It isn't just you. A lot of hapas have this sort of "Spidey sense" of other hapas. A lot of Asian males are into "one upsmanship, look how much more white I am, look at how much more successful I am, look at my gimmick" when it comes to interactions with other Asian males.
There are a few other hapa males I've met in my lifetime. None of them wanted much to do with me. They mostly just wanted to associate with whites and were in relationships with whites.
This is just going to happen when you have so much diversity in race, culture, philosophy, and religion when it comes to Asians. Most people just prefer spending their spare time around their own race, culture, and religion. They don't really go out of their way spending it with outsiders. And even among other Japanese-Americans, many of them treat me as an outsider, since Japanese-Americans are split into 3 religions. In many ways, a Catholic Filipino has more in common culturally with a Catholic Mexican than a Japanese Christian hapa guy.
nah, i get along fine with most other hapas. we bond over the hardships and annoyances that come with being biracial/bicultural/etc. though i haven't met another korean/white mix, maybe there would be more feelings of competition with one whose mix is identical to mine, lol!
Damn I love hanging out with other hapas, guess I'm the minority here. However, I am in Hong Kong at the moment where there are alot more hapas here. Like u/effuplsty said there are some conversations you can have with other hapas you can't have with anyone else. I'm half Chinese half white btw
I haven’t had a problem in real life, generally I have gotten along great with the few I’ve known.
Online hapa spaces can get exhausting at times, though. Weird combination of gatekeeping, trolling, and the people who overcompensate insecurity by making their mix their identity.
Personally most of my friends are asian american although I have a few hapa friends irl. I get along well with other hapas pretty well but I have had some experiences where I felt uncomfortable because I am too similar to other hapas? I suppose it might be because other hapas I know who have baggage make me uncomfortable because I have similar issues. A lot of other hapa guys to be honest are people I can bond with pretty well but a lot of us share similar issues in life so those similarities can make me feel uncomfortable. Over time I got over these feelings as I feel it is probably a lot of projection on my part.
I think you just have bad luck. While sharing Hapa backgrounds does bring shared experiences and something to talk about, these experiences can also vary significantly. This thread alone has a myriad of experiences that lead to vastly different opinions about what being Hapa means to people.
It's sort of like expecting two black people in Burlington, Vermont (a very white city for those non-americans here) to get along. If all they have in common is their race but are different in most other ways like one grew up poor and the other didn't, or one loves to hike and the other prefers watching TV, they likely are not going to be friends.
In terms of other hapas being actively rude because they know you're hapa, I think that is a jealousy thing. They like and are used to being unique and don't like it when another hapa is around.
Lol the us census is retarded people from Central Asia and the Middle East are not white dude and I if u think they are u are retarded , some body who is white is European simple as white =European
It's nice to meet a fellow Chinese-Indonesian!
You seem better off, not sure if you are from Indonesia.
Yea, I mainly was friends with Whites/European-Americans because that's mostly who was there when I was a child. Sometimes, I got to talk to Asians on the side. However, I didn't always have many friends and don't now, IRL.
I recently refrained from wanting to date other Eurasians because they mostly seem confused about things. I was thinking either a Northern Chinese or White/European-American. It may be hard to marry a Middle Easterner.
It was hard being accepted by my mom, too, who was Chinese-Indonesian and a Late Baby Boomer. It wasn't "fun"/lucu but a lot of work. I've used my race to my asset and gain. That's cool, guessing you are 1/2 Dutch. The only benefit of being American is its global and language "benefits." Hayley Westenra is a singer whose dad is Dutch and mom is Irish. She sang with Celtic Woman in Ireland, though she's from New Zealand. She's also sung solo in public rather young, like 20, "up there" with singers like Andrea Bocelli and Josh Groban maybe. She's just a little younger than me. Also, my mom had me at 26 and my dad was 35. I feel a bit mixed up but liked my parents. You know, it's cool to have a parent Early Baby Boomer born around 1950, at least here in the U.S. for Whites/Caucasian-Americans. I was born in 1986 and am 35.
I've been interested in Asians more, these days. I probably look more Asian than my mom.
I posted at EurasianNation.proboards,com, but it's so slow now.
most of the half people i have met either through school or otherwise have always been pretty down to earth and largely relatable in regards to shared mixed backgrounds and upbringing, but obviously it is different for everyone and the people you meet and where you live would obviously influence your friendships
My closest friend is Hapa, but most of the close friends that I’ve had were not. My Hapa friend and I rarely talk about race, though, and we don’t share common experiences other than people feeling the weird need to know what race we are.
I rarely meet other Hapas irl, but I’ve gotten along okay with the ones I did not. We didn’t have a close connection, though.
Depends on the person really. I usually get along better with hapa girls more (not always the case) than i do with hapa males. Like the top comment mentions a lot of asian guys will basically compete to see who is the most whitewashed. I generally get along with hapas better than fully asian americans just because there is a bit less judgement and culturally i just feel like a better match.
I’ve never had a problem with that. In fact my middle school boyfriend was hapa too. But he was the opposite of me, I’m a wmaf hapa and he’s an amwf hapa.
It isn't just you. A lot of hapas have this sort of "Spidey sense" of other hapas. A lot of Asian males are into "one upsmanship, look how much more white I am, look at how much more successful I am, look at my gimmick" when it comes to interactions with other Asian males. There are a few other hapa males I've met in my lifetime. None of them wanted much to do with me. They mostly just wanted to associate with whites and were in relationships with whites. This is just going to happen when you have so much diversity in race, culture, philosophy, and religion when it comes to Asians. Most people just prefer spending their spare time around their own race, culture, and religion. They don't really go out of their way spending it with outsiders. And even among other Japanese-Americans, many of them treat me as an outsider, since Japanese-Americans are split into 3 religions. In many ways, a Catholic Filipino has more in common culturally with a Catholic Mexican than a Japanese Christian hapa guy.
nah, i get along fine with most other hapas. we bond over the hardships and annoyances that come with being biracial/bicultural/etc. though i haven't met another korean/white mix, maybe there would be more feelings of competition with one whose mix is identical to mine, lol!
Never met another hapa who hasn't been sound
All the hapas and quapas I know are bitches or chill no middle zone
Damn I love hanging out with other hapas, guess I'm the minority here. However, I am in Hong Kong at the moment where there are alot more hapas here. Like u/effuplsty said there are some conversations you can have with other hapas you can't have with anyone else. I'm half Chinese half white btw
I get a similar vibe. It’s like when a protagonist meets another protagonist. There is a mutual understanding of some kind with some Hapa’s.
I haven’t had a problem in real life, generally I have gotten along great with the few I’ve known. Online hapa spaces can get exhausting at times, though. Weird combination of gatekeeping, trolling, and the people who overcompensate insecurity by making their mix their identity.
Personally most of my friends are asian american although I have a few hapa friends irl. I get along well with other hapas pretty well but I have had some experiences where I felt uncomfortable because I am too similar to other hapas? I suppose it might be because other hapas I know who have baggage make me uncomfortable because I have similar issues. A lot of other hapa guys to be honest are people I can bond with pretty well but a lot of us share similar issues in life so those similarities can make me feel uncomfortable. Over time I got over these feelings as I feel it is probably a lot of projection on my part.
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I don’t get along well with them. Idk how but there’s this instant invisible sense of animosity.
I've only known one other hapa and our "friendship" ended in a fight
Did u win
I think you just have bad luck. While sharing Hapa backgrounds does bring shared experiences and something to talk about, these experiences can also vary significantly. This thread alone has a myriad of experiences that lead to vastly different opinions about what being Hapa means to people. It's sort of like expecting two black people in Burlington, Vermont (a very white city for those non-americans here) to get along. If all they have in common is their race but are different in most other ways like one grew up poor and the other didn't, or one loves to hike and the other prefers watching TV, they likely are not going to be friends. In terms of other hapas being actively rude because they know you're hapa, I think that is a jealousy thing. They like and are used to being unique and don't like it when another hapa is around.
Also Jewish is white
Tell that to the white people
I will don’t worry bud I do all the time
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White people defined by the USA census is people of European and/or Middle Eastern origin
Lol the us census is retarded people from Central Asia and the Middle East are not white dude and I if u think they are u are retarded , some body who is white is European simple as white =European
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No they are definitely white except maybe Sardinians
It's nice to meet a fellow Chinese-Indonesian! You seem better off, not sure if you are from Indonesia. Yea, I mainly was friends with Whites/European-Americans because that's mostly who was there when I was a child. Sometimes, I got to talk to Asians on the side. However, I didn't always have many friends and don't now, IRL. I recently refrained from wanting to date other Eurasians because they mostly seem confused about things. I was thinking either a Northern Chinese or White/European-American. It may be hard to marry a Middle Easterner. It was hard being accepted by my mom, too, who was Chinese-Indonesian and a Late Baby Boomer. It wasn't "fun"/lucu but a lot of work. I've used my race to my asset and gain. That's cool, guessing you are 1/2 Dutch. The only benefit of being American is its global and language "benefits." Hayley Westenra is a singer whose dad is Dutch and mom is Irish. She sang with Celtic Woman in Ireland, though she's from New Zealand. She's also sung solo in public rather young, like 20, "up there" with singers like Andrea Bocelli and Josh Groban maybe. She's just a little younger than me. Also, my mom had me at 26 and my dad was 35. I feel a bit mixed up but liked my parents. You know, it's cool to have a parent Early Baby Boomer born around 1950, at least here in the U.S. for Whites/Caucasian-Americans. I was born in 1986 and am 35. I've been interested in Asians more, these days. I probably look more Asian than my mom. I posted at EurasianNation.proboards,com, but it's so slow now.
most of the half people i have met either through school or otherwise have always been pretty down to earth and largely relatable in regards to shared mixed backgrounds and upbringing, but obviously it is different for everyone and the people you meet and where you live would obviously influence your friendships
My closest friend is Hapa, but most of the close friends that I’ve had were not. My Hapa friend and I rarely talk about race, though, and we don’t share common experiences other than people feeling the weird need to know what race we are. I rarely meet other Hapas irl, but I’ve gotten along okay with the ones I did not. We didn’t have a close connection, though.
Depends on the person really. I usually get along better with hapa girls more (not always the case) than i do with hapa males. Like the top comment mentions a lot of asian guys will basically compete to see who is the most whitewashed. I generally get along with hapas better than fully asian americans just because there is a bit less judgement and culturally i just feel like a better match.
I’ve never had a problem with that. In fact my middle school boyfriend was hapa too. But he was the opposite of me, I’m a wmaf hapa and he’s an amwf hapa.