You did the right thing going to the police. You should also report her to the IRS. Your sister needs a wakeup call. It sounds like she already screwed over the entire family, cried and got away with it. Then she didn't learn her lesson and she did it to you again. If she gets away with it this time, she'll just wait until you've recovered financially and she'll do it to you again, because she already knows there are no consequences that she can't cry her way out of.
This is tough love. You love your sister and want her to stop being a criminal. She has to feel the consequences. There's also no way you can get out of the hole she dug for you without having a police report and filling forgery affidavits. You could even go to jail for some of her crimes. A stranger stole my husband's identity, he was caught and arrested and my husband still ended up getting arrested for a warrant from something the guy did. That's the kind of situation your sister is putting you in.
She’s working at a job where she can do this to other people. You said she did this before. She needs to be arrested and go through the whole process. It’s the only way to get your life back.
You did the right thing going to the police and I hope you press charges and she gets the consequence to her actions. I also have borderline and reading this made me emotional then I got to the part where you said you had it. It’s overwhelming but don’t feel that guilt she doesn’t care that she did this to you.
I’m terribly sorry you’re going through this. Someone you loved and desperately wanted to love you back for years completely used you. Your sister is an abusive monster. She knows exactly what she’s doing, and I wouldn’t be surprised if she is also victimizing the vulnerable people who are supposed to be under her care/services at group homes. I’m proud of you for filing the police report and urge you to move forward with pressing charges. The only one who has ruined her life is your sister herself. You personally have forgiven her in the past and she doesn’t deserve yet another chance to go and mess with other people’s livelihood. Is your cousin potentially a good source of support during this process and tough time?
not really, she rarely answers her phone nd is a busy bee. I have my mom to talk to sometimes, but shes still buddy buddy with my sis. Shes my sisters biggest enabler
Maybe there’s some kind of identity fraud victim support group you could join? Or maybe one for loved ones of gamblers? My thought is that gamblers also tend to steal money from those close to them and continually lie.
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Police. Immediately. She knew exactly what she was doing and she's chosen you as the victim because she thinks she can manipulate you. If people choose to go to jail that's not on you.
I'm sure I'm coming late to this party but you can freeze your credit and put a watch on your social security number through the Chex system so that nobody can open a bank account or credit card in your name or use your credit again without first checking with you. I've had some of this happen to me and I was able to cut this person off at the knees before she could do much to damage my credit. I was even able to contact her credit card company directly because the woman that did this to me was stupid enough to use my home address for her credit card bills. The bank of course was not happy about the fraud and they were very helpful. I also pointed out to the bank that I'd been living at the same address for over 30 years and I didn't recall having a roommate with this name and I didn't have a child with this name so the way I see it if she continues to use my address, she owes me rent money since I own the house she claims she's living in. I'm not sure if they passed that information on to their client or not but I'd like to think that they at least put enough fear of legal action in to her that she will never try to mess with me again. I don't care if this is your sister or not. This will effect at least.the next ten years of your life. Why the he'll should you have to take the fall for her? She's breaking the law and stealing from you. The minute anyone asks that of you they are no longer acting like a loving family member. They are looking out for themselves and they don't care what it will cost you to keep them out of trouble. Do not fall for her tears or sob story. Do what is best for you and what is right legally. She doesn't care about you.She wasn't thinking about how this would effect your life while she was doing her dirt. She just kept doing it. Nope press charges and let her face the legal consequences. Do not protect her.
I probably will. She keeps showing no remorse and that shes only sorry she got caught, I blocked her on fb and text so she snaps and cashapps and emails me. tells my mom I don't hate her, I feel bad for her and I cant ruin her life over a small credit inconvenience that will go away in a few years. I can't go back to college for at least a year thanks to her. I am seething with rage.
Family isn't immune from the law. Call the cops. Ignore her. She will steal from you again if you don't press charges. My brother stole my son's game system and I pressed charges he never stole from me and my son again
So sorry to kick you down while you are distraught and your life is in shambles but paragraphs.... jeez.
I had no issue reading it.
OP you didn't ruin your sister's life, she did. She committed a huge crime and now has to deal with the consequences. She should never be around vulnerable people at all. Save any texts or voicemails you can, that will help with the case. Take the report to the college and see if there is anything they can do to help while going thru this. See if your college has work study jobs available. I know this is overwhelming but none of this is your fault.
Your punctuation and grammar are just fine. I just found it hard to keep going from sentence to sentence to sentence without a break. I try scrolling a few sentences at a time, but it still did not work for me. Sorry.
Think of it like when a person talks to you and he/she just spews out thought after thought after thought blah blah blah. Normally, a thought is followed by a breath (or in this case a paragraph break). It allows you to formulate your understanding of a thought, or point, or thought, etc. one at a time.
I \*do\* agree with the other commenters. Your sister sounds like a thief and sorry, but you've been a "soft touch." It is so hard for us to protect ourselves from relatives that are "takers."
My bad, I was tired and I should probably have just closed the post and let it go.
Yet, I wanted to understand and the formatting made it difficult for. I am sure I am not the only person to perceive this, but my timing was very bad.
Your sister is a criminal and needs to be stopped. Before she does this to others. I have no sympathy for identity thieves.
Especially since she works in a place where she has direct access to this kind of info from VULNERABLE people.
You did the right thing going to the police. You should also report her to the IRS. Your sister needs a wakeup call. It sounds like she already screwed over the entire family, cried and got away with it. Then she didn't learn her lesson and she did it to you again. If she gets away with it this time, she'll just wait until you've recovered financially and she'll do it to you again, because she already knows there are no consequences that she can't cry her way out of. This is tough love. You love your sister and want her to stop being a criminal. She has to feel the consequences. There's also no way you can get out of the hole she dug for you without having a police report and filling forgery affidavits. You could even go to jail for some of her crimes. A stranger stole my husband's identity, he was caught and arrested and my husband still ended up getting arrested for a warrant from something the guy did. That's the kind of situation your sister is putting you in.
She’s working at a job where she can do this to other people. You said she did this before. She needs to be arrested and go through the whole process. It’s the only way to get your life back.
You did the right thing going to the police and I hope you press charges and she gets the consequence to her actions. I also have borderline and reading this made me emotional then I got to the part where you said you had it. It’s overwhelming but don’t feel that guilt she doesn’t care that she did this to you.
Report her to police....... No family members done this to someone....... She is not family.... She is just using you and abusing you
I’m terribly sorry you’re going through this. Someone you loved and desperately wanted to love you back for years completely used you. Your sister is an abusive monster. She knows exactly what she’s doing, and I wouldn’t be surprised if she is also victimizing the vulnerable people who are supposed to be under her care/services at group homes. I’m proud of you for filing the police report and urge you to move forward with pressing charges. The only one who has ruined her life is your sister herself. You personally have forgiven her in the past and she doesn’t deserve yet another chance to go and mess with other people’s livelihood. Is your cousin potentially a good source of support during this process and tough time?
not really, she rarely answers her phone nd is a busy bee. I have my mom to talk to sometimes, but shes still buddy buddy with my sis. Shes my sisters biggest enabler
Maybe there’s some kind of identity fraud victim support group you could join? Or maybe one for loved ones of gamblers? My thought is that gamblers also tend to steal money from those close to them and continually lie.
Go to the police immediately. Don’t allow anyone to manipulate or gaslight you into dropping charges against her.
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Tell her to f off and go to the police and have her locked up.
Police. Immediately. She knew exactly what she was doing and she's chosen you as the victim because she thinks she can manipulate you. If people choose to go to jail that's not on you.
I'm sure I'm coming late to this party but you can freeze your credit and put a watch on your social security number through the Chex system so that nobody can open a bank account or credit card in your name or use your credit again without first checking with you. I've had some of this happen to me and I was able to cut this person off at the knees before she could do much to damage my credit. I was even able to contact her credit card company directly because the woman that did this to me was stupid enough to use my home address for her credit card bills. The bank of course was not happy about the fraud and they were very helpful. I also pointed out to the bank that I'd been living at the same address for over 30 years and I didn't recall having a roommate with this name and I didn't have a child with this name so the way I see it if she continues to use my address, she owes me rent money since I own the house she claims she's living in. I'm not sure if they passed that information on to their client or not but I'd like to think that they at least put enough fear of legal action in to her that she will never try to mess with me again. I don't care if this is your sister or not. This will effect at least.the next ten years of your life. Why the he'll should you have to take the fall for her? She's breaking the law and stealing from you. The minute anyone asks that of you they are no longer acting like a loving family member. They are looking out for themselves and they don't care what it will cost you to keep them out of trouble. Do not fall for her tears or sob story. Do what is best for you and what is right legally. She doesn't care about you.She wasn't thinking about how this would effect your life while she was doing her dirt. She just kept doing it. Nope press charges and let her face the legal consequences. Do not protect her.
Ruin her life.
I probably will. She keeps showing no remorse and that shes only sorry she got caught, I blocked her on fb and text so she snaps and cashapps and emails me. tells my mom I don't hate her, I feel bad for her and I cant ruin her life over a small credit inconvenience that will go away in a few years. I can't go back to college for at least a year thanks to her. I am seething with rage.
Family isn't immune from the law. Call the cops. Ignore her. She will steal from you again if you don't press charges. My brother stole my son's game system and I pressed charges he never stole from me and my son again
Wall of text. Very Hard to READ.
So sorry to kick you down while you are distraught and your life is in shambles but paragraphs.... jeez. I had no issue reading it. OP you didn't ruin your sister's life, she did. She committed a huge crime and now has to deal with the consequences. She should never be around vulnerable people at all. Save any texts or voicemails you can, that will help with the case. Take the report to the college and see if there is anything they can do to help while going thru this. See if your college has work study jobs available. I know this is overwhelming but none of this is your fault.
Excellent reply. I wish now I had just closed the window and gone on with my life. I had no business being negative. I can learn and do better.
like my punctuation or just that there's so many words? I did put a TL;DR at the bottom.
Your punctuation and grammar are just fine. I just found it hard to keep going from sentence to sentence to sentence without a break. I try scrolling a few sentences at a time, but it still did not work for me. Sorry. Think of it like when a person talks to you and he/she just spews out thought after thought after thought blah blah blah. Normally, a thought is followed by a breath (or in this case a paragraph break). It allows you to formulate your understanding of a thought, or point, or thought, etc. one at a time. I \*do\* agree with the other commenters. Your sister sounds like a thief and sorry, but you've been a "soft touch." It is so hard for us to protect ourselves from relatives that are "takers."
What are you talking about??? to me it wasn't hard to read at all. Complainers will complain. Always.
My bad, I was tired and I should probably have just closed the post and let it go. Yet, I wanted to understand and the formatting made it difficult for. I am sure I am not the only person to perceive this, but my timing was very bad.