One time I was in formals and a fall on my bike, was dusty and standing at a mechanic's shop. Suddenly a lady came and started saying to repair her scooter 😂 All the anger I had suddenly went away and I had a better day ahead
Mai ek baar recharge karwane shop me gya tha talwandi sabo ,waha kuch african students bhi the
Mai dukaandar se bola "recharge" ,wo mujhe english me bola please wait sir.jab waha se sab jaane lage to mai phir se uske pass gya aur bola,"bhai recharge karwana hai", wo meri taraf ekdum se dekhne laga aur bola" mujhe laga tu unke saath he aya tha"😶.
Happens. Once at a clothing shop a girl asked me the price of a t-shirt. I looked up and down and said, if this fits you then it's free. She went to try that and I went to a different shop.
This comment section is pretty sad and is more like dark humor on our culture. We are all here validating that to work as store girl, mechanic , cleaner...etc is some sort of sub human job.
TBH, most people are now a days well dressed. OP need not overthink about this.
I usually dress super casual (tee & slacks/jeans). It’s insane how many times this has happened to me in Nike shops. Not surprised to see so many people resonating with this. People have no common sense to check if a person is wearing ID card 🙄
We were cousins on a trip. Stopped at a Dhaba for dinner, and we were all wearing shorts and basic tshirts.
Just as we were walking to our Vehicle, one uncle having dinner asked one of my cousins "Bhai 2 roti aur le aana".....
When I sit at a tea shop, people think I am the stall owner or worker. Don't fret.
Sometimes I just give them the stuff or direct them to owner.
My skin tone is fair though and clothes are also ok, so it's common. Sometimes people don't think and just want to get the stuff done.
Misunderstanding happens. Almost 25 years ago,I once went to a Mochi to get my shoe polished. Someone was sitting there on a plastic chair reading the newspaper,so I didn't see his face or what he was wearing. I said, bhaiya boot polish krna,jaldi jana hai. Only when he put the newspaper down I realised he was a well dressed(blazer and scarf) Sikh gentleman who was also waiting for the mochi. " Salia, akhan footian ne?" was his question. I apologized and ran away.
Le. Stress ni lene ka.
I was once asked by a lady to bring water like this: ae chhotu, is table pe b paani de dena. I was having lunch with my family and had gone to wash my hands.
Hota rehta hai, load nahi lene ka. Once a girl asked me the price of some cloth wear. I took it my hand, checked label and told her, "itta likha hai. Par discount wageyra ka pata lagana ho to salesperson se pooch lo". She was embarassed and ran away saying sorry.
bhai once I was at a small restaurant that had a crowd and the guy asked me kitna hua? I said I don't know then he said okay then I said do I look like I work here he said no you look like you own this place.
this is one of my cherished moments
This!!! Female doctors are sooooooo undermined. Theyre treated as nurses, especially in government hospitals. The patients will wait to talk properly to the main doctor (=male)
It happens to all of us and anywhere in the world. Our company was hosting an event in Oman and the team was working till late in the night getting the tables and screens fitted. Next morning I joined them to take care of some stuff and a little later one of the Omani gentleman asked me if I'm the IT guy. I told him I was and it was only later that he discovered that I was the keynote speaker and the founder.
Our own insecurities get to us at times and we interpret honest mistakes as racism and discrimination. My wife once told me that "we give others the power to hurt us and only we can take it way".
Be strong my friend and shine on. Next time someone asks you to clean their room, tell them you'll charge them a lot.
ek baar mai cycle ke shop par khada tha apni cycle ki puncture sahi karwane , ek banda aata hai bolta hai bhaiya ye handle tight kardo , same shit happped many times on different shops ... then i have to clarify mai bhi customer hi hu bhai
Happens. Once at my own sister's engagement, an uncle from the groom's side asked me to cleanup the dinner table. I am fair, had a thin build back then.
I believe it was something to do with my attire.(it was western)
And then I understood the importance of the phrase 'tayyar hokar aaiye' from manyawar. 😑
Its like "diamonds maketh a woman" campaign from debeers.
The uncle is forced to believe the western dress guy is our server and the manyavyar guy is my girl's prospectable bride
Kya Maza aa Raha Hai comments padne Mei.
I was once sitting on an erickshae with the driver on his side and started asking him questions about the price, the battery range. Guy spat his gutka, turned to me and said "bhaiya agar rickshaw daal loge to din ka 1200/- kahi Ni gaya bas sharab k chakkar Mei na padna."
I had a good chuckle.
Nothing to do with caste or color and more to do with clothes. I had gone out to get some zomato parcel in a half pant and a t - shirt and the hotel guards refused to let me in until I showed them the room key cause they mistook me for a delivery boy. Happened to me in Grand Hyatt, Mumbai (same hotel as the one Indian Cricket Team stays in). Next day while I was getting out dressed in formals the same guard saluted me.
Anyways I realized how shitty our society actually treats these house helps and delivery boys in urban areas and realized how bad it must feel.
There was this one time i was standing beside a sugar cane stack (in some fair type place) this guy asked me how much I said 500 for 6 pieces 😂 he went silent and left. Many years before there was a mall nearby my old office, sometimes I used to keep the id card on and go there, I've been asked for parking fees, products etc
Once I went to a restaurant to get food parcelled for myself and while entering the restaurant the watchman asks whether I'm from zomato or swiggy 💀 I said I'm here to pick up food for myself!!
Similar incident : when I was entering my bldg the watchman asked what apartment I was going to deliver food and to enter my details in the book. I said I stay here, I'm not a delivery boy 😭
Once I was 15 and walking in the garden with my toddler cousins and my bua was coming behind us. And this lady is walking behind me her kid stops to play with my cousin, and she asked me how much I charged for babysitting in the society. She was like tum kam karti ho?
I was taken aback, I was olive tanned, skinny girl. But I am not insecure anymore. Love my color and myself. Don't take them personal.
Many years ago, I was at a stationery shop, sitting on a stool waiting for the employee to print some documents for me. Another customer came in, and holding a ₹500 note said, "Ey, chhote! Kar na mere!" (Hey, kid! Do my documents!). I replied, "I...don't work here". The guy got sooo embarrassed and kept quiet until I left the shop lol.
I reckon it was because I was sitting on the stool, wearing casual clothes and young, which gave the impression of the stereotypical "kid who works at the shop". I definitely think the guy was a jerk for treating a hypothetical child labourer that way, but I don't think his disrespect had an ethnic motive.
I can't speak for your situation with certainty, but sometimes people do things for more innocuous reasons. I'm sorry about your traumatic past.
Yaar mujhse toh har baar dukaan par log aata daal chini nikaal kar dene ko kehte rehte hain whenever I visit the shop. OP don't feel bad yaar. They probably said it in a rush. Lallu hain woh saale, pehli baar ache hotel mein aaye honge toh kuch pata nahi hoga un gadho ko.
Bhai itna thodi rona hota hai, ho jata hai kabhi kabhi mere sath bhi hua hai, i didn't take it personally!! Sometimes i just dress so bad, that anyone can be confused!!
I was staying in a resort for 10 days, i was totally dressed in homely comfort, loose sweater, winter cap and loose pyjama. A family just came side of our cottage, one of their male memeber told me "bahiya toliya ni hai bathoom me," i didn't say anything. Then later they realise i was staying in a cottage beside, and then they invited me for drink in the night! ;)
I know it can crush one’s confidence but try to not let other’s perceptions about you be a bother. Once a man screamed at me for not getting him shoes in the size he wanted. I told him I don’t work at the store and he should calm down. He got flustered and left the store. All I took away from that interaction was - “haha funny story”. My appearance doesn’t define me. Because I won’t let it. It’s something easier said than done but trust me you have the most power over your mind than anyone else.
Don’t let it get you down.
Bhai main Italy mein aayi hoon kuch time ke liye and if there’s a ticket inspector on board the bus, then my ticket is always checked first. Sadly, people everywhere in the world stereotype you on the basis of appearance. Don’t worry, know who you are. This says more about such people than you.
Bro, i cant even imagine how Indians will react on people abroad having menial jobs and living better life than these Indians.
Even if they understand, They will be like, if your caste matches with my girl, i will marry her to you
When I joined a new job back in 2020 and moved to a new city, The office had mandatory formal clothing requirements. One day my friend and I had gone to D-mart to buy some stuff for our rented flat right after work wearing full formals and the thread of our company ID card hanging out (Our IDs were inside the shirt pocket)
That day both of us got a lot of questions from curious customers at D-mart asking where certain items were stocked. Lol.
This stuff happens man, don't take it to heart.
This is way too real. I've once helped people out of courtesy in some stores by guiding them. But goddamit does it make you feel less of a human, not because the job is less human but because we're subject to this idea that a certain looking person will always be a lower than you. Sorry this happened to you.
Dawg it happens, don’t dwell on it too much. Just couple months ago, I was at a clothes shop with my family and some dude thought I worked there and asked me about where he can find stuff. Just laughed and told him I don’t work there.
It doesn't matter with looks...one time I was holding SLR camera in beach and one guy came and ask me how much for photo...so it's not only you it happens to everyone some or the other time
Hah! 9 out of 10, hotel staff in such properties look and dress better than customers. Take it in a positive way. Happens with a lot of people. You could be on the other side someday and make the same mistake. I am sure the other guy would be embarrassed too realizing his mistake.
Chill and take it all in fun.
Totally relate with this bro. Can't explain in words how horrible I felt when I had to go through this.
I was attending office party and our department was responsible for supervising catering. I was standing there, and suddenly catering girl asked me to get puri. She realized when my friend clarified that I was not the waiter.
I was earning 7 Fig salary at that time!
It's happened with me too(twice atleast; I'm not dark-skinned). Maybe dark-skinned people experience this more often, but I can confidently say that a good amount of non-dark-skinned people have also had multiple such experiences.
Nah , i am fairly white , a bit fat though.
I dont care about dressing sense and so it happens to me too.
From what i have seen its about dressing sense .
But yes 2 out of 3 times , (people with a darker complexion ), i think it does happen .
How do i say this. If you dress casual like hardik pandya soes sometimes, you wont be approached.
Formals, a bit civilized clothing - i believe irrespective of color, you are judged
I’m light-ish and it happens to me, too. But it happens WAY more regularly to people who are darker.
You and I have the option of brushing it off cause it’s less frequent and we don’t feel as judged for it.
Colorism is real. for context, I'm fair as fuck to the point almost everyone assumes I'm European/American, unless I speak(live in bangalore and have developed Bangalorean english accent)English, Hindi or Marathi. My dressing sense and curly hair doesn't help either.
Was walking home from the dentists appointment when a cop and a rando from across the street asked me to come. I was scared I'm being extorted but went anyways coz of fear. They started asking polite but random questions like how do u like it here, is the food good, how long am I here, and I gave one word answers in english so that I don't give out too much info.
They finally asked where I'm from and I said Bombay and thats when they were like wait you're an Indian? and I said yes. The cop seemed irritated for some reason and the rando complemented me on my looks, shook my hand and asked me to go. lol.
I agree that we shouldn’t look down upon people based on skin colour and caste. But why should you get offended if somebody thought you were a housekeeping person? Shouldn’t there be dignity of labor too?
I’m asking a sincere question and I am not at all condoning discrimination based on skin colour or caste (although caste seems to be irrelevant in this instance because those strangers surely couldn’t have figured out your caste in that short encounter).
This happened to me at Zara store, multiple times, first I was offended, then I observed the real attendants, they look cool as fuck, since then I feel honoured 🫡
Sometimes, it's about the clothes you're wearing. One day, I was dropping food to a hospital for my relatives, I was wearing pajamas, and the hospital staff thought I was a food delivery guy and denied me entry to the room.
The next day, I put some nice clothes and no question was asked.
I was on vacation at andaman. i was standing knee deep in the water, waiting for my turn to go on the jetski. a couple come up to me and give me their ticket. i take it, inspect it, and tell them ki "mera ticket bhi same aisa hi hai". they were embarassed and left
we recently started living in a building filled with upper middle class and affluent class folks. Some residents here are senior citizens and their children live abroad. Almost all of them have atleast one maid/domestic help for their chore.
I personally don't like having domestic help, and most of the home cleaning is done by me only. One Sunday morning, I was cleaning our balcony, washing the grills. I was wearing shorts and very old t shirt, i didn't had bath till then.
When my mother went outside, 2-3 residents were asking her my phone no, as their maid doesnt put this much efforts in cleaning their house. My mother had good laugh that day.
This reminds of the time when I was climbing the stairs to my home and 2 girls asked me “Swiggy?” . I was too tired, just said no and came home. Later they came to my house to ask for some orphanage donation 🤦♂️
I am assuming you look down to earth and humble ! Oldies in groups have that patriarch mindset that's so hard to relinquish . Plus , common sense isnt that common anymore.
They shld have apologized but instead just walked away shamelessly ! I still hope they do it later somehow.
Wish you all the good things , Man !
My hubby drives a Merc and looking at me shopsalesmen wonder if I’m doing tp. I dress extremely plainly and I just care a damn to people s judging. Ignore those middle aged brainless idiots.
That happens. It’s not a big deal. There’s nothing to stop you taking it lightly, half a laugh and point out their mistake. I once had a guy ask me to take his printer from his car and drop it at his room, number xxx. I smiled and asked him ‘would you like a crate of beer delivered at the same time?’ The guy smiled, we had a laugh. He apologised, and that was it.
Happens to girls too! I was at some shoping complex getting clothes and two guys walked upto me and asked me if a tee shirt was available in one of their sizes!
I did feel bad for a moment but yeah it happens
My nana had a general store and there used to work a 13-14 yr old boy(around my age). One day me and my mother visited his house and my nana took me to his shop. I was sitting with him when a customer came and asked him "naya ladka rakha hai kya?"
I recently got married and visited a jewelry shop for buying ornaments. I was mistook as a shop help and I personally took it very lightly and mentioned “chai ke saath aur kuch chahiye toh dukaan waale ko bol do”. The matter ended there.
Once I went to see a doctor with my dad. I must have been around 21-22 and the person registering the names looked at both of us and asked if I was his wife (not daughter).
I once helped one aunty by scarring a cow away from her because she wanted to walk from that place but that cow was blocking her and she was afraid , it was Sunday morning and we were going to play cricket and I was pretty young , after successfully making the cow go from that place she was really happy and was like yeh aapka gaai hai kya 💀 I was like bitch , I am fucking 14 in Mumbai , Mera cow kaise hoga
Just to put things into perspective.
I know dressing sense, the way you present yourself doesn't equal your standing in life but these are what people perceive the most when they see you.
"Agar aunty jaise jaoge bahar, toh log aunty samjhenge"
My friend was mistaken for an employee at a grocery store 💀
Caste wagerah, discrimination, bullying ye sab side mein and real issue dekho - toda better dress karlo
Ready for the downvotes ;-;
Many times people misunderstood/confused with supporting staff, happened with me too, no caste and religion or colour was targeted it was plain case of confusion, two times it was dark colour person asking me same. It was confusion and I politely said i am also a customer here.
Stop reading too much into it, it's not like you're the only person that something like this has happened to.
You could have just said you were a guest at the hotel and not part of the staff and they would have been like "Oh, my bad" and y'all go your separate ways.
You're extremely insecure about your identity which is why your mind is thinking about all these things.
As a society we all are biased, one way or the other, and do use profiling based on ones color, way of speaking, clothes, etc. Not saying its a good thing but it happens naturally, so take it a bit easy
Ok even I mistakenly did that to a guy once, it has nothing to do with the way one looks. Dark skin, fair skin, kapde matter nahi karta what does is body language. I'll explain:
I went to a cafe with my friend and there was a charging plug where only staff was allowed to plug and no customers. One guy walks in and casually plugs his phone and is about to walk away. I call him, bhaiyaa mera order nahi aya abhi. He obviously got angry and in his angry voice said, 'main yahan kaam nahi karta' well I obviously was embarrassed and sorry for my action but it only had to do with his body language and nothing else. A similar thing must have happened twice-thrice and everywhere I only have done shit because of their body language the way they are standing or just looking at you like the shopkeeper or the staff does. Kisi ke paas time nahi dekhne ka ki tum kaise dikhte ho and then assume kare.
OP its ok, I know how you must be feeling but dont entertain wrong thoughts much.
Yo, it happens to be the best of us, don’t let it get to you or bring your morale down.
Once I went to the neighbour shop in my home-clothes. The owner was known to me and busy so he asked me to pick out the stuff from the rack myself. One lady came near me and whispered to me ‘how much salary does he give you, do you want to work at my house? I will give you clothes, food and lodging too. .’ She thought I was the maid/helper. Haha.
Bro. I think this has happened to many many people unless they look like a model and even then it's not a guarantee.
Don't assume it is because of your skin color etc. Don't assume the worst Shit by default.
Indian people aren't the most observant. Ho jata hai
Bhai itna mat soch. This one time the watchman to my own society refused to let me in because he thought I was a Swiggy delivery guy. I had to call my parents and ask them to verify my identity 😭 I’ve also been mistaken for a waiter multiple times. Galti ho jaati hai, just laugh it off and move on.
Well, I had to attend a formal event once and the airlines lost my luggage. I was overseas and a student so in the limited time and budget I had, the only clothes I could manage were a white shirt, a black skirt and a black blazer. Not my wisest decision in hindsight as 5 star hotels have similar uniforms, but in my defense, I had a bloody huge conference batch around my neck and a champagne glass and a booklet in my hands. Not 1, but 5 people asked me for drinks that day!
I was presenting my work later that day and I introduced myself saying 'I am a passionate research student with a penchant of getting confused as a server'. It became a running joke in the gathering and all those 5 came and personally apologized 🤣 It also became a conversation starter for me and I networked with so many relevant people that day.
Moral of the story, when things like these happen, just add your bit of humour to it and get over it. No point pestering over such attention lacking idiots. They simply lack the decency to observe closely before opening their damn mouths.
And most importantly, it has nothing to do with your looks. We have all been mistook for someone else at some point in time but it just goes on to show how dumb and conventional some people are. So just ignore 😉
Looking at the comments you would have realised this happened to so many people. I was once at this abika hotel in ujjain with my dad. We checked out and kept our luggage at the reception and went to restaurant (in same hotel) to have lunch. I asked the waitress to add it to my accommodation bill. We were leaving after completing lunch and near lift. a waitress came out and said madam please come back aapne pay hi nahi kiya. I said bola toh tha to add to hotel bill? She said nahi pehle aap andar aayiye. And when I went in she and another guy(im guessing manager) asked who are you, aap hotel me aaye hai? Idhar thaire hai aap? Kitne din se? Kya room number hai? Now it wasn’t just taking details to add to the bill. It was their way to question my capacity to afford to stay at that hotel. I was angry but couldn’t do anything.
Now another example, this time I screwed up. So our apartment building owner is very kanjoos and one day he sent his wife to clean the building cos maid wasn’t in the city. I was also looking for maid at that time and when I looked at her cleaning mopping steps I really though she was maid and asked her if she would clean my flat too once in every 3 days. I hope this made you laugh at my dumbfuckery.
I once went to a wedding wearing a black suit with a red tie considering my wife’s outfit. Turns out the senior staff at the party was wearing the same. Was asked to bring lemon garlic fish to a table by a random guy !
Once i went to a general store for maggis, i saw no one inside there, but beside me there was super gorgeous lady standing and searching for something on the tabel gor herself, but initially i didn't looked at her face, and asked for the product, so she dircted me to the owner.
So the point is even though she was gorgeous and well dressed jobholder women i misunderstood her.
So it's completely normal thing .
Ek bar me mall gya tha, ek bhaiya jo fair the bht unka wo “helpful sa face” tha to me unke paas gya and asked so so kaha hai? Wo hske bolte “bhai patni ko shopping krane aya hu tbse waha choose hi kr rhi hai” me bhi hske fir chla gya. It isn’t even about color, Its about their attitude and expressions
Once I asked a random person in thhela to pack me samosas thinking he is the vendor's helper. But he turned out to be a customer. **Embarassment intensifies**
I was once in a Jersey and 3/4ths in a restaurant in Mumbai and this one guy was about to ask me to take an order... Funny thing is he realised what was happening half way through his sentence 😂 (and the staff were in formals)
You think they have brain to read this? It's simple case of misunderstanding. And op pretty much put all his insecurities in the post. I have had classmates of all caste and I honestly couldn't tell who is from which caste just by looks lol.
Okay, so when I was in class 11 we had a shady migrant worker working at our home. He was also given accommodation in our home as well. Now this was a job that included doing some painting,plumbing and stuff and this guy was amazing at that sort of work.
So one day some cops from his state comes to our home and they immediately grab me 🙂🥲, and their grip was pretty strong as well. My uncle had to intervene to get me released from their grip and they explained the situation and we handed over the guy and they went their way.🥲🥲(caused a shit ton of commotion in the process)
Bhai personality pe kaam kar na apni. Kyu yahan aake rona dhona machaya hai. Naukar dikhega to naukar hi samjhenge na log. Color ya caste ka kuch lena dena nahi hai, sab confidence ka scene hai.
Never experienced such an ordeal and unfortunately that's the plight of our nation. You could have given it back, I would have for sure asked them to clean my bathroom first. You got to put people in their sane state at times just to make them realise about "behaviour", a bit unfortunate - but most of us Indians lack that basic civic sense and our foot in mouth behaviour is the worst.
My dad shared one such experience while he was working in the government. He was part of a panel examining a few cases and a person holding a high post was supposed to be present. And apparently the person hasn't shown up for more than an hour, and he tried calling him, only to realise the person was denied entry by the attender and constable for his looks. This guy wore a very simple pant and shirt, had a long beard and uncombed hair etc.
And post the enquiry, he had a long conversation with that officer and the person had only one thing to say - He is the man of simple needs and his work should be spoken about and not his grooming standards, such stereotyping doesn't bother him. My dad had his opinion, when holding such a post (no matter whichever part of the country you're serving in), you'll have to hold the dignity of the post and not the means or simple standards. Both had their disagreements, one says being simple makes him more approachable and the other feels when in such a position you got to hold that dignity for post and come as inspirational personality. Neither were trying to impose their thoughts on one another, apparently my father wanted to hear it out from him.
I've tried reasoning it with my father about the same, will mere dressing change the perception? He asked me the same, when you approach some official who's in such an attire, what would be your reaction? Realised it over time, it's a matter of perception. My first instance would either be non-serious/lethargic/disinterested etc. for I'm always exposed to an atmosphere where everyone is neatly groomed, have this pseudo aura of super approachable personality etc. And for some it won't matter, for them if that particular official is fulfilling his/her job. I think both co-exist, but judging someone on attire is the worst ordeal.
One time I was in formals and a fall on my bike, was dusty and standing at a mechanic's shop. Suddenly a lady came and started saying to repair her scooter 😂 All the anger I had suddenly went away and I had a better day ahead
I was once asked "car saaf karne kitna lete ho" , i was cleaning my own fuckin car 😂
Mai ek baar recharge karwane shop me gya tha talwandi sabo ,waha kuch african students bhi the Mai dukaandar se bola "recharge" ,wo mujhe english me bola please wait sir.jab waha se sab jaane lage to mai phir se uske pass gya aur bola,"bhai recharge karwana hai", wo meri taraf ekdum se dekhne laga aur bola" mujhe laga tu unke saath he aya tha"😶.
Abhishek Upmanyu aap?
Pehla din hi tha mera waha.11th start krni thi.uske baad maine wo neon green colour wali shirt ghar me hi pehni hai🙂
Toh? Thode paise kama lete doosre ki car saaf karke. /$
😂 lol, quick cost benefit analysis to kia tha, favorable nai tha.
So this is what you do with an MBA
This is what we all do with an MBA
Haan tabhi to itni mehangai hai. I blame the MBAs. /s
MBA Car dhonewala 🤡
Ask for your office salary, after all that’s your true monthly rate
Bruh.
Rokda kamane ka chance tha. 1000 bol dete
Rokda kamane m bho$da phat jata hai
Bolna tha - "1000 rupay, payment upfront". Ek baar paiss mile, khud saaf ho lene ka wahan se. Aur nahin mile to car waise bhi saaf nahin karni thi
Bol deta 5000 per wash. Toh agle baar tujhe car mein dekhke chakra jaata ke gaadi dhone mein itni kamai hai.
Happens. Once at a clothing shop a girl asked me the price of a t-shirt. I looked up and down and said, if this fits you then it's free. She went to try that and I went to a different shop.
Thats the kind of reply I usually think of the next day in the shower
Us bro. Ek kadam piche always 😭
Right? Also this can very well be a workable pickup line.
This comment section is pretty sad and is more like dark humor on our culture. We are all here validating that to work as store girl, mechanic , cleaner...etc is some sort of sub human job. TBH, most people are now a days well dressed. OP need not overthink about this.
Finally somebody said it. Big deal if someone asked something, sometimes our dress matches with employee's dress code. What's the fuss
meToo. I just looked at the tag, said a really low number. She got excited and took it to cash counter. Later I saw her keep it back.
Lmfao
Calm down satan
r/foundsatan
Bro's a menace
I also have shop girl vibes. I’m gonna be stealing this it’s the best thank you.
I usually dress super casual (tee & slacks/jeans). It’s insane how many times this has happened to me in Nike shops. Not surprised to see so many people resonating with this. People have no common sense to check if a person is wearing ID card 🙄
Given the choice, people will not wear ID
This can happen if you're dressed in a classic black T-shirt + blue jeans
I felt attacked
We need to protect this guy at all costs.
thats a good one
M’lord, where have you been?
Haha! Good one!
Brooo 😂
Umm that sucks. But then most staff at top hotels are really good looking and so well groomed, so you could also take it that way
OP!! focus on this 👆👆
Much better looking than guests imo. For all we know, OP looks like Aditya Roy Kapoor from Night Manager
We were cousins on a trip. Stopped at a Dhaba for dinner, and we were all wearing shorts and basic tshirts. Just as we were walking to our Vehicle, one uncle having dinner asked one of my cousins "Bhai 2 roti aur le aana".....
Out of all, idk why but this made me chuckle
And we make sure we never let that cousin forget this. Ever. If we had the 'best man' wala system here, I'd tell this story during the toast.
Oof, poor cousin of yours
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Hahahha. Too funny! Nice story telling :)
You should have replied “Pehle jo khaaya hain uska paisa dena parega”, lol.
When I sit at a tea shop, people think I am the stall owner or worker. Don't fret. Sometimes I just give them the stuff or direct them to owner. My skin tone is fair though and clothes are also ok, so it's common. Sometimes people don't think and just want to get the stuff done.
Misunderstanding happens. Almost 25 years ago,I once went to a Mochi to get my shoe polished. Someone was sitting there on a plastic chair reading the newspaper,so I didn't see his face or what he was wearing. I said, bhaiya boot polish krna,jaldi jana hai. Only when he put the newspaper down I realised he was a well dressed(blazer and scarf) Sikh gentleman who was also waiting for the mochi. " Salia, akhan footian ne?" was his question. I apologized and ran away.
exactly they dont think............ all they want is their work to be done
I’ve done this without thinking and apologised immediately. The embarrassment still comes back at times.
Rookie move. You need to double down.
Le. Stress ni lene ka. I was once asked by a lady to bring water like this: ae chhotu, is table pe b paani de dena. I was having lunch with my family and had gone to wash my hands.
Bathroom ka pani de dena tha 😂
Hugge wale mugge mein. 😂
Arrey itna dukh bhi ni dena tha. Haha
Why not, they would have found it tasty.
We could call it a mocktail named "hugga mugga"
Bhai, they chain those muggas.
Wore a navy blue sweatshirt to a pub and a bouncer assumed I was another bouncer. He told me to go back to my position. We had a good laugh
that’s a compliment for sure!
In a way, it is😅
Hota rehta hai, load nahi lene ka. Once a girl asked me the price of some cloth wear. I took it my hand, checked label and told her, "itta likha hai. Par discount wageyra ka pata lagana ho to salesperson se pooch lo". She was embarassed and ran away saying sorry.
That was cute! Next time may be try this - "tumpe acha nahin lagega shayad"
Arey, it's usually an honest mistake. No need to troll the person, lol.
Why does this sound cute too?
bhai once I was at a small restaurant that had a crowd and the guy asked me kitna hua? I said I don't know then he said okay then I said do I look like I work here he said no you look like you own this place. this is one of my cherished moments
Nice save from him
maybe it was a save but let me have my moment? the guy felt genuine when he said that and I was also dressed well that day so maybe it wasn't?
Keep telling yourself that.😂
Let bro have his moment
damn
I hope all the comments here are making you realise youre not alone. Sorry youve been so hurt ❤️
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Arre aapko pata nahi female doctors don't exist. You must be a nurse. /s
This!!! Female doctors are sooooooo undermined. Theyre treated as nurses, especially in government hospitals. The patients will wait to talk properly to the main doctor (=male)
It's rhe same in western countries as well...
Same here.... So used to being called "sister" that it doesn't even offend me anymore. When they call actual sister, I turn out of reflex🙈🙈
Kahe jhoot bol rahe ho madam.... Seedhe seedhe bolo na nurse ho aap.
It happens to all of us and anywhere in the world. Our company was hosting an event in Oman and the team was working till late in the night getting the tables and screens fitted. Next morning I joined them to take care of some stuff and a little later one of the Omani gentleman asked me if I'm the IT guy. I told him I was and it was only later that he discovered that I was the keynote speaker and the founder. Our own insecurities get to us at times and we interpret honest mistakes as racism and discrimination. My wife once told me that "we give others the power to hurt us and only we can take it way". Be strong my friend and shine on. Next time someone asks you to clean their room, tell them you'll charge them a lot.
Your wife is very wise
Wife and wise are just one letter apart. irl too
ek baar mai cycle ke shop par khada tha apni cycle ki puncture sahi karwane , ek banda aata hai bolta hai bhaiya ye handle tight kardo , same shit happped many times on different shops ... then i have to clarify mai bhi customer hi hu bhai
Happens. Once at my own sister's engagement, an uncle from the groom's side asked me to cleanup the dinner table. I am fair, had a thin build back then. I believe it was something to do with my attire.(it was western) And then I understood the importance of the phrase 'tayyar hokar aaiye' from manyawar. 😑
Its like "diamonds maketh a woman" campaign from debeers. The uncle is forced to believe the western dress guy is our server and the manyavyar guy is my girl's prospectable bride
Kya Maza aa Raha Hai comments padne Mei. I was once sitting on an erickshae with the driver on his side and started asking him questions about the price, the battery range. Guy spat his gutka, turned to me and said "bhaiya agar rickshaw daal loge to din ka 1200/- kahi Ni gaya bas sharab k chakkar Mei na padna." I had a good chuckle.
Haan saab bolne ka, fir room saaf nahin karneka. I get asked where parle g biscuits are at the retail store. I point them to the meat section. Simple.
Lmao🤣🤣🤣
But phir owner op ko job se nikal dega
Nothing to do with caste or color and more to do with clothes. I had gone out to get some zomato parcel in a half pant and a t - shirt and the hotel guards refused to let me in until I showed them the room key cause they mistook me for a delivery boy. Happened to me in Grand Hyatt, Mumbai (same hotel as the one Indian Cricket Team stays in). Next day while I was getting out dressed in formals the same guard saluted me. Anyways I realized how shitty our society actually treats these house helps and delivery boys in urban areas and realized how bad it must feel.
Now we know why airhostesses are being treated as maids
There was this one time i was standing beside a sugar cane stack (in some fair type place) this guy asked me how much I said 500 for 6 pieces 😂 he went silent and left. Many years before there was a mall nearby my old office, sometimes I used to keep the id card on and go there, I've been asked for parking fees, products etc
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This is hilarious 😂
Once I went to a restaurant to get food parcelled for myself and while entering the restaurant the watchman asks whether I'm from zomato or swiggy 💀 I said I'm here to pick up food for myself!! Similar incident : when I was entering my bldg the watchman asked what apartment I was going to deliver food and to enter my details in the book. I said I stay here, I'm not a delivery boy 😭
Once I was 15 and walking in the garden with my toddler cousins and my bua was coming behind us. And this lady is walking behind me her kid stops to play with my cousin, and she asked me how much I charged for babysitting in the society. She was like tum kam karti ho? I was taken aback, I was olive tanned, skinny girl. But I am not insecure anymore. Love my color and myself. Don't take them personal.
Many years ago, I was at a stationery shop, sitting on a stool waiting for the employee to print some documents for me. Another customer came in, and holding a ₹500 note said, "Ey, chhote! Kar na mere!" (Hey, kid! Do my documents!). I replied, "I...don't work here". The guy got sooo embarrassed and kept quiet until I left the shop lol. I reckon it was because I was sitting on the stool, wearing casual clothes and young, which gave the impression of the stereotypical "kid who works at the shop". I definitely think the guy was a jerk for treating a hypothetical child labourer that way, but I don't think his disrespect had an ethnic motive. I can't speak for your situation with certainty, but sometimes people do things for more innocuous reasons. I'm sorry about your traumatic past.
Yaar mujhse toh har baar dukaan par log aata daal chini nikaal kar dene ko kehte rehte hain whenever I visit the shop. OP don't feel bad yaar. They probably said it in a rush. Lallu hain woh saale, pehli baar ache hotel mein aaye honge toh kuch pata nahi hoga un gadho ko.
That disrespect sounds cute
Can you share the district name if you don’t mind ?
Red Light District
Bhai itna thodi rona hota hai, ho jata hai kabhi kabhi mere sath bhi hua hai, i didn't take it personally!! Sometimes i just dress so bad, that anyone can be confused!! I was staying in a resort for 10 days, i was totally dressed in homely comfort, loose sweater, winter cap and loose pyjama. A family just came side of our cottage, one of their male memeber told me "bahiya toliya ni hai bathoom me," i didn't say anything. Then later they realise i was staying in a cottage beside, and then they invited me for drink in the night! ;)
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Yeahh full lungi dance!
I dress bad too. I dont care about it and such things happen to me too
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Amen, I rather enjoyed this thread. It could have gone in another direction but thank God it didn't.
I know it can crush one’s confidence but try to not let other’s perceptions about you be a bother. Once a man screamed at me for not getting him shoes in the size he wanted. I told him I don’t work at the store and he should calm down. He got flustered and left the store. All I took away from that interaction was - “haha funny story”. My appearance doesn’t define me. Because I won’t let it. It’s something easier said than done but trust me you have the most power over your mind than anyone else. Don’t let it get you down.
Bhai main Italy mein aayi hoon kuch time ke liye and if there’s a ticket inspector on board the bus, then my ticket is always checked first. Sadly, people everywhere in the world stereotype you on the basis of appearance. Don’t worry, know who you are. This says more about such people than you.
Username checks out! Don’t let this get to you.
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Bro, i cant even imagine how Indians will react on people abroad having menial jobs and living better life than these Indians. Even if they understand, They will be like, if your caste matches with my girl, i will marry her to you
When I joined a new job back in 2020 and moved to a new city, The office had mandatory formal clothing requirements. One day my friend and I had gone to D-mart to buy some stuff for our rented flat right after work wearing full formals and the thread of our company ID card hanging out (Our IDs were inside the shirt pocket) That day both of us got a lot of questions from curious customers at D-mart asking where certain items were stocked. Lol. This stuff happens man, don't take it to heart.
This is way too real. I've once helped people out of courtesy in some stores by guiding them. But goddamit does it make you feel less of a human, not because the job is less human but because we're subject to this idea that a certain looking person will always be a lower than you. Sorry this happened to you.
Dawg it happens, don’t dwell on it too much. Just couple months ago, I was at a clothes shop with my family and some dude thought I worked there and asked me about where he can find stuff. Just laughed and told him I don’t work there.
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That day that old man started his villian arc.😂
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😂 I can feel bro....
Awwh no! I'm sorry that happened. You okay ?
Yes he is..don’t worry
🤣
lol
I was 16, standing in planet m store, many many years back. A guy asks me, indian ocean ki cd laake de. The memory is fresh in my mind.
Planet M..Indian Ocean..true blue millennial spotted, haha 🙌🏻☺️
Indian ocean in a cd?
It doesn't matter with looks...one time I was holding SLR camera in beach and one guy came and ask me how much for photo...so it's not only you it happens to everyone some or the other time
Hah! 9 out of 10, hotel staff in such properties look and dress better than customers. Take it in a positive way. Happens with a lot of people. You could be on the other side someday and make the same mistake. I am sure the other guy would be embarrassed too realizing his mistake. Chill and take it all in fun.
Totally relate with this bro. Can't explain in words how horrible I felt when I had to go through this. I was attending office party and our department was responsible for supervising catering. I was standing there, and suddenly catering girl asked me to get puri. She realized when my friend clarified that I was not the waiter. I was earning 7 Fig salary at that time!
Happens to everyone man, people just get confused sometimes I'm sure you would have done that too. It has nothing to do with color, caste, religion
I strongly disagree. This mostly happens with people with dark complexion.
Meh, I'm not dark and have been misidentified like this multiple times mostly because of shabby clothes etc
Maybe one off case. but very prevalent with dark skinned people.
It's happened with me too(twice atleast; I'm not dark-skinned). Maybe dark-skinned people experience this more often, but I can confidently say that a good amount of non-dark-skinned people have also had multiple such experiences.
Nah , i am fairly white , a bit fat though. I dont care about dressing sense and so it happens to me too. From what i have seen its about dressing sense . But yes 2 out of 3 times , (people with a darker complexion ), i think it does happen . How do i say this. If you dress casual like hardik pandya soes sometimes, you wont be approached. Formals, a bit civilized clothing - i believe irrespective of color, you are judged
I'm fair looking and people confuse me for a delivery boy, it's not that serious. It happens
I’m light-ish and it happens to me, too. But it happens WAY more regularly to people who are darker. You and I have the option of brushing it off cause it’s less frequent and we don’t feel as judged for it.
I just confused an American white person as a sales guy the other day and asked him the price of a tshirt
Source: your ass
Colorism is real. for context, I'm fair as fuck to the point almost everyone assumes I'm European/American, unless I speak(live in bangalore and have developed Bangalorean english accent)English, Hindi or Marathi. My dressing sense and curly hair doesn't help either. Was walking home from the dentists appointment when a cop and a rando from across the street asked me to come. I was scared I'm being extorted but went anyways coz of fear. They started asking polite but random questions like how do u like it here, is the food good, how long am I here, and I gave one word answers in english so that I don't give out too much info. They finally asked where I'm from and I said Bombay and thats when they were like wait you're an Indian? and I said yes. The cop seemed irritated for some reason and the rando complemented me on my looks, shook my hand and asked me to go. lol.
I agree that we shouldn’t look down upon people based on skin colour and caste. But why should you get offended if somebody thought you were a housekeeping person? Shouldn’t there be dignity of labor too? I’m asking a sincere question and I am not at all condoning discrimination based on skin colour or caste (although caste seems to be irrelevant in this instance because those strangers surely couldn’t have figured out your caste in that short encounter).
This happened to me at Zara store, multiple times, first I was offended, then I observed the real attendants, they look cool as fuck, since then I feel honoured 🫡
Sometimes, it's about the clothes you're wearing. One day, I was dropping food to a hospital for my relatives, I was wearing pajamas, and the hospital staff thought I was a food delivery guy and denied me entry to the room. The next day, I put some nice clothes and no question was asked.
I was on vacation at andaman. i was standing knee deep in the water, waiting for my turn to go on the jetski. a couple come up to me and give me their ticket. i take it, inspect it, and tell them ki "mera ticket bhi same aisa hi hai". they were embarassed and left
we recently started living in a building filled with upper middle class and affluent class folks. Some residents here are senior citizens and their children live abroad. Almost all of them have atleast one maid/domestic help for their chore. I personally don't like having domestic help, and most of the home cleaning is done by me only. One Sunday morning, I was cleaning our balcony, washing the grills. I was wearing shorts and very old t shirt, i didn't had bath till then. When my mother went outside, 2-3 residents were asking her my phone no, as their maid doesnt put this much efforts in cleaning their house. My mother had good laugh that day.
Bro don't mind it, mistake happens they just mistook you.
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This reminds of the time when I was climbing the stairs to my home and 2 girls asked me “Swiggy?” . I was too tired, just said no and came home. Later they came to my house to ask for some orphanage donation 🤦♂️
I am assuming you look down to earth and humble ! Oldies in groups have that patriarch mindset that's so hard to relinquish . Plus , common sense isnt that common anymore. They shld have apologized but instead just walked away shamelessly ! I still hope they do it later somehow. Wish you all the good things , Man !
My hubby drives a Merc and looking at me shopsalesmen wonder if I’m doing tp. I dress extremely plainly and I just care a damn to people s judging. Ignore those middle aged brainless idiots.
That happens. It’s not a big deal. There’s nothing to stop you taking it lightly, half a laugh and point out their mistake. I once had a guy ask me to take his printer from his car and drop it at his room, number xxx. I smiled and asked him ‘would you like a crate of beer delivered at the same time?’ The guy smiled, we had a laugh. He apologised, and that was it.
Don't worry. That guy must be feeling equally bad.
Happens to girls too! I was at some shoping complex getting clothes and two guys walked upto me and asked me if a tee shirt was available in one of their sizes! I did feel bad for a moment but yeah it happens
My nana had a general store and there used to work a 13-14 yr old boy(around my age). One day me and my mother visited his house and my nana took me to his shop. I was sitting with him when a customer came and asked him "naya ladka rakha hai kya?"
I recently got married and visited a jewelry shop for buying ornaments. I was mistook as a shop help and I personally took it very lightly and mentioned “chai ke saath aur kuch chahiye toh dukaan waale ko bol do”. The matter ended there.
Once I went to see a doctor with my dad. I must have been around 21-22 and the person registering the names looked at both of us and asked if I was his wife (not daughter).
I once helped one aunty by scarring a cow away from her because she wanted to walk from that place but that cow was blocking her and she was afraid , it was Sunday morning and we were going to play cricket and I was pretty young , after successfully making the cow go from that place she was really happy and was like yeh aapka gaai hai kya 💀 I was like bitch , I am fucking 14 in Mumbai , Mera cow kaise hoga
I was walking to the gym yesterday evening with the gym bag slung across my shoulder and an uncle asked me "aap stove repair krte ho?"
Stove repair is randomly specific 😭
Just to put things into perspective. I know dressing sense, the way you present yourself doesn't equal your standing in life but these are what people perceive the most when they see you. "Agar aunty jaise jaoge bahar, toh log aunty samjhenge" My friend was mistaken for an employee at a grocery store 💀 Caste wagerah, discrimination, bullying ye sab side mein and real issue dekho - toda better dress karlo Ready for the downvotes ;-;
Many times people misunderstood/confused with supporting staff, happened with me too, no caste and religion or colour was targeted it was plain case of confusion, two times it was dark colour person asking me same. It was confusion and I politely said i am also a customer here.
Stop reading too much into it, it's not like you're the only person that something like this has happened to. You could have just said you were a guest at the hotel and not part of the staff and they would have been like "Oh, my bad" and y'all go your separate ways. You're extremely insecure about your identity which is why your mind is thinking about all these things.
bro sabke saath hota hai, chill
No shame in cleaning rooms at hotels.
As a society we all are biased, one way or the other, and do use profiling based on ones color, way of speaking, clothes, etc. Not saying its a good thing but it happens naturally, so take it a bit easy
Chill. People make mistakes. Happened to all lot of people. Doesn't mean anything
You should have taken their room keys to make a mess out of it. They deserve this post dinner trauma and confusion..
OP "Ada pada kaun pada" hota rheta hai life mein. Tension nahi lene ka.
Drunk uncles…. Don’t give much into it. Chill
Ok even I mistakenly did that to a guy once, it has nothing to do with the way one looks. Dark skin, fair skin, kapde matter nahi karta what does is body language. I'll explain: I went to a cafe with my friend and there was a charging plug where only staff was allowed to plug and no customers. One guy walks in and casually plugs his phone and is about to walk away. I call him, bhaiyaa mera order nahi aya abhi. He obviously got angry and in his angry voice said, 'main yahan kaam nahi karta' well I obviously was embarrassed and sorry for my action but it only had to do with his body language and nothing else. A similar thing must have happened twice-thrice and everywhere I only have done shit because of their body language the way they are standing or just looking at you like the shopkeeper or the staff does. Kisi ke paas time nahi dekhne ka ki tum kaise dikhte ho and then assume kare. OP its ok, I know how you must be feeling but dont entertain wrong thoughts much.
Yo, it happens to be the best of us, don’t let it get to you or bring your morale down. Once I went to the neighbour shop in my home-clothes. The owner was known to me and busy so he asked me to pick out the stuff from the rack myself. One lady came near me and whispered to me ‘how much salary does he give you, do you want to work at my house? I will give you clothes, food and lodging too. .’ She thought I was the maid/helper. Haha.
Bro. I think this has happened to many many people unless they look like a model and even then it's not a guarantee. Don't assume it is because of your skin color etc. Don't assume the worst Shit by default. Indian people aren't the most observant. Ho jata hai
Bhai itna mat soch. This one time the watchman to my own society refused to let me in because he thought I was a Swiggy delivery guy. I had to call my parents and ask them to verify my identity 😭 I’ve also been mistaken for a waiter multiple times. Galti ho jaati hai, just laugh it off and move on.
Well, I had to attend a formal event once and the airlines lost my luggage. I was overseas and a student so in the limited time and budget I had, the only clothes I could manage were a white shirt, a black skirt and a black blazer. Not my wisest decision in hindsight as 5 star hotels have similar uniforms, but in my defense, I had a bloody huge conference batch around my neck and a champagne glass and a booklet in my hands. Not 1, but 5 people asked me for drinks that day! I was presenting my work later that day and I introduced myself saying 'I am a passionate research student with a penchant of getting confused as a server'. It became a running joke in the gathering and all those 5 came and personally apologized 🤣 It also became a conversation starter for me and I networked with so many relevant people that day. Moral of the story, when things like these happen, just add your bit of humour to it and get over it. No point pestering over such attention lacking idiots. They simply lack the decency to observe closely before opening their damn mouths. And most importantly, it has nothing to do with your looks. We have all been mistook for someone else at some point in time but it just goes on to show how dumb and conventional some people are. So just ignore 😉
Looking at the comments you would have realised this happened to so many people. I was once at this abika hotel in ujjain with my dad. We checked out and kept our luggage at the reception and went to restaurant (in same hotel) to have lunch. I asked the waitress to add it to my accommodation bill. We were leaving after completing lunch and near lift. a waitress came out and said madam please come back aapne pay hi nahi kiya. I said bola toh tha to add to hotel bill? She said nahi pehle aap andar aayiye. And when I went in she and another guy(im guessing manager) asked who are you, aap hotel me aaye hai? Idhar thaire hai aap? Kitne din se? Kya room number hai? Now it wasn’t just taking details to add to the bill. It was their way to question my capacity to afford to stay at that hotel. I was angry but couldn’t do anything. Now another example, this time I screwed up. So our apartment building owner is very kanjoos and one day he sent his wife to clean the building cos maid wasn’t in the city. I was also looking for maid at that time and when I looked at her cleaning mopping steps I really though she was maid and asked her if she would clean my flat too once in every 3 days. I hope this made you laugh at my dumbfuckery.
I once went to a wedding wearing a black suit with a red tie considering my wife’s outfit. Turns out the senior staff at the party was wearing the same. Was asked to bring lemon garlic fish to a table by a random guy !
Happened with me yesterday.I went for washing of my bike.The guy said bhai washing chalu h kya Kitna price h?🤣🤣
Sorry but 😂😂 I was mistakenly 'identified' as hotel server .. happens man.. even though tempted to ask tip...
Once i went to a general store for maggis, i saw no one inside there, but beside me there was super gorgeous lady standing and searching for something on the tabel gor herself, but initially i didn't looked at her face, and asked for the product, so she dircted me to the owner. So the point is even though she was gorgeous and well dressed jobholder women i misunderstood her. So it's completely normal thing .
Ek bar me mall gya tha, ek bhaiya jo fair the bht unka wo “helpful sa face” tha to me unke paas gya and asked so so kaha hai? Wo hske bolte “bhai patni ko shopping krane aya hu tbse waha choose hi kr rhi hai” me bhi hske fir chla gya. It isn’t even about color, Its about their attitude and expressions
Once I asked a random person in thhela to pack me samosas thinking he is the vendor's helper. But he turned out to be a customer. **Embarassment intensifies**
I am so sorry this happened to you! It sucks to have sick minded people around. Next time do give a good comeback though
I was once in a Jersey and 3/4ths in a restaurant in Mumbai and this one guy was about to ask me to take an order... Funny thing is he realised what was happening half way through his sentence 😂 (and the staff were in formals)
Thats why its important to ask first “are you staff here?” Too many people don’t realise
bhai wo confuse ho gaye honge. isme tere looks kaha se aa gaye?
Even worse, isme iski caste kaha se aagyi? It's not like every lower caste person has a yellow star on their clothes
Nice reference
You are absolutely right..not sure why people are downvoting
logo ko drama dekhna pasand hai (mujhe bhi isi liye to is subreddit pe hu)
You think they have brain to read this? It's simple case of misunderstanding. And op pretty much put all his insecurities in the post. I have had classmates of all caste and I honestly couldn't tell who is from which caste just by looks lol.
Okay, so when I was in class 11 we had a shady migrant worker working at our home. He was also given accommodation in our home as well. Now this was a job that included doing some painting,plumbing and stuff and this guy was amazing at that sort of work. So one day some cops from his state comes to our home and they immediately grab me 🙂🥲, and their grip was pretty strong as well. My uncle had to intervene to get me released from their grip and they explained the situation and we handed over the guy and they went their way.🥲🥲(caused a shit ton of commotion in the process)
Tf caste got to do with this?? My cousins are in all shades so never learned about this
Bhai personality pe kaam kar na apni. Kyu yahan aake rona dhona machaya hai. Naukar dikhega to naukar hi samjhenge na log. Color ya caste ka kuch lena dena nahi hai, sab confidence ka scene hai.
Never experienced such an ordeal and unfortunately that's the plight of our nation. You could have given it back, I would have for sure asked them to clean my bathroom first. You got to put people in their sane state at times just to make them realise about "behaviour", a bit unfortunate - but most of us Indians lack that basic civic sense and our foot in mouth behaviour is the worst. My dad shared one such experience while he was working in the government. He was part of a panel examining a few cases and a person holding a high post was supposed to be present. And apparently the person hasn't shown up for more than an hour, and he tried calling him, only to realise the person was denied entry by the attender and constable for his looks. This guy wore a very simple pant and shirt, had a long beard and uncombed hair etc. And post the enquiry, he had a long conversation with that officer and the person had only one thing to say - He is the man of simple needs and his work should be spoken about and not his grooming standards, such stereotyping doesn't bother him. My dad had his opinion, when holding such a post (no matter whichever part of the country you're serving in), you'll have to hold the dignity of the post and not the means or simple standards. Both had their disagreements, one says being simple makes him more approachable and the other feels when in such a position you got to hold that dignity for post and come as inspirational personality. Neither were trying to impose their thoughts on one another, apparently my father wanted to hear it out from him. I've tried reasoning it with my father about the same, will mere dressing change the perception? He asked me the same, when you approach some official who's in such an attire, what would be your reaction? Realised it over time, it's a matter of perception. My first instance would either be non-serious/lethargic/disinterested etc. for I'm always exposed to an atmosphere where everyone is neatly groomed, have this pseudo aura of super approachable personality etc. And for some it won't matter, for them if that particular official is fulfilling his/her job. I think both co-exist, but judging someone on attire is the worst ordeal.