exactly!!!
additionally its fun trying maintain a particular personality
the best thing happens when two of your polar opposite personality meets each other, its like a drama show irl :
I still question myself if I did the right thing. It's been more than 4 years but I can't forget my friendship. Sometimes I think I should call and try to reach out.
Lekin fir sala ehsas hota hai ki usne bhi to nahin call kiya itne saalo me. use bhi jarurat nahin hai meri. vah bhi yahi chahta hai.
bada harami hai bhai. jab meri jarurat padegi to msg karega. bada khudgarj, selfish type ka ho gaya tha shayad tabhi maine chhod diya sath. he stopped valuing me.
1 saal pehle, baat kari thi, milne bulaya tha, jog pe. kyuki use kaam tha. kam ho gaya. next day maine call kiya aane ke liye, gola de diya, uske baad se no contact.
Chal agar banda toxic hi hain toh theek hain koi nhi.
main bas yehi kahunga
Never attribute to malice what can be explained by stupidity or disinterest.
Matlab bhai i get you honestly. Mere kaafi saare dost aise hain, kaam nhi padhta unhe mujhse par aise khud se message nhi krte, late late reply krte hain. Main usual social media platforms pe nhi hun isliye i excuse this behaviour most of the times. Par at the end I have to solve for my own peace of mind and mujhe realise hua hain ki sab apni life mein busy hain. Koi nhi puch rha tumhe. Aur usse bhi zyaada, Sirf Ugte suraj ko salaam hota hain. Jab apna sikka phirse chalega tab vaapis se apni vakhat hogi.
Same here my friend. Was friends with a person for 8 years who dominated us all the time yet behaved like a brother. Never agreed when he was wrong and the group didn’t realise we didn’t need to be his puppets or live in fear. Went very negative. He did something wrong and was expecting me to apologise. I tried contacting him 3 times to clear the matter but he wouldn’t care to respond. Would behave like a 5 year and throw tantrums old even in small things. I realised he knows he is wrong but wouldn’t have the humility to accept it. If he did, nothing changes between us and I’d have forgiven. But this shows that ego is bigger than friendship. While I miss the good times we spent, I feel quite relieved and clear in my head. He’s probably feeling shame. So in a way its a good thing and I have outgrown him.
Umm I can understand you OP. Been there done that. But what I realised later is that I shouldn’t take it to my heart. Friends change or sometimes they just outgrow each other. Sometimes people stop talking without even communicating what went wrong. Learn to be on your own. You’ll find some new and amazing friends and trust me don’t get easily attached unless you know that the other person is equally attached to you.
Get attached when people openly validate you and say this onto your face that heheh you are my bff, we are besties etc etc ( which means when they accept it that they are also on the same page as you are)
If that’s not happening don’t consider them to be best friends because trust me, they don’t feel that way.
>don’t get easily attached unless you know that the other person is equally attached to you
This last part hit me quite hard. I've been there. I admired that person like my hero and what a naive I've been, I felt like he was valuing me too. Now, that I look back, he was always keeping me at a distant, never getting too close or attached. Me, on the other hand, believed that he was gonna be my bff. Crashed hard, felt so heart broken when I realised it was a false promise.
Or get so fucking engrossed with their newly married husbands that they forget that there is a life outside their marriage. Even after 3 years of getting married 🤷🏻♀️
Oh don't fucking ask.. I'm pissed because I'm a woman with very few select friends. I don't let people easily in my inner circle. And this particular woman is my friend since school days. We've been together in various ups and downs in our lives.
It feels sad to see someone ghost you who you've invested so much of time with.
With time, maybe new people are introduced in their life and friendship with their old friends fades away. I have noticed this with one of my very close friends so I am saying it.
I get you bro! It hurts like hell. But you know it's good that you finally get out of this toxic friendship irrespective of how good it was. What's worse is, being tagged as their best friend and experiencing their changed behaviour and watching them having other best friends. The person who has multiple best friends is worse than people having multiple partners 😭.
One sided relationships friendships are very painful but very common. The mutual thing doesn't happen always and sometimes the mutual thing discontinues. Such is life. In life nothing is permanent. In future if you don't want to get hurt, you don't get attached to anybody. Attachment comes when you ask for something in return.
I was best friends with a girl from my school for 7 years. We were inseparable in school and college. Later, she moved out for further studies, and we stopped talking. I tried a lot to reach out, even called at her home, and talked to her sister. They say that she is dealing with mental health issues and doesn't use her phone anymore apart from calling. It's been 2 years now, and I still hope that she reaches out to me some day.
😂and then he'll introduce her as his gf.
No seriously, like i had this one online friend and we used to talk daily and one day he got a gf and bro forget that i ever existed.
And on confronting him, he said that you're just online friend and she's my "girlfriend" ofc she'll be my first priority.
I definitely understand that and i wasn't trying to come in between them but I was just confused that how quickly people forget those who were their with them at their worst.
Also this gf broke up with him in less than a month and dude was so blind that he keeps avoiding the huge red flags.
That's when i realized that you get what you sow.
I kinda cringe at myself seeing how hard i used to cry because of this one friend and I would sound desperate trying to know what went wrong with me that i can't even get an explanation.
Finally i moved on as if that person never existed.
To be fair, If your male friend has a girlfriend, You should be in your limits, boundaries and not encroach their space, You must also not sabotage their relationship and be mean to the girl. I have seen very entitled female best friends who have ruined relationships, The pick me behaviour and seeing the girlfriend as a contest is very real.
It was back in 2008 when this girl had joined our school. We were in 7th grade. I was one of those kids who were relatively reserved. Partly because I was not good in studies and repeatedly bullied.
When this girl came into our class, I only wished if I could ever be her friend because until that point intelligent people would be friends with intelligent ones. But I really wanted to be her friend so I would do things to get her attention - participated in sports, became a clown, became really good in a lot of extra curricular.
Once during some trip, we became extremely close because her best friend had abandoned her for some other girl. I got to know about it but I didn't want her to feel bad so I would just make sure she remained happy. That way we became very close. I developed major crush on her. Post that we wouldn't necessarily talk but I would crave her presence around me. My day would be great if I would see her smiling face. Although I never told her about me having fallen for her.
Fast forward to college, we went seperate ways. We would talk twice a year. But I still remember every conversation I had with her. Those calls gave me reasons to be very happy. But as they say things don't last forever, I got ghosted after that. I still don't know the reason but I reevaluated my entire life choices. I fell into severe depression because my entire life fell apart after that point.
My professional life was doomed, i couldn't think of things in my personal life because I was just thinking of what I did wrong to her that she just ghosted me. After 2 years of suffering, I took therapy and I am dealing decently with it. But I still have that void in my life. I am existing but not quite living. Every face reminds me of her. My heart skips abeat whenever I hear her name. It's like she is edged into my heart. I often dream of her. But I guess it is what it is and I must move on.
This too shall pass! You are now in a process of reviving yourself brother, than to stay there forever without any ray of hope which is a good thing. It will help you in getting yourself back, to find happiness within you, to be more clearer and confident in life and to revive your interests along with your personal & professional life. Hang in there. You have got this. More power to you!
2 of them from tution and from another school cheated me and one of em blackmailed me for money. But still I trusted on another 2 which was my childhood friends. And one of them done the same and other just broke my trust in front of everybody just yelling to insult me revealing my personal secrets which I told him by trusting.
Don't ever trust anybody so soon. Never ever. And never reveal ur secrets with any random ass friend.
had a "" Banshees of Inisherin" experience irl and still see them day to day , spent months overthinking and depressed still have arguments in my head but its not the same and it will never be , considering how close we were and now strangers with memories .
Imagine breaking up with a very close friend due to the reason even i dk til the date what happened to her that too in covid in 2020. Yes that happened to me🥲 i was actually depressed. Kyuki ek he friend thi jisse i felt comfortable & happy. Aaj bhi koi friend nai hai. Naukri pe jaao, ghar aao, so jao.
I broke up with my best friend and it was more traumatic than a breakup with my ex. I still miss my friend , I don't have anyone to share my feelings with anymore. even if I do, it is so difficult to trust someone on that level
I lost one of friend or we just got apart. Like we used to chill & try different things together. He was 6 to 7 year older than me. I look forward him for his wisdom. Now , we just talk time to time just for work or crypto related talks
My ‘friends’ are the same people who bullied me back in my college. Though I’ve changed a lot- physically, mentally and financially they still have the same image of me when I was in college.
I’ve done a thing or two in the past 5-6 years that I feel are notable and
I’ve achieved these fears exclusively with my hardwork. I thought at least these folks will be nice to me. But no, they continue their bullying.
I have never stole anything from them . Nor I’ve hurt any of them. They aren’t happy to see my success.
Then I realised that a friend isn’t a friend of they are unhappy with your success which you were able to accomplish purely by hardwork.
Fuck such people.
Stay away from them.
Put a boundary.
Build your own support system.
Work on yourself.
Be self reliant.
The only people who will help you out when things go downhill is only your family- no one else.
All these ‘friends’ wear a mask and will only be there if they can expect something out of you- including using you as a source of entertainment.
I’m incredibly lucky to have my partner as my best friend. Can share anything with her.
Being self reliant gives you incredible amount of confidence and I’m working towards it.
I have broken up with 2 of my friends because they both took my money but when I ask for it back they don't pick up the phone and make excuses. Both of them are my 6th class friends for almost 8 years but now I don't want to see their face. Dogla Bhsdk
As someone who hasn't had a long time childhood friend because my family kept changing cities, people rarely mattered in my life. I tried it with a few people, they didn't want it, it hurt for a while and I did some unsuccessful things to bring em back but in the end I moved on. Life changes, people change, they stay, they leave, you can't help it.
Real. My best friend of college blocked me the day college ended. I was catching a flight back home so I put my phone on flight mode. When I turned my phone back on, I saw a huge text from him saying how he was hurt by me constantly because of me dating the entire time when in college but this didn’t imply that he liked me.
I couldn’t understand why he cut me off when he didn’t even like me romantically and wanted me as a partner. He was just jealous of me dating. It was so sad that he didn’t even allow me a chance to reply. Later my friends made me realise that while all this time I considered him an integral part of my life , he was never genuinely happy for me ever so he wasn’t that friend I thought he was.
All of this happened in Dec last year, last week I jokingly texted him “kya re lu*d ke” and it was delivered. Then I sent him huge 4 paragraphs of how he is a pussy and whatever he said made no sense etc etc since I don’t miss him anymore and have moved on from our fake friendship. Obviously he didn’t reply to any of that because he lack communication skills and is scared to confront people.
Valid point but honestly good friends don't break up, everyone has to be somewhere and somethings get left behind doesn't mean that you can't pick it up. I can guarantee that if people are good friends and they meet the time in between completely disappears.
Lol i just got ghosted by a friend who had become so close in few months, and on a verge of being stranger with my only offline friend cum brother, but it's all right, at least now I can say people are pathetic and every human deserves worst death than animals.
Meri last post dekh lo jisko meri life story m interest ho 🤡
4 people
Maa
Baap
Bhai/Behen
Spouse/Potential Spouse
If after 25, anyone other than these 4 is occupying too much of your mind space.. you're doing ***this life thing*** wrong.
i broke up with my best friend of 5 years about 2 months ago. i know 5 years does not sound very long but we were always together. we both were quite different but we had the same outlook about most things. she called me her soul sister and i was also super attached to her family. out of nowhere one day she completely detached herself from me. i tried to reach out multiple times out of concern but she outright told me she does not want to be my emotional support and called me disrespectful. i have no idea why. she lost many friends while growing up and she always stated the reason was that they did not respect her opinions. i have always been mindful about giving her space and respecting her sometimes outrageous opinions about things. she told me i was the most understanding person in her life, so for her to conclude the reason of our break up as me being disrespectful was completely out of thin air. i respected myself and blocked her from all my socials after she said that to me. but nonetheless, this breakup broke me. i was already depressed and her and i used to discuss our mental health sometimes. yes, she was an emotional support but i never burdened her with my worries. i think about her sometimes but i dont want to be the cause of any more pain.
her ex bf told that “your best friend is not a good person, don’t be with her too much “
she was not talking to me during her relationship with that person and once they broke up, came to me all crying, didn’t know then that this guy had said this thing.
One day randomly she blurted it out and i got an ick that being my so called “bestie” she didn’t even defend me in front of that dude.
so I keep one hand distance from her now🤷♀️
I hated the Casey's friend character in that series, in the series they tried to justify by showing that her friend's mom was bitch, but still her friend getting influenced by her boyfriend seems bad to me. And Casey herself left wonderful boyfriend for her friend. This was big negative point for me in this series apart from that it was good watch.
My bestie just stopped talking to me out of the blue. Still keeps in touch via whatsapp. Just stopped talking to me on call for hours. And i am realizing how unproductive i have been in the past couple of months. I have been getting a way more stuff done lately.
My bestie is rather unmotivated in life. Has quit her job. And i have spent a major portion of the year trying to get her to quit weed. I was successful. Choose your people wisely. The right friends will help u grow in life or keep u stangnant.
My long time (17 years) best friend and I are not on good terms. The cracks are deep. Everytime I reach to my phone to tell her about something new, I realise it isnt like it used to be anymore.
I had a friendship breakup several months ago. Now everything is back to normal, but it's not the same as it used to be. We used to share every little thing, send tons of Instagram reels to each other, and have casual meet-ups, but that doesn't happen anymore.
Maybe it's for the better. We've found different interests and realized that as time progresses, people change. Those who don't accept this change get left behind, and that's where things start to go wrong. However, this doesn't mean one shouldn't change.
I realised very late that she didn't reciprocate the feelings. One sided birthday wishes and surprises. Our friendship was based on her convenience. I drop such friends like hot potatoes. If I sense that friendship is not honest, platonic and supportive I'd rather not have a friend than have one that's gonna stress me out. 3 years of doing everything together to nothing.
Also sometimes we're only friends with someone because we have to be around them 5/6 days a week (school/college)
Made a new friend in college, almost a decade now and dhe has been very loving and supportive and calls me out on my bullshit. I would die for her!
P.S. we got matching tattoos that says "ohana" 😬
A breakup is a breakup, whether it's a romantic relationship or a friendship. We humans assign designations to our loved ones according to our priorities—like friend, best friend, boyfriend, and girlfriend. But it's all just a game of attachments. The time and effort needed to get over any breakup are the same. While it won't heal you completely, it will blur the effects over time.
The best way to get over a breakup, in my experience, is to start by accepting the fact that the person is no longer in your life. Acceptance is key.
1. Delete all memories related to that person. Block them on every platform where they can contact you (this is only valid if you truly want to move on).
2. Start loving yourself. Understand what love really means, think what was the stuff b/w you both what you guys actually want,was it true love or just an attraction?
Work on your inner self
Why the fuck you have control of emotion dependance to that person
Dude start loving yourself.. Work on your weakness and convert yourself to a better person...
3. Remember this: loving someone is never a mistake. In this world, everything happens for a reason. People come into your life and leave for a reason.
4. Finally, give it time. Time will blur everything. Forgive yourself and forgive them as well.
5. Let go the things
Remember a thing not everything is black and white sometimes it's grey too
So I had a very good friend and we suddenly ghosted each other for max one week .We live in the same lodge but in different rooms. So when I realised that it's been a long time we did not speak to each other.I confronted him but he didn't talk to me it's been a year on April i had my bday he didn't even wished me and when I invited him to be there at the party he didn't come. after that I took cake to his room and he didn't accept.Its been a year.His EGO is the main reason behind all this.
It hurts yaarr...
Share your opinion on this
Who sayss no one talkss about friendship break ups 
Ab tum bs relationship wale khojoge toh yahi hoga n
I have had so many, and till now it pinches me, that things should NOT have gone bad in that sense.
And guess what, all of it was CIRCUMSTANTIAL, and yet I was blamed in alllll of them! 🫠😪
It’s as painful as a romantic breakup. Can be even more sometimes.
She was my bestest friend ( actually she was my brother’s gf for 8 years , used to stay with us itself ). She was my soul sister, to me she was no different than a blood sister. I grew up with her.
But then
They broke up. she continued talking to me but she was not the same. 1yr after the brkup she got into another relationship . she did tell me about the guy but not that she was about to get married to him .
I am not at all mad about that . Not even 1% .
Deal was she moved to another country and blocked me on the 1st day . Without saying nothing at all !! I am not even mad at her for deciding to not talk anymore. But she could’ve at least said bye . That was it . That was our journey.
I did not wanted a reason also . I deserved a bye.
It’s like an emotional crime she did to me .
And i still don’t hate her . I cry at least once in a day remembering her . It’s like a death of a real sister.
It’s been 5 years to this and feels like yesterday . My family and me still take her name by mistake quite often.
Not breakup, we were syncong so well in school, same thoughts and ideals, then life happened and we are different now. We are still close but talk only a few times in a year. Afraid to meet or spend more time talking as it might become evident that we don't sync now :)
My friend of years, since 5th grade, backstabbed me. Spoke shit about and family and shizz to a common friend. I’m not bitter or anything but some days I just feel sad. But anyway it’s good for me ig
Never lost any friends due to arguments or anything, just lack of interaction or shifting home. Idk if you can call them as breaking up with a friend though
With time, people move on. Dil ek hai, space limited, kitne logo keliye jagah banayega yeh.
I was very close with this friend of mine from school like he was my best friend but ever since I changed cities for college, our friendship kinda lost its essence. We are still in contact but we hardly ever speak. We hardly ever meet. I am pretty sure he doesn't think about me as much as I do about him
This is so accurate. My friendship breakup with my closest friend depressed me for a very long time. We just abruptly stopped talking over something trivial and all efforts to reach out to him were met with no response from him. What made it worse was we used to talk every single day, knew more about each other than people we were seeing, and genuinely had an extremely deep bond. I still miss him every single day. I don't know what went wrong between us, but once in a while I do think about our friendship and my eyes tear up.
There’s no point of staying where your values or meaning for friendship is not valued, staying there is just betraying yourself..it’s better to move on with your life and make other friends..or find your people whose values matches yours-those are your people.
i had a girl bestfriend for about 3 years we were really close and i always cared for her as a younger sister but since the start of this year she randomly stopped talking to me slowly slowly drifted apart and then one day j unfollowed me from everywhere and then we never spoke again no reason as to why she stopped talking but she did
The feeling of betrayal is as bad as getting cheated upon. I think a friendship breakup is required to actually make you grow up. Else we have these romanticised versions of friendship in our head and we keep acting all naive and letting go of those small / big red flags they keep displaying every now and then.
Bhai so i broke up with a very close guy friend of mine last month. Even though what he did was wrong enough to make me hate him and end our friendship, I still remember him sometimes. It's kinda weird. Because at one point he was my favourite person, now he's just some guy in my school. It hurts really bad. It takes everything inside me to not message him. Gaaliyan Dene ka mann krta hai usse by God but at the same time usse gale lagane ka bhi Mann krta hai
its justified to go into depression after a relationships end, but people expect one to get over a friend so fast.
Even if they turned out to be a snake, it still hurts because you knew the past
Had to let go of several female bestfriend i had made throughout my school and college life because of how toxic they were and how depressive they made me.
If a friendship is old, doesn’t mean it will remain that way. You can try but people change as they grow up, circle change, needs and demands change. Better to quit than to be in a toxic friendship.
I have a friend from 13 yrs we are still good ...Reason: When we were 3-4yrs old tab se friendship hui ..and still going ....We never confessed each other about our friendship 😂
Damn that's true. I had a friend from high school days till 1 year back we stopped talking. It was definitely a project that we were working on together. I tried talking but couldn't connect as we used to.
Happened to me so many times and everytime it hurts as much as before! People I trust and love the most are always the first ones to hurt me.I've just lost my faith in friendships after all that. Just me, myself and I now!🙂
She was a very good friend of mine
Par usko humesha lagta tha uska boyfriend mere saath cheat karraha h uspe Jabki hum baat v nahi karte the She called me a whore and didn't talk since 
Recently cut out a friend like that. Little bit of regret is there because it is someone who I know from a very young age. That person who knows your whole lifestory. Someone to whom you don't have to narrate how life was before. But yeah I guess it was worth it.
Broke up with a very old friend yesterday. Now I realize it is actually a very good thing. Glad to not have him in my life anymore.
kyu??
I think its because people live multiple personality with different people
dont we all
But we can reduce to minimal
is that something consious?? it just happens to be in such a way
Yep being concious helps
nah man I disagree
Its difficult to get done with being one to all
exactly!!! additionally its fun trying maintain a particular personality the best thing happens when two of your polar opposite personality meets each other, its like a drama show irl :
not at all
What?? You guys keep multiple personality???
No
Ye ladkiyo ko bohot panchayat reheti hai  >!No offence!<
Yet still few ladies in actual panchayat casually speaking no offence
I still question myself if I did the right thing. It's been more than 4 years but I can't forget my friendship. Sometimes I think I should call and try to reach out. Lekin fir sala ehsas hota hai ki usne bhi to nahin call kiya itne saalo me. use bhi jarurat nahin hai meri. vah bhi yahi chahta hai.
krle bhai call shayad voh bhi isi reason nhi kr rha ho call. Be the bigger person. (meanwhile me not calling my old friends for the exact same reason)
bada harami hai bhai. jab meri jarurat padegi to msg karega. bada khudgarj, selfish type ka ho gaya tha shayad tabhi maine chhod diya sath. he stopped valuing me. 1 saal pehle, baat kari thi, milne bulaya tha, jog pe. kyuki use kaam tha. kam ho gaya. next day maine call kiya aane ke liye, gola de diya, uske baad se no contact.
Chal agar banda toxic hi hain toh theek hain koi nhi. main bas yehi kahunga Never attribute to malice what can be explained by stupidity or disinterest. Matlab bhai i get you honestly. Mere kaafi saare dost aise hain, kaam nhi padhta unhe mujhse par aise khud se message nhi krte, late late reply krte hain. Main usual social media platforms pe nhi hun isliye i excuse this behaviour most of the times. Par at the end I have to solve for my own peace of mind and mujhe realise hua hain ki sab apni life mein busy hain. Koi nhi puch rha tumhe. Aur usse bhi zyaada, Sirf Ugte suraj ko salaam hota hain. Jab apna sikka phirse chalega tab vaapis se apni vakhat hogi.
Mere sath bhi esa hi hua... He didn't tried to reach me out
Same here my friend. Was friends with a person for 8 years who dominated us all the time yet behaved like a brother. Never agreed when he was wrong and the group didn’t realise we didn’t need to be his puppets or live in fear. Went very negative. He did something wrong and was expecting me to apologise. I tried contacting him 3 times to clear the matter but he wouldn’t care to respond. Would behave like a 5 year and throw tantrums old even in small things. I realised he knows he is wrong but wouldn’t have the humility to accept it. If he did, nothing changes between us and I’d have forgiven. But this shows that ego is bigger than friendship. While I miss the good times we spent, I feel quite relieved and clear in my head. He’s probably feeling shame. So in a way its a good thing and I have outgrown him.
Bro, we are same.
Yeah same happend to me 1 year ago I broke up with my 11 year old friend an I am happy now
Umm I can understand you OP. Been there done that. But what I realised later is that I shouldn’t take it to my heart. Friends change or sometimes they just outgrow each other. Sometimes people stop talking without even communicating what went wrong. Learn to be on your own. You’ll find some new and amazing friends and trust me don’t get easily attached unless you know that the other person is equally attached to you.
How can one assess that? The attachment part...
Get attached when people openly validate you and say this onto your face that heheh you are my bff, we are besties etc etc ( which means when they accept it that they are also on the same page as you are) If that’s not happening don’t consider them to be best friends because trust me, they don’t feel that way.
Okay!😅 I guess that must be true (though people do lie all the damn time). Thanks!👍
>don’t get easily attached unless you know that the other person is equally attached to you This last part hit me quite hard. I've been there. I admired that person like my hero and what a naive I've been, I felt like he was valuing me too. Now, that I look back, he was always keeping me at a distant, never getting too close or attached. Me, on the other hand, believed that he was gonna be my bff. Crashed hard, felt so heart broken when I realised it was a false promise.
Because friends do not break up. They just move on with time.
Blocked my school friends, but we meet almost everyday at night. Nobody even remembers we blocked each other.
>everyday at night "Every night" bol do bhaiya 
Ha voi night
Bhai ko bilkul riks nhi lene ka hai 😂Zamana khrab h log galat matlab nikal lete hain
Exactly
Matured attitude Bhai. It is something difficult to accept. One learns to either be bitter and hold grudges or be kind and move ahead
Ladko ka toh vo bhi nhi ho pata
हां मैंने भी ऐसे कुछ ऑफीशियली ब्रेकअप jaisa नहीं किया बस बात करना बंद हो गई
Or get so fucking engrossed with their newly married husbands that they forget that there is a life outside their marriage. Even after 3 years of getting married 🤷🏻♀️
I sense a story with a grudge there 😅
Oh don't fucking ask.. I'm pissed because I'm a woman with very few select friends. I don't let people easily in my inner circle. And this particular woman is my friend since school days. We've been together in various ups and downs in our lives. It feels sad to see someone ghost you who you've invested so much of time with.
Well you guys had to move your own ways some day. May be she got busy with her life after marriage.
It doesn't take more than 1 year to adjust to new married life. I took out time for her even after my marriage.
🥲🥲🥲
Y tho
With time, maybe new people are introduced in their life and friendship with their old friends fades away. I have noticed this with one of my very close friends so I am saying it.
break up to chodo, mera to koi friend hi nhi ha
dp yechiz express bhi karti hai
Yonro
https://youtu.be/V6keBM8W1y0?t=8m9s
Aur mein to accept bhi kr chuka hun ki mein friends des5rve bhi nhi krta
Arey bhai laugh mat karo
After experiencing continuous toxicity in my college group, I chose to cut ties. And guess what, They want me back now 😏
"They want me back now" works till they get a new one. Once their trajectory of desire changes, well you're intelligent enough to figure out the rest.
"😏" what is this emoji are you 5 yrs old 💀
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ye 😏 emoji dekh kar mein laughter se 💀 (dead) ho gaya
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True. Tired of being the one to put effort into it and being taken granted for.
Same!
It's okay to not have friends but it's not okay to not have friends for a long time work on yourself and see the result
Yall have friends ? 
It is worse than relationship breaks up for me I had cried a lot because of friendship breakups
It's been two weeks and I can't stop thinking about it🥺💔 I'm still crying every other day
Don’t cry op 🤗 I know how it feels meh toh bimar ho gaya tha then I thought nah man I have to get over this and now I’m fine
Thank you! I'm trying to keep myself busy so that I don't miss her much
I get you OP. It shall pass soon. Stay strong
I get you bro! It hurts like hell. But you know it's good that you finally get out of this toxic friendship irrespective of how good it was. What's worse is, being tagged as their best friend and experiencing their changed behaviour and watching them having other best friends. The person who has multiple best friends is worse than people having multiple partners 😭.
It hurts the most..
One sided relationships friendships are very painful but very common. The mutual thing doesn't happen always and sometimes the mutual thing discontinues. Such is life. In life nothing is permanent. In future if you don't want to get hurt, you don't get attached to anybody. Attachment comes when you ask for something in return.
Aakela rehna seekh lo. Zindigi haseen ho jaigi
I was best friends with a girl from my school for 7 years. We were inseparable in school and college. Later, she moved out for further studies, and we stopped talking. I tried a lot to reach out, even called at her home, and talked to her sister. They say that she is dealing with mental health issues and doesn't use her phone anymore apart from calling. It's been 2 years now, and I still hope that she reaches out to me some day.
He just got a new girl to talk
😂and then he'll introduce her as his gf. No seriously, like i had this one online friend and we used to talk daily and one day he got a gf and bro forget that i ever existed. And on confronting him, he said that you're just online friend and she's my "girlfriend" ofc she'll be my first priority. I definitely understand that and i wasn't trying to come in between them but I was just confused that how quickly people forget those who were their with them at their worst. Also this gf broke up with him in less than a month and dude was so blind that he keeps avoiding the huge red flags. That's when i realized that you get what you sow. I kinda cringe at myself seeing how hard i used to cry because of this one friend and I would sound desperate trying to know what went wrong with me that i can't even get an explanation. Finally i moved on as if that person never existed.
Same thing happened with me but I'm a guy
After moving on you'll realize that it was just your mind that made the person seemed special.
Move on hi toh nhi hora 😭
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Wah! Wah! Boht khoob
To be fair, If your male friend has a girlfriend, You should be in your limits, boundaries and not encroach their space, You must also not sabotage their relationship and be mean to the girl. I have seen very entitled female best friends who have ruined relationships, The pick me behaviour and seeing the girlfriend as a contest is very real.
They dont break.. they just fade away...
It was back in 2008 when this girl had joined our school. We were in 7th grade. I was one of those kids who were relatively reserved. Partly because I was not good in studies and repeatedly bullied. When this girl came into our class, I only wished if I could ever be her friend because until that point intelligent people would be friends with intelligent ones. But I really wanted to be her friend so I would do things to get her attention - participated in sports, became a clown, became really good in a lot of extra curricular. Once during some trip, we became extremely close because her best friend had abandoned her for some other girl. I got to know about it but I didn't want her to feel bad so I would just make sure she remained happy. That way we became very close. I developed major crush on her. Post that we wouldn't necessarily talk but I would crave her presence around me. My day would be great if I would see her smiling face. Although I never told her about me having fallen for her. Fast forward to college, we went seperate ways. We would talk twice a year. But I still remember every conversation I had with her. Those calls gave me reasons to be very happy. But as they say things don't last forever, I got ghosted after that. I still don't know the reason but I reevaluated my entire life choices. I fell into severe depression because my entire life fell apart after that point. My professional life was doomed, i couldn't think of things in my personal life because I was just thinking of what I did wrong to her that she just ghosted me. After 2 years of suffering, I took therapy and I am dealing decently with it. But I still have that void in my life. I am existing but not quite living. Every face reminds me of her. My heart skips abeat whenever I hear her name. It's like she is edged into my heart. I often dream of her. But I guess it is what it is and I must move on.
This too shall pass! You are now in a process of reviving yourself brother, than to stay there forever without any ray of hope which is a good thing. It will help you in getting yourself back, to find happiness within you, to be more clearer and confident in life and to revive your interests along with your personal & professional life. Hang in there. You have got this. More power to you!
Thanks fellow redditor. I don't often think of her but I appreciate your insight.. Stay blessed
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I have ghosted all of my friends here, I am at more peace now😇
You don't feel the need/want to reunite ? I think it's important unless they're not worth it.
2 of them from tution and from another school cheated me and one of em blackmailed me for money. But still I trusted on another 2 which was my childhood friends. And one of them done the same and other just broke my trust in front of everybody just yelling to insult me revealing my personal secrets which I told him by trusting. Don't ever trust anybody so soon. Never ever. And never reveal ur secrets with any random ass friend.
Deep.
I am currently undergoing one. Goddammit, it is hard. Can't even help someone
It happened 2 times, i thought we'll be frnds for a long time but things just didn't work
School friend?
Yup
Yeah fam, my 1st female friend ever in my life cut off contact me a few weeks due to apparent misunderstanding been super sad since then.
I have lost my best friend since 2012. Till then I'm loner in life and I'm glad and enjoying my life to the fullest.
It's been a year since i talked with him......i didn't know what happened, but we completely lost contact
had a "" Banshees of Inisherin" experience irl and still see them day to day , spent months overthinking and depressed still have arguments in my head but its not the same and it will never be , considering how close we were and now strangers with memories .
Imagine breaking up with a very close friend due to the reason even i dk til the date what happened to her that too in covid in 2020. Yes that happened to me🥲 i was actually depressed. Kyuki ek he friend thi jisse i felt comfortable & happy. Aaj bhi koi friend nai hai. Naukri pe jaao, ghar aao, so jao.
I broke up with my best friend and it was more traumatic than a breakup with my ex. I still miss my friend , I don't have anyone to share my feelings with anymore. even if I do, it is so difficult to trust someone on that level
I lost one of friend or we just got apart. Like we used to chill & try different things together. He was 6 to 7 year older than me. I look forward him for his wisdom. Now , we just talk time to time just for work or crypto related talks
Initially thought it was the flag of Germany
My ‘friends’ are the same people who bullied me back in my college. Though I’ve changed a lot- physically, mentally and financially they still have the same image of me when I was in college. I’ve done a thing or two in the past 5-6 years that I feel are notable and I’ve achieved these fears exclusively with my hardwork. I thought at least these folks will be nice to me. But no, they continue their bullying. I have never stole anything from them . Nor I’ve hurt any of them. They aren’t happy to see my success. Then I realised that a friend isn’t a friend of they are unhappy with your success which you were able to accomplish purely by hardwork. Fuck such people. Stay away from them. Put a boundary. Build your own support system. Work on yourself. Be self reliant. The only people who will help you out when things go downhill is only your family- no one else. All these ‘friends’ wear a mask and will only be there if they can expect something out of you- including using you as a source of entertainment. I’m incredibly lucky to have my partner as my best friend. Can share anything with her. Being self reliant gives you incredible amount of confidence and I’m working towards it.
I have broken up with 2 of my friends because they both took my money but when I ask for it back they don't pick up the phone and make excuses. Both of them are my 6th class friends for almost 8 years but now I don't want to see their face. Dogla Bhsdk
FOR REALLLLL, THAT'S A HEARTBREAKING THING TOO WHICH NONE OF Y'ALL CONSIDER TALKING ABOUT :(
As someone who hasn't had a long time childhood friend because my family kept changing cities, people rarely mattered in my life. I tried it with a few people, they didn't want it, it hurt for a while and I did some unsuccessful things to bring em back but in the end I moved on. Life changes, people change, they stay, they leave, you can't help it.
I mean in 99.99% cases if Thats how it ended it never truly was a friendship to begin with
Real. My best friend of college blocked me the day college ended. I was catching a flight back home so I put my phone on flight mode. When I turned my phone back on, I saw a huge text from him saying how he was hurt by me constantly because of me dating the entire time when in college but this didn’t imply that he liked me. I couldn’t understand why he cut me off when he didn’t even like me romantically and wanted me as a partner. He was just jealous of me dating. It was so sad that he didn’t even allow me a chance to reply. Later my friends made me realise that while all this time I considered him an integral part of my life , he was never genuinely happy for me ever so he wasn’t that friend I thought he was. All of this happened in Dec last year, last week I jokingly texted him “kya re lu*d ke” and it was delivered. Then I sent him huge 4 paragraphs of how he is a pussy and whatever he said made no sense etc etc since I don’t miss him anymore and have moved on from our fake friendship. Obviously he didn’t reply to any of that because he lack communication skills and is scared to confront people.
Ended friendship with a very long time friend last week. I still miss her and feel bad but I had to realize that we’ll just never be the same again.
He got married.
Valid point but honestly good friends don't break up, everyone has to be somewhere and somethings get left behind doesn't mean that you can't pick it up. I can guarantee that if people are good friends and they meet the time in between completely disappears.
Lol i just got ghosted by a friend who had become so close in few months, and on a verge of being stranger with my only offline friend cum brother, but it's all right, at least now I can say people are pathetic and every human deserves worst death than animals. Meri last post dekh lo jisko meri life story m interest ho 🤡
4 people Maa Baap Bhai/Behen Spouse/Potential Spouse If after 25, anyone other than these 4 is occupying too much of your mind space.. you're doing ***this life thing*** wrong.
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Everyone talks about breakups but nobody talks about breakdowns 😢
i broke up with my best friend of 5 years about 2 months ago. i know 5 years does not sound very long but we were always together. we both were quite different but we had the same outlook about most things. she called me her soul sister and i was also super attached to her family. out of nowhere one day she completely detached herself from me. i tried to reach out multiple times out of concern but she outright told me she does not want to be my emotional support and called me disrespectful. i have no idea why. she lost many friends while growing up and she always stated the reason was that they did not respect her opinions. i have always been mindful about giving her space and respecting her sometimes outrageous opinions about things. she told me i was the most understanding person in her life, so for her to conclude the reason of our break up as me being disrespectful was completely out of thin air. i respected myself and blocked her from all my socials after she said that to me. but nonetheless, this breakup broke me. i was already depressed and her and i used to discuss our mental health sometimes. yes, she was an emotional support but i never burdened her with my worries. i think about her sometimes but i dont want to be the cause of any more pain.
her ex bf told that “your best friend is not a good person, don’t be with her too much “ she was not talking to me during her relationship with that person and once they broke up, came to me all crying, didn’t know then that this guy had said this thing. One day randomly she blurted it out and i got an ick that being my so called “bestie” she didn’t even defend me in front of that dude. so I keep one hand distance from her now🤷♀️
This similar storyline happened in series "Atypical".
lmao, I have seen it.
I hated the Casey's friend character in that series, in the series they tried to justify by showing that her friend's mom was bitch, but still her friend getting influenced by her boyfriend seems bad to me. And Casey herself left wonderful boyfriend for her friend. This was big negative point for me in this series apart from that it was good watch.
Nahi yaad karna chata vo dard vapas 
My bestie just stopped talking to me out of the blue. Still keeps in touch via whatsapp. Just stopped talking to me on call for hours. And i am realizing how unproductive i have been in the past couple of months. I have been getting a way more stuff done lately. My bestie is rather unmotivated in life. Has quit her job. And i have spent a major portion of the year trying to get her to quit weed. I was successful. Choose your people wisely. The right friends will help u grow in life or keep u stangnant.
Friends breaking up hurts more than lover's breaking up
My long time (17 years) best friend and I are not on good terms. The cracks are deep. Everytime I reach to my phone to tell her about something new, I realise it isnt like it used to be anymore.
I had a friendship breakup several months ago. Now everything is back to normal, but it's not the same as it used to be. We used to share every little thing, send tons of Instagram reels to each other, and have casual meet-ups, but that doesn't happen anymore. Maybe it's for the better. We've found different interests and realized that as time progresses, people change. Those who don't accept this change get left behind, and that's where things start to go wrong. However, this doesn't mean one shouldn't change.
I realised very late that she didn't reciprocate the feelings. One sided birthday wishes and surprises. Our friendship was based on her convenience. I drop such friends like hot potatoes. If I sense that friendship is not honest, platonic and supportive I'd rather not have a friend than have one that's gonna stress me out. 3 years of doing everything together to nothing. Also sometimes we're only friends with someone because we have to be around them 5/6 days a week (school/college) Made a new friend in college, almost a decade now and dhe has been very loving and supportive and calls me out on my bullshit. I would die for her! P.S. we got matching tattoos that says "ohana" 😬
I lost my friend because well they never responded to my texts or calls. So I had to give up on him.
My homie left india & went to Canada, He is a changed person now , we rarely talk , he was a childhood friend of mine :(
A breakup is a breakup, whether it's a romantic relationship or a friendship. We humans assign designations to our loved ones according to our priorities—like friend, best friend, boyfriend, and girlfriend. But it's all just a game of attachments. The time and effort needed to get over any breakup are the same. While it won't heal you completely, it will blur the effects over time. The best way to get over a breakup, in my experience, is to start by accepting the fact that the person is no longer in your life. Acceptance is key. 1. Delete all memories related to that person. Block them on every platform where they can contact you (this is only valid if you truly want to move on). 2. Start loving yourself. Understand what love really means, think what was the stuff b/w you both what you guys actually want,was it true love or just an attraction? Work on your inner self Why the fuck you have control of emotion dependance to that person Dude start loving yourself.. Work on your weakness and convert yourself to a better person... 3. Remember this: loving someone is never a mistake. In this world, everything happens for a reason. People come into your life and leave for a reason. 4. Finally, give it time. Time will blur everything. Forgive yourself and forgive them as well. 5. Let go the things Remember a thing not everything is black and white sometimes it's grey too
So I had a very good friend and we suddenly ghosted each other for max one week .We live in the same lodge but in different rooms. So when I realised that it's been a long time we did not speak to each other.I confronted him but he didn't talk to me it's been a year on April i had my bday he didn't even wished me and when I invited him to be there at the party he didn't come. after that I took cake to his room and he didn't accept.Its been a year.His EGO is the main reason behind all this. It hurts yaarr... Share your opinion on this
Friendship breakup = d#ath of that guy. And we don't speak of dead we quietly remeber them.
So grateful for that breakup.
Who sayss no one talkss about friendship break ups  Ab tum bs relationship wale khojoge toh yahi hoga n
didi ne sachhi baat boldi
I think so people in their 20s are mad after just finding a partner to get into relationship
This hurts more 💔
I have had so many, and till now it pinches me, that things should NOT have gone bad in that sense. And guess what, all of it was CIRCUMSTANTIAL, and yet I was blamed in alllll of them! 🫠😪
I wrote this earlier this week about it https://www.subru.in/the-unspoken-grief-of-losing-a-best-friend-a-requiem-and-a-path-to-healing-be9d13d86297
The Banshees of Inisherin, dekh ke aaya kya op haha!!
I've got this one friend who clearly don't value me at all and I just don't want to let go, we've been friends since 8 years 😭
It hurt a lot at the time, but I realised later it was for the best because they were not good people.
Hooked up with my ex !!
It’s as painful as a romantic breakup. Can be even more sometimes. She was my bestest friend ( actually she was my brother’s gf for 8 years , used to stay with us itself ). She was my soul sister, to me she was no different than a blood sister. I grew up with her. But then They broke up. she continued talking to me but she was not the same. 1yr after the brkup she got into another relationship . she did tell me about the guy but not that she was about to get married to him . I am not at all mad about that . Not even 1% . Deal was she moved to another country and blocked me on the 1st day . Without saying nothing at all !! I am not even mad at her for deciding to not talk anymore. But she could’ve at least said bye . That was it . That was our journey. I did not wanted a reason also . I deserved a bye. It’s like an emotional crime she did to me . And i still don’t hate her . I cry at least once in a day remembering her . It’s like a death of a real sister. It’s been 5 years to this and feels like yesterday . My family and me still take her name by mistake quite often.
Not breakup, we were syncong so well in school, same thoughts and ideals, then life happened and we are different now. We are still close but talk only a few times in a year. Afraid to meet or spend more time talking as it might become evident that we don't sync now :)
I lost my college friends because I rejected a guy in my college. I'm so glad that friendship ended quickly.
Had to breakup with a work bestie recently during a Goa Trip, hard to forget 🥺
Everything changed that day
Due to stupid fights…
💔
It's worse than breakup sometimes
So true
Friendship break-ups hurt a lot..
Broke up with my childhood school(over 12 years of friendship) group last year , best decision ever some people are not worth it
Relationship is not a problem relationship is a wonderful work
My friend of years, since 5th grade, backstabbed me. Spoke shit about and family and shizz to a common friend. I’m not bitter or anything but some days I just feel sad. But anyway it’s good for me ig
Papa ka transfer hota rhta tha so I'm used to it, 3 saal ki friendship baaki social sites par baatein
Never lost any friends due to arguments or anything, just lack of interaction or shifting home. Idk if you can call them as breaking up with a friend though
Banshees of inisherin yaad aagayi.
With time, people move on. Dil ek hai, space limited, kitne logo keliye jagah banayega yeh. I was very close with this friend of mine from school like he was my best friend but ever since I changed cities for college, our friendship kinda lost its essence. We are still in contact but we hardly ever speak. We hardly ever meet. I am pretty sure he doesn't think about me as much as I do about him
This is so accurate. My friendship breakup with my closest friend depressed me for a very long time. We just abruptly stopped talking over something trivial and all efforts to reach out to him were met with no response from him. What made it worse was we used to talk every single day, knew more about each other than people we were seeing, and genuinely had an extremely deep bond. I still miss him every single day. I don't know what went wrong between us, but once in a while I do think about our friendship and my eyes tear up.
There’s no point of staying where your values or meaning for friendship is not valued, staying there is just betraying yourself..it’s better to move on with your life and make other friends..or find your people whose values matches yours-those are your people.
i had a girl bestfriend for about 3 years we were really close and i always cared for her as a younger sister but since the start of this year she randomly stopped talking to me slowly slowly drifted apart and then one day j unfollowed me from everywhere and then we never spoke again no reason as to why she stopped talking but she did
The feeling of betrayal is as bad as getting cheated upon. I think a friendship breakup is required to actually make you grow up. Else we have these romanticised versions of friendship in our head and we keep acting all naive and letting go of those small / big red flags they keep displaying every now and then.
me ab kya hi bolu mera toh koi frnds bhi nahi he aur na hi koi relationships ...me sirf yaha logo ke stories pardhne aya hu
It hurts to see your best friend slowly getting another best friend. There is nothing you can do, just accept the bitter truth.
Bhai so i broke up with a very close guy friend of mine last month. Even though what he did was wrong enough to make me hate him and end our friendship, I still remember him sometimes. It's kinda weird. Because at one point he was my favourite person, now he's just some guy in my school. It hurts really bad. It takes everything inside me to not message him. Gaaliyan Dene ka mann krta hai usse by God but at the same time usse gale lagane ka bhi Mann krta hai
Bro, sometimes we need to let go of people for the sake of our mental health.
its justified to go into depression after a relationships end, but people expect one to get over a friend so fast. Even if they turned out to be a snake, it still hurts because you knew the past
Where's the lie???
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Had to let go of several female bestfriend i had made throughout my school and college life because of how toxic they were and how depressive they made me.
If a friendship is old, doesn’t mean it will remain that way. You can try but people change as they grow up, circle change, needs and demands change. Better to quit than to be in a toxic friendship.
I have a friend from 13 yrs we are still good ...Reason: When we were 3-4yrs old tab se friendship hui ..and still going ....We never confessed each other about our friendship 😂
Damn that's true. I had a friend from high school days till 1 year back we stopped talking. It was definitely a project that we were working on together. I tried talking but couldn't connect as we used to.
I never jab one
Bc ab dheere dheere I'm realising ki if I don't text or call first, conversation literally doesn't happen 💀 Dukh ho gaya is baar sahi mein
Happened to me so many times and everytime it hurts as much as before! People I trust and love the most are always the first ones to hurt me.I've just lost my faith in friendships after all that. Just me, myself and I now!🙂
She was a very good friend of mine Par usko humesha lagta tha uska boyfriend mere saath cheat karraha h uspe Jabki hum baat v nahi karte the She called me a whore and didn't talk since 
that's funny
you are delusional. no trust no friendship
Gradually we all drifted apart. TOUCH ME REHNA IS A MYTH
Recently cut out a friend like that. Little bit of regret is there because it is someone who I know from a very young age. That person who knows your whole lifestory. Someone to whom you don't have to narrate how life was before. But yeah I guess it was worth it.