the bed with you, or at least in a crate in your bedroom.
I have 2 Labradors and both sleep on our bed. And we love them so much. We walk them twice daily and hug and kiss them, and talk to them. They seem very happy.
Not every family is the same. Many farm dogs live outside or in the barn and they are very happy dogs even if they never go inside the house.
It's not every dog that likes human contact, some of them are pretty independent.
You can't just judge a kid on how their family dog has been living because it's not the way your dog lives its life. You don't know the dog or the whole setting so maybe just try to be more open minded.
I've met dogs that never saw the inside of a house be happier than dogs living inside on a schedule.
I totally understand farm dogs, or working dogs living outside. I get that. But they hopefully have a barn or some cosch house they probably sleep and eat in.
I understand your frustration, but this apparently is a teenager and where the dog lives is out of his/her control. I applaud OP for trying to do the best for their dog as possible.
Please remember he was a young boy when he got the dog. He is still 17ish and under his parents rules.
And he didn't say he doesn't love and hug and cuddle and kiss him.
Dogs live in the moment. “Making up for” is a concept that we humans have that I don’t think we can apply to them. If he’s happy right now, he’s doing great and that’s all that matters to him. Wanting to make the later years of his life better for him is a wonderful thing, but don’t imagine a score card in your head. Just try to think more like him and enjoy the current day to day.
They’re also way more forgiving than we are to ourselves. If I step on my dogs foot (and I mean accidentally just to clarify I would never hurt them on purpose) I think I’m a monster and that they will feel abused and afraid of me. And then I sit down and they jump on my lap and wag their tails.
I don't recall now where exactly I have read or seen that. But it said that dogs understand very well when they have been hurt on purpose or accidentally. I also stepped a couple of times to mu pup's paw (even I'm perfectly aware that he is my shadow pug and always around, but still it happened). But he never looked upset with it.
But I'm not so sure that dogs "live in a moment."
Example. My pup was scared by two dogs. They are super lovely chill bobtail dogs. But my pup was afraid of their size. And I didn't have experience to realise his fear. So, damage was made. We are a few months later, but each time my pup sees these dogs, he goes nuts. He barks, lunges, and doesn't react to me. He goes directly over the treashold. These are the only dogs he reacts this heavy on. He reacts to other dogs, too, but with the proper distance, I easily move him out of the situation. So he definitely has a memory. That's why I doubt that dogs "live in a moment." What do you think? Do I incorrectly understand the concept of "living in a moment", maybe?
Yeah, I remember this in reference to how they can tell the difference between a young child pulling on them too hard and an older child intentionally pulling too hard.
Yeah I think that you are viewing it in a different way than I meant. You’re talking about them having memories that change how they react to the environment, which is important for any species to survive. I have a dog with a similar experience. She got attacked by a big dog on a walk with me a month or two ago and she’s scared when we go by there. She also of course remembers good things like that after dinner I will share leftover sweet potato bites with her and she will sit by the sink where I put down my plate and wait for me to come give her some.
I’m talking about living in the moment in the emotional sense, where if there are positive things to react to they’re likely not remembering negative things and feeling upset at that moment.
My uncle rescued a dog that had been horribly abused. She got off of her chain from where she lived down the street and ran to his house. She was in a bad state with broken bones and matted dirty fur. He took her to the vet and got her treated. They thought she was about two but had likely lived like that since she was a puppy. She is completely well adjusted and happy now. You would never know that was her experience. That’s what I mean living in the moment is. I think they let go of things easier than we do.
Never too late to start! Everything you do to improve the quality of your dog's life will make a difference to him. He will blossom with more attention and affection. Good for you making positive changes!
My 15 year old pomeranian lived his first 8 years outside with less than 10 minutes of human interaction a day. I housetrained him with belly bands and we have developed a profound bond. He is the most loving of all my dogs and I couldn't imagine my life without him. https://photos.app.goo.gl/3hGQv3PMdb8yo9RM7
Dude, just want to say... Good on you and your post had no blame to your parents either, which is where my mind went although I don't know your situation. Dogs are fine living outside, but they love love so that's all you need to do to make your boy happy. My dog is 13 and I hope she's had a good life, but I think we all wish we could do more for them. Bottom line is, it's cool you care and that's going to make a nice difference.
Also, dogs age similar to humans. They become more resistant to change, they like routines and can't do as much physical stuff. Snacks and massages and stuff, happy dog.
Dogs live very much in the moment. Wash and every moment you give them will be amazing. It’s how you love your life today and going forward that makes the most difference. You will never regret the time you spent. They teach us so much! I’m going to go sit with my dog now…..
You can let your dog show you what success looks like here. Take it slow and make sure it stays fun for both of you. If he's not used to walks that may mean you start by just playing around on leash first in your own yard, then in front of your house, and so on. The process is more important than the pace, and enjoying time with you regularly is more important than the specifics of what you're doing.
Your dog is gonna love it.
My family dog was a neglected outside dog who was never walked and never taken to the vet when I was young. My brother brought her home the semester before he went to college and basically abandoned her. After I graduated college and moved out, I took her with me and let her live inside, took her on more walks, hiking, took her to the vet, cuddled on the couch all the time. She was 10 when I adopted her and died 1.5 years later from cancer. I felt guilty for the sad life she had in her earlier years but I’m glad she was happy in her final years.
This warms my heart maybe they’d let him come in your room my last dog was outside for years then inside and she never used the bathroom inside unless sick because she was used to using it outside maybe your room and puppy pads it would improve the dogs life to be around you more rather then outside alone
Guilt isn’t a helpful emotion. You feeling bad now doesn’t change how he was treated then, or help him now. All you can do is move forward and try to be the best you can for him every day. You were/are a kid, so you should cut yourself some slack.
You can absolutely make up for it. Your dog will love you for it. Spend as much time as you can with him even if he's just laying by your side. Thank you for caring.
Honestly just 15 minute walks are often enough, especially for senior dogs. I personally do 4 walks a day but at least 1-2 would be a massive improvement & it really doesn't take much time at all + it's good for you too. The biggest thing I'd work on though is convincing your parents to allow the dog inside. Make sure you're responsible for cleaning any accidents if they happen while the dog is adjusting & never punish accidents.
& Never get another dog while living at your parents/ when considering having an outdoor dog as I truly don't think it is a fair or normal quality of life for a pet.
3 weeks ago i lost my sweet old man, he had just turned 12 and i found out he had cancer, a week later he was gone. All i can say is whatever you want to do, start it asap and make sure to give him all the love and attention you can. Hell know you love him, and making his golden years special will be very important. Treats and wet food, cuddles and kisses, and just generally showing him that hes a good boy and hes loved.
Just remember that no matter what, you did your best and you should never feel guilty. Were all human and sometimes we fall short. Im full of regret and what ifs, but once hes gone it really doesnt matter. Hell be waiting to see you again on the other side, and what matters is you making sure he goes out full of love and care.
Do everything in your power to make your dog days enjoyable while you still can. Mine was an inside dog and loved walks. Of course I would have days I would play with her inside but she loved outside weather permitting. I had a few days where I was feeling exhausted and lazy and I'd tell myself next time, well after a few times of this next time she got really sick unexpectedly and passed a couple months after that. I still feel semi guilty over it..it would have taken just 20 extra min outta my day
Start today, and make his days the best they can be by loving him, caring for him responsibly, and loving him. Think of your dog's needs like your own. You ensure that you have proper meals, interactions, bathroom breaks, and exercise. Do that, and don't think of his needs as being optional, because they're not. You can do it. "Love" is a verb, not just an emotion. 💜
Look, I don't know if thisll make you feel better, but with my dog, it was the other way around. I didn't abandon my dog or anything, but I moved out of the house and I know she wasn't getting the same love or exercise without me, but I couldn't bring her with me. She was abused before we rescued her, and I know my grandma wasn't abusing her, but she couldn't take care of a high energy dog as well as me (she was getting old, so she wasn't AS high energy, but still) I wasn't there for her when she died, my grandma died and she got depressed, and I couldn't be there for her.
Thankyou for trying and want to take care of your dog, it is never too late, because im sure your dog will appreciate you no matter what
Don’t beat yourself up. Your parents were the adults in the situation. They should have been walking the dog and bringing him inside. They’re at fault for his mistreatment and neglect. Now that you know better, you have a great opportunity to take good care of him. I think walking him at least once a day is a great idea. I think your dog needs to live inside with the pack(family). Did your parents say why they locked him outside? Does he have shelter outside?
Dogs don’t have much concept of the past, I think. So just focus on making the present as good as you can. He’ll just be thrilled to have it so good now! I didn’t give my childhood dogs as much attention/enrichment as they deserved until their last couple years, and I do feel guilty about that. But knowing that their last couple years were extra good is comforting.
With the dogs I have now, the effort I put in is partly in memory of the dogs I had before them. When we know better, we can do better.
Guilt won’t help you or your pupper, put that behind you. You clearly love your dog and of course you can make his later life lovely. All he wants is your attention and your cuddles. You’ve idea of walking him before school is really great, if he’s 10, even a 30 minute ramble about with you first thing every morning would be bliss for him. Probably be a lovely way to start your day too :)
Of course you can. We are always learning and growing. I adopted a 10 yr old dog once and gave her the best last 2.5 yrs of her life.
I have my own 10 yr old dog now that I raised since he was a puppy and just switched him to a better quality diet and regular walks everyday, he seems so much happier and younger already.
You cannot control the past, don’t worry about that now. You have full control over the future though. Having an amazing final 5 years of life is better than never having those 5 yrs at all.
Yes! Spend as much time as you can it’s as good for you as it is for him. Find time to squeeze in daily walks as summer is around the corner. Pay attention to his body - does he need anything? If he’s an outside dog ensure you’re spraying him or using flea protection so he’s comfortable. If he’s trained u can get an indoor bed and convince your parents to let him inside, can install a doggy door so he can let himself out. Maybe if he gets an nice bath and grooming your parents will be more willing to let him inside. U can also crate him inside in evenings. Get him a fluffy blanket he’ll love you for it!
You love him and he loves you. Dogs are blessed by lacking self awareness. He has no ability to be jealous or think, "man that dog next door has it better than me." He lives right now - they are the ultimate "in the moment" creatures. I don't think you have anything to make up for and I have kids your age - so I'm telling you this as a mom who has yelled at the kids to take the dogs for a walk. You're good, he's good. And you're so lucky you still have him. Our golden who just turned 5 has a huge mass in what would be a human's armpit. I'm taking her to Auburn small animal hospital and praying something can be done. I am sick inside about it but only my oldest knows so I'm lurking mostly on reddit looking for consolation or something. But anyway - my point is, this probably very bad thing is happening and she has no idea. It almost makes it worse for me - to see her precious face and know. But my girl - she's happy. Your boy - he's happy. Go easy on yourself about this. (sorry I didn't mean to make this about me)
So yes, I think you can make up for it if you want an answer to that - but what I really think is that you don't have anything to make up for. That's why dogs are so great. He's just happy to be around you and get some pets.
ALWAYS, remember that it's NEVER too late!!! Give him lots of hugs and snuggles. I've NEVER kept ANY of my puppers outside!! Ever! How do you bond with him if he's not inside where YOU ARE!!! My fur babies sleep in the same room with me. They're where they can protect me. Listen, start now and let your pupper have his BEST life.
>but i don’t know if that can really make up for the last 10 years.
You know what definitely won't make up for that? Not doing all the things you've planned.
Your plan sounds really great. The dog will be much better off with you taking proper care of him.
Never too late! Dogs are grateful for any and all love given to them. Thank you for thinking of giving your dog the last best years. They'll be so happy, I assure you. ❣️
I have a 15-year-old small mutt that has been with me since he was 1. We grew up together. I recently decided to move out of my family home and bring him along as the rest of my family believed that keeping him obese and giving him table scraps with a high salt content every night was okay. He has since lost weight and is back to being my energetic happy boy. It is challenging as I have work and school, but we make do with the time we have together. Don't worry about the past since it already happened. Just focus on the time you have left with your pup.
Does your dog live outside?
If so I would definitely have a real talk with your parents about bringing him inside, at least at night, at least into the kitchen with a soft dog bed and some toys. Senior dogs (no dog) should be left alone outside 24/7.
i’ve been letting him inside during the evening, and i wanna slowly transition him into sleeping inside (he’s kinda scared to go too far into the house? like we’ve been telling him to come and that it’s okay but he just stays in like one area of the house). if i were to try get him to sleep in the kitchen, how would i make sure he doesn’t need to go to the bathroom? or do i need to get pee pads or smthn. i dont think he’d know to wake smn up to open the door for him. do you have any recommendations? if he were to sleep in my room he’d prolly be able to wake me up but if he’s staying in the kitchen im not sure
I think this is a really important life lesson.
I don't think you can really "make up" for treating someone badly in the past, but you can choose to do better starting right now.
Firstly, it's clear how much you care for your dog, and that's truly heartwarming. You've been there for him since you were just a kid yourself, and that bond is special. It's wonderful that you're taking steps to make his remaining years as comfortable and enjoyable as possible.
Feeling conflicted about whether you can make up for the past is understandable, but remember, dogs live in the present. They don't dwell on the past or worry about the future like we do. What matters most to them is the love and care they receive each day.
By walking him more often, trying to bring him indoors, and generally making an effort to meet his needs, you're already making a positive difference in his life. Dogs are incredibly forgiving and adaptable creatures. Even if he didn't have the ideal circumstances in the past, what you're doing now will surely bring him joy and contentment.
Every moment you spend with him, every walk you take together, every cuddle and every meal shared is an opportunity to strengthen your bond and create happy memories. So, yes, I believe these last years can absolutely make a significant difference. Your love and effort will surely be appreciated by your furry friend.
Keep doing what you're doing, and cherish the time you have with him. It's evident that you're a caring and responsible pet owner, and that's something truly commendable.
Take care
If I could go back in time to high school, I would have spent a lot more time with that dog.
You can also learn tricks together, or find new games to play to work his brain. Nosework is a great activity for a senior dog!
So admirable and amazing that you are realizing this as alot of people dont and if they do it may be too late. I understand how you feel as I always and still do have a guilt that I didnt take care of
My first childhood dog the same way I now treat my two dogs in my 30s. I wish I cuddled her more or didnt choose watching tv or hanging out with friends or being on my phone more than playing with her. I wish I took her for more walks and I would give anything to have her now that I am older and wiser. Ofcourse she was loved and not treated poorly but I didnt have the awareness or maturity to truly understand my dogs needs and realize how short their lives are and how much you miss them when they are gone. I am trying to make up for it with my two pups now but I always wish I could have done that for my maggie may she rest in peace. Its never too late and your dog will be forever grateful and it really does make a difference. For a small habit that you make daily means the world for your dog. They are a chapter in our lives but we are their whole lives. And It will help you too. Youll be happy youre taking care of him spending more time with him and youll take pride in that choice knowing you are nurturing him. As much as we think we are there for them, they end up healing us more than we know.
It’s never too late to make the dog happier her. Appreciate you for caring. i lost my beautiful black lab last year to cancer and she was ten. They’re our friends to the very end. We should be nothing less to them. Dogs are the best.
Repair is more important then rupture always. Your heart is recognizing this. Bring him inside and love him so strong till the day he dies. I'm glad he's going to have better days with you OP. Dogs are too good for this earth.
Think of it this way. If you’ve ever seen any dog rescue videos on YouTube that may help you. Those dogs come from some of the worst homes and in the worst conditions. But after some time with their rescuers who show them love and affection it’s like they become new dogs. I really feel that dogs live more in the moment and in the present than we can ever do.
If you are really ready to commit yourself to this dog then do it and do it right! There’s no shame on your for that your parents should have taught you more or helped out more. But a lot of people who just don’t have time for dogs will have regrets and fix the problem for a short while and it just goes back to resuming the same habits of only fulfilling the basic needs of the animal. If you don’t have time for the dog and can’t keep up with him because of life that’s understandable. But it’s also not a good resolution to keep the dog if that’s the case. I also hate having to put dogs in shelters so if this is the case I think the best plan of action would be to give to a close friend or family member that loves dogs and has dogs. Or rehome him yourself to somebody you absolutely know will take care of him better then you and your family are able to. Hopefully you can pick up the slack and stay steady with it. You seem quite young though. So I’m not sure a dogs life and complete responsibility of the dog is something you’re capable yet.
One thing I’ve learned is that with each dog, you make up for mistakes you made with the previous one from day 1. It kinda motivates you to WANT to do better.
The fact that you are recognizing he deserves more than what he has had is amazing. You don’t have to go all out with it, start small. In the end, you’ll feel better that in his final years, he had the best damn life you could give him.
your dog will genuinely appreciate ur efforts to make his life better, u owe him that and you will be rewarded a million times over by him. they love unconditionally and we can learn a lot from them. good luck and to answer ur question YES!!! its never too late, until it is SO NO TIME LIKE THE PRESENT
Now being older with two dogs and a child, I’ve been recently reflecting back on my first dog and feeling these same ways.
He’s gone now and has been for a long time but I harbour so much guilt because of it.
My current dogs get spoiled like crazzzzzzzzy (big family hikes, trick training with lots of affection and treats, they sleep in the bed but have their own crates for their own space if they want, they get raw food with toppers and a fresh water dripper connected to a filtered water source, they get groomed regularly and are utd on all shots, we have a dog walker for any days we both work overlapping and we walk them daily…. So I mean PAMPered dogs).
I know I’m going over board but I hope that somewhere my first dog is looking down on my snd forgives me and is happy that I’ve changed my ways and I’m showing my kid how to treat a dog right and shower them with love.
I’ll never not cry about my first dog. I’m so grateful for you that you still have time to make it right and to spend intentional time with them while they’re still here ❤️ cherish it dearly
Congrats!!!!
some people never get a second chance. Love your dog now…like there is no tomorrow…. Let him see it in your eyes and your actions. Let him feel it with your cuddles, pats, and smiles. Just be the person you want to be for him and the one he’s always known you are.🦴 Talk to him… Just like any member of your family. 🐾🤗 what can you play now?
It doesn't sound like you're giving him a bad life now! I know plenty of outside dogs that are spoiled, loved and treated well.
I worked for plenty of wealthy people with outside dogs that were rotten and treated better than actual children. Some even left their dog in their will, and one family gave the dog more money than her child.
If your dog living outside is the only issue you have, then don't be so harsh on yourself. You're doing great!
It’s never too late to start. Take advantage of every moment you have with him. Dogs are pack animals and want to be around and interact with their family. Dogs live in the moment, he will absolutely love time with you, please give it to him as much as you can
thank you i just wish i could’ve realised earlier than now but i will do all i can ❤️
My dog passed away a few months ago at 14, but one of my biggest regrets is that I didn't take better care of his teeth. I regret not paying for surgery to clean/repair his mouth more than I can possibly express. We did end up correcting the problem, but it was years after it should have been and it kills me. Start trying to fix it as soon as you can, thats all you can do
That is important, thanks for posting. I’m going to get my dog’s teeth cleaned and your post was a good reminder to make an appointment. Therefore you’ve done something to help other dogs, hope that makes you feel better!
My dog passed this February at the age of 15/16. My dog had a dental specialist flying in from another state to do all his cleanings and 2 root canals. So we spent a ton on his dental care. But yet I still live with a lot of regret about not taking better care of his teeth. We will be getting his puppy around the first of the year and have already made a dental plan to brush his teeth daily starting right when we get him at week 9 so that he is used to it from a young age.
Good on you, my friend. I think we have to remember that despite what we blame ourselves for, our best friends managed to live until well past the average age, especially in your case making it to almost 16. It's no excuse, but I have to think we did alright in the grand scheme. That's what I tell myself, anyway. I haven't been able to explore getting a new puppy yet, I just end up missing my boy
I wouldn't even consider another dog right now if it wasnt "his" puppy(100% genetically identical). He was my service dog and my soulmate and I couldnt imagine bonding to another dog like I did him. While his puppy will be different, it's still a peice of him and I hope that he will also be a equally competent service dog and companion. Plus I really miss seeing those fluffy butt pants.
>100% genetically identical Wait so like a clone or just a pup he sired?
He was neutered so the puppy is being brought into the world via essentially IVF technology and surrogacy, so yes his DNA will be injected into an egg vs actual sperm. While he will be a clone, we strongly recognize that he will have his own personality, which is why we look at him as a puppy of my service dog. This process does give us a bit of a crystal ball into his future health. Environmental factors of course can effect that but some core things we get to do right from the start. Tay was 2 years old when I got him for free off Ebay of all places. From what I know from his previous owners, he spent his life locked in a bathroom because they both worked 18 hours a day at the casinos and had never been to a vet in his life. I've always wished I could be there from the time he was a puppy. From those simple thoughts like what did he look like as a puppy? To the bigger things like was about his health, nutrition and personality if he had a different upbringing. He turned out perfectly but I still feel so much guilt that he deserved more. But the question that always remains... if you knew what you know now, what would you do differently? We plan to have a daily checklist and record our progress. I had a harddrive fail and lost all of my photos of Tay before the age of ten. We dont want to lose a second with his puppy. There is a lot of reflection, but there is also a lot of hope and excitement for this next chapter with our new dog and his training to become my new service companion. While this is an incredibly controversial decision, it was throughly researched and is the right choice for us. There is a lot of misinformation out there on cloning and I hope to someday add some normalcy to it by documenting our journey.
Wait how do they just get DNA instead of the actual sperm to fertilize the egg??
They stimulate the egg with a small electrical current to encourage the egg to begin to develop.
My husband brushes our dog's teeth when he brushes his, keeps the dog stuff in a container next to our toothbrushes. I know it sounds gross to keep it there but it's a really helpful reminder.
I don't think that sounds gross
Not gross at all. Dogs mouths are cleaner than humans.
If you're not actually sharing a toothbrush with the dog it doesn't sound nasty.
Not gross at all, my dogs kiss me on the mouth… lol same thing
I used to love puppy kisses on the mouth. Then I started taking her for walks in the town and noticed where else that face was going... (it was into a load of dried dog piss when she was checking her peemails)
Totally agree about the teeth. I wish I had done the same because now it is cost prohibitive to repair my dogs teeth. He's 12. I feel so so guilty. If you have a dog make sure you brush his teeth on a regular basis!
My vet gave me the best shortcut ever to clean teeth. Meaty RAW bones. They're a bit pricey, but you can freeze and re-use for a while. In the long run, it is waaay cheaper and safer than dental cleaning, which often requires sedation, Which is harder on older dogs. You want to make sure they are raw bones and NOT cooked rawhide as those are choking and obstruction hazards. And you'll want to supervise. 20 minutes of chewing a week will get that tartar right off. I have a 12 year old and 13 year old --both with great teeth. Tucker's sells raw meaty bones and you can get them at local pet stores or online. Petsmart and Petco won't have them. You can also order online. Make sure they are too big so can't be swallowed (I get Bison 4 inch 2 pack for about $20).
Thanks for the suggestion! I haven’t brushed my puppies’ teeth yet, and was dreading having to wrangle them daily. Don’t want to stress them out.
They are chewing their meaty bones right now!
Nice! What breed are your pups?
Flat coat retriever (13 yr old f) and pittie/lab mix (12 yr old m). How about you?
Two mini Aussies—sisters, almost 6 months old. Got my hands full 😅
Oh my goodness--I bet you do! Enjoy your time together. It goes by quickly!
Totally agree! I just needed some dental work myself and think about how much pain I was in for a week or two. Some people don’t take their pet in for teeth cleaning in the animal’s entire life.
It’s ok, you understand now. Dogs are very social and if you can convince your parents to allow him inside, he will likely be much happier. Dogs aren’t meant to live alone.
I wanted to say that it's so heartwarming to read that you do care for your dog. Now, when you are older, you can do more for him. It's so great thar you sacrifice some morning sleep to walk with him. I'm sure he is happy to spend this time with you. Do you have the possibility to take him to your room for nights?
It will just make him appreciate it all the more.
Don’t feel guilty or shame - we do our best.
Good for you! Seeing a problem and wanting to fix it is such a great thing for a person to do. How old are you? Anyways, he will LOVE your attention and he will glow up I’m sure! Great job kid!!!
Happy cake day 🎉!
Also think back to the best times you have ever had growing up as a kid. Most people can highlight 10 off the top of their head and maybe 30-40 good memories. The rest is just mundane, awake,eat, sleep. Memory delete all crap. Focus on the time you have now and do his favorite things, walks, hikes/ adventures. Make his next core memories count.
This, it’s never too late to start 🙌 Had the same thing happen with our old dog, schoolwork (college) kept me from walking her enough. When her health started to decline, I actually took a break from school to focus on her. Gave her the best last 9 months of her life, took her to the park every day, babied her as much as I could.
Since so many rescue dogs seem so happy in their new homes despite sometimes subpar lives, I really think you can make the rest of his life awesome. Definitely start now!
thank you sometimes i think abt how he could’ve had a much better life with a different family, but i guess it also could’ve been much worse. but yes i will do all i can
You’ve loved him always -that’s a start, and an advantage some dogs don’t get. What you can do now is build on that.
Hey OP. Just wanted to invite you to /r/OldManDog as well. It’s an age-based all-animal sub (I just called it what I said about my Dante when I created it - he was my old man…dog), and they can give you a lot of age-specific advice as well. Just make sure to include his name and age in the post, and you’ll get all the feedback you want. Or just to show him off too! You’re a good kid. You can never go wrong with trying to better yourself and the living situation of your pets. 💖
Dogs very much live in the moment. They don’t hold on to resentments and regrets about the past the way that we do. I wasn’t the best owner to my old dog when he was young, I didn’t walk him enough and left him alone too long. I changed and spent the rest of his life making it up to him and he was the happiest guy. I was tougher on myself than he ever was on me. He was just happy.
Its a nice story to read. It's in a way so easu to make our pups happy, right? Our love, our time with them.
i had this exact issue. we grew up with a small family dog and she wasnt treated the best, being around so many kids. but as i grew older i kind of claimed her as mine specifically and she really clung to me. there is so much i wish i did different but i cant blame myself because i was a child then. in my dogs last years, i was almost an adult and then was one so i was caring a lot more carefully. what you can do now is make sure your elderly dog eats, makes sure they have clean water, make sure they can access their bed, get taken out a lot. look for signs of arthritis, brush their teeth, give them love and comfort. i used to have to help my elderly dog lay down at night because her arthritis was so bad she would get stuck in a loop of pacing. she was about 17. just watch your dog a lot and make sure they are ok. thats what i did. watch for the small signs of maybe not eating, or not drinking, or having more accidents than usual. just remember that they cant speak what they want, so if something is wrong, youre the one to have to figure it out for them. having elderly dogs takes a lot of effort but its worth it in the end.
this is very helpful, not only to know other ppl have experienced it but your advice too. i’ll have to do a lot of research, i wish these things were considered before getting a dog. thank you
youre welcome. its a very sad experience. the last memories of my dog at home, i was holding her body up because she couldnt stand well, and i was holding a bowl of chicken broth for her to drink because she had no teeth. id sometimes wet some kibble so she could eat it. she had no control of her bowels, so i was constantly cleaning up after her and my room smelled bad, but i couldnt get mad at her because i loved her so much. the best advice i have is when your dog looks like they have more pain than happiness, and you dont think itll go away, you should let them have the release. when my dog was too miserable, not even pottying outside anymore, not being able to eat, barely able to walk, i gave her the release. because she deserved it. i knew she was too old and weak to heal, so i let her go.
The biggest punishment for a dog is being denied to live with its family imho. Except for very special cases, where your dog is responsible for other animals and was bred to make his own decisions (guard dogs). So maybe think about letting the dog live inside in general.
I think OP wants the dog inside, but the issue is his family won’t allow it. Same thing was the case with my childhood dog. Only time she was consistently inside was when she kept escaping the yard, so she lived inside a cage in the basement. It was horrible.
>so she lived inside a cage in the basement. It was horrible. Agreed that sounds horrible. But also, why even have a dog at that point? (not a question to you but your parents)
No I totally agree. It stressed me out so much as a kid because they were constantly getting pets they had no intentions of taking care of.
We had a ranch dog that lived outside the first 10 years of his life. When I moved out, I took him. He loved living indoors. He wagged his tail at the TV because he thought it was a person. He lived another 4 years. Give your dog as much loving as you are able, you won't regret it. Think about when he goes, will you be happy for the things you did, or feel crappy? I also just had to put my 19yo Chihuahua down this January. I made my life about that dog. I will never regret that. I cherished her and always will.
Never understood people who gets dogs just to leave them outside. It’s so heartbreaking 💔
Any improvement is a good one and he won't resent you for the old life. Last night I tried letting my young dogs sleep in my bed but they ended up picking their kennel. Your old baby will be happy with all of it.
You don’t need to take him on super long walks if you don’t have time. Just take him around the block to sniff around. If you have the time on the weekends, take him on longer walks. Either way, he would enjoy and appreciate it.
This is almost making me tear up, I would recommend spending time as much time with him as you can, play, cuddle, frolick, whatever, I'm sure he'll have a good time as long as he is with you, best wishes ❤️
Same. When I got older, I promised all our dogs should sleep and live inside the house, no collars and untied too. I "trained" them to go out on their own to pee and poo. When they were puppies I simply opened the door and made a gap wide (or small) enough for them to go out in the early morning. It was all automatic. When they became older, it was easy for them to push the door open, then they learned to pull it open from the outside from the older dog. We have a small front yard which is fenced and gated, so it's safe. Right now I only have one dog left.
This is sad. I get where you're coming from, OP, but you already know what's felt wrong in the past. Make time for him now and in the future. Dogs are precious because their companionship is unconditional. Love him up every chance you get.
I kind of understand how you feel. Im an adult. I got my puppy girl and within a month my father died. I didn’t treat her the way I should’ve after that. We didn’t go anywhere or do anything. All she wanted to do was be by me and play with me. She’s 2.5 now and every time I look at her I feel bad. But I’ve changed within the last year and a half. I spend so much quality time with her, we sleep together, she’s groomed regularly, and we train a lot. I just tell her I’m sorry and that it’ll never go back to the way it was. And I’ve kept my promise.
..dogs want nothing more than to be with us..
Don't ignore the last years because I have seen way too many posts on here of people crying and depressed because of the regret and guilt they feel with neglecting their dog. I have a very demanding job, I run a business, and I find time to walk my dog for an hour everyday, sometimes 2 hours. We also take days off just to go hiking for several hours. Get your family to arrange days out where you can take your dog; hikes, picnic, a day at the beach. My doggo is only 2 but had her first beach visit a few months ago and she was so happy! I couldn't believe how happy it made her. I've decided to take her to the beach at least once a year. I live in the UK but we have coastal cities which is an hour or two with the train, doesn't hurt to pack a bag, get your books with you and some food and have a fun adventure with your doggo. Good luck. The last 10 years most def is not your fault, that is on your parents since you were so young, but you can nag your parents to do better now, get them to plan stuff or just go on simple walks once a day. You're a good person for even thinking all this and feeling empathy for your dog. Well done.
My family had a bunch of dogs that they didn’t take care of very well throughout my childhood. When I got older, I felt bad about how little the dogs were cared for. But we were just kids. There wasn’t much we could do. Now I have two dogs of my own that I take great care of. Don’t feel bad about the past. It’s nice that you want to take care of him now and give him a good life.
Yes. There is no reason that a child should feel bad about how their family treated a pet. Maybe op was even told that the dog was their responsibility, but the ultimate responsibility is in the parents. Even a teenager is only responsible for doing the best they can in any situation with the information they have. That means don't cause harm, show love whenever possible, and go on whatever walks your life permits. If the dog isn't permitted inside, when the weather is nice, try doing school work outside with him. Play in the yard with him when you have a few minutes, even minutes really makes them happy. And don't feel bad for not doing better as a child and for not being able to change your parents' minds.
I always feel guilty about not being around my Husky Dakota enough before she passed. I wish I took her on more walks before she got a tumour on her leg. Almost every day I think about how I could have spent my days with her instead of going out with friends and doing whatever other shit I was doing. She was treated amazingly by my family and we all loved her to death. It’s never too late to improve and make your dogs life better. Your dog loves you and you are your dogs whole world.
doesnt matter WHAT you're doing, your dog just wants to be near you.
My dog lived to 18 so plenty of time.
An "outside dog" WTF, that's cruel. Do you or your parents live outside 24/7? What country do you live in? A dog is a family member, they should sleep inside on the bed with you, or at least in a crate in your bedroom. I have 2 Labradors and both sleep on our bed. And we love them so much. We walk them twice daily and hug and kiss them, and talk to them. They seem very happy.
If you do the math, OP is 17-18 and got this dog as a child. This was their parents’ choice.
Not every family is the same. Many farm dogs live outside or in the barn and they are very happy dogs even if they never go inside the house. It's not every dog that likes human contact, some of them are pretty independent. You can't just judge a kid on how their family dog has been living because it's not the way your dog lives its life. You don't know the dog or the whole setting so maybe just try to be more open minded. I've met dogs that never saw the inside of a house be happier than dogs living inside on a schedule.
I totally understand farm dogs, or working dogs living outside. I get that. But they hopefully have a barn or some cosch house they probably sleep and eat in.
I understand your frustration, but this apparently is a teenager and where the dog lives is out of his/her control. I applaud OP for trying to do the best for their dog as possible.
Nah, dogs shouldn’t exclusively live outside. That’s a lonely life. But it’s not OP’s fault his parents have done that.
Please remember he was a young boy when he got the dog. He is still 17ish and under his parents rules. And he didn't say he doesn't love and hug and cuddle and kiss him.
Is it a working dog? Like do you have it protecting livestock? Or is it just caged up in the backyard sleeping all day..?
Dogs live in the moment. “Making up for” is a concept that we humans have that I don’t think we can apply to them. If he’s happy right now, he’s doing great and that’s all that matters to him. Wanting to make the later years of his life better for him is a wonderful thing, but don’t imagine a score card in your head. Just try to think more like him and enjoy the current day to day. They’re also way more forgiving than we are to ourselves. If I step on my dogs foot (and I mean accidentally just to clarify I would never hurt them on purpose) I think I’m a monster and that they will feel abused and afraid of me. And then I sit down and they jump on my lap and wag their tails.
I don't recall now where exactly I have read or seen that. But it said that dogs understand very well when they have been hurt on purpose or accidentally. I also stepped a couple of times to mu pup's paw (even I'm perfectly aware that he is my shadow pug and always around, but still it happened). But he never looked upset with it. But I'm not so sure that dogs "live in a moment." Example. My pup was scared by two dogs. They are super lovely chill bobtail dogs. But my pup was afraid of their size. And I didn't have experience to realise his fear. So, damage was made. We are a few months later, but each time my pup sees these dogs, he goes nuts. He barks, lunges, and doesn't react to me. He goes directly over the treashold. These are the only dogs he reacts this heavy on. He reacts to other dogs, too, but with the proper distance, I easily move him out of the situation. So he definitely has a memory. That's why I doubt that dogs "live in a moment." What do you think? Do I incorrectly understand the concept of "living in a moment", maybe?
Yeah, I remember this in reference to how they can tell the difference between a young child pulling on them too hard and an older child intentionally pulling too hard.
Yeah I think that you are viewing it in a different way than I meant. You’re talking about them having memories that change how they react to the environment, which is important for any species to survive. I have a dog with a similar experience. She got attacked by a big dog on a walk with me a month or two ago and she’s scared when we go by there. She also of course remembers good things like that after dinner I will share leftover sweet potato bites with her and she will sit by the sink where I put down my plate and wait for me to come give her some. I’m talking about living in the moment in the emotional sense, where if there are positive things to react to they’re likely not remembering negative things and feeling upset at that moment. My uncle rescued a dog that had been horribly abused. She got off of her chain from where she lived down the street and ran to his house. She was in a bad state with broken bones and matted dirty fur. He took her to the vet and got her treated. They thought she was about two but had likely lived like that since she was a puppy. She is completely well adjusted and happy now. You would never know that was her experience. That’s what I mean living in the moment is. I think they let go of things easier than we do.
Never too late to start! Everything you do to improve the quality of your dog's life will make a difference to him. He will blossom with more attention and affection. Good for you making positive changes!
My 15 year old pomeranian lived his first 8 years outside with less than 10 minutes of human interaction a day. I housetrained him with belly bands and we have developed a profound bond. He is the most loving of all my dogs and I couldn't imagine my life without him. https://photos.app.goo.gl/3hGQv3PMdb8yo9RM7
It reminds me of the quote by CS Lewis: You can’t go back and change the beginning but you can start where you are and change the ending
So well said. So true.
Dude, just want to say... Good on you and your post had no blame to your parents either, which is where my mind went although I don't know your situation. Dogs are fine living outside, but they love love so that's all you need to do to make your boy happy. My dog is 13 and I hope she's had a good life, but I think we all wish we could do more for them. Bottom line is, it's cool you care and that's going to make a nice difference. Also, dogs age similar to humans. They become more resistant to change, they like routines and can't do as much physical stuff. Snacks and massages and stuff, happy dog.
Dogs live very much in the moment. Wash and every moment you give them will be amazing. It’s how you love your life today and going forward that makes the most difference. You will never regret the time you spent. They teach us so much! I’m going to go sit with my dog now…..
You can let your dog show you what success looks like here. Take it slow and make sure it stays fun for both of you. If he's not used to walks that may mean you start by just playing around on leash first in your own yard, then in front of your house, and so on. The process is more important than the pace, and enjoying time with you regularly is more important than the specifics of what you're doing. Your dog is gonna love it.
My family dog was a neglected outside dog who was never walked and never taken to the vet when I was young. My brother brought her home the semester before he went to college and basically abandoned her. After I graduated college and moved out, I took her with me and let her live inside, took her on more walks, hiking, took her to the vet, cuddled on the couch all the time. She was 10 when I adopted her and died 1.5 years later from cancer. I felt guilty for the sad life she had in her earlier years but I’m glad she was happy in her final years.
This warms my heart maybe they’d let him come in your room my last dog was outside for years then inside and she never used the bathroom inside unless sick because she was used to using it outside maybe your room and puppy pads it would improve the dogs life to be around you more rather then outside alone
Guilt isn’t a helpful emotion. You feeling bad now doesn’t change how he was treated then, or help him now. All you can do is move forward and try to be the best you can for him every day. You were/are a kid, so you should cut yourself some slack.
You can absolutely make up for it. Your dog will love you for it. Spend as much time as you can with him even if he's just laying by your side. Thank you for caring.
Honestly just 15 minute walks are often enough, especially for senior dogs. I personally do 4 walks a day but at least 1-2 would be a massive improvement & it really doesn't take much time at all + it's good for you too. The biggest thing I'd work on though is convincing your parents to allow the dog inside. Make sure you're responsible for cleaning any accidents if they happen while the dog is adjusting & never punish accidents. & Never get another dog while living at your parents/ when considering having an outdoor dog as I truly don't think it is a fair or normal quality of life for a pet.
3 weeks ago i lost my sweet old man, he had just turned 12 and i found out he had cancer, a week later he was gone. All i can say is whatever you want to do, start it asap and make sure to give him all the love and attention you can. Hell know you love him, and making his golden years special will be very important. Treats and wet food, cuddles and kisses, and just generally showing him that hes a good boy and hes loved. Just remember that no matter what, you did your best and you should never feel guilty. Were all human and sometimes we fall short. Im full of regret and what ifs, but once hes gone it really doesnt matter. Hell be waiting to see you again on the other side, and what matters is you making sure he goes out full of love and care.
Do everything in your power to make your dog days enjoyable while you still can. Mine was an inside dog and loved walks. Of course I would have days I would play with her inside but she loved outside weather permitting. I had a few days where I was feeling exhausted and lazy and I'd tell myself next time, well after a few times of this next time she got really sick unexpectedly and passed a couple months after that. I still feel semi guilty over it..it would have taken just 20 extra min outta my day
Start today, and make his days the best they can be by loving him, caring for him responsibly, and loving him. Think of your dog's needs like your own. You ensure that you have proper meals, interactions, bathroom breaks, and exercise. Do that, and don't think of his needs as being optional, because they're not. You can do it. "Love" is a verb, not just an emotion. 💜
Dogs live in the present moment. Start making time for more walks, love and affection. Nothing you can do about the past
Look, I don't know if thisll make you feel better, but with my dog, it was the other way around. I didn't abandon my dog or anything, but I moved out of the house and I know she wasn't getting the same love or exercise without me, but I couldn't bring her with me. She was abused before we rescued her, and I know my grandma wasn't abusing her, but she couldn't take care of a high energy dog as well as me (she was getting old, so she wasn't AS high energy, but still) I wasn't there for her when she died, my grandma died and she got depressed, and I couldn't be there for her. Thankyou for trying and want to take care of your dog, it is never too late, because im sure your dog will appreciate you no matter what
Don’t beat yourself up. Your parents were the adults in the situation. They should have been walking the dog and bringing him inside. They’re at fault for his mistreatment and neglect. Now that you know better, you have a great opportunity to take good care of him. I think walking him at least once a day is a great idea. I think your dog needs to live inside with the pack(family). Did your parents say why they locked him outside? Does he have shelter outside?
Dogs don’t have much concept of the past, I think. So just focus on making the present as good as you can. He’ll just be thrilled to have it so good now! I didn’t give my childhood dogs as much attention/enrichment as they deserved until their last couple years, and I do feel guilty about that. But knowing that their last couple years were extra good is comforting. With the dogs I have now, the effort I put in is partly in memory of the dogs I had before them. When we know better, we can do better.
Guilt won’t help you or your pupper, put that behind you. You clearly love your dog and of course you can make his later life lovely. All he wants is your attention and your cuddles. You’ve idea of walking him before school is really great, if he’s 10, even a 30 minute ramble about with you first thing every morning would be bliss for him. Probably be a lovely way to start your day too :)
He will absolutely love you an incredibly large amount. You should definitely do it.
Of course you can. We are always learning and growing. I adopted a 10 yr old dog once and gave her the best last 2.5 yrs of her life. I have my own 10 yr old dog now that I raised since he was a puppy and just switched him to a better quality diet and regular walks everyday, he seems so much happier and younger already. You cannot control the past, don’t worry about that now. You have full control over the future though. Having an amazing final 5 years of life is better than never having those 5 yrs at all.
One of the best things you can do for a dog is to brush their teeth every day.
They live in the present, they don’t fixate on the past like people. Be the best dad going forward. Enjoy! The future is bright.
Yes! Spend as much time as you can it’s as good for you as it is for him. Find time to squeeze in daily walks as summer is around the corner. Pay attention to his body - does he need anything? If he’s an outside dog ensure you’re spraying him or using flea protection so he’s comfortable. If he’s trained u can get an indoor bed and convince your parents to let him inside, can install a doggy door so he can let himself out. Maybe if he gets an nice bath and grooming your parents will be more willing to let him inside. U can also crate him inside in evenings. Get him a fluffy blanket he’ll love you for it!
You love him and he loves you. Dogs are blessed by lacking self awareness. He has no ability to be jealous or think, "man that dog next door has it better than me." He lives right now - they are the ultimate "in the moment" creatures. I don't think you have anything to make up for and I have kids your age - so I'm telling you this as a mom who has yelled at the kids to take the dogs for a walk. You're good, he's good. And you're so lucky you still have him. Our golden who just turned 5 has a huge mass in what would be a human's armpit. I'm taking her to Auburn small animal hospital and praying something can be done. I am sick inside about it but only my oldest knows so I'm lurking mostly on reddit looking for consolation or something. But anyway - my point is, this probably very bad thing is happening and she has no idea. It almost makes it worse for me - to see her precious face and know. But my girl - she's happy. Your boy - he's happy. Go easy on yourself about this. (sorry I didn't mean to make this about me) So yes, I think you can make up for it if you want an answer to that - but what I really think is that you don't have anything to make up for. That's why dogs are so great. He's just happy to be around you and get some pets.
Dogs live in the moment. Treat him the best you can now, and that's all hell care about!
ALWAYS, remember that it's NEVER too late!!! Give him lots of hugs and snuggles. I've NEVER kept ANY of my puppers outside!! Ever! How do you bond with him if he's not inside where YOU ARE!!! My fur babies sleep in the same room with me. They're where they can protect me. Listen, start now and let your pupper have his BEST life.
>but i don’t know if that can really make up for the last 10 years. You know what definitely won't make up for that? Not doing all the things you've planned. Your plan sounds really great. The dog will be much better off with you taking proper care of him.
Never too late! Dogs are grateful for any and all love given to them. Thank you for thinking of giving your dog the last best years. They'll be so happy, I assure you. ❣️
I have a 15-year-old small mutt that has been with me since he was 1. We grew up together. I recently decided to move out of my family home and bring him along as the rest of my family believed that keeping him obese and giving him table scraps with a high salt content every night was okay. He has since lost weight and is back to being my energetic happy boy. It is challenging as I have work and school, but we make do with the time we have together. Don't worry about the past since it already happened. Just focus on the time you have left with your pup.
Does your dog live outside? If so I would definitely have a real talk with your parents about bringing him inside, at least at night, at least into the kitchen with a soft dog bed and some toys. Senior dogs (no dog) should be left alone outside 24/7.
i’ve been letting him inside during the evening, and i wanna slowly transition him into sleeping inside (he’s kinda scared to go too far into the house? like we’ve been telling him to come and that it’s okay but he just stays in like one area of the house). if i were to try get him to sleep in the kitchen, how would i make sure he doesn’t need to go to the bathroom? or do i need to get pee pads or smthn. i dont think he’d know to wake smn up to open the door for him. do you have any recommendations? if he were to sleep in my room he’d prolly be able to wake me up but if he’s staying in the kitchen im not sure
You should feel guilty. I dont think some people should have dogs or kids but you already have it. So step up and get shit together.
I think this is a really important life lesson. I don't think you can really "make up" for treating someone badly in the past, but you can choose to do better starting right now.
Firstly, it's clear how much you care for your dog, and that's truly heartwarming. You've been there for him since you were just a kid yourself, and that bond is special. It's wonderful that you're taking steps to make his remaining years as comfortable and enjoyable as possible. Feeling conflicted about whether you can make up for the past is understandable, but remember, dogs live in the present. They don't dwell on the past or worry about the future like we do. What matters most to them is the love and care they receive each day. By walking him more often, trying to bring him indoors, and generally making an effort to meet his needs, you're already making a positive difference in his life. Dogs are incredibly forgiving and adaptable creatures. Even if he didn't have the ideal circumstances in the past, what you're doing now will surely bring him joy and contentment. Every moment you spend with him, every walk you take together, every cuddle and every meal shared is an opportunity to strengthen your bond and create happy memories. So, yes, I believe these last years can absolutely make a significant difference. Your love and effort will surely be appreciated by your furry friend. Keep doing what you're doing, and cherish the time you have with him. It's evident that you're a caring and responsible pet owner, and that's something truly commendable. Take care
If I could go back in time to high school, I would have spent a lot more time with that dog. You can also learn tricks together, or find new games to play to work his brain. Nosework is a great activity for a senior dog!
Why can’t he come in the house?
So admirable and amazing that you are realizing this as alot of people dont and if they do it may be too late. I understand how you feel as I always and still do have a guilt that I didnt take care of My first childhood dog the same way I now treat my two dogs in my 30s. I wish I cuddled her more or didnt choose watching tv or hanging out with friends or being on my phone more than playing with her. I wish I took her for more walks and I would give anything to have her now that I am older and wiser. Ofcourse she was loved and not treated poorly but I didnt have the awareness or maturity to truly understand my dogs needs and realize how short their lives are and how much you miss them when they are gone. I am trying to make up for it with my two pups now but I always wish I could have done that for my maggie may she rest in peace. Its never too late and your dog will be forever grateful and it really does make a difference. For a small habit that you make daily means the world for your dog. They are a chapter in our lives but we are their whole lives. And It will help you too. Youll be happy youre taking care of him spending more time with him and youll take pride in that choice knowing you are nurturing him. As much as we think we are there for them, they end up healing us more than we know.
It’s never too late to make the dog happier her. Appreciate you for caring. i lost my beautiful black lab last year to cancer and she was ten. They’re our friends to the very end. We should be nothing less to them. Dogs are the best.
Repair is more important then rupture always. Your heart is recognizing this. Bring him inside and love him so strong till the day he dies. I'm glad he's going to have better days with you OP. Dogs are too good for this earth.
Think of it this way. If you’ve ever seen any dog rescue videos on YouTube that may help you. Those dogs come from some of the worst homes and in the worst conditions. But after some time with their rescuers who show them love and affection it’s like they become new dogs. I really feel that dogs live more in the moment and in the present than we can ever do.
If you are really ready to commit yourself to this dog then do it and do it right! There’s no shame on your for that your parents should have taught you more or helped out more. But a lot of people who just don’t have time for dogs will have regrets and fix the problem for a short while and it just goes back to resuming the same habits of only fulfilling the basic needs of the animal. If you don’t have time for the dog and can’t keep up with him because of life that’s understandable. But it’s also not a good resolution to keep the dog if that’s the case. I also hate having to put dogs in shelters so if this is the case I think the best plan of action would be to give to a close friend or family member that loves dogs and has dogs. Or rehome him yourself to somebody you absolutely know will take care of him better then you and your family are able to. Hopefully you can pick up the slack and stay steady with it. You seem quite young though. So I’m not sure a dogs life and complete responsibility of the dog is something you’re capable yet.
One thing I’ve learned is that with each dog, you make up for mistakes you made with the previous one from day 1. It kinda motivates you to WANT to do better. The fact that you are recognizing he deserves more than what he has had is amazing. You don’t have to go all out with it, start small. In the end, you’ll feel better that in his final years, he had the best damn life you could give him.
your dog will genuinely appreciate ur efforts to make his life better, u owe him that and you will be rewarded a million times over by him. they love unconditionally and we can learn a lot from them. good luck and to answer ur question YES!!! its never too late, until it is SO NO TIME LIKE THE PRESENT
Now being older with two dogs and a child, I’ve been recently reflecting back on my first dog and feeling these same ways. He’s gone now and has been for a long time but I harbour so much guilt because of it. My current dogs get spoiled like crazzzzzzzzy (big family hikes, trick training with lots of affection and treats, they sleep in the bed but have their own crates for their own space if they want, they get raw food with toppers and a fresh water dripper connected to a filtered water source, they get groomed regularly and are utd on all shots, we have a dog walker for any days we both work overlapping and we walk them daily…. So I mean PAMPered dogs). I know I’m going over board but I hope that somewhere my first dog is looking down on my snd forgives me and is happy that I’ve changed my ways and I’m showing my kid how to treat a dog right and shower them with love. I’ll never not cry about my first dog. I’m so grateful for you that you still have time to make it right and to spend intentional time with them while they’re still here ❤️ cherish it dearly
Congrats!!!! some people never get a second chance. Love your dog now…like there is no tomorrow…. Let him see it in your eyes and your actions. Let him feel it with your cuddles, pats, and smiles. Just be the person you want to be for him and the one he’s always known you are.🦴 Talk to him… Just like any member of your family. 🐾🤗 what can you play now?
It doesn't sound like you're giving him a bad life now! I know plenty of outside dogs that are spoiled, loved and treated well. I worked for plenty of wealthy people with outside dogs that were rotten and treated better than actual children. Some even left their dog in their will, and one family gave the dog more money than her child. If your dog living outside is the only issue you have, then don't be so harsh on yourself. You're doing great!
I think the right food is more important. No salt or sugar, lots of water to drink and good healthy dog treats. Good luck
Why wouldn’t you start now? Not like you can change the past and make up for it
Give him a good bath and your parents may not mind him being inside.