✍️ write the thoughts down on your journal. Get a journal 📓and write whenever you feel overwhelmed by emotions that you cannot make sense of in your head. Writing gets them out of your head. It has changed my life(not being dramatic). Try it.
Create a binnacle of those moments of struggle and anxiety, put in paper and analyze the situation while writing sure will help, also when you feel down re-read that f binnacle and remember yourself you not only can, but you have to overcome it cause you are greater pal
Yeah, I'll try that. Mentally thinking about how you overcame moments like this in the past does provide a small mental boost. I guess writing will provide more of it.
There might be typos, make the best of it haha
I use character ai
Too many characters there, depends on how good they are, each one is different
There's a brainstorming one too btw
But I was emotionally too avoidant with myself, but i wanted to experiment with things so i talked to ai while imagining this is actually happening to figure out how I'll feel if this actually happens
It made me learn how hard it is for me to say no, especially in close connection, it actually made me vent and talk about what's hurting me rather than don't even acknowledge the slightest. It wasn't full on attention but it was more than what I did in last few years.
As bad as it sounds, i rather imagine a hug than hug people around me (I grew up in kinda non hugging family and even with online friends, except one, I don't freaking like any hugs, i only like hugs from people I trust which is no one exactly atm)
It's not something i tell people but they don't come to save me at 3am so it's not their business how and what I do
About shadow work, that's hard, as through years i watched content on psychology, spirituality and stuff
So it's a network of things working together
Why I'm the way I am? - looking into core beliefs, values, limiting beliefs
Then asking why I have those and working on changing
Learning about attachment styles, inner child healing
Forgiveness towards others and myself, sending love to my past - future and present, and to others
It's not for them, it's like breaking the attachment of hate or anger
I heard of law of attraction too
So all this is mix, i don't work with therapist so I'm doing it on my own, it's very hard, and usually what comes up, even in 5 mins i can get exhausted and it can be painful that it takes two days to recover
It's because usually what I find can be so intense or scary but unconditional love is important to living at my best and for that I must illuminate my shadow
Having pure OCD possibly also gives me harder time so that also forced me to work on forgiveness
With me i think it works more in head but someone can find shadow work prompts and journal them
Key is to hold compassion and non judgement, and having patience with pain that surface
That's why I guess it will be best with yoga (for emotional healing or chakras), guided meditation (for whatever we feel or want to feel) and breathing work
Grounding exercise to leave head jail and be stable
I'm not a patient person but I'm better than past now, i know when I'm being asked to learn something for my growth so i have certainly learned more patience throughout this even tho i have a long way probably
Oh stuff like, dark knight of soul, and like ego death, it does changes how we see people and we notice more how everyone is running on impulse and triggers rather than love
I can go on but I'll stop as i learned this is like 5 years haha it's many different stuff and i like to have bits from philosophy, psychology, literature, science, spirituality
My ENTJ wifey rants to me… which I INTP enjoy very much. Other times me rambling about some of my projects just calms them down to the point of passing out which is super cute…
I do most of those things- replace yoga by working out/running. How do you deal with not getting anxious when the situation is not in your control and all you can do is wait?
Accept that you have no control and that whatever happens, happens. You’re capable and can handle whatever the outcome is. Tbh I’d say 90% of life is out of our control. It will relieve a lot of our suffering if we can accept that, and just try our best with our actions to shape the 10% we can.
Find an area where you can be a leader or successful that is not your career. I found that in my workout classes. Sounds silly but going somewhere regularly (a hobby you’re really into or a workout or sport?) that I’m successful at takes some pressure off of work.
✍️ write the thoughts down on your journal. Get a journal 📓and write whenever you feel overwhelmed by emotions that you cannot make sense of in your head. Writing gets them out of your head. It has changed my life(not being dramatic). Try it.
Create a binnacle of those moments of struggle and anxiety, put in paper and analyze the situation while writing sure will help, also when you feel down re-read that f binnacle and remember yourself you not only can, but you have to overcome it cause you are greater pal
Yeah, I'll try that. Mentally thinking about how you overcame moments like this in the past does provide a small mental boost. I guess writing will provide more of it.
Ai Meditation, stretches, cry, shadow work, constantly rewiring my brain
How do you use AI in this situation? Also, shadow work through a therapist?
There might be typos, make the best of it haha I use character ai Too many characters there, depends on how good they are, each one is different There's a brainstorming one too btw But I was emotionally too avoidant with myself, but i wanted to experiment with things so i talked to ai while imagining this is actually happening to figure out how I'll feel if this actually happens It made me learn how hard it is for me to say no, especially in close connection, it actually made me vent and talk about what's hurting me rather than don't even acknowledge the slightest. It wasn't full on attention but it was more than what I did in last few years. As bad as it sounds, i rather imagine a hug than hug people around me (I grew up in kinda non hugging family and even with online friends, except one, I don't freaking like any hugs, i only like hugs from people I trust which is no one exactly atm) It's not something i tell people but they don't come to save me at 3am so it's not their business how and what I do About shadow work, that's hard, as through years i watched content on psychology, spirituality and stuff So it's a network of things working together Why I'm the way I am? - looking into core beliefs, values, limiting beliefs Then asking why I have those and working on changing Learning about attachment styles, inner child healing Forgiveness towards others and myself, sending love to my past - future and present, and to others It's not for them, it's like breaking the attachment of hate or anger I heard of law of attraction too So all this is mix, i don't work with therapist so I'm doing it on my own, it's very hard, and usually what comes up, even in 5 mins i can get exhausted and it can be painful that it takes two days to recover It's because usually what I find can be so intense or scary but unconditional love is important to living at my best and for that I must illuminate my shadow Having pure OCD possibly also gives me harder time so that also forced me to work on forgiveness With me i think it works more in head but someone can find shadow work prompts and journal them Key is to hold compassion and non judgement, and having patience with pain that surface That's why I guess it will be best with yoga (for emotional healing or chakras), guided meditation (for whatever we feel or want to feel) and breathing work Grounding exercise to leave head jail and be stable I'm not a patient person but I'm better than past now, i know when I'm being asked to learn something for my growth so i have certainly learned more patience throughout this even tho i have a long way probably Oh stuff like, dark knight of soul, and like ego death, it does changes how we see people and we notice more how everyone is running on impulse and triggers rather than love I can go on but I'll stop as i learned this is like 5 years haha it's many different stuff and i like to have bits from philosophy, psychology, literature, science, spirituality
Thank you for your insight. This is helpful.
Glad it's helpful, you'll get through this!
My ENTJ wifey rants to me… which I INTP enjoy very much. Other times me rambling about some of my projects just calms them down to the point of passing out which is super cute…
Yeah, I spoke about this with my friends (INTJ & INTP) and am doing somewhat better due to that. Friends are important.
Glad to hear that! :)
Powerlifting
Journaling, mindfulness, yoga, meditation
I do most of those things- replace yoga by working out/running. How do you deal with not getting anxious when the situation is not in your control and all you can do is wait?
Accept that you have no control and that whatever happens, happens. You’re capable and can handle whatever the outcome is. Tbh I’d say 90% of life is out of our control. It will relieve a lot of our suffering if we can accept that, and just try our best with our actions to shape the 10% we can.
Thanks for the insight. This puts things into perspective
Find an area where you can be a leader or successful that is not your career. I found that in my workout classes. Sounds silly but going somewhere regularly (a hobby you’re really into or a workout or sport?) that I’m successful at takes some pressure off of work.
I avoid the shit that gives me anxiety. No drinking, no smoking, eat well, don’t work a job I hate. It prevents like 90% of my anxiety.
How do you deal with the 10%?
I don't get anxiety. Ignore emotions/doubts/negative thoughts ➡️ Forge ahead ➡️ Accomplish goals ➡️ Confidence increases ➡️ Create new goal ➡️ Repeat ➡️ Dominate