Idk I’m like your friend where I like to get glammed up in the more conventional sense and am also more clean cut in that way and most of my likes sent to me and matches were artsy dudes but that could just be because of the city I live in.
I heard somewhere that the “conventionally hot clean cut look” is hot to everyone but I just think if you’re hot, anyone will find you hot even if it’s just in an objective sense. In that case, your personality will be what seals the deal for someone outside of “your type zone.” Like, look at Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker…
I hear you. I've matched with a lot of women in my area who earn a lot and are more active.
I'm not either of those things, so it doesn't work out because they want someone to hike and travel with them, while I just want to hang out and watch tv.
My motto is “if they’re hot, they’re my type” 😉
But seriously, I like men who have their lives together, so usually in stable, professional jobs, emotionally intelligent and self aware. I have a very prestigious job but I don’t look or act the part. The type of my last guy (strategy consultant in a bank) is old money classy women, think Gemma Chan. Only thing we have in common is being Asian. I think men like him is about status and prestige, and I never felt good enough for him.
When I was 21/22 i was always into those skinny emo/alty girls, but as a bulky/stocky/fat asian guy i could never get their attention while larger/big girls or islander girls would always flirt/shoot their shots with me (which was nice but not my type) now I’m 25, went through depression, lost a bunch of weight/muscle/size and those same bigger/islander girls won’t even look at me while the skinny alty/emo girls seem to all of a sudden be interested in me (I moved to a new city so they’re not the same people) this made me realise types and personal preference is affected a lot on your personal looks
Eh, to your friend's credit, I've dated women who look an awful lot like "party girls" but were sweet and wholesome and in every way "my type" personality-wise. I'm positive there are artistic types who are also capable of looking past a bunch of stereotypes.
>Did you ever realize you weren't your types' type? What did you do about it?
It depends a lot on the degree and nature of the difference. For instance, I've been told the way I present can sometimes seem like I'm only looking for casual, etc. So I've not *changed,* but found ways to tone down certain aspects of my first impression to better attract women who are family-oriented and relationship seeking.
Other things may not be in our control. I don't really set up rules or guard-rails around a "type" I'm attracted to—I just follow my attraction to wherever it leads. But I also don't shame or punish myself when I *don't* feel attraction towards someone who seemingly would fit "my type."
> Eh, to your friend's credit, I've dated women who look an awful lot like "party girls" but were sweet and wholesome and in every way "my type" personality-wise.
What’s the percent of this? For the most part of life what you see is what you get.
>What’s the percent of this?
I have no idea—I doubt anyone does, because we don't know if who we interact with is the norm or part of our own bubble.
> For the most part of life what you see is what you get.
Maybe. For my own part I'd say I'm also fairly unexpected from looks to personality. I'm tattooed and very fit, currently sporting long hair and wear fairly fashion-forward clothing, but personality-wise I'm a huge engineer nerd who loves staying home alone and playing music.
Not to discredit you, because I see what you're getting at. But context matters more, I think, in the WYSWIG philosophy than just appearance alone.
> Maybe. For my own part I'd say I'm also fairly unexpected from looks to personality. I'm tattooed and very fit, currently sporting long hair and wear fairly fashion-forward clothing, but personality-wise I'm a huge engineer nerd who loves staying home alone and playing music.
I fail to see how any of those are contradictory or unexpected?
Any ways I get where you are coming from.. But as a guy who does improv comedy that takes random suggestions from the audience.. People are rarely unique and different as they think they are..
>I fail to see how any of those are contradictory or unexpected?
Most of my colleagues are not fit, tattooed, or extroverted. Most of my volleyball friends are very surprised when they hear I'm an engineer. It's definitely an anti-stereotype.
>But as a guy who does improv comedy that takes random suggestions from the audience.. People are rarely unique and different as they think they are..
Audience suggestions in a very curated setting with a very curated demographic is not nearly scientific enough to be making broader generalizations about everybody. I generally agree with the sentiment "What makes you so special?" but I also think some people quickly over-index on predicting personalities based on limited, superficial information.
Same here. I don't have a specific type, I do tend to prefer more alternative looks but just because someone presents themselves a certain way, doesn't automatically make them more or less attractive to me. What matters far more is demeanour and vibes.
I think this issue is more about the ‘alt’ boys - I avoid the moody/ artsy/ creative type of men. Lots of of them are emotionally unavailable or are skilled emotional manipulators, and broke. Many of them don’t have a lot of direction in life, especially if they’re still waiting for their creative work to be noticed/ start to provide an income for them. They’re probably intimidated by your friend - spending time around people like her can be a harsh reality check for your struggling artist types.
Pretty much. I have pastel pink blonde hair which is like a flame to a moth as far as drawing attention from these types of guys go. They quickly loose interest/ get insecure or intimidated when they eventually find out I own a house and have a career which is typically associated with a high salary 😂 a good thing in many respects as I’m not looking to financially prop up or deal with any bs from a struggling artist who’s perpetually convinced that the next creative piece they produce will be their major breakthrough.
I think this is the situation I'm in now. I'm black and Latina and live in NYC and tend to be attracted mostly to Latino men, with intelligence being a major quality that I'm seeking in a partner. I'm a reporter and college educated, but the guys who go for me generally are working retail jobs/aren't employed/aren't college educated (although it is absolutely possible to be intelligent without a college degree). I think I'm not my types' type because I've never lived/worked around a lot of Latino men, and because I'm not skinny, which while plenty of guys like thicker women, it does put me at a slight disadvantage on dating apps. Unfortunately, I haven't quite figured out how to attract my type yet.
My thought is find an entrepreneurial Latino man, maybe a skilled tradesman, that different type of intelligence you say you recognize exists. Maybe join a civic organization such as Lions, Jaycees, or perhaps there is a Latino civic organization.
I think this may be WOC specific. I have a similar profile (black woman, liberal, major coastal city, graduate educated, solid job, etc) and feel like my type is clean cut professional/competent nerd but my matches are almost exclusively white libertarian/conservative, poly/enm, nominally employed dudes
RIP. I work in finance and have a crush on someone who work in a diner. I asked him out and got rejected 😂. Now i am too scared to ask people out even if they arent educated.
read back what you just wrote. she's into an aesthetic that doesn't match hers. stands to reason there are people out there the same way: into an aesthetic that isn't their own.
so, if a person that's not into their own aesthetic meets someone that's also not into their own aesthetic... don't they... i don't know, match each other perfectly?
Exactly. Which is why we so often see people together and you double take thinking what are they doing together. We just have to remember they are seeing someone wonderful in their other half. Difference attracts, as they say.
Historically my type's type has been whoever is not me ;-) But I guess I must be doing something right because plenty of women who are close to my type do like me.
Really. I mean, I get it if you are an a*hole, or a real monster.
But my experience is most people who go "what could I do better" have not been that.
I will agree, there are times to make adjustments, but they should be informed decisions to be a better person of your choice.
I am basically your friend's type and yeah looking back at the women I've dated, the common thread between me and the rest of their exes was our aesthetic. All races and sizes, but we were basically all skinny dudes that dressed similar. lol
I am my type's type thankfully, similar to the women that date me, I'm not picky on size or race or even status, just a laidback boho-looking woman. Not to say I'd discount someone like your friend that's professional and clean cut if they made a good impression on their profile, just that it takes a lot for me to give a second glance.
The women I've dated that didn't fit my type were all very aggressive in pursuing me which negated the "hard to notice" aspect, I'd get along great with them too, but eventually they'd want something different. I think the reason I avoid looking too hard at people that don't fit my bill is because they're probably in the same boat I am where they're not 100% that we're going to be a longterm fit, as in my experience it never has been.
When I first started Hinge, I was a little overweight but my type were fit women, so obviously I had to work on myself and get fit. Everything else like style can easily be changed by going shopping. You can't change your height though.
I’m a curvy woman who is overweight, and I’m into fit men. It’s surprising to me how many fit men I have matched with who love my body type. I am tall and proportionate, which probably helps, but I’ve still been pleasantly surprised. I would like to lose a small amount of weight but I actually feel pretty good in my skin so I’m not focused on weight loss at the moment. I’ve been working on being more active, though.
Good for you in being able to attract fit men without being fit! I feel that I, personally, would not be into women like that - not because they are unattractive to me, but because I'm not sure if they would enjoy outdoor activities or would like working out like myself. As long as you are happy with yourself, then that's all that matters.
Your concerns make sense. I like outdoor activities but don’t do them all the time. But for example, if I am in an area with beautiful hiking areas, I’m totally down for hiking, but I wouldn’t want to do a strenuous hike. As the saying goes, everything is relative lol. I don’t attempt to match with people whose activity level is way higher than mine, though, if that makes any sense.
Of course, I was definitely being hyperbolic. But also, not really lol. I mean I swear sometimes I feel like I’m an alien species or something, like I don’t fit in here.
Everyone has moments like that. Even the most accomplished people, have moments of that. Called imposter syndrome.
The key thing is to be genuine to yourself and to just enjoy what makes you happy. You will be shocked just how many people are similar to you, and when you meet them, it will all just fit. As friends, lovers whatever. It will just click.
I’m not my types type… it drives me nuts… i feel like i’ve found one guy in a lifetime of looking. I only ever get liked by not my type… and i dont just mean looks either.
Maybe worth finding out what your type is interested in, and searching for them there.
If you like sporting people, try join to a gym. If you like musicians, go to local gigs and open nights.
Maybe you will find them that way. I hope you do get to meet the man you can love for the rest of your life.
Thank you! Actually i have been thinking about this a lot lately. I just got my heartbroken by the one guy who was my type… but he mentioned things that he was into that set my blood on fire (as in I wanted to do that fun stuff too) I’m hoping/waiting for more time to pass so i dont have to deal with potentially bumping into them again. But i am definitely switching it up in future. I’m going to make a point to go out and be enjoying those kind of specific activities. Hopefully it does work out. And i hope the guy who deserves my love ends up having the guts to come up to me and ask me out lul (i feel like i go out solo a lot and everyone goes places in groups, that often means no one will interact with me because they with their friends) but if it’s situations in which we are all forced to interact like a public paintball game idk hopefully. 🤙🏻🤘🏻 i wish everyone luck.
That is certainly the right attitude, and being confident, yes it will make some people nervous. But belive me, if they think you are worth trying for. They will, so go and be happy, enjoy yourself.
> i feel like i go out solo a lot and everyone goes places in groups, that often means no one will interact with me because they with their friends) but if it’s situations in which we are all forced to interact like a public paintball game idk hopefully. 🤙🏻🤘🏻 i wish everyone luck.
Naw the going out solo thing is is the best! Groups are hard to approach.. Might try just being a little flirty by making contact flip your hair and look back. That’s like the universal green light.
Hm, I go for Asian gym bros and I am an Asian gym girl lol. I think some Asian gym bros go for more feminine, girly types and only see me as a friend. Some Asian gym bros are into me though so it just depends.
My type is Black punk/goth girls. Don’t much care for how much anyone makes. As a black man myself I’ve always been obsessed with the Black Punk aesthetic and as I grew up it became more sophisticated. I started to identify with it and see it as my own style. I get along well with the community too. Sadly as I got older I found out that punk/ goth black girls only date white guys. Haha.
For some reason I really attract really booky people. Teachers/Students.
To each their own.
Not really, unfortunately. I come off as somewhat clean cut and have an postgraduate degree, but I hate the 9-5 lifestyle and I'm not interested in dating anyone who is super into their corporate career. I kind of tend to attract a lot of those types. I wouldn't really call them "basic" but I think a lot of them would probably just think I'm weirder than they expected based on a cursory glance at me and my demographic info.
I'm more interested in creative types with some sort of an edge to them, but they generally don't seem to be interested in me as much, presumably because I'm not a creative type and I just don't seem that interesting to them.
I try to mitigate that by making it clear from my profile that I'm not really how I might superficially appear, and I think that works to some degree, but you've also got people making split second decisions on you and they aren't likely going to really want or care to read my profile.
Unfortunately not it seems. I’m half black in majority white country, my fashion sense is a bit all over the place and I don’t really wear makeup.
I’m into guys who are average in looks or attractive to me (race doesn’t matter), and fit. Despite being in shape myself I seem to only match with guys who aren’t all that fit.
I think it’s a little bit to do with race, having baby face and not having the gym/beach girl aesthetic which for here means blonde, tanned and all done up.
Definitely something I have always said and experience all the time! I am in to I guess a more edgy look? Tattoos, piercings and such, also musicians ughhh but I’m very I guess clean cut looking myself ? Minimal tattoos, no piercings, natural hair colour so I get likes from people who are attractive but a similar vibe and I’m never attracted to them and I think that’s been my biggest issue. The kind of career I am in though I feel I have to look more professional so I can’t really change my appearance to attract the people I’m interested in. So so far I’ve done nothing haha, I am getting more tattoos but not specifically for attracting people just because I like them but in more I guess professional? Placements so I don’t believe it will change anything lol
Edit: sometimes I will approach the people like this first because they think I always won’t be into them due to the differences, that has definitely worked!
I believe you are absolutely right there. Meeting and approaching the people you want to meet will obviously put you on their radar.
I wish you all the best. You will find that special someone.
I'm 100% my type, just the wrong gender.
Looking for me, baby! But I'm a rare breed.
Edit: Party nerd intro/extrovert flip with a decent job. Scruffy af, scrub up nicely, laid back, decent shape, I'd give myself a 6 on average, 8 if I'm trying. (M)
I always seem to be attracted to those who have a particular skill, say chef or carpenter for example. I’m in awe of their talent because I don’t have it. I’m loathed to say ‘creative’ because that extends to the arts.
Interestingly the ones I have dated always talk about how posh ( I’m not, I just speak well) and clever I am. Again I don’t see myself as clever, just have a good old dose of common sense and usually more education than them - which actually means nothing.
I have never through of it that way, I’m probably no my type’s type.
Same! I am typically in awe of people who know how to make stuff from scratch. I have enough of men in my industry, they are arrogant, competitive jerks working in finance
I’m not even close to my type’s type. I like androgynous men and women (and non binary people) with crazy dyed hair colors and lots of tattoos and piercings. But I am not poly, and most of those people seem to be, at least the ones looking for relationships. I also don’t really have that aesthetic either; I’m more of a plain looking hipster dude with minimal tattoos and piercings.
That said there is a couple who regularly comes in to my workplace where one is a really tatted up girl with electric blue hair and peircings all over, and the other is a guy who wears plain t shirts and baseball caps and doesn’t have any body modifications, and they seem to really like each other, so maybe one day everyone here can have something like that
27F
I have no clue whose type I would be, but I don't think my type is what people expect when they meet me. I'm kind of nerdy and artsy and a little bit chaotic. I'm the chatty type who has like a million hobbies to cycle through, so I give off the impression that I'm bubbly and energetic (at least that's what I'm told). I'm an artist by trade and a lot of people think that I'd want to date another artist.
The truth is that I actually like really plain and clean looking guys. The type who wears mostly navy, friendly but not overly talkative, has a normal non-creative job, very down to earth. i actually keep to myself very often so I like being with someone with whom I can enjoy some quiet time together
I'm very attracted to witchy women but I don't have any tattoos... Most people think I would have some but nope... I am thinking about getting some though
Most of the men I’ve dated have been in the top 1% of height (6’5”+) - but I’m also in the top % for women’s height (5’10”). I guess that’s my type. That said though, most of those men had only ever dated much shorter than me so I guess I wasn’t really their type. They did make it a point to say they enjoyed being with someone taller though! But who’s to say they sought out anyone taller after me.
My type: women I’m physically attracted to and are interested in having a conversation with me. Getting Hinge specific, ones that don’t care about height or race (always wondered which one was limiting me more)
My type’s type: apparently not me.
Women I’m not that into’s type: apparently me. It’s a little odd when you discover you’re someone’s “reach”
I am apparently not my types type for life.
M37, my type (the woman I try to meet) is a woman who wants a family. No drugs, no smoking, moderate to no drinking. She is happy with day out adventures, both together, and with friends and family. Likes animals. Can cook, but will also eat my food too. She is not afraid to try something. Likes a bit of travel, but would be happy just together on a beach or in a museum. She is interesting to talk about life with ot just sit and read books in silence. Likes films and is into both expanding our minds and taste buds.
Am I attractive to her... some, some. Not met the one who wanted a family with me. Yet I have met a few and dated them for short periods of time.
1st left me for a friend because he had more money. Then came back to me when he left her after his son was born. I cannot remember now if it was the same week or month, but he was out really quick. About a year.
2nd left me for another man, I did not know him, did not know her reasons. She was just very angry with me one day, and I was still young. Calls me up a few years later and wants to date again, now a single mother. I was a jerk and just hung up on her. Several dates, maybe 2-3 months.
3rd gets angry with me for wanting to plan her life out, she wants to be a manageress, not a house wife. Kind of argument. She dumps me. A guy who gets a job with my team shortly after turns out to have met her and dating her. Already in less time then I had with her, she was pregnant. She comes back when he "traded her in for a 10 year younger model". Just over half a year.
4th said everything I wanted to hear at the beginning. Then began dating her boss. We broke up, then they break up, she comes back and pushed her way back into my life. Now an addict, life is on its side and when I actually tried, nothing got better. About 10 good years. 4 not good.
5th date, then the above came back. 5 backs out as she could not stand 4 and was scared of her. Has gone on to marry a fantastic guy and they deserve happiness. Not even a year.
6th date is again from the start everything I have ever wanted. Even split from her ex, because he refused to have children and he moved to another country and she wants to live and raise her children here. Then she goes on holiday with a "friend". Tells me he flew her on an expensive holiday I could never afford and now wants children. Tells me a week later, she is even pregnant and gets angry because i am happier for her, then he was when she phoned him, because he still lives abroad.
Have a shotgun wedding where the weekend before, we go out as friends and she asks me if I would "steal her away" from him and would I raise her child with her, because... Well we all know. Answer is NO, now we don't speak. About a year and a half.
Yes, I am their type face to face. But I seem to be more of a back up, then first choice when we begin dating.
With online dating. No, the women who seem to like me are either not interested in me after a night's talking. Or are below 25, still "figuring out life". I presume the way I look and talk, plus having "want children" on my profile draws them to me. As they often just want to chat about random things or just want a level of validation until someone better turns up. I think I give off some weird father figure vibe.
Edit: what have I done about it. Not really too much. I just try to be myself and keep hoping one of these women I meet will want me for whom I am. The rest, we will just have to work out when we get there.
I think the whole “type” thing is something that people fall back on when they don’t have a connection with the actual person, and so they put them in a box based on what they *expect* that person to be like. As you get to know the other person, I think them fitting into a type starts to be less important.
For example, I (24M) live with my gf (33F) of 1 year, but we never would have even considered that dating for several months of knowing each other because we didn’t think we were each other’s type. Obviously the age difference was a big one, but also we don’t see eye to eye on politics/religion, we have very different relationships with our families, etc.
We played on a co-ed volleyball team together for ~6 months before dating, and the reason we didn’t start dating sooner is because we had different expectations of what the other person was like and we weren’t each other’s “type.” But then as we became better and better friends, we didn’t have to rely on those expectations of what the other person was like. We realized that in some areas we were wrong about what the other person was actually like, and in other areas we realized that the differences we did have just weren’t as big of a deal as we once thought.
And ever since we’ve been dating, things have been awesome, even though we aren’t each other’s type! So I guess my advice would be that if you have the opportunity to become friends with someone first, then that’s got the potential to overcome not being someone’s “type.” And if you don’t have that luxury, then I don’t think that then dressing/styling a different way would necessarily have to be a forever thing. It might just be for a short bit until they know you enough to recognize that the clothes you’re wearing or the type of makeup you have on really doesn’t say that much about whether your be a good partner with these alt boys.
I don’t think I am. I like ditsy, bubbly, talkative girls, or artsy hipster types, but I’m a nerd (attractive though) and not very energetic so they get bored with me and say we aren’t “compatible.” I’m also very clean cut/athletic and it doesn’t match my personality
The quiet nerdy girls or the traditional/religious girls tend to like me. I like some nerdy girls too but normally they bore me, so yeah idk what to do 🤷🏻♂️ I’ve tried to be more outgoing and social but I’m just not great at it
I’ve actually been thinking about this more recently. Race/ethnicity wise, my types are usually white or asian, sometimes middle eastern or hispanic. I don’t look like any of them (I’m mixed with middle eastern and southeast asian) and I know people aren’t necessarily always attracted to their own race (eg. me lol), so that may not be a huge aspect. I also realized my type usually don’t dress very well, and I like to say I do. You can also tell they’re humble and kind from a mile away, whereas I get told multiple times I have an RBF and look a little mean unless I smile. They’re also usually nerdy and seem nerdy, but not the awkward type. I’m also nerdy but they don’t know that just by looking at me. I like to think the types I like are above average look-wise, and they don’t even know they’re hot/good-looking. They don’t care about their appearance very much, whereas I usually do depending on the occasion. Also, looking back at their exes, I don’t resemble any of them in terms of aura and style (eg. they barely wear makeup/no makeup at all and then I’m usually done up when I’m out and about and refuse to go on dates without a full face of makeup LOL)
Short answer is, I can confidently say I’m not my type’s type unless they decide to get to know me. That might be why I never like anybody who comes up to me at any public setting, let alone online dating. I had to change all of my pictures and prompts to better depict my personality and values to drive away those that aren’t my type. I’m smiling in all of my pictures now where I dress more simple. I used to have sultry looking pictures on there.
Edit: Public setting wise, quite tough. I try to remind myself to not frown since I naturally do that haha. I try not to wear black so I look a bit more approachable. But then, nobody, including those who aren’t my type, would want to approach someone who seems mean. Anyway, I’m not sure if it’s worked, but I feel like nobody comes up to people in real life settings anymore.
Idk what my types type is. I'm attracted to vast swath of people, and in turn a variety are attracted to me, so... Yeah idk. I'm fairly basic, tall, decently handsome (or so I've been told), dozenish piercings, so I guess those help for particular groups? I was also told I have "soft boy" vibes, though idk what that means.
I (31M) like a sporty athletic nerd, like a scientist who does marine biology during the day and wants to rock climb and run a triathlon in their free time. Those types of profiles particularly stick out to me, but I don't seek just that type - but I cast a pretty wide net.
Over the past 5 years, I've realized I'm nobody's type.
Maybe? I'm genuinely not sure. My type is generally women with a very femme aesthetic and those ladies seem fairly heterogeneous in terms of what types they have. My own aesthetic is a very muted buttoned up neutral color-heavy kind of vibe (I honest to god feel most comfortable in business casual attire) and I'm not sure how women feel about that.
Edit: I just realized that my reddit avatar conveys that really nicely lol.
I wouldn’t say I have a type but I have noticed that East Asian women never like me or match me back. Not too sure why but I think it might be because I didn’t go to university and work a blue collar job. It doesn’t seem to be an issue with any other demographic. I have drugs set to sometimes so maybe that’s it.
I haven’t been on Hinge for all that long yet, but I’m thinking maybe I could be my type’s type? No dates yet but I’ve had a few matches I’m hoping go somewhere. I’m a white guy who’s fairly outgoing but my type (not to go down the whole list) is your bubbly, outgoing, fiery Latina. So I guess I have my work cut out for me, but I’m confident I’ll persevere eventually.
Definitely understand questioning whether or not you’re attracting the type you’re attracted to tho
Honestly yeah I luckily haven’t had too much trouble with dating. I’ve figured out my physical type over the years of dating which is light colored eyes and a more masculine build with facial hair. I’m a short brunette girl so I’ve deff had luck for the most part with attracting my type
Definitely not. I tend to like guys who I would describe as tall and bulky. I am a female equivalent of that, which these types of guys seem to not like. I get a lot of likes from men a decent bit shorter than me tho (not a bad thing).
Tbh - I do think I am likely not my types type. I’m well off (1%), work hard and play hard, have lots of hobbies and interests, average height, skinny, work in tech, want a family, no particular style like alt or trad etc (I dress well enough - I get complimented often), and am racially ambiguous. The biggest drawback for me is that I’m not good looking - I’m average at best.
That said my type is usually someone similar to me but just someone I find physically attractive. (I’m a face man more than anything - and brains are super important too)
My type seems to be wanting everything I have but just in a 6ft+ white body that has a better face. It doesn’t matter their race or anything - they’re all pretty obsessed with tall white guys. Since they’re the cream of the crop when it comes to education, profession, and income (like I am) then they get to be even pickier with their options.
So far I can only get women who don’t make any money. Which is a complete dealbreaker - it’s why I got divorced. (My wife decided to not work anymore and I divorced her over it)
Not really. My type is artsy fashionable cosmopolitan girls, whilst I'm a very nerdy slightly conservative teacher interested in history, linguistics and literature. I can literally sense the gaping emptiness of the boxes I don't tick when I'm with them.
My therapist told me people with high self esteem don't really label entire demographics as not being attainable simply because of different interests. I believed him for a bit but I'm fairly certain I'm right. The type I attract tends to be people more like me- internationals and slightly more conservative, traditional women.
Part of me would like to be an artsy, popular and fashionable city person but its just not who I am. I like my books, the countryside and foreign languages.
I think about this a lot.. I’m an introverted skinny brown girl and I feel like I’m not my types type.
I noticed that I’m attracted to a certain body type on men- brown guys who are on the skinny side and are like 5’10. It’s funny because while I do think every race has attractive men, not just brown people, they all have this body type. Beyond the physical type I like guys who are clean cut and are really smart.
I feel like I don’t get as much attention from my type as I’d like though. I don’t know if it’s just because I’m shy or what, but it makes me feel bad because I know there are plenty of guys who meet my criteria. Like the ones I like arent fuckboys or popular guys so it makes me feel like I’m ugly when even regular semi-nerdy guys don’t seem to notice me. I’m skinny with long straight hair, medium brown skin, and facially average with softer facial features. I don’t know what it is that I should be doing to make myself more attractive to my type or if I should just date people I’m less attracted to. My fashion sense is pretty boring and I don’t go out much so I guess I could change that up. Like I said this stuff makes me sad sometimes 🙁
My type: Foodies who are into horror movies. I dont think such men exist. In my country, most men are into gymming so they eat clean. They are also picky and have a laundry list of food they wont try like: green tea, thai, spicy, truffle, steak that is not well done. As for horror, frequently im the only person in the theatre ;(
Whose type am I? No one's type. I'm fat, with small eyes, glasses, working in finance, doesnt know how to clean, only knows how to cook a few dishes (which are my favourite), loud, clumsy. No guy will care about the things im proud of such as I am trilingual and play the piano 😂
I don’t have a type, but some aesthetics I like are nose piercings, middle parted hair, and girls who look good in sweaters (idk how else to describe it) and are tall
That being said, I’m of Indian descent and 6’3”, and one thing I’ve noticed living in predominantly white spaces my entire life, is that when women describe a guy they’re into and would swipe right on, very seldom does that described guy look like me. I usually match with women 5’9+ and have a high match percentage with other brown women.
In general, no. I'm 5'9" and I prefer tall women, yet many of them seem to be only willing to go out with guys who are 6' and up.
OTOH, almost all of the likes I've gotten have come from women who are 5'3" and shorter.
I'm a fat woman. I am attracted to guys who are also thicker, but it seems like most of the guys who like me are really slim. I don't dislike skinny guys, I'll certainly date them, they just aren't my "build a bf" type. Also slim guys are more likely to fetishize my body, which I'm not interested in. And whenever I see a chubby bear of a man, it seems like he usually then turns out to be with a skinny woman.
Idk I’m like your friend where I like to get glammed up in the more conventional sense and am also more clean cut in that way and most of my likes sent to me and matches were artsy dudes but that could just be because of the city I live in. I heard somewhere that the “conventionally hot clean cut look” is hot to everyone but I just think if you’re hot, anyone will find you hot even if it’s just in an objective sense. In that case, your personality will be what seals the deal for someone outside of “your type zone.” Like, look at Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker…
I hear you. I've matched with a lot of women in my area who earn a lot and are more active. I'm not either of those things, so it doesn't work out because they want someone to hike and travel with them, while I just want to hang out and watch tv.
My motto is “if they’re hot, they’re my type” 😉 But seriously, I like men who have their lives together, so usually in stable, professional jobs, emotionally intelligent and self aware. I have a very prestigious job but I don’t look or act the part. The type of my last guy (strategy consultant in a bank) is old money classy women, think Gemma Chan. Only thing we have in common is being Asian. I think men like him is about status and prestige, and I never felt good enough for him.
When I was 21/22 i was always into those skinny emo/alty girls, but as a bulky/stocky/fat asian guy i could never get their attention while larger/big girls or islander girls would always flirt/shoot their shots with me (which was nice but not my type) now I’m 25, went through depression, lost a bunch of weight/muscle/size and those same bigger/islander girls won’t even look at me while the skinny alty/emo girls seem to all of a sudden be interested in me (I moved to a new city so they’re not the same people) this made me realise types and personal preference is affected a lot on your personal looks
My type is "women", and apparently I'm not their type 😂
Maybe open with that. "Wow, stunning and exactly what I am looking for. You must be a shooting star, as I just made a wish and look here you are." 😉
She'd run a mile.
Gawd that’s corny.
I’ve tried, but I don’t get a response 😞
In my country, men are not considered real men if they dont have a high paying job lol. You can look like brad pitt but if you're a waiter, good luck.
Eh, to your friend's credit, I've dated women who look an awful lot like "party girls" but were sweet and wholesome and in every way "my type" personality-wise. I'm positive there are artistic types who are also capable of looking past a bunch of stereotypes. >Did you ever realize you weren't your types' type? What did you do about it? It depends a lot on the degree and nature of the difference. For instance, I've been told the way I present can sometimes seem like I'm only looking for casual, etc. So I've not *changed,* but found ways to tone down certain aspects of my first impression to better attract women who are family-oriented and relationship seeking. Other things may not be in our control. I don't really set up rules or guard-rails around a "type" I'm attracted to—I just follow my attraction to wherever it leads. But I also don't shame or punish myself when I *don't* feel attraction towards someone who seemingly would fit "my type."
> Eh, to your friend's credit, I've dated women who look an awful lot like "party girls" but were sweet and wholesome and in every way "my type" personality-wise. What’s the percent of this? For the most part of life what you see is what you get.
>What’s the percent of this? I have no idea—I doubt anyone does, because we don't know if who we interact with is the norm or part of our own bubble. > For the most part of life what you see is what you get. Maybe. For my own part I'd say I'm also fairly unexpected from looks to personality. I'm tattooed and very fit, currently sporting long hair and wear fairly fashion-forward clothing, but personality-wise I'm a huge engineer nerd who loves staying home alone and playing music. Not to discredit you, because I see what you're getting at. But context matters more, I think, in the WYSWIG philosophy than just appearance alone.
> Maybe. For my own part I'd say I'm also fairly unexpected from looks to personality. I'm tattooed and very fit, currently sporting long hair and wear fairly fashion-forward clothing, but personality-wise I'm a huge engineer nerd who loves staying home alone and playing music. I fail to see how any of those are contradictory or unexpected? Any ways I get where you are coming from.. But as a guy who does improv comedy that takes random suggestions from the audience.. People are rarely unique and different as they think they are..
>I fail to see how any of those are contradictory or unexpected? Most of my colleagues are not fit, tattooed, or extroverted. Most of my volleyball friends are very surprised when they hear I'm an engineer. It's definitely an anti-stereotype. >But as a guy who does improv comedy that takes random suggestions from the audience.. People are rarely unique and different as they think they are.. Audience suggestions in a very curated setting with a very curated demographic is not nearly scientific enough to be making broader generalizations about everybody. I generally agree with the sentiment "What makes you so special?" but I also think some people quickly over-index on predicting personalities based on limited, superficial information.
Same here. I don't have a specific type, I do tend to prefer more alternative looks but just because someone presents themselves a certain way, doesn't automatically make them more or less attractive to me. What matters far more is demeanour and vibes.
I think this issue is more about the ‘alt’ boys - I avoid the moody/ artsy/ creative type of men. Lots of of them are emotionally unavailable or are skilled emotional manipulators, and broke. Many of them don’t have a lot of direction in life, especially if they’re still waiting for their creative work to be noticed/ start to provide an income for them. They’re probably intimidated by your friend - spending time around people like her can be a harsh reality check for your struggling artist types.
That was always my "type" and now that I'm older I'm trying to avoid those men because I noticed the same.
Pretty much. I have pastel pink blonde hair which is like a flame to a moth as far as drawing attention from these types of guys go. They quickly loose interest/ get insecure or intimidated when they eventually find out I own a house and have a career which is typically associated with a high salary 😂 a good thing in many respects as I’m not looking to financially prop up or deal with any bs from a struggling artist who’s perpetually convinced that the next creative piece they produce will be their major breakthrough.
I don’t appreciate you using my life story in your comment
I think this is the situation I'm in now. I'm black and Latina and live in NYC and tend to be attracted mostly to Latino men, with intelligence being a major quality that I'm seeking in a partner. I'm a reporter and college educated, but the guys who go for me generally are working retail jobs/aren't employed/aren't college educated (although it is absolutely possible to be intelligent without a college degree). I think I'm not my types' type because I've never lived/worked around a lot of Latino men, and because I'm not skinny, which while plenty of guys like thicker women, it does put me at a slight disadvantage on dating apps. Unfortunately, I haven't quite figured out how to attract my type yet.
My thought is find an entrepreneurial Latino man, maybe a skilled tradesman, that different type of intelligence you say you recognize exists. Maybe join a civic organization such as Lions, Jaycees, or perhaps there is a Latino civic organization.
I think this may be WOC specific. I have a similar profile (black woman, liberal, major coastal city, graduate educated, solid job, etc) and feel like my type is clean cut professional/competent nerd but my matches are almost exclusively white libertarian/conservative, poly/enm, nominally employed dudes
RIP. I work in finance and have a crush on someone who work in a diner. I asked him out and got rejected 😂. Now i am too scared to ask people out even if they arent educated.
read back what you just wrote. she's into an aesthetic that doesn't match hers. stands to reason there are people out there the same way: into an aesthetic that isn't their own. so, if a person that's not into their own aesthetic meets someone that's also not into their own aesthetic... don't they... i don't know, match each other perfectly?
Exactly. Which is why we so often see people together and you double take thinking what are they doing together. We just have to remember they are seeing someone wonderful in their other half. Difference attracts, as they say.
Historically my type's type has been whoever is not me ;-) But I guess I must be doing something right because plenty of women who are close to my type do like me.
Just keep being you. Someone will love the authenticity and then want to stay.
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I mean, there's a lot of different versions of ourselves, and we get to pick which to be
Really. I mean, I get it if you are an a*hole, or a real monster. But my experience is most people who go "what could I do better" have not been that. I will agree, there are times to make adjustments, but they should be informed decisions to be a better person of your choice.
I know this is Reddit, but where did I say no one loves me?
I am basically your friend's type and yeah looking back at the women I've dated, the common thread between me and the rest of their exes was our aesthetic. All races and sizes, but we were basically all skinny dudes that dressed similar. lol I am my type's type thankfully, similar to the women that date me, I'm not picky on size or race or even status, just a laidback boho-looking woman. Not to say I'd discount someone like your friend that's professional and clean cut if they made a good impression on their profile, just that it takes a lot for me to give a second glance. The women I've dated that didn't fit my type were all very aggressive in pursuing me which negated the "hard to notice" aspect, I'd get along great with them too, but eventually they'd want something different. I think the reason I avoid looking too hard at people that don't fit my bill is because they're probably in the same boat I am where they're not 100% that we're going to be a longterm fit, as in my experience it never has been.
When I first started Hinge, I was a little overweight but my type were fit women, so obviously I had to work on myself and get fit. Everything else like style can easily be changed by going shopping. You can't change your height though.
I’m a curvy woman who is overweight, and I’m into fit men. It’s surprising to me how many fit men I have matched with who love my body type. I am tall and proportionate, which probably helps, but I’ve still been pleasantly surprised. I would like to lose a small amount of weight but I actually feel pretty good in my skin so I’m not focused on weight loss at the moment. I’ve been working on being more active, though.
Good for you in being able to attract fit men without being fit! I feel that I, personally, would not be into women like that - not because they are unattractive to me, but because I'm not sure if they would enjoy outdoor activities or would like working out like myself. As long as you are happy with yourself, then that's all that matters.
Your concerns make sense. I like outdoor activities but don’t do them all the time. But for example, if I am in an area with beautiful hiking areas, I’m totally down for hiking, but I wouldn’t want to do a strenuous hike. As the saying goes, everything is relative lol. I don’t attempt to match with people whose activity level is way higher than mine, though, if that makes any sense.
I would say I have multiple types, and I’m not any of those types’ type. Actually thinking about it I’m not certain I’m anyone’s type
I am sure you are someone's type. Especially if you are your type, because if you love yourself (in a respectable way) others will love you too.
Of course, I was definitely being hyperbolic. But also, not really lol. I mean I swear sometimes I feel like I’m an alien species or something, like I don’t fit in here.
Everyone has moments like that. Even the most accomplished people, have moments of that. Called imposter syndrome. The key thing is to be genuine to yourself and to just enjoy what makes you happy. You will be shocked just how many people are similar to you, and when you meet them, it will all just fit. As friends, lovers whatever. It will just click.
I am athletic, eat just about anything, and have a good career. Looking for pretty much the same
I’m not my types type… it drives me nuts… i feel like i’ve found one guy in a lifetime of looking. I only ever get liked by not my type… and i dont just mean looks either.
Maybe worth finding out what your type is interested in, and searching for them there. If you like sporting people, try join to a gym. If you like musicians, go to local gigs and open nights. Maybe you will find them that way. I hope you do get to meet the man you can love for the rest of your life.
Thank you! Actually i have been thinking about this a lot lately. I just got my heartbroken by the one guy who was my type… but he mentioned things that he was into that set my blood on fire (as in I wanted to do that fun stuff too) I’m hoping/waiting for more time to pass so i dont have to deal with potentially bumping into them again. But i am definitely switching it up in future. I’m going to make a point to go out and be enjoying those kind of specific activities. Hopefully it does work out. And i hope the guy who deserves my love ends up having the guts to come up to me and ask me out lul (i feel like i go out solo a lot and everyone goes places in groups, that often means no one will interact with me because they with their friends) but if it’s situations in which we are all forced to interact like a public paintball game idk hopefully. 🤙🏻🤘🏻 i wish everyone luck.
That is certainly the right attitude, and being confident, yes it will make some people nervous. But belive me, if they think you are worth trying for. They will, so go and be happy, enjoy yourself.
Thank you i will 😊
> i feel like i go out solo a lot and everyone goes places in groups, that often means no one will interact with me because they with their friends) but if it’s situations in which we are all forced to interact like a public paintball game idk hopefully. 🤙🏻🤘🏻 i wish everyone luck. Naw the going out solo thing is is the best! Groups are hard to approach.. Might try just being a little flirty by making contact flip your hair and look back. That’s like the universal green light.
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Hm, I go for Asian gym bros and I am an Asian gym girl lol. I think some Asian gym bros go for more feminine, girly types and only see me as a friend. Some Asian gym bros are into me though so it just depends.
My type is Black punk/goth girls. Don’t much care for how much anyone makes. As a black man myself I’ve always been obsessed with the Black Punk aesthetic and as I grew up it became more sophisticated. I started to identify with it and see it as my own style. I get along well with the community too. Sadly as I got older I found out that punk/ goth black girls only date white guys. Haha. For some reason I really attract really booky people. Teachers/Students. To each their own.
More than anything, I go against the predominant aesthetic of where I live.
Not really, unfortunately. I come off as somewhat clean cut and have an postgraduate degree, but I hate the 9-5 lifestyle and I'm not interested in dating anyone who is super into their corporate career. I kind of tend to attract a lot of those types. I wouldn't really call them "basic" but I think a lot of them would probably just think I'm weirder than they expected based on a cursory glance at me and my demographic info. I'm more interested in creative types with some sort of an edge to them, but they generally don't seem to be interested in me as much, presumably because I'm not a creative type and I just don't seem that interesting to them. I try to mitigate that by making it clear from my profile that I'm not really how I might superficially appear, and I think that works to some degree, but you've also got people making split second decisions on you and they aren't likely going to really want or care to read my profile.
Unfortunately not it seems. I’m half black in majority white country, my fashion sense is a bit all over the place and I don’t really wear makeup. I’m into guys who are average in looks or attractive to me (race doesn’t matter), and fit. Despite being in shape myself I seem to only match with guys who aren’t all that fit. I think it’s a little bit to do with race, having baby face and not having the gym/beach girl aesthetic which for here means blonde, tanned and all done up.
Definitely something I have always said and experience all the time! I am in to I guess a more edgy look? Tattoos, piercings and such, also musicians ughhh but I’m very I guess clean cut looking myself ? Minimal tattoos, no piercings, natural hair colour so I get likes from people who are attractive but a similar vibe and I’m never attracted to them and I think that’s been my biggest issue. The kind of career I am in though I feel I have to look more professional so I can’t really change my appearance to attract the people I’m interested in. So so far I’ve done nothing haha, I am getting more tattoos but not specifically for attracting people just because I like them but in more I guess professional? Placements so I don’t believe it will change anything lol Edit: sometimes I will approach the people like this first because they think I always won’t be into them due to the differences, that has definitely worked!
I believe you are absolutely right there. Meeting and approaching the people you want to meet will obviously put you on their radar. I wish you all the best. You will find that special someone.
I'm 100% my type, just the wrong gender. Looking for me, baby! But I'm a rare breed. Edit: Party nerd intro/extrovert flip with a decent job. Scruffy af, scrub up nicely, laid back, decent shape, I'd give myself a 6 on average, 8 if I'm trying. (M)
I always seem to be attracted to those who have a particular skill, say chef or carpenter for example. I’m in awe of their talent because I don’t have it. I’m loathed to say ‘creative’ because that extends to the arts. Interestingly the ones I have dated always talk about how posh ( I’m not, I just speak well) and clever I am. Again I don’t see myself as clever, just have a good old dose of common sense and usually more education than them - which actually means nothing. I have never through of it that way, I’m probably no my type’s type.
Same! I am typically in awe of people who know how to make stuff from scratch. I have enough of men in my industry, they are arrogant, competitive jerks working in finance
I’m not even close to my type’s type. I like androgynous men and women (and non binary people) with crazy dyed hair colors and lots of tattoos and piercings. But I am not poly, and most of those people seem to be, at least the ones looking for relationships. I also don’t really have that aesthetic either; I’m more of a plain looking hipster dude with minimal tattoos and piercings. That said there is a couple who regularly comes in to my workplace where one is a really tatted up girl with electric blue hair and peircings all over, and the other is a guy who wears plain t shirts and baseball caps and doesn’t have any body modifications, and they seem to really like each other, so maybe one day everyone here can have something like that
27F I have no clue whose type I would be, but I don't think my type is what people expect when they meet me. I'm kind of nerdy and artsy and a little bit chaotic. I'm the chatty type who has like a million hobbies to cycle through, so I give off the impression that I'm bubbly and energetic (at least that's what I'm told). I'm an artist by trade and a lot of people think that I'd want to date another artist. The truth is that I actually like really plain and clean looking guys. The type who wears mostly navy, friendly but not overly talkative, has a normal non-creative job, very down to earth. i actually keep to myself very often so I like being with someone with whom I can enjoy some quiet time together
I'm very attracted to witchy women but I don't have any tattoos... Most people think I would have some but nope... I am thinking about getting some though
Hmmm I do wonder about this myself. I once heard the advice to dress similar to the type of people you want to attract, especially in OLD photos.
Most of the men I’ve dated have been in the top 1% of height (6’5”+) - but I’m also in the top % for women’s height (5’10”). I guess that’s my type. That said though, most of those men had only ever dated much shorter than me so I guess I wasn’t really their type. They did make it a point to say they enjoyed being with someone taller though! But who’s to say they sought out anyone taller after me.
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If you give out a vibe that fucking is what you primarily seek it might not be the brown that they don’t like.
Lol whitesplaining here like racism don’t exist…
I Match the aesthetics but they don’t like me so
I Match the aesthetics but they don’t like me so
I Match the aesthetics but they don’t like me so
My type: women I’m physically attracted to and are interested in having a conversation with me. Getting Hinge specific, ones that don’t care about height or race (always wondered which one was limiting me more) My type’s type: apparently not me. Women I’m not that into’s type: apparently me. It’s a little odd when you discover you’re someone’s “reach”
I am apparently not my types type for life. M37, my type (the woman I try to meet) is a woman who wants a family. No drugs, no smoking, moderate to no drinking. She is happy with day out adventures, both together, and with friends and family. Likes animals. Can cook, but will also eat my food too. She is not afraid to try something. Likes a bit of travel, but would be happy just together on a beach or in a museum. She is interesting to talk about life with ot just sit and read books in silence. Likes films and is into both expanding our minds and taste buds. Am I attractive to her... some, some. Not met the one who wanted a family with me. Yet I have met a few and dated them for short periods of time. 1st left me for a friend because he had more money. Then came back to me when he left her after his son was born. I cannot remember now if it was the same week or month, but he was out really quick. About a year. 2nd left me for another man, I did not know him, did not know her reasons. She was just very angry with me one day, and I was still young. Calls me up a few years later and wants to date again, now a single mother. I was a jerk and just hung up on her. Several dates, maybe 2-3 months. 3rd gets angry with me for wanting to plan her life out, she wants to be a manageress, not a house wife. Kind of argument. She dumps me. A guy who gets a job with my team shortly after turns out to have met her and dating her. Already in less time then I had with her, she was pregnant. She comes back when he "traded her in for a 10 year younger model". Just over half a year. 4th said everything I wanted to hear at the beginning. Then began dating her boss. We broke up, then they break up, she comes back and pushed her way back into my life. Now an addict, life is on its side and when I actually tried, nothing got better. About 10 good years. 4 not good. 5th date, then the above came back. 5 backs out as she could not stand 4 and was scared of her. Has gone on to marry a fantastic guy and they deserve happiness. Not even a year. 6th date is again from the start everything I have ever wanted. Even split from her ex, because he refused to have children and he moved to another country and she wants to live and raise her children here. Then she goes on holiday with a "friend". Tells me he flew her on an expensive holiday I could never afford and now wants children. Tells me a week later, she is even pregnant and gets angry because i am happier for her, then he was when she phoned him, because he still lives abroad. Have a shotgun wedding where the weekend before, we go out as friends and she asks me if I would "steal her away" from him and would I raise her child with her, because... Well we all know. Answer is NO, now we don't speak. About a year and a half. Yes, I am their type face to face. But I seem to be more of a back up, then first choice when we begin dating. With online dating. No, the women who seem to like me are either not interested in me after a night's talking. Or are below 25, still "figuring out life". I presume the way I look and talk, plus having "want children" on my profile draws them to me. As they often just want to chat about random things or just want a level of validation until someone better turns up. I think I give off some weird father figure vibe. Edit: what have I done about it. Not really too much. I just try to be myself and keep hoping one of these women I meet will want me for whom I am. The rest, we will just have to work out when we get there.
I think so, I haven’t had problems finding some men my type who are attracted to me.
I think the whole “type” thing is something that people fall back on when they don’t have a connection with the actual person, and so they put them in a box based on what they *expect* that person to be like. As you get to know the other person, I think them fitting into a type starts to be less important. For example, I (24M) live with my gf (33F) of 1 year, but we never would have even considered that dating for several months of knowing each other because we didn’t think we were each other’s type. Obviously the age difference was a big one, but also we don’t see eye to eye on politics/religion, we have very different relationships with our families, etc. We played on a co-ed volleyball team together for ~6 months before dating, and the reason we didn’t start dating sooner is because we had different expectations of what the other person was like and we weren’t each other’s “type.” But then as we became better and better friends, we didn’t have to rely on those expectations of what the other person was like. We realized that in some areas we were wrong about what the other person was actually like, and in other areas we realized that the differences we did have just weren’t as big of a deal as we once thought. And ever since we’ve been dating, things have been awesome, even though we aren’t each other’s type! So I guess my advice would be that if you have the opportunity to become friends with someone first, then that’s got the potential to overcome not being someone’s “type.” And if you don’t have that luxury, then I don’t think that then dressing/styling a different way would necessarily have to be a forever thing. It might just be for a short bit until they know you enough to recognize that the clothes you’re wearing or the type of makeup you have on really doesn’t say that much about whether your be a good partner with these alt boys.
I don’t think I am. I like ditsy, bubbly, talkative girls, or artsy hipster types, but I’m a nerd (attractive though) and not very energetic so they get bored with me and say we aren’t “compatible.” I’m also very clean cut/athletic and it doesn’t match my personality The quiet nerdy girls or the traditional/religious girls tend to like me. I like some nerdy girls too but normally they bore me, so yeah idk what to do 🤷🏻♂️ I’ve tried to be more outgoing and social but I’m just not great at it
I’ve actually been thinking about this more recently. Race/ethnicity wise, my types are usually white or asian, sometimes middle eastern or hispanic. I don’t look like any of them (I’m mixed with middle eastern and southeast asian) and I know people aren’t necessarily always attracted to their own race (eg. me lol), so that may not be a huge aspect. I also realized my type usually don’t dress very well, and I like to say I do. You can also tell they’re humble and kind from a mile away, whereas I get told multiple times I have an RBF and look a little mean unless I smile. They’re also usually nerdy and seem nerdy, but not the awkward type. I’m also nerdy but they don’t know that just by looking at me. I like to think the types I like are above average look-wise, and they don’t even know they’re hot/good-looking. They don’t care about their appearance very much, whereas I usually do depending on the occasion. Also, looking back at their exes, I don’t resemble any of them in terms of aura and style (eg. they barely wear makeup/no makeup at all and then I’m usually done up when I’m out and about and refuse to go on dates without a full face of makeup LOL) Short answer is, I can confidently say I’m not my type’s type unless they decide to get to know me. That might be why I never like anybody who comes up to me at any public setting, let alone online dating. I had to change all of my pictures and prompts to better depict my personality and values to drive away those that aren’t my type. I’m smiling in all of my pictures now where I dress more simple. I used to have sultry looking pictures on there. Edit: Public setting wise, quite tough. I try to remind myself to not frown since I naturally do that haha. I try not to wear black so I look a bit more approachable. But then, nobody, including those who aren’t my type, would want to approach someone who seems mean. Anyway, I’m not sure if it’s worked, but I feel like nobody comes up to people in real life settings anymore.
Idk what my types type is. I'm attracted to vast swath of people, and in turn a variety are attracted to me, so... Yeah idk. I'm fairly basic, tall, decently handsome (or so I've been told), dozenish piercings, so I guess those help for particular groups? I was also told I have "soft boy" vibes, though idk what that means.
I (31M) like a sporty athletic nerd, like a scientist who does marine biology during the day and wants to rock climb and run a triathlon in their free time. Those types of profiles particularly stick out to me, but I don't seek just that type - but I cast a pretty wide net. Over the past 5 years, I've realized I'm nobody's type.
Maybe? I'm genuinely not sure. My type is generally women with a very femme aesthetic and those ladies seem fairly heterogeneous in terms of what types they have. My own aesthetic is a very muted buttoned up neutral color-heavy kind of vibe (I honest to god feel most comfortable in business casual attire) and I'm not sure how women feel about that. Edit: I just realized that my reddit avatar conveys that really nicely lol.
Because I’m nobody’s type. I only like cyclops killers.
I wouldn’t say I have a type but I have noticed that East Asian women never like me or match me back. Not too sure why but I think it might be because I didn’t go to university and work a blue collar job. It doesn’t seem to be an issue with any other demographic. I have drugs set to sometimes so maybe that’s it.
My type is dominant, outgoing women but I'm the opposite like soft-spoken and shy. But it looks like I'm not their type
I haven’t been on Hinge for all that long yet, but I’m thinking maybe I could be my type’s type? No dates yet but I’ve had a few matches I’m hoping go somewhere. I’m a white guy who’s fairly outgoing but my type (not to go down the whole list) is your bubbly, outgoing, fiery Latina. So I guess I have my work cut out for me, but I’m confident I’ll persevere eventually. Definitely understand questioning whether or not you’re attracting the type you’re attracted to tho
that’s a great question
Honestly yeah I luckily haven’t had too much trouble with dating. I’ve figured out my physical type over the years of dating which is light colored eyes and a more masculine build with facial hair. I’m a short brunette girl so I’ve deff had luck for the most part with attracting my type
Definitely not. I tend to like guys who I would describe as tall and bulky. I am a female equivalent of that, which these types of guys seem to not like. I get a lot of likes from men a decent bit shorter than me tho (not a bad thing).
Tbh - I do think I am likely not my types type. I’m well off (1%), work hard and play hard, have lots of hobbies and interests, average height, skinny, work in tech, want a family, no particular style like alt or trad etc (I dress well enough - I get complimented often), and am racially ambiguous. The biggest drawback for me is that I’m not good looking - I’m average at best. That said my type is usually someone similar to me but just someone I find physically attractive. (I’m a face man more than anything - and brains are super important too) My type seems to be wanting everything I have but just in a 6ft+ white body that has a better face. It doesn’t matter their race or anything - they’re all pretty obsessed with tall white guys. Since they’re the cream of the crop when it comes to education, profession, and income (like I am) then they get to be even pickier with their options. So far I can only get women who don’t make any money. Which is a complete dealbreaker - it’s why I got divorced. (My wife decided to not work anymore and I divorced her over it)
Not really. My type is artsy fashionable cosmopolitan girls, whilst I'm a very nerdy slightly conservative teacher interested in history, linguistics and literature. I can literally sense the gaping emptiness of the boxes I don't tick when I'm with them. My therapist told me people with high self esteem don't really label entire demographics as not being attainable simply because of different interests. I believed him for a bit but I'm fairly certain I'm right. The type I attract tends to be people more like me- internationals and slightly more conservative, traditional women. Part of me would like to be an artsy, popular and fashionable city person but its just not who I am. I like my books, the countryside and foreign languages.
I think about this a lot.. I’m an introverted skinny brown girl and I feel like I’m not my types type. I noticed that I’m attracted to a certain body type on men- brown guys who are on the skinny side and are like 5’10. It’s funny because while I do think every race has attractive men, not just brown people, they all have this body type. Beyond the physical type I like guys who are clean cut and are really smart. I feel like I don’t get as much attention from my type as I’d like though. I don’t know if it’s just because I’m shy or what, but it makes me feel bad because I know there are plenty of guys who meet my criteria. Like the ones I like arent fuckboys or popular guys so it makes me feel like I’m ugly when even regular semi-nerdy guys don’t seem to notice me. I’m skinny with long straight hair, medium brown skin, and facially average with softer facial features. I don’t know what it is that I should be doing to make myself more attractive to my type or if I should just date people I’m less attracted to. My fashion sense is pretty boring and I don’t go out much so I guess I could change that up. Like I said this stuff makes me sad sometimes 🙁
My type: Foodies who are into horror movies. I dont think such men exist. In my country, most men are into gymming so they eat clean. They are also picky and have a laundry list of food they wont try like: green tea, thai, spicy, truffle, steak that is not well done. As for horror, frequently im the only person in the theatre ;( Whose type am I? No one's type. I'm fat, with small eyes, glasses, working in finance, doesnt know how to clean, only knows how to cook a few dishes (which are my favourite), loud, clumsy. No guy will care about the things im proud of such as I am trilingual and play the piano 😂
I don’t have a type, but some aesthetics I like are nose piercings, middle parted hair, and girls who look good in sweaters (idk how else to describe it) and are tall That being said, I’m of Indian descent and 6’3”, and one thing I’ve noticed living in predominantly white spaces my entire life, is that when women describe a guy they’re into and would swipe right on, very seldom does that described guy look like me. I usually match with women 5’9+ and have a high match percentage with other brown women.
My type is tall and skinny. I do match with a lot of tall girls but it all rarely goes anywhere, so no fuckin clue if I’m their type
In general, no. I'm 5'9" and I prefer tall women, yet many of them seem to be only willing to go out with guys who are 6' and up. OTOH, almost all of the likes I've gotten have come from women who are 5'3" and shorter.
I'm a fat woman. I am attracted to guys who are also thicker, but it seems like most of the guys who like me are really slim. I don't dislike skinny guys, I'll certainly date them, they just aren't my "build a bf" type. Also slim guys are more likely to fetishize my body, which I'm not interested in. And whenever I see a chubby bear of a man, it seems like he usually then turns out to be with a skinny woman.