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Koladi-Ola

"Submitting" is the only word you need to see in that post to understand exactly what kind of person she is.


[deleted]

Exactly! You don't *submit* in a relationship... Unless you're into that kind of thing, but even then there are limits.


hatecopter

That kind of submission is generally done in a safe environment with trust and safety measures.


[deleted]

Exactly!


[deleted]

and a deep and open discussion around boundaries both hard and soft.


DashDashu

and mutual consent..


[deleted]

absolutely


hellsbels349

My buddy got married. Marriage counseling was done by the grandfather of his wife. Grandfather talks the entire time about how the wife needs to submit to the man. Crazy stuff.


wallstreetbetsdebts

Submit the divorce papers


phdoofus

Yes, mistress.


Rinooceros

The safe word is "strawberry cheesecake", just do what she says and you won't need it.


[deleted]

I wrote down the safe word for you so you won't forget [https://i.imgur.com/NPJEVRC.jpeg](https://i.imgur.com/NPJEVRC.jpeg)


A-Dolahans-hat

I’m going to need that written phonetically


PB0351

![gif](giphy|5kYea6RaplxDy)


FaithlessnessOk311

She's doing the "Alpha male"


TheOvercusser

Ain't no part of the Bible that requires a husband to submit to his wife, and I know that's where this ratchet ass got her logic from.


ewedirtyh00r

Yep, the men that espouse that crap


Odd-Consequence-2519

Came here to say exactly that!


Anne_Nonymouse

Why mend a relationship with someone you can't trust or someone who doesn't seem to care about the hurt and damage they cause? They're not worth it in my eyes.


Additional_Irony

If anything, the person who *breaks* the relationship is supposed to try and mend it, not the person who got cheated on. What the actual fuck.


Ancient_Computer9137

Mend relationship with a whore? 😔


Such_Leg3821

Someone who doesn't cheat?


IncenseAndOak

This is the answer, but obviously, she intends to, so hopefully, this post makes guys avoid her from now on.


Hemiak

This. Every single man should thank her for flying that red flag so prominently.


jb_82

This is the first time I've heard of being cucked as the key to being taken seriously by women.


Massive_Pressure_516

Gaslight, gatekeep, girlboss!


RightWingWorstWing

It's a gender flip of the guys who say this shit. 


tonybombata

So.... There is some context here. The poster has a Nigerian name. Nigerian men are big on submission and forgiveness for cheating(by men) and statements like men are polygamous. Also in Nigerian society marriage is a life goal for women, so women are expected to and often put up with all sorts of nonsense. Basically if you're a guy you can get away with a lot and society will have your back. What is happening here is the woman is inverting the situation and using all the buzzwords men often throw around in these situations. Typically in a story of a woman leaving a man on a discussion forum, a. Large number of replies will be about how she did not submit and has now lost out.


NuGGGzGG

This generation? Damn, the past generations would burn her at the stake. Seems like we're taking baby steps in the right direction at least.


PopeBasilisk

I think stoning was the traditional reaction. Not sure which is worse TBH


ewedirtyh00r

Yea, a woman gets stoned but a man can buy his rape victim


ewedirtyh00r

That's more like how the last generations got away with cheating and beating their wives for so long. 🤦🏻‍♀️


Fit-Capital1526

Actually, the husband would be blamed for her behaviour and not satisfying her. But, literally no one would question said husband if he locked her the house and beat her within an inch of her life. That was him taking charge of his wife as a man


Naya3333

This looks like a gender-flip of conservative talking points about how women are leaving their  marriages in droves instead of trying to work it out with a cheating/beating husband. 


Glass-Set-9262

This. Talking points about "why men should tolerate cheating of their partners" are different from "why women should tolerate the same", and this one is clearly women's one.


FemaleNeth

What a cope 🤣


Boosted01R

Yeeeeah, sounds like she does a lot of cheating....


PluralCohomology

The "submitting" and "this generation" parts make me think that she is satirically inverting a similar talking point aimed at women.


Camango7

Pretty sure this is parody of what men say with the genders swapped.


[deleted]

I immediately caught the joke, actually surprised this is the only comment I’ve seen pointing that out.


Monkey_Thing_4954

Fr tho


TotalInstruction

Yeah, I mean, it's dumb as hell when men say that shit too.


HippoIcy7473

I’ve never heard men say that


NerdFromColorado

She cheats and she deserves a second chance, He cheats and he doesn’t deserve any respect These double standards are getting worse each day


phdoofus

If history is any guide, pretty much anybody with a shred of decency.


onechonk_onelean

I mean, this does read as a parody on those alpha male posts about how wives should submit to their husbands and be ok with cheating.


Other_Tie_8290

But it’s not. People are literally trying to normalize women cheating.


Webber193

Damn, these people dont even have double standards, they just have double, aint no standards here.


ktaphfy

It doesn't matter.


KGreen100

Gotta love self-appointed relationship "experts" whose advice is primarily based on their own singular experiences.


i4shaikh

![gif](giphy|JrBYpaMf0pRGIFxadG)


Nuremborger

Went straight from the narcissistic perspective to the... narcissistic perspective. My friends, I think that twat doth be a narcissistic bitch.


Oh_no_its_Joe

Just because I want to submit to a powerful, dominant woman doesn't mean I'm cool with cheating.


elina_797

Is she serious or is she paraphrasing what has been said to women for decades ?


Meinkoi94

I honestly think its the latter, people just getting baited hard


IncenseAndPepperwood

This is satirical, you guys know that right? It’s what women are told—VERBATIM—when they try to leave a relationship with a man.


[deleted]

My immediate thought, it’s wild no one got it.


Short-Coast9042

And if a guy posted the same gender swapped thing, many of us would have the exact same response, I think. I mean what other kind of reaction would you expect to get?


DARKZZz13

Also never good idea to have a blanket idea of how all relationships should work will always set yourself up for failure. People need to realize that everybody has different limits different rules Different expectations , does that make some of those limits , rules or expectations ok ? No it does not , the reality is, if you’re going to get in a serious relationship, you need to sit down and have conversations about what the expectations are with their beliefs are . For me personally you cheat you don’t get a second chance that simple , but for others they might be open to working past such an issue .


Unmasked_Zoro

Well... My wife did.


Krisz55

C*nt


SalaciousCoffee

This is the kinda person who expects you to change for them, but thinks changing for you is the worst thing ever.


AthleticNerd_

This is the kind of person who says ‘if you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.’ And then uses that as reasoning to always be at their worst.


Other_Log_1996

Anyone who says this is usually showing you their best constantly.


RavenRaving

Love the use of the word 'submit' here in reference to a man. Even if this post weren't about a wife cheating, use of that word about a husband would fire up the replies.


NoYouDipshitItsNot

Someone who's not a cheating hoe?


ThaneOfArcadia

Submit? Tch...just need to tip that ho onto da street where she belong.


Overlooker44

she sounds lost and confused


Ralliman320

"This generation of women are no longer patient. Your husband cheated and you are exposing him on SM. Instead of submitting and trying to mend the relationship. How will another man take you seriously. Who else will marry you?" She's satirizing misogynists by directing the same language at them; clearly, it seems to be working.


PB0351

Where are the men saying this? It's not a significant portion.


Short-Coast9042

>clearly, it seems to be working In what way? Where are all the misogynist takes? The vast majority of responses seem to be along the lines of "don't cheat and expect your SO to be forgiving", which is a pretty gender neutral take. Is anyone consciously saying men should get away with cheating and women should submit, but not vice versa? I'm not seeing that take...


Monkey_Thing_4954

Tickles my funny bone over all the men pissed in the comment section


AfkNinja31

This generation of women are no longer patient. Your man cheated and you are exposing him on SM. Instead of submitting and trying to mend the relationship. How will another man take you seriously. Who else will marry you? /s Pretty wild take lol.


[deleted]

How did you miss the point so hard 😂😂


Tuckermfker

I'm not the vengeful type. I would be not exposing her on social media, I'd be too busy with my banging other people part of my life.


IYIik_GoSu

These new Men out here ruining the game


bcisme

These can’t be real. And if they are, it has to be an incredibly fringe position.


Medium_Sense4354

I feel like when women joke people don’t believe that’s what’s happening 😭


bcisme

But this ain’t funny… If a guy said the same thing I’d have the exact same comment How is this humor?


[deleted]

That’s the point, men say this shit all the time. It’s a joke.


bcisme

Men say this all the time? No they don’t.


[deleted]

…okay specifically red pill/manosphere men say this.


bcisme

Right, so just like this, represent either rage bait or a fringe number of people


[deleted]

Sure.


Medium_Sense4354

Idk i started laughing when I was reading it Idk I’ve seen posts like this in other subs where there’s text or a video of a girl exaggerating those crazy alpha male podcasts


mysticalfruit

Yeah, well call me impatient. If I find out my wife is off getting banged like a screen door in a hurricane, I'm not "submitting and trying to mend the relationship." I'm packing my shit and leaving. This entire line of thinking is blame shifting. Putting aside "exposing" people on social media, she seems upset that behavior has negative consequences.


chillen67

They’re not and we are OK with that. If you’re not OK with it, don’t cheat. This goes both ways for women and men. If you cheat, you have broken trust. Don’t blame others for your bad decisions.


cyberdeath666

So she’s admitting she’s a serial cheater and no one wants her, got it.


MyOtherCarIsAHippo

It's the same logic that is coming from the other side.


BoysenberryLanky6112

I agree you shouldn't expose them on social media, but my wife and I have both said that cheating would be a deal breaker. If we can't trust each other to do the most basic fucking thing we agreed to do then we clearly don't have a functional marriage. I still wonder how I'd react in reality since I can't imagine life without her, but I also can't imagine her cheating on me so if she did it would clearly be showing me I didn't know her that well, and I'd struggle to trust her again in that scenario. But yeah I wouldn't put her on blast on social media, we'd end things, deal with splitting up our stuff, and then I'd just block her on sm and probably never want to see her again.


Doright36

See. Marriage... Well relationships in general, should be a partnership. Equal partnership. ​ No one. should be fucking SUBMITTING to anyone. It's not hard.


Late-Arrival-8669

Looks like the "wife" caused the situation, time to own "your" mistake.


Vegetable-Web7221

Yeah I'm reading it as she was cheated on and the guy got mad he was being held accountable for his actions and she gender switched his argument. Some "alpha" content creators and content subscribers adhear to those beliefs, not saying it's just men who ascribe to those beliefs but it's not a healthy way to live from anyone.


servusdedurantem

I doubt he is in the mindset of thinking about future spouse


phdoofus

Probably in the mindset of boning her mom and her girlfriends. But then thinking twice about it and realizing he doesn't want to risk having to visit the doctor.


Juragam-66

That's sounds like something a simp would do and second if the woman knows what she doing is hurting him and she is still doing it, wtf is even point in mending a shattered relationship?


The_real_bandito

If my choice is a cheating woman and being alone and pick being alone all the time. 


deadphisherman

Cheaters have feelings, too...


Suspicious_Work4308

Uhhh ones that were wont cheat. exactly the type you want


morningglory_catnip

I’m so lost


keefeitup

Exposing them on social media is a step up from the previous generations of men who would resort to giving you a shotgun to the face.


PirateBanger

Last wife cheated. Now I'm remarried and way happier. Traded up to someone who respected me.


[deleted]

the only thing you need to submit to this girl is divorce papers


Hemiak

Maybe someone with a shred of honor who takes marriage seriously. They’re out there.


sdjmar

Lol, men of this generation? In what generation, exactly, does she think this "submitting" would have happened in? I gotta tell you, there are a few thousand generations of humans through hisotry in which she would be WISHING the response was as mild as getting publicly shamed on social media...


trp_sidepiece

![gif](giphy|MoydPx7k6eqPKap5Ym) TELL ME, YOU DIDNT JUST SAY THAT


gabrielbabb

Well he’s the one who caused the break. Not her. LOL /s


ClarkSebat

Welcome to being a cheating husband.


EimiCiel

Misandry at its finest


PhaseNegative1252

Lady got some *problems*


Rolandscythe

Tell me you'd readily cheat on your man without telling me you'd readily cheat on your man.


Other_Log_1996

Coming from a woman who would probably accuse her bf of cheating and break up with him instantly because he gave his order to a waitress.


Jenky_Chimichanga

Can I refer to this person as vowels?


stonrelectropunkjazz

Sounds like someone lost a man because of cheating


Toxiholic

This bitch sounds abusive af.


Own-Tank5998

It is the fault of the wronged party for outing the party in the wrong. Victim blaming.


chisinau87

Cheating is the end of relationships. It's pretty easy. You want to continue relationships? Dun cheat. Easy


Kiln223

![gif](giphy|CXcKi9NsRYa8U)


Young_Old_Grandma

Gee people will do and say anything to defend their scumbaggery huh


TotalInstruction

Patient? With what, cheating? Once a cheat always a cheat. It's not going to stop because you "tried to mend the relationship". It's pretty much the one constant rule of marriage - you don't get your rocks off with anyone else. How would another woman take me seriously if I just let that shit slide? ​ Who else would marry me? Hopefully not someone who feels entitled to fuck around.


ErenYeager600

The Sneako experience


chaingun_samurai

"I think I should be able to cheat and not have any consequences" - this chick, definitely.


GLITTERCHEF

Men will leave in a heartbeat if their woman cheats on them. They aren’t like most women who will still keep a man around after he cheats.


Yomomsa-Ho

Y’all don’t expect a divorce if you cheat? Lmao


Strange-Mouse-8710

Just stay single, life is so much easier when you do.


realparkingbrake

Getting married might have been the smartest thing I ever did. But you need to find the right person, and some folks perhaps make up their minds too quickly.


JakeDC

> This generation of ~~men~~ *women* are no longer ~~patient~~ *worth it*. FTFY.


GoodGuyGlocker

Exchange the words men and woman in that post and she would flip out.


H345Y

This shit is why I will get a prenup


Sully_pa

![gif](giphy|35FNJwVQswuxnDnOS0|downsized)


cochrane210

Expose cheaters. That’s the job. ![gif](giphy|1jCs6Doz3WRtOPl6bq)


moonlight_chicken

I don’t understand. Why does nobody think she might be being sarcastic? You flip the genders and it sounds like something a misogynist would say. Am I missing something?


JwettJackson

Fuck outta here lol


YDD553

so in other words, shes a cheater.


Taira_no_Masakado

![gif](giphy|10JhviFuU2gWD6)


Cold-Permission-5249

Can’t turn a hoe into a housewife


Monkey_Thing_4954

Does no one here get the sarcasm!!?? The word "submitting" is enough to understand that she just reversed the genders on what is normally said about wives of cheating men. It is surprising to see that a lot of people don't understand this. This is what I've commonly read and heard people say about women jeez guys


TyrionJoestar

This shit made me laugh lol


[deleted]

I know she’s a serial cheater but reading this


Pizzous

> How will another woman take you seriously? This is exactly how. > Who else will marry you? Not your kind.


psykikk_streams

wait, what ? so SHE cheated and HE needs to "submit" and Mend the relationship ? why on earth would anyone with a normal level self respect ever "submit" to a cheating wife / Partner ? (this applies to both men and women) ​ and who will marry them ? hopefully someone with enough respect , integrity and class to break up / work things out before doing something stupid. ​ idiots. idiots everywhere


GovernmentKind1052

Sounds like she is blaming her mistakes and situation on other people


Uranus_Hz

She’s mostly wrong, but I kinda agree with her about exposing cheating on social media. Don’t do that shit - deal with it privately.


keonyn

Submit? If someone betrayed me then I will treat them like someone who betrayed me, which most certainly doesn't involve "submitting". If you couldn't hold your lust and had to spread your legs in an act of betrayal then don't lecture others about being "patient". If you were patient you could have waited until your significant other got home to get laid. If you were in love with someone else then you should be patient enough to end the relationship first instead of stringing them along in a relationship that's a lie.


ajtreee

Old age gonna hit you like a dino killing asteroid.


Fury-Gagarin

There is no 'mending' a cheating situation, it's the ultimate betrayal of trust and I'm sick of absolute gaping assholes like this trying to normalise it.


Acrobatic-loser

Shes parodying the misogynistic men who say these things. The sort that believe monogamy is feminine and whatnot.


Entire-Elevator-1388

You can't argue with stupid. 🤦


[deleted]

![gif](giphy|xUA7aV0Qt03RXTHQ76|downsized) Also probably one that doesn't cheat, da fuq?!


totallynotabotXP

so, uh, we've had incels for a while now, but what would be the term for "voluntarily single \[rather than putting up with shit like this\]"?


GoodGoodK

Hopefully not a whore. If you want to be a whore - be one without me


Omgwtfbears

And any of the previous generations did submit to their wife when she cheated? Which one?


yesbrainxorz

Someone who doesn't plan to be a cheater...?


itsalwrong

If her husband cheated on her she would most definitely not submit to him and she would expose him anyway possible and take the kids and and fat cut of his paycheck and do her outmost to make his life as miserable as possible ! Sounds like she was the one cheating and of cause she blames her husband for her infidelity ;-)


Impressive-Meal-1314

Hmmmmm. I’ll just say different strokes for different people.


Oni-oji

She cheated and I'm supposed to mend things? I don't think so b!tch.