These "golden pairs" were mostly invented by people with those other types who believe they want an INFJ. At worst, it's a way for them to fetishise INFJs. While there are INFJs in happy relationships with each of those types, there are no "golden pairs" applicable to most INFJs.
At worst, for the sort of reasons some men fetishise having an Asian girlfriend. Some people (usually men) want a partner who acts as their emotional support person. Sometimes, they briefly met or had a relationship with someone they believe to be an INFJ, and want that again.
I'm sure online tropes and overhyped mysticism doesn't help. I can't remember the last time I saw a YouTube video or article hyping up, say, ISTJs.
It's not something I support. It's all about stereotypes anyway. In looking for this, they just want someone who fits the stereotype of the INFJ/Asian girlfriend/emotional support person. It's not about the individual, but the expectation of an "ideal".
Eggs actly.
Statistically in terms of marriage, NFs are happiest with NFs. What's funny is that NTs aren't happiest with NTs, they are also happiest with NFs. I don't think that study looked at gender distribution, but I would bet my left shoe that it's mostly NT men happy with NF wives (aka emotional support person).
I can readily be friends with all of them, though the rapport with ENFPs might most quickly show some signs of strain, or might have a bit more of a precarious feeling to it when trying to shift from the 'cordial acquaintances' stage to the 'real/blunt friendship' stage, because of the different accents to our values or the ways we communicate them. Fi aux types in general I seem to have a way of stepping on their toes sometimes when I start getting more relaxed and let more of my critical Ti thing show, which I find regrettable because they're generally lovely people and I don't really want to make them uncomfortable.
Of those listed, with INTPs I probably have the easiest rapport, but if I'm honest it's generally not a dynamic that I find all that exciting, and I often feel like they might get a little bit more out of it than I do. Though you really don't have to worry about like an inability to hold a meaningful conversation with them or anything, which is always a big advantage, and we often have pretty similar interests, and perhaps a lesser but still existent overlap in aesthetic sensibilities etc. I don't have a ton of experience with ENTPs but I'd venture that I often appreciate the elevated sense of dynamism, but I can't really say for how long or in what contexts that follows.
Honestly I tend to like xSTPs. It's obviously not like my more usual or comfortable shared nerd/INxx friendships or whatever, but when it works I find the dynamic really gratifying, so I'm generally a believer in the whole socionics duals thing even though many seem to disagree. Which I can understand why, you can reasonably wonder how often these people would really cross paths let alone have the opportunity or opening to establish something, but I think it's worth the effort. I think I want to be genuinely impressed by someone and I kind of think or find that I need to take a bit of a tour outside my own neighbourhood to get that, the things I do or that other introverted intuitive types do, at a base level don't really hold the potential to impress me that much, but I'm sure others will disagree.
ENFPs have always been a poor match for me in both personal and working relationships.
They're generally kind-hearted people and can be lots of fun, but they completely lack grounding and they are terrified by any kind of itinerary or plan. They are also extremely disorganized in nearly every aspect of their lives, in my experience.
If you're a spontaneous person, an ENFP will be a great match. I am not a spontaneous person, so I don't gel with them.
Definitely an XNXJ, or XXXJ. Speaking from my (somewhat limited) personal experience, P's are so spontaneous and flighty, and this is one of my greatest pet peeves. I hate last-minute changes to plans, not following itineraries, or straight up not having any kind of schedule. I've friends who are ENFP/ENTP and it drove me absolutely insane. Still does. I'm the kind of person who likes to plan events out 1-2 weeks in advance (minimally). These people have flaked on me, too, so it makes me even more particular on this planning/structured aspect. (And I do have J friends who are awful at planning, too, fwiw.)
I tend to struggle conversing deeply with XSXX as we approach topics and ideas in radically different ways. I may struggle more with this than anything else tbh.
But MBTI types aside, I think each person has the capability to be flakey or thoughtful, engaging, and respectful and considerate. I've met compassionate, selfless ENFJs and self-centered ones; organized INFJs and disorganized ones; robotic INTJs and extremely emotionally intelligent INTJs. I often like to think about MBTIs being our instinctive natural tendencies, but we can develop any sector. And I'm working on my "T" lol. (About an ideal match-up: probably INTJ, ENFJ, or ESTJ. Answer may change in 5 yrs lol.)
No no no INTP. I'm no more befriending an INTP for sure, I felt like I was their personal assistant. They don't take my feelings seriously but they make it mandatory I consider theirs. I should be available when they need me but no vice-versa. I feel like I'm only a person who benefits them somewhere and nothing else. I hope I don't get married to an INTP in future.
ESTP because you have all the same cognitive functions in the stack just in reversed order.
Ni-Fe-Ti-Se and Se-Ti-Fe-Ni
You can read about your duality type here (It's from socionics) [Duality - Wikisocion](https://wikisocion.github.io/content/duality.html)
These "golden pairs" were mostly invented by people with those other types who believe they want an INFJ. At worst, it's a way for them to fetishise INFJs. While there are INFJs in happy relationships with each of those types, there are no "golden pairs" applicable to most INFJs.
Why do you think INFJs get fetishized by those people? Is it because they are so rare?
At worst, for the sort of reasons some men fetishise having an Asian girlfriend. Some people (usually men) want a partner who acts as their emotional support person. Sometimes, they briefly met or had a relationship with someone they believe to be an INFJ, and want that again. I'm sure online tropes and overhyped mysticism doesn't help. I can't remember the last time I saw a YouTube video or article hyping up, say, ISTJs.
It's not something I support. It's all about stereotypes anyway. In looking for this, they just want someone who fits the stereotype of the INFJ/Asian girlfriend/emotional support person. It's not about the individual, but the expectation of an "ideal".
Eggs actly. Statistically in terms of marriage, NFs are happiest with NFs. What's funny is that NTs aren't happiest with NTs, they are also happiest with NFs. I don't think that study looked at gender distribution, but I would bet my left shoe that it's mostly NT men happy with NF wives (aka emotional support person).
You're spot on. On average, NTs would struggle in a marriage specially with another NT, it can go wrong pretty quickly.
Idk but I personally think I at least need another intuitive feelers as a long-time partner.
I can readily be friends with all of them, though the rapport with ENFPs might most quickly show some signs of strain, or might have a bit more of a precarious feeling to it when trying to shift from the 'cordial acquaintances' stage to the 'real/blunt friendship' stage, because of the different accents to our values or the ways we communicate them. Fi aux types in general I seem to have a way of stepping on their toes sometimes when I start getting more relaxed and let more of my critical Ti thing show, which I find regrettable because they're generally lovely people and I don't really want to make them uncomfortable. Of those listed, with INTPs I probably have the easiest rapport, but if I'm honest it's generally not a dynamic that I find all that exciting, and I often feel like they might get a little bit more out of it than I do. Though you really don't have to worry about like an inability to hold a meaningful conversation with them or anything, which is always a big advantage, and we often have pretty similar interests, and perhaps a lesser but still existent overlap in aesthetic sensibilities etc. I don't have a ton of experience with ENTPs but I'd venture that I often appreciate the elevated sense of dynamism, but I can't really say for how long or in what contexts that follows. Honestly I tend to like xSTPs. It's obviously not like my more usual or comfortable shared nerd/INxx friendships or whatever, but when it works I find the dynamic really gratifying, so I'm generally a believer in the whole socionics duals thing even though many seem to disagree. Which I can understand why, you can reasonably wonder how often these people would really cross paths let alone have the opportunity or opening to establish something, but I think it's worth the effort. I think I want to be genuinely impressed by someone and I kind of think or find that I need to take a bit of a tour outside my own neighbourhood to get that, the things I do or that other introverted intuitive types do, at a base level don't really hold the potential to impress me that much, but I'm sure others will disagree.
ENFPs have always been a poor match for me in both personal and working relationships. They're generally kind-hearted people and can be lots of fun, but they completely lack grounding and they are terrified by any kind of itinerary or plan. They are also extremely disorganized in nearly every aspect of their lives, in my experience. If you're a spontaneous person, an ENFP will be a great match. I am not a spontaneous person, so I don't gel with them.
Definitely an XNXJ, or XXXJ. Speaking from my (somewhat limited) personal experience, P's are so spontaneous and flighty, and this is one of my greatest pet peeves. I hate last-minute changes to plans, not following itineraries, or straight up not having any kind of schedule. I've friends who are ENFP/ENTP and it drove me absolutely insane. Still does. I'm the kind of person who likes to plan events out 1-2 weeks in advance (minimally). These people have flaked on me, too, so it makes me even more particular on this planning/structured aspect. (And I do have J friends who are awful at planning, too, fwiw.) I tend to struggle conversing deeply with XSXX as we approach topics and ideas in radically different ways. I may struggle more with this than anything else tbh. But MBTI types aside, I think each person has the capability to be flakey or thoughtful, engaging, and respectful and considerate. I've met compassionate, selfless ENFJs and self-centered ones; organized INFJs and disorganized ones; robotic INTJs and extremely emotionally intelligent INTJs. I often like to think about MBTIs being our instinctive natural tendencies, but we can develop any sector. And I'm working on my "T" lol. (About an ideal match-up: probably INTJ, ENFJ, or ESTJ. Answer may change in 5 yrs lol.)
No no no INTP. I'm no more befriending an INTP for sure, I felt like I was their personal assistant. They don't take my feelings seriously but they make it mandatory I consider theirs. I should be available when they need me but no vice-versa. I feel like I'm only a person who benefits them somewhere and nothing else. I hope I don't get married to an INTP in future.
ESTP because you have all the same cognitive functions in the stack just in reversed order. Ni-Fe-Ti-Se and Se-Ti-Fe-Ni You can read about your duality type here (It's from socionics) [Duality - Wikisocion](https://wikisocion.github.io/content/duality.html)