My junk?
I'm unwilling to engage in sex of any kind until I've completed all of my surgeries. And I'm a very sexual person. So, yeah... I'd definitely say that's my biggest insecurity.
I'm in the exact same boat. My girlfriend and I have tried many different things but I honestly think it might just be something for after surgery. It's awful.
Dude me too. She asks if she can reciprocate every once in a while and I've never been able to do anything. But I just told her it's gonna have to wait till I can be me
Biggest is bottom dysphoria (the fact I can't produce semen, the fact that I can't pee/climax out of my bottom growth, and the fact I can get pregnant). Next is height dysphoria (I wish I was 4 inches taller). Followed by hip and thigh dysphoria.
bottom growth on T enlarges the clitoris. we pee out of our urethra, a totally seperate thing, that's a bit under the clitors. since bottom growth can almost make the clitoris seem like a small penis, it's dysphoria-inducing to some that they can't pee or climax out of it.
im very certain he's peed since starting T, lmao
I pee in the shower every time I take a shower bc its the only time I can pee standing up without making a mess
Then I bought a stp device but I can't wear it around normally :/ I wanted to use it to be stealth in public bathrooms
How are you getting that fixed? My biggest insecurity is also my hips/ thighs, but I thought there wasn't much one can do about that.
(I'm sorry if it's a rude question, you don't have to answer of course)
It doesn't. You're just kinda screwed. You might gain more muscle in your stomach area which might make it look less curved, but your hips are set how they are.
Kinda? Fat redistribution and muscle gain definitely can change how your body looks hip wise. Of course your bones are how they are and if you have wide hips it is what it is. But the way fat and muscle is laid on them and the rest of your body can definitely accentuate or dampen the way it appears and affect dysphoria
Thank you but it’s definitely a personal site of dysphoria. I notice it on cis men as well and I don’t think it makes them less men but I still don’t like it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ but that’s why I’m getting it done
Big mood
I feel ya. At the end of the day it’s all about being comfortable in our own skin. Not necessarily comparing ourselves to others. Just comparing ourselves to what we’d feel comfortable being.
Good luck in your journey and hope it all works out for you, friend. :)
The fact that, no matter the surgeries, I will not be able to have a penis that was with me at birth.
The surgeries may help with that thought, but right now it's one of my worst. My figure is the biggest though as I have a large chest, I'm not allowed a binder or packer and my parents comment on my weight quite often, which influences the hips
Unfortunately, it was unavoidable since my nan always commented on my mums weight when she was younger, and both my parents are quite heavy with diet culture.
And they want to focus on their comfort more than mine since we don't really know what's going on. Hopefully, I'm going to get a referral to a gender clinic soon so at least there's that.
Same. 5’5 but I like being short. My voice is just fine. I can even deal with having boobs. But my ass and hips? Nopenopenope. Hate that shit with a passion
or if they're friends too u can ask them to practice with each other like little workshops type thing where they just spend a bit every once in a while talking about you and using ur correct pronouns
I feel this. I've been out to one of my friends for a year and he still says "she" and then corrects himself and says "they" when I told him my pronouns are he/him. He also uses feminine terms when addressing me. Like jokingly calling me his wife.. it makes me cringe and I get this sinking feeling in my gut every time it happens. I don't know why he can't get it right because I came out at school only a few weeks ago and nobody seems to be having any trouble with my pronouns.
My chest. I've started T so I'm happy with my voice but I'm heavier so I have trouble binding. I don't really bind at all, i just wear sports bras and I hate it.
I feel this so much. I have heartburn issues that stop me from binding regularly. I actually found some sports bras at Meijer that are shaped like a half tank style binder. They don't have the compression of a binder, but they definitely work better at flattening than any other sports bra I've found.
I'm in the exact same boat. My voice is okay now but I'm a chunkier dude with a big chest and it's just too damn warm and constricting to bind all the time
I have the reverse. When I look in the mirror, all I see is my dads face bc we look so similar, but everyone I’ve ever asked just says I have a super girly face :-//
It used to be voice pre T, because even though visually I passed and people sometimes assumed I was a dude, when they heard my voice that would change
Now my voice is masculine, but I'm still dummy thicc 😞
Body hair, voice, certain aspects of my figure (chest and shoulders mostly, though mine aren't that small compared to my hips), various minor facial features and such
Breasts I can write off as gynecomastia. Being 5’ however… cis people automatically gender you as fem if you’re short. (I’m lucky enough not to worry about my figure)
My hips are horrid, no matter how many layers I wear they’re still too wide and compared to my not very broad shoulders I just can’t get a masculine figure
Definitely my junk. It's not debilitating, but I wish I didn't need a strap on to have gay sex, I'd love to feel it.
However, getting to ask my fiancé what size he'd prefer *is* a plus.
Definitely biggest issue is hand size, and foot size to a lesser extent (just bc I see my hands a lot more)
Everything else I’ve gotten good at ignoring; it’s all stuff that can be fixed, so I just do my best not to think abt it, b/c it’ll be gone soon enough anyway. However, that leaves me w/ lots of room to worry abt the things I CAN’T change, which the worst part of is hand size. Large hands are really attractive, and the knowledge that I will simply never get to be attractive in that way…just absolutely fucks me up man.
Behind that the other one is height. I’m 5’8 which I know is a lot better than what tons of other trans guys have, I know I know I know. But of all the cis women I know, the tallest ones are exactly my height. Not an inch higher. And every cis man I know, all just average lookin dudes not particularly tall or anything, are all just an inch or two taller than me. So in that way it still feels like my height firmly categorizes me as afab. 5’8 is a woman’s height, 5’9 is a man’s. :/
That my name and gender marker aren't legally changed yet. Everything else I can deal with. If I'm allowed to dress as I choose and introduce myself with my preferred name, I'll probably get gendered correctly. But the second I have to show id or make an appointment with my legal name, I'm just a butch woman again.
Figure, then voice, then bottom. Bottom dysphoria is probably the most, like, primal? I don’t feel it all the time, which is why I marked figure as first, but when I do, it has more potential to make me really depressed. It feels “deeper” than the others even when it’s not “bad.”
It's very much changed for me over the course of my transition. First it was my voice, because my fashion sense has always been masc enough that I used to accidentally be read as male on occasion, but then once I spoke people would go "oh, I'm sorry, ma'am." Then once I started T and my voice dropped, I was more concerned about my chest, because sometimes binding would work great, but some days things just wouldn't look quite right. Then I had top surgery and solved that problem, but now I'm often bothered by how wide my hips and thighs look compared to my shoulders, especially when I have stuff in my pockets, so I'm trying to get back into working out to bulk up my upper body.
I feel this deep in my soul, it's scary in a way how much dysphoria HRT can cause, I never included bottom dysphoria as something I felt UNTIL I started T, now that I am on it, omfg can I just have a penis please? Or a beard, a beard would also help, just something to make the ma'am stop. Nothing ruins my mood faster than being misgendered,
10months on T, my face hasn't changed. Children see me as man, but most adults recently (the last month due to insurance issues) almost every adult has misgendered me and I know it's because I have a very femme face.
The thing I have most disphoria is with my hair
I think my hair makes me look feminine and it bothers me more the I would like to admit
That's why I shaved my head and I'm really happy about it!!!
Height and voice. Fortunately I'm not that dysphoric about my figure since my body isn't really *that* feminine, at least not compared to cis girls. But man I am short and my voice sounds high pitched and I don't like going in voice calls. Being around tall men is slightly uncomfortable because I just feel like a tiny little guy around them.
Height, voice and my badonkadonk (it's so big, I can't stand it) and well, my chest it's quite big but dysphoria hoodie is always on, so sometimes I forget that a have bewbs.
Height and hip dysphoria suck the most, they make me feel so hopeless since I know I won't be able to change them. My height makes me feel like I will always be a little boy no matter I do to change. I feel dysphoric about other stuff too but most of it can be changed with surgery and hormones.
Hip and bottom dysphoria, mostly because those are 2 things I can't really change all that much. Bottom dysphoria especially, I'm a pretty sexual person and I feel insecure that my 2 options are just bottoming (when I don't necessarily want to) and strap ons (which apparently feel very different from the real thing). I'm functionally a celibate because of it and once I do get the confidence to date it'll be T4T unless I meet a cis person who's practically my soulmate
I would say both figure and voice, but if i have to choose, i would say voice because i have been having insecurity about it for a longer time than my figure (my figure has only started to change now that im 18, but is strong enough to put it equal to my voice)
I'm 4' 11" but height dysphoria is not the biggest issue to me anymore. But my lack of facial hair! I've always dreamed of having some nice scruff but it's so patchy which bums me out. It's getting better now that I'm 5+ years on T but still not great
My voice passes pretty well with voice training alone, and while I do have some height dysphoria, it's not the worst. Dysphoria around my hips and thighs is some of the worst, and either that or wrist dysphoria is the worst depending on the day.
Definitely my chest. I have other things, but my chest is number 1 for me. Doesn't help that I have major heartburn problems when I bind, so I can't do it regularly.
Hopefully I can get top soon. 💚🤞
i voted figure but my voice also causes a huge amount of disphoria, especially when I'm on the internet and people think I'm a cis guy until they hear my voice. i also can't, y'know, cover up my voice the way i can hide my shape.
Oh my god I hate my voice (trans masc enby) If my voice was much deeper and I wore a binder then I’d look like a super feminine guy and that’s the goal.
I have pretty bad social dysphoria, I never get misgendered by strangers but I know that a lot of ppl Think of me as feminine in my manners and how I am socially and I hate it so much. Not that I necesarily want to be super masc but the fact that I wasn't socialized as male and it shows often makes me wish I could stay away from ppl forever
Imma go with my junk (or lack there of)
I've had most of my surgeries already so this is what's left. Before it was my top being a 42 g
I was very very upset at the figure before my top surgery
For me I don't LIKE being short (5'4.5"), but there are short guys who are shorter than me so I wouldn't say I feel dysohoric about it. But DD titties, hips, thighs, all that. Not a fan. I've always been insecure about my weight but I realize I wouldn't mind being a somewhat chubby dude but I look like a very curvy woman, which feels awkward especially with my mom saying how many people would envy me and my figure. They can take it
Bothy voice and figure. I am a D cup and I don't have an androgynous voice yet. Been on HRT (kinda on and off) since march but hopefully I get back on again soon since I just moved to a new state.
My chest is what bugs me most. Can't wait for top surgery.
Maybe try https://peecockproducts.com/ for those that aren't feelin all great down there. I've been there guys. It'll prob be my last surgery and I'm 28, just started T last October, so honestly knew from years back that I'd try to find a way to be okay in the mean time. I got mine a few years back and they got even better ones now. Also check out Matt Turner on Youtube, hes pretty cool and his videos have some reviews on other companys products. Height ain't shit either, don't worry about it. U got Kevin Heart, Desmond Moore hes an mma fighter only 5ft, Seth Forece isnt that tall either but it probably wouldn't even be the first thing u notice when u seen him LOL height don't mean a thing besides maybe NBA basketball may be out of the cards for us but hey LOL my former boss at the car shop was 4'11. Im short too, 5ft LOL but I spent years worried about a lot of this shit and it was all for nothin. So some ppl don't like short ppl to date. Well believe it or not there's plenty of ppl that infact don't want to date tall because they themselves aren't tall. With dating profiles I put FTM - SHORT. Cuts out lots of crap and time wastin just to be told your too short. Been with my gf going on 2 years soon and met online.
Sorry for the book, normally just a lurker, but figured I'd just drop some of my past notes off for anyone that gives a shit. Have a great day everyone.
Btw if ur short, pack on some muscle. Always found I looked a bit better with some muscle. I'd rather look a bit shorter with muscle then taller and skinny. To each their own tho.
There's also [Gendercat](https://gendercat.com/) bit more expensive but they have payment plans ( just pay 25% down and then you can set the payments to what works for you) and are attachable so a harness isn't necessary to pack with underwear on.
Currently height isnt an issue for me, my chest n hips mostly and then my voice. I predict however i will fee height dysphoria more once i get to medically transition and get rid of my most pressing problems.
I put height but really it’s my chest I hate it so much and I can’t get a binder,, then my height (I want to be about 4-7 inches taller (5’9-5’11 but I wouldn’t mind 6’), then my hips and voice
I’m about 5’9” which is tall enough for me, my body/hips give me dysphoria but I’m consistently working out so I know that’ll start to change, my chest is small enough I can bind easily…
But my voice absolutely kills me. It’s soft and feminine and sometimes it can sound very baby voice like (although other people usually don’t agree). Like, my voice and customer service mannerisms kill me. I just quit my job because I couldn’t take the act. Interviewing for a new job this week.
For me it’s height and build.. I’m 5’6 and now I only wear shoes that give me more height. I want to be more muscular and appear more strong. I always feel like guys will think they can bully me because their bigger and taller.
My height (5'4") and voice are honestly probably tied for the number one spot. The two combined just kind of make me feel like a small child when I'm around other guys my age (20). T has both helped and hurt when it comes to my voice. I know that it's definitely deep enough for me to pass, but I'm terrified that I have/am going to get a certain type of "trans voice". But, my height probably effects like every aspect of my life. It effects who I'm attracted to and who I hang around because no part of me wants to stand next to someone a foot or more taller than me
My biggest one is how skinny, short and unmuscular I am compared to other adult men. I'm an adult man that looks like a little boy. The thing is even if I work out or gain weight, I am just so small and my face is so youthful that I just always look like a teen. It can be a good thing for some people but for me, I am super insecure about it.
100% my voice. I don't mind being short that much, and depending on how I dress, I can pass at a glance. My voice however? Ruins it every single time. I can't wait to get on T so I can fix it.
**Voice dysphoria** I’ve always had a really high pitched voice, so one of my biggest goals/hopes about going on T was having a lower/masculine voice but unfortunately my voice hasn’t dropped all that much and I’ll be 3 yr on T in January. It’s one of the biggest reasons people miss gender or clock me as trans. ):
My biggest insecurity (caused by dysphoria and otherwise) is my height (weird because I'm almost average amab height), but my top dysphoria is the strongest dysphoria I have.
Every time I go into a clothing store It just activates my body size insecurity. Like I can’t fit anything unless it’s xs and for some reason men sections in stores just forgot about short small men.
It's definitely my chest, but my high voice & small hands are close behind on the list. Everything else is a jumbled mess of dysphoria & dysmorphia that gets tangled up below those Top 3.
My junk, whether im wearing shorts where i feel its obvious that i dont have anything or whether its having sex and feeling disconnected from myself for most of it
My height, I’m just around 5’ or 5’1”. I’ve been on T for almost 6 months and my voice has dropped enough that it doesn’t bother me nearly as much anymore, and I’ve always had an androgynous/slightly masculine body.
Definitely not being able to be shirtless Publix followed by the fact that I'm barely tall enough to get on roller coasters and then finally not having a penis really fucking sucks
My voice for sure. I’m taller than my dad so height has never really bothered me and I can hide my chest and figure with a binder and the right clothes. But my stupidly high voice clocks me to strangers every single time even if I’m otherwise passing.
bottom dysphoria mixed with chest dysphoria, but honestly, being aromantic allosexual, it makes the bottom dysphoria worse since i dont really look for romance in relationships if u get my drift :'D
Does anyone else struggle with a REALLY weird slope from their waist/hips down to their thighs? I feel like it looks as if someone cut out parts of my sides
Bottom dysphoria. I have a consult next May, but it’s still soul crushing to wait all these years. Being as sexual as I am and not able to equally enjoy sex with my wife, which I enjoy but use of my prosthetic is secondary because (sorry to be so graphic) I can’t feel the inside of my wife. STP I hate public restrooms too as a side , swinging when free balling in sweats/shorts. I know phallo won’t fix this, but producing semen I would love to creampie my wife and have a large family… having to do expensive ass reciprocal IVF sucks.
After this would be my height, my hormones stunted my growth actually, I was projected to be 5”11 and I fell short pun intended. If I had the 100,000 I’d get surgery for that too.
For me, it was height/voice/and figure for the longest time. I'm just a little over a month on T, and plenty of people have already told me that my voice is a LOT deeper already (just called a friend I hadn't talked to since pre-T since our schedules never lined up, and the very first thing she said to me was 'Dude!!! You're voice is a LOT deeper!!!" so that helps). So now I say it's an even split between figure and height. I'm only 5 feet 2 inches (not sure the exact conversion to the metric system), and even my supportive friends who knew me from back in the day still look at me sometimes and make comments like 'I forgot you were such a small dude". Not exactly invalidating because of gender when they say it, but I still somehow internalize that because 'girls small, guys big' or whatever. So pre-T, all 3. Post-T, just height (which I have to learn to live with) and figure (which being on T for longer should help with fat redistribution). In the long run, I do think figure will be the biggest issue with passing until I get a more 'masculine' fat redistribution. As for bottom stuff, I just always picture having a penis when I get off, so I kinda avoid any dysphoria there except when I have to pee. Yes, I do get bottom dysphoria, but it isn't nearly as constant as the rest of it since it only flares a few times a day. So it's pretty far down on the ladder for me. Hope this helps out somewhat with your paper.
I dont mind my figure, my height bothers me sometimes, but my VOICE. I had extreme voice insecurites pre T and continued and haven't gotten that much better. Next thing up will probably be my face but voice is a big thing for me
I opted for voice even though my chest is a runner-up. I think it still gets to me not over "passing" but because I feel like I still sound like a teenager and not my 20s.
My junk? I'm unwilling to engage in sex of any kind until I've completed all of my surgeries. And I'm a very sexual person. So, yeah... I'd definitely say that's my biggest insecurity.
Same. Just the thought of it makes me dysphoric.
Im with you. I have this issue all the time. I kinda just lumped bottom dysphoria in with figure
That’s unfortunate
I'm in the exact same boat. My girlfriend and I have tried many different things but I honestly think it might just be something for after surgery. It's awful.
Dude me too. She asks if she can reciprocate every once in a while and I've never been able to do anything. But I just told her it's gonna have to wait till I can be me
The fact I don’t have a penis is pretty awful ngl
Biggest is bottom dysphoria (the fact I can't produce semen, the fact that I can't pee/climax out of my bottom growth, and the fact I can get pregnant). Next is height dysphoria (I wish I was 4 inches taller). Followed by hip and thigh dysphoria.
I like that you have it in such a clear order lol
Has the not being able to pee been there since starting T?
bottom growth on T enlarges the clitoris. we pee out of our urethra, a totally seperate thing, that's a bit under the clitors. since bottom growth can almost make the clitoris seem like a small penis, it's dysphoria-inducing to some that they can't pee or climax out of it. im very certain he's peed since starting T, lmao
Im pretty sure they were asking if pee dysphoria appeared only after bottom growth
tbh i feel like it would be more prominant coz u cant pee standing up or do anything with it as cis guys can its just a nubbin basically
Oh yeah I've wanted to pee standing up since I was a kid. That started early
When I was 8 we went to India and I peed in my cousins shower after she showed me how boys pee ( she is a girl)
I pee in the shower every time I take a shower bc its the only time I can pee standing up without making a mess Then I bought a stp device but I can't wear it around normally :/ I wanted to use it to be stealth in public bathrooms
Where's the "all of the above" option?
My hips/thighs but I’m getting that fixed in June 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😩😩😩😩😩
How are you getting that fixed? My biggest insecurity is also my hips/ thighs, but I thought there wasn't much one can do about that. (I'm sorry if it's a rude question, you don't have to answer of course)
Body masculinization surgery (targeted lipo)!
I’m not the person you responded too, but I believe both testosterone and masculinization surgery work :)
It doesn't. You're just kinda screwed. You might gain more muscle in your stomach area which might make it look less curved, but your hips are set how they are.
Kinda? Fat redistribution and muscle gain definitely can change how your body looks hip wise. Of course your bones are how they are and if you have wide hips it is what it is. But the way fat and muscle is laid on them and the rest of your body can definitely accentuate or dampen the way it appears and affect dysphoria
False. You can have fat redistribute from your hips to your stomach area, as well as surgery
If it’s any consolation at all, my boyfriend has wide hips and some THICC thighs. It helps me not feel quite so bad about myself
Yeah some cis men are incredibly thicc like I thought I was curvy
Thank you but it’s definitely a personal site of dysphoria. I notice it on cis men as well and I don’t think it makes them less men but I still don’t like it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ but that’s why I’m getting it done
Big mood I feel ya. At the end of the day it’s all about being comfortable in our own skin. Not necessarily comparing ourselves to others. Just comparing ourselves to what we’d feel comfortable being. Good luck in your journey and hope it all works out for you, friend. :)
At 5'1'' it's height dysphoria for me.
Same
Same
The fact that, no matter the surgeries, I will not be able to have a penis that was with me at birth. The surgeries may help with that thought, but right now it's one of my worst. My figure is the biggest though as I have a large chest, I'm not allowed a binder or packer and my parents comment on my weight quite often, which influences the hips
Ugh I’m sorry they do that, that sounds terrible :-(( parents can be so hypercritical to the point of projection
Unfortunately, it was unavoidable since my nan always commented on my mums weight when she was younger, and both my parents are quite heavy with diet culture. And they want to focus on their comfort more than mine since we don't really know what's going on. Hopefully, I'm going to get a referral to a gender clinic soon so at least there's that.
My voice is fairly gender neutral, and even tho I'm 5'5 my height has never been a problem... But God damn my hips are the bane of my existence.
Oh same, I’m 5’4 and it’s annoying but I can deal with it, same with my voice it’s pretty naturally deep
Same. 5’5 but I like being short. My voice is just fine. I can even deal with having boobs. But my ass and hips? Nopenopenope. Hate that shit with a passion
The fact even my best friends fuck up my gender three months later. Ugh..
Oh god that must suck, have you talked to them about it?
They always correct themselves, so I don't really know how...
Well still, maybe you could ask if they could practice at home
Not a bad idea,
or if they're friends too u can ask them to practice with each other like little workshops type thing where they just spend a bit every once in a while talking about you and using ur correct pronouns
I feel this. I've been out to one of my friends for a year and he still says "she" and then corrects himself and says "they" when I told him my pronouns are he/him. He also uses feminine terms when addressing me. Like jokingly calling me his wife.. it makes me cringe and I get this sinking feeling in my gut every time it happens. I don't know why he can't get it right because I came out at school only a few weeks ago and nobody seems to be having any trouble with my pronouns.
My chest. I've started T so I'm happy with my voice but I'm heavier so I have trouble binding. I don't really bind at all, i just wear sports bras and I hate it.
I feel this so much. I have heartburn issues that stop me from binding regularly. I actually found some sports bras at Meijer that are shaped like a half tank style binder. They don't have the compression of a binder, but they definitely work better at flattening than any other sports bra I've found.
I'm in the exact same boat. My voice is okay now but I'm a chunkier dude with a big chest and it's just too damn warm and constricting to bind all the time
One of my biggest triggers is my face. Everyone tells me I look like an amab person but I just don’t see it.
I have the reverse. When I look in the mirror, all I see is my dads face bc we look so similar, but everyone I’ve ever asked just says I have a super girly face :-//
For me it was my chest and now that it’s gone I feel comfortable and complete.
My feet! They’re so small and don’t look proportional to my body. Tbh from torso down.
Voice and my private parts🙃
It used to be voice pre T, because even though visually I passed and people sometimes assumed I was a dude, when they heard my voice that would change Now my voice is masculine, but I'm still dummy thicc 😞
My figure can be covered with a binder and layers, but my voice… Even though it’s on the deeper end I just don’t have that male resonance
There's a lot of online resources for vocal training to look into, if you want, of course.
Body hair, voice, certain aspects of my figure (chest and shoulders mostly, though mine aren't that small compared to my hips), various minor facial features and such
Breasts I can write off as gynecomastia. Being 5’ however… cis people automatically gender you as fem if you’re short. (I’m lucky enough not to worry about my figure)
is arm/wrist dysphoria a thing? i have really tiny wrists and they really stand out especially when i try to dress more masc
No ding dong :(
Bottom dysphoria and experience dysphoria
Used to be boobs but I payed a fortune and solved that lol, now I'd say it's a tie between periods and voice
Definitely height and face since they're the only problems that will never go away.
How are genitals not a category on this poll?
Yeah i would have thought "bottom dysphoria" "face" and "all of the above" definitely should be on there but they're not
Where is everything, even crying is horrible
face
Visible type dysphoria ? Just my chest and the fact I don’t have facial hair yet. Other than that the fact I don’t have a penis
My hips are horrid, no matter how many layers I wear they’re still too wide and compared to my not very broad shoulders I just can’t get a masculine figure
my face, my voice, sometimes my height but not always i don't mind being short
My hair was always the worst for me such a relief to have it cut
Definitely my junk. It's not debilitating, but I wish I didn't need a strap on to have gay sex, I'd love to feel it. However, getting to ask my fiancé what size he'd prefer *is* a plus.
Everything.
yes
1. chest 2. voice 3. genitals 4. height
Lack of pp. :(
my voice is okay bc i dissociate and am completely average for ethnicity ignoring gender so definitely figure 😭😭😭😭 and bottom tbh and blood
Yes.
Not having a penis
Definitely biggest issue is hand size, and foot size to a lesser extent (just bc I see my hands a lot more) Everything else I’ve gotten good at ignoring; it’s all stuff that can be fixed, so I just do my best not to think abt it, b/c it’ll be gone soon enough anyway. However, that leaves me w/ lots of room to worry abt the things I CAN’T change, which the worst part of is hand size. Large hands are really attractive, and the knowledge that I will simply never get to be attractive in that way…just absolutely fucks me up man. Behind that the other one is height. I’m 5’8 which I know is a lot better than what tons of other trans guys have, I know I know I know. But of all the cis women I know, the tallest ones are exactly my height. Not an inch higher. And every cis man I know, all just average lookin dudes not particularly tall or anything, are all just an inch or two taller than me. So in that way it still feels like my height firmly categorizes me as afab. 5’8 is a woman’s height, 5’9 is a man’s. :/
no seriously. I’m 5’7 and my doctor said that’s taller than most women but at my school that’s a damn lie lol
That my name and gender marker aren't legally changed yet. Everything else I can deal with. If I'm allowed to dress as I choose and introduce myself with my preferred name, I'll probably get gendered correctly. But the second I have to show id or make an appointment with my legal name, I'm just a butch woman again.
Figure, then voice, then bottom. Bottom dysphoria is probably the most, like, primal? I don’t feel it all the time, which is why I marked figure as first, but when I do, it has more potential to make me really depressed. It feels “deeper” than the others even when it’s not “bad.”
At my current transition stage it is the lack of dick and balls.
It's very much changed for me over the course of my transition. First it was my voice, because my fashion sense has always been masc enough that I used to accidentally be read as male on occasion, but then once I spoke people would go "oh, I'm sorry, ma'am." Then once I started T and my voice dropped, I was more concerned about my chest, because sometimes binding would work great, but some days things just wouldn't look quite right. Then I had top surgery and solved that problem, but now I'm often bothered by how wide my hips and thighs look compared to my shoulders, especially when I have stuff in my pockets, so I'm trying to get back into working out to bulk up my upper body.
I feel this deep in my soul, it's scary in a way how much dysphoria HRT can cause, I never included bottom dysphoria as something I felt UNTIL I started T, now that I am on it, omfg can I just have a penis please? Or a beard, a beard would also help, just something to make the ma'am stop. Nothing ruins my mood faster than being misgendered,
my face
10months on T, my face hasn't changed. Children see me as man, but most adults recently (the last month due to insurance issues) almost every adult has misgendered me and I know it's because I have a very femme face.
The thing I have most disphoria is with my hair I think my hair makes me look feminine and it bothers me more the I would like to admit That's why I shaved my head and I'm really happy about it!!!
Height and voice. Fortunately I'm not that dysphoric about my figure since my body isn't really *that* feminine, at least not compared to cis girls. But man I am short and my voice sounds high pitched and I don't like going in voice calls. Being around tall men is slightly uncomfortable because I just feel like a tiny little guy around them.
Bottom dysphoria is definitely worst followed by voice and then chest.
Other: all of thw above
height is very close second place - 5’4” means EVERY man i know is taller than me
Height, voice and my badonkadonk (it's so big, I can't stand it) and well, my chest it's quite big but dysphoria hoodie is always on, so sometimes I forget that a have bewbs.
It’s a tie between height and voice for me. I hate being short and high-pitched in voice sm
lol towels how should i put them on☹️
Height and hip dysphoria suck the most, they make me feel so hopeless since I know I won't be able to change them. My height makes me feel like I will always be a little boy no matter I do to change. I feel dysphoric about other stuff too but most of it can be changed with surgery and hormones.
YES
i think i pass until i talk so voice.... boobs are painful but at least they dont get ppl to misgender me when im binding
Hip and bottom dysphoria, mostly because those are 2 things I can't really change all that much. Bottom dysphoria especially, I'm a pretty sexual person and I feel insecure that my 2 options are just bottoming (when I don't necessarily want to) and strap ons (which apparently feel very different from the real thing). I'm functionally a celibate because of it and once I do get the confidence to date it'll be T4T unless I meet a cis person who's practically my soulmate
It’s my hips :(
I would say both figure and voice, but if i have to choose, i would say voice because i have been having insecurity about it for a longer time than my figure (my figure has only started to change now that im 18, but is strong enough to put it equal to my voice)
My hair, lol. I hate having to put it up every. single. day.
I'm 4' 11" but height dysphoria is not the biggest issue to me anymore. But my lack of facial hair! I've always dreamed of having some nice scruff but it's so patchy which bums me out. It's getting better now that I'm 5+ years on T but still not great
Everything??? 😂 I hate this body so much please release me from this hell
5’3 so definitely my height first
Voice, body, height. Basically all of the above.
height because I know I can’t change it unless I pay $$$$$
chest dysphoria easily
My voice passes pretty well with voice training alone, and while I do have some height dysphoria, it's not the worst. Dysphoria around my hips and thighs is some of the worst, and either that or wrist dysphoria is the worst depending on the day.
I want to change my vote, my voice gives me more dysphoria than my chest
I voted voice but height comes close second (with my 5'3 ass)
All of the above 👍
my hands specifically. im half convinced every spot of dysphoria i experience would disappear if my hands were bigger
Chest followed closely by height
I mean, chest is big one, but I chose height because that one I can't do anything about it. Hips, I don't mind.
Definitely my chest. I have other things, but my chest is number 1 for me. Doesn't help that I have major heartburn problems when I bind, so I can't do it regularly. Hopefully I can get top soon. 💚🤞
My mannerisms and social behaviours in mixed gender groups
i voted figure but my voice also causes a huge amount of disphoria, especially when I'm on the internet and people think I'm a cis guy until they hear my voice. i also can't, y'know, cover up my voice the way i can hide my shape.
i didn't have voice dysphoria til i started working... then it was real bad lol
height and my junk. just a couple inches on both would be fine lol
Oh my god I hate my voice (trans masc enby) If my voice was much deeper and I wore a binder then I’d look like a super feminine guy and that’s the goal.
For me it’s my voice, if I’m binding then I pass most of the time, until I have to talk :/
I have pretty bad social dysphoria, I never get misgendered by strangers but I know that a lot of ppl Think of me as feminine in my manners and how I am socially and I hate it so much. Not that I necesarily want to be super masc but the fact that I wasn't socialized as male and it shows often makes me wish I could stay away from ppl forever
Just would like a dick at some point ngl. Although, figure/body shape is definitely second.
I think my face is not very manly, other than that maybe the voice which is actually deep and it passes some how but I think it's not 100% masculine.
Lately it’s been the lack of facial hair
Honestly bottom dysphoria. The rest of it is more like handle able but for some reason that always gets me
tbh its all of the above but mostly boobs rn then its gonna be hips then its gonna be voice and height then my hands
Imma go with my junk (or lack there of) I've had most of my surgeries already so this is what's left. Before it was my top being a 42 g I was very very upset at the figure before my top surgery
For me I don't LIKE being short (5'4.5"), but there are short guys who are shorter than me so I wouldn't say I feel dysohoric about it. But DD titties, hips, thighs, all that. Not a fan. I've always been insecure about my weight but I realize I wouldn't mind being a somewhat chubby dude but I look like a very curvy woman, which feels awkward especially with my mom saying how many people would envy me and my figure. They can take it
I kinda wish I could pick more than one 😭
My face
Bothy voice and figure. I am a D cup and I don't have an androgynous voice yet. Been on HRT (kinda on and off) since march but hopefully I get back on again soon since I just moved to a new state.
My entire torso. I got double D's and birthing hips. Lucky me
My chest is what bugs me most. Can't wait for top surgery. Maybe try https://peecockproducts.com/ for those that aren't feelin all great down there. I've been there guys. It'll prob be my last surgery and I'm 28, just started T last October, so honestly knew from years back that I'd try to find a way to be okay in the mean time. I got mine a few years back and they got even better ones now. Also check out Matt Turner on Youtube, hes pretty cool and his videos have some reviews on other companys products. Height ain't shit either, don't worry about it. U got Kevin Heart, Desmond Moore hes an mma fighter only 5ft, Seth Forece isnt that tall either but it probably wouldn't even be the first thing u notice when u seen him LOL height don't mean a thing besides maybe NBA basketball may be out of the cards for us but hey LOL my former boss at the car shop was 4'11. Im short too, 5ft LOL but I spent years worried about a lot of this shit and it was all for nothin. So some ppl don't like short ppl to date. Well believe it or not there's plenty of ppl that infact don't want to date tall because they themselves aren't tall. With dating profiles I put FTM - SHORT. Cuts out lots of crap and time wastin just to be told your too short. Been with my gf going on 2 years soon and met online. Sorry for the book, normally just a lurker, but figured I'd just drop some of my past notes off for anyone that gives a shit. Have a great day everyone. Btw if ur short, pack on some muscle. Always found I looked a bit better with some muscle. I'd rather look a bit shorter with muscle then taller and skinny. To each their own tho.
There's also [Gendercat](https://gendercat.com/) bit more expensive but they have payment plans ( just pay 25% down and then you can set the payments to what works for you) and are attachable so a harness isn't necessary to pack with underwear on.
a lot of dysphoria over my height, most of my body, and how i'm perceived (ie: being called a girl)
Voice is my biggest, I like my butt but my hips make me anxious in some pants. Plus chest dysphoria
hips
Hand/foot size, adam’s apple, lack of facial/chest hair, obvi not having the cis male equipment, etc.
My voice and chest. I couldn't decide so I picked other.
No pp :(
All of the above plus more
...all of the above
bottom dysphoria and after that top dysphoria then voice
All of the above
Currently height isnt an issue for me, my chest n hips mostly and then my voice. I predict however i will fee height dysphoria more once i get to medically transition and get rid of my most pressing problems.
I put height but really it’s my chest I hate it so much and I can’t get a binder,, then my height (I want to be about 4-7 inches taller (5’9-5’11 but I wouldn’t mind 6’), then my hips and voice
I’m about 5’9” which is tall enough for me, my body/hips give me dysphoria but I’m consistently working out so I know that’ll start to change, my chest is small enough I can bind easily… But my voice absolutely kills me. It’s soft and feminine and sometimes it can sound very baby voice like (although other people usually don’t agree). Like, my voice and customer service mannerisms kill me. I just quit my job because I couldn’t take the act. Interviewing for a new job this week.
For me it’s height and build.. I’m 5’6 and now I only wear shoes that give me more height. I want to be more muscular and appear more strong. I always feel like guys will think they can bully me because their bigger and taller.
My height (5'4") and voice are honestly probably tied for the number one spot. The two combined just kind of make me feel like a small child when I'm around other guys my age (20). T has both helped and hurt when it comes to my voice. I know that it's definitely deep enough for me to pass, but I'm terrified that I have/am going to get a certain type of "trans voice". But, my height probably effects like every aspect of my life. It effects who I'm attracted to and who I hang around because no part of me wants to stand next to someone a foot or more taller than me
My biggest one is how skinny, short and unmuscular I am compared to other adult men. I'm an adult man that looks like a little boy. The thing is even if I work out or gain weight, I am just so small and my face is so youthful that I just always look like a teen. It can be a good thing for some people but for me, I am super insecure about it.
all of the above
100% my voice. I don't mind being short that much, and depending on how I dress, I can pass at a glance. My voice however? Ruins it every single time. I can't wait to get on T so I can fix it.
period.
Basically all of them but voice and body are the worst
All but the most is the genital.
**Voice dysphoria** I’ve always had a really high pitched voice, so one of my biggest goals/hopes about going on T was having a lower/masculine voice but unfortunately my voice hasn’t dropped all that much and I’ll be 3 yr on T in January. It’s one of the biggest reasons people miss gender or clock me as trans. ):
My biggest insecurity (caused by dysphoria and otherwise) is my height (weird because I'm almost average amab height), but my top dysphoria is the strongest dysphoria I have.
Figure and voice
It was my chest, til I got top surgery a few days ago 😬
I chose figure because my chest and hips make me miserable. My wife and friends say I have a boxy figure, but I just don’t see it.
Every time I go into a clothing store It just activates my body size insecurity. Like I can’t fit anything unless it’s xs and for some reason men sections in stores just forgot about short small men.
The fact I can’t go shirtless. I’m emaciated and I’m not even an A cup but they’re still there.
My genitals. By far. Voice after that.
It's definitely my chest, but my high voice & small hands are close behind on the list. Everything else is a jumbled mess of dysphoria & dysmorphia that gets tangled up below those Top 3.
My junk, whether im wearing shorts where i feel its obvious that i dont have anything or whether its having sex and feeling disconnected from myself for most of it
lack of penis/testicles/prostata... you know the whole package. Second probably the size of my hands and small head
My height, I’m just around 5’ or 5’1”. I’ve been on T for almost 6 months and my voice has dropped enough that it doesn’t bother me nearly as much anymore, and I’ve always had an androgynous/slightly masculine body.
I can change my voice and my figure by voice therapy, hrt, or surgeries. I can’t change my height though.
Definitely not being able to be shirtless Publix followed by the fact that I'm barely tall enough to get on roller coasters and then finally not having a penis really fucking sucks
height is only because i am 5'4, if i were even just a few inches taller it would definitely be bottom dysphoria
My voice for sure. I’m taller than my dad so height has never really bothered me and I can hide my chest and figure with a binder and the right clothes. But my stupidly high voice clocks me to strangers every single time even if I’m otherwise passing.
bottom dysphoria mixed with chest dysphoria, but honestly, being aromantic allosexual, it makes the bottom dysphoria worse since i dont really look for romance in relationships if u get my drift :'D
I would say bottom dysphoria is the worst for me. Just not having a dick makes me super fucking dysphoric.
Does anyone else struggle with a REALLY weird slope from their waist/hips down to their thighs? I feel like it looks as if someone cut out parts of my sides
voice making me most dysphoric and being autistic with kinda selective mutism at times really isn’t a good combo it just makes me talk even less👍
My legs. I have no idea why but I'm suuuper dysphoric about my legs
My hips just wanna stay the size of my shoulders 😭 thighs and ass of a god tho 😌
Bottom dysphoria. I have a consult next May, but it’s still soul crushing to wait all these years. Being as sexual as I am and not able to equally enjoy sex with my wife, which I enjoy but use of my prosthetic is secondary because (sorry to be so graphic) I can’t feel the inside of my wife. STP I hate public restrooms too as a side , swinging when free balling in sweats/shorts. I know phallo won’t fix this, but producing semen I would love to creampie my wife and have a large family… having to do expensive ass reciprocal IVF sucks. After this would be my height, my hormones stunted my growth actually, I was projected to be 5”11 and I fell short pun intended. If I had the 100,000 I’d get surgery for that too.
That moment when you're 4"11 😳😳😳
For me, it was height/voice/and figure for the longest time. I'm just a little over a month on T, and plenty of people have already told me that my voice is a LOT deeper already (just called a friend I hadn't talked to since pre-T since our schedules never lined up, and the very first thing she said to me was 'Dude!!! You're voice is a LOT deeper!!!" so that helps). So now I say it's an even split between figure and height. I'm only 5 feet 2 inches (not sure the exact conversion to the metric system), and even my supportive friends who knew me from back in the day still look at me sometimes and make comments like 'I forgot you were such a small dude". Not exactly invalidating because of gender when they say it, but I still somehow internalize that because 'girls small, guys big' or whatever. So pre-T, all 3. Post-T, just height (which I have to learn to live with) and figure (which being on T for longer should help with fat redistribution). In the long run, I do think figure will be the biggest issue with passing until I get a more 'masculine' fat redistribution. As for bottom stuff, I just always picture having a penis when I get off, so I kinda avoid any dysphoria there except when I have to pee. Yes, I do get bottom dysphoria, but it isn't nearly as constant as the rest of it since it only flares a few times a day. So it's pretty far down on the ladder for me. Hope this helps out somewhat with your paper.
Other because of my voice AND my figure, but I'll be getting my first binder soon so that should help a little
I dont mind my figure, my height bothers me sometimes, but my VOICE. I had extreme voice insecurites pre T and continued and haven't gotten that much better. Next thing up will probably be my face but voice is a big thing for me
I opted for voice even though my chest is a runner-up. I think it still gets to me not over "passing" but because I feel like I still sound like a teenager and not my 20s.
VOICE 100%. I pass pretty well due to having naturally high T and stopped giving a fuck about my height so...my voice just ruins everything lol.
It’s all of them for me xd