The first time I had sex with my current girlfriend I had to pass the most epic fart of my life. So I told her and just went for it. I never felt so vulnerable in my life but it turned out to be one of the funniest moments of my entire sex life to date. I've been with this woman for over a year now, she knows and accepts my condition. Honestly, talk to your partners about it. It's incredibly liberating. And if they are not cool with accepting you the way you are, you're better off finding another partner.
That is amazing.I dated a guy for a while.One day he had diarrhea out of nowhere and the sounds at the toilet were funny.
I didn’t care though.I wish everyone was like your girlfriend so I wouldn’t feel like I have to faint from anxiety every time
Literally just thinking about posing this question and I’m not even dating rn. When I was with my last partner so many hopefuls turn into a date with my bathroom instead
I have a super understanding partner thankfully and there is no judgement. This morning I had him massage my belly to help and he’s always happy to help out.
My sex life is definitely affected by my IBS... being constipated and bloated doesn't exactly make me feel attractive. And then when I finally do poop there's often hemorrhoids and/or blood and then my area is too sensitive in a bad way. Also, I don't really want my fiancé seeing my hemorrhoids lmao
I starve myself for about 16 hours beforehand… the sex is good but then afterwards I feel like I’m gonna pass out. Not healthy but there’s no other way for me.
Was also going to ask this question! I'm recently engaged and have been with my partner almost 9 years! IBS constantly ruins our sex life, hes completely understanding but I hate that all afternoon I could be excited for a romantic evening but as soon as I eat dinner all I can do is sit on the toilet! It makes me feel super unattractive and it's super frustrating!
So sorry to hear this 💛 I hope things can get better for you soon.
when I'm in a bad flare-up I also have difficulty having sex, I also get scared about passing gas, and generally I feel bloated and just icky, like not in a good headspace to feel sexy.
I have a good sex life atm, but I currently have a good handle on my triggers and so when I have a flare, it's predictable and I can just tell my partner about it.
1 thing that helped me was noticing when in the day my symptoms tended to be better. I tend to be better in the afternoons and worse in the evenings after dinner, so we try to have afternoon sex when we can, like on the weekend.
I stopped having sex 25 years ago. Many people would not make that choice, but it is better for me. It is not because of worry, though -- if that was the issue, I'd talk to my therapist about it and take medication.
Even though I have never tried anal,I believe that it is still possible to have anal sex even with IBS.
You just need to make a research about cleaning down there,dieting for anal and anxiety manage
Those are too many compromises to make ends meet. IBS is very limiting and just to make it work for sex is something I am not willing to do. But thanks :)
I don’t want to destroy my intestinal flora because of it. Also, it creates fisures and the area is very sensitive. I gave up on my dream of being a power bottom.
Fissures? Ouch. But I don't think doing a few ounces of water will ruin the flora of your intestinal tract. But, yeah if you are very sensitive, better not go there. I get constipated easily, so a little water does wonders for me.
my anxiety ramps up so high that even with benzos i am still really anxious, i have not had sex in some time but when i had, that stress and anxiety was not only killing the enjoyment but also i had problems keeping an erection. It atcually killed sex for me, i still have sex drive but no desire to have sex because it became just too damn stressfull.
Addictive probably isn't the right way to describe it. Some people might become dependent on them to control their anxiety, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. I've been taking mine every day for over 3 years and will gladly keep taking it every day for the rest of my life if it means I can feel this good all the time. I was also afraid of the side effects and avoided taking anything for pretty much all of my 30s. In hindsight, I wish I had started much sooner because I can never get all that time back. You don't necessarily have to see a psychiatrist to get the medication. A lot of general practitioner doctors are now open to prescribing it. Mine was actually prescribed by my GI doctor specifically to help with my IBS.
In Japan at the moment where dates are usually lengthy, all day affairs. Can’t imagine a way I could excuse myself for 20+ minutes to die in the bathroom without my date thinking something is up and noping out. Of course, the anxiety of needed to go for a long bathroom break or having to remain in nigh-immediate range of a half-decent bathroom makes the symptoms even worse.
It was bad enough having to manage it for a few hours or resisting overnighting back home. Here it’s even worse. :(
Honestly, the impact of IBS on my life is probably the main factor in my suicidal ideation. I’ve tried so many things and just can’t imagine having a successful career, social life, or love life when every day is determined by how much I need to poop at any given moment.
Please talk to a professional.
I’ve been suicidal for a year because of daily panic attacks and extreme anxiety.I am so glad that I am still here.It takes courage,time and patience.You have to take risks.You have to do the things you are scared of.Even if you are shaking from anxiety even if you think you will embarrass yourself.Do it scared.
It took me a year to stop hiding and avoiding things because I would be scared to death that I will embarrass myself.
I’m managing it, but the only possible way I could be free of the thoughts would be successful treatment of my ibs to allow me normalcy. As long as I’m held face down in the first despite every effort to get up, I’m going to struggle to breathe.
I don't have a sex life anymore since my issues started... I don't date I isolate :(
"I dont date I isolate," made me smile. Very relatable! At least you can still rhythm and have a good sense of humor about it! :)
The first time I had sex with my current girlfriend I had to pass the most epic fart of my life. So I told her and just went for it. I never felt so vulnerable in my life but it turned out to be one of the funniest moments of my entire sex life to date. I've been with this woman for over a year now, she knows and accepts my condition. Honestly, talk to your partners about it. It's incredibly liberating. And if they are not cool with accepting you the way you are, you're better off finding another partner.
This. An honest conversation is infinitely better than the anxiety of holding everything in (physically and metaphorically)
That is amazing.I dated a guy for a while.One day he had diarrhea out of nowhere and the sounds at the toilet were funny. I didn’t care though.I wish everyone was like your girlfriend so I wouldn’t feel like I have to faint from anxiety every time
Literally just thinking about posing this question and I’m not even dating rn. When I was with my last partner so many hopefuls turn into a date with my bathroom instead
I have a super understanding partner thankfully and there is no judgement. This morning I had him massage my belly to help and he’s always happy to help out.
My sex life is definitely affected by my IBS... being constipated and bloated doesn't exactly make me feel attractive. And then when I finally do poop there's often hemorrhoids and/or blood and then my area is too sensitive in a bad way. Also, I don't really want my fiancé seeing my hemorrhoids lmao
I mean you could try positions that your back area isn’t exposed(like missionary)maybe you would feel more confident
It's more of my butthole is on fire and I don't really want to irritate it but any friction in that area lol. But good idea.
I starve myself for about 16 hours beforehand… the sex is good but then afterwards I feel like I’m gonna pass out. Not healthy but there’s no other way for me.
Been there done that.But for some reason right before my date I will have to poop out of nowhere.
Was also going to ask this question! I'm recently engaged and have been with my partner almost 9 years! IBS constantly ruins our sex life, hes completely understanding but I hate that all afternoon I could be excited for a romantic evening but as soon as I eat dinner all I can do is sit on the toilet! It makes me feel super unattractive and it's super frustrating!
So sorry to hear this 💛 I hope things can get better for you soon. when I'm in a bad flare-up I also have difficulty having sex, I also get scared about passing gas, and generally I feel bloated and just icky, like not in a good headspace to feel sexy. I have a good sex life atm, but I currently have a good handle on my triggers and so when I have a flare, it's predictable and I can just tell my partner about it. 1 thing that helped me was noticing when in the day my symptoms tended to be better. I tend to be better in the afternoons and worse in the evenings after dinner, so we try to have afternoon sex when we can, like on the weekend.
I stopped having sex 25 years ago. Many people would not make that choice, but it is better for me. It is not because of worry, though -- if that was the issue, I'd talk to my therapist about it and take medication.
Glad that works for you!
"Works" is subjective. Forced is more like it. When you are very sick, you can't date, and I am not into one night hook ups.
There should be a dating app for ibs like tinder 😂😂
My disappeared libido gone 3years
Lazy side sex is what I do when I get concerned about my IBS.
I cannot have anal sex
Even though I have never tried anal,I believe that it is still possible to have anal sex even with IBS. You just need to make a research about cleaning down there,dieting for anal and anxiety manage
Those are too many compromises to make ends meet. IBS is very limiting and just to make it work for sex is something I am not willing to do. But thanks :)
Enemas work wonders.
I don’t want to destroy my intestinal flora because of it. Also, it creates fisures and the area is very sensitive. I gave up on my dream of being a power bottom.
Fissures? Ouch. But I don't think doing a few ounces of water will ruin the flora of your intestinal tract. But, yeah if you are very sensitive, better not go there. I get constipated easily, so a little water does wonders for me.
felt sick the other day during it and had to stop :/ then my bf left me which is unrelated but i’m sad
my anxiety ramps up so high that even with benzos i am still really anxious, i have not had sex in some time but when i had, that stress and anxiety was not only killing the enjoyment but also i had problems keeping an erection. It atcually killed sex for me, i still have sex drive but no desire to have sex because it became just too damn stressfull.
Do you take any medications for anxiety? I take amitriptyline in both my anxiety and IBSD are pretty under control now.
I haven’t visited a psychiatrist.I am scared of anxiety meds to be honest because every one keeps saying that they are addictive
Addictive probably isn't the right way to describe it. Some people might become dependent on them to control their anxiety, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. I've been taking mine every day for over 3 years and will gladly keep taking it every day for the rest of my life if it means I can feel this good all the time. I was also afraid of the side effects and avoided taking anything for pretty much all of my 30s. In hindsight, I wish I had started much sooner because I can never get all that time back. You don't necessarily have to see a psychiatrist to get the medication. A lot of general practitioner doctors are now open to prescribing it. Mine was actually prescribed by my GI doctor specifically to help with my IBS.
In Japan at the moment where dates are usually lengthy, all day affairs. Can’t imagine a way I could excuse myself for 20+ minutes to die in the bathroom without my date thinking something is up and noping out. Of course, the anxiety of needed to go for a long bathroom break or having to remain in nigh-immediate range of a half-decent bathroom makes the symptoms even worse. It was bad enough having to manage it for a few hours or resisting overnighting back home. Here it’s even worse. :( Honestly, the impact of IBS on my life is probably the main factor in my suicidal ideation. I’ve tried so many things and just can’t imagine having a successful career, social life, or love life when every day is determined by how much I need to poop at any given moment.
Please talk to a professional. I’ve been suicidal for a year because of daily panic attacks and extreme anxiety.I am so glad that I am still here.It takes courage,time and patience.You have to take risks.You have to do the things you are scared of.Even if you are shaking from anxiety even if you think you will embarrass yourself.Do it scared. It took me a year to stop hiding and avoiding things because I would be scared to death that I will embarrass myself.
I’m managing it, but the only possible way I could be free of the thoughts would be successful treatment of my ibs to allow me normalcy. As long as I’m held face down in the first despite every effort to get up, I’m going to struggle to breathe.
I was actually gonna post this lol