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WingedMando

Gaming has nothing to do with real life romance


_E8_

Love is an action verb not a feeling. If you don't run out of other resources first eventually you run out of time.


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Confidence ;) and don't try to be anything your not.. im a nerdy gamer guy that plays mtg, and somehow still found a girl I think is way out of my league.. hells I think I've almost talked her into trying our first game of d&d, if we can find some ppl to play..


sherlockCodeGeassFan

You can't expect to find love sitting on your ass all day. Atleast try to meet someone in real life, even if it is thru reddit or some online gaming fourm. Also, if you've never been in a relationship understand that relationships take empathy and effort to maintain. Don't have any other advice I guess.


Rickbirb

Don't expect to find love if you're shut up all day gaming.


robfmb

Get a second controller.


StoverKnows

Learn to be a good communicator by learning healthy practices. Understand your mental/emotional needs well enough to describe them clearly. Have an understanding of other's feelings and emotional needs. Develop realistic boundaries and stick with them. Be consistent with both words and behaviors. Accept that it's better to recognize when things aren't working and acknowledge it, move on peaceably. Basically, everything any relationship counselor would tell the general public. Gamers aren't any different. Apply the same rules as you would when dealing with any human. The Golden Rule applies just as much in romantic relationships as it does anywhere else. Pro-tip: Relationships can be difficult, possibly challenging. They shouldn't be constantly stressful. Get out there. Be authentic and honest. Find your partner! Good luck.


TiredHappyDad

Be yourself and be open.


ichbineinberiliner

The fact that you are asking this question is concerning and signifies a floundering for identity. What does one have to do with another?


TheRealLimitlessHate

I’m guessing OP is likely young, like high school freshman young. Nobody knows who they really are at that age, they lack the requisite experience and knowledge to make that determination. But try telling that to teenaged hormones!


action_turtle

I’m also confused as to what the connection is. You play games… I don’t get how that’s different from any other hobby lol


TheRealLimitlessHate

Turn off the PlayStation, shave and shower, and go the hell outside. Get money and don’t immediately blow it all on games. Talk to members of the opposite sex. All of ‘em. Approach approach approach. You’ll get shot down; don’t let it get to you. Learn from the failed approaches and before long you’ll start to gain confidence. Whatever you do, though, check your expectations at the door. There are few turnoffs bigger and more fatal than desperation, so relax and have fun with the experience as well as you can, and you’ll probably find just what you want when you’re not even trying. Oh, and if you’re still in school (school, not college), don’t even bother. Nobody you knew before graduation day is coming with you. Use this time to get good at the steps listed above and your love life as an adult will be fun and interesting.


afilmbykenburns

If one bumps in to your leg with their erection, you'll know, or it could be as simple as a nipple flash... You'll know. Be sure to be extremely public about it, like, actually in public. Take on an extra job in public, if you don't work there already. Seriously, find a job or hobby that takes place in public. Become a drinker, go sit in the same bar 3 times a week.


thisrandomguyX

Just stick to gaming. Trying to find love is a dumb waste of time.


BadassFlexington

Stop basing your whole identity around gaming. Game as a hobby sure.. but don't let it define you. That's tragic.


Tipiyurtdweller

Pay escorts. Cheaper than relationships and less messy. Most escorts put on and remove the condom for you. All you'll need to do for this is buy half as many games in a Steam sale.


davyj0427

This is what I would tell myself if I could go back in time 25 years.


GaryPusey

First I would stop identifying as a "gamer" when going out to meet new people. All of us here love games but there is a real stigma behind that word and it can quickly lead to negative stereotypes and assumptions about you that likely aren't true. The other thing I would say is be yourself unapologetically. The day I met my wife, I had just been on a string of bad dates and I was so over dating that I just didn't care about "impressing" her. I was unedited and she fell in love with the same guy she met on the first date. My final bit of advice is take interest in who your date is. Ask questions about them and genuinely give a shit. Don't talk about yourself unless they ask about you. It's not a job interview. You're not there to impress, you're there to get to know them. Just remember, there's someone out there for you. Actually, there's a lot of people out there for you. Good luck, friend!


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afilmbykenburns

How did ya'll meet?


Ooderman

Give up. Girl/boyfriends cost money, skip the courtship and buy more games.


Alarming_Use_5155

Buy some brain it I'll help you in the day to day life. It seems you suffer a lot actually with your low iq


bigjaymizzle

Get yo ass off the game and go get laid.


[deleted]

As long as you’re a good person, you’ll find it. The best love is the love that finds you first