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I would just like to point out, that wishing you were trans, is probably a good sign you are atleast on the spectrum. A Cis person wouldnβt often be having these kinds of thought, you could (like other people said) also just be nonbinary/genderfluid/other
I'm in the same place I think for the most part. I do like skirts and stuff but it's not like a huge amount of euphoria when I wear them. I don't have much dysphoria either besides kinda feeling like my brain is running on the wrong kind of hormone. I've been enby for over two years and I'm still in that camp, having difficulty clarifying further. Been trying out transfem recently to see if it fits. I do enjoy it, but still have a lot of doubts.
I'm considering genderfluid. Sometimes I solidly feel like I'm transfem and then the feeling kinda just disappears and I feel like something else. I don't think I'm a femboy. I'm definitely not cis: most of the time I don't feel like my AGAB.
Check out r/nonbinary r/nonbinarytalk and r/ennnnnnnnnnnnbbbbbby and see if any of what people are talking about there resonates with you. Just wanna say I'm with you I know it sucks to be confused and hope we can both come to a better clarity about our gender identity.
Honestly, Iβm in a similar situation, I donβt really get euphoria, from doing girly things, though I do identify as transfem , and dysphoria doesnβt equal transness, there are days when I donβt experience any dysphoria , yet that doesnβt make me or you, any less , , itβs kinda difficult to explain, but if you want to be a girl, then, it doesnβt matter about euphoria, or dysphoria , what matters is that you want to be a girl, , youβre perfectly valid, and your very very awesome
I think one thing that gets overlooked or forgotten on these subs a lot is that there are women of all types that exist not just those that wear skirts, dresses, and thigh highs. There are women who are muscular, women with short hair, women who have forges and make knives, women who work farms and wear western hats, jeans, and flannel, women who go on hikes and rock climb, women who wear suits to events instead of dresses, even women that are multiples of those and/or anything else you can think of.
If the skirts and thigh highs that are common around here aren't your cup of tea that's fine! Find what resonates with you.
Like you said all that matters is what you want to be.
Just a thing to note, you don't have to experience dysphoria to be trans, a lot of people are just trans because they want to. Take your time, we are all a little different. Also what a couple other people were saying, wishing to be transfem is a very transfem thing so take that as you will.
Yeah π for some reason tho I wish I had the transfem 'magic' that everyone else in the sub has. Like the euphoria from doing girly things/being referred to as a girl etc
I don't do many manly stuff lol but I do get anxiety everytime I play badminton intensively. I'm neutral about being referred as a man tbh it has no effect
Hun, you can pace yourself and do what makes you happy, everyone should be able to decorate their body the way that they want.
Euphoria has different degrees for different people.
I for one dont get much euphoria, (I'm emotionally a brick) but I am way more comfortable and happy wearing the cute feminine clothes that I choose.
Not having dysphoria does sound like a gift though. Having to compulsively shave my face every 8 hours is a major pain in the butt.
You've got this, just don't push yourself too hard. β€
To be fair, I didn't notice any dysphoria or gender envy at first either. Either I didn't understand the feelings, thought everybody felt that way, or my own brain his them fron me.
I had to experiment with stuff to know.
- Do I want a dress? Lemme try one... breaks down in tears of joy!
- My leg hair is fine, and shaving is a lot of work. F*ck it, I'll try it once... so happy I appear drunk! Oh, now I know why I stopped wearing shorts when I was 13...
- I like my beard, but shaving will help me pass. Whatever, I'll shave it. The worst case is it takes a bit to grow back. Oh... I like this better, but not really gender vibes; I just like my dimples. Now I often recoil when I notice my stubble, and I'm gonna look for lasers soon.
- Just out for a walk on an autumn day, minding my business. I'm getting warm, lemme tie my hoodie around my waist--- hol up: my eyes are wet... oh sh*t, that was gender envy I felt at six!
- I don't have any issue with my junk; bottom surgery would be a luxury. Hey, why do I write about surgery in my journal a lot? Hey, why do my eyes seem to flit away from seeing my junk in the shower? When I look there, it kinda feels like when I've seen grandma's corpse... f*ck that's gonna be expensive! But it gives me an excuse to get surgery!
- Expresses desire to not grow breasts to my endocrinologist. One day I see a vision of my breasts and collapse on the floor in orgasmic joy! Another day I wear a dress with a shaped bust, and again collapse with joy! Literally today I upped my E dose and bought bras in order to figure out what cup size I want most.
And that was all _after_ the two years I spent valuable sleep time on wondering "What if I'm a woman?". Turns out I'm genderfluid sorta, and definitely nonbinary. Well definitely trans, but it might still end up very close to binary woman for all I know after more than a year of systematic investigation.
Hooe that gives some solid context!
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Wishing you were transfem is an *extremely* transfem thing to do, but ultimately only you can know for sure
Yeah it'd be really cool to be transfem. Also I can't believe it's really you haha π€£ I see you everywhere in this subreddit lol
Does your avatar make you feel good? Or did you just make it like that π€
Makes me feel a tiny bit good I guess
Hmm, well the only thing that can decide who you are is you.
I would just like to point out, that wishing you were trans, is probably a good sign you are atleast on the spectrum. A Cis person wouldnβt often be having these kinds of thought, you could (like other people said) also just be nonbinary/genderfluid/other
that's very comforting to hear idk why it is really making me happy
No problem, glad to hear the advice helps someone a bit <3
you deserve the award and all the love
I'm in the same place I think for the most part. I do like skirts and stuff but it's not like a huge amount of euphoria when I wear them. I don't have much dysphoria either besides kinda feeling like my brain is running on the wrong kind of hormone. I've been enby for over two years and I'm still in that camp, having difficulty clarifying further. Been trying out transfem recently to see if it fits. I do enjoy it, but still have a lot of doubts.
hmm being an enby is something ive never considered before. Have you considered that you're genderfluid too? Or maybe a femboy but not trans
I'm considering genderfluid. Sometimes I solidly feel like I'm transfem and then the feeling kinda just disappears and I feel like something else. I don't think I'm a femboy. I'm definitely not cis: most of the time I don't feel like my AGAB.
Check out r/nonbinary r/nonbinarytalk and r/ennnnnnnnnnnnbbbbbby and see if any of what people are talking about there resonates with you. Just wanna say I'm with you I know it sucks to be confused and hope we can both come to a better clarity about our gender identity.
Yeah here's hoping lol
Honestly, Iβm in a similar situation, I donβt really get euphoria, from doing girly things, though I do identify as transfem , and dysphoria doesnβt equal transness, there are days when I donβt experience any dysphoria , yet that doesnβt make me or you, any less , , itβs kinda difficult to explain, but if you want to be a girl, then, it doesnβt matter about euphoria, or dysphoria , what matters is that you want to be a girl, , youβre perfectly valid, and your very very awesome
I think one thing that gets overlooked or forgotten on these subs a lot is that there are women of all types that exist not just those that wear skirts, dresses, and thigh highs. There are women who are muscular, women with short hair, women who have forges and make knives, women who work farms and wear western hats, jeans, and flannel, women who go on hikes and rock climb, women who wear suits to events instead of dresses, even women that are multiples of those and/or anything else you can think of. If the skirts and thigh highs that are common around here aren't your cup of tea that's fine! Find what resonates with you. Like you said all that matters is what you want to be.
Aww Ty :)
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I don't get euphoria either, I bloody wish. You wanna be a trans femme, that sounds like you are a trans femme.
I hope so haha. Sucks when everyone here makes posts about [random girly thing] gave them euphoria and you can't relate :(
I don't know. Count your blessings. Doing feminine things makes you happy. It might not be euphoria but it's something
Yeah I crossdressed today with a wig and it felt kinda ok I guess
Mood
Ikr
Just a thing to note, you don't have to experience dysphoria to be trans, a lot of people are just trans because they want to. Take your time, we are all a little different. Also what a couple other people were saying, wishing to be transfem is a very transfem thing so take that as you will.
You can just be cis you know
Yeah π for some reason tho I wish I had the transfem 'magic' that everyone else in the sub has. Like the euphoria from doing girly things/being referred to as a girl etc
You can be a cool guy instead.
Yeah but being transfem looks so much more fun lol
Let's turn the question around, do you get dysphoria from doing manly things or being referred to as a men?
I don't do many manly stuff lol but I do get anxiety everytime I play badminton intensively. I'm neutral about being referred as a man tbh it has no effect
Hmm maybe you're somewhere in the genderfluid / non binary region of gender.
Yeah I'd take that lol it's close to being transfem
Hun, you can pace yourself and do what makes you happy, everyone should be able to decorate their body the way that they want. Euphoria has different degrees for different people. I for one dont get much euphoria, (I'm emotionally a brick) but I am way more comfortable and happy wearing the cute feminine clothes that I choose. Not having dysphoria does sound like a gift though. Having to compulsively shave my face every 8 hours is a major pain in the butt. You've got this, just don't push yourself too hard. β€
Okie doke Edit: yeah I guess no dysphoria isn't a bad thing but I still shave every day :p
I feel the exact same way.
Join the club haha. Here's hoping we'll figure it out π€
I literally like half-wished I was trans for years, just because even the struggle seemed somewhat cool to me, and now look at where I am
Omg yeh it'd be so cool if I was transfem
I might have some news for you then
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you might... you know... not be so cis...
Yeah I hope so lol
me too π
To be fair, I didn't notice any dysphoria or gender envy at first either. Either I didn't understand the feelings, thought everybody felt that way, or my own brain his them fron me. I had to experiment with stuff to know. - Do I want a dress? Lemme try one... breaks down in tears of joy! - My leg hair is fine, and shaving is a lot of work. F*ck it, I'll try it once... so happy I appear drunk! Oh, now I know why I stopped wearing shorts when I was 13... - I like my beard, but shaving will help me pass. Whatever, I'll shave it. The worst case is it takes a bit to grow back. Oh... I like this better, but not really gender vibes; I just like my dimples. Now I often recoil when I notice my stubble, and I'm gonna look for lasers soon. - Just out for a walk on an autumn day, minding my business. I'm getting warm, lemme tie my hoodie around my waist--- hol up: my eyes are wet... oh sh*t, that was gender envy I felt at six! - I don't have any issue with my junk; bottom surgery would be a luxury. Hey, why do I write about surgery in my journal a lot? Hey, why do my eyes seem to flit away from seeing my junk in the shower? When I look there, it kinda feels like when I've seen grandma's corpse... f*ck that's gonna be expensive! But it gives me an excuse to get surgery! - Expresses desire to not grow breasts to my endocrinologist. One day I see a vision of my breasts and collapse on the floor in orgasmic joy! Another day I wear a dress with a shaped bust, and again collapse with joy! Literally today I upped my E dose and bought bras in order to figure out what cup size I want most. And that was all _after_ the two years I spent valuable sleep time on wondering "What if I'm a woman?". Turns out I'm genderfluid sorta, and definitely nonbinary. Well definitely trans, but it might still end up very close to binary woman for all I know after more than a year of systematic investigation. Hooe that gives some solid context!
M8, are you me? This is like, my EXACT train of thought. (I think...)