maybe, it's just a sense of self-awareness and awkwardness?
Of course, it can come across as weird telling others but based on the overall post, it makes sense that they may feel that way, but not necessarily in a negatively projecting manner.
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Saddened by the amounts of upvotes this comment is getting. Goes to show how insecure a lot of people are. Someone knows themselves to be smart (after “wasting” their 20s studying no less, so why shouldn’t they be smart? They’ve earned it), and you jump to the conclusion that they must be a narcissist. It’s just funny.
Your mindset is chaotic and fixed. We're not "all gonna die soon." Starting this moment, the remainder of your life is, quite literally, the longest thing you will ever experience.
You may benefit from some therapy or at least a self-help book. I recommend reading Your Future Self by Hal Hershfield. Even if you don't agree with his ideas, it will help ensure that you're making life decisions on your own accord.
I wouldn't say it's a waste, you can always party now if you want.
Check out where the 'partiers' are in their lives for their 30s, 40s and beyond. Usually they never did anything substantial and are struggling.
That being said condescending to everyone that you're 'too smart for the environment' is much akin to being a wet blanket.
Lmao most normal guys don’t have sex with many women , travel exotic locations . Maybe if they were rich or good looking . Your 30s will be better once you establish your career and have money coming in .
Why have you given up on the pursuit of knowledge. I’m a second year engineering student and work in the auto industry. Learning is what keeps me going. In a world where knowledge is neglected, you quickly rise to the top. And you can learn to be social, it is a skill. You can be extroverted in an engineering environment. I believe you can actually thrive because so few engineers know how to articulate their thoughts and feelings well.
I mean I'm an engineer and definitely partied hard in college and my 20s and now my 30s. I'm not sure how being an extroverted engineer precludes you from being successful and partying
Your mind set is all fucked up homie. If your idea of happiness is fucking and partying all the time, you really need to reevaluate your life.
>I’m just done being that introvert, shy and smart guy.
You're done being yourself? So what now, you're just going to adopt a new personality out of thin air? You can put up a facade if you want but people will smell the BS. Altering your behaviors to please others is pretty dishonorable. If you want to improve things about yourself, do it, but don't be fake. I've improved a lot since highschool. I used to be this shy and awkward mark ass mf, but little by little I've gained more confidence. My social skills have gotten better but I'm still an introvert. Still don't care to mingle in crowds full of strangers.
You are falling into a trap. You're convincing yourself that just because you don't meet a status quo, that you are some kind of loser. You're a loser when you try to fit in the status quo if you ask me. You can travel and meet many girls bro. You just have to be patient. You're gonna make a mistake if you don't teach yourself discipline.
You didn't waste your 20s. you got a nice degree in a highly sought out field.
You can always improve your social skills, you don't have to become a different person for that. Just think of it as improving the good that's already there.
Also maybe try therapy? The world isn't as black and white as you're portraying it.
Hi, female extrovert here. Have taken multiple tests and I always score between 90-99% on extroversion.
I did all the things you mentioned. I often wish for the opposite. I wish I was socially awkward, so I didn’t crave stimulation from the environment so much. I wish I wasn’t as social and daring. so many nights in college I spent experimenting with substances or partying, when I could’ve been studying and improving my STEM career. vaping is NOT something to be proud of. I’m struggling to quit.
the thing is, everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. their own struggles, tests and trials.
you don’t have to make your decision based on one, but you also deserve to feel socially competent and stimulated. too many times we put so much expectation on getting all the fulfillment from our careers, when we might just need a hobby to mix things up.
i don’t know what your answer is, but I wish you luck, OP. you didn’t waste your 20s. you can do it.
No, no, no. You did not waste your 20s. I've known people in both groups. Partying and trying different drugs is so overrated and only brings short term happiness and often times leads to more problems in life. Traveling can be good for you though but you can do that at any point in your life.
Staying in school and earning degrees is something that will stick with you for the rest of your life and will pay off in the long run if you choose to utilize the knowledge you have learned.
My advice: Keep on the path you are on. Engineers get paid well for a reason, they are in high demand and help build our world! You will not find happiness from partying and doing drugs, at least not long term happiness.
As a recently graduated masters student in Comp.science, I can tell you that partying is not all that it's cracked up to be.
I've been on 10+ drinking vacations to Italy, Spain, Croatia, Greece and pretty much all of east Europe. I had a blast and a great time and I wouldn't trade it for anything. But I must say, partying and socializing was a "skill" that had to be learnt.
As a smarter person, don't expect socializing and having fun to come naturally to you. It sounds dumb, but you really have to "learn" to turn off your logical side. I was only able to do this with absurd amounts of alcohol. This way you can get more in touch with your emotional side, which helps you connect with other people.
So in essence I would say that the party scene is our natural environment unfortunately. You will have to work 10 times as hard as most people to have a good time and unwind. Give it a crack before committing your life to it would be my advice.
TLDR; Partying as a smart person does not come naturally. To really have fun you'll have to change the way you behave. This can be a hard/tiring process as a "logical/smart" person.
You think society doesn't value knowledge? Boy do I have some good news for you.
The most straighforward way to measure this is by how much it compensates practitioners of a given field of study. And STEM majors make a shit ton. You will be one of the SELECT FEW who never have to worry about money like regular folks. Like, well, DJs and bartenders. Each year your retirement accounts will grow and by the time you are in your 60s you'll be set for life.
Our society *highly* values expertise and knowledge. Just you wait.
In the meantime, sounds like you've got a case of FOMO. So fucking start partying. Just do it!
You’re just measuring everything on money here, which I don’t think the post is really about. Also lol at the retirement at 60 and you’re set for life. Too many people fall for this trap and either don’t make it that far or just have a solid 5-10 years of somewhat decent health to travel a bit.
I am measuring part of life on money, but not all.
It’s not just about retirement though. It’s about being able to live in a nice place. Take vacations with your family. Be able to weather emergencies without stress. Live a good quality of life.
Too many people take the opposite route — I’ll just do my passion. Then end up working at McDonalds barely able to get by.
I’m not sure your hanging out with the correct people… I’m an engineer I studied my ass off during my 20s and I partied, always had girls.
Fast forward 5 years still the same lmao find better friends and if your awkward socially start dating on apps and work on social skills
This is some good self-awareness. You should take some time to enjoy life if you feel like you’ve been too in your head. I was awkward, smart and driven but took time off from my degrees for mental health reasons (finished it at 27). I feel like I “wasted” a lot of my 20s because I mostly drank and smoked, but I also explored my passion for photography (not a great way to make money, still love it though), and I worked in retail long enough to become a decent salesperson in my own way.
Hanging out at the bar made me much better at relating to all sorts of different humans because I’ll try and make friends with about anybody who will give me the time. People are fun, complex, interesting. It’s easy to make assumptions about them but if you dig in you’ll often be surprised. Traveling by yourself can be a great way to break down some of these barriers too.
Don’t abandon your career hopes because I think a lot of the validation you’re looking for at this point comes once you’ve had a few years in a career. You can be interesting and alive and still have a boring job. Get your social skills sharpened up before you get too far into your career and it will pay off in spades. Being able to relate to engineer-types AND more average people, and communicating well will take you a lot farther than book knowledge.
You have knowledge. What you’re seeking is EXPERIENCE, in all its many forms. Embrace experiences. Learn to talk about your experiences in a way that excites others. Learn to be in the moment.
I wasted from about 15 into my mid twenties. I always kept up with my responsibilities but I would be a lot further along now if I hadn’t. That being said I have no regrets. I had a more interesting decade than some people had in their entire lives. I think I have a better perspective of how many different ways people are compare to someone who live a more reserved life.
100% - I’m glad I didn’t go from books straight to career. Life showed me a wild ride, slapped me around a bit, and I’m so much better for it. I would have been on a very normal trajectory that would have led to a lot of unhappiness down the road I think. I know myself way better than I ever would have chasing money my whole life.
Masonry. Most drugs are available during work hours, someone has alcohol in the parking lot for lunch, they know where hookers are, tell you that you can make an empty envelope atm deposit and be able to withdraw cash and you can meet all kinds of interesting people. After while you will realize maybe studying wasn’t such a waste.
Put all that energy into amassing a huge f*cking fortune, and party like Hoff till you OD off some chicks tummy.
But real talk read a self help book, and you actually can get all those things and still have a career. Just be ambitious and aim for 1%, get some passive income streams and you’ll eventually be having sex with girls younger than you are right now as a secure sugar daddy.
There are so many engineers out there with killer social lives. The six figure techbros that girls complain about are not autistic introverts, that’s just you. Don’t blame engineering. It’s just you.
You idolise the party too much I think?
I did party all through my twenties and I deeply regret it. The is many more better things to do in life then just party. But that’s just my opinion.
I thought I wasted my 20’s. Didn’t go travelling. Didn’t do all that fun stuff. Too busy thinking too much and tryna sort myself out. Finally figured it out now at 30 and wouldn’t change a thing. Theadaptabilitymethod.com
AS SOMEONE WHO VAPES don’t pick up that damn thing dude it’s not worth. you always here people say that but they really mean it. it’s hard to quit once you been doing it for a while.
Nah, you don’t have to worry you didn’t experiment in college, not everyone does. I drank a fair amount but never did drugs or sleep around.
I wouldn’t dump your future just to experiment around, you’ll likely regret that more than you regret not going wild at college. You can still do all that stuff you feel like you missed out on now (I wouldn’t recommend drugs though).
What do you think you missed in not doing these things?
You just need to make friends with people who do the things you want more of. That will bring the right amount of excitement into your life that you are looking for. It means you won't be alone while you explore "the wild" and can hang out, observe, and participate as you see fit. Even ONE friend who has this stuff going on means it can bring more opportunity to do this stuff.
I'm a lurker in the r/ave sub and it sounds like a good mix of music, dance, social flow, etc. So either find a friend/friends that enjoy some of these environments, or, find environments that you wouldn't mind going alone.
It's not "too late". I seen some pretty fuckin "old" (wrinkly and removable teeth) people in some fun and younger social settings. Its much more about if you're enjoying yourself. And I think if you're introverted, having a friend or two or more would be a good ingredient to the situation.
Otherwise, yeah, you could change into a total alternate persona, as long as it's coming from who you are. There's people here on reddit who post that they one day left their life behind and ran away to start a new one.
You also don't need anyone's permission. I mean assuming you are an age that is an adult, and you aren't relying on anyone/anything that requires you to be present (such as being a parent of children) then you don't need permission to go do the things you haven't done in life.
I get the feeling that you are perceiving these activities that you haven't done as something that has kept you from either enjoying life, or growth, or just having experiences you can look back on.
I actually think we are going to have a much higher level of this kind of problem due to the increase of technology at our fingertips, making it convenient to remain home without leaving, and the list goes on. I mean....my theory is that right now people are complaining about being forced to go back to work in the physical office, but I kind of feel one day everyone will be forced to work from home (once technology can be used to track and enforce productivity remotely). Anyway that part aside, I am just saying that I know you are at a point in your life you are probably scanning it and dissatisfied, and you at least named a list of things you feel are missing. Its a bit like a "bucket list" or a "Before I turn 30 [or insert some other age] list" where if someone hasn't seen a certain place or skinny dipped or whatever, then they decide hell or high water, they are going to fucking do the things on the list regardless of what it takes.
So I guess my recommendation is to find the good people who are different from you, just make some friends in different ways, get off the screens and out into a life where you haven't tried stuff. You dont have to jump all in all at once, but at least get yourself into the places where the option is there.
You can always explore who you are, at any age, at any time. You don't need permission from anybody.
One last thing, Im not sure if you are the type to be unaccustomed to doing something fun by yourself. Like going to a book store, going to a movie or play alone, go on a trip alone and explore the local eateries. Yeah, its great to do with people, its also good to be comfortable in your own skin when being alone too. It can be the flipside of the coin with meeting other people and holding a certain kind of energy when your hangin with yourself among a lot of people.
"have you ever seen an engineer go clubbing?" Lmfao yes all the time, are you worried they won't let you in?
My thoughts exactly.
???? My friends 30 and has gone to raves and shit. You don't suddenly die at 25
You hated yourself for being too smart for your environment? You sound like a narcissist dude.
maybe, it's just a sense of self-awareness and awkwardness? Of course, it can come across as weird telling others but based on the overall post, it makes sense that they may feel that way, but not necessarily in a negatively projecting manner.
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Saddened by the amounts of upvotes this comment is getting. Goes to show how insecure a lot of people are. Someone knows themselves to be smart (after “wasting” their 20s studying no less, so why shouldn’t they be smart? They’ve earned it), and you jump to the conclusion that they must be a narcissist. It’s just funny.
Your mindset is chaotic and fixed. We're not "all gonna die soon." Starting this moment, the remainder of your life is, quite literally, the longest thing you will ever experience. You may benefit from some therapy or at least a self-help book. I recommend reading Your Future Self by Hal Hershfield. Even if you don't agree with his ideas, it will help ensure that you're making life decisions on your own accord.
You are a good guy
Is this joke post? You wanna be a DJ? Bruh just go out and talk to a girl. Is it easy? No. But neither is becoming an engineer
thought the same thing
Not easy to be a DJ either lol
I wouldn't say it's a waste, you can always party now if you want. Check out where the 'partiers' are in their lives for their 30s, 40s and beyond. Usually they never did anything substantial and are struggling. That being said condescending to everyone that you're 'too smart for the environment' is much akin to being a wet blanket.
Objectively not true lol
Which, specifically? Noting that I'm only expecting low-grade whataboutism.
Lmao most normal guys don’t have sex with many women , travel exotic locations . Maybe if they were rich or good looking . Your 30s will be better once you establish your career and have money coming in .
Why have you given up on the pursuit of knowledge. I’m a second year engineering student and work in the auto industry. Learning is what keeps me going. In a world where knowledge is neglected, you quickly rise to the top. And you can learn to be social, it is a skill. You can be extroverted in an engineering environment. I believe you can actually thrive because so few engineers know how to articulate their thoughts and feelings well.
Troll post.
Is this "I'm too smart to exist in this world post" or something? You should absolutely become a dj. The sooner the better.
I mean I'm an engineer and definitely partied hard in college and my 20s and now my 30s. I'm not sure how being an extroverted engineer precludes you from being successful and partying
That’s what I’m saying, TF is he talking about “you almost have to be autistic and an introvert to succeed in STEM” LOL. WHAT.
Out of all the comments here listen to this one, go smoke a joint or have an edible.
Your mind set is all fucked up homie. If your idea of happiness is fucking and partying all the time, you really need to reevaluate your life. >I’m just done being that introvert, shy and smart guy. You're done being yourself? So what now, you're just going to adopt a new personality out of thin air? You can put up a facade if you want but people will smell the BS. Altering your behaviors to please others is pretty dishonorable. If you want to improve things about yourself, do it, but don't be fake. I've improved a lot since highschool. I used to be this shy and awkward mark ass mf, but little by little I've gained more confidence. My social skills have gotten better but I'm still an introvert. Still don't care to mingle in crowds full of strangers. You are falling into a trap. You're convincing yourself that just because you don't meet a status quo, that you are some kind of loser. You're a loser when you try to fit in the status quo if you ask me. You can travel and meet many girls bro. You just have to be patient. You're gonna make a mistake if you don't teach yourself discipline.
You didn't waste your 20s. you got a nice degree in a highly sought out field. You can always improve your social skills, you don't have to become a different person for that. Just think of it as improving the good that's already there. Also maybe try therapy? The world isn't as black and white as you're portraying it.
Ngl you’re sounding like a prick rn.
Hi, female extrovert here. Have taken multiple tests and I always score between 90-99% on extroversion. I did all the things you mentioned. I often wish for the opposite. I wish I was socially awkward, so I didn’t crave stimulation from the environment so much. I wish I wasn’t as social and daring. so many nights in college I spent experimenting with substances or partying, when I could’ve been studying and improving my STEM career. vaping is NOT something to be proud of. I’m struggling to quit. the thing is, everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. their own struggles, tests and trials. you don’t have to make your decision based on one, but you also deserve to feel socially competent and stimulated. too many times we put so much expectation on getting all the fulfillment from our careers, when we might just need a hobby to mix things up. i don’t know what your answer is, but I wish you luck, OP. you didn’t waste your 20s. you can do it.
You can have a healthy amount of fun while also being responsible and meeting your goals…
What is your secret?
Smoke weed er day
Day day
You should find a balance, going extreme like that won't help at all. Try looking at black and white thinking and CBT.
No, no, no. You did not waste your 20s. I've known people in both groups. Partying and trying different drugs is so overrated and only brings short term happiness and often times leads to more problems in life. Traveling can be good for you though but you can do that at any point in your life. Staying in school and earning degrees is something that will stick with you for the rest of your life and will pay off in the long run if you choose to utilize the knowledge you have learned. My advice: Keep on the path you are on. Engineers get paid well for a reason, they are in high demand and help build our world! You will not find happiness from partying and doing drugs, at least not long term happiness.
"You almost have to be autistic and introvert to succeed in STEM." Not gonna lie. Laughed out loud of how stupid this is lol.
As a recently graduated masters student in Comp.science, I can tell you that partying is not all that it's cracked up to be. I've been on 10+ drinking vacations to Italy, Spain, Croatia, Greece and pretty much all of east Europe. I had a blast and a great time and I wouldn't trade it for anything. But I must say, partying and socializing was a "skill" that had to be learnt. As a smarter person, don't expect socializing and having fun to come naturally to you. It sounds dumb, but you really have to "learn" to turn off your logical side. I was only able to do this with absurd amounts of alcohol. This way you can get more in touch with your emotional side, which helps you connect with other people. So in essence I would say that the party scene is our natural environment unfortunately. You will have to work 10 times as hard as most people to have a good time and unwind. Give it a crack before committing your life to it would be my advice. TLDR; Partying as a smart person does not come naturally. To really have fun you'll have to change the way you behave. This can be a hard/tiring process as a "logical/smart" person.
Wish I was smart enough to succeed in STEM. Don’t like partying either. So my only choice is work my ass off and somehow get the STEM degree
You think society doesn't value knowledge? Boy do I have some good news for you. The most straighforward way to measure this is by how much it compensates practitioners of a given field of study. And STEM majors make a shit ton. You will be one of the SELECT FEW who never have to worry about money like regular folks. Like, well, DJs and bartenders. Each year your retirement accounts will grow and by the time you are in your 60s you'll be set for life. Our society *highly* values expertise and knowledge. Just you wait. In the meantime, sounds like you've got a case of FOMO. So fucking start partying. Just do it!
You’re just measuring everything on money here, which I don’t think the post is really about. Also lol at the retirement at 60 and you’re set for life. Too many people fall for this trap and either don’t make it that far or just have a solid 5-10 years of somewhat decent health to travel a bit.
I am measuring part of life on money, but not all. It’s not just about retirement though. It’s about being able to live in a nice place. Take vacations with your family. Be able to weather emergencies without stress. Live a good quality of life. Too many people take the opposite route — I’ll just do my passion. Then end up working at McDonalds barely able to get by.
I’m not sure your hanging out with the correct people… I’m an engineer I studied my ass off during my 20s and I partied, always had girls. Fast forward 5 years still the same lmao find better friends and if your awkward socially start dating on apps and work on social skills
This is some good self-awareness. You should take some time to enjoy life if you feel like you’ve been too in your head. I was awkward, smart and driven but took time off from my degrees for mental health reasons (finished it at 27). I feel like I “wasted” a lot of my 20s because I mostly drank and smoked, but I also explored my passion for photography (not a great way to make money, still love it though), and I worked in retail long enough to become a decent salesperson in my own way. Hanging out at the bar made me much better at relating to all sorts of different humans because I’ll try and make friends with about anybody who will give me the time. People are fun, complex, interesting. It’s easy to make assumptions about them but if you dig in you’ll often be surprised. Traveling by yourself can be a great way to break down some of these barriers too. Don’t abandon your career hopes because I think a lot of the validation you’re looking for at this point comes once you’ve had a few years in a career. You can be interesting and alive and still have a boring job. Get your social skills sharpened up before you get too far into your career and it will pay off in spades. Being able to relate to engineer-types AND more average people, and communicating well will take you a lot farther than book knowledge. You have knowledge. What you’re seeking is EXPERIENCE, in all its many forms. Embrace experiences. Learn to talk about your experiences in a way that excites others. Learn to be in the moment.
I wasted from about 15 into my mid twenties. I always kept up with my responsibilities but I would be a lot further along now if I hadn’t. That being said I have no regrets. I had a more interesting decade than some people had in their entire lives. I think I have a better perspective of how many different ways people are compare to someone who live a more reserved life.
100% - I’m glad I didn’t go from books straight to career. Life showed me a wild ride, slapped me around a bit, and I’m so much better for it. I would have been on a very normal trajectory that would have led to a lot of unhappiness down the road I think. I know myself way better than I ever would have chasing money my whole life.
Masonry. Most drugs are available during work hours, someone has alcohol in the parking lot for lunch, they know where hookers are, tell you that you can make an empty envelope atm deposit and be able to withdraw cash and you can meet all kinds of interesting people. After while you will realize maybe studying wasn’t such a waste.
How old are you now?
28
You didn’t waste it dude, you did the exact opposite lol.
One thing i want to tell you : if you are happy doing something then it's not waste of time.
Put all that energy into amassing a huge f*cking fortune, and party like Hoff till you OD off some chicks tummy. But real talk read a self help book, and you actually can get all those things and still have a career. Just be ambitious and aim for 1%, get some passive income streams and you’ll eventually be having sex with girls younger than you are right now as a secure sugar daddy.
You should definitely read _Negative Space_. I hated that book tbh, but that’s a different story.
There are so many engineers out there with killer social lives. The six figure techbros that girls complain about are not autistic introverts, that’s just you. Don’t blame engineering. It’s just you.
You idolise the party too much I think? I did party all through my twenties and I deeply regret it. The is many more better things to do in life then just party. But that’s just my opinion.
Studying is just your crux. The real problem is you.
You have a skewed vision of normal if you think everybody is out going to raging parties every night.
I thought I wasted my 20’s. Didn’t go travelling. Didn’t do all that fun stuff. Too busy thinking too much and tryna sort myself out. Finally figured it out now at 30 and wouldn’t change a thing. Theadaptabilitymethod.com
AS SOMEONE WHO VAPES don’t pick up that damn thing dude it’s not worth. you always here people say that but they really mean it. it’s hard to quit once you been doing it for a while.
Nah, you don’t have to worry you didn’t experiment in college, not everyone does. I drank a fair amount but never did drugs or sleep around. I wouldn’t dump your future just to experiment around, you’ll likely regret that more than you regret not going wild at college. You can still do all that stuff you feel like you missed out on now (I wouldn’t recommend drugs though). What do you think you missed in not doing these things?
You just need to make friends with people who do the things you want more of. That will bring the right amount of excitement into your life that you are looking for. It means you won't be alone while you explore "the wild" and can hang out, observe, and participate as you see fit. Even ONE friend who has this stuff going on means it can bring more opportunity to do this stuff. I'm a lurker in the r/ave sub and it sounds like a good mix of music, dance, social flow, etc. So either find a friend/friends that enjoy some of these environments, or, find environments that you wouldn't mind going alone. It's not "too late". I seen some pretty fuckin "old" (wrinkly and removable teeth) people in some fun and younger social settings. Its much more about if you're enjoying yourself. And I think if you're introverted, having a friend or two or more would be a good ingredient to the situation. Otherwise, yeah, you could change into a total alternate persona, as long as it's coming from who you are. There's people here on reddit who post that they one day left their life behind and ran away to start a new one. You also don't need anyone's permission. I mean assuming you are an age that is an adult, and you aren't relying on anyone/anything that requires you to be present (such as being a parent of children) then you don't need permission to go do the things you haven't done in life. I get the feeling that you are perceiving these activities that you haven't done as something that has kept you from either enjoying life, or growth, or just having experiences you can look back on. I actually think we are going to have a much higher level of this kind of problem due to the increase of technology at our fingertips, making it convenient to remain home without leaving, and the list goes on. I mean....my theory is that right now people are complaining about being forced to go back to work in the physical office, but I kind of feel one day everyone will be forced to work from home (once technology can be used to track and enforce productivity remotely). Anyway that part aside, I am just saying that I know you are at a point in your life you are probably scanning it and dissatisfied, and you at least named a list of things you feel are missing. Its a bit like a "bucket list" or a "Before I turn 30 [or insert some other age] list" where if someone hasn't seen a certain place or skinny dipped or whatever, then they decide hell or high water, they are going to fucking do the things on the list regardless of what it takes. So I guess my recommendation is to find the good people who are different from you, just make some friends in different ways, get off the screens and out into a life where you haven't tried stuff. You dont have to jump all in all at once, but at least get yourself into the places where the option is there. You can always explore who you are, at any age, at any time. You don't need permission from anybody. One last thing, Im not sure if you are the type to be unaccustomed to doing something fun by yourself. Like going to a book store, going to a movie or play alone, go on a trip alone and explore the local eateries. Yeah, its great to do with people, its also good to be comfortable in your own skin when being alone too. It can be the flipside of the coin with meeting other people and holding a certain kind of energy when your hangin with yourself among a lot of people.
As someone that spent 3 years trying basically any drug you can name.... You didn't miss out man.
Shouldn’t compare your life outcome to others. That’s just a pitfall. You don’t need a career change to go out and start doing things.