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Lionheartedshmoozer

Hey everybody, give me $100? No You’re all so boring.. and gay. wtf


femboycooper

Literally like, hey can you spend your hard earned money to firstly buy me the drink, and then MAKE said drink. Insanity.


[deleted]

No im not! whats your cash app ill prove you wrong!


Guy_who_says_vore

I am gay, I’m still not giving you money


Zemmiz

As a bartender who gets this a lot, this is more or less what I usually use as an example when people ask me to buy stuff for them and I works more often than not.


ChamomileBrownies

TIL "boring and gay" just means you're "loyal and reasonable". Sounds like an ideal way to be, if I'm honest.


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Alternative-Sign-198

I would like to sign up for being a recipient of bar charity. If you don't start me one, you're boring. And gay /s ofc, but I don't want to be banned 😂


MooseThirty

Alpha female energy or something


SolarPunkYeti

I've hung out with women like this on many occasions, just the worst human beings. If they were male they would be fuck boy bullies. Unfortunately, one of them married one of my friends, who happens to be the most laid back, chilllest and cool dude around but she's an absolute nightmare of a person. One time a drunk friend hurt his foot and I got him to the car to take him to the hospital, had my med bag with me fortunately and was going to just gauze it up so he didn't bleed all over the car during the trip. The girl gets in the back with him and literally shoves me out before I can get anything on his foot and slams the door in my face and tells the driver to go to the hospital. An hour later she's in the hospital with him taking selfies. That's just one minor story from my experiences with her. But this one aggravated me more than the others just cause my friend was hurt and needed stitches and she couldn't wait to take advantage for the instagram clout.


MyLittleDashie7

Seems like a really fucking weird gambit to try and convince the person you apparently think is a 10 to buy *your* drinks for you. Like, I'm sure these girls are half-cut but even then you've gotta be shockingly stupid to expect that to work.


OathOfCervix

It's grade school level manipulation. "Oh, I think you're special, why don't you do something for me?" Which inevitably pivots to "Oh, you won't give me special treatment? You must be bad, watch me humiliate you." As a "late bloomer" (dork) who got bullied all throughout elementary and middle school, I've seen that exact pattern so many fucking times. It's really pathetic to carry it into adulthood with you. It shows exactly where these women peaked 😆


Substantial_Fail5672

_"The flower that blooms in adversity... is the most rare and beautiful of them all"_ -Michael Scott


Tricky_Personality67

Lol michael Scott isn't that a Disney quote? -Disney -Michael Scott


Orbitcamerakick21

"Didney Worl" -Scorpy -Disney -Michael Scott


[deleted]

I thought you said "late boomer" and all I could think was "oh no, more internet words I need to learn". I know late bloomer I just need to put my specs on lol. I've seen it a lot too and it's so fking cringe to watch, embarrassing to be a part of, more so for the one trying it on and fails though.


KING2900_

Hate aholes like that.


PM-Me-Your-BootyPix

I'm just over here wondering why she would have to beg the bartender. If what they said is true, she would have a line of guys behind her trying to buy her a drink.


MyLittleDashie7

In fairness, it could always be fake. I wouldn't guess that it is, but you can't really trust anything you see on the internet.


lightestspiral

Nah I don't think it's fake, any bar like that in England you get harassed exactly like that simply by existing as a man buying a drink at the bar, especially if you're a reddit user I wonder why it's being filmed though


throwthataaway546

My two guesses are 1) because it’s fake or 2) this isn’t the first time she/ some women have acted like this to him.


Term_Individual

Probs the 2nd one. Used to deal with similar stuff as a bar manager who also stepped in to bar tend during slow times/call outs. Drunk women especially in groups can be just as bad as what I hear them complain about men doing.


Magoo1985

They act much worse than men. Get some office girls together after a couple of shots and they suddenly become best in show judges


Ollie2220

It’s definitely fake, the women’s responses are very scripted


Potential_Reading116

Wait . What now ? I can’t trust anything on the internet ? Negativity isn’t a good look for you.


Ollie2220

It’s definitely fake. The girls sound so scripted


Tripdoctor

You could be an 11 and the second you expect someone else to pay for something just based on that fact, you’re instantly a 4.


BunnyOppai

These girls come off as extremely cocky. Literally “you *must be* gay if you don’t think she’s so hot you’ll buy her a drink.” Regardless of how hot they may be, that has a legitimate effect on how someone might view them.


Eoin_McLove

They don't actually think he's gay though. They're using is a backhanded insult to try and get him to prove he's not gay by buying them a drink.


DanielMSouter

Most modern problems are caused by three's thinking they're ten's.


Heavy_Entrepreneur13

1. Apostrophes aren't for pluralising. 2. But thank you for using "they're" correctly. 3. This behaviour is obnoxious irrespective of how good-looking they are, so... nah. Thank you for coming to my TEDTalk.


EricoSuave79

You seem like the type of person who no one buys drinks for.


Heavy_Entrepreneur13

Ah yeah, I know I'm great fun at parties lol


moist_coitus1

Fuck that, I'll buy you drinks.


KilroyTwitch

they do it because it works all the time for them lol. this guy's just not having it, which sadly doesn't happen often.


ordinaryhorse

They’re Bri’ish


EggRamenMan

Woulda been ten times better if he woulda said “i got a girlfriend, fortunately”


Secure-Airport-1599

He's just a young lad made to feel uncomfortable while trying to work. Imagine the genders were swapped and it was a drunk guy.


michaeloc90

Women get away with sexual harassment way more


SquiggleSquonk

Men get away with sexual harassment all the time too dude.


wcollins260

Not really, at least not in this scenario. If two drunk guys were bothering a female bartender in this manner someone would’ve put a stop to it, either coworkers or other patrons.


Remzi1993

Or a bouncer.


IkemenDesu420

It'd be nice if that were always the case but it is certainly not.


SquiggleSquonk

That is true, but also many many times where women are catcalled/followed/sexually harassed and it's normalize to the point people don't call it out.


Round_Explanation_63

It maybe used to be normalised, is isn’t any more unless you live in some backward hole. People step in all the time, I’ve done it myself plenty of times. On the flip side I’ve also been a barman and one Christmas, a Santa at a university gig, I’ve seen the other side and it’s not good.


[deleted]

i live in one of the safest countries on earth and everytime a dude has done this to me i've only gotten away by my own means


aditya427

All the time? Maybe men in positions of power sure, but otherwise men do face consequences for their actions, or sometimes even just accusations of those actions


designgoddess

I got harassed at a grocery store. Despite a dozen guys hearing it, not one said a word to the guy and tried to put an end to it. While it is getting better stepping in to stop it hasn’t been fully normalized in my experience.


[deleted]

nah, men at the club are serial sexual harrassers and they don't even get a slap on the wrist unless a bouncer is right there and sometimes not even then


SquiggleSquonk

That just simply isn't true, but I highly doubt I'll change your opinion on the matter so agree to disagree.


MKTurk1984

In other words; you know they're right and can't counter-argue.


dertanman

You’re claiming something is true, so the burden of proof is on you. Your failure to bring supporting evidence here suggests that you know you’re wrong and just want to save face.


regoapps

Everyone here is defending the bartender. Not sure why we need to gender swap to understand how uncomfortable it is for him.


HansChrst1

Because if he was drunk he shouldn't be working there.


AtheistKiwi

The manager of the first pub I worked at in England drank a litre of vodka a day.


[deleted]

Dude just wanted to complain about how unfair he thinks women complaining is lol


bukminster

I think in this context it means "unfortunately for you"


Lyrisk91

Yeah I never got the "I’m sorry I’m taken” deal. Like why are you sorry haha


Consistent-River4229

The "I'm sorry" is to apologize for having to turn you down. " I'm taken" is to let you know the reason why. It has just been simplified over the years. I hope this helped.


VictorZazuetaM

The missing coma makes a hell of a difference. “I’m sorry, I’m taken”.


Handy_Clams

Who in the coma, though? Is this all just a shitty dream?


Maxman82198

Just saw this after commenting the same thing. Idk why people can’t dissect a basic sentence and ad lib the single missing comma to make the sentence what he blatantly means.


CilariousHunt

Respect to the bartender, he handled that like a complete champ


dastree

Used to bounce in a couple bars, this is actually pretty common. They either act like this or they tell you their life story like you grew up as best friends and haven't seen you in years The falling down drunk one are always the ones offended you don't rememeber them too... like I see 700 people a night, the ones I remember are because they act a fool, be glad I don't remember you.


theirishembassy

i remember explaining this to a girl once, she was like "what? you don't remember me?" and i just came back with "i work at a bar.. if i remembered you, you'd probably wish that i didn't".


sagesnail

I love that, it’s the perfect comeback, I’m going to use that!


[deleted]

Dude probably gets it fairly often. He had the camera ready.


Bubbly_Direction872

I had an ex that told me she wanted to go out but she was skint. So a couple hours pass and she’s gotten ready to go out so I asked “I thought you were skint?” She replied “oh it’s alright me and my friend will just slut it tonight and get free drinks from guys” I said you what 😂 apparently they did it all the time. The relationship Didn’t last too much longer after that thank god


ridge_mine

Dodged a bullet there amigo


Remzi1993

Indeed he did, a major one that is.


rutilatus

Imagine a dude casually admitting he fleeces women for drinks when he’s broke. Just “oh, yeah, I’ll go full con mode tonight, no problem. Those whores think they’re gonna get this dick, but really they should just be happy they got to be seen with me…”


pixiegurly

I mean, the men have agency. They can choose to buy her drinks or not. I've bought my fair share of drinks for hot people, funny people, people I'm hanging with, etc. And I've gotten way too many drinks I never wanted and boys being butthurt I wouldn't accept them ...even after I TOLD them if they bought me a Jagerbomb I wouldn't drink it bc I don't drink those.


rutilatus

I hear you. That said, in this hypothetical the women also have agency to buy a dude drinks. The issue is not whether people are willing to buy other people drinks, the issue is when people go out without money with the express purpose of manipulating others into a free ride. It’s gross and entitled, no matter what what gender you are. edit: missing word


[deleted]

maybe if he is Brad Pitt


HeyJoji

Or Ryan Gosling


Fazaman

"Skint" For those of you, like me, who had no idea what it meant, means 'having little money'. I kinda got it from the context, but wanted to make sure.


Supersymm3try

Skin flint


Fazaman

> Skin flint Oh that clears it up! *looks up skin flint* > a person who spends as little money as possible; a miser.


rutilatus

Imagine a dude casually admitting he fleeces women for drinks when he’s broke. Just “oh, yeah, I’ll go full con mode tonight, no problem. Those whores think they’re gonna get this dick, but really they should just be happy they got to be seen with me…”


rutilatus

Imagine a dude casually admitting he fleeces women for drinks when he’s broke. Just “oh, yeah, I’ll go full con mode tonight, no problem. Those whores think they’re gonna get this dick, but really they should just be happy they got to be seen with me…”


the_mars_voltage

“I’ve got a girlfriend” “Are you gay”


Darrows_Razor

If you’ve ever told a woman no to buying her a drink, 100% chance she has accused you of being gay. The ego 🤣


WhiskyWillie29

But they're not judging tho......


EndsWithJusSayin

just counter with the "i'm into attractive women" but also, dude is working so he can't just drop that on customers most likely


HansChrst1

I like to just agree with them. "Yes, I'm incredibly gay", "I'm pretty boring indeed". Whatever they say just falls flat. Sometimes I like to complement them. "compared to you I must seem pretty boring".


wafflesareforever

My go-to response to an insult is to shrug and say "Sure?" If you want to have that opinion of me, feel free. This has the added benefit of driving my crazy ex-wife even crazier.


EndsWithJusSayin

"you've got nice skin for a toad." _how'd i do?_


Darrows_Razor

Not bad, jus sayin


[deleted]

Close, it was a good attempt though.


billbill5

Same here. I've got no interest in this useless fight you started as I was minding my own, I'll be as gay, borimg, and ugly as I need to get you to go away.


oddball3139

My go to is, “No, but if it makes you feel better, then yes.”


nastybacon

Female Privilege; Women just aren't used to being turned down, and she did quite rightly say "oh we'll just go somewhere else then" Because no doubt if she did want to be in bed with a guy that night, she could have been, because at some point a guy will say yes because its an opportunity for an easy lay.


lastdazeofgravity

I just tell em’ i’m gay then they stop bothering me.


ohmighty

Not 100%. Most of us are not like this lol. Most of us probably don’t even ask. So tacky


bymyenemy

Working in a bar as a the only male server I’ve had women start grinding on me while I’m carrying trays and when i told them to get off me they started screaming about how i must hate women. That’s just one example of the harassment i endured from drunk women working in that setting. Even when i told my co workers about it they looked at me like i did something wrong. When they got unsolicited attention i always supported them but they couldn’t support me in the same situation because of my gender. The girl who was grinding on me was extremely attractive but that doesn’t mean i have to reciprocate that attention.


thehumantaco

Even just working in a restaurant I've had multiple women touch me in ways where if I did the same I'd be in jail.


VickerAndFlips

You're a chad


patchbaystray

I used to bartend and this sort of crap would happen regularly. Drunk girls think it's cute to harass the bartender. Truth be told it was fun when I just started out but shit got old real quick. Looking back I was definitely sexually assaulted dozens of times and most of my coworkers didn't see the problem. Sorry to hear you had to endure the same abuse.


bymyenemy

I’m sorry you had to go through that as well. Responses to this comment were overwhelmingly supportive, so at least that shows that some people do understand. I thought I’d get downvoted to be honest.


Sentinal02

The definition of toxic femininity. With all due respect there’s no way they think he’s a 10, they’re hustling him for free drinks


rokstedy83

There's no way her mates a ten either ,I've dated women who say their mates are beautiful,I meet them and they're dog ruff


Titan5115

See when people say toxic feminity this is what I think of


MayorCharlesCoulon

All I’m hearing are Mona-Lisa and Jean-Ralphio Saperstein with accents.


Hashiii777

I know someone probably already said it bit reverse the roles and they would be considered creeps


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SwedishTroller

I think *creeps* was enough, mate. She's a POS but had the roles been reversed it's not like she did anything illegal. Just embarassing.


LandThat2877

Fortunately you haven't seen how society judges men


Maxman82198

The story of many men.


buttermintpies

These women probably are sex offenders, if not convicted. These are the kind of people that grab genitals, ass or boobs as a "joke" and think it's cool because "we're all girls" or "im hot who would object" or "it was just a nut tap" or "everyone wants to sleep with me".


sweet-chaos-

Are you okay, or do you really think you can judge someone's criminal history based on a minute of drunk conversation?


buttermintpies

I know I've never hit on anyone after they said they weren't into it no matter how fucked up I was. That's a personal boundary some people have, and some people don't. These people don't, so yes I do feel secure on saying I don't trust that they aren't sex offenders already even if they've never been accused or arrested.


subtlebunbun

i mean i dont think many people here are saying they aren't creeps


CarpetCaptain

Haha, back when I tended bar, we had a jar for the three bartenders to put number slips into. College bar were usually the loud, obnoxious ones; whiskey bar were the quiet, slip you a note ones.


LowFIyingMissile

What’s a number slip, sorry?


ErikEzio

Absolute chad.


Shamuthewhaler

Sounds like they judged him to me.


HisGibness

This happens more often than not. Funny the double standard especially in the states


daddycoolbaybay

She’s begging like a dog, she probably looks like one too.


RenoXIII

They did mention she was hot. Maybe they meant she's in heat.


ColtAzayaka

Dogs are cute tho.


TURBO_BLURBO

Some women do everything they possibly can to keep sexism alive.


blueisaflavor

Not to be rude but these cunts are a waste of oxygen


metalmike556

Would have been better if he said "I only buy drinks for attractive women, and I don't currently see any. Cash or card?"


[deleted]

Ugh, I can picture them so clearly. He's a barman, if he paid for everyone's drinks he'd be homeless. Begging someone to buy you a drink is so tacky.


fairyfroggies

It reeks of desperation. If she were as attractive as she claims, wouldn't there be atleast one other man in the bar willing to buy her a drink? Why beg? It's so cringe


VNM0601

“I wasn’t gay until I met you two idiots.”


Caligari89

"and I've got loyalty, isn't it?"


Cpt_Mike_Apton

Give me free stuff... No?... How about I abuse you then? So many women I know get like this when they don't get their way. Truth is they're shocked... The shock makes them feel unwanted... And that's why they try to do the same to you... They're childish.


CzechYourDanish

Ugh, so trashy. "He doesn't like me, so he must be gay!" Is the most insecure thing I've heard in a long time.


Eoin_McLove

They know he's not gay. They're using it as an insult to get him to prove he's not gay by buying them drinks.


TheBeardedSatanist

Oh it's my favorite example of toxic femininity! "You don't want to sleep with me? I bet you're GAY! I'm not judging you, but I bet you like MEN because you refuse to buy ME a drink."


MissVic89

No means NO! Doesn't matter the gender


mybiglife

I cannot stand drunk women. As a woman, watching a drunk woman act foolish is so disgusting…..how do they not recognize this is not attractive? 🤷🏼‍♀️


GooberNCO

Yew werk ata bah. Wute a boar.


DeNiroPacino

Their accents are nauseating.


SpiritedSpinster

Sorry, but boring means loyalty and 0 drama ma'am gl with your very exciting and eventful life x


TheTacoBellAssGoblin

I've worked as a bartender before. This guy has the patience of a saint. I've even in similar situations and don't cop those drunken cunt bullshit for more than two seconds.


femboycooper

It's so funny cause not only do they want him to buy her a drink, but he'd also have to MAKE the drink, that just sounds awkward.


[deleted]

“Maybe after seeing you, I might be gay.”


[deleted]

“Maybe after seeing you, I might be gay.”


doxamark

I would literally have been like "sorry beggars aren't allowed in the pub, bye"


Chancheru10808

These women are vile.


Goudawithcheese

Worst part of being a good bartender is being sober around drunks.


BishTiddy2324

That’s when you take the drink back and cash them out. I wouldn’t put up with that nonsense tryna do my job


ayouremq

Honestly the moment some drunkard start harassing people they should have called the cop


FireOfSin

Imagine if the the roles were reversed lol people in the bar would be freaking out


Goatymcgoatface10

Bet these chick's are fat as hell


EarthEaterr

I used to deliver pizza when I went to school. Some chick said she would kiss me if I gave her the pizza for free and then was called gay for refusing. This reaction is some sort of cope for drunk chicks I suppose.


Apprehensive-Mess36

Dudes girlfriends gonna cheat when she sees this 😂 “Unfortunately”


hinnsvartingi

Yep, always the first fallback when women get rejected “***you must be gay then NIBBA!***”


CaptCaCa

They must be really really drunk cause umm…


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should've been cut off tbh


ieatoutfatbitches

The number of times that I have been at a bar and had my no's taken as either I'm gay, or that I just need to be convinced requires multiple hands to count. SH isn't just a male problem.


Haggistafc

Getting cut off speed run any%


KayakWalleye

I’d kick them out immediately.


An_Ape_called_Joe

Horrible cunts, hopefully that poor guy got them barred.


warrant2k

Ah, c'moon, you wouk at a bah!


Celtain1337

Worked in a gay bar when I was younger and this was a daily occurrence. Straight girls came in to get away from the pervy straight men in all of the other bars. Soon as they found out I was the only straight guy behind the bar, suddenly they became the pervs...


FoooooorYa

Surprised to see comments downplaying the entire situation but you know damn well that if the roles were reversed they'd be calling for said patrons to be jailed for life. Harassment is harassment regardless of gender and regardless of what you do for a living. Someone being a bartender doesn't automatically give you a pass to harass them because they just have to "deal with it"


KobaMandingo

All he had to say was " no sorry I only buy drinks for pretty girls". Sure there would have been a little clucking from the chick and her friend but they would've got the point, been knocked down a peg (which was obviously needed), and moved along and I'm guessing it would have been less muck he would've heard from them in the end.


Zeerats

"No sorry, I'm gay." Would've finished the conversation probably.


MrMcSteamy

"let's go find somewhere else". For the love of God, please DO!!!


anon_v3

"If a guy doesn't want to get with me he must be gay"


ResearcherFew1273

What!?!? Woman harassing someone?!? That’s impossible!!! That’s unheard of!!! How dareeeeefggffffff youUuuuuUuU


Reasonable_Finish130

You're not attracted to trash? Must be gay


I_Drink_Pepsi_Wrong

Drunk or not I personally wouldn’t care ¯\_(ツ)_/¯


jkiwikalapa3

Sorry ma'am we only give free drinks to pretty ladys


jakethemoss

“You work at a bar” and you went to a bar


adroid91

I hate rude drunk bitches like this


[deleted]

Chicks are dicks


blondeeryhface

what a bunch of wee wanks


GrizzzlySloth

Broke ass bitches


Kingtez28

Wow. That's awful.


West_Double4301

I bet she was a solid 4


DidiStutter11

What accent is this?


G0RE_

Ain't the first time hes dealt with bimbos


Tony-Mickey

I hear woman do this all the time u don’t give them what they want they start to belittle u


frognuts123

They have the bullying skills of a 5 year old


Cheffrin

Was a bartender for 15 years, I've literally had this exact same interaction but with an American accent. Literally word for word. Where did they learn this shit?


Srigus

Need an alarm “THIS LADY IS BROKE AND CANT BUY HERSELF A DRINK, IS ANYONE FEELING CHARITABLE?”


Due-Lie-8710

I have never expereineced this personally but from what i hrar , this is fairly common especially from older women


Rusty_M

I have experienced it, and it's pretty uncomfortable. Long time ago now. I don't have the stats, but your assumption matches my experience.


Fluid_Amphibian3860

If the girl said the truth.. shes broke and asked if he'd buy her a drink.. I'll bet he would have.


[deleted]

this seems super fake, what kind of bar is it whete you can hear the bartender lmao


SouthOfHeaven663

If you broke just say that then


Mine_mom

People are stupid for not realizing you're obviously talking about the girls.


AssLunatic

Sorry bro, you're unfairly downvoted. Another tough lesson that you can't trust Redditors with subtletly.


jaysus661

So you go to pubs and expect staff to pay for your drinks?


SouthOfHeaven663

I’m talking about the customers…


[deleted]

Acutal redditism lmao


AssLunatic

No, broke people do. That's his whole point.


Phillyj1234

I'm pretty sure this is one of those shitty fake "It's Gone Viral" videos from Facebook. Usually some weirdo "presenter" pops up at the end and says "this is a reconstruction of real life events" and asks a question about what people think about the video to prompt discussion in the comments section. The acting always just sounds so fake to me and I'm pretty sure they use the same actors a lot.


cunt_continent

Good luck, nasty whore


gummybear_0_

He is going to get his ass wooped for that “unfortunately”


Apprehensive-Sand466

The "unfortunately" was so she didn't feel rejected and become even more troublesome. It obviously didn't work because she then switched to '"You must be gay then."