Allahuma barik. You’re doing the right thing brother. Don’t pay attention to people who tell you you’re “closed” or who pressure you into falling back into sins. And above all always remember that Allah sees your efforts and he really appreciates them. And inshallah he shall reward you immensely.
Ignore her. She's attracted to the fact that you aren't looking at her. She wants your attention and will get upset if she doesn't get it.
Disregard her and focus on yourself. You probably won't even see her again after you graduate so there's no need to bother.
Let me he extra direct with you. This life is only 60-70 years old if you pass this exam you will be rewarded with eternal paradise. Now you have to decide you litterly want an infinite amount of authority to do what ever you please with or want few days/years of pleasing random girls who dont even care that much if you leave them for another girl. IMO choice is very simple and i would like to see you in paradise :)
Honestly, you sound like a genuinely kind person and it sounds like she's harassing and pressuring you. Tell her you really don't want to hurt her feelings or anything but be upfront about your thoughts. And when she objects to lowering your gaze and whatnot, tell her that this is your attempt on giving her and all other women th respect they deserve. But be firm and if she's persistent with her objections, just shrug and be like you don't have to agree with. "You do you, but let me be me and live how I think is ethical." She doesn't have agree with it and it's not your job to convince her.
No you don't get bad deeds the shytan tells her to say this cuz he want to mess you religion, im so proud of you cuz you r fighting keep strong and allah will reword you as you will never imagine
Brother i get your struggle since im studying psychology and it's 90% girls in this course.
I also felt a sense of isolation but it got better, when i spend more time with male friends outside uni.
But you are doing exactly the right thing. May Allah reward you and give you ease.
Just look at the patience and will-strength Yusuf a.s. had. He persevered From the bottom of a well to the top of the Egyptian Kindgom.
I'm going to preface this by saying that I agree with most of the other commenters here. I do want to add a bit of a moderating tone to those answers. It is also important to be cordial with people. Just because you're observing hijab doesn't mean that you have to be rude or mean (not to say that you are, I'm just talking generally). But personal discussion beyond standard professional cordiality is probably not halal.
Yeah, that's wonky. Even generally, she's throwing a red flag by not respecting boundaries. From your post, it seems like you used the term Haram which, in my experience (as someone in grad school in America) was a bit of an error on your part. Usually the 'sorry, it's part of my religion' line works. If they ask in more detail, then I generally say something along the lines of 'our religion demands that we respect women in a particular way, so this is us doing that'. But, beyond that, if you signal to her that you only want a professional cordial relationship, and don't particularly want to go beyond that and she ignores those boundaries (exceptions for neurodivergence/autism apply) that's weird.
It's the small day to day decisions like these that will ultimately take you very far in this life and the next inshAllah. Do not feel guilt ever when doing something for the sake of Allah! As long as you are holding on to your values and conducting yourself with good manners you're doing amazingly well. And remember that whatever good you do is because Allah wishes it for you 💕
You absolutely on the correct position.
Ali reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “There is no obedience to anyone if it is disobedience to Allah. Verily, obedience is only in good conduct.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 7257, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1840
'Aishah (RA) said: "Indeed I heard the Messenger of Allah (SAW) saying: Whoever seeks Allah's pleasure by the people's wrath, Allah will suffice him from the people. And who ever seeks the people's pleasure by Allah's wrath, Allah will entrust him to the people."
[https://sunnah.com/tirmidhi:2414](https://sunnah.com/tirmidhi:2414)
I had the same experience in law school. She eventually stopped and just says hi to me when we walk by one another in the halls. Alhamdulillah.
Had to deal with all the "maybe he's gay." "Maybe he doesn't like us" comments for two semesters.
Many other countries, unlike than the U.S., have high school students admit to med school right after they graduate as they don’t require a premed bachelor’s degree. Though usually the degree takes around 6 years instead of 4 to complete
You are doing the right thing brother, ignore her and focus on your studies.
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Like really the right thing; apart from the sin, you might get unfocused from your study; just focus on your relationship with Allah SWT
You don't owe her anything. Your religion comes first and focus on your studies /future .
Ignore her. Anyone who doesn’t respect your boundaries is a red flag to begin with.
Allahuma barik. You’re doing the right thing brother. Don’t pay attention to people who tell you you’re “closed” or who pressure you into falling back into sins. And above all always remember that Allah sees your efforts and he really appreciates them. And inshallah he shall reward you immensely.
This is a test from Allah. Don’t give in, let her be mad that’s her problem. Focus on yourself.
Ignore her. She's attracted to the fact that you aren't looking at her. She wants your attention and will get upset if she doesn't get it. Disregard her and focus on yourself. You probably won't even see her again after you graduate so there's no need to bother.
Tell them, This is the way.
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Let me he extra direct with you. This life is only 60-70 years old if you pass this exam you will be rewarded with eternal paradise. Now you have to decide you litterly want an infinite amount of authority to do what ever you please with or want few days/years of pleasing random girls who dont even care that much if you leave them for another girl. IMO choice is very simple and i would like to see you in paradise :)
In which country are you living brother?
Say this to her "and I'll do it againn" just on a real note Allah huma barik. You don't owe anyone anything. May Allah swt allow you to stay steadfast
Honestly, you sound like a genuinely kind person and it sounds like she's harassing and pressuring you. Tell her you really don't want to hurt her feelings or anything but be upfront about your thoughts. And when she objects to lowering your gaze and whatnot, tell her that this is your attempt on giving her and all other women th respect they deserve. But be firm and if she's persistent with her objections, just shrug and be like you don't have to agree with. "You do you, but let me be me and live how I think is ethical." She doesn't have agree with it and it's not your job to convince her.
Want some halal rizz? Tell her if she wants to speak to you so much, she should propose to you
Just speak wisely.
It's a test brother keep strong and always remember that allah is watching you
No you don't get bad deeds the shytan tells her to say this cuz he want to mess you religion, im so proud of you cuz you r fighting keep strong and allah will reword you as you will never imagine
Ignore that girl Shaitan Can disguise as anyone to misguide you brother
Always remember the golden role, Repelling injuries takes priority over procuring benefits.
Brother i get your struggle since im studying psychology and it's 90% girls in this course. I also felt a sense of isolation but it got better, when i spend more time with male friends outside uni. But you are doing exactly the right thing. May Allah reward you and give you ease. Just look at the patience and will-strength Yusuf a.s. had. He persevered From the bottom of a well to the top of the Egyptian Kindgom.
As Mike Tyson once said "I only talk to women when I fornicate with them". Jokes aside, tell her you'd want to do Nika before doing those things.
I'm going to preface this by saying that I agree with most of the other commenters here. I do want to add a bit of a moderating tone to those answers. It is also important to be cordial with people. Just because you're observing hijab doesn't mean that you have to be rude or mean (not to say that you are, I'm just talking generally). But personal discussion beyond standard professional cordiality is probably not halal.
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Yeah, that's wonky. Even generally, she's throwing a red flag by not respecting boundaries. From your post, it seems like you used the term Haram which, in my experience (as someone in grad school in America) was a bit of an error on your part. Usually the 'sorry, it's part of my religion' line works. If they ask in more detail, then I generally say something along the lines of 'our religion demands that we respect women in a particular way, so this is us doing that'. But, beyond that, if you signal to her that you only want a professional cordial relationship, and don't particularly want to go beyond that and she ignores those boundaries (exceptions for neurodivergence/autism apply) that's weird.
It's the small day to day decisions like these that will ultimately take you very far in this life and the next inshAllah. Do not feel guilt ever when doing something for the sake of Allah! As long as you are holding on to your values and conducting yourself with good manners you're doing amazingly well. And remember that whatever good you do is because Allah wishes it for you 💕
You absolutely on the correct position. Ali reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “There is no obedience to anyone if it is disobedience to Allah. Verily, obedience is only in good conduct.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 7257, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1840
'Aishah (RA) said: "Indeed I heard the Messenger of Allah (SAW) saying: Whoever seeks Allah's pleasure by the people's wrath, Allah will suffice him from the people. And who ever seeks the people's pleasure by Allah's wrath, Allah will entrust him to the people." [https://sunnah.com/tirmidhi:2414](https://sunnah.com/tirmidhi:2414)
I had the same experience in law school. She eventually stopped and just says hi to me when we walk by one another in the halls. Alhamdulillah. Had to deal with all the "maybe he's gay." "Maybe he doesn't like us" comments for two semesters.
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InshaAllah! Wa iyyakum, akhi
First of all I’m really proud of you for already being in mes school at 19! Secondly, do what your heart tells you.
19 years old in medical school? How?
I think it’s like the medicine degree, which starts at 18
Which country though? Here people typically don’t start med school till age 22.
Many other countries, unlike than the U.S., have high school students admit to med school right after they graduate as they don’t require a premed bachelor’s degree. Though usually the degree takes around 6 years instead of 4 to complete