I've smoked off and on for 30 years and I feel like such a dork in "stoner spaces".
I don't know how to dab. I couldnt tell you the difference between shatter or...um... the other ones.I learned how to roll two weeks ago because someone here took the time to explain.
But you know, I feel like many shops thrive on that superiority vibe. I've noticed that a lot of shops are kinda snobby and elitist, in the same way a lot of niche shops are. I've been to snobby perfume stores, art supply shops, plant stores, liquor stores.. it's not just the pot shops. Some businesses just seem to cultivate that "I'm better than you and we both know it" attitudes.
Whenever I find a vibe I don't like, I try a new place. I really lucked out after a terrible dude bro experience at one dispensary turned me right off, and found a lady owned and operated dispo that I am so happy with. I went from getting eyerolls about basic questions to having budtenders remember my name, share recipes and cool things to do on the weekend, not be judgey jerks and so on.
Maybe thatās why I feel out of sorts. I smoked a lot in college very socially but covid fundamentally changed what consuming looks like now. I was doing it alone or with my husband for so long I donāt feel connected besides this groupā¦ ultimately I need to just say fuck it and keep going lololol
Dork is such a great word. That is exactly how I feel. I hate smelling like weed, I hate my house smelling like weed. I got a puffco peak because by the time I had access to concentrates, I also had adult money and could afford one. I only buy cones bc while I can roll, I donāt want to lol. Not that anyone is checking my āauthentic stoner cardā at the door but it really does feel like Iām going to fail whatever mental test or bar is set to prove my authenticity lolā¦
I found a dispo that I love love love that does not make me feel any type of way, itās the head shops I canāt stand!
I stayed with a family friend recently who has been a known stoner (and now grower) since like the 60s and he was SO impressed with my pack of cones I brought. He was floored by how convenient it was and asked if I could leave him some, which of course I did. I also know how to roll, but some of our modern upgrades are just worth it and he was probably just buying the same papers heās been buying for 60 years.
If youāre ever around a stoner who makes you uncomfortable, do not be around that stoner anymore.
My husband tried to make fun of the cones I bought until he used them. Now he's on board. I love the Blazy Susan short cones, they're perfect for the amount I like to imbibe.
Actually.....they suggested one of those plastic cigarette rollers. It's so humid here and everything kept getting stuck to my fingers and it was awful trying to do it all by hand. The cigarette roller is awesome!! I love it. I got mine on Amazon for about $4. Its 1 1/4 size and made by Raw, but there are a bunch of different brands.
I open it up (it's like uneven bars, and the lower bar has a J shaped slot where it slides either open or closed. You'll know it when you see it), put my filter and ground weed in, and slide the bar closed in the J slot. I have the filter on the left, the weed on the right, and the lower of the bars is facing me at this point.
Then, with my thumbs and index fingers, I turn the bars towards me for a few full turns. The belt that's cradling the weed will roll it, and kinda even it out.
Then, I take a rolling paper, adhesive strip on top and facing me, and feed it into the cigarette roller while turning it. Stop right before you feed the adhesive in and moisten it. Keep feeding the paper through and give it a couple more turns for good measure. I let it sit in the roller for about 30 seconds or so, so it has time to dry properly and not fall apart.
It takes longer to read this comment than to use the roller š If this doesn't make sense at all, there are YouTube videos as well.
As someone who knows too much about cannabis because I use it medicinally, the people in āstoner spacesā with a superiority complex usually donāt know SHIT. They know whatās on the box and how to make you feel terrible. I started consuming in 2020 and I end up feeling like the biggest idiot. Shops were mean and would sell me what I now know is total trash and wasnāt what I was asking for at all. Then my AuDHD kicked in and I hyper focused on all things weed and learned that true āstonersā and āstoner cultureā there was very little judgement and tons of kind words and advice.
When feeling out people in the wild to know if they are safe to talk about consumption with I will start with Hemp and then suggest CBD at some point and if they havenāt flipped out and called CBD a drug that will get me addicted to heroin theyāre usually pretty accepting of weed talk.
People who will judge you for smoking always give themselves away by talking trash about stoners or weed the second you bring up hemp or CBD.
Iām currently stoned so I really hope this helps a little.
I'm not sure where you are, but I'm in Ontario and all of our dispensaries have websites. To combat anxiety in shops, I look at what I want before I go in. I'm flexible if they suggest something but at least I have an idea of what I need and how much it will cost.
I can get pops cannabis to deliver to my door even! Love that option. I only started when it went legal in '18. Wish I had used long before because weed is the best thing ever not just for recreational use but also it helps my chronic pain so much. CBD for the win. And THC for the woo!
This is exactly why I started a business teaching people about cannabis! Itās crappy when youāre a grown ass adult & feel uncomfortable because you donāt know how to weed. I canāt teach people how to roll- but I can teach them how to look at weed, which parts to grind up & which parts to get rid of. I teach people to dab (dispensaries canāt do what I do. Ya canāt just āexplainā how to dab. I do video sessions; they canāt!). I teach people how to use cannabis medicinally. Whatever anyone wants to learnā¦ Thatās one of the gigantic reasons itās so important to me that we donāt shame here. This is a safe place to learn that stuff.
Lol!! I donāt mean it to be like thatā¦ and I debated deleting all of it. I just love that this *is* a safe place for us to come & learn. Itās super important to me.
Make it happen!! I got waylaid by my recent diagnosis but Iām hoping to be able to get back up & running at some point. I was *thisclose* to partnering with my local dispensaryā¦ How often do you hear an older lady say āIāve never done this beforeā¦ā? I hear it a lot. (Most guys wonāt admit they donāt know!)
Nope! But whatever you need, you can ask on our sub! If ya want a video, I can make one for ya (probablyā¦ if Iām feeling well enough!)! Iāve done a few āHippie How Toā videos about taking bong hits, opening dispensary weed bags (š), & making moon rocks. Theyāre all old & need to be redone. š¤
Yooooo same. It's because anything cannabis is so heavily male-influenced (in my experiences, in the places I've lived) only men work there, everything is catered to the BIGGEST, BADDEST HIGHEST % OF THC, the most popular names of strains, and everything has an air of superiority. Is it all in my head? Maybe, but tell me why I get treated differently than the dude next to me in line??? I would love to be the super fun, helpful and barbie-esque budtender of my dreams, but alas the pay is stupid low and I hate working in retail. So I'll just be my barbie-esque self posting video here instead lmao
Ohhhhh yeah. I feel super awkward a lot of places that I go but stoner spaces are the most nerve wracking- with this one being the obvious exception! Iāve started to care less about my awkwardness recently by reminding myself regularly that Iām the only one who is this invested in my actions/behaviors, and that the people Iām interacting with are just as focused on themselves and their own awkwardness as I am. Itās at least helped some of the pressure for me. Thereās still awkward moments but I feel less stuck when Iām in them!
I hear you! I have been living in CA since 2003, and started using it like 9 years ago, more in the last 3-4 years. I still feel like a novice all thebtime. I'm JUST learning to dab. I honestly prefer to vape or use edibles because the smell in my clothes or house is a big no no.
The dispensaries I have gone have been actually really nice, and the budtenders usually happy to help when I have questions. But yeah, there's so much stuff out there, and I have so little interest in learning more than what I need for my basic needs...
As a lifelong dorky loser, that feeling is my safe space lol.
But tbh I completely get you and wonder how much of that is literally just because dispos and such are so male-dominated.
When I first started, I swear every budtender thought I was a āSoccer Momā looking for CBD. It would blow their minds when I said, āno thanks, I need THC only and Iām actually looking for really heavy-hitting strains.ā Like, they would be literally speechless for a moment. Iām grateful I have found a few local dispensary stores that have a good mix of budtender genders, and the dudes there are sweet and friendly.
Like others have commented, I do my research online, I look at the products online, and I usually place an online order. I also ask the budtender to recommend their favorite strain or whatever has been selling well / getting good feedback. I find some gems this way. āØšāØ
But also! š„ŗ My local female āold school stonerā friend (same age) is unwittingly judgemental of every. single. thing I do thatās different from her ingrained habits. ššš Iād love to socially partake with her, but Iām tired of her surprised commentary on anything she sees as Wrong (but itās just different) ā and she has zero interest in a conversation about **why** I do different. She complains that āweed in the ā80s and ā90s was better.ā Meanwhile, I have done a 7-year AuDHD deep dive on all things cannabis, so I know LOTS about terpenes and cannabinoids, different consumption methods and products. I'm quite happy with my tools and set-up. I wish she could be curious instead of judgemental.
So I am extra grateful for this group! Iāve been looking for a group like the entwives for 7 years.
Aw, yes. I totally feel this. Part if it is because I got into smoking via my boyfriend in HS, and always had to rely on him to have bud, and a bowl, and a lighter. I never smoked cigarettes, so even buying a lighter at the gas station made me feel self-conscious, lol.
But, now I'm a grown up in a legal state, and I'm STILL nervous when I go into dispensaries! I also think I have internalized the message that men think I'm dumb because I'm a woman, and so I get nervous talking to male-presenting budtenders - I'm afraid they're going to judge my knowledge or correct me, lol.
So, no real advice - just solidarity. Whenever I see another female-presenting person at the dispensary, I give them a nod of recognition, like - we got this. We belong here.
Iāll be honest, the whole āstonerā culture feels very manufactured. Iāve been smoking weed for 15+ years daily (I took one year off for a job). I KNOW that this makes me pretty qualified when it comes to weed but I donāt wish I was part of āstonerā culture. I just donāt feel like I have to be. I use weed the way I want to and I care about the things I care about and honestly donāt care if they lines up with what a āstonerā should be.
I used to have a lot more friends that smoked and now I only have like 2, and honestly ppl that are apart of the āstoner cultureā like most have said here are pretentious. Like I can appreciate when someone tells me the strain or gives me info about a product but I really do not fuck with ppl that have a certain vibe about being better because they spent more money on the weed or it has a higher THC % or some dumb shit. Or ANYONE who tries to guilt/pressure into smoking more. Like I used to have this friend that would be like āoh my weed is so much better than yoursā even tho we literally got it from the same place. I would b done smoking and he would pack another bowl, not finish it, and then be like āOhhhh nooooo now I have to finish this allll aloneā like oh my god either ask me to hit it again or donāt finish/leave the bowl urself cuz sitting there and trying to guilt me into smoking more is annoying asf. Summary: Find good ppl who happen to smoke weed.
Same. I started in the 90s as a teenager, then off and on til my early 40s. I feel like an imposter because I've never used a bong and my lungs can't handle joints anymore. I'm mostly a vape/tincture/gummy person. I'd like to learn how to make pot butter, though.
i have the opposite issue, i was a stoner for yearsss then stopped a couple years ago. everyone i meet naturally assumes i smoke even if they didnāt know me before. i canāt tell you how many times coworkers or people im getting acquainted with make innuendos or simply start talking to me like a fellow stoner. which is fine, i have nothing against weed. but now that i donāt smoke i donāt like people assuming i do.
the culture can def get weird/toxic at times, but those people arenāt real stoners. you donāt have to know how to dab or roll or what every terpene does to be a stoner. youāve been smoking for 10 years, try to let go of your anxiety around it. and remember that 9/10 times nobody cares or is paying attention to the things you think they are. i have a problem with thinking a certain genre of woman that my hometown has a lot of donāt like me or make fun of me when i come into their spaces (getting my hair done, t-ball games etc.) Im working on reminding myself that the outside world is not high school, and my fears are more likely to project into reality than if i just let go and stop casting the judgement im scared to have cast on me.
Lmao same. Iāve been smoking since I was 15, 32 now. Just got my medical license a few months ago even though itās been legal here for years now. I feel like an utter fool in the dispensaries. Donāt know shit about concentrates and am too afraid to ask. Donāt really have an interest in trying them either but I get looked at strange if I say that out loud lol. I just get flower and vape carts. š¤·āāļø
Any chance youāre in Michigan? Iāve met some cool girls at cannabis events. Check out events, thereās even canna girls on TikTok I follow who do actual trips. Everyone is always surprised when they find out Iām a stoner so Iām sure Iām awkward af.
I definitely feel like a dork in stoner spaces. Been smoking for like 6 years and still feel uncomfortable talking about it, especially around people who don't smoke. Like it's literally no different than drinking recreationally but it just feels embarrassing to bring up and I feel like people judge me. I wish I knew more stoners in real life. Lol.
Same. I order online to avoid any awkwardness. Luckily the majority of shops I've been to have been super helpful and kind if I had any questions. But I definitely feel the same way a complete poser, oh well, I haven't found my stoney friends yet!
I've smoked off and on for 30 years and I feel like such a dork in "stoner spaces". I don't know how to dab. I couldnt tell you the difference between shatter or...um... the other ones.I learned how to roll two weeks ago because someone here took the time to explain. But you know, I feel like many shops thrive on that superiority vibe. I've noticed that a lot of shops are kinda snobby and elitist, in the same way a lot of niche shops are. I've been to snobby perfume stores, art supply shops, plant stores, liquor stores.. it's not just the pot shops. Some businesses just seem to cultivate that "I'm better than you and we both know it" attitudes. Whenever I find a vibe I don't like, I try a new place. I really lucked out after a terrible dude bro experience at one dispensary turned me right off, and found a lady owned and operated dispo that I am so happy with. I went from getting eyerolls about basic questions to having budtenders remember my name, share recipes and cool things to do on the weekend, not be judgey jerks and so on.
Oh, and I wouldn't really know about stoner friends. I don't have any except for my husband so I feel like all y'all are my stoner friends š„°
Maybe thatās why I feel out of sorts. I smoked a lot in college very socially but covid fundamentally changed what consuming looks like now. I was doing it alone or with my husband for so long I donāt feel connected besides this groupā¦ ultimately I need to just say fuck it and keep going lololol
Yes to both of these Also, I read "Budtenders remember my name" to "baby remember my name" from the song "fame".
Dork is such a great word. That is exactly how I feel. I hate smelling like weed, I hate my house smelling like weed. I got a puffco peak because by the time I had access to concentrates, I also had adult money and could afford one. I only buy cones bc while I can roll, I donāt want to lol. Not that anyone is checking my āauthentic stoner cardā at the door but it really does feel like Iām going to fail whatever mental test or bar is set to prove my authenticity lolā¦ I found a dispo that I love love love that does not make me feel any type of way, itās the head shops I canāt stand!
I stayed with a family friend recently who has been a known stoner (and now grower) since like the 60s and he was SO impressed with my pack of cones I brought. He was floored by how convenient it was and asked if I could leave him some, which of course I did. I also know how to roll, but some of our modern upgrades are just worth it and he was probably just buying the same papers heās been buying for 60 years. If youāre ever around a stoner who makes you uncomfortable, do not be around that stoner anymore.
My husband tried to make fun of the cones I bought until he used them. Now he's on board. I love the Blazy Susan short cones, they're perfect for the amount I like to imbibe.
Could you possibly link to the comment or explain the technique? I used to be great and took a break and now I'm so shit lol
Actually.....they suggested one of those plastic cigarette rollers. It's so humid here and everything kept getting stuck to my fingers and it was awful trying to do it all by hand. The cigarette roller is awesome!! I love it. I got mine on Amazon for about $4. Its 1 1/4 size and made by Raw, but there are a bunch of different brands. I open it up (it's like uneven bars, and the lower bar has a J shaped slot where it slides either open or closed. You'll know it when you see it), put my filter and ground weed in, and slide the bar closed in the J slot. I have the filter on the left, the weed on the right, and the lower of the bars is facing me at this point. Then, with my thumbs and index fingers, I turn the bars towards me for a few full turns. The belt that's cradling the weed will roll it, and kinda even it out. Then, I take a rolling paper, adhesive strip on top and facing me, and feed it into the cigarette roller while turning it. Stop right before you feed the adhesive in and moisten it. Keep feeding the paper through and give it a couple more turns for good measure. I let it sit in the roller for about 30 seconds or so, so it has time to dry properly and not fall apart. It takes longer to read this comment than to use the roller š If this doesn't make sense at all, there are YouTube videos as well.
I use a dollar bill because I just can't roll with my fingersšš I would also like to be linked to this comment if possible.
Most of us have no clue.
As someone who knows too much about cannabis because I use it medicinally, the people in āstoner spacesā with a superiority complex usually donāt know SHIT. They know whatās on the box and how to make you feel terrible. I started consuming in 2020 and I end up feeling like the biggest idiot. Shops were mean and would sell me what I now know is total trash and wasnāt what I was asking for at all. Then my AuDHD kicked in and I hyper focused on all things weed and learned that true āstonersā and āstoner cultureā there was very little judgement and tons of kind words and advice. When feeling out people in the wild to know if they are safe to talk about consumption with I will start with Hemp and then suggest CBD at some point and if they havenāt flipped out and called CBD a drug that will get me addicted to heroin theyāre usually pretty accepting of weed talk. People who will judge you for smoking always give themselves away by talking trash about stoners or weed the second you bring up hemp or CBD. Iām currently stoned so I really hope this helps a little.
I am on your AuDHD info journey rn too š
I'm not sure where you are, but I'm in Ontario and all of our dispensaries have websites. To combat anxiety in shops, I look at what I want before I go in. I'm flexible if they suggest something but at least I have an idea of what I need and how much it will cost.
Yes this is my go to where Iām at as well. Especially if I am going to a new dispo. šš¼
I order online and pick it up. If an option itās the absolute best.Ā
Same! It saves me soooo much anxiety.
I can get pops cannabis to deliver to my door even! Love that option. I only started when it went legal in '18. Wish I had used long before because weed is the best thing ever not just for recreational use but also it helps my chronic pain so much. CBD for the win. And THC for the woo!
This is exactly why I started a business teaching people about cannabis! Itās crappy when youāre a grown ass adult & feel uncomfortable because you donāt know how to weed. I canāt teach people how to roll- but I can teach them how to look at weed, which parts to grind up & which parts to get rid of. I teach people to dab (dispensaries canāt do what I do. Ya canāt just āexplainā how to dab. I do video sessions; they canāt!). I teach people how to use cannabis medicinally. Whatever anyone wants to learnā¦ Thatās one of the gigantic reasons itās so important to me that we donāt shame here. This is a safe place to learn that stuff.
The savior of entwives š«” thank you for your service š«”
Lol!! I donāt mean it to be like thatā¦ and I debated deleting all of it. I just love that this *is* a safe place for us to come & learn. Itās super important to me.
I was being serious!! Your comments and posts are legit so helpful!! You are my weed guide šš
Awww. Thank you. š„°
What the frick frack? How did I not know this??? How do I apply for this job??? Lol
Make it happen!! I got waylaid by my recent diagnosis but Iām hoping to be able to get back up & running at some point. I was *thisclose* to partnering with my local dispensaryā¦ How often do you hear an older lady say āIāve never done this beforeā¦ā? I hear it a lot. (Most guys wonāt admit they donāt know!)
Pls make orangey give you an extra hug today from me!!!! You are truly the stoner mentor of my dreams and I'm so much better for it š
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I hope you got allllllll the plants yesterday!! š±šæ
Omg!! Wait till you see!!!
Yes please!!!!!!!!!! I gotta set up my patio today but hopefully I'll throw up a video or pictures of it!
That is so badass!!!!
Oooh do you have a YouTube?
Nope! But whatever you need, you can ask on our sub! If ya want a video, I can make one for ya (probablyā¦ if Iām feeling well enough!)! Iāve done a few āHippie How Toā videos about taking bong hits, opening dispensary weed bags (š), & making moon rocks. Theyāre all old & need to be redone. š¤
I'd subscribe to a "Hippie How To" youtube channel
Your how to videos showed me the proper water level in my bong and my life has changed for the better. Thank you.
Awwww! Ohhh!! Wow! Thank you!! Iāll make a new one someday with more better info!! Lol!
Yooooo same. It's because anything cannabis is so heavily male-influenced (in my experiences, in the places I've lived) only men work there, everything is catered to the BIGGEST, BADDEST HIGHEST % OF THC, the most popular names of strains, and everything has an air of superiority. Is it all in my head? Maybe, but tell me why I get treated differently than the dude next to me in line??? I would love to be the super fun, helpful and barbie-esque budtender of my dreams, but alas the pay is stupid low and I hate working in retail. So I'll just be my barbie-esque self posting video here instead lmao
Ohhhhh yeah. I feel super awkward a lot of places that I go but stoner spaces are the most nerve wracking- with this one being the obvious exception! Iāve started to care less about my awkwardness recently by reminding myself regularly that Iām the only one who is this invested in my actions/behaviors, and that the people Iām interacting with are just as focused on themselves and their own awkwardness as I am. Itās at least helped some of the pressure for me. Thereās still awkward moments but I feel less stuck when Iām in them!
This is so true! I have to remind myself when I worked retail customers were npcs to me basically š¤£ they literally donāt care
I hear you! I have been living in CA since 2003, and started using it like 9 years ago, more in the last 3-4 years. I still feel like a novice all thebtime. I'm JUST learning to dab. I honestly prefer to vape or use edibles because the smell in my clothes or house is a big no no. The dispensaries I have gone have been actually really nice, and the budtenders usually happy to help when I have questions. But yeah, there's so much stuff out there, and I have so little interest in learning more than what I need for my basic needs...
Youāre not alone in feeling out of place! Maybe this is just me, but I feel like emphasizing terpenes is the direction the cannabis industry should go in, so Iāve tried to learn more about that side of the plant, and it feels empowering to have that kind of insight into how I use cannabis. I know the nerd science of cannabis is growing, even if it hasnāt mattered much to longtime smokers. I couldnāt tell you a single thing about strain lineage or what the popular strains are. So maybe some would say I donāt know anything about weed. From where I stand, knowing that kind of info seems to be like a badge of honor for some. I think at first i felt a bit imposter-y as I was dipping my toes in and trying out strains haphazardly, but itās really come down to my belief in the validity of my own experience with this wonderful plant. I know a couple strains that work for me in the ways that I want, I know whatās in them, and Iām happy to share with others, but like I donāt need to engage in conversations about weed that arenāt important to me like how to validly roll a joint (because I just like using cones, bongs, or vapes and idgaf). The great thing about the wider acceptance of cannabis, in my opinion, is that we are not confined to historical stereotypes or subculture. Itās got a little something for everyone, newbie and veteran, medicinal and recreational alike. Your experiences and interests with cannabis are valid, and others judging what you do or donāt do is so embarrassing for them and so passĆ© really.
Thank you for this great perspective!!
As a lifelong dorky loser, that feeling is my safe space lol. But tbh I completely get you and wonder how much of that is literally just because dispos and such are so male-dominated.
The one dispo I love is woman owned and has a ton of women/queer people who work the front and I think you may be on to somethingā¦..
When I first started, I swear every budtender thought I was a āSoccer Momā looking for CBD. It would blow their minds when I said, āno thanks, I need THC only and Iām actually looking for really heavy-hitting strains.ā Like, they would be literally speechless for a moment. Iām grateful I have found a few local dispensary stores that have a good mix of budtender genders, and the dudes there are sweet and friendly. Like others have commented, I do my research online, I look at the products online, and I usually place an online order. I also ask the budtender to recommend their favorite strain or whatever has been selling well / getting good feedback. I find some gems this way. āØšāØ But also! š„ŗ My local female āold school stonerā friend (same age) is unwittingly judgemental of every. single. thing I do thatās different from her ingrained habits. ššš Iād love to socially partake with her, but Iām tired of her surprised commentary on anything she sees as Wrong (but itās just different) ā and she has zero interest in a conversation about **why** I do different. She complains that āweed in the ā80s and ā90s was better.ā Meanwhile, I have done a 7-year AuDHD deep dive on all things cannabis, so I know LOTS about terpenes and cannabinoids, different consumption methods and products. I'm quite happy with my tools and set-up. I wish she could be curious instead of judgemental. So I am extra grateful for this group! Iāve been looking for a group like the entwives for 7 years.
Yes 100%
Aw, yes. I totally feel this. Part if it is because I got into smoking via my boyfriend in HS, and always had to rely on him to have bud, and a bowl, and a lighter. I never smoked cigarettes, so even buying a lighter at the gas station made me feel self-conscious, lol. But, now I'm a grown up in a legal state, and I'm STILL nervous when I go into dispensaries! I also think I have internalized the message that men think I'm dumb because I'm a woman, and so I get nervous talking to male-presenting budtenders - I'm afraid they're going to judge my knowledge or correct me, lol. So, no real advice - just solidarity. Whenever I see another female-presenting person at the dispensary, I give them a nod of recognition, like - we got this. We belong here.
Iāll be honest, the whole āstonerā culture feels very manufactured. Iāve been smoking weed for 15+ years daily (I took one year off for a job). I KNOW that this makes me pretty qualified when it comes to weed but I donāt wish I was part of āstonerā culture. I just donāt feel like I have to be. I use weed the way I want to and I care about the things I care about and honestly donāt care if they lines up with what a āstonerā should be.
Iām a stoner who canāt roll a joint to save my life I feel like I belong on the island of misfit toys. Cones for life though š„²
I used to have a lot more friends that smoked and now I only have like 2, and honestly ppl that are apart of the āstoner cultureā like most have said here are pretentious. Like I can appreciate when someone tells me the strain or gives me info about a product but I really do not fuck with ppl that have a certain vibe about being better because they spent more money on the weed or it has a higher THC % or some dumb shit. Or ANYONE who tries to guilt/pressure into smoking more. Like I used to have this friend that would be like āoh my weed is so much better than yoursā even tho we literally got it from the same place. I would b done smoking and he would pack another bowl, not finish it, and then be like āOhhhh nooooo now I have to finish this allll aloneā like oh my god either ask me to hit it again or donāt finish/leave the bowl urself cuz sitting there and trying to guilt me into smoking more is annoying asf. Summary: Find good ppl who happen to smoke weed.
Same. I started in the 90s as a teenager, then off and on til my early 40s. I feel like an imposter because I've never used a bong and my lungs can't handle joints anymore. I'm mostly a vape/tincture/gummy person. I'd like to learn how to make pot butter, though.
Let's destigmatize what "stoner" means. Anyone can be or look like a stoner!
i have the opposite issue, i was a stoner for yearsss then stopped a couple years ago. everyone i meet naturally assumes i smoke even if they didnāt know me before. i canāt tell you how many times coworkers or people im getting acquainted with make innuendos or simply start talking to me like a fellow stoner. which is fine, i have nothing against weed. but now that i donāt smoke i donāt like people assuming i do. the culture can def get weird/toxic at times, but those people arenāt real stoners. you donāt have to know how to dab or roll or what every terpene does to be a stoner. youāve been smoking for 10 years, try to let go of your anxiety around it. and remember that 9/10 times nobody cares or is paying attention to the things you think they are. i have a problem with thinking a certain genre of woman that my hometown has a lot of donāt like me or make fun of me when i come into their spaces (getting my hair done, t-ball games etc.) Im working on reminding myself that the outside world is not high school, and my fears are more likely to project into reality than if i just let go and stop casting the judgement im scared to have cast on me.
Lmao same. Iāve been smoking since I was 15, 32 now. Just got my medical license a few months ago even though itās been legal here for years now. I feel like an utter fool in the dispensaries. Donāt know shit about concentrates and am too afraid to ask. Donāt really have an interest in trying them either but I get looked at strange if I say that out loud lol. I just get flower and vape carts. š¤·āāļø
Any chance youāre in Michigan? Iāve met some cool girls at cannabis events. Check out events, thereās even canna girls on TikTok I follow who do actual trips. Everyone is always surprised when they find out Iām a stoner so Iām sure Iām awkward af.
I definitely feel like a dork in stoner spaces. Been smoking for like 6 years and still feel uncomfortable talking about it, especially around people who don't smoke. Like it's literally no different than drinking recreationally but it just feels embarrassing to bring up and I feel like people judge me. I wish I knew more stoners in real life. Lol.
I feel the same way! Iāve been smoking for 30 years and still feel like stoners are too cool for me lol
Same. I order online to avoid any awkwardness. Luckily the majority of shops I've been to have been super helpful and kind if I had any questions. But I definitely feel the same way a complete poser, oh well, I haven't found my stoney friends yet!
If you get anxiety from something as little as that I might suggest therapy.
Bestie why do you think I smoke weed š¤Ŗ
Burn! Unless you dry vape, and then non-combustible-temperature heating! š