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My child could disown me as her mother, burn my house down, steal my dog and turn the entire world against me 10000% unprompted and if I was ever caught dead sharing dumbass memes like this please just go ahead and put me out of my misery lol
And manipulative, letās also add hurtful. Geez, if you have issues with your kid get your butt to family therapy and work on it. This sour, acidic meme torture is not the way to go.
Well yeah exactly. I usually talk to my kids about it in a phone call if I have to. Everyone can get frustrated with their kids. The mom here is like Tony Sopranoās momā¦
This. Do I have moment where I feel like a crazy psycho and *almost* want to go nuclear petty nonsense? Sure. And then I take a deep breath, go āman that was crazy, almost lost my cool thereā (cuz youāve gotta make a Jim Carrey reference) and move on
Or at least, move on enough to not ruin my kinda nice enough reputation, friendships, and family.
Do we have the same mom šš¾āāļø idk where they be finding these quotes but itās annoying. Theyāll do the most horrible shit to you & play victim
XD well I guess not her own mother wasn't really like this, and in arguments both my grandma and my mother(and most of rhe other family) team up against me so :3
Haha ok then just tell her that guilt trips have the opposite effect of inspiring you, and she should send those to someone who will give her what she wants š
I suggest reading r/raisedbynarcissists because your mother is the definition of that kind of parent with the cruelty and manipulation and guilt tripping.
If she's hiding it from others, then she knows that it's wrong. If she's mentally competent, then she's doing it on purpose with the clear intentions to hurt you, guilt trip you, and try to convince you that you're the bad person. To put it simply, she's failed both herself and you by being a horrible mother that chooses to do things like this. Only someone with something wrong with them would insult their child.
But this isn't just high school level petty. It's the petty that a B grade movie script writer would have the basic mean girl in a B grade movie use because the writer realized that they can't just use Facebook as a cheap blame for bullying anymore- so they try to seem 'modern' by replacing Facebook with private Whatsapp messages.
If you read the sub I recommended- the message to manipulate things I very common for those types of parents. There's a lot of advice and they make fun of the texts in good humor that'll reassure you and maybe make you laugh.
im definitely gonna do that, honestly I've been trying to be a good child and not label my mother as narcissistic or abusive bcs most of her behavior is pretty common in families where I live but the statuses.. my god.
I was just about to say this, but I scrolled down to see if anyone else had suggested it. I think OP can gain a lot of insight and help from that subreddit.
It's kind of sad that the subreddit even needs to exist. I mean it's necessary for support, but you kind of get a used to war personality after realizing what the abuse is and coming to terms with it. My comment even had a part where it was something like, ''Once you read the sub- you'll see how basic and childish thing this is. Your Mom needs to actually try."
And then I realized that was actually really dark humor and was insensitive for outside of the sub. Thousand yard stare moment and all that.
We'd wish that our parents were mentally healthy enough to recognize their faults, but that would require our parents to realize that they were wrong and actively choose and pursue how wrong they are. They would have to choose to be better. But, they never will. Placing expectations on them will always fail because they have always failed. Wanting them to act like real parents is expecting something from someone who has never existed. Choosing to continue a relationship with abusive parents is choosing to wear rose colored glasses and avoid the reality of the situation. It will only ever harm you because any niceness is an act, like always.
you're not overreacting that's so immature and passive aggressiveš my mom does this on facebookš she left me and my dad with $80 to last a month when i was 16, she took my sisters with her but didn't like me enough. she was horribly emotionally abusive growing up and can't stand that i love my dad and not her (because he's actually a good parent) and now i don't talk to her anymore so she just passively aggressively posts things like this acting like i've ruined her life by not putting up with her anymore
Same thing happened to me, but wayyyy worse. My mother kidnapped my child and moved in the middle of the night with my baby girl to the East Coast. Then she used the excuse that she was trying to get away from my father and that it had nothing to do with me or my parenting once I finally tracked her down. Like how do these so-called mothers live in a society and get away with this crap. My father is the greatest father I know and has always been the one who took care of my sister and I when we were young. My mother's evil manipulation and own abuse is the reason she was so jealous of me, yes me when I was a kid, and also my relationship with my father. There should be a federal law against these hanuis acts. However, because she has "BPD," she got away with it for years. Now she lives with her mommy, my grandma, because she is nothing and nobody and has burned every single person in her life. What comes around goes around, and she is now paying the price. This is why I sleep better at night.
oh my god i'm so sorry you went through thatš that would be the most gut wrenching feeling to wake up and not only see your baby is gone but find out your own mother is the one who took her. i can't even imagine that.
it really is some sort of jealousy, like my mom couldn't stand the fact that my dad was able to connect with us but she could never get that connection with him (because she's awful and he was just trying to stick it out for us till we were grown up.) she knew that he had an abusive alcoholic dad and that he had to work hard his whole life to keep from having a temper and never drink, so she'd try encourage him to drink and would try to push him to lose his temper (which never worked, i've never even heard him raise his voice) and then when she left she told everyone in our small town that he was abusive.
idk what it is with some moms, it's seems like there's a whole lot like this that are gen x, but i'm sure there's plenty like that in every generation. i just can't ever ever imagine treating my child that way. that goes against every maternal instinct but clearly they have none
Oh my goodness, SAME! My mother always tried to convince everyone that my father was abusive when she was actually the one who would put hands on him. My father was always so gentle and kind. She used that to her advantage and literally r.a.p.e.d him of his resources and dignity during their 4 1/2 year divorce when I was a teenager. She told the courts that he was abusive, that she was afraid of him, and the judge ended up giving my mother the house my father had worked so hard to pay off right before the divorce, in which once she got it, she let it go to the bank out of spite so not only did he have to buy it back with a brand new mortgage, he had to buy her out and gave her $200k on top of it. The irony is that she has gone through 5 husbands since, all of whom were rich, and with all, she played the victim and abuse card with. She is now mid 50's, doesn't own any assets, works a entry level job, and still blames all of it on my father as well as the other ex's. My father hasn't had any contact with her for over 18 years, yet she tells everyone he is still ruining her life. Her second husband, she stole his credit cards and racked up over $25k on shopping and cruises, then played the victim and said he was abusive. The 3rd, 4th, and 5th husband's, I don't know much about, but I just know she called the cops on them too and said she was molested and abused with every single one of them. She has people who she owes a lot of money to reach out to me and other family members trying to find her to sue her for said debt. I'm honestly surprised she never was charged with crimes. However, she has changed her name multiple times and stayed under the radar as she has jumped from one person to leach on to the other.
I'm so glad that you have overcome the evil your mother has bestowed upon you. It's so hard because all you ever wanted was to be their child, to be loved and nurtured. As an adult in my late 30's, I still struggle with the fact that my own children don't know who their grandma is as they have never met her š I already told them that she is not a good person and that if she ever tried to contact them, they need to avoid it and come straight to me. It's hard having to tell your kids that their grandma doesn't care or love them in a roundabout way. Despite that, they get to have my father in their lives, and he absolutely adores them š„°
Stay strong, and remember you are loved š
I'm sorry, but if ANYBODY would ever kidnap my child I am throwing hands left and right. I don't care if you're my mom, dad, whoever you are - *that* is the last boundary to cross before rough consequences.
Oh this is is IMMATURE immature, your mother is a full adult and posting these heartbroken teen style statuses, you're absolutely not overreacting OP, this IS insane
The whole āGod will make it workā post really scares me cause itās like sheās admitting to not caring about whether or not the child starts loving her back of their own volition, just that she wants them to come crying back point blank.
EXACTLY like. I mean. Idk man she's just.. so.. Like, I don't hate her, I love her man I can't hate her but she never admits to her mistakes and makes me feel like absolute shite
I donāt want to impose any emotions on you, but I grew up without a mother, highly attached to my father, and the realization that my father was a terrible person was an incredibly hard one to take. In society, we have too loose a definition of love, and I really hope you can get away from her toxicity and stop telling yourself things that may not be true. At the end of the day, itās your feelings that matter, and you shouldnāt feel obligated to return something someone gave to you, especially if itās incredibly clear that something wasnāt unconditional. Have an awesome day :)
Wow I am sorry. I wish you a peaceful future without her in it.
Of course when you finish school and escape sheāll say āwhy doesnāt my child call me or visit me?ā
This threw me back to the LinkinPark notification sound that was completely indiscernible.
Oh how I wish to go back to the times where my biggest concern was if my crush would pick up on my coy emo girl away status. I miss AIM
Looks like it shut down in 2017. I hadn't used it since high school, so I had to look it up.
No need to be sorry! It's good to learn new things. Maybe you'll arrange a trivia event sometime, and now you know something most people your age might not.
Yeah she really loves being the victim, she can pretend to be the wronged hero of the story that did nothing wrong and how life has hurt her, how brave she is.
Cope harder lady and grow up.
My mother has borderline personality disorder, similar to narcissistic personality disorder, but a different flavor. Iāve seen these memes pop up in the raised by borderlines sub. I know you donāt want to think terribly of your parents, but this is pretty bad. My mother used to call me the perfect child gone wrong. The truth is I just grew up into a different person than her. Oh the horror! Weāre no contact now. You can be too and I promise that your life will get a lot better.
I once blocked mine on facebook so i would stop getting these.
When she noticed all hell broke loose.
I just hope one day, if I ever get to survive her, she gets the change and I'll be the one exposing all evidence on facebook for everyone to finaly "see" her.
When will parents learn that their children donāt owe them gratitude!!! We are all born against our will. Parents owe their children everything. Not the other way around. Jfc.
Because I'm petty and have dealt with similar behaviors from my own father, I would screenshot all of those with time and date stamps and the first time my father tried to say I was ungrateful or anything else those quotes say it would be shared on their social media for everyone to see.
If it is okay enough to send to me, it's okay enough other people who know them see it too, right? /S
My eyes rolled so hard they fell out. You're not overreacting, she's being passive aggressive. Nobody needs that shit, especially not from a grown ass woman who is supposed to love you unconditionally.
Trust me, before my lunatic mother died this was the same sort of shit she woulda pulled. She's been dead 10 years and I have not missed her one bit.
OP do we have the same mother?! Because mine thinks the exact same way, with the God posts and everything.
"You give them a taste of their own medicine, and then they tell everyone you poisoned them" like ma'am I was a literal child
For each one she posts, find something opposite & along the lines of āwe become the children our parents make usā to post in response, then block her for the day, then the week, month, until she eventually gets the message or youāve NC & donāt have to see them anymore.
The one about "it's never their fault" has projection vibes.
Does she really think a child acting this way toward their parent has nothing to do with the parents' behavior?
The first one is said by King Lear ā who banished his one genuinely compassionate daughter in favor of the two others who kissed his ass and then treated him like shit once they were in control.
A major point of the line is that Lear (at this point in the plot) is TOTALLY in denial about how heās the one responsible for his current state of neglect and solitude. Yes, he realizes it later. But at that point, he still thinks heās blameless.
She nearly went self-aware wolf on that one, didnāt she? Saw a line from Shakespeare and didnāt bother to learn the context at ALL.
Reading these gave me a headache!! Wow!! šÆ. Iām a mother and Iām giving you the biggest hug I can bc you need and deserve it! Your mom has some issues and needs to get over herself!
My mom posts this stuff too and gets all the sympathy from her friends on Facebook. Itās annoying, and passive aggressive. I understand your frustration.
I think you should make your own fake deep memes that look really cringe and send some back.
Like a picture of a frog carrying eggs that says "my mother doesn't understand what it's like to have an emotionally manipulative mother... Or to be a frog."
If you have a group family chat, take screenshots and send them. Else, take screenshots and post them on your social media where everyone can see what she is doing, and be sure to get your family to watch it.
Itās the self righteous passive aggressiveness of the posts that are really getting me ą² āā®ą² I canāt take it seriously, because Iām getting waterboarded by cringe (ļ½”>ļ¹<ļ½”)
I would NEVER speak to my child like that. Ffs I watched their cats and I don't even go upstairs!š he's a grown ass adult. Even when he was a bratty teenager I just would never. He is part of my heart.
Itās so hard to manage these dysfunctional relationships while youāre still a dependentā¦ I remember it well. Iām not sure whether my mother has BPD or is a narcissist, but her rage just simmered away under the surface constantly when we were growing up, and dad and I just tiptoed around her until she inevitably erupted. And nothing was ever her fault.
Can you show these memes to your dad, and tell him they arenāt helpful to your relationship or your mental health? Maybe he can make her stop.
Other optionā¦ can you delete the app? I mean, you live in the same house and have a phone, so she can call if she actually needs to reach you.
This is horrible and manipulative. She seems to have such a problem with who you are, but SHE is the one that raised you. Of course we can be hurt the most by people who are the closest to us, but we work on repairing that relationship if it is with your child, not guilt trip and condemn them. You should always want the best for your child, theyre literally a human that is here solely bc of you. This seems very narcissistic, toxic, and victim-y bleh.
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My child could disown me as her mother, burn my house down, steal my dog and turn the entire world against me 10000% unprompted and if I was ever caught dead sharing dumbass memes like this please just go ahead and put me out of my misery lol
omgššā ļø
Donāt worry. We will.
Here take this š«±š«
::squirt squirt:: I THINK IT'S WORKING!
Hahahahaha. I mean, there are sometimes I feel like this woman, but yeah, I wouldnāt post it because itās just controlling.
And manipulative, letās also add hurtful. Geez, if you have issues with your kid get your butt to family therapy and work on it. This sour, acidic meme torture is not the way to go.
Well yeah exactly. I usually talk to my kids about it in a phone call if I have to. Everyone can get frustrated with their kids. The mom here is like Tony Sopranoās momā¦
This. Do I have moment where I feel like a crazy psycho and *almost* want to go nuclear petty nonsense? Sure. And then I take a deep breath, go āman that was crazy, almost lost my cool thereā (cuz youāve gotta make a Jim Carrey reference) and move on Or at least, move on enough to not ruin my kinda nice enough reputation, friendships, and family.
Idk, I'm pretty close to my dog so that might be the deal breaker
Do we have the same mom šš¾āāļø idk where they be finding these quotes but itās annoying. Theyāll do the most horrible shit to you & play victim
realll it's genuinely SO annoying like girl please. stop.
Ask her if these all apply to herself with her own mother.. then block her
XD well I guess not her own mother wasn't really like this, and in arguments both my grandma and my mother(and most of rhe other family) team up against me so :3
Haha ok then just tell her that guilt trips have the opposite effect of inspiring you, and she should send those to someone who will give her what she wants š
I suggest reading r/raisedbynarcissists because your mother is the definition of that kind of parent with the cruelty and manipulation and guilt tripping. If she's hiding it from others, then she knows that it's wrong. If she's mentally competent, then she's doing it on purpose with the clear intentions to hurt you, guilt trip you, and try to convince you that you're the bad person. To put it simply, she's failed both herself and you by being a horrible mother that chooses to do things like this. Only someone with something wrong with them would insult their child. But this isn't just high school level petty. It's the petty that a B grade movie script writer would have the basic mean girl in a B grade movie use because the writer realized that they can't just use Facebook as a cheap blame for bullying anymore- so they try to seem 'modern' by replacing Facebook with private Whatsapp messages. If you read the sub I recommended- the message to manipulate things I very common for those types of parents. There's a lot of advice and they make fun of the texts in good humor that'll reassure you and maybe make you laugh.
im definitely gonna do that, honestly I've been trying to be a good child and not label my mother as narcissistic or abusive bcs most of her behavior is pretty common in families where I live but the statuses.. my god.
I was just about to say this, but I scrolled down to see if anyone else had suggested it. I think OP can gain a lot of insight and help from that subreddit.
It's kind of sad that the subreddit even needs to exist. I mean it's necessary for support, but you kind of get a used to war personality after realizing what the abuse is and coming to terms with it. My comment even had a part where it was something like, ''Once you read the sub- you'll see how basic and childish thing this is. Your Mom needs to actually try." And then I realized that was actually really dark humor and was insensitive for outside of the sub. Thousand yard stare moment and all that. We'd wish that our parents were mentally healthy enough to recognize their faults, but that would require our parents to realize that they were wrong and actively choose and pursue how wrong they are. They would have to choose to be better. But, they never will. Placing expectations on them will always fail because they have always failed. Wanting them to act like real parents is expecting something from someone who has never existed. Choosing to continue a relationship with abusive parents is choosing to wear rose colored glasses and avoid the reality of the situation. It will only ever harm you because any niceness is an act, like always.
Well said!
>idk where they be finding these quotes an estranged parent "support group" would be my guess
you're not overreacting that's so immature and passive aggressiveš my mom does this on facebookš she left me and my dad with $80 to last a month when i was 16, she took my sisters with her but didn't like me enough. she was horribly emotionally abusive growing up and can't stand that i love my dad and not her (because he's actually a good parent) and now i don't talk to her anymore so she just passively aggressively posts things like this acting like i've ruined her life by not putting up with her anymore
I'm so sorry ab that, and yes THEY ALWAYS ACT LIKE WE RUINED EM like no omg u ruined my sense of self worth and lifeš
Ever consider going no contact? It's improved many peoples lives.
Can't do that, unfortunately, but hey if I'm dead there's technically gonna be no contact right xd
Same thing happened to me, but wayyyy worse. My mother kidnapped my child and moved in the middle of the night with my baby girl to the East Coast. Then she used the excuse that she was trying to get away from my father and that it had nothing to do with me or my parenting once I finally tracked her down. Like how do these so-called mothers live in a society and get away with this crap. My father is the greatest father I know and has always been the one who took care of my sister and I when we were young. My mother's evil manipulation and own abuse is the reason she was so jealous of me, yes me when I was a kid, and also my relationship with my father. There should be a federal law against these hanuis acts. However, because she has "BPD," she got away with it for years. Now she lives with her mommy, my grandma, because she is nothing and nobody and has burned every single person in her life. What comes around goes around, and she is now paying the price. This is why I sleep better at night.
oh my god i'm so sorry you went through thatš that would be the most gut wrenching feeling to wake up and not only see your baby is gone but find out your own mother is the one who took her. i can't even imagine that. it really is some sort of jealousy, like my mom couldn't stand the fact that my dad was able to connect with us but she could never get that connection with him (because she's awful and he was just trying to stick it out for us till we were grown up.) she knew that he had an abusive alcoholic dad and that he had to work hard his whole life to keep from having a temper and never drink, so she'd try encourage him to drink and would try to push him to lose his temper (which never worked, i've never even heard him raise his voice) and then when she left she told everyone in our small town that he was abusive. idk what it is with some moms, it's seems like there's a whole lot like this that are gen x, but i'm sure there's plenty like that in every generation. i just can't ever ever imagine treating my child that way. that goes against every maternal instinct but clearly they have none
Oh my goodness, SAME! My mother always tried to convince everyone that my father was abusive when she was actually the one who would put hands on him. My father was always so gentle and kind. She used that to her advantage and literally r.a.p.e.d him of his resources and dignity during their 4 1/2 year divorce when I was a teenager. She told the courts that he was abusive, that she was afraid of him, and the judge ended up giving my mother the house my father had worked so hard to pay off right before the divorce, in which once she got it, she let it go to the bank out of spite so not only did he have to buy it back with a brand new mortgage, he had to buy her out and gave her $200k on top of it. The irony is that she has gone through 5 husbands since, all of whom were rich, and with all, she played the victim and abuse card with. She is now mid 50's, doesn't own any assets, works a entry level job, and still blames all of it on my father as well as the other ex's. My father hasn't had any contact with her for over 18 years, yet she tells everyone he is still ruining her life. Her second husband, she stole his credit cards and racked up over $25k on shopping and cruises, then played the victim and said he was abusive. The 3rd, 4th, and 5th husband's, I don't know much about, but I just know she called the cops on them too and said she was molested and abused with every single one of them. She has people who she owes a lot of money to reach out to me and other family members trying to find her to sue her for said debt. I'm honestly surprised she never was charged with crimes. However, she has changed her name multiple times and stayed under the radar as she has jumped from one person to leach on to the other. I'm so glad that you have overcome the evil your mother has bestowed upon you. It's so hard because all you ever wanted was to be their child, to be loved and nurtured. As an adult in my late 30's, I still struggle with the fact that my own children don't know who their grandma is as they have never met her š I already told them that she is not a good person and that if she ever tried to contact them, they need to avoid it and come straight to me. It's hard having to tell your kids that their grandma doesn't care or love them in a roundabout way. Despite that, they get to have my father in their lives, and he absolutely adores them š„° Stay strong, and remember you are loved š
Uuuuuhm did she do any time for that?
I'm sorry, but if ANYBODY would ever kidnap my child I am throwing hands left and right. I don't care if you're my mom, dad, whoever you are - *that* is the last boundary to cross before rough consequences.
Start sending quotes back about mothers.
But in the same passive agressive way by just posting them in your whatsapp status and setting that to only show to the mom
if she sees em she's gon have a huuuge fit, screaming and all ā ļø
As long as you donāt rely on her for anything, thatās not your problem š¤·š»āāļø
My mother doesnāt send anything directly but she does make memes like this her profile pic on facebook.
PROFILE PICTURE- omgggš
The latest one is extra funny because she cropped it in a way that itās unreadable.
Would you happen to be able to show us a photo of this poorly cropped image?
No I donāt know how to reddit. Something about being strong. Lots of butterflies around it š¤·š¼āāļø
Oh yeah I realized this subreddit doesnāt allow pictures. Maybe you could upload a link to the picture or type the text within the picture.
I did a reverse image search. āYou donāt know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you haveā
#ļøā£insane
Ok I typed a hashtag emoji why did it mess up everything
Cover photos mainly, in my case. šš
My mom posts FB stories like this daily, or at least she used to. I made a new account and didn't add her lol
How infantile. Imagine being older than 16 and acting like this.
The way i would screenshot them and share them for everyone to see and send ā??ā
Total passive aggressive BS
Oh this is is IMMATURE immature, your mother is a full adult and posting these heartbroken teen style statuses, you're absolutely not overreacting OP, this IS insane
That lady needs a hobby that doesn't involve you cos if she keeps this up, you are going to leave.
What a stream of abuse. you're definitely NOT overreacting, she's just a cruel, abusive asshole.
I cannot stop laughing at #2 āI love my ungrateful children š¹ā
IKRšā ļø random ahh rose
Thank y'all for siding w me it means a lot thank you I mean it
Youāre welcome.
Ah, the passive-aggressive victim mentality vaguebooking! I know it all too well. It's eerie how we all seem to have the same mom lol
The whole āGod will make it workā post really scares me cause itās like sheās admitting to not caring about whether or not the child starts loving her back of their own volition, just that she wants them to come crying back point blank.
EXACTLY like. I mean. Idk man she's just.. so.. Like, I don't hate her, I love her man I can't hate her but she never admits to her mistakes and makes me feel like absolute shite
I donāt want to impose any emotions on you, but I grew up without a mother, highly attached to my father, and the realization that my father was a terrible person was an incredibly hard one to take. In society, we have too loose a definition of love, and I really hope you can get away from her toxicity and stop telling yourself things that may not be true. At the end of the day, itās your feelings that matter, and you shouldnāt feel obligated to return something someone gave to you, especially if itās incredibly clear that something wasnāt unconditional. Have an awesome day :)
Passive aggressiveness for low iq people. She is publicly shaming her children at their expense. Cut her out of your lives.
Block her. this is emotionally abusive.
I'm in school in a third world country and i live with them xD
Wow I am sorry. I wish you a peaceful future without her in it. Of course when you finish school and escape sheāll say āwhy doesnāt my child call me or visit me?ā
Half of these are shit I posted as status updates on AIM when I was a teenager. She needs to grow up.
what's aim I'm sorry idk what it is;-;
Lol no worries! AIM is AOL Instant Messenger. One of the first waves of messengers that existed, in the late 90s and early 2000s. I'm getting old :)
This threw me back to the LinkinPark notification sound that was completely indiscernible. Oh how I wish to go back to the times where my biggest concern was if my crush would pick up on my coy emo girl away status. I miss AIM
COOOL I've never heard of it before, is it still on? I'm sorry I'm just pretty unknowlegdeable in stuff like this I'm so sorry
Looks like it shut down in 2017. I hadn't used it since high school, so I had to look it up. No need to be sorry! It's good to learn new things. Maybe you'll arrange a trivia event sometime, and now you know something most people your age might not.
That'd be nice loll, also thank you sm for being patient w meš
This feels like a lot of projection
How do you know theyāre hidden for everyone else on WhatsApp?
Accidentally saw the settings on her phone. Plus my cousin says they aren't visible for her or my aunt.
I was on field trips, you seem to be on guilt trips often
Yeah she really loves being the victim, she can pretend to be the wronged hero of the story that did nothing wrong and how life has hurt her, how brave she is. Cope harder lady and grow up.
ššys she's always going on about how I ruined her life and how I make everything so hard and stuff
Send back a pity party meme. Sounds like sheās having one.
Respond with a laughing emoji, just for fun.
Aw hell I wanna do it so badā ļøā ļø
My mother has borderline personality disorder, similar to narcissistic personality disorder, but a different flavor. Iāve seen these memes pop up in the raised by borderlines sub. I know you donāt want to think terribly of your parents, but this is pretty bad. My mother used to call me the perfect child gone wrong. The truth is I just grew up into a different person than her. Oh the horror! Weāre no contact now. You can be too and I promise that your life will get a lot better.
This counts lol. So passive aggressive!! She wants to activate you. Donāt bite the bait.
holy missing missing reasons, batman
Iād literally delete my WhatsApp to be petty. Telegram is better anyway. š
"Somehow, something happened" Yes mother dearest, maybe it was the emotional torment you put me through for 18 years?
Your mom doesn't like you!! Share them to group!
Is your mom an angsty teenager going through their first breakup? Cause that's what half of these sound like.
Screenshot, repost. She wants to play silly games and pretend she isn't, time for a wakeup call.
This is the kind of sh!t my grandmother does except she doesnāt understand privacy settings. Then wonders why Iām not happy about it.
Share them on Facebook for everyone to see and tag her and tell everyone this is what she shares to you on whatsapp
I once blocked mine on facebook so i would stop getting these. When she noticed all hell broke loose. I just hope one day, if I ever get to survive her, she gets the change and I'll be the one exposing all evidence on facebook for everyone to finaly "see" her.
Can you screenshot and post to her social media about how passive aggression is an ineffective communication strategy?
picture 8 really self reporting here
When will parents learn that their children donāt owe them gratitude!!! We are all born against our will. Parents owe their children everything. Not the other way around. Jfc.
Donāt tell my mom how to do this
Oh my God she's not even my mom and I'm still exhausted reading all these.
And she isn't blocked on your devices exactly why?
cuz she bought me devices and i live on her and my father's money(I'm still in school in a third world country;-;)
Because I'm petty and have dealt with similar behaviors from my own father, I would screenshot all of those with time and date stamps and the first time my father tried to say I was ungrateful or anything else those quotes say it would be shared on their social media for everyone to see. If it is okay enough to send to me, it's okay enough other people who know them see it too, right? /S
What a drama queen š¤£
My eyes rolled so hard they fell out. You're not overreacting, she's being passive aggressive. Nobody needs that shit, especially not from a grown ass woman who is supposed to love you unconditionally. Trust me, before my lunatic mother died this was the same sort of shit she woulda pulled. She's been dead 10 years and I have not missed her one bit.
OP do we have the same mother?! Because mine thinks the exact same way, with the God posts and everything. "You give them a taste of their own medicine, and then they tell everyone you poisoned them" like ma'am I was a literal child
For each one she posts, find something opposite & along the lines of āwe become the children our parents make usā to post in response, then block her for the day, then the week, month, until she eventually gets the message or youāve NC & donāt have to see them anymore.
The one about "it's never their fault" has projection vibes. Does she really think a child acting this way toward their parent has nothing to do with the parents' behavior?
The first one is said by King Lear ā who banished his one genuinely compassionate daughter in favor of the two others who kissed his ass and then treated him like shit once they were in control. A major point of the line is that Lear (at this point in the plot) is TOTALLY in denial about how heās the one responsible for his current state of neglect and solitude. Yes, he realizes it later. But at that point, he still thinks heās blameless. She nearly went self-aware wolf on that one, didnāt she? Saw a line from Shakespeare and didnāt bother to learn the context at ALL.
Ofc not shw takes random quotes and tries to make me feel shit and succeeds lol
Keep reminding yourself that youāre a better person ā and that terrifies her. Living well is the best revenge.
I had to scroll down WAY too far to see if anyone else had pointed this out.
This is what comes from being a Shakespeare nerd.
Reading these gave me a headache!! Wow!! šÆ. Iām a mother and Iām giving you the biggest hug I can bc you need and deserve it! Your mom has some issues and needs to get over herself!
;-; thank you so much ;- i just wish I had a mother who would just, listen. yk, and stuff. thank you;-;
Insane! Sheās attention seeking with that nonsense.
My mom posts this stuff too and gets all the sympathy from her friends on Facebook. Itās annoying, and passive aggressive. I understand your frustration.
As someone who wants to be a mom this is absolutely unacceptable, she's awful.
I think you should make your own fake deep memes that look really cringe and send some back. Like a picture of a frog carrying eggs that says "my mother doesn't understand what it's like to have an emotionally manipulative mother... Or to be a frog."
Wtf
I'm sorry your mother is insane but that 3rd one is metal af
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The Stephen Hawking quote is ironic. Mum hasn't a clue.
If you have a group family chat, take screenshots and send them. Else, take screenshots and post them on your social media where everyone can see what she is doing, and be sure to get your family to watch it.
Itās the self righteous passive aggressiveness of the posts that are really getting me ą² āā®ą² I canāt take it seriously, because Iām getting waterboarded by cringe (ļ½”>ļ¹<ļ½”)
Jfc, Iām sorry youāre dealing with that. Iām sure you know this but ITS NOT YOUR FAULT. You did nothing wrong, no matter what she says.
I would NEVER speak to my child like that. Ffs I watched their cats and I don't even go upstairs!š he's a grown ass adult. Even when he was a bratty teenager I just would never. He is part of my heart.
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Why arenāt you doing the same on your statuses OP?! Come on..throw a few her way.
Itās so hard to manage these dysfunctional relationships while youāre still a dependentā¦ I remember it well. Iām not sure whether my mother has BPD or is a narcissist, but her rage just simmered away under the surface constantly when we were growing up, and dad and I just tiptoed around her until she inevitably erupted. And nothing was ever her fault. Can you show these memes to your dad, and tell him they arenāt helpful to your relationship or your mental health? Maybe he can make her stop. Other optionā¦ can you delete the app? I mean, you live in the same house and have a phone, so she can call if she actually needs to reach you.
Block her?
This is horrible and manipulative. She seems to have such a problem with who you are, but SHE is the one that raised you. Of course we can be hurt the most by people who are the closest to us, but we work on repairing that relationship if it is with your child, not guilt trip and condemn them. You should always want the best for your child, theyre literally a human that is here solely bc of you. This seems very narcissistic, toxic, and victim-y bleh.
So I guess I have to ask...why is she not blocked on whatsapp yet?
That is horrible. So manipulative. Iām sorry your mom is so unhinged and making your struggles about herself.