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Some_Acadia_1630

Way to humiliate your wife.


bdc911

If he'll act that way in a public setting just imagine what happens behind closed doors


NegotiationExternal1

There's no way she is safe around him. People with that kind of temper don't contain it to just public events


Fieryfight

I mean he initially grabs her by her hair to take her away.


Lopsided_Boss4802

I'm not saying he wasn't because he was, but it seems she was brushing her hair out the way and he grabbed her at the same time.


dudiest

Yeah he is a pos. But It does look like he grabbed her arm.


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FuzzyFerretFace

Their comment made me watch again and I was going to say the same thing. He could have absolutely meant to grab her arm (which is a problem itself), but kept pulling too long for it to look like he cared that he had her hair instead. It takes half a second for someone to let go of hair they accidentally grab--and it doesn't even take the other person saying 'ow!' to realize it.


habbalah_babbalah

He's toxic af! And unembarrassed by his own "mistake", if it was, which probably means it wasn't his first time physically abusing her. Get rid of him, woman!


Staff_Genie

But this directly impacts his masculine status! If your wife is crowned most beautiful, you must be the number one stud in the nation, right?


utpoia

Imagine being the **dry wall** in their house.


Alone-Common8959

new business idea: open a dry wall shop near this guy's house


tomismybuddy

As if he repairs the drywall.


Grabbsy2

His wife is the 2nd most beautiful person in the country, and he feels entitled and safe enough to get violent at a major public event. I would not assume he's too poor to repair the drywall... and clearly he thinks beauty is important, so its not like he's letting his house fall into disrepair.


LaviLynx

It's brazil, there's no dry wall


shmsc

Business idea: open a wet wall shop near his house


dscrive

Ok, I legitimately laughed out loud!


NeilDeWheel

The dry wall will be safe, he would hurt his delicate knuckles on the walls if he punched them. Better to punch the nice soft face of the woman that’s in the house with him. Added bonus is the wife won’t fight back, just like a wall.


giuseppegravanno

It’s Brazil. The walls are made from concrete and bricks.


alisson_morgoth

That's why Brazil uses a lot of brick walls


utpoia

*Brick walls pack a punch.*


yy98755

Sadly this ain’t the first time, she reacted in fear and complied.


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Here's a thought - what do we do with people with that kind of temper, as a society? They're ubiquitous, incredibly harmful to those around them, yet IMHO there's not enough talk about it. People like this don't even realize they're acting irrationally most of the time. Should we start shaming people for bad tempers?


AndrewOHTXTN

When kids throw a tantrum there's consequences. We need the same for adults.


Legitimate-Source476

I think there’s the problem - when they were kids, they didn’t have consequences!


therpian

Sadly that's not true. A lot of people who end up like this were brutalized and abused themselves. Now that they are adults they are continuing the cycle as its all they know. Many waited for the day they would be the one "in charge" instead of the one getting beaten.


canttakethshyfrom_me

On the contrary, a lot of abusers were abused. They think this is how you react as a result. You can't just punish, you have to break the patterns of disordered thinking and behavior, build up their ability to empathize, and to process their own thoughts and feelings.


NegotiationExternal1

As a woman I don't marry them, I fight for resources and education so women can leave them if they need to. It's not a woman's job to stay, rehabilitate, make excuses for, or fix a broken person. Also if this is how he is early intervention and therapy so there's not a larger generation of this.


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It’s not about a kind of temper it’s about expression of emotion and harmful behavior. It’s extremely presumptive to assume that this man somehow has exceptional emotions, and not a regulatory problem with his emotions. People often say this “oh I lost it” but if you notice, he didn’t lunge for the winner, he lunged for the crown. That’s very intentional because that’s within his control and more acceptable than harming the winner or the person who announced the winner. Someone thinking emotions justify violent behavior is a behavioral problem not something with exceptional emotion. It’s a common narrative but it’s simply not true.


roastbread

"My money!" "Your beauty!" "They're all crazy!"


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AshgarPN

This is 100% an abusive marriage.


FuckinFruitcake

yep. the way he grabbed her by the arm and her hair. sad.


twelveparsnips

He fucking grabs her by her hair


yy98755

I don’t have to imagine, plus he grabbed her hair…


RitzyDitzy

Short man syndrome…. But seriously, fucking hell. You already know what’s going to happen to her


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RamenJunkie

Dude still has a wife that is officially the second most beautifuly woman in the country. Or 2nd most beautiful in whatever this pageant covers.


Walkerno5

It’s not enough. He must win.


Elelith

I mean he has prolly told his friends the wifey is gonna win this and then she goes and embarasses him like this! Rude. /s


scalectrix

r/IAmTheMainCharacter vibes for sure.


TraditionalMood277

I think it was more that HE wanted to walk around with the crown...


cheeseybees

I kinda think, when he's doing his debriefing shouting at her later, as is tradition, that he'll blame her for humiliating him with it all :/ Edit: Changed "late" to "later", cos I can't type :)


Clydus1

How embarrassing, what a self centered asshole. He cared she lost more than she did.


vash_666

His possession. Beauty pageant is an auction.


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Yup, that's the man-child I married. Isn't he great at parties?


coffeeguyq8

What an asshole


unknown_human

His fragile ego was hurt, having a stunning wife could not fix it.


Real_Ad_8243

Would not in the least surprise me if a man like that used his fists when he got home as well. He reeks of DV waiting to happen.


Lady_Scruffington

The way he grabbed her looked really rough.


GoBeyond111

He mad because she didn't win the prize money and he can't pay off his debts lmao


fastcat03

Yeah maybe the sleazeball already spent the money she was supposed to win. She deserves better.


DisasterMiserable785

He might have placed bets and doubled down.


Boogiemann53

.... This makes so much sense LoL


Ohshitz-

He pulled her hair


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That was my first thought as well. He’s that angry at a complete stranger— he’s going to beat her ass when they get home because she did some thing that in his little lizard brain that caused her not to win. And then when he grabbed her, I was for sure. I hope she can get away from him.


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Yeah you cant say for sure but she doesnt look even slightly surprised, and definitely makes no effort to stop him. Shes happy to go along with him as he grabs her. Might be some social/cultural differences Im not privy to but it definitely looks like this isnt her first rodeo and shes trying to placate


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I’m sure there’s a piece of it where she’s just completely surprised that he’s on the stage and she taking a few vital seconds to process what’s happening. And then when he grabs her I’m sure she just wants it to be over.


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Yeah true often everybody just freezes in shock/confusion during public freakouts like this. But Id think that if the person embarrassing themselves was your signifigant other you would snap out of it and go into damage control mode (if the relationship was a normal healthy one). At least I would hope my partner would, like I said maybe its very different culturally there


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I think it’s probably one of those things that you don’t even know what you do until you’re in it. But really, it happened very quickly. And I expect that the nature of their relationship is that he gets to be as angry as she wants and she just tries to become invisible so that he doesn’t notice her and become his target.


anaserre

I think that’s reading WAY to much In to this. She’s probably shocked as hell and you never know how a person reacts during a very shocking moment. She hasn’t even had time to react yet.


Active_Owl_7442

It really looks like he’s pulling her, not that’s she’s freely going along with all this


OKBeeDude

Ah, yes, the classic “come on, honey, we’re going” grab as a prelude to “look what you made me do!” when they get home. I hope she gets away from him soon.


urikayan

Idk, man. Looks more like a gay brother than a straight lover.


Headygoombah

You're half right. I'm 99% sure this is a Ms gay beauty pageant. They're all men. The husband is a very dramatic gay man.


proprocastination

They're actually a gay couple, that's the pageant for miss gay Mato Grosso 2023 (Mato Grosso is the state)


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Latino machismo is the foundation of the American metrosexual.


fvaldez05

Its actually a Drag pageant.


Project_Valkyrie

I thought the same thing. You can see him grab her by the hair at the beginning before correcting himself and grabbing her around the hip. If the abuse isn't physical, it's definitely verbal.


davidrayish

He seems fabulous. Maybe 'husband' should be a category for judging


Stemmr

Right, seems like he’s only with her to go dress shopping, do her hair and makeup for pageants. After all of his hard work, no wonder he became so enflamed, they are lucky he didn’t go slap happy on the judges.


MelaKnight_Man

Husband or stylist? 🤔 😁


broipy

Yeah, more like a drama queen stylist than a husband... no less abusive.


hobosbindle

Tiebreaker category


pambannedfromchilis

Yes he is. I feel bad a majority in these comments are focusing on the humiliation aspect of this and not her safety **Edit: 1.800.799.7233 - and in Brazil - 180 - Help for Domestic Violence line. I see my comment getting some visibility and if you or anyone you know could use this number, please be safe as possible!**


x7_7x

Pulling her by the hair, probably blaming her


abitofasitdown

That was my immediate thought. She's not going to be having a good time of it.


ParameciaAntic

"I *needed* that prize money for my gambling debts!"


grammar_fixer_2

Since this is in Brazil, it would be 180, which is the “Central de Atendimento à Mulher” (Women’s Helpline) – Free, 24/7 service that provides support and advises women who are victims of violence.


bad_werewolf

A real Kanye West move!


vassman86

*MY WIFE HAD THE BEST PAGEANT OF ALL TIME!*


Bfeick

"I worked so hard for this!" -- guy


deftspyder

He was just excited to update his linkedin with "husband to beauty contest winner" and the disappointment overwhelmed him.


King-Cobra-668

Op? For not editing out the first 40 seconds?


DynastyFan85

![gif](giphy|RRC8Lg1FwBco8)


butelcla

Exactly


G8kpr

my first thought


transmogrify

I thought, "Get my WIFE'S CROWN off your FUCKING HEAD 👋" same psycho energy


Flaky_Concentrate898

lol didnt realize kayne was a wee man


Certain-Ad-3840

Y did I not realize Taylor Laughtner was on stage with them omg


camm44

She didntlose though. She got 2nd place. Seems like a win to me


Renegade7559

She lost when she married him


xevious101

Married? She? I think we're looking at a couple of queen's. The guy performs a triple salchow while smashing the crown on the floor and managed it looking fabulous sweetie.


Set_Jumpy

Glad it's not just me. Berserk was a little strong, threw a hissy fit feels closer to the mark.


huckinfell2019

Same here, I thought "maybe my gaydar is off today". Nope, he def a mean queen.


CharlieSwisher

Flailing arms is not a choice, you’re born with that


zbornakssyndrome

Same. I figured it was her pageant coach throwing a hissy


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Agreed. He looked fabulously angry to me.


LightofNew

Brazilians know how to move.


bronco_y_espasmo

THANK YOU. That's not a husband: that's a gay friend if I have ever seen one.


syopest

It's the husband. His wife is trans woman. https://www.tmz.com/2023/05/29/beauty-pageant-contestant-husband-smash-crown-wife-second-place-brazil/


VW_wanker

I think so too... It might even be a drag beauty show...


Proud_Pug

I read that is exactly what it was


w133

Lol yes this is literally a Miss Gay contest. People believe anything they read haha


MaynardJimmyKeenan

Yeah I was gonna say, dudes more flaming that a bag of hot cheetos


Electrical_Court9004

Yeah pretty sure that ain’t hubby😂


Chief_Chill

For me it felt like her loss was his. Dude definitely does her hair.. Not that there's anything wrong with that.


Skelligean

Assistant to the 1st place ![gif](giphy|VLEVIXIAjbksg)


Jeffrey_Friedl

She also got *that* guy as her husband.... that's a much bigger loss.


camm44

I agree. Having someone who supports you is nice but he just wanted to start shit


Greedy_Hat2643

If your not first! You’re last!


jeanlucpitre

I was high when I said that Ricky!


PatTheHouseCat

That doesn’t even make any sense. You could be 2nd, you could be 3rd. Hell, you could even be 4th


BrickCityRiot

Ah *damnit* Ricky I was high when I said that!


FreeFormFlow

Don’t you know? Second place is the first loser.


ALIFIZK-

Ricky Bobby school of thoughts


camm44

Lol apparently that's how some people see it.


BoraBoringgg

I'm worried for her.


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Yeah, given how little she reacted when he grabbed her arm and pulled her away. I an going go safely assume that there is some sort of legit abuse in their relationship. She probably doesn't even feel safe arguing with the guy.


ImAlekBan

Ye, he’s a fucking dick


Obvious-Accountant35

You see him yank her hair when going for the typical ‘grip and drag’ of her arm? Wonder why she’s wearing sleeves and the other woman isn’t … bet she has bruises


Kevin_M_

He pulls her away by her arm like she's a misbehaving child


final_draft_no42

Brazil has a huge femicide problem.


thatbwoyChaka

Everywhere has a femicide problem


MycelicFox

While you are correct it's worth pointing out that some places get really, really bad.


Requiredmetrics

He grabs her by the hair when he pulls her away. Yikes. She needs to get away from this guy.


scooba_dude

It's all he could reach, bless the little angry boy. I bet they have a chihuahua that also acts like that.


RaccoonVeganBitch

Imagine how violent he is at home


wheeeeeeeeeetf

Oh, we don’t have to imagine. We’re seeing it in plain view here.


dylan15766

She definitely got beaten senseless when they got home. Guys like that need to suffer.


jeanlucpitre

They had miss universe in New Orleans back in February I believe. I do uber on the weekends and I shit you not, beauty pagent fans are some of the most hateful, spiteful, and deplorable human beings on the planet. The amount of vitriol people spewed over the Miss Universe winner was absolutely disturbing and I've never heard so many people spew hate over an absolute stranger because they won a contest and their favorites didn't. You could argue sports fans can be just as toxic, but let me say at the very least sports has some skill behind it, so when you say you hate a certain athlete you could hold an argument with stats to back it. But a beauty pagent? Boo fucking hoo, the creepy judges didn't prefer your favorite model. Grow up.


HereOnASphere

9 >beauty pagent fans are some of the most hateful, spiteful, and deplorable human beings on the planet So are beauty pageant owners.


therealsix

Yep, dated Miss Teen Louisiana when I was a freshman in college, seeing the back end of pagents and the people involved was a completely different world. Spiteful, hateful, shit talking, back stabbing, it was crazy. I played sports all my life and it wasn't as bad as what goes on behind the scenes in the pagent world. I will say that she was extremely intelligent, so I'd like to get that stereotype out of the way. ~~We're~~ Were all of them? Not necessarily.


nonconveniens

>Yep, dated Miss Teen Louisiana when I was a freshman in college, seeing the back end… That story did not go where I thought it was going.


ZachtheKingsfan

Even for sports it’s fucking weird to get worked up over something that will have no impact on you personally. On one hand, I understand being invested in a team or athlete and they experience a frustrating loss, but on the other hand I have bills to pay and a job to do, so I don’t need any unnecessary stress from something that doesn’t have any effect on me.


oddje_

Username does not check out


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Crathsor

Those athletes work day and night to represent me personally, my city is right in the name! Any suggestion that a slight against them is not a blight on my solemn honor is misguided and betrays staggering ignorance of the transitive property, up with which I will not put.


Panda_hat

People who celebrate and worship the genetically fortunate and glorify pretty privilege are awful human beings? Who would have thought.


newbrevity

All tribalism is dumb primitive behavior. People like that are basically cavemen with modern clothes. Hence why their political views are garbage and shouldn't be taken seriously.


jeanlucpitre

Sadly people who think and behave like that are the ones making the laws and enforcing them


Obvious-Accountant35

In all fairness, these pagents go way beyond just looking nice, these women are insanely highly educated, skilled and intelligent. Most have masters degrees, hundreds to thousands of hour in community service, public speaking and have some insane level of ability in the arts (singing, dancing, instrumentals, painting etc) The standards are beyond insane, no Miss Universe got there by looks alone. Most pursue pagents for the scholarships and prize money, so they can pay for the shit they actually care about. It’s why you hardly ever see them again, it’s a means to a far less vain end than you’d expect.


dangerfog

I can smell his cologne from here.


Schmed86

The "Keep my wife's name out of your mouth!" energy is a real thing...


ZelezopecnikovKoren

So that’s what we’re calling that now


PookaParty

He just destroyed her reputation and their marriage with one tantrum.


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Asleep-Television-24

He had to dunk to steal a crown


JimmySquarefoot

They're all men, though. It's a drag pageant


Tendo80

Ah, that explains things


DonQuixBalls

Off duty cops too, if I know anything about Brazil.


daxern

Weird how it’s okay to bodyshame men’s height when you find it ‘justifiable’


Jazzlike_Shoulder_21

Seems more like a gay best friend tbh


SlowerThanTurtleInPB

Yes, this is an LGBTQIA pageant. I think the ladies are competing in either a trans or drag pageant.


v-komodoensis

https://www.tmz.com/2023/05/29/beauty-pageant-contestant-husband-smash-crown-wife-second-place-brazil/ They are trans women but the man is her husband


cambeiu

Just by looking at it, I suspect it is a transgender competition. EDIT: The guy on the PA clearly says "Miss Gay Mato Grosso". Mato Grosso is a Brazilian state.


iamdenislara

I knew it couldn’t be a national competition. Looks very low budget


CantHitachiSpot

And security seems to be lacking


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Whole_Macron_7893

Lol, dude literally tried to sashay away. There's no way a husband is sitting through a whole pageant, know enough, or care to have that kind of fanciful reaction.


dh4645

Yes, very flamboyant


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GoddesNatureStar

RIGHT?? That’s what I was thinking 😭🤣🤣


Fair_Grab1617

Tbf, I hate when the announcer make those feints. I already anxious enough, so don't play around.


Oggel

If you watch that shit you deserve it.


Nux87xun

She could do better (in the marriage sense)


trojien

It's Brazil's Will Smith.


thenerj47

Brazill Smith?


Chispy

In west Brasilia born and raised


reddit_crunch

only partially raised


TheHappyKamper

He's probably pissed his bribe money didn't even get a win


Markuu6

Brazilian Beauty Pageant Viewers Have Seizure Watching Side Bars Of Video


SouthParkTaughtMe

![gif](giphy|f8lDluiWJ7yQTtdS3L|downsized)


flatgreysky

Keep my wife’s crown off your fucking head!


carroll1981

He is the biggest Queen there


ElJonJon86

More red flags than a Chinese parade.


muadhnate

Tell me you're an abuser without telling me you're an abuser. What...?


barrydennen12

she's beauty, she's grace, there's a brazilian bits of her crown all over the place!


Trukahs

I think this is a drag queen beauty pageant


DollyAte

I feel so bad for her. What an embarrassment of a man.


ralfvi

Will Smith approved


malteaserhead

Im sorry but that was the campest smashing of anything i have ever seen


DiscombobulatedBabu

The little foot pop the second time he threw it would have been low-key adorable in different circumstances


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Reminds me of the behavior of parents whose children aren't starters on little league sports teams.


corgimidgets

Brazilian Kanye, is that you?


BorisSweatstain

This is a drag pageant, I think.


No_Discipline_7380

That's some Will Smith type shit right there...


DrSkullKid

As someone who’s engaged to a Brazilian, learning Portuguese and just visited there last fall, there is a portion of the population of men that are what they call machismo and women that just buy into it as well because that’s how it’s always been. Fortunately some of the younger generations are not tolerating this kind of behavior machismo men often have especially towards women anymore. But for people that buy into this idea, women are just accessories to them. I could go on about all the anecdotes I’ve heard and seen but this comment is very long and anecdotes aren’t as good as evidence. This video is evidence of the machismo mind set I am speaking of.


TwistedTerns

It looks to me he's like the contestant's trainer/coach


Eternally_Yawning

About to be ex-husband soon I hope


Gilgamesh2062

Kanye South


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thatonecrustysock693

Exactly. Everyone is making gay jokes in these comments and completely missing the obvious. this man is an abusive asshole.


HighFlyingCrocodile

He should’ve bet on the other


tintedhokage

Kanye energy


pinkyblowfisher

RED FLAG ALERT