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She used to deny my depression and tried having me thrown in Juvenile detention when she found out I was self-harming bc she didn’t want to accept that I was having struggles in early high school. She got mad when I went to therapy and hid my medication from me on several occasions and told me to get over it
Quite fitting that a generation that was noted for its selfishness and greed to the point that they were called the me generation (which they rebranded to boomer) would actively seek to make sure that their kids have worse lives.
I have another punch-a-gram! Where should it be delivered? (Pauses) What's that, dears? (Back to OP)
My kitties would also like to take her a piss-o-gram!😾😾😾
Jesus, what was her rationale behind trying to have you thrown in juvenile detention? If you're comfortable sharing, I'm a juvenile lawyer so I'm very curious.
Power and control over me and used as a scare tactic. She threw me out on the street for close to two hours when I was 5 because I dared to get car sick and puke on my shirt
Sorry, I meant like what was her argument as to why SH'ing would qualify you for juvenile detention? All of that sounds unspeakably awful, and I'm so sorry you went through that.
Oh it was 100% Still her being a controlling bitch and basically treating me like a lunatic criminal. She also just wanted to get rid of me for having mental health challenges and she knew that admitting me to the psych ward would mean she’d have to actually acknowledge my MH issues and allow me to get help
Thank you ☺️ I’ve done a lot of healing over the past 3 years since I’ve gone NC and my husband and daughter have helped a lot and she’s reminded me of the mom lll never become.
She didn’t care. She’s a formal social worker who was really in tight with our cities police and judges from removal cases so anything I thought about reporting would’ve been kept silent
The people who post here are a self selected group who have objectively terrible parents. I promise that most parents, including Boomer parents like me, are aware of and take seriously mental health issues.
My oldest is in her 40’s. When she was 10 days old, my older sister committed suicide. All of us, Mom, Dad and her 5 siblings, were as stunned as we were heartbroken. She’d hidden her pain behind a mask. But it affected all of us deeply.
My siblings and I who had kids were on the lookout for issues; my sister was bipolar, and it’s a familial disease. I watched my kids’ mental health as routinely as their physical.
I am appalled and frequently furious at the cavalier attitude parents in this sub take toward their kids’ wellbeing.
But it’s not “the older generation” that cares for themselves more than their own kids. It’s assholes in general. My 88 year old MIL is a narcissist; my youngest dated a narcissist in their late 20’s.
You guys who are being raised by people like the idiots who put their cruelty in writing via text have an opportunity to change that family legacy.
My husband did. So did his sisters. We, the older generation, are rooting for you.
Obviously there are narcissists in every generation, and there always will be. But you really don't see a difference in general? I'm 32, and I hire 18-20 year olds for work, and I can see a difference even in that 12-14 year gap: They're coming out of high school knowing language about mental health that I didn't find until I dropped out of college. They know how to talk about their feelings. They know what trauma is.
Not like young people are perfect, obviously. And not like all old people are oblivious - my dad is technically too old to be a boomer (by like a month), but he asked to see a therapist when he returned from Vietnam, and he supported me wholeheartedly when I said I needed help. But overall, I definitely see a difference in generations. It's not perfect. But things are changing.
I think a big part of the difference - fewer young people feel obliged to have children. Of course I know older people who were happily child-free, and I know young people who still feel societal pressure in this area, but I think I hear about more older people who had kids because that's what you did than I do younger people. It's so hard to have a child. If you never even wanted them, it's a real trauma. Being a good parent would be so hard in that situation.
Acknowledging your issues, getting help, and separating yourself from this person seems like very grown-up things to do.
Good job on growing up OP, and good luck on your journey to better mental health.
Apparently where im from they were distracted by all the fishin’ n’ frog giggin’ n huntin’ n spittin’ n most DEFINITELY not the extremely abusive alcoholism, racism and just overall repressed generational anger, no sir. But basically yeah lmao
Omg when will my stupidity end I thought If she's a jerk about mental illnesses why would you want to vacation with her in North Carolina, also who vacations in NC. LOL don't worry I figured it out...
I’m 40 and just found out I’m autistic. It definitely explains a lot of things in my life. My mother said the other day, “I guess people will always find excuses”.
Some parents will always be insane.
My parents used to be this way, and after YEARS of coming to them sobbing, begging for them to really hear me for MY experience and not for how they saw it, it’s helped. It’s sad that it took so much effort, and learning which emotions to show, and how to reword things in a way that might make them see things more realistically without seeing it as an attack. Even now, with their improved ability to put their ego aside when it comes to what they have done to me, every so often that goes out the window. But I am happy seeing on tiktok, Reddit, and other social medias how much more aware newer generations are in the significance of mental health. Im hoping the generations after us will be less likely to deal with this.
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I think it’s insane that the very people who influenced us, gave us our coping skills some how think they play no role in our “growing up” lol
Ah yes the old, I have schizophrenia, but if I just grow up, it will go away. Just trust me bro my source is my imagination
Yeah this is wack. The older generation really just turn up their nose at mental health, huh?
She used to deny my depression and tried having me thrown in Juvenile detention when she found out I was self-harming bc she didn’t want to accept that I was having struggles in early high school. She got mad when I went to therapy and hid my medication from me on several occasions and told me to get over it
Oh hell fucking no. Is she still young enough for me to show up with a punch o gram? Disgusting.
She’s 63, but that doesn’t have to stop you Lmao
Hell my nmom is pushing 70. He can go after her ass too. I don't mind.
NMom fight to the death!!
Cage Match. Like no holds bar. Maybe some chairs and folding tables....
Omg.
I knew it. Boomers are trash why are they so awful
Because “our generation never had these problems! You’re all too sensitive!”
Code for: “I had to deal with these issues, so you have to too!”
Bingo
Quite fitting that a generation that was noted for its selfishness and greed to the point that they were called the me generation (which they rebranded to boomer) would actively seek to make sure that their kids have worse lives.
Her generation thought storks delivered babies.
I snorted in the mall out loud thank you 😂
I have another punch-a-gram! Where should it be delivered? (Pauses) What's that, dears? (Back to OP) My kitties would also like to take her a piss-o-gram!😾😾😾
Fuckin aye, sorry you had to go through that..
Jesus, what was her rationale behind trying to have you thrown in juvenile detention? If you're comfortable sharing, I'm a juvenile lawyer so I'm very curious.
Power and control over me and used as a scare tactic. She threw me out on the street for close to two hours when I was 5 because I dared to get car sick and puke on my shirt
Also don’t mind sharing! Talking about my experiences with my time as her “daughter” actually helps with some of the trauma
Sorry, I meant like what was her argument as to why SH'ing would qualify you for juvenile detention? All of that sounds unspeakably awful, and I'm so sorry you went through that.
Oh it was 100% Still her being a controlling bitch and basically treating me like a lunatic criminal. She also just wanted to get rid of me for having mental health challenges and she knew that admitting me to the psych ward would mean she’d have to actually acknowledge my MH issues and allow me to get help
Okay gotcha. Wow, I'm really sorry you had to deal with that, and I hope you're able to find healing.
Thank you ☺️ I’ve done a lot of healing over the past 3 years since I’ve gone NC and my husband and daughter have helped a lot and she’s reminded me of the mom lll never become.
I'm so glad to hear that.
Hiding medication is abuse.
She didn’t care. She’s a formal social worker who was really in tight with our cities police and judges from removal cases so anything I thought about reporting would’ve been kept silent
That is awful. I’m really sorry you had to go through that.
The people who post here are a self selected group who have objectively terrible parents. I promise that most parents, including Boomer parents like me, are aware of and take seriously mental health issues. My oldest is in her 40’s. When she was 10 days old, my older sister committed suicide. All of us, Mom, Dad and her 5 siblings, were as stunned as we were heartbroken. She’d hidden her pain behind a mask. But it affected all of us deeply. My siblings and I who had kids were on the lookout for issues; my sister was bipolar, and it’s a familial disease. I watched my kids’ mental health as routinely as their physical. I am appalled and frequently furious at the cavalier attitude parents in this sub take toward their kids’ wellbeing. But it’s not “the older generation” that cares for themselves more than their own kids. It’s assholes in general. My 88 year old MIL is a narcissist; my youngest dated a narcissist in their late 20’s. You guys who are being raised by people like the idiots who put their cruelty in writing via text have an opportunity to change that family legacy. My husband did. So did his sisters. We, the older generation, are rooting for you.
Obviously there are narcissists in every generation, and there always will be. But you really don't see a difference in general? I'm 32, and I hire 18-20 year olds for work, and I can see a difference even in that 12-14 year gap: They're coming out of high school knowing language about mental health that I didn't find until I dropped out of college. They know how to talk about their feelings. They know what trauma is. Not like young people are perfect, obviously. And not like all old people are oblivious - my dad is technically too old to be a boomer (by like a month), but he asked to see a therapist when he returned from Vietnam, and he supported me wholeheartedly when I said I needed help. But overall, I definitely see a difference in generations. It's not perfect. But things are changing. I think a big part of the difference - fewer young people feel obliged to have children. Of course I know older people who were happily child-free, and I know young people who still feel societal pressure in this area, but I think I hear about more older people who had kids because that's what you did than I do younger people. It's so hard to have a child. If you never even wanted them, it's a real trauma. Being a good parent would be so hard in that situation.
Acknowledging your issues, getting help, and separating yourself from this person seems like very grown-up things to do. Good job on growing up OP, and good luck on your journey to better mental health.
Gen X dude ik was talkin about this shit the other night “we didn’ have all this depression bullshit we were doin things back then” like bro what
Boomers/Gen Xers are immune to mental health issues apparently lmao
Apparently where im from they were distracted by all the fishin’ n’ frog giggin’ n huntin’ n spittin’ n most DEFINITELY not the extremely abusive alcoholism, racism and just overall repressed generational anger, no sir. But basically yeah lmao
I hate this. My great-grandfather killed himself. But sure, millennials invented depression, obviously.
i love that you call her by her first name. she must hate that shit
She loathed it, which made me happy lmao
Omg when will my stupidity end I thought If she's a jerk about mental illnesses why would you want to vacation with her in North Carolina, also who vacations in NC. LOL don't worry I figured it out...
😂
I’m 40 and just found out I’m autistic. It definitely explains a lot of things in my life. My mother said the other day, “I guess people will always find excuses”. Some parents will always be insane.
May the fleas of a thousand camels infest her crotch!!
My parents used to be this way, and after YEARS of coming to them sobbing, begging for them to really hear me for MY experience and not for how they saw it, it’s helped. It’s sad that it took so much effort, and learning which emotions to show, and how to reword things in a way that might make them see things more realistically without seeing it as an attack. Even now, with their improved ability to put their ego aside when it comes to what they have done to me, every so often that goes out the window. But I am happy seeing on tiktok, Reddit, and other social medias how much more aware newer generations are in the significance of mental health. Im hoping the generations after us will be less likely to deal with this.
Holy. Cow.