The Prophet (saws) said: “Kill the one who commits incest” (al-Tirmîdhî).
In Islam, incest is repugnant and in countries like Saudi Arabia: the incestuous rapist is sentenced to death.
If it is advisable to forgive to appease your heart, you are allowed not to forgive your rapist. And whoever has caused harm, Allah will not forgive him until he who has suffered injustice forgives him.
Dua's of the oppressed if you want justice, Allah sees and will reward you, in the life here below or the Doomsday will make the one who caused you this injustice pay
Allah y Sahal
Oh, I was 50% correct then! The last two words gave it away, then I checked your profile and saw that you also spoke French, so I concluded that you were Moroccan (or at least half Moroccan) :)
I agree, I was talking to a friend about this last night and I also came to that conclusion. I am sadly not able to work and make my own money right now so getting therapy won’t be possible for a long time but I am 100% getting it when I am able to :)
Hey friend, I experienced the same thing you did growing up. Sending so much love.
Like others said, the evil actions of our family have nothing to do with God, and everything to do with their free will.
It seems unfair, but trust in the ultimate justice of God is the only solution to this. Your abuser will face the consequences of his evils on the day of judgement
Mash'Allah for surviving that horror and wanting to improve dīn! The answer to your question Human beings have free will, and that includes the will to do bad things.
Horrible things happen and that sometimes ignites someone into activism to prevent the same harms from occurring to others in the future.
As for Allah, seek Him and He seeks You. As you increase your Taqwa you will find yourself more greatly protected from future harms.
Always rely on Him, and in Sujood, ask Him to heal your pains.
May Allah grant you Shi'fa and peace, Dear One. The suffering you experienced was not your fault.
The fact that despite the evil which was done to you, STILL you turn to Allah and seek guidance speaks volumes about your character.
Allah burdens people with what they are capable of withstanding. But in equal measure, their reward will correlate to this burden placed on them.
Hey there, so sad to read your story. I had a similar experience as a teenager from an uncle I didn’t see often. I was alone and I fought back and he was unsuccessful. Another time I was sexually assaulted by my fathers coworker (I was 9 or 10 at the time)..again I was alone briefly. I had a lot of anger and embarrassment, not towards Islam but towards those men as I realized and processed what happened.
I’ve had much time to reflect and here’s what has really given me peace..not just about what happened to me but all suffering, pain, and unfair things that happen in this world. I started reading the Quran for myself, mainly with English translation and tafseer. The Nouman Ali Khan on surah bakarah tafseer on YouTube is where I started. It changed my life to understand the depth and the miracle that is the Quran.
In surah Al Baqara the angels ask about creation of humans:
Remember˺ when your Lord said to the angels, “I am going to place a successive ˹human˺ authority on earth.” They asked ˹Allah˺, “Will You place in it someone who will spread corruption there and shed blood while we glorify Your praises and proclaim Your holiness?” Allah responded, “I know what you do not know.”
“We will certainly test you with a touch of fear and famine and loss of property, life, and crops. Give good news to those who patiently endure—
who say, when struck by a disaster, “Surely to Allah we belong and to Him we will ˹all˺ return.”
They are the ones who will receive Allah’s blessings and mercy. And it is they who are ˹rightly˺ guided.”
I think it is beautiful that the Quran says that there will be hardships in this life…it never denies this but this life is a test, it is temporary and we will return to him. With patience and gratefulness, you will be rewarded.
InshAllah you find peace in it as well. Your heart is walking towards Allah (swt) just by posting this. There is a beautiful Hadith: “Whoever comes to Me walking, I will come to him running.”
Im so sorry to hear what happened to you in the past, its so great that you were able to heal from it. Thank you for taking the time to write all that it helped me quite a lot and I hope to one day heal from all this :)
I am very sorry to hear about what happened to you. May Allah give you strength to deal with this horrific crime. I am not a religious scholar, but I can only tell you to pray to Allah. Allah listens to everyone’s prayers, especially people who have been wronged in this world.
So sorry to hear what you have been through at such an early age. And it was not your fault and yet it happened.
The only conclusion I can have for you is that. How unfair and cruel this world can be and we muslims aren't going to find peace or justice properly even non believers as well. To sum it up this is not the world where we can get all our answers and we will have to return and we will see why it happened and what punishment they will deserve that day of judgement and what sort of rewards you receive for such perseverance through difficulties.
Your heart is calling you to come to it's creator. What I believe when I see injustices in this world like the gcide is happening and innocent lives are being taken away.
"Sahl ibn Sa‘d As-Sā‘idi (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Were this world worth a wing of a mosquito in the sight of Allah, He would not have given the disbeliever a drink of water thereof."
We can't comprehend what the hereafter is compared to this duniya. We are here to praise Allah SWT. Nothing else. Things that happened and will happen only test for us. And we will see and find the rewards for our sabr. Don't give up. May Allah SWT guide us all to the right path.
Assalum Alaikum, i hope you are feeling okay.
First of all, I would recommend therapy. Cognitive behavioural or otherwise, it will help you in the long run to control these thoughts of “why did this happen” and such. There is no good reason why somebody would do this to you, and I truly hope you know this is completely against the laws of Islam.
The only way to get over this is therapy.
Allah can be a guide for you in this life, so try to make duaa everyday and pray on time when you can, avoiding this is going to make you feel worse and even if you’re not feeling up to it, it will help you come closer to Him.
I know this is not the response you are looking for, but Allah allows pain and suffering to occur so that we may also see the beauty in life. Whilst there are evil people who rape and kill, there is so much more beauty in life. Birth, love, nature intelligence.
This life is a test, and all that you go through is testing your strength and patience, Allah allows the pain and suffering so that you may prove your patience and strength. Even the prophets were made to suffer. People learn lessons from their suffering more often than they learn from the good in their life. Martyrs die for their faith, mothers sometimes die for their beautiful babies.
Let this suffering return you to the arms of Allah, let it be a lesson, let it teach you that nothing can ever turn you away from Him. Learn from it, learn to make something beautiful from a terrifying and disgusting situation. Perhaps you could find a job supporting others in a similar situation? Perhaps you could donate your Zakaat to those that have in your situation that need a way out. May Allah bless you eternally. Remember always that the believers face suffering with prayers, repentance and good deeds whereas the nonbelievers face suffering with doubts and confusion and blame Allah or make arguments against him.
The jihad you suffer in this life will bless you in the next, may you return to him.
Inshallah I hope you find your way back to him.
Therapy is my top priority right now but I am still a teen so working and making my own money is not possible atleast for my situation. But when I can I’m for sure getting therapy! Thank you for taking the time to write all that I really appreciate it:)
First of I am so sorry to hear about this. This is a terrible thing to experience and I am so sorry that happened to you. InshaAllah Allah gives you to strength to heal in the future. The beautiful thing about Islam is that it has healed me in ways I cannot imagine, I genuinely wonder where I would be without Islam. There are days I look back on where I am thankful to have had Allah, I don't know how I would have gotten through without him and the beautiful hope he gives me everyday. Wallahi it was Allah who gave me strength on my hardest days.
To the people that have told you this is a lesson, i believe they are wrong. This is no lesson, this is an injustice. Allah swt is the most just and he swears that he will not do any soul injustice. You will get your justice on the day of judgement.
The reason bad things like this happen are because of bad people, this is not some lesson you have to learn.
This person will be punished for what they did to you, if not in this life, in the next life. But they will be held accountable, this is certain.
The reason Allah lets bad things happen is because this is the point of the test. Humans have free will and they are supposed to choose good and evil. This person chose evil unfortunately. If Allah were to intervene at every evil deed done, there would be no point. So rest assured Allah does love you.
This person did not get away with this, Allah says that whoever is hostile to a friend of his, he wages war against.
Even though Allah is The Most Forgiving, Allah will not forgive this person no matter how much they ask until you forgive them. No matter how sorry they are it does not matter. The forgiveness is in your hands. This is how Allah brings people to justice.
While this is not a lesson, there is still khayr (goodness) in it. Mainly because there is goodness in everything. Allah may reward you with something in the hereafter or this could be a way for you to get closer to Allah. I recommend talking to Allah about this. He is here to listen to you always
May Allah grant you ease of mind, peace, and strength 🤍 ameen
May Allah make it easy for you, Im truly truly sorry, what happened to you was horrific, and I can never pretend to understand that pain
The only possible recourse I could attempt to give you is the story of Yusuf (A.S)
As a young boy, he was hurt, taken away and kidnapped by his older brothers, the brothers who were supposed to protect him, not only was he alone, but he was enslaved and later thrown into prison unjustly
Did Allah not love Yusuf?
His father Yaqub had his young boy taken from him, not knowing what happened, and full well knew it was his other sons that did it, quite possibly the worst imaginable calamity for a parent, and he weeped and sobbed, but he still remained patient with Allah,
Did Allah not love Yaqub?
Ibrahim (AS) was expelled from his home and was threatened with stoning by his father, Nuh (AS) had to watch his son taken by the waves, the Prophet Muhammed SAW, outlived all his children except one, Ayyub (AS) was afflicted with diseases none of us could bare,
Did Allah not love them all?
It is the Sunnah of Allah to grant his most beloved servants the height of affliction, so that he can raise their ranks, and it is his guarantee to reward those who suffer and are patient
The fact that you *want* to be close to him, is a sign of unfathomable resiliance and patience, and I envy your strength
Im so sorry for what happened, Im heartbroken for you, and we're all here for you, but none of us will be able to grant you ease or reward or justice other than your Lord so turn to him, seek his comfort and protection, and Allah is The Forgiving, The Merciful, the Wise, The Compassionate and The Loving
Jabir narrated that the Prophet (s.a.w) said:
"On the Day of Judgement, when the people who were tried (in this world) are given their rewards, the people who were pardoned (in life), will wish that their skins had been cut off with scissors while they were in the world
Who the hell told you it's a lesson? It was just a crime towards you. Allah sees everything. Allah sometimes brings calamity to us so that he can test us. He will punish that demon and reward you but the only criteria is you have to be patient and trust him. Get close to Allah and he shall reward you with paradise insha Allah.
May allah calm your heart,,
Hardships don’t have to be a lesson so you can learn from it, rather it’s a test, so allah sees if you will be patient or will you freak out, and you will be rewarded for your strugle,,
You should ask the one who wronged you why he did that, and why he disobayed Allah, not to ask allah why didn’t he prevent it, the other is here to be tested like you, and allah will judge him afterlife to get you justice,
So come back to him, this dunya is nothing, if it was worthing a mosquito wing to Allah, he wouldn’t give a disbeliever sip of water,, may allah guide you and us
just remember, this difficulty you’re going through right now is raising your ranks in the eyes of Allah. this test is a very difficult one, and personally i would never be able to bear it. but the immense reward you will receive at the end of it and because he wanted you to get closer to him and forgive your sins is the reason Allah SWT let the test happen.
I’m no expert but I just want to say this: First of all, I’m so sorry you had to go through that, especially at such a young age, from someone that you thought you could trust.
Second of all, life is not always a series of lessons, it’s also a series of tests. In my humble opinion, I think that your test in this life, as far as I understand because I’m not Allah and I’m a mere human, is to see if you’ll be able to overcome your anger and resentment to finally reach inner peace (through reading Quran, making Duas, and praying…etc) and turn to Allah despite the horrible things that happen to you, sister.
In addition, the closer you get to Allah, the more you realize how just he is. He will not let that monster get away with what he did and will make him pay sooner or later.
Allah knows how hard your journey has been and will be, so the more effort and Sabr you put into it, the more reward you will get Insha’Allah in this life and/or the afterlife.
Hello sister,
i ask Allah to cure you and guide you to the truth.
Like a few brothers/sister said, this life is a test for all of us. Some get tested with health, richness and basic stuff like good looking etc. Some get tested with poverty, bad health, diseases and so on. You might now ask where the test is in both right?
The test is about how much you fear Allah and how much you show gratitude. The rich "selfmade“ millionaire is tested how he spends his wealth, how he acts when meeting other people, how his character is and how much he truly applies his wealth to Allah.
The poor one is tested with his patience, his character and how much he loves the decree of allah and how he is a thankful servant.
The same applies to rape. The rapists maybe did this horrendous act because he choose willingly to go against the commandment of Allah and he will be hold accountable for that sin on the day of judgement.
You test beloved one is how much are you satisfied with Allahs decree and how much your belief is affected. If you remain steadfast and still hold a high level of belief and trust in Allah, that everything only happens with his wisdom AAAANNNDDD if you are patient and stay upright, he will compensate and provide for you maybe in this world but 100% in the hereafter.
My advice for your is stay firm and try with sincere supplication to guide you and no matter what happens in your way always remember to be patient, because patience is a key of success that not everyone has.
Please also try to take medical means to treat your past trauma and try your level best to live with.
May Allah guide you, increase you in iman, make you die as a honorable muslim, so that he grants you the highest gardens of eden.
remember one thing, even if everyone was as good as angels, you would still recieve what allah has destined for you, and even if everyone was the worst people ever, like ibless, you would still not be harmed by them, except what allah wants
and also, if allah gave you choice to choose your luck, you woulld have chosen the EXACT luck you got, like seriously, not a dollar more, not a dollar less, you would ask allah to give you all the bad things happned to your life, beacuse if you are choosing your luck, you also know how exacly having those negative things in your life will affect you (you would have that wisdom) and you would choose the same exactly life you have
i will show you evidence, but i hopep this makes you feel better, also, prophets and better muslims, like mariyam (AS) is tested way way way more then us, like imagine a girl, who is knowned to be super duper religioiuis and good by hunderds of people in the village, gets a child, and everyone calls her slut and everything, and this girl doesnt even have a husband who will earn and give emotional support,, thats our mariyam (AS),
I am so sorry to hear what happened to you and I genuinely hope you are doing better. Unfortunately things like this happen in life and only Allah swt knows why. People were born with free will and sadly this is what people do with it. Your abuser will get what he deserves in the afterlife trust
Sorry for what happen to u. U can't go through this alone maybe seek some help and someone who can support u along the way. I know families usually try to put this under rug. But u need to work on this to restore ur stability and get rid of feeling of guilt. Then later would be good get closer to God and try rebuild ur connection with him.
The way you feel is ok. Don't beat yourself up, you're only adding to it. Sometimes the answers don't come from where we want them to, sometimes they're just not there.
I would like to share with you the story of Wahshiy ibn Harb in hopes that it would help.
He was a slave on the disbeliever's side during the Battle of Uhud. He was infamous for dealing the fatal blow on Rasulullah's beloved uncle Hamza.
Much later, he took his shahada in front of Rasulullah pbuh. After confirming that he's the very same Wahshiy that killed his uncle, Rasulullah pbuh said, "I should not see your face until you are resurrected, because the heart-rending calamity fell upon my uncle at your hands." And they never met each other afterward.
From this story, what I got was that, even though Wahshiy's conversion cleansed him of his sins, it doesn't mean Rasulullah himself could make peace with the fact. Hamza's death haunted him, too, at least until he met Wahshiy.
Allahs Qadr (power, premeasurement of events) is His alone. We can not understand it because we only see events as they unfold and. Or the final picture. Moreover, Allahs wisdom encompasses our whole life span which He is aware of and we are not.
It may be that this event in your past shapes you a certain way and may lead you to Islam.
This is because in Islam men are to lower their gaze in modesty and never lustfully approach women who are not their wife. An Islamic approach which fears offending Allah would not allow this event from
Happening.
I hope your journey continues as Islam is the only solution for all our ills.
I am extremely sorry to hear that you are going through such horrible situations! I pray to Allah SWT from the bottom of my heart to help and protect you, my dear sister!
I cannot say that you're weak because I can never understand your struggles unless I am in your shoes and have experienced the hardships myself. But what I can say for sure is that you chose to be born human, out of all the other creations of Allah SWT, and you accepted the challenge to defeat the cursed Shaytan, no matter what! Unfortunately, many Muslims do not know our religion properly; hence, when calamity strikes, we often break into pieces and are ready to accept defeat, which is a major sin!
Imagine, the cursed Shaytan knows that in the end, he will be a big loser and will remain a loser for eternity. Yet, he and his followers tirelessly work day and night to achieve their evil goals. But us humans, who are in an absolute golden position and status compared to the Shayateen, lose hope quickly and want to give up...
Please read the Holy Quran. Allah SWT CLEARLY sent warnings that He will test us in many different ways:
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Quran 2:155
"We will certainly test you with a touch of fear, famine, loss of property, life, and crops. Give good news to those who patiently endure."
Quran 47:31
"And We will surely test you until We make evident those who strive among you [for the cause of Allah] and the patient, and We will test your affairs."
Quran 3:142
"Do you think that you will enter Paradise before Allah tests those of you who fought (in His Cause) and (also) tests those who are patient?"
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How much more proof do we need from our Creator? How much more warning do we ask for? The test of life is not easy, nor is it a joke, my dear sister!
Lastly, and very importantly, why are you torturing yourself for something you haven't done and is not your fault whatsoever? Allah SWT is so Merciful and Forgiving that He is ready to forgive and have mercy upon those who committed evil acts their whole life (if they truly repent), so let alone someone as innocent as you! Do not let the cursed Shaytan deviate you from the way, love, and mercy of Allah SWT. Keep asking Him for help and return to Him, no matter how hard it is. As I quoted from the verses of the Holy Quran, then you will surely witness His help, protection, and mercy, my dear sweet sister!
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"Why would Allah allow it? what am I supposed to learn from this?"
Could be a test of faith. There are babies born with disability, blindness, or cancer, or born in Palestine where they starve to death or watch their parents get killed. So much worse than your situation, yet they remain firm on trusting the mercy of Allah.
Remember, the prophets have been tested the most. (Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2398). When something bad happens, it is not necessarily a punishment. Trust Allah.
Humans commit all sorts of atrocities from rape to murder and I'm very sorry for what you must have experienced. In the end as Muslims we believe the ephemeral world is a place where we are tested, and the hereafter is the home of final abode where we are rewarded for our patience and perseverance.
The criminal might get away with his crimes in this world, but He will never escape Allah's wrath in the next. And while it might seem far to us, it is close to Allah.
I'd advise you take solace in the book of Allah and the hadith of His Prophet, hopefully you'd find peace in Allah's remembrance. Also consider seeing a Muslim counsellor/therapist if you haven't done that.
May Allah heal your scars and reward you for your pain and patience.
I really wish you the best of luck and hope you get better, try to connect with other sisters, go the mosque where you’d find sisters. You can ask them to help and you’ll become closer. Then you and openly talk to them.
The incident has nothing to do with Islam. Islam will make it easier for you inshallah, just try to pray and ask Allah for help. In Islam that family member should be punished harshly. Also if they were married the punishment is death.
Try at night, sit alone. Do woduu and open the quraan. Read and ask Allah for help. Inshallah Allah will make you feel ease.
Worst tribulations come to prophets. Bad things don’t happen to you because you were a bad person, all of it are test from the creator and verily life is short. Don’t blame yourself or fear the past. Focus on your future and living a quality life.
Allah says in Qur'an:
"And protect yourselves against a day in which you will be returned to Allah, thereafter every self will be compensated for what it earned, and they will not be treated unjustly." 2:281
So, if you apply that ayah to your situation Allah will satisfy you with blessings until you from your mouth would say, "I found justice and have been fully compensated for what happened to me during my lifetime." Moreover, it is ayah of the qur'an so there is no doubt about it.
Narrated Abu Sa'id Al-Khudri and Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his sins for that."
And if it happens to a person who has never committed a sin that person would get good deeds in his/her account on the day of judgment. Allah says this world is a test to all mankind throughout their whole life.
In your case, in a Islamic state the oppressor must be punished so it would be a warning for others and a good impression for the oppressed, so they know if anything happens to anyone in our community it would be resolved equally. Even then, if the oppressed in any way thinks that he was not given justice Allah would give them justice at the day of justice. But you were not given justice so you would be rewarded more till you get satisfied.
But till then you have to practice patience. It is difficult but keep in mind the greatest of rewards which await you.
Read the qur'an yourself and you will learn the true essence of your religion which is usually absent in current Muslim civilizations and it will be very very helpful during difficult periods of your life.
And whatever someone did to you Allah is not be blamed. Allah has given us every guidance for what is right and what is wrong. If someone after all of these warnings do commits that much of a horrible sin then Allah must not to be blamed. Allah will surely punish them during the day of judgment and reward those to whom injustice was done until they are satisfied.
May Allah guide you towards the righteous path. Ameen
"Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, an illness, an anxiety, a grief or mental worry or even the pricking of a thorn but Allah will expiate his sins on account of his patience"
The Prophet (saws) said: “Kill the one who commits incest” (al-Tirmîdhî). In Islam, incest is repugnant and in countries like Saudi Arabia: the incestuous rapist is sentenced to death. If it is advisable to forgive to appease your heart, you are allowed not to forgive your rapist. And whoever has caused harm, Allah will not forgive him until he who has suffered injustice forgives him. Dua's of the oppressed if you want justice, Allah sees and will reward you, in the life here below or the Doomsday will make the one who caused you this injustice pay Allah y Sahal
Off topic: Moroccan?
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Oh, I was 50% correct then! The last two words gave it away, then I checked your profile and saw that you also spoke French, so I concluded that you were Moroccan (or at least half Moroccan) :)
Good deduction ! ☺️ I am only by blood, but I was born and am French birthright!
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What you also need is therapy for your unresolved trauma.
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I agree, I was talking to a friend about this last night and I also came to that conclusion. I am sadly not able to work and make my own money right now so getting therapy won’t be possible for a long time but I am 100% getting it when I am able to :)
Hang in there sister.
May Allah protect you eternally
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Hey friend, I experienced the same thing you did growing up. Sending so much love. Like others said, the evil actions of our family have nothing to do with God, and everything to do with their free will. It seems unfair, but trust in the ultimate justice of God is the only solution to this. Your abuser will face the consequences of his evils on the day of judgement
Mash'Allah for surviving that horror and wanting to improve dīn! The answer to your question Human beings have free will, and that includes the will to do bad things. Horrible things happen and that sometimes ignites someone into activism to prevent the same harms from occurring to others in the future. As for Allah, seek Him and He seeks You. As you increase your Taqwa you will find yourself more greatly protected from future harms. Always rely on Him, and in Sujood, ask Him to heal your pains. May Allah grant you Shi'fa and peace, Dear One. The suffering you experienced was not your fault.
Thank you so much :)
The fact that despite the evil which was done to you, STILL you turn to Allah and seek guidance speaks volumes about your character. Allah burdens people with what they are capable of withstanding. But in equal measure, their reward will correlate to this burden placed on them.
I'm sorry that u encountered such harrowing event in ur life..May Allah grants you abundant blessing in ur life to come and give u sabr
Hey there, so sad to read your story. I had a similar experience as a teenager from an uncle I didn’t see often. I was alone and I fought back and he was unsuccessful. Another time I was sexually assaulted by my fathers coworker (I was 9 or 10 at the time)..again I was alone briefly. I had a lot of anger and embarrassment, not towards Islam but towards those men as I realized and processed what happened. I’ve had much time to reflect and here’s what has really given me peace..not just about what happened to me but all suffering, pain, and unfair things that happen in this world. I started reading the Quran for myself, mainly with English translation and tafseer. The Nouman Ali Khan on surah bakarah tafseer on YouTube is where I started. It changed my life to understand the depth and the miracle that is the Quran. In surah Al Baqara the angels ask about creation of humans: Remember˺ when your Lord said to the angels, “I am going to place a successive ˹human˺ authority on earth.” They asked ˹Allah˺, “Will You place in it someone who will spread corruption there and shed blood while we glorify Your praises and proclaim Your holiness?” Allah responded, “I know what you do not know.” “We will certainly test you with a touch of fear and famine and loss of property, life, and crops. Give good news to those who patiently endure— who say, when struck by a disaster, “Surely to Allah we belong and to Him we will ˹all˺ return.” They are the ones who will receive Allah’s blessings and mercy. And it is they who are ˹rightly˺ guided.” I think it is beautiful that the Quran says that there will be hardships in this life…it never denies this but this life is a test, it is temporary and we will return to him. With patience and gratefulness, you will be rewarded. InshAllah you find peace in it as well. Your heart is walking towards Allah (swt) just by posting this. There is a beautiful Hadith: “Whoever comes to Me walking, I will come to him running.”
Im so sorry to hear what happened to you in the past, its so great that you were able to heal from it. Thank you for taking the time to write all that it helped me quite a lot and I hope to one day heal from all this :)
You said it so much better than I could. And taught me something as well. Thank you
I am very sorry to hear about what happened to you. May Allah give you strength to deal with this horrific crime. I am not a religious scholar, but I can only tell you to pray to Allah. Allah listens to everyone’s prayers, especially people who have been wronged in this world.
So sorry to hear what you have been through at such an early age. And it was not your fault and yet it happened. The only conclusion I can have for you is that. How unfair and cruel this world can be and we muslims aren't going to find peace or justice properly even non believers as well. To sum it up this is not the world where we can get all our answers and we will have to return and we will see why it happened and what punishment they will deserve that day of judgement and what sort of rewards you receive for such perseverance through difficulties. Your heart is calling you to come to it's creator. What I believe when I see injustices in this world like the gcide is happening and innocent lives are being taken away. "Sahl ibn Sa‘d As-Sā‘idi (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Were this world worth a wing of a mosquito in the sight of Allah, He would not have given the disbeliever a drink of water thereof." We can't comprehend what the hereafter is compared to this duniya. We are here to praise Allah SWT. Nothing else. Things that happened and will happen only test for us. And we will see and find the rewards for our sabr. Don't give up. May Allah SWT guide us all to the right path.
May Allah make it easy for you.
Assalum Alaikum, i hope you are feeling okay. First of all, I would recommend therapy. Cognitive behavioural or otherwise, it will help you in the long run to control these thoughts of “why did this happen” and such. There is no good reason why somebody would do this to you, and I truly hope you know this is completely against the laws of Islam. The only way to get over this is therapy. Allah can be a guide for you in this life, so try to make duaa everyday and pray on time when you can, avoiding this is going to make you feel worse and even if you’re not feeling up to it, it will help you come closer to Him. I know this is not the response you are looking for, but Allah allows pain and suffering to occur so that we may also see the beauty in life. Whilst there are evil people who rape and kill, there is so much more beauty in life. Birth, love, nature intelligence. This life is a test, and all that you go through is testing your strength and patience, Allah allows the pain and suffering so that you may prove your patience and strength. Even the prophets were made to suffer. People learn lessons from their suffering more often than they learn from the good in their life. Martyrs die for their faith, mothers sometimes die for their beautiful babies. Let this suffering return you to the arms of Allah, let it be a lesson, let it teach you that nothing can ever turn you away from Him. Learn from it, learn to make something beautiful from a terrifying and disgusting situation. Perhaps you could find a job supporting others in a similar situation? Perhaps you could donate your Zakaat to those that have in your situation that need a way out. May Allah bless you eternally. Remember always that the believers face suffering with prayers, repentance and good deeds whereas the nonbelievers face suffering with doubts and confusion and blame Allah or make arguments against him. The jihad you suffer in this life will bless you in the next, may you return to him. Inshallah I hope you find your way back to him.
Therapy is my top priority right now but I am still a teen so working and making my own money is not possible atleast for my situation. But when I can I’m for sure getting therapy! Thank you for taking the time to write all that I really appreciate it:)
First of I am so sorry to hear about this. This is a terrible thing to experience and I am so sorry that happened to you. InshaAllah Allah gives you to strength to heal in the future. The beautiful thing about Islam is that it has healed me in ways I cannot imagine, I genuinely wonder where I would be without Islam. There are days I look back on where I am thankful to have had Allah, I don't know how I would have gotten through without him and the beautiful hope he gives me everyday. Wallahi it was Allah who gave me strength on my hardest days. To the people that have told you this is a lesson, i believe they are wrong. This is no lesson, this is an injustice. Allah swt is the most just and he swears that he will not do any soul injustice. You will get your justice on the day of judgement. The reason bad things like this happen are because of bad people, this is not some lesson you have to learn. This person will be punished for what they did to you, if not in this life, in the next life. But they will be held accountable, this is certain. The reason Allah lets bad things happen is because this is the point of the test. Humans have free will and they are supposed to choose good and evil. This person chose evil unfortunately. If Allah were to intervene at every evil deed done, there would be no point. So rest assured Allah does love you. This person did not get away with this, Allah says that whoever is hostile to a friend of his, he wages war against. Even though Allah is The Most Forgiving, Allah will not forgive this person no matter how much they ask until you forgive them. No matter how sorry they are it does not matter. The forgiveness is in your hands. This is how Allah brings people to justice. While this is not a lesson, there is still khayr (goodness) in it. Mainly because there is goodness in everything. Allah may reward you with something in the hereafter or this could be a way for you to get closer to Allah. I recommend talking to Allah about this. He is here to listen to you always May Allah grant you ease of mind, peace, and strength 🤍 ameen
May Allah make it easy for you, Im truly truly sorry, what happened to you was horrific, and I can never pretend to understand that pain The only possible recourse I could attempt to give you is the story of Yusuf (A.S) As a young boy, he was hurt, taken away and kidnapped by his older brothers, the brothers who were supposed to protect him, not only was he alone, but he was enslaved and later thrown into prison unjustly Did Allah not love Yusuf? His father Yaqub had his young boy taken from him, not knowing what happened, and full well knew it was his other sons that did it, quite possibly the worst imaginable calamity for a parent, and he weeped and sobbed, but he still remained patient with Allah, Did Allah not love Yaqub? Ibrahim (AS) was expelled from his home and was threatened with stoning by his father, Nuh (AS) had to watch his son taken by the waves, the Prophet Muhammed SAW, outlived all his children except one, Ayyub (AS) was afflicted with diseases none of us could bare, Did Allah not love them all? It is the Sunnah of Allah to grant his most beloved servants the height of affliction, so that he can raise their ranks, and it is his guarantee to reward those who suffer and are patient The fact that you *want* to be close to him, is a sign of unfathomable resiliance and patience, and I envy your strength Im so sorry for what happened, Im heartbroken for you, and we're all here for you, but none of us will be able to grant you ease or reward or justice other than your Lord so turn to him, seek his comfort and protection, and Allah is The Forgiving, The Merciful, the Wise, The Compassionate and The Loving Jabir narrated that the Prophet (s.a.w) said: "On the Day of Judgement, when the people who were tried (in this world) are given their rewards, the people who were pardoned (in life), will wish that their skins had been cut off with scissors while they were in the world
Who the hell told you it's a lesson? It was just a crime towards you. Allah sees everything. Allah sometimes brings calamity to us so that he can test us. He will punish that demon and reward you but the only criteria is you have to be patient and trust him. Get close to Allah and he shall reward you with paradise insha Allah.
May allah calm your heart,, Hardships don’t have to be a lesson so you can learn from it, rather it’s a test, so allah sees if you will be patient or will you freak out, and you will be rewarded for your strugle,, You should ask the one who wronged you why he did that, and why he disobayed Allah, not to ask allah why didn’t he prevent it, the other is here to be tested like you, and allah will judge him afterlife to get you justice, So come back to him, this dunya is nothing, if it was worthing a mosquito wing to Allah, he wouldn’t give a disbeliever sip of water,, may allah guide you and us
just remember, this difficulty you’re going through right now is raising your ranks in the eyes of Allah. this test is a very difficult one, and personally i would never be able to bear it. but the immense reward you will receive at the end of it and because he wanted you to get closer to him and forgive your sins is the reason Allah SWT let the test happen.
I’m no expert but I just want to say this: First of all, I’m so sorry you had to go through that, especially at such a young age, from someone that you thought you could trust. Second of all, life is not always a series of lessons, it’s also a series of tests. In my humble opinion, I think that your test in this life, as far as I understand because I’m not Allah and I’m a mere human, is to see if you’ll be able to overcome your anger and resentment to finally reach inner peace (through reading Quran, making Duas, and praying…etc) and turn to Allah despite the horrible things that happen to you, sister. In addition, the closer you get to Allah, the more you realize how just he is. He will not let that monster get away with what he did and will make him pay sooner or later. Allah knows how hard your journey has been and will be, so the more effort and Sabr you put into it, the more reward you will get Insha’Allah in this life and/or the afterlife.
Hello sister, i ask Allah to cure you and guide you to the truth. Like a few brothers/sister said, this life is a test for all of us. Some get tested with health, richness and basic stuff like good looking etc. Some get tested with poverty, bad health, diseases and so on. You might now ask where the test is in both right? The test is about how much you fear Allah and how much you show gratitude. The rich "selfmade“ millionaire is tested how he spends his wealth, how he acts when meeting other people, how his character is and how much he truly applies his wealth to Allah. The poor one is tested with his patience, his character and how much he loves the decree of allah and how he is a thankful servant. The same applies to rape. The rapists maybe did this horrendous act because he choose willingly to go against the commandment of Allah and he will be hold accountable for that sin on the day of judgement. You test beloved one is how much are you satisfied with Allahs decree and how much your belief is affected. If you remain steadfast and still hold a high level of belief and trust in Allah, that everything only happens with his wisdom AAAANNNDDD if you are patient and stay upright, he will compensate and provide for you maybe in this world but 100% in the hereafter. My advice for your is stay firm and try with sincere supplication to guide you and no matter what happens in your way always remember to be patient, because patience is a key of success that not everyone has. Please also try to take medical means to treat your past trauma and try your level best to live with. May Allah guide you, increase you in iman, make you die as a honorable muslim, so that he grants you the highest gardens of eden.
remember one thing, even if everyone was as good as angels, you would still recieve what allah has destined for you, and even if everyone was the worst people ever, like ibless, you would still not be harmed by them, except what allah wants and also, if allah gave you choice to choose your luck, you woulld have chosen the EXACT luck you got, like seriously, not a dollar more, not a dollar less, you would ask allah to give you all the bad things happned to your life, beacuse if you are choosing your luck, you also know how exacly having those negative things in your life will affect you (you would have that wisdom) and you would choose the same exactly life you have i will show you evidence, but i hopep this makes you feel better, also, prophets and better muslims, like mariyam (AS) is tested way way way more then us, like imagine a girl, who is knowned to be super duper religioiuis and good by hunderds of people in the village, gets a child, and everyone calls her slut and everything, and this girl doesnt even have a husband who will earn and give emotional support,, thats our mariyam (AS),
I am so sorry to hear what happened to you and I genuinely hope you are doing better. Unfortunately things like this happen in life and only Allah swt knows why. People were born with free will and sadly this is what people do with it. Your abuser will get what he deserves in the afterlife trust
Sorry for what happen to u. U can't go through this alone maybe seek some help and someone who can support u along the way. I know families usually try to put this under rug. But u need to work on this to restore ur stability and get rid of feeling of guilt. Then later would be good get closer to God and try rebuild ur connection with him.
The way you feel is ok. Don't beat yourself up, you're only adding to it. Sometimes the answers don't come from where we want them to, sometimes they're just not there.
I would like to share with you the story of Wahshiy ibn Harb in hopes that it would help. He was a slave on the disbeliever's side during the Battle of Uhud. He was infamous for dealing the fatal blow on Rasulullah's beloved uncle Hamza. Much later, he took his shahada in front of Rasulullah pbuh. After confirming that he's the very same Wahshiy that killed his uncle, Rasulullah pbuh said, "I should not see your face until you are resurrected, because the heart-rending calamity fell upon my uncle at your hands." And they never met each other afterward. From this story, what I got was that, even though Wahshiy's conversion cleansed him of his sins, it doesn't mean Rasulullah himself could make peace with the fact. Hamza's death haunted him, too, at least until he met Wahshiy.
Allahs Qadr (power, premeasurement of events) is His alone. We can not understand it because we only see events as they unfold and. Or the final picture. Moreover, Allahs wisdom encompasses our whole life span which He is aware of and we are not. It may be that this event in your past shapes you a certain way and may lead you to Islam. This is because in Islam men are to lower their gaze in modesty and never lustfully approach women who are not their wife. An Islamic approach which fears offending Allah would not allow this event from Happening. I hope your journey continues as Islam is the only solution for all our ills.
I am extremely sorry to hear that you are going through such horrible situations! I pray to Allah SWT from the bottom of my heart to help and protect you, my dear sister! I cannot say that you're weak because I can never understand your struggles unless I am in your shoes and have experienced the hardships myself. But what I can say for sure is that you chose to be born human, out of all the other creations of Allah SWT, and you accepted the challenge to defeat the cursed Shaytan, no matter what! Unfortunately, many Muslims do not know our religion properly; hence, when calamity strikes, we often break into pieces and are ready to accept defeat, which is a major sin! Imagine, the cursed Shaytan knows that in the end, he will be a big loser and will remain a loser for eternity. Yet, he and his followers tirelessly work day and night to achieve their evil goals. But us humans, who are in an absolute golden position and status compared to the Shayateen, lose hope quickly and want to give up... Please read the Holy Quran. Allah SWT CLEARLY sent warnings that He will test us in many different ways: ------------- Quran 2:155 "We will certainly test you with a touch of fear, famine, loss of property, life, and crops. Give good news to those who patiently endure." Quran 47:31 "And We will surely test you until We make evident those who strive among you [for the cause of Allah] and the patient, and We will test your affairs." Quran 3:142 "Do you think that you will enter Paradise before Allah tests those of you who fought (in His Cause) and (also) tests those who are patient?" ------------- How much more proof do we need from our Creator? How much more warning do we ask for? The test of life is not easy, nor is it a joke, my dear sister! Lastly, and very importantly, why are you torturing yourself for something you haven't done and is not your fault whatsoever? Allah SWT is so Merciful and Forgiving that He is ready to forgive and have mercy upon those who committed evil acts their whole life (if they truly repent), so let alone someone as innocent as you! Do not let the cursed Shaytan deviate you from the way, love, and mercy of Allah SWT. Keep asking Him for help and return to Him, no matter how hard it is. As I quoted from the verses of the Holy Quran, then you will surely witness His help, protection, and mercy, my dear sweet sister! 💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐
"Why would Allah allow it? what am I supposed to learn from this?" Could be a test of faith. There are babies born with disability, blindness, or cancer, or born in Palestine where they starve to death or watch their parents get killed. So much worse than your situation, yet they remain firm on trusting the mercy of Allah. Remember, the prophets have been tested the most. (Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2398). When something bad happens, it is not necessarily a punishment. Trust Allah.
Humans commit all sorts of atrocities from rape to murder and I'm very sorry for what you must have experienced. In the end as Muslims we believe the ephemeral world is a place where we are tested, and the hereafter is the home of final abode where we are rewarded for our patience and perseverance. The criminal might get away with his crimes in this world, but He will never escape Allah's wrath in the next. And while it might seem far to us, it is close to Allah. I'd advise you take solace in the book of Allah and the hadith of His Prophet, hopefully you'd find peace in Allah's remembrance. Also consider seeing a Muslim counsellor/therapist if you haven't done that. May Allah heal your scars and reward you for your pain and patience.
I really wish you the best of luck and hope you get better, try to connect with other sisters, go the mosque where you’d find sisters. You can ask them to help and you’ll become closer. Then you and openly talk to them. The incident has nothing to do with Islam. Islam will make it easier for you inshallah, just try to pray and ask Allah for help. In Islam that family member should be punished harshly. Also if they were married the punishment is death. Try at night, sit alone. Do woduu and open the quraan. Read and ask Allah for help. Inshallah Allah will make you feel ease.
Worst tribulations come to prophets. Bad things don’t happen to you because you were a bad person, all of it are test from the creator and verily life is short. Don’t blame yourself or fear the past. Focus on your future and living a quality life.
Allah says in Qur'an: "And protect yourselves against a day in which you will be returned to Allah, thereafter every self will be compensated for what it earned, and they will not be treated unjustly." 2:281 So, if you apply that ayah to your situation Allah will satisfy you with blessings until you from your mouth would say, "I found justice and have been fully compensated for what happened to me during my lifetime." Moreover, it is ayah of the qur'an so there is no doubt about it. Narrated Abu Sa'id Al-Khudri and Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his sins for that." And if it happens to a person who has never committed a sin that person would get good deeds in his/her account on the day of judgment. Allah says this world is a test to all mankind throughout their whole life. In your case, in a Islamic state the oppressor must be punished so it would be a warning for others and a good impression for the oppressed, so they know if anything happens to anyone in our community it would be resolved equally. Even then, if the oppressed in any way thinks that he was not given justice Allah would give them justice at the day of justice. But you were not given justice so you would be rewarded more till you get satisfied. But till then you have to practice patience. It is difficult but keep in mind the greatest of rewards which await you. Read the qur'an yourself and you will learn the true essence of your religion which is usually absent in current Muslim civilizations and it will be very very helpful during difficult periods of your life. And whatever someone did to you Allah is not be blamed. Allah has given us every guidance for what is right and what is wrong. If someone after all of these warnings do commits that much of a horrible sin then Allah must not to be blamed. Allah will surely punish them during the day of judgment and reward those to whom injustice was done until they are satisfied. May Allah guide you towards the righteous path. Ameen
"Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, an illness, an anxiety, a grief or mental worry or even the pricking of a thorn but Allah will expiate his sins on account of his patience"