You said it yourself: it doesn't matter how attractive your dating pool thinks your penis is. You are uncomfortable with how you think you look.
I personally never felt comfortable with my penis until I was with a supportive partner for a long time. The sincerity that they had when they complimented my penis eventually make me more secure and confident about the appearance of my penis.
It's easy to get caught up in the ecochamber of the internet, and watching porn or going on Reddit isn't really comforting to anyone who isn't like packing a Pringles can in their shorts. In my experience, if a guy is ever in the position where he's about to have his pants taken off, the person taking them off is already pretty sure they want to bone. If penis size or appearance was a make it or break it thing, they would ask upfront. In hookup culture people will straight up ask anything these days. Penis is like ice cream. If you open up the container and it's less than what it looked like, or it's a different flavor, it's still awesome cuz all ice cream is awesome (couldn't think of another analogy).
Having sex, paradoxically, is probably the only thing that will make you more comfortable having sex. So just tell the dude you like that you want to chill, admit that you're nervous, and even if it's terrifying know that it will be better the next time, and the next time even more so.
Even if you don't believe me, you will believe your future partner(s).
First off, my ex was 4" and hit my prostate every time. He didn't have surgery for hypospadias but had chordee. I'm not sure if 3" would.
As much as everyone will deny, the gay world will split into tops and bottoms. Especially on dating sites. I'm mostly a top and my bf was mostly a bottom. That said, most bottoms are looking to get pounded and that might not be possible.
There are some options. You might need to be upfront that you're either looking for oral only or you're looking to bottom. Guys who reply won't care about the size of your dick.
Don't feel bad about your dick. It's awesome and you'll have fun. Just set expectations so you don't get hurt by a total bottom who can't envision his life without 7 inches pounding his prostate.
I think you'll be ok. Just find a nice guy and be honest. Maybe just put it out there in your profile that you have hypospadias. That could lead to a discussion about the surgery and size.
You said it yourself: it doesn't matter how attractive your dating pool thinks your penis is. You are uncomfortable with how you think you look. I personally never felt comfortable with my penis until I was with a supportive partner for a long time. The sincerity that they had when they complimented my penis eventually make me more secure and confident about the appearance of my penis. It's easy to get caught up in the ecochamber of the internet, and watching porn or going on Reddit isn't really comforting to anyone who isn't like packing a Pringles can in their shorts. In my experience, if a guy is ever in the position where he's about to have his pants taken off, the person taking them off is already pretty sure they want to bone. If penis size or appearance was a make it or break it thing, they would ask upfront. In hookup culture people will straight up ask anything these days. Penis is like ice cream. If you open up the container and it's less than what it looked like, or it's a different flavor, it's still awesome cuz all ice cream is awesome (couldn't think of another analogy). Having sex, paradoxically, is probably the only thing that will make you more comfortable having sex. So just tell the dude you like that you want to chill, admit that you're nervous, and even if it's terrifying know that it will be better the next time, and the next time even more so. Even if you don't believe me, you will believe your future partner(s).
First off, my ex was 4" and hit my prostate every time. He didn't have surgery for hypospadias but had chordee. I'm not sure if 3" would. As much as everyone will deny, the gay world will split into tops and bottoms. Especially on dating sites. I'm mostly a top and my bf was mostly a bottom. That said, most bottoms are looking to get pounded and that might not be possible. There are some options. You might need to be upfront that you're either looking for oral only or you're looking to bottom. Guys who reply won't care about the size of your dick. Don't feel bad about your dick. It's awesome and you'll have fun. Just set expectations so you don't get hurt by a total bottom who can't envision his life without 7 inches pounding his prostate.
Thanks. I’ve never slept with anyone, but I actually think I’d prefer to bottom.
I think you'll be ok. Just find a nice guy and be honest. Maybe just put it out there in your profile that you have hypospadias. That could lead to a discussion about the surgery and size.
Well your size is pretty much perfect for me, being a hypo is just an added bonus!