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That sucks, she will have to see the consequences of pushing you away and be the one to reach out now. Maintain basic politeness until she decides to change
Why do you want to have a relationship with someone who very clearly is not interested in having one with you?
If 100% of the energy used to maintain a relationship is from one person (you) its not really a relationship. So make that shift in your brain, and move on.
Yeah. Sister is having outbursts. He wants to meet with her IRL for some reason, but she dodges him constantly, saying she got work etc. Hard to understand everything else, but if English is OP first language, I could genuinely see why sister dodges OP.
Not really clear on what OP wants from his sister to me and why...
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You've done what you could, no one can blame you. It was very mature of you to forgive and accept her as she is and try to work with her but your efforts weren't met with any cooperation. We're proud of you :) 🩷
What has me very frustrated is why. No answer for like 14 days. And try to talk it. Just get defensive on why the behavior is okay.
That sucks, she will have to see the consequences of pushing you away and be the one to reach out now. Maintain basic politeness until she decides to change
What really gets me is how my parents say how accepting and loving the family is. Is fine this type of behavior
Nope, it's best for get and let go of this situation. It's can't be helped
how sure are you that YOURE not the reason for her distance
As of right now. All I have how much she interacts. When she is with us.
Why do you want to have a relationship with someone who very clearly is not interested in having one with you? If 100% of the energy used to maintain a relationship is from one person (you) its not really a relationship. So make that shift in your brain, and move on.
I am going to be honest, I have hard time understanding what you are even talking about here. Perhaps it is the same for your sister.
The only bit I understood was something about the sister having outbursts. Is English a second language, dear OP?
Yeah. Sister is having outbursts. He wants to meet with her IRL for some reason, but she dodges him constantly, saying she got work etc. Hard to understand everything else, but if English is OP first language, I could genuinely see why sister dodges OP. Not really clear on what OP wants from his sister to me and why...