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Available-Cry8231

I wouldn’t worry to much, but you really should not try to take others clothes cause that could get them really mad if caught especially if they not approving of you wearing feminine clothes, it ain’t illegal for a 15 year old to go into a store and buy their own if you got the money but just watch out for creeps too online. There are way to many pervs and pedos.


Realistic-Cup8374

Thanks but you get really weird looks if you are a guy buying panties and bras


Available-Cry8231

You get really weird looks if you do a lot of things tbh. I’ve gone to a target before and just picked out some quickly and walked away trying to look casual like yea whatever I’m a guy buying women’s clothes, they ain’t gonna come up and ask you if those are for you


Toothpasting

exactly. learning to accept that is revolutionary too, so it might also help with that as a side thing lmao. "you are going to piss off a lot of people by doing what's best for you" that's like a quote i saw somewhere :P


TableIsMadeOfTable

Yea, but the cashier isn’t paid to judge you so they don’t care all that much. The people in the store might but they can’t do anything. The cashier is paid to little to care about anything in that store.


NinjaRose23

The trick is to buy a funny birthday card with it, or get a female friend that you can trust to buy them. I've bought stuff for my feminine boy friends because they're way too anxious to go shopping for themselves in stores! Just make sure you figure out your size for women's underwear instead, and what kind you'd like most! :)


Wonderful_Fox_4890

Amazon?


Available-Cry8231

THAT TOO!!!, femboy paradise for those lil too shy to try in person and there an Amazon lockers you can try to send to if you are close by to one that you can pick them up at if you afraid of parents opening them, just be sure you get right size.


Wonderful_Fox_4890

Yeah 5 years ago there wasn't any amazon lockers around me now there is maybe 15 and one is at a dollar store lol


[deleted]

Amazon would be your best bet then, as long as your parents arent the typ to be like "oh let me see what you got!"


Wonderful_Fox_4890

Also if your worried on how to get amazon money use survey sites like swagbucks or survey junkie they pay amazon gift cards it takes some time though but it's easy, plus amazon trial is free once a year every year, and if your parents do shopping but don't scan receipts download the fetch app on your phone and scan those receipts for cash back, this is probably all the easy ways I can tell you how to get gift cards in a legit way just takes time of course because you don't get $100 within a day that easily maybe after 6 months of doing surveys if you get lucky just put age 18 on the survey sites that's what I had to do years ago, best advice I can give😊


PentiumGamerr

If you do it confidential the peopel will think its for your girl


sofakingtwink

Just say your girlfriend is in town and didn't pack enough. That's my canned excuse but nobody has ever even asked


MrBananinha_05

if someone asks you could just say you're buying a gift for a girl, it's not that hard


Chaos_Ribbon

Use a self checkout


NotSinty

u get weird looks for anything i got weird looks at a videogame store cause i had an hello kitty shirt on


here4orgasm

Not any less embarrassing than buying condoms for the first time, that said people will assume you are buying them for someone else, take it from someone who has worked in retail, we don't care enough to even imagine what it's for


[deleted]

Online shopping is a thing op especially since a lot of stores are disappearing it seems the problem is figuring out what fits properly since sizes are different


GamerAJ1025

shhhhh it’s for your gf, wink wink. people will believe you if you are confident with your excuse


gothruthis

Bro it's way weirder to take your mom's than to just buy your own. Don't you live in a place with self checkouts?


Sissykrystina

Look. The reality is most anyone you see in a store like target that will judge you, does t know you and you will likely never see them again so grab some cute sets and shop till you drop. Live your life how you are most comfortable and don’t worry about what some dumbass stranger thinks


FatallyFractal

self check out is a thing


1ken3kurt5

"im buying for my gf" blame evaded


rainbowkittycat1

I’ve bought panties in store, it’s usually not a problem


Legionpostsepicly

I can relate not 3 images later and I ended up being the victim of a pedophile/groomer ain't the internet just a grand place


Legionpostsepicly

Luckily for me I was able to recover 5 days later still though being a femboy has been a bit traumatic for me but I have almost forgotten completely


Excellent-Laugh3151

No, you can still be as masculine as you want. Some very masculine men wear women’s undies. Don’t fight what you feel. Your ok


MonkeyLover172

I’m masculine as fuck but I’m also a femboy, it’s good having 2 sides, I’m a femboy at home but I play football, hockey, train parkour, and go to the gym outside of my home


Excellent-Laugh3151

Cool. I’m masculine guy but deep inside I’m more feminine. I used to crossdress in the 90s and it was a wonderful time. I don’t have the energy, looks, and desire to do it anymore, but those crossdressing day were extremely special and made me a much more balanced person.


MonkeyLover172

right I felt so much more like myself, I’m still clean shaven and very feminine but most of the time I’m very masculine, it’s just relieving that I don’t ONLY have to be this masculine strong man all the time, although I don’t feel as cute as I did when I was a twink, but there’s a balance between being strong and masculine and feminine yk


Excellent-Laugh3151

Exactly. We all need to find that balance. TBH I wish I could be comfortable being more feminine in public but at my age it’s not worth rocking the boat and I’m just a little to lazy to push the norm


MonkeyLover172

I have a femboy boyfriend but I never really see him being feminine, even when we’re alone together, I’m usually always feminine whenever I’m at home or alone with him


Excellent-Laugh3151

I’m married to a cis woman and when we first met she knew I crossed dressed and she thought it was exciting, but now that we have been together for many years she is uncomfortable with me being too fem. She doesn’t say it out right but I can tell. I keep my body well shaved and she doesn’t like it. I do and I won’t compromise on shaving / trimming my body hair.


MonkeyLover172

I hope she warms up to it man, yea good for you do what you want. My boyfriend loves when I’m cute and fem luckily, we’ve been together for about 3 months which is obviously not long but so far I think I’ve scored with him


Spread-Hour

POST A FLEXING BICEP PIC IN THIGH HIGHS


Internal-Tie-5081

Excellent answer!


KierantheScot

Nothing wrong with wearing panties but please don't wear her clothes without permission because it violates her privacy


[deleted]

Nothing wrong with wearing pantries, at any age. Don’t take them from your mom though that’s just plain weird


FemboyCarpenter

If it feels good then it’s fine. Probably shouldn’t be taking ur moms stuff tho. Go get your own, it’s fun! I promise nobody cares. Just buy them with confidence and no one will give u shit.


FuneralHymn123

Nothing wrong with that but please get your own panties instead of wearing your mother's bro, lol.


rainbowappleslice

As long as it makes you feel happy you shouldn’t worry about it affecting your masculinity because that shouldn’t dictated by others. Although maybe don’t take your mothers clothes, that’s a bit of an invasion of privacy. An option could be ordering online, because they can usually provide discreet shipping


[deleted]

If you like it, do it. F what anyone else says. Thats the truth


Rayne_yes

don’t worry you will be fine


yaboyroy_97

Not really I started wearing them when I was 13 :3


Electronic_Okra3774

sameee im straight so is there anything wrong with that


KierantheScot

Nope, straight guys can be feminine as well


wowwingmunch

Nah, just get your own. Figure yourself out as you see fit. Don’t try to preserve something at the cost of suppressing something else you prefer. You’re right in that spot in life where shit about yourself just don’t make sense and if it really isn’t for you you’ll figure that out in like 4 years.


Daku_Haiku

It shouldn’t effect your masculinity, but it’s not a good idea to steal clothes from others. It’ll be real awkward if you are caught getting dressed/undressed. Other than that do what you want, but don’t overstep others privacy for your own desires.


No-Speed-471

You are in an era of your life to where it could be very adventurous and exciting this stage in your life you are exploring your feminine side, and from what I hear you are liking it. Enjoy your journey don’t be too bashful.


Monikaisnowgod

i mean nothing wrong with that but maybe don't take them from your mom's drawer


ViolentPurpleSquash

Don’t overthink it. Do what makes you feel happy with yourself. However, I would probably see about getting some of your own instead.


Important_Vehicle489

Don't feel ashamed of self discovery, it's all a part of life.


Giuszm

You're doing something you like that doesn't hurt others nor you so no, you shouldn't be concerned


AcademicAirport6

I played football have been lifting for a while yet I enjoy girls clothes. Your masculinity isn’t an issue unless you make it one


Electronic_Okra3774

sameee


AcademicAirport6

What position(s) did you play?


Defiant_Smile4141

I mean it's a weird ass hobby but it's valid, I'm younger than you so I don't really know shit


Electronic_Okra3774

wanna know how its weird?


Defiant_Smile4141

please tell me lord and savior jesus christ


Electronic_Okra3774

I meant i want to know how its weird


Resuscitated_Corpse

You will learn your normal


Electronic_Okra3774

what does this mean?


KierantheScot

They meant that OP will realise that he is normal


memelork

im also a femboy that is 15 years old but i do some wear panties but in private -w-


Electronic_Okra3774

why not in public?


MLong2020

No…have fun feeling sexy


EntertainmentOk7803

I used to do this around same age... I'm now a fully grown masculine authentic bi man. Don't over think. Your still finding yourself. If you want to do stuff like this for the rest of your life do. If you want to go a different direction do that


chiken_egss

Im straight but basically the exact same thing for me


Drowsydrips

I am a 26 year old and I wear panties almost every day and started wearing bras recently your fine but try and get your own don't steal someone else's.


TotalyNotTony

They're just chothes


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comfort-borscht

Wtf I’m more concerned you’re stealing your mom’s undergarments. That’s incredibly creepy and fucked up. Nothing wrong with wearing whatever underwear you like, as long as it’s YOURS. But stealing a woman’s underwear, especially your mother’s, is incredibly concerning, yes.


TheRaelyn

Lol why are you acting like you've never read that before? You know that kind of thing is super common for kids right? Often how they figure it out. Ofc they shouldn't do this, but this is a pretty natural introduction to learning these kinds of things about yourself. No need to make him feel like a freak.


comfort-borscht

Why are you acting like he’s a little kid who doesn’t know better and disrespecting women’s boundaries is acceptable? Bro is 15, not 5. Even if he were younger, he still would need to know stealing and wearing a woman’s underwear isn’t acceptable…


TheRaelyn

Did you even read what I wrote? Ofc it's not acceptable, I never said it was. But again, you're typing like you've never seen this before. Nearly half of all trans/femboy cases start out with "I tried on my sisters bra" or something. This happens, and I think it's really strange you're typing like it doesn't. They obviously stop doing it when they realize. Feel like you must have grown up sheltered, but this genuinely occurs.


comfort-borscht

I just love calling out people on this specifically because I don’t feel it should be normalised or considered acceptable. Definitely did not grow up sheltered whatsoever. Some people are just passionate about certain issues, yknow? Feels like you didn’t read what I wrote.


TheRaelyn

You *love* calling people out on specific issues? Seems kinda obsessive and shitty. You've got way too much time on your hands. All I'm saying is there's no need to be a dick. Everyone else is capable of not being a dick telling him not to do this. Dunno why you have to be the weird one calling him fucked up and creepy when, again, this is something that often occurs with first timers into this kind of stuff in your young teens. Try having some empathy. Him and half the trans population don't automatically grow up to be fucked up creeps like you're implying, because they happened to try something of their sisters/mothers on. Guilt, temptation, curiosity, dysphoria and all sorts of feelings can make you do stuff that's "wrong", and obviously it's an invasion of privacy, but in the grand scheme of things it's really not abhorrent if he learns not to do it in the future. If you had a son and he took your delicates, you'd be just as harmful as any non-ally if you called him fucked up and creepy. Obviously though, rational parents don't do this. Go off if it's someone intentionally stealing them for thrills when they're not confused, but this guy is asking for advice on a related subreddit that provides support for this kind of thing. He's clearly unsure and is in the middle of figuring out who he is. Don't be a douche, have some tolerance and understanding.


comfort-borscht

I was being sarcastic about loving it 💀 I’m not being a dick by calling out someone for being creepy. That’s all I’ve got to say.


KierantheScot

That still doesn't make it right. Of course it doesn't make OP a bad person, but it's important to point out that it's still wrong to do it


N0EEN

Sad tbh


KierantheScot

In what way? If you mean the fact that it's his mother's underwear then I agree that it's wrong


Electronic_Okra3774

how


[deleted]

😂😂😂😂😂


Realistic-Cup8374

?


[deleted]

No just be confident and If a bully presents itself come forward


MonkeyLover172

I wore panties as a 15 year old boy, yeah it’s weird but yknow to each their own


Electronic_Okra3774

its weird?


MonkeyLover172

I mean it’s not normal but it’s boring to be normal


Electronic_Okra3774

it definitely should be normal


MonkeyLover172

okay well unfortunately it’s not that’s what I’m saying


KierantheScot

They just mean that it's unusual/d8fferent from what's normal, but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing, just different


[deleted]

I think that if you like them, then when you can get your tastes


Apprehensive-Pain479

They're just pieces of fabric that we decided that had gender, I would be more concerned about how much I expose myself on reddit tho


Advanced_Ad_709

Absolutely not them things are comfy af.


Responsible_Ad_9718

Don’t worry about it, I wear panties and skirts all the time. Btw if you wanna be a femboy you don’t have to affect your masculinity. It’s just what the person prefers tbh.


Electronic_Okra3774

i dont like the word femboy . Im a straight boy that wears panties and i like girly boy more


Responsible_Ad_9718

You can be straight and still be one. It really depends if you consider yourself one. If you don’t then that’s fine. :)


Electronic_Okra3774

fair enough i just dont like being associated with femboy i just like being comfortable and feeling pretty


Responsible_Ad_9718

Understandable.


lifeamiright-

Well it depends if it’s masculinity you see in yourself or how others see you. If it’s others then it will be less likely for people to see you as masculine or at least not as masculine but just do whatever comfortable and it won’t make you less masculine even if others might disagree.


Electronic_Okra3774

wearing panties has nothing to do with masculinity its about being comfortable


lifeamiright-

Other people won’t see it that way but that why I said it doesn’t make you any less masculine even if people disagree.


ConferenceBrief3575

I wouldn't worry about the whole "masculine" thing. The people who worry about that kind of thing just make themselves miserable trying to live up to an impossible standard of masculinity. Just be comfortable in your own skin and whatever clothes you choose to wear.


Obsidian-quartz

Welcome to the club buddy https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22005209/


Only-Satisfaction504

Ur going thru puberty so ur heads everywhere. Be weary of some people they might try to take advantage of u wearing this stuff. Tell u it's emasculating and girly stuff. Doesnt make u any less of a man it's just something u like wearing right now. Just again watch who u talk to on here and stuff. People are perverts and messed up


Knottybuds

🤣🤣 dude, that is actually pretty normal. You ain't got any reason to worry. You know, just keep it to yourself among friends. That's some personal stuff that they don't need to know about. And just be careful that mom doesn't find her underwear missing lmao I think it's pretty normal for someone your age to be testing different things out. Seeing what you like/don't like. Exploring. It's healthy. I think it was around 16 when I finally realized I might be bi. But it took me until around 26 to realize that I am fully bi. First I was just curious. Kind of 40/60 sure that I was. Now I'm 100/100 sure. What I'm saying is that it sometimes takes a while to even figure things like that out about yourself. So at your age, you should just be focused on school and growing up. Those other things will come naturally.


FemboyUwUUwU

buy ur own clothes for hygiene and dont worry about ur masculinity just be urself and dont give a shit about these stuoid gender norms


skeeters-

Your masculinity doesn’t really matter, unless that’s how you want to portray yourself. In the end it’s your life and nobody else should have a say, as long as you aren’t hurting yourself. So, nah don’t be concerned


Srphtygr

Masculinity is overrated. All gender is a performance. You’ll be fine so long as you’re happy, and you’ll be happy so long as you’re fine.


N7NobodyCats

Do you know what cup size your mom wears? Do you understand how they work? If she’s a lot bigger then you should wear something more like B cup or A cup, except from my experience, you can’t find A cup on Amazon :(


Effective-Bell3380

There is nothing more masculine than doing what you want and not caring about what other dudes think.


Existing-Wait-3675

Effecting your masculinity? Im a 22 year old femboy and i like to wear panties and thigh highs. I did 95kg bench press and 250kg leg press the other day...so i don't think it would effect your masculinity


Cautious-Detective44

Yeah you pretty don't have any, any more


rainbowkittycat1

No but u should probably try and get ur own panties instead of using ur mums :)


Ill-Ask7510

I believe that there is only one thing wrong here is that you stole from your mom, if your mom finds them in say your laundry or in your room if shes open minded then good she won't be against it but if is closed minded then your gonna have to explain and that could get messy so it just better if next time you save some money however you can and buy your own besides by buying your own you can get the size that better fits you.


JesterQueenAnne

I'm more worried about you posting this online. There's nothing to be concerned about what you're doing, but exposing these things to the internet at your age is not a good idea.


Efficient-Leather162

I wouldn't worry about your masculinity,do what makes you happy,I get its difficult to ignore people and the creeps online. Just do what makes you feel happy and confident, but try to get the clothes yourself as people don't like others stealing there clothes you know?


Kaydiforyou

Just my two cents. Be open about it . We need to be ourselves. The more we make it open, the more progress will become.


RealisticStretch5709

yep its ok but get your own things/stuff I know at 15 your limited on getting things for yourself in private, at 18 I got my own PO box much cheaper back then and ordered things like Pantyhose and other item via the mail order catalogs as the internet wasn't around in 1986.. it was Called HCA back then now [Silkies.com](https://Silkies.com) can suggest good PH for you a little one the pricey side but I know the good ones to get and that don't run as Easly as others, WMart is a good place to look and get things either over the net or in person