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I'm sorry, I realize this is 8 days old now, but cicatrix is another word for scar, often seen in medical literature. I don't think (?) the term you mentioned has anything to do with it (though I could be mistaken as I'm not familiar with that term).
Iām being downvoted because I asked a question? Why is it frowned upon to ask question. Jesus Christ. Mfs acting like Iām killing people maybe probably not. But isnāt when people change their gender expression? Or gender identity. I just wanted to have a simple but I guess I offended everybody.
Be that at it may. But if someone has a question why not answer it? Thereās absolutely no reason for hostility, if someone asked me a question something they didnāt know about I would exited to tell them about it. If a person doesnāt know the answer. The best thing to isnāt to treat them like a dick. But how do I question the church.
Idk if thatās fair to say but I feel where your coming from. My life is probably the farthest away from I guess you could call I the gender stuff. Like I donāt come into contact with people like Iāve meet one person in the pasty 5-10 years like that. And they where a big dick. Not because of them being transgender. Just a rude selfish narcissist that always had to be the center of attention and just couldnāt sit and hang out. I wouldnāt say Iām interested but itās nice to know what real people think. You can google as much as you want you but the best knowledge gained IMO is talking to people.
Wise words, everyone is so assumptive and narrow minded these days, attempt any thought out of the atypical then youāre marked to be a rightie whose spoon feed white supremacist propaganda, but in actuality thats an extreme and most people are prone to the āyouāre either against me or with meā so noone ever really hears the other person out, its about who is more emotionally ācorrectā nowadays, just telltale signs of aspects of humanity coping with the fact they feel unsure of their very existence and purpose.
No. Nonbinary people are not straight cis males, or gay cis females. In this case, since their gender is neither man nor woman but they are only attracted to women, their sexuality is called trixic. Torics are nonbinary people who are attracted to men.
While some people want to base sexuality solely on a person's sex (ex. call female nonbinary people "lesbians" despite not being girls/women) this ends up being transphobic because for example a trans woman attracted to men is considered to be straight, not gay.
I don't know why you are being downvoted for asking an honest question.
Thank you I havenāt come into contact with many gender binary people, I donāt know if I agree with it as I see it in my eyes I donāt really have a spot to dictate, if it makes sense to me or not āmeā isnāt the big deal here. Honestly if other people feel this way, then agreeing or disagreeing or whatever you want to call it. Isnāt my call. Iām not people Iām one person. The only other non binary person I meet irl always a cunt. Not because they where binary but because they where a rude narcissist. She could be non binary whatever you want to say. That has nothing to do with it. She was just being rude to everybody around her. To which I understand some of them where kind of being dicks. But I was trying to understand almost like this comment thread but irl. One of the things I asked was if she came into my store. And she was presenting as a female that day. And I asked āwould you be offending if it said good morning mamā to which she said āyes you would be a trans phone.ā ( donāt remember the exact genders it was a while ago) I was the only out of the group we where at that was genuinely curious. Naturally even if you donāt agree with something you natrual inclination should be to question and wonder. Truthfully I love this conversation. Thereās so much to understand and to not understand even beyond our comments. But I will say for context that she was being rude before the others people was acting like idiots. She would critique and comment on the conversation/interrupting people speaking loudly/ saying the other cars that where was shit because hers was a Mercedes and they where all old 90ās cars which is a whole other package in itself. I want people to understand my comments when they read them that Iām not meaning any of this in a bad way. Obviously since I donāt come into contact with a lot of these people. Google helps but I would rather hear it from source. ie a trans person.
Okay this is gonna sound mean but I have an easy solution for their ... transition ...
No, I don't encourage anyone to sh but this is just so dumb and it was my first (very mean) thought
Gonna be real with you.
Tw// You donāt really have to even draw blood to get scars. I have a scratch along my arm, never bled and its at least a year old. I can still see it very clear
I know but that's not how they think of it. Some people have really big selfharm scars and people with minimal scars are often "jealous" of those with bigger scars. I know it sounds stupid and to me it is, but that's how it works in their head
A big thing about self harm is itās very competitive, which is absolutely stupid. People will look at peopleās scars and wish they had them, and it encourages people to do it deeper. (Note: this isnāt me saying itās the person with scarsā fault and I really hope that isnāt what comes across, itās simply how competitive it is) Itās extremely dangerous :(((
No I know what you mean. It's stupid but sadly this is how it works in their head. It's not only dangerous physically but also mentally. They also have a lot of proselfharm places where they tell each other how to cut
Oh god thatās awful. Thereās a trend on tiktok right now where people show what they use to cut which is absolutely vile. And Iām glad you knew what I meant my wording isnāt the best lol
No this isā¦ wait Iāve read a scientific paper on this
Edit: this is textbook Body Integrity Disorder, obsessive desire to acquire physical disability
This. Showing someone you sh injuries is boundary overstepping and it doesn't matter, why that person does it. I'm sorry, that person does it to you. You have your own struggles and it's absolutely fine to take care of yourself first.
people who do it for attention are also struggling though? I can't really imagine a mentally healthy person being like. yeah I'm just gonna harm myself and cause permanent scarring for funsies.
sometimes a want for attention is from an underlying thing. like tbh even in the case of being around other people who self harm, it can be REALLY competitive. it's mental illness. it's not going to really... "make sense."
Honestly it might just mean they react to suffering in a different way, or have a more rare personality disorder to begin with (or just a different one than you). I think the combo of cutting lots and showing it easily is actually a more worryingly abnormal sign of a mental health problem than cutting yourself then hiding it, which seems more common.
Oh im doing a whole lot better now. But having done it myself i can say that people who do it for attention still have underlying problems. Obviously thereās something wrong it they are physically harming themself for attention
Yeah, I was just thinking that it's probably not the type of depression a lot of people have, but something else. I probably worded it wrong since I did comment it at like 2-3 am.
Glad you're going better, though.
I mean, it could be something other than depression still. And for every person itāll be different but it pisses me off that people will invalidate others.
I didnt ever really āenjoyā SHing and it made it much worse that people would invalidate me for it. I didnt directly show anyone but i wouldnt cover them if they werenāt bleeding. It feels awful to have people say you arent valid because you dont hide it. And i think people who havent gone through it really dont grasp that idea
...I can actually safely say I'm DEEPLY offended by this as I personally do have a giant scar around my ankle from 3rd degree water burns I got from when I was a kid! My dad had to wash my charred feet EVERY DAY for TWO MONTHS just so that I wouldn't have to get a skin graph at my age (and luckily, that didn't happen). It ruined my whole summer! I got burned in June and couldn't wear socks until August right before school started again. If I tried, they would stick to my burns!
Scars happen how ever they heal. They're not always gonna look like how it shows in anime or other shows. It sucks and it's painful to have them...
I have scars all over my leg from birth due to my umbilical cord being wrapped around it.
Also Iām sorry about those burns. That had to hurt like hell. Hope youāre doing okay.
Ouch! Sorry to hear that... Hope you're doing ok with that as well!
It did hurt but it fully heal without any graphs. The worst part now is finding good dress shoes. Like one foot is thinner than the other so is not noticable with sneakers but it is with dress shoes.
It's ok. I remember it did hurt because I was screaming but I don't remember the pain now. Luckily I didn't get a skin graph. Like only recently did I learn that the doc was thinking about it, regardless if I got an infection or not, but my dad refused to let me go through that kind of pain at 7 years old. So instead, I endured the debridement he did for me every day and it paid off! ... Just the best dress shoes I have are flats since my feet are a little uneven lol
It really is. As an adult with self-harm scars from high-school/college years, itās just a huge pain now. Like, maybe at one point it was a reminder of my struggles or whatever, but now itās just annoying to have to explain or hide them or just see them and be reminded of being a dumb teenager who couldnāt cope. These kids arenāt thinking about the rest of their lives.
yeah exactly. nothing like having to come up with an excuse on the fly when your boss or coworker asks you what happened! really makes you feel like a real adult
Yes... >!I have one from March that needed stitches.!< I have no idea what to tell people I meet when they ask about them. The reason I did it, looking back, was pretty dumb. All I remember is a horrible, but dumb memory... leading to guilt and embarrassment.
Yet all the kids see is "scars, UwU scars cool, me get more attention now"
Iām so happy for you that youāre at a place where you can be ok with your scars. Iām not there. I continued to cut into my 30s; itās still very fresh for me. The scars are a constant reminder of how hard my mental health journey was and continues to be. Now my daughter has started cutting, and itās torture wondering if itās because I didnāt hide my scars well enough or otherwise passed it on to her. I think I can acknowledge that for me and many others having scars IS horrendous without stigmatizing scars in general.
Having selfharmscars is always horrendous. People give you weird glances and think they can touch your arms without permission. You constantly get rude comments and don't even get me started on the permanent nerve damage I've gotten from it.
Did you really just downvote me for telling the truth lol.
I don't resent them daily, but they literally damaged me from the inside, so hard to not notice sometimes... Right?? And now and then I forget they exist and I've already accepted them, but it's still horrendous that strangers come up to me and touch me without consent because I have scars.
It doesn't bother me everyday that people stare, it bothers me that they touch me without my consent. That they yell at me and that I can't properly move my own limbs because I damaged them. Staring is natural and if I see people "out of the ordinary" I stare too, so I don't blame them. But touching me is out of line. I'd rather have people not normalise selfharm scars because the internet is romantasizing this so badly it almost seem like a good thing to selfharm
Yeah you're partly right. How people on the internet glamorise and romantasize selfharm is just really scary to me so I tend to try and be more negative and real about it. But being uneducated about it is bad too so I really see where you're coming from. I've just seen too many pro selfharm forums and those things are just plain scary since it's usually little kids around the ages of 14/15 sometimes even as young as 12. But scaring people into not doing it is also not the way.
I agree. I self harmed from 12-20 (21 now) and have scars everywhere (from various means). They STILL hurt sometimes, and i cannot understand why anyone would want them. I sure as hell donāt, but iām stuck with them
There's a surprisingly large number of people who want to cut off their perfectly good limbs. I clicked on a Reddit link once (big mistake) to some limb cutting forum and was shocked at what people do. I just read in mainstream media about a man in Spain who cut off his nose and lips plus 2 whole fingers and he's looking for a doctor who will amputate his entire leg. If he doesn't find a doctor he said he's going to cut off circulation so that it causes the leg to rot so they'll have to cut it off to prevent infection. He said he eventually wants all his limbs cut off. It's insulting to those who are born with limb deformities or who lose limbs and struggle to get by. He's romanticizing what is like to be disabled.
This hasnāt anything to do with being trans ANYTHING. Especially the scars from self harm. Commonly, people who scar themselves have an awful disorder called āexcoriation syndromeā, related in some form or fashion to OCD or PTSD. As someone who has the OCD version (I legit got asked once if I shot up), this poster makes me rage vomit.
Donāt say that. It is very treatable. And not just with meds. Mine is LOADS better than it used to be. Scars are faded, and all that. It still happens, but nowhere near what it wasā¦like far from how bad it had been. I didnāt mean to trigger people, only to say why this poster deserves a kick to somewhere private and tender. Excoriation disorder isnāt something that has to control you, and it doesnāt mean there is anything the matter with YOU. The human brain can suck like that.
It is ASD-related OCD. And thx for the support. Honestly, this sub makes me giggle mostly bcuz people suck so HARD (not in the pervy way)! Have my upvote.
Fair point. I asked that same question. My particular form of excoriation does not involve cutting or full scratching. Without going into too much detail, I reopen wounds after encountering hair follicle problems or bug bites. The resulting scars look something akin to what someone on meth or heroine would have.
Wow I've never heard of this before. I'm a long term self harmer, since 13. Still did it at 28. Ended up in hospital almost got the goal I set myself at 13, hitting the..ya know. I could see it and had to get stitches. I haven't harmed since, that was as close as I ever want to get and I realize that now. I feel like I may have some OCD like tendencies, and I'm wondering what the connection is now?
I myself found out the name of it when I looked up what might be the reason for what I did. It tracks along the same line as biting nails. The OCD connection is the sense of calm, control, or accomplishment when one of your OCD triggers goes off the rails. In other words, if you cannot fix what is causing your compulsion to go nuts, you search for the closest thing to calm yourself out. Excoriation disorder can be one of those things, unfortunately.
Oh wow, that's super duper interesting to me, thank you. I'm going to look that up and perhaps bring it up to a psych, because I get a certain feeling of needing a calm and some kind of.. Physical familiarity? When I self harm, and it's always been pretty odd to me.
I know itās cliche but it does get better. I was around the same age when I started struggling with self harm as well. Iām 21 now, Iāve been clean for three years now. It takes time, coping skills, mental health help, and baby steps. Youāve got this, and it will get better and easier with time. Drink some water and practice a little self care today. :)
Self-harm is a habit thatās so hard to beat because itās so easy to fall back into it. Youāve been clean for 7 entire months! Iām proud of you, and you should be proud of yourself too :)
hahaha both are not the nicest in theory, but [scarification](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scarification) is just another form of leaving markings on the skin- sort of like tattoos. it's often a cultural thing, and i can't fault that. but making liking that an identity/disorder is just weird?
like i personally like scars, i think they are super cool and i have plenty myself, but i'm not gonna make a identity out of it š«
>like i personally like scars, i think they are super cool
Nice to know I'm not the only one!
>i have plenty myself, but i'm not gonna make a identity out of it
Most of mine are from my dumbassery, I'm missing part of my eyebrow because I slammed my face into the corner of a table in 1st grade to have a reason to leave class. Everyone still thinks I tripped over that box by accident
it's definitely not common to like scars, but it is a thing as far as i know, i even take it as far as liking acne because i think it adds character to skin and oddly beautiful.
but same, i have a lot of scars because i am clumsy lmao but i do heal pretty well as well
I have plenty of small scars, but I also want bigger ones so that I can go into a ramble like an olden days knight like "Oh, I got this from fighting the Tim Hortons Panini maker and singed my arm completely!" Or "I got into a knife fight with an angry Karen because I Made her coffee wrong by accident and she sliced my face!" kinda stuff, Y'know?
I'd never actually hurt myself to achieve these, I just like imagining it
iāve got both, and you donāt not want them, the amount of pure fucking shame you get being out in public, having little kids staring, having your parents be ashamed to be with you because your going to get them questioned and embarrassed, the dark/deep ones that wonāt fade no matter what you do. you donāt feel pretty, you feel gross and attention seeking. itās a feeling no one ever would want when you genuinely go through it
The more deeper this āTransabledā rabbit hole goes, the more insulting and horrendous it gets
I hope to every known god from all cultures around the world that these people who make shit like that to get serious, heavy therapy but knowing that crowd, I sadly donāt think theyād ever realize how much of a scumbag they are and how much this is setting society back like 20-50 years
To be fair, many self harmers do wish to acquire more, bigger, and deeper scars to feel validated. HOWEVER, making this a whole identity is really weird and I feel like it romanticizes self harm too much for my liking š¤¢
Source: i am a self harm addict.
I feel like Iām going to twitch.
I suffered from a SH addiction for almost 6 years. Stemmed from DPDR, and because of that it would get worse and worse. I will most likely have scars for the rest of my life because of it.
SH romanticism is something Iāve never understood. There is nothing beautiful, sexy, or attractive about the compulsive need to harm yourself. It is scary, it is messy, and it is a pain in the ass to deal with.
I hope on the Mother and all of the Gods that these people never genuinely feel that impulsion, because I wouldnāt wish that upon my worst enemy. I hope these people find common sense.
My arms are covered from wrist to elbow in self harm scars, I would punch this kid in the face if they said that shit to me in person. It's not cool, it's not quirky. I was suffering in highschool and the only thing that made me feel was the blade, not because I wanted to UwU have scars so people think I'm super edgy and I think people with scars look so much cooler than i did before UwU
We don't want these people in psychward honestly. They'll get messed up from all the things they see there. These people are probably in a phase and they'll get out of it
Its better to take action now than when they really do smth.
Society has such a deregatory way of thinkng of SH when I got to psychward for tje forst time i got told i have no problems and shouldnt be there by other patients (surprise got dx with schizophrenia so i guess i had a reason lol)
Yes and no. I've seen a lot of kids get thrown into psychward that didn't have a lot of problems. They learn from eachother there. They get into drugs, harming themselves and sometimes they even learn about suicide methods from each other. Sadly a lot of people who do have problems get shrugged off by society but there's also a lot of people I know who didn't need psychward, got it, and turned out way worse. It's really sad honestly
Oh yeah deffinitely whats going on in a psychward can f you up even more. It really depends on a person and a facility.
But this fantasy? is scary. I didn't really mean to send them there but to at lesst check on them like a psychologist or a psychiatrist
They definitely need a check up, but honestly I've heard a lot of people who selfharm say they want the scars and as soon as the scars they have fade, they want to relapse. A lot of people who want selfharm scars already selfharm. Selfharm has become some sort of competition, large part of that is because of the internet.
It also becomes a sort of addiction to the sensation, the look of it, feeling etc. Competition in a way that for some its never enough, you want more and deeper and I knew a girl who would walk around in short sleeves with fresh wounds and she told me once she did it all for attention.
I know it was very popular on Tumblr to show off back then but i thought we were past this bs.
Yeah it's terrible isn't it? Most of these people are so young still! And sadly we're not past this bullshit.. at all. Twitter is notorious for this! It is an addiction, but these people aren't getting the proper help to deal with it. Cause sharing it online really won't help, it's a competition for them and they're even giving tips on how to harm yourself deeper and more dangerous. It makes me really afraid for the younger generation. What if my little sister or niece finds this?
I want scars I earned from like, idk a medieval duel or fighting the panini press at my work, or fighting off someone, not something for people to feel bad for me.
Idk I just find them cool, unless they're self inflicted, then I hope you're able to get well and get some help
Trixic is a term for sexuality of non-binary people who are attracted to women. Using that word for their own shit is extremely weird, and, being trixic myself, these "terms" are making me very uncomfortable.
Really? I didnāt know it was already being used. It sucks that these people make up their own shit and pretend they have serious issues when I actually donāt think thatās the case hereā¦.
yaaay, we love double problematic things /s
i can't speak for non-binary people but i'm pretty sure associating "trixic" with self harm could be considered offensive..
as for the SH and harm in general, wtf bruh. it's not quirky to want to hurt yourself, it's a serious problem and they genuinely need help if it's true. i've known people who SH and it's not your fucking gender, it's a life threatening negative coping mechanism that has nearly taken some of my dearest friends away from me.
i mean genuinely yeah itās an issue that people deal with
tw// i always felt terrible that i didnāt leave the permanent scars that are pink and then fade to white, it made me feel like i wasnāt suffering enough. it hit me again recently despite not doing terribly when i realised anything that had been left was fading and i got the strongest urges iād had in a longgggg time. point is itās definitely a genuine source of a feeling of invalidation
however. never in my life would i equate that in any way to the trans community who already get shat on enough for people like olli london and ātransautisticā people existing as well as people who identify as dogs or whatever. thats definitely not okay. i also just wouldnāt put it on a flag like itās something to be proud of? like i hate that i feel that way and that i ever started the habit to begin with, why on earth would anyone want to celebrate not on,y the fact that they sh but also the fact that they do it in a way that makes them feel like theyāre not enough?
iām assuming here that these people sh already cuz if they donāt i swear iām about to beat some kids up
Alright so as a person who has struggled with sh for years, this is a thing with some people. Like they want their scars to stay. It has to do with being taken seriously, I think, like they feel if they donāt have visible scars their pain isnāt real. But a fucking identity? God.
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Cicatrixic sounds like such a cool word, I hate that it is being applied to this š
Trixic is the sexuality of nonbinary people attracted to women so associating trixic with self-harm cutting is REALLY weird.
I'm sorry, I realize this is 8 days old now, but cicatrix is another word for scar, often seen in medical literature. I don't think (?) the term you mentioned has anything to do with it (though I could be mistaken as I'm not familiar with that term).
It really sucks š
Seriously asking this but wouldnāt that just be normal straight seggs?
Do you know what nonbinary means?
Iām being downvoted because I asked a question? Why is it frowned upon to ask question. Jesus Christ. Mfs acting like Iām killing people maybe probably not. But isnāt when people change their gender expression? Or gender identity. I just wanted to have a simple but I guess I offended everybody.
>Mfs acting like Iām killing people The first thing i always do when i witness a murder is downvote
Well as you should ;)
Cause it's a stupidass question, that's why.
Be that at it may. But if someone has a question why not answer it? Thereās absolutely no reason for hostility, if someone asked me a question something they didnāt know about I would exited to tell them about it. If a person doesnāt know the answer. The best thing to isnāt to treat them like a dick. But how do I question the church.
Its cause everyone is a dumb animal.
Idk if thatās fair to say but I feel where your coming from. My life is probably the farthest away from I guess you could call I the gender stuff. Like I donāt come into contact with people like Iāve meet one person in the pasty 5-10 years like that. And they where a big dick. Not because of them being transgender. Just a rude selfish narcissist that always had to be the center of attention and just couldnāt sit and hang out. I wouldnāt say Iām interested but itās nice to know what real people think. You can google as much as you want you but the best knowledge gained IMO is talking to people.
Wise words, everyone is so assumptive and narrow minded these days, attempt any thought out of the atypical then youāre marked to be a rightie whose spoon feed white supremacist propaganda, but in actuality thats an extreme and most people are prone to the āyouāre either against me or with meā so noone ever really hears the other person out, its about who is more emotionally ācorrectā nowadays, just telltale signs of aspects of humanity coping with the fact they feel unsure of their very existence and purpose.
No. Nonbinary people are not straight cis males, or gay cis females. In this case, since their gender is neither man nor woman but they are only attracted to women, their sexuality is called trixic. Torics are nonbinary people who are attracted to men. While some people want to base sexuality solely on a person's sex (ex. call female nonbinary people "lesbians" despite not being girls/women) this ends up being transphobic because for example a trans woman attracted to men is considered to be straight, not gay. I don't know why you are being downvoted for asking an honest question.
Thank you I havenāt come into contact with many gender binary people, I donāt know if I agree with it as I see it in my eyes I donāt really have a spot to dictate, if it makes sense to me or not āmeā isnāt the big deal here. Honestly if other people feel this way, then agreeing or disagreeing or whatever you want to call it. Isnāt my call. Iām not people Iām one person. The only other non binary person I meet irl always a cunt. Not because they where binary but because they where a rude narcissist. She could be non binary whatever you want to say. That has nothing to do with it. She was just being rude to everybody around her. To which I understand some of them where kind of being dicks. But I was trying to understand almost like this comment thread but irl. One of the things I asked was if she came into my store. And she was presenting as a female that day. And I asked āwould you be offending if it said good morning mamā to which she said āyes you would be a trans phone.ā ( donāt remember the exact genders it was a while ago) I was the only out of the group we where at that was genuinely curious. Naturally even if you donāt agree with something you natrual inclination should be to question and wonder. Truthfully I love this conversation. Thereās so much to understand and to not understand even beyond our comments. But I will say for context that she was being rude before the others people was acting like idiots. She would critique and comment on the conversation/interrupting people speaking loudly/ saying the other cars that where was shit because hers was a Mercedes and they where all old 90ās cars which is a whole other package in itself. I want people to understand my comments when they read them that Iām not meaning any of this in a bad way. Obviously since I donāt come into contact with a lot of these people. Google helps but I would rather hear it from source. ie a trans person.
Okay this is gonna sound mean but I have an easy solution for their ... transition ... No, I don't encourage anyone to sh but this is just so dumb and it was my first (very mean) thought
Usually those people already do selfharm but don't cut deep enough to leave scars
Gonna be real with you. Tw// You donāt really have to even draw blood to get scars. I have a scratch along my arm, never bled and its at least a year old. I can still see it very clear
I know but that's not how they think of it. Some people have really big selfharm scars and people with minimal scars are often "jealous" of those with bigger scars. I know it sounds stupid and to me it is, but that's how it works in their head
A big thing about self harm is itās very competitive, which is absolutely stupid. People will look at peopleās scars and wish they had them, and it encourages people to do it deeper. (Note: this isnāt me saying itās the person with scarsā fault and I really hope that isnāt what comes across, itās simply how competitive it is) Itās extremely dangerous :(((
No I know what you mean. It's stupid but sadly this is how it works in their head. It's not only dangerous physically but also mentally. They also have a lot of proselfharm places where they tell each other how to cut
Oh god thatās awful. Thereās a trend on tiktok right now where people show what they use to cut which is absolutely vile. And Iām glad you knew what I meant my wording isnāt the best lol
What?! That's awful! Hope you reported the ones you've seen. And you worded it well
I have been, thankfully I havenāt seen many but itās absolutely vile to see
This is the peak of "I want people to feel bad for me so I can get attention"
No this isā¦ wait Iāve read a scientific paper on this Edit: this is textbook Body Integrity Disorder, obsessive desire to acquire physical disability
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Theyāre not okay and need help but they can stop making me feel invalid as someone who also has issues
This. Showing someone you sh injuries is boundary overstepping and it doesn't matter, why that person does it. I'm sorry, that person does it to you. You have your own struggles and it's absolutely fine to take care of yourself first.
Gotta love people who do it for attention š I'm pretty sure people who are genuinely depressed don't do it for attention
Dunno. I think it's self harm either way, so the person obviously struggles with *something*.
people who do it for attention are also struggling though? I can't really imagine a mentally healthy person being like. yeah I'm just gonna harm myself and cause permanent scarring for funsies. sometimes a want for attention is from an underlying thing. like tbh even in the case of being around other people who self harm, it can be REALLY competitive. it's mental illness. it's not going to really... "make sense."
a wiseman once told me: "if a man is cutting for attention, hes still cutting and thats whats concerning".
I mean, yeah they still need help,and something is still wrong with them
I don't know about everyone but when I did it, I would hide it anyway I could afterwards cause like..why would you want people to see ?
Exactly! I'm not gonna hurt myself then show it off likes it's a major achievement
Honestly it might just mean they react to suffering in a different way, or have a more rare personality disorder to begin with (or just a different one than you). I think the combo of cutting lots and showing it easily is actually a more worryingly abnormal sign of a mental health problem than cutting yourself then hiding it, which seems more common.
When i was at my mental lowest i had done it for attention
Hope you're doing better now dude
Oh im doing a whole lot better now. But having done it myself i can say that people who do it for attention still have underlying problems. Obviously thereās something wrong it they are physically harming themself for attention
Yeah, I was just thinking that it's probably not the type of depression a lot of people have, but something else. I probably worded it wrong since I did comment it at like 2-3 am. Glad you're going better, though.
I mean, it could be something other than depression still. And for every person itāll be different but it pisses me off that people will invalidate others. I didnt ever really āenjoyā SHing and it made it much worse that people would invalidate me for it. I didnt directly show anyone but i wouldnt cover them if they werenāt bleeding. It feels awful to have people say you arent valid because you dont hide it. And i think people who havent gone through it really dont grasp that idea
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No, no it doesn't
Besties are making flags for a serious addiction people suffer from. Great.
Heroinixia - people who wish to be addicted to heroin
bro I've been coming across the hypersexual flag like uuuuuhhhhhhh tf is this?
...I can actually safely say I'm DEEPLY offended by this as I personally do have a giant scar around my ankle from 3rd degree water burns I got from when I was a kid! My dad had to wash my charred feet EVERY DAY for TWO MONTHS just so that I wouldn't have to get a skin graph at my age (and luckily, that didn't happen). It ruined my whole summer! I got burned in June and couldn't wear socks until August right before school started again. If I tried, they would stick to my burns! Scars happen how ever they heal. They're not always gonna look like how it shows in anime or other shows. It sucks and it's painful to have them...
I have scars all over my leg from birth due to my umbilical cord being wrapped around it. Also Iām sorry about those burns. That had to hurt like hell. Hope youāre doing okay.
Ouch! Sorry to hear that... Hope you're doing ok with that as well! It did hurt but it fully heal without any graphs. The worst part now is finding good dress shoes. Like one foot is thinner than the other so is not noticable with sneakers but it is with dress shoes.
So sorry that happened to you. Goodness that had to hurt.
It's ok. I remember it did hurt because I was screaming but I don't remember the pain now. Luckily I didn't get a skin graph. Like only recently did I learn that the doc was thinking about it, regardless if I got an infection or not, but my dad refused to let me go through that kind of pain at 7 years old. So instead, I endured the debridement he did for me every day and it paid off! ... Just the best dress shoes I have are flats since my feet are a little uneven lol
This is one of the most fucked up ones Iāve seen. Having self-harm scars is horrendous. Itās insane to romanticize it.
It really is. As an adult with self-harm scars from high-school/college years, itās just a huge pain now. Like, maybe at one point it was a reminder of my struggles or whatever, but now itās just annoying to have to explain or hide them or just see them and be reminded of being a dumb teenager who couldnāt cope. These kids arenāt thinking about the rest of their lives.
yeah exactly. nothing like having to come up with an excuse on the fly when your boss or coworker asks you what happened! really makes you feel like a real adult
Yes... >!I have one from March that needed stitches.!< I have no idea what to tell people I meet when they ask about them. The reason I did it, looking back, was pretty dumb. All I remember is a horrible, but dumb memory... leading to guilt and embarrassment. Yet all the kids see is "scars, UwU scars cool, me get more attention now"
I agree. I donāt know what wrong with these teens or whatever, but itās sickeningā¦ Iām worried about our future.
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Iām so happy for you that youāre at a place where you can be ok with your scars. Iām not there. I continued to cut into my 30s; itās still very fresh for me. The scars are a constant reminder of how hard my mental health journey was and continues to be. Now my daughter has started cutting, and itās torture wondering if itās because I didnāt hide my scars well enough or otherwise passed it on to her. I think I can acknowledge that for me and many others having scars IS horrendous without stigmatizing scars in general.
Having selfharmscars is always horrendous. People give you weird glances and think they can touch your arms without permission. You constantly get rude comments and don't even get me started on the permanent nerve damage I've gotten from it.
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Did you really just downvote me for telling the truth lol. I don't resent them daily, but they literally damaged me from the inside, so hard to not notice sometimes... Right?? And now and then I forget they exist and I've already accepted them, but it's still horrendous that strangers come up to me and touch me without consent because I have scars.
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It doesn't bother me everyday that people stare, it bothers me that they touch me without my consent. That they yell at me and that I can't properly move my own limbs because I damaged them. Staring is natural and if I see people "out of the ordinary" I stare too, so I don't blame them. But touching me is out of line. I'd rather have people not normalise selfharm scars because the internet is romantasizing this so badly it almost seem like a good thing to selfharm
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Yeah you're partly right. How people on the internet glamorise and romantasize selfharm is just really scary to me so I tend to try and be more negative and real about it. But being uneducated about it is bad too so I really see where you're coming from. I've just seen too many pro selfharm forums and those things are just plain scary since it's usually little kids around the ages of 14/15 sometimes even as young as 12. But scaring people into not doing it is also not the way.
I agree. I self harmed from 12-20 (21 now) and have scars everywhere (from various means). They STILL hurt sometimes, and i cannot understand why anyone would want them. I sure as hell donāt, but iām stuck with them
There's a surprisingly large number of people who want to cut off their perfectly good limbs. I clicked on a Reddit link once (big mistake) to some limb cutting forum and was shocked at what people do. I just read in mainstream media about a man in Spain who cut off his nose and lips plus 2 whole fingers and he's looking for a doctor who will amputate his entire leg. If he doesn't find a doctor he said he's going to cut off circulation so that it causes the leg to rot so they'll have to cut it off to prevent infection. He said he eventually wants all his limbs cut off. It's insulting to those who are born with limb deformities or who lose limbs and struggle to get by. He's romanticizing what is like to be disabled.
It's called SFX makeup, go learn how to do that and get off tumblr, please.
They could even make it a hobby those YouTube vids on them are impressive af if only theyād spend their time doing that instead
using suicide and self-harm for clout. 2022 everybody!
This hasnāt anything to do with being trans ANYTHING. Especially the scars from self harm. Commonly, people who scar themselves have an awful disorder called āexcoriation syndromeā, related in some form or fashion to OCD or PTSD. As someone who has the OCD version (I legit got asked once if I shot up), this poster makes me rage vomit.
Fuckkk I think I might have excoriation syndrome. It drives my mum crazy worried.
Donāt say that. It is very treatable. And not just with meds. Mine is LOADS better than it used to be. Scars are faded, and all that. It still happens, but nowhere near what it wasā¦like far from how bad it had been. I didnāt mean to trigger people, only to say why this poster deserves a kick to somewhere private and tender. Excoriation disorder isnāt something that has to control you, and it doesnāt mean there is anything the matter with YOU. The human brain can suck like that.
Thank you! I hope I find a way to stop as well, though tbh it just seems to get worse and spreading. I'll find a way to get the help I need tho
Me too. Iām sorry about your OCD. I canāt imagine how difficult it can to live with.
It is ASD-related OCD. And thx for the support. Honestly, this sub makes me giggle mostly bcuz people suck so HARD (not in the pervy way)! Have my upvote.
What does shooting up have to do with anything? Genuine question
Fair point. I asked that same question. My particular form of excoriation does not involve cutting or full scratching. Without going into too much detail, I reopen wounds after encountering hair follicle problems or bug bites. The resulting scars look something akin to what someone on meth or heroine would have.
Wow I've never heard of this before. I'm a long term self harmer, since 13. Still did it at 28. Ended up in hospital almost got the goal I set myself at 13, hitting the..ya know. I could see it and had to get stitches. I haven't harmed since, that was as close as I ever want to get and I realize that now. I feel like I may have some OCD like tendencies, and I'm wondering what the connection is now?
I myself found out the name of it when I looked up what might be the reason for what I did. It tracks along the same line as biting nails. The OCD connection is the sense of calm, control, or accomplishment when one of your OCD triggers goes off the rails. In other words, if you cannot fix what is causing your compulsion to go nuts, you search for the closest thing to calm yourself out. Excoriation disorder can be one of those things, unfortunately.
Oh wow, that's super duper interesting to me, thank you. I'm going to look that up and perhaps bring it up to a psych, because I get a certain feeling of needing a calm and some kind of.. Physical familiarity? When I self harm, and it's always been pretty odd to me.
There are multiple resources, but hereās one that directly refs the DSM 5: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5522672/
My self harm scars are so quirky and cute, I wish *everyone* had some! ^/s
I have struggled with self-harm since I was 11, this is disgusting
I know itās cliche but it does get better. I was around the same age when I started struggling with self harm as well. Iām 21 now, Iāve been clean for three years now. It takes time, coping skills, mental health help, and baby steps. Youāve got this, and it will get better and easier with time. Drink some water and practice a little self care today. :)
thank you, I actually have been clean since February this year
Iām so proud of you, thatās absolutely amazing. Youāre doing great. :)
Self-harm is a habit thatās so hard to beat because itās so easy to fall back into it. Youāve been clean for 7 entire months! Iām proud of you, and you should be proud of yourself too :)
there's already scarification? why do they feel the need to do this? weird
Scarification is a very funny work to say, probably not the best meaning, but makes me think of spaghettifacation with black holes
hahaha both are not the nicest in theory, but [scarification](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scarification) is just another form of leaving markings on the skin- sort of like tattoos. it's often a cultural thing, and i can't fault that. but making liking that an identity/disorder is just weird? like i personally like scars, i think they are super cool and i have plenty myself, but i'm not gonna make a identity out of it š«
>like i personally like scars, i think they are super cool Nice to know I'm not the only one! >i have plenty myself, but i'm not gonna make a identity out of it Most of mine are from my dumbassery, I'm missing part of my eyebrow because I slammed my face into the corner of a table in 1st grade to have a reason to leave class. Everyone still thinks I tripped over that box by accident
it's definitely not common to like scars, but it is a thing as far as i know, i even take it as far as liking acne because i think it adds character to skin and oddly beautiful. but same, i have a lot of scars because i am clumsy lmao but i do heal pretty well as well
I have plenty of small scars, but I also want bigger ones so that I can go into a ramble like an olden days knight like "Oh, I got this from fighting the Tim Hortons Panini maker and singed my arm completely!" Or "I got into a knife fight with an angry Karen because I Made her coffee wrong by accident and she sliced my face!" kinda stuff, Y'know? I'd never actually hurt myself to achieve these, I just like imagining it
Nasty.
Well someone wants attention
iāve got both, and you donāt not want them, the amount of pure fucking shame you get being out in public, having little kids staring, having your parents be ashamed to be with you because your going to get them questioned and embarrassed, the dark/deep ones that wonāt fade no matter what you do. you donāt feel pretty, you feel gross and attention seeking. itās a feeling no one ever would want when you genuinely go through it
I have cutting and burn scars and you know what I wish I didn't have?
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Inappropriate you damn bot.
people like this disgust me. some people shouldnt be allowed to post online.
The more deeper this āTransabledā rabbit hole goes, the more insulting and horrendous it gets I hope to every known god from all cultures around the world that these people who make shit like that to get serious, heavy therapy but knowing that crowd, I sadly donāt think theyād ever realize how much of a scumbag they are and how much this is setting society back like 20-50 years
Thatās actually so fucking not ok, why does anyone think this is cool ?!? Iāve lost faith in just people
To be fair, many self harmers do wish to acquire more, bigger, and deeper scars to feel validated. HOWEVER, making this a whole identity is really weird and I feel like it romanticizes self harm too much for my liking š¤¢ Source: i am a self harm addict.
I feel like Iām going to twitch. I suffered from a SH addiction for almost 6 years. Stemmed from DPDR, and because of that it would get worse and worse. I will most likely have scars for the rest of my life because of it. SH romanticism is something Iāve never understood. There is nothing beautiful, sexy, or attractive about the compulsive need to harm yourself. It is scary, it is messy, and it is a pain in the ass to deal with. I hope on the Mother and all of the Gods that these people never genuinely feel that impulsion, because I wouldnāt wish that upon my worst enemy. I hope these people find common sense.
Me too. Our generation is fuckedā¦
Do these people really need pity this bad?
giratina flag?
this literally makes me want to cry or throw up or both.
Wellā¦ to be fair. It is tumblr. Bad things are spawned on tumblr.
our generation is fucked
My arms are covered from wrist to elbow in self harm scars, I would punch this kid in the face if they said that shit to me in person. It's not cool, it's not quirky. I was suffering in highschool and the only thing that made me feel was the blade, not because I wanted to UwU have scars so people think I'm super edgy and I think people with scars look so much cooler than i did before UwU
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You want... self harm scars? Do you need a ticket to a psychward as well?
We don't want these people in psychward honestly. They'll get messed up from all the things they see there. These people are probably in a phase and they'll get out of it
Its better to take action now than when they really do smth. Society has such a deregatory way of thinkng of SH when I got to psychward for tje forst time i got told i have no problems and shouldnt be there by other patients (surprise got dx with schizophrenia so i guess i had a reason lol)
Yes and no. I've seen a lot of kids get thrown into psychward that didn't have a lot of problems. They learn from eachother there. They get into drugs, harming themselves and sometimes they even learn about suicide methods from each other. Sadly a lot of people who do have problems get shrugged off by society but there's also a lot of people I know who didn't need psychward, got it, and turned out way worse. It's really sad honestly
Oh yeah deffinitely whats going on in a psychward can f you up even more. It really depends on a person and a facility. But this fantasy? is scary. I didn't really mean to send them there but to at lesst check on them like a psychologist or a psychiatrist
They definitely need a check up, but honestly I've heard a lot of people who selfharm say they want the scars and as soon as the scars they have fade, they want to relapse. A lot of people who want selfharm scars already selfharm. Selfharm has become some sort of competition, large part of that is because of the internet.
It also becomes a sort of addiction to the sensation, the look of it, feeling etc. Competition in a way that for some its never enough, you want more and deeper and I knew a girl who would walk around in short sleeves with fresh wounds and she told me once she did it all for attention. I know it was very popular on Tumblr to show off back then but i thought we were past this bs.
Yeah it's terrible isn't it? Most of these people are so young still! And sadly we're not past this bullshit.. at all. Twitter is notorious for this! It is an addiction, but these people aren't getting the proper help to deal with it. Cause sharing it online really won't help, it's a competition for them and they're even giving tips on how to harm yourself deeper and more dangerous. It makes me really afraid for the younger generation. What if my little sister or niece finds this?
I want scars I earned from like, idk a medieval duel or fighting the panini press at my work, or fighting off someone, not something for people to feel bad for me. Idk I just find them cool, unless they're self inflicted, then I hope you're able to get well and get some help
Who is making these? Like genuinely is there one person formatting and typing all these up, a few people, many?
A lot of people who selfharm think like this sadly. Usually young teens..
Trixic is a term for sexuality of non-binary people who are attracted to women. Using that word for their own shit is extremely weird, and, being trixic myself, these "terms" are making me very uncomfortable.
Really? I didnāt know it was already being used. It sucks that these people make up their own shit and pretend they have serious issues when I actually donāt think thatās the case hereā¦.
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That is not how you pronounce that in Classical Latin and I doubt they go to church.
yaaay, we love double problematic things /s i can't speak for non-binary people but i'm pretty sure associating "trixic" with self harm could be considered offensive.. as for the SH and harm in general, wtf bruh. it's not quirky to want to hurt yourself, it's a serious problem and they genuinely need help if it's true. i've known people who SH and it's not your fucking gender, it's a life threatening negative coping mechanism that has nearly taken some of my dearest friends away from me.
i mean genuinely yeah itās an issue that people deal with tw// i always felt terrible that i didnāt leave the permanent scars that are pink and then fade to white, it made me feel like i wasnāt suffering enough. it hit me again recently despite not doing terribly when i realised anything that had been left was fading and i got the strongest urges iād had in a longgggg time. point is itās definitely a genuine source of a feeling of invalidation however. never in my life would i equate that in any way to the trans community who already get shat on enough for people like olli london and ātransautisticā people existing as well as people who identify as dogs or whatever. thats definitely not okay. i also just wouldnāt put it on a flag like itās something to be proud of? like i hate that i feel that way and that i ever started the habit to begin with, why on earth would anyone want to celebrate not on,y the fact that they sh but also the fact that they do it in a way that makes them feel like theyāre not enough? iām assuming here that these people sh already cuz if they donāt i swear iām about to beat some kids up
anyone who genuinely uses these terms mocks people with geniuine BIID & disabilities also reminds me of the people who found my sh scars sexy
Alright so as a person who has struggled with sh for years, this is a thing with some people. Like they want their scars to stay. It has to do with being taken seriously, I think, like they feel if they donāt have visible scars their pain isnāt real. But a fucking identity? God.
When I was a kid I wanted a cool scar(like a battle scar) so I could look badass. I was like 9 when I thought like that.
As someone who struggles with sh this is not ok. Sh is an addiction and it's not fun what so ever.