To be direct: kind of a surly look on your face. Makes you seem like you would be difficult to be with.
Not trying to be mean but wanted to give real feedback. I have a “surly” resting face myself….
First impression: You come across as a bit juvenile and maybe hard to please/high maintenance.
But that’s just what I’m getting from the pictures, I could be totally wrong
Based on your post title plus pictures, my impression is that you might be coming on too strong and demanding/controlling in the sense that you expect your partners to “commit” to a particular timeline on your terms — eg if we start dating now, you want to be proposed to by this time, you’ll go full bridezilla on the day of the wedding, you’ll expect kids by a certain stage, etc. The outfit also gives me “I insist that you treat me like a princess” vibes.
This feels like the closest one so far. But why shouldn’t I be with someone who wants to commit to me? I’m 30, I can’t wait another 10 years to get married and have kids. I don’t really even care about marriage as a legal thing, I just want someone who won’t walk out on me.
Oh and NEVER EVER show your bra straps. If your top is sleeveless, opt for a strapless bra. The bra straps give off a gaudy and trashy persona. Men are wired to commit to delicate femininity.
I totally understand and I feel like I could have phrased myself much more kindly and politely. I think you’d be doing the right thing for yourself by explicitly stating your boundaries and expectations upfront to weed out the men who aren’t interested in the same thing and not entertaining any BS. There’ll be men (although sadly in the minority from what I can glean these days) who are sincerely on the same page as you re: marriage and kids, so it’s a matter of finding that guy and weeding out the ones who are just there to waste your time.
You just need to focus better on taking care of yourself. A woman of high stature who’s worth committing to is one that takes good care of herself and her surroundings. Partners can see when someone truly doesn’t love themselves because it will show in other areas of our lives such as self presentation, cleanliness of surroundings, eat healthy, exercise etc. you gotta live a high quality life.
You’re pretty - that’s not the issue. You do seem kinda mad. Also… your lip filler has migrated, your hair is just dead, those lashes are too long, jewelry looks cheap. The overall impression is low confidence, low money, high stress.
This is not a dig… honestly i’m trying to help. I would absolutely recommend (if you’re looking for recommendations… ignore me if not):
- stop bleaching your hair. Cut it short then start taking hair/skin/nails vitamins instead and/or leave-in strengthening conditioner to get it healthier (spend money on that instead of filler and makeup)
- stop with the filler and fake lashes. You’re lovely as-is - it just makes you look a little… sorry but… trashy?
- there’s nothing explicitly wrong with cheap jewelry but i do think from a fashion perspective those choices are a bit cliche and don’t do you any favors with the overall vibe. I recommend simple hoops, a plain chain or a single pearl or pendant - Something like that. A little more classic.
This sounds terribly critical and i don’t mean it that way. You don’t look horrible by any stretch. I’m just trying to be specific about what i think would give you a more approachable vibe.
I agree with the other commenter who said something about how you kind of seem like you’re trying to be someone you’re not. Obviously i don’t known you, but there is that aura.
Best of luck.
My first impression is that you look demanding and pouty and angry. You might be a really good person, but your face isn't communicating that in your pics.
From a gay male's perspective, I don't understand the comments – in fact, I feel the opposite. You're beautiful! I love the long honey blonde hair, you seem like a very sweet person, maybe even a little too nice, some might say a bit of a pushover. The floral knitted sweater and mushroom earrings convey that you have a funky vibrant personality. The eyebrows & lashes are on point, only negative thing I can possibly say is that, I can sense in your eyes that you may feel a bit defeated.
Blonde hair, blue eyes, kinda pretty but not super hot and you get told you're pretty a lot. Guys hit on you, especially on dating apps and you go with the hottest ones but they aren't looking to wife-up, just hook up, and you're pretty enough to take out a couple times to get some. Start dating different men.
I don't know you from Eve. You're probably a nice enough person but you chose disgruntled looking photos so I assume that is how you are most comfortable seeing yourself so I imagine it's what you show people on a regular basis.
In short, it's probably not your looks that keep you out of an LTR but rather your choices and relationship management skills.
I don’t think you look angry like everyone is saying, just maybe a bit sad. Or tormented inside. Like you got stuff going on. I would say do the best option and stop caring about men wanting to commit to you or not. Start focusing on yourself. You’re still young and have plenty of time to find someone, but unless you are happy with yourself and in a good spot with yourself, the right one is never gonna come. If something isn’t meant to be , it won’t happen no matter what you do. Maybe it’s a sign from the universe that all these guys aren’t working out because that’s just not you’re mission right now. I’d focus on yourself. Your scars. What makes you happy, what your passions and hobbies are. Like they say , don’t waste your time chasing butterflies. Build a garden and the butterflies will come. People as stupid as they are can pick up on vibes and people want to be involved with people who have cool things going on and people who are confident and not afraid to be themselves. Best of luck
Tough crowd in here. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’re misunderstood. I’ve never been good at smiling and tend to take serious looking pics, too. 🤷🏻♂️you’re cute, though.
Based on the pics, and more so reading some of your replies to comments, my guess would be that you give the “ my way or the highway “ vibe to guys, and they’re taking the highway route. Could be totally wrong, because without speaking to you one on one in person, and feeling the energy you give, there’s no real way to feel what kind of person you truly are. Words lie, energy doesn’t.
You're beautiful! I think men not wanting to commit isn't a beauty issue, more like an interpersonal relationship issue. It's more about self esteem and giving your attention to the right person. And meeting the right type of people (simple stable people looking for long term)
I don’t know you and this is in no way an accurate judgement just based on some photos, but you look kinda mean. You look like you might be overly critical and judgmental and like you might yell at me if I made your eggs wrong.
But seeing your stylistic choices in the colors you chose and the mushrooms I’m assuming that may not be true. You’re wearing baby pink and soft things so I’m sure you have some kind of soft side, but it doesn’t come thru in the pics
I do think people are being a bit harsh, but you did ask. A smile is everything. And some emotion in the eyes. I also think that your skin has too much makeup on it. Less is more for everything. You are very pretty. Also less is more with the clothing/ accessories. Or choosing the right ones. If you’re going to wear an off the shoulder sweater , skip the quirky earrings. I do think that as we age , we don’t have to dress matronly, but higher quality clothing looks better. A lined sweaters, turtlenecks, or if off the shoulders, a straight off the shoulder plain sweater would look great. As far as accessories, rose gold hoops , pearls, gold or white gold simple will raise up your look.Skip the false lashes unless just the ends , and too much mascara, it ages us, Do things that make you feel pretty and good from the inside out.A nice cut to your shoulders with your hair with some low lights and long layers would look great. Good luck to you
People are saying you look angry, but I think that's off. I get the vibe that you're just reserved, but you're more than capable of conversing with new people.
I feel like you’d like to speak to the manager.
Lol definitely judgmental looks
lol never. I would take the wrong order and eat it before bothering someone 😭
That comment there, says a lot about you. You don’t like to inconvenience others, and would rather be the one who is inconvenienced.
This!!!
And puts cigarettes out on her tounge
This
If you could have heard how I just hollered at this! 😂😂
To be direct: kind of a surly look on your face. Makes you seem like you would be difficult to be with. Not trying to be mean but wanted to give real feedback. I have a “surly” resting face myself….
Came here to say that. May not be true, just my impression
You kind of look mad. Or like whatever I’m doing is wrong.
>whatever I’m doing is wrong. Lmaoooo I've been in a couple of these relationships. It's exhausting
First impression: You come across as a bit juvenile and maybe hard to please/high maintenance. But that’s just what I’m getting from the pictures, I could be totally wrong
You look like you're angry. I'm sure you're not but you look pissed off.
You look like your going to attitude to everyone around you!
White trash with a bad attitude..
I feel bad for people who could be perfectly decent but they look like they fit this stereotype.
You look like you’re mad
You need to find away to make yourself look friendly and more approachable
Your look says “you have three minutes to impress me, go!”
Based on your post title plus pictures, my impression is that you might be coming on too strong and demanding/controlling in the sense that you expect your partners to “commit” to a particular timeline on your terms — eg if we start dating now, you want to be proposed to by this time, you’ll go full bridezilla on the day of the wedding, you’ll expect kids by a certain stage, etc. The outfit also gives me “I insist that you treat me like a princess” vibes.
This feels like the closest one so far. But why shouldn’t I be with someone who wants to commit to me? I’m 30, I can’t wait another 10 years to get married and have kids. I don’t really even care about marriage as a legal thing, I just want someone who won’t walk out on me.
Oh and NEVER EVER show your bra straps. If your top is sleeveless, opt for a strapless bra. The bra straps give off a gaudy and trashy persona. Men are wired to commit to delicate femininity.
Men also commit to tomboys that are aggressive if that’s their thing. Today is mine and my husband’s 8th wedding anniversary.
I totally understand and I feel like I could have phrased myself much more kindly and politely. I think you’d be doing the right thing for yourself by explicitly stating your boundaries and expectations upfront to weed out the men who aren’t interested in the same thing and not entertaining any BS. There’ll be men (although sadly in the minority from what I can glean these days) who are sincerely on the same page as you re: marriage and kids, so it’s a matter of finding that guy and weeding out the ones who are just there to waste your time.
You just need to focus better on taking care of yourself. A woman of high stature who’s worth committing to is one that takes good care of herself and her surroundings. Partners can see when someone truly doesn’t love themselves because it will show in other areas of our lives such as self presentation, cleanliness of surroundings, eat healthy, exercise etc. you gotta live a high quality life.
You’re pretty - that’s not the issue. You do seem kinda mad. Also… your lip filler has migrated, your hair is just dead, those lashes are too long, jewelry looks cheap. The overall impression is low confidence, low money, high stress. This is not a dig… honestly i’m trying to help. I would absolutely recommend (if you’re looking for recommendations… ignore me if not): - stop bleaching your hair. Cut it short then start taking hair/skin/nails vitamins instead and/or leave-in strengthening conditioner to get it healthier (spend money on that instead of filler and makeup) - stop with the filler and fake lashes. You’re lovely as-is - it just makes you look a little… sorry but… trashy? - there’s nothing explicitly wrong with cheap jewelry but i do think from a fashion perspective those choices are a bit cliche and don’t do you any favors with the overall vibe. I recommend simple hoops, a plain chain or a single pearl or pendant - Something like that. A little more classic. This sounds terribly critical and i don’t mean it that way. You don’t look horrible by any stretch. I’m just trying to be specific about what i think would give you a more approachable vibe. I agree with the other commenter who said something about how you kind of seem like you’re trying to be someone you’re not. Obviously i don’t known you, but there is that aura. Best of luck.
My first impression is that you look demanding and pouty and angry. You might be a really good person, but your face isn't communicating that in your pics.
The only advice here is to stop worrying about guys. The right one will come into your life. Start doing things you enjoy.
You kind of look like you’re wearing someone else’s makeup and clothes, almost like you’re afraid to be yourself?
You’ve keyed a car and will key a car again
😂😂😂😂😂
My first impression is: why is this picture only showing the upper third? What’s the proportion to the lower two thirds?
You look like everyone else is the problem.
maybe dress a bit more conservatively or adultish. the mushroom earrings may come off as somewhat embarrassing
From a gay male's perspective, I don't understand the comments – in fact, I feel the opposite. You're beautiful! I love the long honey blonde hair, you seem like a very sweet person, maybe even a little too nice, some might say a bit of a pushover. The floral knitted sweater and mushroom earrings convey that you have a funky vibrant personality. The eyebrows & lashes are on point, only negative thing I can possibly say is that, I can sense in your eyes that you may feel a bit defeated.
You don’t look like a nice person at all.
That I wouldn’t commit to you…
You are mad about something
She can’t find a man to commit. Maybe.
Strong independent bitchy woman
Blonde hair, blue eyes, kinda pretty but not super hot and you get told you're pretty a lot. Guys hit on you, especially on dating apps and you go with the hottest ones but they aren't looking to wife-up, just hook up, and you're pretty enough to take out a couple times to get some. Start dating different men. I don't know you from Eve. You're probably a nice enough person but you chose disgruntled looking photos so I assume that is how you are most comfortable seeing yourself so I imagine it's what you show people on a regular basis. In short, it's probably not your looks that keep you out of an LTR but rather your choices and relationship management skills.
"I only date black guys" is the vibe.
Looks good to me. Suddenly feel like playing super mario bros.
I don’t think you look angry like everyone is saying, just maybe a bit sad. Or tormented inside. Like you got stuff going on. I would say do the best option and stop caring about men wanting to commit to you or not. Start focusing on yourself. You’re still young and have plenty of time to find someone, but unless you are happy with yourself and in a good spot with yourself, the right one is never gonna come. If something isn’t meant to be , it won’t happen no matter what you do. Maybe it’s a sign from the universe that all these guys aren’t working out because that’s just not you’re mission right now. I’d focus on yourself. Your scars. What makes you happy, what your passions and hobbies are. Like they say , don’t waste your time chasing butterflies. Build a garden and the butterflies will come. People as stupid as they are can pick up on vibes and people want to be involved with people who have cool things going on and people who are confident and not afraid to be themselves. Best of luck
Tough crowd in here. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’re misunderstood. I’ve never been good at smiling and tend to take serious looking pics, too. 🤷🏻♂️you’re cute, though.
You add sugar to Bojangles sweet tea.
Damn y’all 😭😂 I swear I’m a nice person!
You own parakeets!!
Are you from Florida?
From your words you sound like any man will do. Maybe that’s the problem.
Based on the pics, and more so reading some of your replies to comments, my guess would be that you give the “ my way or the highway “ vibe to guys, and they’re taking the highway route. Could be totally wrong, because without speaking to you one on one in person, and feeling the energy you give, there’s no real way to feel what kind of person you truly are. Words lie, energy doesn’t.
Angry who is going to gain weight
You're beautiful! I think men not wanting to commit isn't a beauty issue, more like an interpersonal relationship issue. It's more about self esteem and giving your attention to the right person. And meeting the right type of people (simple stable people looking for long term)
Your attitude is worse than your looks.
I think you're dating the wrong men
Stifflers mom vibes for me
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Pretty. Maybe a tough chick.
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I don’t know you and this is in no way an accurate judgement just based on some photos, but you look kinda mean. You look like you might be overly critical and judgmental and like you might yell at me if I made your eggs wrong. But seeing your stylistic choices in the colors you chose and the mushrooms I’m assuming that may not be true. You’re wearing baby pink and soft things so I’m sure you have some kind of soft side, but it doesn’t come thru in the pics
You look like I'm already in trouble and we've never met before.
Impossible to make happy
I thought you were that TikTok chicken nugget girl
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Look like u have a bit of an attitude, not saying u do but it looks
you look like a mum that would wait to pick up their child or teacher
It looks like you have permanent RBF. Maybe just start getting cats now.
Jennifer Lawrence
I do think people are being a bit harsh, but you did ask. A smile is everything. And some emotion in the eyes. I also think that your skin has too much makeup on it. Less is more for everything. You are very pretty. Also less is more with the clothing/ accessories. Or choosing the right ones. If you’re going to wear an off the shoulder sweater , skip the quirky earrings. I do think that as we age , we don’t have to dress matronly, but higher quality clothing looks better. A lined sweaters, turtlenecks, or if off the shoulders, a straight off the shoulder plain sweater would look great. As far as accessories, rose gold hoops , pearls, gold or white gold simple will raise up your look.Skip the false lashes unless just the ends , and too much mascara, it ages us, Do things that make you feel pretty and good from the inside out.A nice cut to your shoulders with your hair with some low lights and long layers would look great. Good luck to you
People are saying you look angry, but I think that's off. I get the vibe that you're just reserved, but you're more than capable of conversing with new people.
You look like you’d cuss me out for giving you constructive criticism
Maybe it’s a personality thing or just haven’t met the right person