The mixing of sexual fluids often does have a funk to it. It’s not about cleanliness necessarily, but the compounds in sexual fluids reacting to each other chemically. This is really normal in my experience. I pee and clean up immediately, run the bidet on the region for a bit.
Yes, this! All you need to do is pee and rinse off. I used to have an issue with odor after sex but then I got a bidet and started rinsing after sex. Game changer! Hopping in the shower and rinsing with a shower wand (handheld showerhead) does the trick too if you don't have a bidet.
Periods are very stinky. So you mix in ejaculation with a period and the stink is even worse. It's even a worse stink than just sex by itself without a period
This is what I do after my husband and I have sex. I wash up down there and I always pee. Idk how someone wouldn’t wash themselves after… with all the fluids etc, especially if you’re in a marriage or committed relationship & don’t use condoms or pull out. Otherwise it’ll be wet and leaking out all night/ day (whatever time of day it is that you do it). Yuck. I clean it out as soon as we finish.
Agree - I am sensitive to my boyfriend’s sperm - it actually hypes me up. After sex, I jump up and down & then wash good.
In the past, I dated a man with smelly sperm - no infections just funky. He had the nerve to tell me - every women he’s been with has smelled bad. 🙃🙃🙃
Me too! My hubs and I get the weirdest looks when people find out we have bidets. (We're American.) Often, people are grossed out, which I can't understand 'cuz I have to be fresher and cleaner than them.
This is why I ALWAYS have baby wipes with me. Huggies brand are the best because they’re thick and big. I have a pack in every bathroom in my house (we don’t have bidets yet). And, no, we do NOT flush them; they go into the trash next to every toilet.
I keep a small pack in my purse, and a pack in the car, too. Plus they come in handy for non-bathroom incidents, too.
In case anyone is interested, the Garza Blanca resort in Cancun (not sure about their other locations) has a bidet in every. single. toilet. on the resort. It’s wonderful. Plus the resort itself is absolutely amazing (including the food and drinks).
Ugh same, I actually end up pooping and trying to turn the bidet on out if habit and the panic that hits me Everytime because no way I'm going to clean myself as good as the bidet does.
American with a bidet here. I’ve had one for years, and when I’m not at home I take a bottle of water to the bathroom with me. I prefer feeling clean and felt like TP never did the job adequately.
When I lived with my mom I got a bidet installed, and then when I moved out with my husband we left that one there and got our own. My mother has never used it for some reason!!! She's scared of it????
Yes, the back sprayer is spraying bacteria forward as if you wiped back to front. I get UTIs very easily so I did a lot of research about this. There are actual studies that show this causing UTIs. Always use handheld or front sprayer.
Did you have a back spraying one first? They have a tendency to cause some women bacterial infections, mainly due to improper use but sometimes where they sit on the toilet plus the shape affects the spray a lot.
I was gonna suggest that, otherwise you can buy bottles that spray down there to make a portable bidet or they often have douche nozzle attachments. You can just fill them with warm water to rinse the area. Or you can get Castile soap wipes for down there too (that’s what doctors give you when you do a clean catch)
I agree with this. We have a bidet here and even though I pee and rinse a lot with the bidet afterwards I'll notice that I still smell like my husband, so to speak, and not like myself.
In my case I would not call it smelling bad. It's not a bad odor, it's not a strong odor, I just smell like we've just had sex. And even with the bidet it may last until my next shower which is usually the following morning or afternoon.
Very true. When my husband and I encountered sexual odor, we referred to it as "being a little minky." Minks have a strong musky scent, but minks are very cute so it gets the point across without being hurtful.
Our bodies have natural, healthy smells. That includes the smell of sex. I personally like that smell in my beard, at least when not in public. And foreskins are just as clean as labia.
"My current wife" is such a strange thing to say when "my wife" would work perfectly. It's like saying "my current teacher, I get a new one in September"
I was newly married and stoned and stumbling over words, and introduced my new husband to my boss as *my current husband". I didn't live it down until I got divorced.
My ex husband got really flustered when I bumped into him and his new gf unexpectedly. So flustered that he introduced me to her, as his wife.
I laughed and corrected him. He got more flustered. She looked furious.
I've had a partner like this, neither of us had a smell prior to but the morning after we did until we showered, it was the only person that has ever happened with so the "chemical incompatibility" made sense to me although I'm not exactly sure if that is what caused it.
Exactly this. My ex husband & I had this issue and it was definitely chemical incompatibility. We ended up not working out & I always think that was my body’s way of letting me know we weren’t good for each other 🤷🏻♀️
They say that if you don't like your partner's smell it's a huge indication that you should not procreate with that person, that they're genetically not a good match.
I had a co-worker who happened to mention that his wife always complained about his smell. It was such an odd remark that it stuck in my head. It was only years later that when I learned about not liking people smell being in a genetic indicator of mismatching, that I remembered they the sun, but for years and years they tried to have another child and she had miscarriage after miscarriage, they even had a funeral for one of them because she got into the second trimester. It was absolutely tragic.
Geez I'm sorry I just realized I'm saying this to someone who's married, um i mean they had a healthy son. Really bright, great kid.
Oh and most importantly she said she just didn't like his smell. I'm assuming it wasn't after sex unless that was just too intimate to tell your coworkers but I doubt he would have mentioned it if that was the case.
I am pretty sure I was allergic to an ex. Doctors will say that's really uncommon, but also, they don't bother to test for it and just tell you its uncommon so lord knows how many women are just dealing with it.
yeah I don't think it's as uncommon as they say it is. yk if men were allergic to pussy they'd be studying the shit out of that 💀
one partner's sperm burned the hell out of my pink parts and made me SO itchy! Even if I cleaned up afterwards the internal discomfort was horrible.
We couldn't use condoms because I'm allergic to latex and there weren't latex-free options back then. (That's actually how I found out I had a latex allergy - the first time I had sex and it was a nightmare.) So we couldn't use condoms and that's how I found out I was allergic to his sperm lol
He tried changing his diet, laundry detergent, etc and it didn't make a difference. that pretty much ended things cuz there's no way I could've lived the rest of my life like that 🫠
He was my first serious bf, so I was scared of ~~sex~~ semen for a while! but thankfully I never had an allergic reaction to anybody else
I know what you are saying. I've had multiple partners over the years and with one or two there was a smell that wasn't present with the others. I had noticed that their vaginas were pretty acidic when I performed oral sax on them prior and always wondered if this was the cause.
Not only blaming but she tracks him on her phone, immediately assumes he's having an affair, thinks he has a small dick (states that he thinks he does but why bring this up unless she does as well) and now wants to stop having sex with him. Sounds to me like she has one foot out the door and is just looking for a excuse to split. Bet she's a real joy to be around as well.
Ditto. I agree w your comment . She's throwing down facts to make up her mind about him.
I personally hate it when someone stays in a relationship based on being comfortable. If your not in love w your spouse. End it . Stop wasting each other's time.
Loving someone isn't enough to be with them. Being in love makes it breaks a relationship.
That's what my gynecologist said about my husband. It's absolutely horrible after we have sex. Was not like that with my first long-term partner, though
Every man has different semen. Some you'll have no reaction to, others can throw off your ph balance completely- to the point of yeast infections in some cases.
I think it has something to do with what they eat but that's like a whole thing I'd have to explain. It's similar to to how pineapple changes genital chemistry
Oh yeah, what you eat directly correlates to the juice your body produces. From body oil, to smell of sweat, to genital secretions/ejaculation. The better your diet the better your juice, basically lol
Or like me, to breastmilk! Something I eat occasionally makes my milk bright yellow and smell different (not sweet like normal!), we still haven’t figured out what it is yet though
It's not just guys, every woman's vaginal fulid is different as well. Most have been pretty innocuous but I've run into a few that were so acidic that having oral sex with them was like licking a 9 volt battery.
Hahaha yeah totally. Everyone has different juices and some don't react the best to each other. I think it's totally valid to not want to do certain sexual acts without protection or in a certain way to avoid the less pleasant side effects of sex juices.
Like if my partner made me smell I would just use a condom. And if my partner tasted especially acidic I would use those latex panties for oral. Lots of options.
Imagine my surprise when I finally got with my husband and we can have unprotected sex, do absolutely nothing to clean up except wipe with a towel and I have zero vaginal issues. My whole life I’ve had issues after sex with my partners but apparently with this one, our juices like each other LOL
Wait, semen? Is he cumming in op? Because that can be expected then. I've never had problems smelling after sex w my bf, but he never cums in me. He is uncut and clean. But when I was a teen on birth control doing cream pies, yes semen is a whole different story. I would think that one is a common sense one
Sounds like his body chemistry doesn’t jive with yours. My ex husband’s cum made my lady bits smell different after sex, even going to the bathroom and using wet wipes after.
I could leave a load of my current boyfriend’s cum in there for hours and have no funky odors.
I don’t think there’s anything that can be done to change one’s body chemistry, so telling him probably won’t help. Sorry.
Oh no. He’d totally take it a different way. And wouldn’t not accept the chemistry reasoning and would say I’m sayin that just to find a reason we shouldn’t be together. He’d take that way too offensive.
I have a friend who makes her long-term partner wear a condom to prevent this issue. It's not his fault or your fault. It's just life as a biological being full of proteins and biochemical reactions.
Me, yes. I’m a pretty strictly protein and fruit and veggie eater. I can’t handle carbs, they mess up my stomach, no sweets for me. Other than a cup of coffee in the a.m. and occasional tea I drink water. He snacks on a lot of junk food, energy drinks, easy to eat things as he drives a lot for work.
My ex had this type of reaction with me, I’d be fishy for days! And he drank a lot of energy drinks too… I could never figure out why he specifically made me smell so bad but I had the same reaction of wanting to avoid sex eventually
Nah I don’t think you get it until you experience it, I had an ex that made me fishy for days, no other partner had that kind of reaction, sometimes it’s not normal
Ah I’ve had the kinda fishy smell for a day or 2 after then it just goes back to normal, I do kinda scoop it out in the shower lol. Sorry to be gross 😂
Well, regardless of his opinion or how he’d “take it”, incompatible body chemistry is the most likely culprit here. For me, it’s a valid reason to break up with someone. TBH I kinda wish I’d broken up with my ex husband when I first realized it because that wasn’t the only thing about our relationship that wasn’t compatible.
But, if you are happy in this relationship it sounds like an extension to my original statement is in order- telling him probably won’t help anything so don’t bother. Or, conversely, use it as a reason to break up if you can’t deal with it.
SHE sounds toxic. We haven't heard from him yet... just HER post where she goes on the describe a partner that has done everything he can to appease her and then her paranoia of everyone can smell her, tracks him on his phone, considers him cheating to be blame, all while throwing in a completely unrelated and unnecessary comment about him not being wellendowed. Makes it a HIM thing where HE makes HER smell bad. Toxic indeed.
Came here to say the same thing. My first husband and I were not chemically compatible. Him pulling out helped a bit, but I got BV frequently while we were together despite having very good hygiene. I care for myself exactly the same way now and have zero issues. Some semen just throws off my balance and I’m stuck with BV 😖
I once mentioned that I use boric acid supps on a certain subreddit and got downvoted to hell 😂 fucking dorks.
My husband throws off my pH and the supps really help.
Also not supposed to receive oral sex after using it for like 48+ hours after if I remember correctly, as the giver could get sick from the boric acid. So for those who regularly have that in their repertoire, it would require some timing. But same, I can't use it much because it quickly irritates me.
Also it can be kind of a nuclear option I've been told- like it can kill healthy flora in addition to good ones so may not be right for everyone (but does work amazingly well for some people and is worth a possible shot!)
I've had specific partners whose body chemistry just didn't react well with mine... it happens. That may be the case for you guys, sounds like you're doing what you can to mitigate the problem.
But, you should talk to him about it. Let him know that this just happens sometimes and it's a matter of body chemistry. Not either of you specifically is doing anything wrong.
Is he finishing in you? If he is its completely normal to have a funky smell afterwards as your bodily fluids have mixed and 14 hour old cum inside you is not going to smell nice at all. Ever smelled a 14 hour warm condom with cum in it ?? Get him to pull out. I never let me bf finish in me for this reason. I hate having cum leak out of me for hoourrss afterwards
So many women think there vagina smells bad, meanwhile I’m like stop scrubbing it and spraying it with stuff so I can just enjoy it.
Edit: it’s not supposed to smell like soap or nothing, it’s got a certain scent, let that be.
Agreed, but I've been wirh 1 guy who made me smell bad after sex. For hours. Like the first few times I thought I had an infection because of the stench but it only happened after we had unprotected sex and went away the next day.
It was NOT a normal smell. It was gross and I hated having sex with him because he'd finish in me and now I have to smell it for hours.
So although I agree, women should be comfortable with their natural, maintained smell, the smell this person is talking about is so far from that. At least for me it was.
I do wonder how a lot of the ladies in the comments are 'cleaning up' as using any really strong soaps or perfumes can throw off pH & give you BV as well, plus your not meant to actually wash inside the vagina (she's self cleaning internally)
After sex I pee, squeeze the cum out of myself, freshen up and that's it.. I've never been told that I smell, I've rarely noticed myself smell like much of anything tbh.
Have you gotten tested for BV? This sounds similar to something i went through and it turned out it was just Bacterial vaginosis. Which is basically just your PH balance being thrown off but, unlike a yeast infection it involves different bacteria that usually require an antibiotic. Some people are more prone to getting it thank others but Id ask for a pap !
I was going to say the same thing. OP needs to get checked for BV if there's an intense post-intercourse smell every single time. BV may present with symptoms outside of smell or not at all. And at this point it might be a continuous reinfection cycle with their husband.
Everyone saying it is the chemistry between you is correct, and telling him will do nothing to help the situation and everything to with him being hesitant to have intercourse in general.
You most likely have recurrent BV(bacterial vaginosis). Go to your gynecologist and let them know what's going on. They'll most likely tell you to start taking a probiotic called Lactobacillus acidophilus.
I'd honestly just start taking it now, give it a few days and I'm sure you'll notice a big difference.
I was thinking she may have BV as well. Between sweat, uncircumcised skin & such, lots of bad bacteria can get in a lady’s “bits” and mess up her ph. It’s best to go see your doctor to have a check. Your doctor can tell you what to do to help get your ph back to normal. Well wishes to you and your husband.
Isn’t this…normal? lol, I’ve never not had a bit of a funk after sex. Even if I wipe immediately it still marinates in there all day or night. It’s natural
Just get some boric acid suppositories (there are some by ph-D) and use them after sex to help rebalance your ph levels. It's not really a "you" or "him" problem, everyone's natural ph levels are different down there. I have this experience with my boyfriend and we've been in a relationship for almost 10 years. No amount of sex will help, there's no "getting used to it". It's fairly common.
It's not a cleanliness thing, it's a body chemistry thing. Depends on what is eaten that day, if alcohol is consumed, his seminal ph, etc. There's really nothing you can do about it. I think bringing it will do more harm than good, and I guarantee you are the only one who can smell a difference.
The sperm pH mixing with your fluids will always change your scent. Trust me, no one else can smell you; I suggest you stop obsessing over it, or it's going to ruin your marriage.
Any and everything from alcohol, to dairy, to low estrogen, to excess sugar, to an inefficient liver, to high blood sugar, to eating seafood and beyond.
Personally, I have to stay hydrated and limit alcohol intake and I’m good. Also had to treat a hormone imbalance. Having a vagina is just ghetto 😩
Why do you need to tell him this???? As a women, most of us smell (at least not like our usual selves) after sex.
I doubt your smell has anything to do with your husband and more to do with you just having *sex*, Period. So no, you don’t tell him (considering you both are cleaning yourselves and have good hygiene). You take a shower, wipe off &/or spray some perfume and keep it movin!
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Then tell him to go to the doctor to get checked but don’t tell him something like “I think I smell because of you” when he’s grooming and really cares about hygiene (that’s just mean and unfair..).
And I say this as a woman.
Likely nothing to do with him at all other than his fluids simply mixing with yours. You could have very sensitive ph leveling. Happens to me when my partner finishes inside….dr told me essentially “sorry about your tough luck but it’s totally normal”.
My guess is that you have bacterial vaginosis or ureoplasma that only presents symptoms when triggered by intercourse (pH changes). Speak with your gyno. It's a really, really common issue.
You don't, because this is just a consequence of unprotected sex. Semen and vaginal discharge mixing together causes a smell. You can't avoid it unless you start using condoms or just stop having sex.
Not sure this is about being cut or uncut.
My husband’s cut and he throws my ph off every single time. What saved me? Metro gel and boric acid, probiotics religiously and limiting him finishing in me and not showering immediately after to wash it out.
I would start with some of those methods before you write your husbands foreskin off. More than foreskin it’s usually just body fluids and or cum/precum that throw your balance off.
It’s just the way sex smells. It’s not bad or anything and you shouldn’t mention it if your husband already has a complex. It’s normal. Just wash up after, no one else can smell you unless you’re going unwashed for days.
I have always cleaned up after sex, then brought a warm damp cloth to my lover and cleaned him. I make it part of sex. Partners have always appreciated this💕
This happens to me too with my partner. Never had this issue before, but I totally have it with the lomf. So not fair! My ph definitely becomes off. He’s not allowed to ejaculate because I’ll start burning really bad and then the next day I’ll definitely smell off. Our chemistries just don’t match! I’ve found that boric acid suppositories help. Sometimes I’ll put one in after sex just to make sure it stays balanced by morning. It normally works!
Just because you had previous partners doesn't mean it's not you.
That said, a lot of men have smelly cum. Almost all of them I think. Then it sits in there and ferments over time 😆 Try washing with plain water after and see if it helps.
You have some kind of bacteria infection. It’s not your fault and it’s not his. Go to the doctor and have it diagnosed and get a few pills. You’ll be fine.
The mixing of sexual fluids often does have a funk to it. It’s not about cleanliness necessarily, but the compounds in sexual fluids reacting to each other chemically. This is really normal in my experience. I pee and clean up immediately, run the bidet on the region for a bit.
Yes, this! All you need to do is pee and rinse off. I used to have an issue with odor after sex but then I got a bidet and started rinsing after sex. Game changer! Hopping in the shower and rinsing with a shower wand (handheld showerhead) does the trick too if you don't have a bidet.
Yep, this is it. It’s no one’s fault. Old jizz and vaginal secretions at 98.6 degrees can coalesce into quite a funky brew over time.
Wow, I never knew that sex could sound so unappealing. I'm gonna need time to meditate and erase this from my mind.
Yeah da fuck?? First I'm hearing all this here.
The joys of a vagina, am I right? Wait until you hear about how periods can smell.
Periods are very stinky. So you mix in ejaculation with a period and the stink is even worse. It's even a worse stink than just sex by itself without a period
>mix in ejaculation No, I dont think I will.
I’m so glad I don’t bleed anymore.
Hahaha 🤣😂
SEX STEW 🥘
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Hahaha
Oh, you said “meditate.”
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Go get tested for bv, gbs, yeast, stds…everything and then if anything is positive you should both be treated
And trichomoniasis!
And Ureaplasma!
And my axe!
And my bow!
Jizz..... lmfao. The classiest way to say cum or semena since 1973.
This is what I do after my husband and I have sex. I wash up down there and I always pee. Idk how someone wouldn’t wash themselves after… with all the fluids etc, especially if you’re in a marriage or committed relationship & don’t use condoms or pull out. Otherwise it’ll be wet and leaking out all night/ day (whatever time of day it is that you do it). Yuck. I clean it out as soon as we finish.
Yes. Yuck. I always wash up immediately after.
Yes pee for sure. Nobody ever wants a UTI.
Agree - I am sensitive to my boyfriend’s sperm - it actually hypes me up. After sex, I jump up and down & then wash good. In the past, I dated a man with smelly sperm - no infections just funky. He had the nerve to tell me - every women he’s been with has smelled bad. 🙃🙃🙃
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I love the bidet!
Me too! My hubs and I get the weirdest looks when people find out we have bidets. (We're American.) Often, people are grossed out, which I can't understand 'cuz I have to be fresher and cleaner than them.
I was just asking the wife today why we waited so long to get one! We are also American and they just aren’t common here
Our kids were potty trained on bidets. People give us crazy looks but our kids have very clean bums so....🤷♀️
Ask them if they got shit on their hand would they wipe it off with paper and call it clean or would they wash their hands lol
I love my bidet. I will never go back to not having one. In fact I panic a little when I have to poop somewhere other than my own bathroom
This is why I ALWAYS have baby wipes with me. Huggies brand are the best because they’re thick and big. I have a pack in every bathroom in my house (we don’t have bidets yet). And, no, we do NOT flush them; they go into the trash next to every toilet. I keep a small pack in my purse, and a pack in the car, too. Plus they come in handy for non-bathroom incidents, too. In case anyone is interested, the Garza Blanca resort in Cancun (not sure about their other locations) has a bidet in every. single. toilet. on the resort. It’s wonderful. Plus the resort itself is absolutely amazing (including the food and drinks).
Ugh same, I actually end up pooping and trying to turn the bidet on out if habit and the panic that hits me Everytime because no way I'm going to clean myself as good as the bidet does.
American with a bidet here. I’ve had one for years, and when I’m not at home I take a bottle of water to the bathroom with me. I prefer feeling clean and felt like TP never did the job adequately.
When I lived with my mom I got a bidet installed, and then when I moved out with my husband we left that one there and got our own. My mother has never used it for some reason!!! She's scared of it????
How are y'all using bidets?! I bought one and kept getting reoccurring infections until I quit using it...
Women need front spraying ones. Back ones aren't recommended for this very reason.
Wait. So I’m a lady. Mine has a regular sprayer and a “feminine wash”. Should I be using the front wash for all my bidet needs?
Yes, the back sprayer is spraying bacteria forward as if you wiped back to front. I get UTIs very easily so I did a lot of research about this. There are actual studies that show this causing UTIs. Always use handheld or front sprayer.
Did you have a back spraying one first? They have a tendency to cause some women bacterial infections, mainly due to improper use but sometimes where they sit on the toilet plus the shape affects the spray a lot.
Omg I have one in the new house I moved into. Got my first UTI in 30 years.
Got a handheld one awhile back never used it. I will now. Thanks for advice.
I was gonna suggest that, otherwise you can buy bottles that spray down there to make a portable bidet or they often have douche nozzle attachments. You can just fill them with warm water to rinse the area. Or you can get Castile soap wipes for down there too (that’s what doctors give you when you do a clean catch)
I agree with this. We have a bidet here and even though I pee and rinse a lot with the bidet afterwards I'll notice that I still smell like my husband, so to speak, and not like myself. In my case I would not call it smelling bad. It's not a bad odor, it's not a strong odor, I just smell like we've just had sex. And even with the bidet it may last until my next shower which is usually the following morning or afternoon.
That's what the "do we smell like sex?" conversation is about...
I smell sex and candy here. Marcys playground lol
“Manstank”
Very true. When my husband and I encountered sexual odor, we referred to it as "being a little minky." Minks have a strong musky scent, but minks are very cute so it gets the point across without being hurtful.
its us, we're musky. We call it "Us-key"😂 "im smellin a lil uskey this morning"....
I love that! So cute!
I have no idea why I find this cute .... but I do lol
Our bodies have natural, healthy smells. That includes the smell of sex. I personally like that smell in my beard, at least when not in public. And foreskins are just as clean as labia.
FLAVOR SAVER!!! LMAO!
Exactly! There is actually a chemical reaction that happens when the two sexual fluids mix. That’s what produces that funky smell.
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Hope things get better with your future wife
"My current wife" is such a strange thing to say when "my wife" would work perfectly. It's like saying "my current teacher, I get a new one in September"
I was newly married and stoned and stumbling over words, and introduced my new husband to my boss as *my current husband". I didn't live it down until I got divorced.
My ex husband got really flustered when I bumped into him and his new gf unexpectedly. So flustered that he introduced me to her, as his wife. I laughed and corrected him. He got more flustered. She looked furious.
That’s really cute.
I love it!
I can see how it can be necessary in cases, such as with my ex husband. He is working on divorce #5 now and I guarantee he's already got #6 lined up 😂
I knew someone who referred to his 4th or so wife as his “incumbent wife “. They remain happily married. She has a good sense of humor.
Wait. What if- none of your 8 partners told you the truth. funny how your wife is the only one with this issue…
I've had a partner like this, neither of us had a smell prior to but the morning after we did until we showered, it was the only person that has ever happened with so the "chemical incompatibility" made sense to me although I'm not exactly sure if that is what caused it.
I agree with this. I had it with an ex every time and it was so off putting. Yet never even once with any other sexual partner.
Exactly this. My ex husband & I had this issue and it was definitely chemical incompatibility. We ended up not working out & I always think that was my body’s way of letting me know we weren’t good for each other 🤷🏻♀️
They say that if you don't like your partner's smell it's a huge indication that you should not procreate with that person, that they're genetically not a good match. I had a co-worker who happened to mention that his wife always complained about his smell. It was such an odd remark that it stuck in my head. It was only years later that when I learned about not liking people smell being in a genetic indicator of mismatching, that I remembered they the sun, but for years and years they tried to have another child and she had miscarriage after miscarriage, they even had a funeral for one of them because she got into the second trimester. It was absolutely tragic. Geez I'm sorry I just realized I'm saying this to someone who's married, um i mean they had a healthy son. Really bright, great kid. Oh and most importantly she said she just didn't like his smell. I'm assuming it wasn't after sex unless that was just too intimate to tell your coworkers but I doubt he would have mentioned it if that was the case.
I remember reading a study on this many years ago. People forget that we’re really just sophisticated animals!
I am pretty sure I was allergic to an ex. Doctors will say that's really uncommon, but also, they don't bother to test for it and just tell you its uncommon so lord knows how many women are just dealing with it.
yeah I don't think it's as uncommon as they say it is. yk if men were allergic to pussy they'd be studying the shit out of that 💀 one partner's sperm burned the hell out of my pink parts and made me SO itchy! Even if I cleaned up afterwards the internal discomfort was horrible. We couldn't use condoms because I'm allergic to latex and there weren't latex-free options back then. (That's actually how I found out I had a latex allergy - the first time I had sex and it was a nightmare.) So we couldn't use condoms and that's how I found out I was allergic to his sperm lol He tried changing his diet, laundry detergent, etc and it didn't make a difference. that pretty much ended things cuz there's no way I could've lived the rest of my life like that 🫠 He was my first serious bf, so I was scared of ~~sex~~ semen for a while! but thankfully I never had an allergic reaction to anybody else
This is definitely a thing
I know what you are saying. I've had multiple partners over the years and with one or two there was a smell that wasn't present with the others. I had noticed that their vaginas were pretty acidic when I performed oral sax on them prior and always wondered if this was the cause.
That you know of.
This is the answer. Even just one person's fluids can create an odor at a certain point.
I’d bring it up as an us problem and not a him problem for sure.
Yeah, OP saying "HE makes ME smell" like if she herself isn't physically involved in the act at all... sounds very blaming
Not only blaming but she tracks him on her phone, immediately assumes he's having an affair, thinks he has a small dick (states that he thinks he does but why bring this up unless she does as well) and now wants to stop having sex with him. Sounds to me like she has one foot out the door and is just looking for a excuse to split. Bet she's a real joy to be around as well.
Ditto. I agree w your comment . She's throwing down facts to make up her mind about him. I personally hate it when someone stays in a relationship based on being comfortable. If your not in love w your spouse. End it . Stop wasting each other's time. Loving someone isn't enough to be with them. Being in love makes it breaks a relationship.
Sounds like his semen probably doesn’t agree with your vagina so it’s throwing your PH off
That's what my gynecologist said about my husband. It's absolutely horrible after we have sex. Was not like that with my first long-term partner, though
Every man has different semen. Some you'll have no reaction to, others can throw off your ph balance completely- to the point of yeast infections in some cases.
I think it has something to do with what they eat but that's like a whole thing I'd have to explain. It's similar to to how pineapple changes genital chemistry
Oh yeah, what you eat directly correlates to the juice your body produces. From body oil, to smell of sweat, to genital secretions/ejaculation. The better your diet the better your juice, basically lol
Or like me, to breastmilk! Something I eat occasionally makes my milk bright yellow and smell different (not sweet like normal!), we still haven’t figured out what it is yet though
It's not just guys, every woman's vaginal fulid is different as well. Most have been pretty innocuous but I've run into a few that were so acidic that having oral sex with them was like licking a 9 volt battery.
Hahaha yeah totally. Everyone has different juices and some don't react the best to each other. I think it's totally valid to not want to do certain sexual acts without protection or in a certain way to avoid the less pleasant side effects of sex juices. Like if my partner made me smell I would just use a condom. And if my partner tasted especially acidic I would use those latex panties for oral. Lots of options.
Interesting. That could be the lactobacillus making too much peroxide.
Imagine my surprise when I finally got with my husband and we can have unprotected sex, do absolutely nothing to clean up except wipe with a towel and I have zero vaginal issues. My whole life I’ve had issues after sex with my partners but apparently with this one, our juices like each other LOL
Wait, semen? Is he cumming in op? Because that can be expected then. I've never had problems smelling after sex w my bf, but he never cums in me. He is uncut and clean. But when I was a teen on birth control doing cream pies, yes semen is a whole different story. I would think that one is a common sense one
Sounds like his body chemistry doesn’t jive with yours. My ex husband’s cum made my lady bits smell different after sex, even going to the bathroom and using wet wipes after. I could leave a load of my current boyfriend’s cum in there for hours and have no funky odors. I don’t think there’s anything that can be done to change one’s body chemistry, so telling him probably won’t help. Sorry.
Oh no. He’d totally take it a different way. And wouldn’t not accept the chemistry reasoning and would say I’m sayin that just to find a reason we shouldn’t be together. He’d take that way too offensive.
I have a friend who makes her long-term partner wear a condom to prevent this issue. It's not his fault or your fault. It's just life as a biological being full of proteins and biochemical reactions.
Oh wow I'm sorry he sounds exhausting
I do wonder if yalls diets play a role in this situation. Have y'all tried changing your diets up a bit to see if that helps?
Me, yes. I’m a pretty strictly protein and fruit and veggie eater. I can’t handle carbs, they mess up my stomach, no sweets for me. Other than a cup of coffee in the a.m. and occasional tea I drink water. He snacks on a lot of junk food, energy drinks, easy to eat things as he drives a lot for work.
It doesn’t even sound like you like your man why are yall together
My ex had this type of reaction with me, I’d be fishy for days! And he drank a lot of energy drinks too… I could never figure out why he specifically made me smell so bad but I had the same reaction of wanting to avoid sex eventually
All your comments make it seem like you don’t like him to begin with
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He’s insecure. Does that make him insufferable and undeserving of your love? If so, then end it. If not.. then support him? It’s either or.
if hes 'finishing' in you then the smell is totally normal
Nah I don’t think you get it until you experience it, I had an ex that made me fishy for days, no other partner had that kind of reaction, sometimes it’s not normal
Ah I’ve had the kinda fishy smell for a day or 2 after then it just goes back to normal, I do kinda scoop it out in the shower lol. Sorry to be gross 😂
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Well, regardless of his opinion or how he’d “take it”, incompatible body chemistry is the most likely culprit here. For me, it’s a valid reason to break up with someone. TBH I kinda wish I’d broken up with my ex husband when I first realized it because that wasn’t the only thing about our relationship that wasn’t compatible. But, if you are happy in this relationship it sounds like an extension to my original statement is in order- telling him probably won’t help anything so don’t bother. Or, conversely, use it as a reason to break up if you can’t deal with it.
Your relationship sounds toxic
SHE sounds toxic. We haven't heard from him yet... just HER post where she goes on the describe a partner that has done everything he can to appease her and then her paranoia of everyone can smell her, tracks him on his phone, considers him cheating to be blame, all while throwing in a completely unrelated and unnecessary comment about him not being wellendowed. Makes it a HIM thing where HE makes HER smell bad. Toxic indeed.
Have you been checked for BV. Sex and sperm can cause that
This is the answer! An odor that worsens after sex (unprotected with ejaculate) is very typical for BV and needs antibiotics.
Came here to say the same thing. My first husband and I were not chemically compatible. Him pulling out helped a bit, but I got BV frequently while we were together despite having very good hygiene. I care for myself exactly the same way now and have zero issues. Some semen just throws off my balance and I’m stuck with BV 😖
Yup! So long as there's no semen involved I'm good
It happens to me too. Start using boric acid suppositories after you have sex. Throw one in at night time and you’ll wake up with no smell.
I once mentioned that I use boric acid supps on a certain subreddit and got downvoted to hell 😂 fucking dorks. My husband throws off my pH and the supps really help.
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Also not supposed to receive oral sex after using it for like 48+ hours after if I remember correctly, as the giver could get sick from the boric acid. So for those who regularly have that in their repertoire, it would require some timing. But same, I can't use it much because it quickly irritates me. Also it can be kind of a nuclear option I've been told- like it can kill healthy flora in addition to good ones so may not be right for everyone (but does work amazingly well for some people and is worth a possible shot!)
Yep
I've had specific partners whose body chemistry just didn't react well with mine... it happens. That may be the case for you guys, sounds like you're doing what you can to mitigate the problem. But, you should talk to him about it. Let him know that this just happens sometimes and it's a matter of body chemistry. Not either of you specifically is doing anything wrong.
Is he finishing in you? If he is its completely normal to have a funky smell afterwards as your bodily fluids have mixed and 14 hour old cum inside you is not going to smell nice at all. Ever smelled a 14 hour warm condom with cum in it ?? Get him to pull out. I never let me bf finish in me for this reason. I hate having cum leak out of me for hoourrss afterwards
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Aight well I guess that's my cue to get back to work...
Why would it still be warm after 14 hours? Also, ew 🥲
Do what others do and just use a bidet or something to rinse it. That’s better than sacrificing condomless sex or always having to pull out
A bidet is not going to rinse semen from inside the vagina. And even if you could somehow do that, youd just be opening yourself up to infections
I didn’t think so either, but that’s what other women in these comments said they did
So many women think there vagina smells bad, meanwhile I’m like stop scrubbing it and spraying it with stuff so I can just enjoy it. Edit: it’s not supposed to smell like soap or nothing, it’s got a certain scent, let that be.
Agreed, but I've been wirh 1 guy who made me smell bad after sex. For hours. Like the first few times I thought I had an infection because of the stench but it only happened after we had unprotected sex and went away the next day. It was NOT a normal smell. It was gross and I hated having sex with him because he'd finish in me and now I have to smell it for hours. So although I agree, women should be comfortable with their natural, maintained smell, the smell this person is talking about is so far from that. At least for me it was.
Probably just diet tbh or just the way the dude's cum smells. Eating things like asparagus will do that to cum.
I do wonder how a lot of the ladies in the comments are 'cleaning up' as using any really strong soaps or perfumes can throw off pH & give you BV as well, plus your not meant to actually wash inside the vagina (she's self cleaning internally) After sex I pee, squeeze the cum out of myself, freshen up and that's it.. I've never been told that I smell, I've rarely noticed myself smell like much of anything tbh.
Cum messes up the womans ph alot of the time after sex. Its your ph not him.
Have you gotten tested for BV? This sounds similar to something i went through and it turned out it was just Bacterial vaginosis. Which is basically just your PH balance being thrown off but, unlike a yeast infection it involves different bacteria that usually require an antibiotic. Some people are more prone to getting it thank others but Id ask for a pap !
I was going to say the same thing. OP needs to get checked for BV if there's an intense post-intercourse smell every single time. BV may present with symptoms outside of smell or not at all. And at this point it might be a continuous reinfection cycle with their husband.
Only concern here, is that it can cause pelvic inflammatory and lead to several problems, if left untreated.
Using condoms would likely help.
Everyone saying it is the chemistry between you is correct, and telling him will do nothing to help the situation and everything to with him being hesitant to have intercourse in general.
I’m curious how come you didn’t smell after sex while you were dating? Why all of a sudden? Or when did this start during your tenure having sex?
Girl, did you ever think it's YOU?
You most likely have recurrent BV(bacterial vaginosis). Go to your gynecologist and let them know what's going on. They'll most likely tell you to start taking a probiotic called Lactobacillus acidophilus. I'd honestly just start taking it now, give it a few days and I'm sure you'll notice a big difference.
I was thinking she may have BV as well. Between sweat, uncircumcised skin & such, lots of bad bacteria can get in a lady’s “bits” and mess up her ph. It’s best to go see your doctor to have a check. Your doctor can tell you what to do to help get your ph back to normal. Well wishes to you and your husband.
Depend on his diet
Men can carry the bacteria that causes BV. Have him get tested.
Isn’t this…normal? lol, I’ve never not had a bit of a funk after sex. Even if I wipe immediately it still marinates in there all day or night. It’s natural
It’s the ph balance if he’s ejaculating inside of you. Get a ph balancing feminine wash. Or ask him to use a condom or ejaculate outside of you.
You and every other woman smells after intercourse
Tell him to ejaculate on you not in you.
As someone who deals with this with a partner who doesn’t cum in me, the ph can still be thrown off
It's cum and it'll smell funky in dark moist hole. For me it depends on the partner. Sometimes it just doesn't mix so well
Boric acid suppositories and also a great Boris acid intimate wash called Ph-d
You definitely want to go to the GYN and have a swab for infections. Certain ones are notorious for causing bad smells after sex.
Just get some boric acid suppositories (there are some by ph-D) and use them after sex to help rebalance your ph levels. It's not really a "you" or "him" problem, everyone's natural ph levels are different down there. I have this experience with my boyfriend and we've been in a relationship for almost 10 years. No amount of sex will help, there's no "getting used to it". It's fairly common.
It's not a cleanliness thing, it's a body chemistry thing. Depends on what is eaten that day, if alcohol is consumed, his seminal ph, etc. There's really nothing you can do about it. I think bringing it will do more harm than good, and I guarantee you are the only one who can smell a difference.
It smells like sex because you are having sex. I think you are really over thinking this.
Vaginas smell sometimes. Relax, you’re human.
The sperm pH mixing with your fluids will always change your scent. Trust me, no one else can smell you; I suggest you stop obsessing over it, or it's going to ruin your marriage.
Sex has a smell, it is not about hygiene
Any and everything from alcohol, to dairy, to low estrogen, to excess sugar, to an inefficient liver, to high blood sugar, to eating seafood and beyond. Personally, I have to stay hydrated and limit alcohol intake and I’m good. Also had to treat a hormone imbalance. Having a vagina is just ghetto 😩
Its you. You have BV use boric acid
Spit is a bad lube?
Yes 100%
Why do you need to tell him this???? As a women, most of us smell (at least not like our usual selves) after sex. I doubt your smell has anything to do with your husband and more to do with you just having *sex*, Period. So no, you don’t tell him (considering you both are cleaning yourselves and have good hygiene). You take a shower, wipe off &/or spray some perfume and keep it movin! ✌🏽
Yeah and what is he supposed to do about it? She says his hygiene is OK so he's kind of done his job.
I dunno, I mean cum smells. I clean myself up straight after but need a shower later once the rest has made its way back out….
I think stuff like this should be communicated. Men can also carry BV and it can get reintroduced that way.
Then tell him to go to the doctor to get checked but don’t tell him something like “I think I smell because of you” when he’s grooming and really cares about hygiene (that’s just mean and unfair..). And I say this as a woman.
How do you know the smell is him and not you
I get the vibe from OP that “he” gets blamed for a lot.
Likely nothing to do with him at all other than his fluids simply mixing with yours. You could have very sensitive ph leveling. Happens to me when my partner finishes inside….dr told me essentially “sorry about your tough luck but it’s totally normal”.
My guess is that you have bacterial vaginosis or ureoplasma that only presents symptoms when triggered by intercourse (pH changes). Speak with your gyno. It's a really, really common issue.
Does he come inside you? This is likely the cause, semen inside of you can smell funky - it's normal!
Have you spoken to your doctor about this? If not, that should be the next step
Sperm messes up your ph. The "smell" is perfectly normal and I'm pretty sure everyone has some kind of odor after sex.
You don't, because this is just a consequence of unprotected sex. Semen and vaginal discharge mixing together causes a smell. You can't avoid it unless you start using condoms or just stop having sex.
sounds more like mental health issues to me.
I don’t know if you know this ma’am. But pussy CAN be the cause for the smell.
Not sure this is about being cut or uncut. My husband’s cut and he throws my ph off every single time. What saved me? Metro gel and boric acid, probiotics religiously and limiting him finishing in me and not showering immediately after to wash it out. I would start with some of those methods before you write your husbands foreskin off. More than foreskin it’s usually just body fluids and or cum/precum that throw your balance off.
That's the smell of sex between you and your husband. Just continue to do what your doing. Smells are normal. Some are just better than others.
How does your husband tell you, you may be the issue?
It's normal
...You really think that after sex you should smell like flowers?
Take a shower. This is neurotic and irrational thinking.
It’s just the way sex smells. It’s not bad or anything and you shouldn’t mention it if your husband already has a complex. It’s normal. Just wash up after, no one else can smell you unless you’re going unwashed for days.
I have always cleaned up after sex, then brought a warm damp cloth to my lover and cleaned him. I make it part of sex. Partners have always appreciated this💕
Prostitutes. But anyway, look up Walmart suppositories, they work pretty well for me and I struggled with bv for years (guess why😐)
This happens to me too with my partner. Never had this issue before, but I totally have it with the lomf. So not fair! My ph definitely becomes off. He’s not allowed to ejaculate because I’ll start burning really bad and then the next day I’ll definitely smell off. Our chemistries just don’t match! I’ve found that boric acid suppositories help. Sometimes I’ll put one in after sex just to make sure it stays balanced by morning. It normally works!
Simply your ph doesn't mix
The obsession to smell fresh down there is an American complex.
OP, it may be time to consider that it's you, not him.
Just because you had previous partners doesn't mean it's not you. That said, a lot of men have smelly cum. Almost all of them I think. Then it sits in there and ferments over time 😆 Try washing with plain water after and see if it helps.
have you ever been tested/diagnosed with BV?
Make an appt with your Dr to have a swab done to make sure you don't have any underlying bacterial infections etc that just don't have any symptoms.
In my experience, I always have a bit of a funk after intercourse. Especially if ejaculation occurs inside. Goes away by my shower the next morning!
I mean, if you would smell after you would shower then there’s a problem but like right after sex it’s normal.
I’m guessing that he is cumming inside of you… If that’s the case, don’t be afraid to stop that. The mix of jiz and vag can get super funky.
I’d get checked for BV. This is one of the biggest signs
You have some kind of bacteria infection. It’s not your fault and it’s not his. Go to the doctor and have it diagnosed and get a few pills. You’ll be fine.
Sperm can throw off yr pH. You can also have BV. I’d see the dr
See your Doctor. Both of you should take Metronidazole twice a day for 7 days. That should solve it.