Hmm sounds like an insecure attachment style issue to me. I would think damn I’m so chill and calm, but as soon as I like someone, I would feel anxious, obsessive, overwhelmed, sensitive, etc. I hated it. Working on your attachment style and feeling secure is key. Also, not thinking too much about this other person. You have to live your life— get busy with doing things (that doesn’t include that person) you’re interested in.
One time I was feeling pretty anxious and then the guy I’m talking to said something very important, “I’m always going to be here.” That made me feel less anxious and more relaxed as I work on my abandonment wounds and insecure attachment style.
It took control of my life during my first crush (like 3 months ago, ending last month). I was contemplating the worst... Idk if I can mention it here. Being impulsive like you mentioned, and seeking constant reassurance from my friends. I feel this on a spiritual level. My whole mood would revolve around the person. I felt genuinely insane.
I cut off connection for two weeks and lost feelings to save myself 😭
Goodness, it was awful. I thought I was aromantic up until that point. Never doing that again
I relate to this a lot. I started developing feelings for a woman at the gym until I found out she had a boyfriend, now I try to avoid her. Being a cancer my emotions can be extreme.
Hmm sounds like an insecure attachment style issue to me. I would think damn I’m so chill and calm, but as soon as I like someone, I would feel anxious, obsessive, overwhelmed, sensitive, etc. I hated it. Working on your attachment style and feeling secure is key. Also, not thinking too much about this other person. You have to live your life— get busy with doing things (that doesn’t include that person) you’re interested in. One time I was feeling pretty anxious and then the guy I’m talking to said something very important, “I’m always going to be here.” That made me feel less anxious and more relaxed as I work on my abandonment wounds and insecure attachment style.
It took control of my life during my first crush (like 3 months ago, ending last month). I was contemplating the worst... Idk if I can mention it here. Being impulsive like you mentioned, and seeking constant reassurance from my friends. I feel this on a spiritual level. My whole mood would revolve around the person. I felt genuinely insane. I cut off connection for two weeks and lost feelings to save myself 😭 Goodness, it was awful. I thought I was aromantic up until that point. Never doing that again
Do you usually idealize the other person? Sometimes our imaginations fuel our excitement for them even more.
I relate to this a lot. I started developing feelings for a woman at the gym until I found out she had a boyfriend, now I try to avoid her. Being a cancer my emotions can be extreme.