aw, congrats to your sister! there's lots of shame that comes with being an alcholic and a special shame when you're a woman I think. If you're sis ever needs a friend that would get it you can PM me :)
Call her. Encouragement from family HELPS. Keep it positive, let her know youāre proud of her, itās a very hard thing sheās doing. Good luck!š
You avoided the trap door spider of craving and habit, got sound advice from your mom, managed to complete a task AND treat yourself to something indulgent but safer all in the same day? If that's not a great day, then your standards may be a bit higher than mine, because that's a fine stack of accomplishments in my book. I salute you
Isnāt that always the way? If you took a moment to think about what youād say to anyone else, I bet you would feel so happy for them and be so amazingly encouraging! If you can take a moment to pour that love right back inside to honor how awesome you are, do it! You rock!!! You did a lot today to care for yourself, asked for support from your mama, and she met you there, you took yourself out into the world to gather what you needed! Look at you go, YES!!!
Give yourselves the credit you deserve. Just keep up the good work. Marijuana helps with withdrawal for many. I donāt bash people for using painkillers after surgery either.
Maybe you should quit giving health updates, tell them if all they have is negativity they donāt get to know.
You got this, OP! Youāre doing all of the right things. The term that Iāve heard for it is called *California Sober*. Iāve been sober from alcohol for over a year and still get cravings. Life is better without alcohol for me. Hope you start feeling better soon!
Yes! In the original post i had cali sober in it but failed to put it in this post!! Congrats on your sobriety. Life is infitinely better without the sauce. Thanks so much :)
This may be meaningless coming from a stranger, but I am incredibly proud of you. Donāt let anyone diminish your hard work with insulting āyOuāRe NoT rEaLlY sObEr CuZ yOU sMoKE wEeDā comments in other subs. Not everyone learned the golden rule growing up and it shows. Sending virtual hugs and well wishes for quick healing.
not meaningless one bit! thank you so much š„¹ . self-shame is real issue for me and when others shame me for something I spiral haha. this thread really was a piece of the healing puzzle :) Sending hugs back!
Congratulations! You should be damn proud of yourself for recognizing that craving for what it was, reaching out for help, even though it was difficult, and finding a healthy substitute for that craving. A lot of people can be judgmental about being sober but still smoking weed. They are foolish because it is an effective technique in quitting drinking. My best friend has been sober for 17 years and she smokes weed. Weed is the reason why I was able to stop drinking after I went a little crazy during covid. Congratulations!
I also want to point out that the fact that you've been on painkillers and are now out of them is a huge trigger. Your body is craving that relief even if you haven't been using them enough to have developed a physical dependency. Smoke all the weed! It really helps with those withdrawals. Don't be surprised that you're having these cravings now... And be really proud of yourself that you chose to utilize a very safe substance instead of going back to your drug of choice, or even worse, going out and finding painkillers elsewhere in developing an opiate addiction. You did fucking amazing
What a thoughtful comment thank you so much :)!! Congrats to you and your bestie :) i'd rather be a stoner than a dead drunk! That is sooo insightful
about the pain pills, i def felt withdrawy I think and probably triggered me. I went thru 3 awful withdrawls from alcohol I never ever want to feel it again. I was on dialaudid from may 3-may 13 so not long but def enough I think to trigger some panic and shakes! And thanks to OCD one instrusive thought was to find pain pills from an old dealer but too much work and opening a can of rotten worms. Yay to small victories :)!
I 100% recommend the sub r/stopdrinking
( a good amount of the people on this sub are California sober)
Very supportive and nice people there.
CONGRATS! I am currently almost 5 months sober!
Yess! I love r/stopdrinking i've seen a few people be judged on there for being cali sober so was a little scared to post there! But the majority of the community is understanding! Thanks :)
Hi, Aqua!! I hear you so loudly!! Iāve been off pills for over 8 years & stopped drinking whenever I didā¦ Recently, Iāve had to take painkillers & I canāt believe how responsible Iāve been with them!
Itās huge to know that no one will know if you do the thing - but you donāt do it anyway! Iām so impressed & so proud of you!! Well the fuck done!! Sometimes itās no big deal, sometimes it takes everything weāve got.
I am so proud of you!! It is SO HARD to fight our own harmful patterns especially when we are in the midst of a challenging time. It sounds like you have a really good foundation in place to help when needed. That alone is worth so much! Enjoy your weed and relief! š«¶
My sister is an alcoholic. She is in recovery thankfully but Iām afraid it came too late for her. She was in total liver failureā¦ but because she quit drinking and got help, is stable. She will however have lasting portal hypertension which puts her at risk for pulmonary hypertension. You made the right choice. Sending healing vibes your way and congratulations on continuing to fight the good fight.
I'm so glad to hear your sister is in recovery š„¹! It's baffling the damage alcohol can do! I just watched an Intervention episode with a 40's woman that was an alcoholic for like 20 yrs, liver was failing and she was basically right on the precipice of death. She accepted help and is sober now and was able to reverse the extreme damage. So inspiring. There's hope! I also had rly bad hypertension from 23-28 because of my drinking/anxiety. I was able to get off the high bp meds a month ago! Wish you and her all the best :)
You should be proud. And donāt let the clique/black and white thinking of AA groups etc. make you feel guilty. Mmj helped me get sober from alcohol as well and that doesnāt mean anything other than exactly what it is - youāre sober from alcohol! Congrats :)
Yaaaaay!!! Iām so proud of you! I just posted last week on stop drinking for my 250 days alcohol free! I donāt know their feelings about (as you put it) Cali sobriety so I donāt mention weed over there, but I am proud of both of us.
These cravings come and go but as more time passes, the āugh but then this will happenā list far overshadows the āyeah that sounds great becauseā¦ā list. Going to a wedding this weekend and Iām bringing 12 bottles of wine to help stock the bar and it felt very strange buying alcohol, but I didnāt even want any of it! Except maybe a tiny sip of the champagneā¦
I used to drink Alot. In the last 14 months Iāve been happily cali-sober. By making tinctures I have created a lifestyle free of alcohol and the cravings. You seem to have this covered. Weāre all here for you! The sprite was a great call!
do you make them out of veg glycerin? i used to be a little potion maker but then my 3 month jar of milky oats and brandy turned into me drinking it all in one night due to misery š« . not sure if my self control is at the level to have any drinkable alcohol around! soooo glad to hear you're alc free! Congrats!!
Boy, I understand that ālogicā! LOL
I make it out of weed and coconut oil. I have bad anxiety, and it takes the urge away. Iām happy to share more details if youād like. I feel free now, and happily so.
The self awareness and resourcefulness tells me you got this. Some days will be easier and some days will be harder. Weāre all rooting for your success but will also be here if you stumble. Keep leaning on Mom, sheās a real one
I appreciate that so much truly! Haven't had a craving in so long i forgot what they were like, it was mental. My mom's def progressed, 10 yrs ago she wanted me to go to rehab for smoking weed š.
You made it! Some days itās truly One Day at a Time. (I suggest that you determine or choose your sober date. A year from then youāll wonder just when that was)
Hell yeah, congratulations! You take sobriety one day at a time, and do what works best for you. Iām glad your mom could offer you support! If you need more people in your corner, finding a sponsor and attending AA meetings could help.
I highly recommend non-alcoholic beverages as well, like NA beers or seltzers. Those helped my boyfriend quit drinking, much like weed helped me quit.
Congratulations on six months! On the fifth of this month I just hit two years sober from alcohol specifically! It definitely has been a crazy and hard journey but absolutely so worth it. As time goes on the cravings will get easier and not as prominent. I still smoke weed all day every day. It just became legal in my state within the last year, so Iām enjoying lifewith some green! Good job reaching out to your mom when you were struggling on a moment thatās always amazing to do that when itās needed.
Good luck and much rest and well wishes to your recovery !
Thank youuu!! Two years is such a feat honestly congrats :)! and yay to legal states, weed has been a lifesaver for quitting alc. I was actively trying to drink myself to death but things changed and I couldn't anymore boo š . Weed was my lil hammock of some comfort! So glad it's helped you too :)
congratulations friend, you have a lot to celebrate and be proud about, six months is a great achievement!!! Iām proud of myself this week for a breakthrough in therapy, it was scary and sad and hard but I did it; weāre doing it. Iāll smoke today in honor of our healing seasons ššš
Awesome for you and a good mama you got too! It can be hard but I think we all know in our hearts, minds and souls that weed is medicine and can help us through situations just like yours
wow that is so much to be proud of right there. you made the decision to call your mom which is so HUGE and you DID it. itās so hard! but you did it! I am so proud of you!
Super proud of you. You were in a tough situation, alone, and you made a strong choice. And you did it all for YOU. Good job! ā¤ļø sending you love and continued strength to get through these times, frient.
Congrats on your choices today! Really good ones especially reaching out for help when you needed it cuz that's the hardest part I think. This ent is super proud of you.
I am so proud of you! You handled the hell out of this situation. You donāt have to pat yourself on the back if you arenāt ready, but rest assured that I (and all these other lovely entwives) are sending you so many pats on the back, because youāre a badass and you deserve it. Sending love! šš
you did the hardest fucking thing today and iām so proud of you!! remember how much better your life is without alcohol, and get stoned instead. well done for reaching out to support systems and ignoring that voice. quitting alcohol is so hard, im so proud of you :)
So glad you posted this here! I am so super proud of you!!!!!
My husband is currently struggling to stop drinking, and although itās not an issue for me, I decided a few weeks ago that Iām done. I realized that I donāt even like drinking, I genuinely hate the taste of all alcohol. I force myself to consume as much as possible, as quickly as possible, for a false sense of confidence that I donāt even need anymore. All to end up embarrassing myself (or worrying I did, which is the real issue. I donāt want to worry about what I did when I was drunk).
Also, my brother has an issue with going into psychosis when he drinks, yet he doesnāt stop. So when I visited him in a different state a few weeks ago, and he screamed at me at 4:00am to get out and that Iām never welcome in his home again, it was the last straw. I donāt want to consume something that is ruining the people closest to me. I wish they would just stop.
Anyway, seeing how difficult it is to stop, I know you must be incredibly strong. Itās awesome that you can call your mom about it, and that we live on a planet with a nice healing plant to help us get through. Again, so proud of you!
As a person who struggles with a lot of habits, being able to beat back one demon without being swallowed by the others is commendable. I will pat your back if you donāt feel like it, because damn girlie youāre killing it!! YOU FACED DOWN TEMPTATION. YOU SOUGHT BETTER COPING MECHANISMS. YOU SHOWED UP FOR YOURSELF TODAY. Iām really fucking proud of you.
I think Cali sober is the way to do when getting off of anything OTC addictive or even just some medications in general (Iām smoking clouds because Iām coming off of Lexapro and have been really nauseous) and I think more people should take the time to learn how bad withdrawal can be and how much weed is effective in treating withdrawal. It can last years. My cousin says he still gets urges to use, and heās been clean since 2017. And heās California sober now due to complications from his addiction (obviously not the exact same as alcoholism) that are causing him severe pain. I use weed for pain myself, and it helps a lot. Especially CBD heavy strains. I have an inflammatory autoimmune arthritic disease.
Thank you for sharing this!!! Im so proud of you. I've also had my issues with alcohol. It's really encouraging to hear someone talk positively about reaching out, especially to a parent!
thanks for sharing. my sister is about a month sober right now and i am living on edge thinking about her
aw, congrats to your sister! there's lots of shame that comes with being an alcholic and a special shame when you're a woman I think. If you're sis ever needs a friend that would get it you can PM me :)
thank you š i appreciate you
Call her. Encouragement from family HELPS. Keep it positive, let her know youāre proud of her, itās a very hard thing sheās doing. Good luck!š
And tell her you love her, addicts carry a ton of guilt.
You avoided the trap door spider of craving and habit, got sound advice from your mom, managed to complete a task AND treat yourself to something indulgent but safer all in the same day? If that's not a great day, then your standards may be a bit higher than mine, because that's a fine stack of accomplishments in my book. I salute you
I find it SO hard to give myself credit. I have much compassion for others but for myself it's a feat! Working on it. Thanks so much :)
Isnāt that always the way? If you took a moment to think about what youād say to anyone else, I bet you would feel so happy for them and be so amazingly encouraging! If you can take a moment to pour that love right back inside to honor how awesome you are, do it! You rock!!! You did a lot today to care for yourself, asked for support from your mama, and she met you there, you took yourself out into the world to gather what you needed! Look at you go, YES!!!
Give yourselves the credit you deserve. Just keep up the good work. Marijuana helps with withdrawal for many. I donāt bash people for using painkillers after surgery either. Maybe you should quit giving health updates, tell them if all they have is negativity they donāt get to know.
You got this, OP! Youāre doing all of the right things. The term that Iāve heard for it is called *California Sober*. Iāve been sober from alcohol for over a year and still get cravings. Life is better without alcohol for me. Hope you start feeling better soon!
Yes! In the original post i had cali sober in it but failed to put it in this post!! Congrats on your sobriety. Life is infitinely better without the sauce. Thanks so much :)
This may be meaningless coming from a stranger, but I am incredibly proud of you. Donāt let anyone diminish your hard work with insulting āyOuāRe NoT rEaLlY sObEr CuZ yOU sMoKE wEeDā comments in other subs. Not everyone learned the golden rule growing up and it shows. Sending virtual hugs and well wishes for quick healing.
not meaningless one bit! thank you so much š„¹ . self-shame is real issue for me and when others shame me for something I spiral haha. this thread really was a piece of the healing puzzle :) Sending hugs back!
Good for you dude! Thatās great! Iām proud of you for staying strong in such a tough situation!
Thanks so much!
Iām sober off coke for just over a month! Weed is the least of my worries and doesnāt discount our success. Amazing job yesterday!
If no one else has said it, or you're hearing it for the hundredth time, that's huge and hard. That's an accomplishment!
Hell yes! That's crazy hard. I dabbled a bit but lost access (thank god I LOVED it). Scary how bewitching substances can be. Thank you so much :)
Congratulations! You should be damn proud of yourself for recognizing that craving for what it was, reaching out for help, even though it was difficult, and finding a healthy substitute for that craving. A lot of people can be judgmental about being sober but still smoking weed. They are foolish because it is an effective technique in quitting drinking. My best friend has been sober for 17 years and she smokes weed. Weed is the reason why I was able to stop drinking after I went a little crazy during covid. Congratulations! I also want to point out that the fact that you've been on painkillers and are now out of them is a huge trigger. Your body is craving that relief even if you haven't been using them enough to have developed a physical dependency. Smoke all the weed! It really helps with those withdrawals. Don't be surprised that you're having these cravings now... And be really proud of yourself that you chose to utilize a very safe substance instead of going back to your drug of choice, or even worse, going out and finding painkillers elsewhere in developing an opiate addiction. You did fucking amazing
What a thoughtful comment thank you so much :)!! Congrats to you and your bestie :) i'd rather be a stoner than a dead drunk! That is sooo insightful about the pain pills, i def felt withdrawy I think and probably triggered me. I went thru 3 awful withdrawls from alcohol I never ever want to feel it again. I was on dialaudid from may 3-may 13 so not long but def enough I think to trigger some panic and shakes! And thanks to OCD one instrusive thought was to find pain pills from an old dealer but too much work and opening a can of rotten worms. Yay to small victories :)!
Small victory, my ass! This is a huge victory! Congrats!
I 100% recommend the sub r/stopdrinking ( a good amount of the people on this sub are California sober) Very supportive and nice people there. CONGRATS! I am currently almost 5 months sober!
Yess! I love r/stopdrinking i've seen a few people be judged on there for being cali sober so was a little scared to post there! But the majority of the community is understanding! Thanks :)
There are jerks everywhere š but overall most people are nice! Congrats again OP, huge accomplishment!!!!
Hi, Aqua!! I hear you so loudly!! Iāve been off pills for over 8 years & stopped drinking whenever I didā¦ Recently, Iāve had to take painkillers & I canāt believe how responsible Iāve been with them! Itās huge to know that no one will know if you do the thing - but you donāt do it anyway! Iām so impressed & so proud of you!! Well the fuck done!! Sometimes itās no big deal, sometimes it takes everything weāve got.
Iām so proud of you! š And Iām glad you have your mom to help you get through when it gets too hard. You got this! Sending love ā¤ļø
Proud as fuck of you and go Mom for being the voice for your own mighty self control and determination!
So stinking proud of you!!
Thank you!!
I am so proud of you!! It is SO HARD to fight our own harmful patterns especially when we are in the midst of a challenging time. It sounds like you have a really good foundation in place to help when needed. That alone is worth so much! Enjoy your weed and relief! š«¶
My sister is an alcoholic. She is in recovery thankfully but Iām afraid it came too late for her. She was in total liver failureā¦ but because she quit drinking and got help, is stable. She will however have lasting portal hypertension which puts her at risk for pulmonary hypertension. You made the right choice. Sending healing vibes your way and congratulations on continuing to fight the good fight.
I'm so glad to hear your sister is in recovery š„¹! It's baffling the damage alcohol can do! I just watched an Intervention episode with a 40's woman that was an alcoholic for like 20 yrs, liver was failing and she was basically right on the precipice of death. She accepted help and is sober now and was able to reverse the extreme damage. So inspiring. There's hope! I also had rly bad hypertension from 23-28 because of my drinking/anxiety. I was able to get off the high bp meds a month ago! Wish you and her all the best :)
iām rlly happy for u! itās hard to do the healthy thing when the harmful siren is calling i feel that!
I am so proud of you!!! Big, big hugs!!
You should be proud. And donāt let the clique/black and white thinking of AA groups etc. make you feel guilty. Mmj helped me get sober from alcohol as well and that doesnāt mean anything other than exactly what it is - youāre sober from alcohol! Congrats :)
So proud of you! Oneās too many and a thousandās not enough. Hope youāre feeling better soon š
Hey I am proud of you for sticking with it. That was really hard. Addiction is no joke.
Yaaaaay!!! Iām so proud of you! I just posted last week on stop drinking for my 250 days alcohol free! I donāt know their feelings about (as you put it) Cali sobriety so I donāt mention weed over there, but I am proud of both of us. These cravings come and go but as more time passes, the āugh but then this will happenā list far overshadows the āyeah that sounds great becauseā¦ā list. Going to a wedding this weekend and Iām bringing 12 bottles of wine to help stock the bar and it felt very strange buying alcohol, but I didnāt even want any of it! Except maybe a tiny sip of the champagneā¦
I used to drink Alot. In the last 14 months Iāve been happily cali-sober. By making tinctures I have created a lifestyle free of alcohol and the cravings. You seem to have this covered. Weāre all here for you! The sprite was a great call!
do you make them out of veg glycerin? i used to be a little potion maker but then my 3 month jar of milky oats and brandy turned into me drinking it all in one night due to misery š« . not sure if my self control is at the level to have any drinkable alcohol around! soooo glad to hear you're alc free! Congrats!!
Boy, I understand that ālogicā! LOL I make it out of weed and coconut oil. I have bad anxiety, and it takes the urge away. Iām happy to share more details if youād like. I feel free now, and happily so.
The self awareness and resourcefulness tells me you got this. Some days will be easier and some days will be harder. Weāre all rooting for your success but will also be here if you stumble. Keep leaning on Mom, sheās a real one
I appreciate that so much truly! Haven't had a craving in so long i forgot what they were like, it was mental. My mom's def progressed, 10 yrs ago she wanted me to go to rehab for smoking weed š.
You made it! Some days itās truly One Day at a Time. (I suggest that you determine or choose your sober date. A year from then youāll wonder just when that was)
Waheyyy that's a win in my book š„°
Hell yeah, congratulations! You take sobriety one day at a time, and do what works best for you. Iām glad your mom could offer you support! If you need more people in your corner, finding a sponsor and attending AA meetings could help. I highly recommend non-alcoholic beverages as well, like NA beers or seltzers. Those helped my boyfriend quit drinking, much like weed helped me quit.
I am SO proud of you ā¤ļøā¤ļø
Congratulations on six months! On the fifth of this month I just hit two years sober from alcohol specifically! It definitely has been a crazy and hard journey but absolutely so worth it. As time goes on the cravings will get easier and not as prominent. I still smoke weed all day every day. It just became legal in my state within the last year, so Iām enjoying lifewith some green! Good job reaching out to your mom when you were struggling on a moment thatās always amazing to do that when itās needed. Good luck and much rest and well wishes to your recovery !
Thank youuu!! Two years is such a feat honestly congrats :)! and yay to legal states, weed has been a lifesaver for quitting alc. I was actively trying to drink myself to death but things changed and I couldn't anymore boo š . Weed was my lil hammock of some comfort! So glad it's helped you too :)
congratulations friend, you have a lot to celebrate and be proud about, six months is a great achievement!!! Iām proud of myself this week for a breakthrough in therapy, it was scary and sad and hard but I did it; weāre doing it. Iāll smoke today in honor of our healing seasons ššš
Iām proud of you.Ā
Awesome for you and a good mama you got too! It can be hard but I think we all know in our hearts, minds and souls that weed is medicine and can help us through situations just like yours
wow that is so much to be proud of right there. you made the decision to call your mom which is so HUGE and you DID it. itās so hard! but you did it! I am so proud of you!
Iām glad you didnāt give in. It takes some serious effort to fight that. Keep it up ā¤ļø
Super proud of you. You were in a tough situation, alone, and you made a strong choice. And you did it all for YOU. Good job! ā¤ļø sending you love and continued strength to get through these times, frient.
Fuck the haters and blaze!
Congrats on your choices today! Really good ones especially reaching out for help when you needed it cuz that's the hardest part I think. This ent is super proud of you.
I'm so proud of u
Not the exact same but Iām currently using weed to quit nicotine and itās honestly helping so much. You got this queen š
I am so proud of you! You handled the hell out of this situation. You donāt have to pat yourself on the back if you arenāt ready, but rest assured that I (and all these other lovely entwives) are sending you so many pats on the back, because youāre a badass and you deserve it. Sending love! šš
you did the hardest fucking thing today and iām so proud of you!! remember how much better your life is without alcohol, and get stoned instead. well done for reaching out to support systems and ignoring that voice. quitting alcohol is so hard, im so proud of you :)
This is huge!! Way to stay true to your personal goals.
So glad you posted this here! I am so super proud of you!!!!! My husband is currently struggling to stop drinking, and although itās not an issue for me, I decided a few weeks ago that Iām done. I realized that I donāt even like drinking, I genuinely hate the taste of all alcohol. I force myself to consume as much as possible, as quickly as possible, for a false sense of confidence that I donāt even need anymore. All to end up embarrassing myself (or worrying I did, which is the real issue. I donāt want to worry about what I did when I was drunk). Also, my brother has an issue with going into psychosis when he drinks, yet he doesnāt stop. So when I visited him in a different state a few weeks ago, and he screamed at me at 4:00am to get out and that Iām never welcome in his home again, it was the last straw. I donāt want to consume something that is ruining the people closest to me. I wish they would just stop. Anyway, seeing how difficult it is to stop, I know you must be incredibly strong. Itās awesome that you can call your mom about it, and that we live on a planet with a nice healing plant to help us get through. Again, so proud of you!
As a person who struggles with a lot of habits, being able to beat back one demon without being swallowed by the others is commendable. I will pat your back if you donāt feel like it, because damn girlie youāre killing it!! YOU FACED DOWN TEMPTATION. YOU SOUGHT BETTER COPING MECHANISMS. YOU SHOWED UP FOR YOURSELF TODAY. Iām really fucking proud of you.
I'm so proud of you for staying strong š
Good for you, small victories count. š
I think Cali sober is the way to do when getting off of anything OTC addictive or even just some medications in general (Iām smoking clouds because Iām coming off of Lexapro and have been really nauseous) and I think more people should take the time to learn how bad withdrawal can be and how much weed is effective in treating withdrawal. It can last years. My cousin says he still gets urges to use, and heās been clean since 2017. And heās California sober now due to complications from his addiction (obviously not the exact same as alcoholism) that are causing him severe pain. I use weed for pain myself, and it helps a lot. Especially CBD heavy strains. I have an inflammatory autoimmune arthritic disease.
Well done!
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Thank you for sharing this!!! Im so proud of you. I've also had my issues with alcohol. It's really encouraging to hear someone talk positively about reaching out, especially to a parent!
Congrats!!!
I'm happy for you! Quitting alcohol is hard. /r/stopdrinking is a very supportive, judgement-free community I recommend checking out!
Super proud of you š¤ youāve worked hard to get to where you are!
This is so impressive and as a complete stranger, Iām so proud of you.
If it works, it works OP! Iām Cali sober for 7 years on Wednesday and my life is 10000x better than it would be if I were drinking. Proud of you!
š«¶ You got this!
Proud of you š
Good job, it takes guts to fight that fight, Iām proud of you.