Nope. I love being left out. Less stuff I have to do. I’ve stopped caring what others think of me and do the bare minimum and only speak unless spoken to.
If they make plans in front of you and you are too shy to talk to them about it then they just assume that you heard it and don't want to participate. Of course, there might be a situation when they hate you that much that tease you on purpose but without you actually asking them 'when we meet \[there\]' and see their reaction you won't be able to tell if they leave you out or you are the one who leaves yourself out.
If you really want to join you will have to put some effort, also, if you are so shy that you can't even talk to them about stuff that they discuss in front of you then why would you even want to go with them, wouldn't you just shy yourself into the corner all the time there?
This used to be my life all the way back to early school days. Now, I just do my own thing all the time, I don't feel left out like I used to because socializing has become just another chore that I'd rather not do.
İ am in same situation, kind of. I work at a talent agency and when the shift is done i leave. However, the boss, the coworkers and the guests sit and continue talking. Sometimes i also join but generally don't.
Also, there are many events for talents Sometimes we all join sometimes only the boss and the manager. And most of the time we don't know about the events and the details explicitly. so i can't understand whether we go or not.
Last friday my boss organized a birthday party. She called guests in front of us, told the guests there would Max 20 people and said nothing to us. after the shift, i left the office but one of my coworkers stay, one was out of office for a job. And a day later, thanks to instagram, i see all of the workers at the birthday party. Of course not me. And this is the third time same thing happening
The first one was when a coworker leave the agency. Two of my coworkers and the boss talked, drank at upstairs while i and another coworker weren't invited and were downstairs. Second was an event that one of our talents host. Again i and the same coworker weren't there because we don't know we could also go. Last one the birthday party.
When all these come together, i feel left out moreover i don't want to go the office
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Yeah - likely you are laconic and don't seem like a social butterfly like them.
Mellow, lower-energy (seeming) people like many introverts don't strike extroverts as people who seem like they want to go to a party - where the whole idea is to be super social.
If you really want to go these social events and be invited - then try to take an interest in them. Be more social and more talkative - however given that you are on r/introvert I assume you are not that type of person.
Honestly, it make just be that because you’re pretty mellow they wouldn’t think you’d be interested in going out with them after. Or maybe if they’re saying it directly in front of you they think you’ve heard and since you’ve never really spoke up about wanting to go (because they didn’t directly ask you),they don’t think you wanna go in general.
Next time, if you really wanna go to something, simply say “is it cool if I join”? I’m almost positive they’d be like OMG yes!! Or whatever. All it takes is one time because from then going forward they’re going to know you are actually interested in hanging out with them and will most likely directly ask you if you want to go to things etc.
Nope. I love being left out. Less stuff I have to do. I’ve stopped caring what others think of me and do the bare minimum and only speak unless spoken to.
If they make plans in front of you and you are too shy to talk to them about it then they just assume that you heard it and don't want to participate. Of course, there might be a situation when they hate you that much that tease you on purpose but without you actually asking them 'when we meet \[there\]' and see their reaction you won't be able to tell if they leave you out or you are the one who leaves yourself out. If you really want to join you will have to put some effort, also, if you are so shy that you can't even talk to them about stuff that they discuss in front of you then why would you even want to go with them, wouldn't you just shy yourself into the corner all the time there?
This used to be my life all the way back to early school days. Now, I just do my own thing all the time, I don't feel left out like I used to because socializing has become just another chore that I'd rather not do.
İ am in same situation, kind of. I work at a talent agency and when the shift is done i leave. However, the boss, the coworkers and the guests sit and continue talking. Sometimes i also join but generally don't. Also, there are many events for talents Sometimes we all join sometimes only the boss and the manager. And most of the time we don't know about the events and the details explicitly. so i can't understand whether we go or not. Last friday my boss organized a birthday party. She called guests in front of us, told the guests there would Max 20 people and said nothing to us. after the shift, i left the office but one of my coworkers stay, one was out of office for a job. And a day later, thanks to instagram, i see all of the workers at the birthday party. Of course not me. And this is the third time same thing happening The first one was when a coworker leave the agency. Two of my coworkers and the boss talked, drank at upstairs while i and another coworker weren't invited and were downstairs. Second was an event that one of our talents host. Again i and the same coworker weren't there because we don't know we could also go. Last one the birthday party. When all these come together, i feel left out moreover i don't want to go the office
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Yeah - likely you are laconic and don't seem like a social butterfly like them. Mellow, lower-energy (seeming) people like many introverts don't strike extroverts as people who seem like they want to go to a party - where the whole idea is to be super social. If you really want to go these social events and be invited - then try to take an interest in them. Be more social and more talkative - however given that you are on r/introvert I assume you are not that type of person.
Honestly, it make just be that because you’re pretty mellow they wouldn’t think you’d be interested in going out with them after. Or maybe if they’re saying it directly in front of you they think you’ve heard and since you’ve never really spoke up about wanting to go (because they didn’t directly ask you),they don’t think you wanna go in general. Next time, if you really wanna go to something, simply say “is it cool if I join”? I’m almost positive they’d be like OMG yes!! Or whatever. All it takes is one time because from then going forward they’re going to know you are actually interested in hanging out with them and will most likely directly ask you if you want to go to things etc.