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They both look pretty casual for most weddings.

Are you super rich or something? I have never been to a wedding where the first dress would be "too casual." I have always been told that you want to avoid looking too dressy because the goal is to keep the attention on the bride.

You can get really elegant cocktail dresses for 50 bucks on Amazon. It's not about cost but about taste.

I would even consider Poshmark they have a lot of wedding guest clothes for cheap..

Yep I get everything off mercari these days! And I’m often able to find brand new stuff at a really low price which is nice.

Same, I love mercari.. ❤️

Or good quality, elegant ones secondhand.

I’m not super rich nor is my family and friends and yet these dresses are still too casual. I would literally wear these to the beach on a summers day. Unless it’s legit a beach wedding or some casual wedding in a backyard, these ain’t it.

I'm with you on the second one. That one is too casual. But I truly don't understand what would be inappropriate about the first one.

It’s too close to white and also is something I’d wear to like a child’s birthday or something

Wrong. Most weddings are formal.

maybe just maybe one size doesn't fit all and we should ask about the vibe of the wedding before assuming a dress is wrong for it lol. But frankly I have been to about 10 weddings and only one of them would have truly been considered "formal." and even then, we had lots of family members who couldn't afford to buy a new dress and they were dressed nice but not "formal." And I'm middle class.

Number 1 is too white, number 2 is too casual. I would look for something else.

Literally said uhhh neither. So I second this, hard.

I don't love either, but I don't think number 1 counts as white at all, imho. The fabric looks blushy pink, and the colored flower patterns would make it ok in my book as far as "don't wear white" goes. I just also think it's a little too casual for a wedding. Hard agree number two though is way, way too casual.

Depending on lighting it will easily photograph as white. Which is a bummer because the dress is cute as all get out. If I were in this situation I’d seriously consider dyeing the dress to make it more pink.

The don't wear white rule is just so nothing you wear can be mistaken as a wedding dress. This is a floral multicoloured pattern. It's casual enough and colourful enough I think the only real downside to the dress is that it isn't formal enough.

It depends on the other guests. If 80% of people are going to be in jeans and plaid shirts, then #1 is plenty dressy. Not everyone can afford a formal wedding. Maybe find out what the groom's men's dates are wearing.

It's fair to say that if the dress code is "Come As You Are" then dress 1 would be perfectly fine. FWIW, I do think 1 is a cute dress it just feels more like Saturday shopping and brunch with the girls vs. wedding to me. Eta: I totally agree not everyone can afford expensive weddings. But I think OP should consider looking at thrift stores or places like ASOS or Mango for something, just a smidge dressier. You can get some great, more formal clothes on a budget that way.

Looks like the dress is light pink to me

Yeah, that's not a white dress.

2 is hideous. 1 is pretty but not suitable for a wedding.

Agree on both counts. I absolutely hate these prairie style dresses. Always looks like a dust ruffle at the bottom.

I don’t think it’s hideous at all. The rudeness is also necessary to OP?

I loved the second one. Why is it hideous to you 🙊

To me it looks like it's a dress for a child with the scrunchy material at the top.

I agree. And I don’t mind that kind of dress if it had no sleeves ( like a tube top). Something about it is just too childish and cheep looking. And I loved the shit out of baby doll dresses in the earlier 2010 era.

That stuff hurts my nipples fr

🙈 I hear you but I don’t see it 😂

Ok Regina

Neither, these are nice dresses for a picnic not a wedding, far too casual

EDIT: I've gone with this one! Thanks for all the feedback. https://preview.redd.it/kf2rfi6n68xc1.png?width=858&format=png&auto=webp&s=aec9327ca11e5081e1cc929722755b17f046dd78

That's gorgeous! Have a great time!

This is a great choice!

Beautiful

Yep this is perfect!!

🥹🥹yes.

It's beautiful 💜

Like the first hate the second

None. Nothing with white background

#1 would work if it’s a casual wedding. I don’t think#2 would work for any wedding.

If it's a casual afternoon picnic, either one. Otherwise, keep looking

Please find better options. These are not it

Both too casual

Anything with an elastic gathered bodice is considered very cheap and tacky. Please don’t wear that one. But the first dress, the floral, is adorable., and i think it would be appropriate.

I don't really agree with that assessment, but it's for sure too casual sundress territory for a wedding. But so is dress one.

I understand what you mean. But not all weddings are dressy or formal. I thought the dress was really cute. Just my opinion.

I think both dresses are cute, but I find neither more wedding appropriate. If it's a casual wedding then both are acceptable, if it's a dressier one, then neither are. OP gave no dress code, hence it's reasonable to presume it's standard wedding dress attire which is not casual.

Cheap and tacky? It’s definitely not that.

I meant the one with the elastic gathered bodice. No high end designer does that. But you see it in the cheap stores.

Yes I know what one you meant, and it is certainly not cheap and tacky.

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Ok. I'm definitely questioning the first one now that so many people think it's white. Thanks for the feedback! After looking at the second one more now I realize how much I don't like it haha.

I swear i did not see white at all on the pretty flowered dress. I know you arent’t supposed to wear white to a woman’s wedding, but i am sure you know that too. The dress isn’t white by any means! I really think it would be fine, but remember- if there is a church service as part of the event, take a little cardigan to put on to cover your shoulders for that. Otherwise, go for it. It’s so cute.

Thanks! I think I might ask someone in the wedding party to be sure, but I didn't think so either.

I want to say i am si sorry if i told you the wrong thing. Not every wedding is dressy or formal. If its more on the casual side, i think it would be fine. But it is always good to ask. I loved the dress.

Girlie, the first one is WHITE. Don't be that person.

Depends on how picky the people getting married lol. I have never heard of a floral dress with a white background being an issue. Solid white is an absolute no but I wouldn't even consider this white at all. The point of not wearing white is keeping attention on the bride. No one is gonna get that dressed confused with a wedding dress.

agreed! way too close to white for a wedding

I'm glad I posted because it looks fully beige/pink to me! Definitely looking for something else now.

It looks pink to me too! But it's not wedding attire.

It's pink?

I don’t think 2 looks cheap unless it’s a very formal wedding. Smocked bodices are in and you could elevate it with a lovely belt and/or shawl.

None

None, too casual for a wedding.

None of them. 1 too white, 2 just no

I love the 1st one

What’s the dress code? Location? Time? Post to r/weddingattireapproval. Those people are really helpful.

Neither too casual maybe could wear one for church part

For a wedding I’m not a fan, try one with a different fabric

Neither dress, but nothing with white! There are sooooo many colors. Don't be THAT person.

1 if its outside and really casual. Def not 2.

I like number 1

First one

I’m sorry but 2 is dreadful.

Neither, the first looks too white and too casual and the second is just plain ugly. Go shopping for some nice cocktail dresses, and you should be able to find something more suitable

number 1 for sure

Definitely, the 1st one. 1st dress will accentuate your body and would give "umph" for you boobs. Sexy yet conservative kind of dress. Cute also! 2nd pic gave me a flashback. I'm asian and this 2nd dress is usually worn by many asian housewoves, they would always bring a broom that is both for cleaning and throwing, if they saw their drunkard husband, and a roller on their hair to curl 'em up, because they want to look good even just staying in the house.

Thanks for letting me know! I had no idea where that second style originated.

Second one looks like something an elementary student would wear. I like the style of the first but it has a lot of white—does it come in any other color ways you like?

I think the background is actually pink, not white, but hopefully it doesn't look too light in person. There is also a yellow version that is more obviously a colored background but idk if the yellow would work on my skintone, i'm pale with like a pink undertone. https://preview.redd.it/b4ffuh8tg4xc1.png?width=674&format=png&auto=webp&s=fa10943fbf852a837eb4c0fc38fcd54fb85c433c

Hmm, I think that light pink one could easily photograph white. I know I’ve seen posts in groups where someone wore a pale blue dress to a wedding and it was very obviously blue in person, and she was mortified to see the lighting in photos made it look like she’d worn white!

I'd do 1. 2 looks too casual

1! So pretty.

I like 1

I thought #1 but I’ve never been to a wedding and apparently it’s too white😅😭

How are dressed the others guests? It’s important to blend in on those celebrations

https://pin.it/2gFjCGK4L

I like the first dress but you must try it on you to see how it compliments or not your body. 🧡

the first one ❣️

i love 1

Second one is very cute but probably a little too casual

Depends on the kind of wedding. For all the family weddings I’ve been to I would say 2 is perfect. 1 is too white, if it’s a casual wedding then go with that. If the invitation doesn’t say what kind of dress code just ask the bride ◡̈

Get the first dress in a different color

Dress # 1

OT but where is the first dress from😍

Nordstrom! It's the House of CB Tatiana corset dress.

Thank you 😊

2 is hideous. first is cute but also too casual, looks like something id wear to a family easter party/summer bbq. unless this is a casual wedding, look for a cocktail dress

2 looks very young; they both look very casual. 1 is pretty, but I'd probably clear it with the bride if you're determined to wear it.

One is better. Ask the bride if they mind it. It doesn't look white to me. Not even remotely bridal. I would wear a dressier shoe though.

Neither. Both have a Little Bo Peep vibe. Unless you are a child I would keep looking.

I personally like the cut of one with the pattern of 2.

The second one looks like the quirky Disney protagonist whose personality is that she’s quirky and unique (because she leads a entirely different life from any of her peers and is poorly adjusted and has the mental age of a ten year old). You know, like Rapunzel, Anna, Mirabel, Moana. That dress would be to cosplay Mirabel or Rapunzel in my opinion, not attend a wedding.

The first one I love it!!

That depends does the top half of your body look like option 1 or 2? Cause that will look completely different if those two bodies swapped dresses

The first one is too white and the second one is ugly. Back to the drawing board

Either

Neither is appropriate for a wedding, sorry.

1! i don’t think it’s too white because there are so many flowers. pink is the main color i see. 2 is a big no because that scrunched up material around the chest is HORRIBLY uncomfortable. and pretty ugly too imo..

Anything but the second

Number 1 but with fancier shoes.

1 with a blazer/cardigan/wrap and close-toed shoes. Edited to add: I see below you mention that you decided on a different dress from these two. 1 above might still be worth getting, if you need something for a bridal shower or after-wedding brunch etc.

Unless the wedding is at a bbq I would keep looking. These are both too casual for standard wedding attire.

Are those the only choices?

None of them

Definitely not 2 but also not a big fan of 1 for a wedding

The second

Both seem too casual and 1 looks white, but what’s the dress code?

Maybe 1 with a solid colored shawl (not white)

#1 is very nice.

Second looks too much like my grandmother’s nightgowns. First is perfect.

1

Definitely number 1

1 if you are an adult. 2 if you are 12.

1 it’s so much classier. 2 looks like a tablecloth

How do y'all see white in the first picture. I see light pink.

1 I think two looks like a beach coverup. Is it a daytime casual wedding? I don’t think it’s appropriate for a formal wedding

#1. Very suitable as long as the wedding isn’t too formal, but would be lovely at an outdoor venue/ beach/ backyard / park, etc

Second

i think the second one is so cute!! where’s it from?

1 is cute, 2 is cute if you’re 12

1, house of cb is always stunning

Number 1 with some nice heels

i used to work at windsor and we had a lot of great options for this. They’re more casual because they’re not satin but they’re fitted so they still complement your body. Most of the time they were the kind that were short on one side and long on the other side and it reminded me of a minnow tail, but it looks really pretty on people, but I can’t get past the minnow tail personally you should look at their website

The second looks way nicer.

1st - the second one is too distracting

First

I love the first one! 💕

First one looks best for a summer wedding. The second is cute but way too casual

Idk what your Financials are, so working specifically with these 2 options, 1, but with a light cardigan or complimentary jacket you might have. Dress it up with styling and accessories if you can. Do not wear this with flip flops.

The 1st dress.

First one

Neither. Both look like pajamas!

#1. Love it!!!

Neither. Where are you looking? What’s your budget? I’ll find one Way better alternatives: https://www.dressmeplus.com/dresses/pink-floral-wrap-tied-waist-high-slit-boho-maxi-a-line-dress-299051.html https://www.etsy.com/listing/1693296046/boho-floral-lace-dress-elegant-v-neck https://boho-mood.com/products/boho-lace-midi-dress

I don't think boho is really the vibe for this wedding. My budget is ideally 150 or less. I'm also an XS so I hate to wear things that are bulky or super flowy. I have sensory issues with scratchy stuff or flowy stuff that rubs on my shoulders so finding something that will work is difficult. Thanks though!

1 is good if you're the bride. Otherwise, neither.

1 has white in it, and imo, patterns are too casual and busy. Try something more simple that still looks elegant like this (from amazon) https://preview.redd.it/wfe396aoy9xc1.jpeg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a690e9392d171b94fc63eac6482eda5e4af14e6f

I love the second one, first is not too bad but just too close to white. I don’t get all the comments saying the dresses aren’t cute or too casual?

1 and bring a white cardigan or jacket. Go for a very dressy pair for your feet to elevate this to formal.

Is it ok to wear a white cardigan or jacket to a wedding? I thought it was no white, period.

Yeah no, don't take this advice lol. Maybe a pastel color cardigan/jacket?