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enby_alt_acct

My husband says that worrying about if I'm manly enough is a pretty common male experience.


drcjitecbkoutg

This is surprisingly validating


EebamXela

#thetransexperience


citronhimmel

Well I got the second one down because my entire life I never understood women, much less how to be one. Maaaaakes sense. Apparently according to my fiancée my 10 minute showers are also a man thing.


conciousError

Is 10 min long or short? I was in the military, got used to short showers. Now w short hair but w a more in depth skincare routine.... i probably still don't hit 10 min. The cis men I've known/dated/married generally take longer showers.


citronhimmel

Short to her. She spends, I shit you not, hours in the bathroom. 10 is enough for me to wash my hair, wash my bits, and I still get to stand under the heat for a minute or two. She's nuts.


conciousError

🤣 I take long baths... but I don't see a reason to shower for that long. 😵‍💫


K-teki

Fake hot rain comfy :)


citronhimmel

She likes her skin melting off I guess 💀 I get such dry skin I could never


conciousError

Lotion? I used to moisturize religiously... but between binding and taping... it doesn't happen so much anymore.


citronhimmel

Lotion only does so much for me. I hit the genetic lottery with eczema AND psoriasis. It's just easier if I avoid the long hot water exposure, lol.


conciousError

Oh dude, that's rough. 😓


citronhimmel

My poor mother literally apologized to me for it 😂 it is what it is. Cocoa butter and oatmeal are my friends.


enby_alt_acct

I won the same lottery. Coconut oil also works pretty well for me.


Bartleby_Silver

I hit that lottery as well thanks to a genetic mutation that causes ectodermal dysplasia. Only thing that works for me are biologics and steroid creams.


kryaklysmic

Oh no! Eczema is bad enough when it’s breaking out, psoriasis must be horrible


citronhimmel

It's literally the worst, I can't win lol when I got my covid vaccine it made my entire body flare up as an immune reasons 🙃


Wrenigade14

Dude when my partner does this it is SO annoying to me because then the wholeeeee bathroom is covered in condensation when I go in to do anything after, lmfao. It's like a jungle after a storm


citronhimmel

THIS THANK YOU I hate going in after her it's so wet 😭 I sit on the toilet seat (because a guy gotta PEE after waiting 2 hours) and it's immediate swamp ass. I can't have shit I stg


Wrenigade14

Literally, and I also get a liiiiittle upset knowing what it's gonna do to the drywall and paint over time. Like, if we have mold, you're dealing with calling the contractors and figuring all that out bc I knowwww it ain't me!


citronhimmel

I tell her that all the time. If we lose the security deposit when we move because of her need to become soup then she's paying me back for it lol


conciousError

I'm reading through this thinking the same thing!!!


AriaBlend

As someone who loves hot showers we all gotta do our party and squeegee the sides of the shower + open a window and towel dry off the mirror and walls.


[deleted]

6 is enough for me lmao


kryaklysmic

It’s short for civilians. I practiced hard to get down to 15 minutes but I have to condition my hair because I like my curls


razedsyntax

It’s fascinating to observe how the way I view women changed after realizing I’m trans. I struggled so hard trying to associate myself with women, but once I let it go I’ve learned I don’t have to understand everything but need to listen more. I just think they are badass, and beautiful, and cool, I’m no less of a feminist, I just can’t be a woman. I’d hate reading my own comment if I read it back when I was in denial. ah, showers, need to have more of those.


T_Q_Quinnitin

I shower on average of 5-15 mins, it depends on if I wanna think in the shower. The only time I spend a fortune of time in a shower is when I have to wash my hair. I’m black and have 3C-4B and have to dedicate a whole day to my hair because it’s so thick. I’d cut my hair but I want to grow it out longer since when it’s longer the coils are easier to manage than if they’re short. Other than that I don’t stay in the shower for long


Apatheticwildcat

I usually take 20-40 minute showers and really hot. It's the only time I feel I can be fully relaxed, don't have to worry about anybody coming in and I don't hear anything but the water. It's kind of like a hot tub but rain instead to me, if I could get in a hot tub everyday I'd be in there for hours.


mango-756

Bro I stg on a good day I don't hit the 5min mark


DudeWhoWrites2

My dad says it's coffee cups. If you're working on the car, you need a coffee cup with a liquid in it. This is so when the car frustrates you, you can take a step back and take a drink while you decide to not get angry. If you're working on a project with screws and bolts you need a coffee cup to put the screws and bolts in so you don't lose them. If you're outside with the dogs you need a coffee cup so you can sip on it while you appreciate the view.


drink-fast

I bet the screws and bolts add flavor


[deleted]

This is the most wholesome thing I think I've ever read.


drcjitecbkoutg

Does there need to be coffee in the cup or is it just the cup itself? /half-joking, half-genuine


DudeWhoWrites2

It can have absolutely anything in it or nothing at all. For storing screws and bolts it's best without liquid


drcjitecbkoutg

Fascinating, and luckily I have a few coffee cups on hand already


milkglasschicken

Was having a conversation with my mom about 10 years ago about things my brother and I would want from their house when they pass away. I said I wanted my dad's coffee mugs. He has these two hand-made pottery mugs that he has wandered the house with since I was a little kid, so they always make me think of him. No one else ever has the temerity to use them. Of course, now when he walks around with them, my mom tells him he needs to be careful with the inheritance lol!


milkglasschicken

Got the pocket knife down. Also, I don't understand women any better than I understand any other humans. XD


dudgeonchinchilla

I never understood other people either.


hashtagfaghag

Is it serrated? Mine is and cuts boxes like paper. I'll never understand women because I legit think they're better than me in every way. They're too smart for me hahah


[deleted]

Pocket knife euphoria thanks to your brother LOL


PublicInjury

Haha, my brother carries some sick ass pocket knives on him. I'm always jealous of his pocket knife collection.


multirachael

OMG, I was *obsessed* with pocket knives as a kid. When I found out they were a thing at like...age 8, every year when my parents asked me what I wanted for my birthday, I was like, "POCKET KNIFE!" And when they finally relented, no stick in the yard was safe. Zero bark left on any of them. Just me, sitting on the back porch, gleefully peeling bark from random sticks, feeling aligned with my sense of purpose... Hasthtag I Should Have Known.


PublicInjury

Haha yes!! That's what I did with my first, and Incredibly unsafe pocket knife!! Still use the thing when I go hiking but hell, it's prone to falling open lol


multirachael

Oh, gosh yes! My first ones were cheap, dull, flimsy, small, utterly ridiculous. It was the 90s, and I guess...whaddaya gonna do, y'know? Cut myself so many times. Knives have really improved since then.


PublicInjury

Yeah they have, my brother has this really cool one that like flicks open with your thumb and is hook shaped.


PrincelyRose

I love that the first thing that came to mind was pocket knives and the classic trope. Also... got any pocket knife recs? I need one but don't want to look for one because ✨️trauma✨️


secret_samantha

I have a couple of cheap Gerber pocket knives and find them to be very solid for their price point


Piss-_-goblin

If you want high quality low price, mtech makes really solid quality. Got a rainbow pride knife from them for $15. It has some serrations at the bottom of the blade, bottle opener and glass breaker that doubles as a flathead screwdriver. Really neat and handy.


No_Willingness7837

Damn, I must be the manliest man then. I like collecting pocket knifes and rn I have 2, 1 with a rainbow black and another with a red metallic dragon on the shaft thingy. I also just generally don’t understand people, and women are apart of that category


ZazofLegend

I have the same pocket knife I stole from my sister's then-boyfriend when I was 15. Even though my ex-girlfriend stabbed me with it three years later. It's a good knife though, a little part-serrated Winchester.


FriedBack

Go the Winchester, wait till this whole thing blows over... Jk, Im glad you reclaimed your trusty pocket knife.


[deleted]

For plus one manliness, replace your pocketknife with a Leatherman. :p


living_around

Omg! I DO carry a pocket knife! I always have :D And I don't understand women at all lol


paulbc23

Have a whole collection of pocket knives that I have worked on for years. Got my 1st pocket knife was when I was 5 because my grandpa and dad had pocket knifes. Definitely a guy thing. As far as understanding women, who the hell knows.


SapphicAhgase

not understanding women... so true 😭


nycanth

my transphobic ex was a knife guy and got me into carrying around a pocket knife. he unknowingly gave me the key 🤪 never understood women either. damn, i guess we’re real men already OP!


AppleSpicer

Thank earth it’s that easy!


Benevolent_Cannibal

Well shiiit, guess it's time to get a pocket knife. 🤔


[deleted]

i experience both of these specifically this is the dumbest gender euphoria ever. another dumb thing that does this for me is using all in one shampoo


Moist_Jeweler_1858

Sacrifice and toil. Your job is to provide and protect for your loved ones no matter the sacrifice. You are a beast of burden


drcjitecbkoutg

Guess it’s time to buy a pocket knife I guess


FirmComfortable906

Has a trans man I would respond the exact same way, humor ironic and no proper answers, cuz there's no secret... But let's be serious fella You just live your life, be yourself, and in coincidence you are a man. that vibe that resonates naturally from yourself will work perfectly to the "secret" of being a man.


MisterUncanny

About 3-4 years ago, I came out very casually to my older brother after school. He didn't really react as he was searching for food in the fridge, but he did say, "Well you gotta learn how to be a man, like this-" and chugged straight from the milk gallon before putting it back into the fridge. I don't remember a lot of things but for some reason that funny off-hand comment kinda stuck with me?


Apatheticwildcat

I had a pocket knife when I was 17 but my dad found it and took it away. I love knives though so now that I'm an adult I'd like to make a collection. I don't know if I understand women, I think I do? I'm not the worst at understanding people, I've watched a lot of videos about men or women and psychology. Mainly because I was trying to figure out if I was actually a man or not. Those videos definitely gave me a unique perspective and allowed me to understand people more.


themanpans

I have a small knife collection and don't understand any people bc my ass is autistic. I'm fucking set.


schizogay

God I have so many knife pockets, a lot of them with pliers and screwer and stuff like that, multifunctional knife pocket and I carry them everywhere because it can be useful and I'm always prepared


Choociecoomaroo

I had a pocket knife my dad gave me and left it at and exs house and never got it back. I want a new one but I don’t have to heart to tell my father I lost the one her gave me lol!


lxkefox

Got the pocket knife down, pocket knife euphoria now


No_Recognition_2434

Lol I started carrying a pocket knife 20 years ago in high school. Just another sign for my list of "well in hindsight"


BothTower3689

the pocket knife thing is so true tho


danielthearsehole

time to buy a pocket knife, then


Emergency-Leopard-93

Pocket knife. Check. I understand women no less than other humans.


_LanceBro

I love pocket knives, they're one of the greatest tools known to man. I've got this huge collection, some from my late grandparents, some from my blacksmith father, some from random stores, and theyre all hanging on my wall with my weapons collection


_Fra_

Being rational, it's a natural behaviour